If you’re not sure you’re INFJ - WATCH THIS. (10 Signs you are)

[@jasonleech1254]

My mind has been blown this afternoon. At 43 I finally make sense to myself.

[@someguyontheinternet-]

*I started writing out the perfect comment to this. Then i went back to rewrite a part of it, then started overthinking the entire comment, then i deleted it, and then I wrote this instead.

[@niy_luv_light]

“Let’s be honest, I don’t now what percentage of the population is made up of great listeners, but it ain’t much “ ….the heavens definitely heard my laughter 😂

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Yes I need a clarification of what sets the personalities apart. Bc the internet will def have u feeling like infjs r just so rare, yet what seems like all the internet: were infjs too! Well in real time, in the actual world, there's def hardly any good listers. In my world, ppl can ask me something up to 6,7,8 times & it's so annoying. Is there something about me that makes ppl behave that way? Then I feel embarrassed bc I start acting bishy (and being that cancers r common w/ infjs) my ridiculous & repulsive sensitive sign is like ✓ bish. You do not have to go off like that. But when it happens soooo much 😭. That or when ppl r interruptive & don't think they r. How does ur dense sh not think u r? And ur gaslighty bc that ish irks me too. I barely get out a sentence & by the time I wanna start acting like a psychopath 🙄🥴, it's my fault. Somexs at that pt it's like I give up. I talk to make a pt. I listen to find a resolution. If you're screaming, being dense, & being interruptive, were both wasting energy & I'm going back to my shell. & I'm in quiet mode again. I also think that some ppl live that drama. While I'm just like how the h r ppl that relentless. Do u not believe in peace? Bc you're so the person of misery loves co. Anyways, while I'm kind of amused & flattered at ppls delicate attempts to summarize us, I'm still thinking wait, how do I get pegged like this. That's my version of not letting it sink. U mean I'm the actual wholesome 1? Fr? That'd make sense y ppl r such haters tho. Stopped washing sigma vids for so long I was like and how did I get there? Ohhh I had to answer like an ish load of questions first. Like I'm literally a loner. "I wasn't even bothering anyone!!!"

[@nanetten6238]

So glad I found your channel! At 60 years old I just figured out I am an INFJ and it explains so much, and is so helpful to know this. "Done, not perfect" is a great mantra. I have avoided trying so many things in life because I know I will not do them well, or master them. This is especially true with art-type endeavors. Just need to quit overthinking so much, and just do it! Thanks so much for your insight and great communication style! Looking forward to your next video.

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you so much! I am so glad the video (and channel) has helped you :) Yes, with art, KZbin, any endeavor really - I think all of us INFJs benefit from taking action over making things perfect. Thanks for your comment, means a lot to me! Jay

[@joycescheppa8049]

After watching your videos, I finally understand myself. I'm 64 and never knew I had abilities. I thought everyone thought and felt like me. I let my family of toxic people convince me there was something wrong with me. Now I know it was them that were wrong! Thank you so much!

[@VinceYT2408]

Done, not perfect...that's wonderful...but...daaaaamn it's so hard. The amount of stress when I do something not perfectly...And it happens so often...and I feel like garbage...but when it's the others, I'm compassionate and tell them it's normal to not be perfect and it's wrong to want to be perfect because you're not allowing yourself the learning curve.

[@cafe.cedarbeard]

I thought I was INFP for most of my life. Turns out it was the strong and overpowering emotions of growing up with boozer and enabler parental archetypes. The house I grew up in was way too small for my senses to develop without an adult man child walkabout of more than 20 years to find out what's mine and what they put into me. Then 4 years camping outside, the 2020 thing knocked me down and I have yet to find a path back up. I didn't retake the test, but channels like this have a %100 relevance to the shape of my life of 50.9 years. The lessons are still proceeding where only just yesterday did I reach the root cellar of my basic damage from growing up with toxic divorce and wizard Dad driven to insanity by VA drugs tested on Vietnam vets, and the replacement having the poker bar as his main social habitat. Tiny house with paper thin walls and I hear like a bird, step Dad is half deaf. That should paint a clear picture of why I thought I was more feely and less wise. It's only been about a week since the tube put INFJ in my stream and it's like WOW! This is the operating manual for my wild and dragon infused birth chart!

[@stevelichtwark4259]

​@cafe.cedarbeard interesting 🤔 the dragon 🐉 energy thing has been playing ▶️ a big role in my life ,only learnt I'm a INFJ lately, now I know why the world feels like people don't care, becausethey don't

[@bushrathabassumshaik0616]

omg, my jaw dropped at the last sign cause I've been thinking if I was an INFJ or not even after 2 tests and researching like 10000 videos. I'm a definite infj thank u😂

[@INFJcircle]

Great! Welcome to the circle! Jay

[@sethshepherd3221]

lol I’m literally going through this rn! I did numerous test and studied my cognitive function and still wonder if I’m not an Infj

[@jimmyjr977]

lol same!! 😂

[@evermillcreek]

Haha yep, can't ever be too sure 🤔 I think with this video I can finally be conclusive but I probably will seek further validation

[@lichtm2053]

Yeah, I've literally gone through tons of infj content on the internet and people might think it's to boost my ego saying "I'm the rarest type!" But frankly, no. I learn more and more about infjs so I can actually confirm 100% that I'm an infj and I still get doubts when I feel something that is said that infjs do not feel and then I see another video where it's valid for an infj to feel that or see that

[@staciehaneline9533]

I'm always researching history and politics and constantly searching for a deeper philosophical meaning. I like to share my thoughts and inquiries, but nobody seems to even understand what I'm talking about. Sometimes my mom is kind enough to listen to my philosophical ramblings, but she's really the only one.

[@INFJcircle]

Very tough to find someone to discuss that stuff with Stacie, trust me I know. They usually run for the hills! lol. Stay strong, you never know when you'll meet another philosopher ;) Jay

[@jersonjohn8041]

thanks for this comment .... u jist described me 😂 🥺❤ but in my case not even my mom seems interested .

[@Rxsallll]

​@@jersonjohn8041same 😅

[@loreespeechly8413]

Same too

[@samskirim97]

Same here too!

[@Darius_Mercer66]

Number 10 hit me very deeply. And the degree of which you explained that point, especially doubting whether or not I truly am an INFJ, felt like a revelation. The over-analyzing, the desperation for evidence to prove to myself if am, or am not, an INFJ, and the perfectionism that regardless of the mountain of information that I rummage through, it doesn't feel like it's enough to be right. That point was intense. And strangely enough, it had brought me some inner peace. Very interesting!

[@INFJcircle]

I"m glad this helped you Ryan. The perfectionism and overthinking combined with distrusting our intuition makes it tough for us to believe. But I actually think that is a great sign you are INFJ, so add that to the evidence pile. Thanks for the comment, means a lot :) Jay

[@christinearmington]

It’s exactly why I’m watching this video. 🤦‍♀️😆🤷‍♀️

[@OmarAhmed-q1c3s]

As a ligit INFJ U know ur an infj when u can actually sympathise with the villains in movies and try to see not the things they do but what made them do it... If that makes sense 😂

[@VinceYT2408]

makes sense. I like when I can understand how they became villain. A villain that is just a villain for the sake of it has no meaning for me.

[@nancycronin551]

And feel bad for them when they get their comeuppance. Even though it's justice, that individual is still suffering.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Even the devil was a fallen angel

[@AndreasVibes]

So, after watching this video, I simply had to retake the test. I am still INFJ … according to the numerous tests I took and doubted 😂. I was actually first introduced to the personality types by a student who did a presentation on this topic about four years ago. The whole class took the test and me and one of my students turned out to be INFJs. The student who made the presentation was not surprised at all about my result. I guess I’ll embrace being an INFJ (until the next test).

[@LittleC_KY]

“Even talking about small talk has me bored” 😂😂😂 Exactly what I was thinking too!

[@missbealovesalbert8353]

"Once a job is once begun- never leave it till it's done. Be at labor, great or small, do it well- or not at all".

[@evermillcreek]

INFJ with ADHD so it's a constant war 😅

[@warwinfieth]

Before I start a task at work, I have to use the bathroom first because I KNOW I will not allow myself to go pee until im done with my assignment LOL

[@GolemINFJ]

« This dumpster just talked back to me » 😂

[@apsarasangreal84]

Hallelujah

[@Bennythesupersnooper]

Omg. I have found my people. I am constantly ‘recharging’ with a cuppa and KZbin on anything from stoicism to religion v science, anything self help, how to write novels to currently Carl Jung’s Map of the soul (which is fascinating me!) but now found this info. Mind blown. Great info! Literally feel more whole.

[@h.e.l623]

I spent that whole video just stoically nodding along until the last one, then I actually burst out laughing 'cuz...GUILTYYYY! lol I explained the inner life of an INFJ to my INFP mother as...some mbti types see their life as if through a telescope, some like they're reading a map; but INFJs go through life like we're rowing a boat. We can't always see where we're going, but we are pretty good at navigating by the stars (our principles/philosophy/inner Truth) so we don't really mind that we can't necessarily see EXACTLY where we're going (low/unconscious SE.)

[@eyesonindie]

I was literally looking up other MBTI types WHILE watching this video, trying to figure out if I REALLY am an INFJ. Then the last INFJ sign came up. So funny. Love this so much. Thank you!!

[@Wsully2659]

“Give light, and the darkness will disappear of itself.” -Desiderius Erasmus

[@michellej.1111]

Not going to lie, by nunber 5 I wanted to just walk away. I've heard enough. Anyone else? 😂✋️ I stayed until then end of course, bc we can't not finish what we start 😮😂 Thank you for your content 🙏 ✨️ stay blessed!

[@INFJcircle]

LOL! Our INFJness makes us just have to stay to the end! Thanks for the comment :) Jay

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Wait til you hear 10… 😂

[@venusbaby7822]

I am all 10 of these traits, to the absolute max! This explains so much of what has been happening in my life that I just couldn't understand. I am trying to hold back the tears. Thank you for posting this video.

[@INFJcircle]

You're so welcome! I’m glad the video helped you! Jay

[@AllPowerful_Manifester2432]

That's why I took the 16 personalities test more than several times to make sure the results were correct.. I took other personality test as well 😂

[@Kaytron10-tj4hh]

I couldn't tell between Infj and infp for so long I was so frustrated lol

[@mkay2235]

I came here wishing for a miracle to happen - to realize that im not an INFJ after all! 😃 But no. Again and again the same thing is repeating.😏 No.10 really made my day. 😂 Miracle didn't happen, but it feels good. Thank you! 😊

[@INFJcircle]

I get it, the INFJ life isn’t easy, but with proper learning and growth we can learn to overcome obstacles and harness our powers. Hang in there! Jay

[@fembot521]

I have stopped taking on emotions of others. I discovered codependency and it helped me figure out how to separate myself from others and what thoughts are contributing to it,

[@donnakrutzmoorefilmhmua1364]

Do INFJ’s question everything….and ask a lot of questions? I ask lots of questions because I feel like I need to understand things or for things to make sense…Thanks for the videos…very informative…😊

[@remhk6672]

Yes we do..👍

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

As a possible INFJ, I can confirm this. 😁 I ask a lot of questions about mundane everyday things and ponder why they are the way they are.

[@darklover1459]

In most case yes infj do question everything cuz they wanna understand things deeply.. Hope this helps😉

[@LittleC_KY]

I ask a lot of questions too. My husband thinks when I do this I’m questioning his intelligence and it couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m just trying to learn.

[@julielehman1921]

Yes, I always ask . It's a good thing. Gets you in trouble because they hope you just do it, go along or whatever they want you to do. I can't do things if it doesn't make sense, it can be a challenge in the workplace.

[@divineblessingAmaeze-jo9dp]

When he mentioned no. 10. I was actually beyond bewilderment because I had been questioning myself, retaking mbti tests. Just to know if I was really an infj

[@B-SharpBenchmarks]

I just got out of a narcissistic relationship. And ever since I am watching self help videos. This video might be just a reality check video but it helped me understand many things better.

[@itsnotachip1209]

Yeah... Number 10. I compare myself with other INFJs, and I think I'm not a minimalist, I don't have that unique hairdo (different every week). Am I really the most rare? Really?!? But I do agree with your mantra "Done, not perfect". One of the most valuable things I have learned is that "Sometimes good enough, is good enough". Maybe that helps someone...

[@justinwhite2725]

I don't think INFJ is quite as rare as that old statistic, speaking as someone who mistyped as an INTP most of my life and only recently realized that INFJ is more accurate.

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Yeah same, I don’t research very many deep topics but I was interested in US History in Middle school, however that was it. I am a huge music nerd and Spyro the Dragon fan 😁

[@CaseyPalinkas]

"The INFJ looks for a deeper meaning in shows and movies." This describes me so much as well as I'm craving deeper conversations with others and I'm striving to be more decisive instead of indesicive which is something I'm working on. I'm striving to know myself better by reading self-help books as this video called out on which I'm shocked with as well and as I've gotten into MBTI because my brother got me into it and have been studying to see what MBTI fits me for the past 4 years because I don't think it's that simple so by also learning about the cognitive functions interesting and learning more on how they work INFJ's functions fit best even though others claim to be INFJ which makes it all the more isolating withing the MBTI community but this video nailed it down because every single point has described me well as a book on the front page. Thank you for making this video because this explains a lot on my behavior and how I'm observing and learning from others as well as knowing myself more!

[@Fromtheburg]

I remember as a child going to a fair with some family members and I was crying. Everyone was asking what was wrong, I didn’t know at the time, I was so young. Now I know. I was HAPPY!! It was tears of joy. Am I an infj or hsp? Lol

[@CinnamonChu]

I thought i just had low self esteem, but now that i think about it- i still feel like I'm not an INFJ because they're so rare and i don't feel that special(i skipped two steps in my thinking whoops). I also don't know myself that well, but the part about self perfectionism and overanalyzing really was something I think was me. Maybe it's just me wanting to be special, because I'm pretty sure infps also seek perfectionism, so I'm not sure:(. I like writing here because I have no one else to talk about mbti with, so it's just nice to write down my feelings, even if no one will read it!

[@cafe.cedarbeard]

10 out of 10, and not in a fuzzy way. Yours and just a few other INFJ themed channels are easy for me to binge, cause every data point relates to my 50 years and almost 51 next month of life in this time. Gemini is my south node, and Saturn is retrograde in my inner sky, like Mother Goose as my highest inner authority. And Father Tolkien, whose books I started reading on my own initiative at age 11. I began to lose my Dad, whose books included the Hobbit and Lord of The Rings, at age 10 and I sort of adopted Gandalf as my inner father figure. He has proven a great inspiration over the years and the more I learn about his literary history the more it resonates with this INFJ idea, which I consider to be the true wizards of the 16 archetypes of this system. Like us, Gandalf has powers beyond the people of the world, yet is able to cloak his true energy and only use the minimum force centered in the light of love and respect for others. Then the way he sees through the webs of all liars, even Saruman after the former White Wizard poisoned his role as a servant to the light and tossed Gandalf up to the roof.

[@Itsfenrirslife2024]

well, I've actually learned that I don't feel lonely. I sometimes feel alone, but I don't feel lonely just because I like to be alone. I like company here and there, but that requires a lot of energy from me. dealing with people on a day-to-day level drains my energy. but being alone fills my energy which makes me feel good 🤷‍♀️

[@ashsar2408]

Wow. I'm going through a spiral of self-doubt and needed affirmation about why I do the things I do. Your points have never been more clearly vocalized. In the words of Aretha Franklin "I swear he (you) found my letters and read each one out loud." Thank you for these clarifying videos.

[@trisnaekowiyatnikawaii3860]

For me, being a listener is a great way of gaining more knowledge about real life based on people's experience. It's something different but complementary to what we can read in a book or learn in a course. Nothing is waste of time if we can see the positive side. Thank you for sharing your video

[@BloodVixen]

I really liked this video. Number 7 is a stickler for me. I've usually found that by turning my emotions inside out, and making it subject matter worthy of intellectual pursuit, it then becomes self-improvement and so on, and so on.

[@_ZEBBY_]

I have identified with the INFJ type for a while now (3 yrs, so help me) and this is a better one of these videos. I'm not saying it's perfect and definitely don't type yourself off this but it can be a good starting point. Mainly why i dislike these videos is because other types can easily relate to some of these points. Eg. The first one absorbing people emptions, this would be attributed to INFJ's aux funtion Fe (almost soley) which ISFJ has plus since this is an Fe EXFJ would also relate to it. Same with no. 6, this is a social introvert tendancy not cognitive (which is the basis of MBTI). Therefore, INFJ who are socially extroverted (which there definitely are), won't relate to this as strongly. Cognitive introversion (which INFJ's have due to being an introverted type), is where you spend your energy/ time which in this case is inward (reflecting, theorising), while cognitive extroverts prefer to expend there energy outwardly. Thankyou for your time. PS. I'm really sorry if this came off aggressive I just wanted to share my thoughts 😅

[@larryconkoljr.8915]

"Overdoing", I draw and "overdoing" is alive and well here and don't get me started on perfectionism and overthinking. Love to learn though. As for the "dumpster" thing, that is a situation that I have found you have to some real control of, it can be seriously draining. Good vid again, danke.

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you Larry. Yes, the perfectionism is a constant struggle as well as the overthinking. We just have to catch ourselves. I agree, we need to roll out of there when people start throwing their trash in us! Thanks for the comment :) Jay

[@SerenityDreaming]

I legitimately cried tears when he said "that dumpster just talked back to me"

[@NightCloudI]

The 10th sign was on point. You explained my way of thinking so well. Thank you

[@INFJcircle]

You are so welcome :) Jay

[@philippattersongideon5748]

Yeah, I aways overthink, and I thought I wasn't infj until the 20 question. May I ask a question, Are you a Infj?

[@RealityCheck1]

INFJ, Taurus, 9 lifepath, 9 destiny. You can see who someone really is by analyzing their videos (offline, by analyzing their facial expressions in certain situations).

[@elizabethanne5121]

Also an INFJ with a life path number 9 and a destiny of 9 but I'm a Virgo. ❤

[@kalisarah9581]

Love the point about struggling to identify and express how we really feel yet seeing it so easily all around in others.... perfectionism...all out effort always (beating oneself up when we don't do things as perfectly as we expect.(goes without saying!

[@karieification]

8:01 Usually if you speak back, it’s time for them to go, change topic, or eyes glaze over. 8:21 Took the MBTI multiple times. Can’t get away from INFJ!! 😂 It explains about every little thing!

[@chrln]

You are doing such a great job with this channel. Also the work you put into editing and filming 👏🏻Whenever I'm pissing myself off, I tend to watch one of your videos. That and reading the comments have become a stable source of comfort for me. I appreciate that so much. Thank you!

[@INFJcircle]

That means so much to me! Thank you :) I'm glad the videos are helping and the comment section is a nice place to be. This channel has been a surprising journey so far (in a good way). Jay

[@alexanderkeehnen]

Nowadays there are physical tests available to discover your type. It is used in pro sports and slowly spreading. It changed my life to discover I'm an INFJ and not an ENTJ like surveys told me.

[@chowell1451]

Never heard of this as an active college football player, name?

[@erikam9519]

Thank you for your kindness and caring I am an INFJ and stumbled upon your video today and I am watching all your videos all at once because I just need some support and validation tonight 😢

[@Sequinxx]

❤

[@Takashi-mitzuya]

2024 while watching this video i'm thinking am i real a infj? Untill i see last point 😂❤ i'm so happy o found this channel 💕

[@rkoff5744]

Garbage dumpster is true. And they are confused by your sudden anger. I have felt I create monsters by being too understanding. Need to temper this.

[@simplypositiveme]

THISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS! I wish I didn't know all that I know.😮

[@PaulMarkX]

Yep, as an INFJ every point talked about in this video is pretty Accurate.

[@jackleonemax]

I'm happy that I've found your channel. I always doubt myself, I never give anything for granted and I believe that in your channel I'll find many little tricks to live better. I enjoy life and I enjoy the way INFJs feel about others. Thanks! The #4 is interesting because sometimes I meet someone new and I feel like I know something about him/her. How can I? I've just met them!

[@KUR4H]

Constantly got typed as different Mbti types and I didn’t realize why my personality was so complicated and why I was constantly getting mistyped until I learned about INFJ, I am struggling to believe I actually am an INFJ seeing as I’ve given up on the idea of being perfect and I’ve sorta just given up on trying due to depression and other mental factors. I constantly get distracted because of my adhd and struggle to get tasks done I was never the one who excelled in school I was quite the opposite I failed because I refused to learn the boring subjects because I wanted to learn something I was genuinely interested in. I am constantly analyzing my behavior and the way I act I can pick up on others emotions easily and get overstimulated way too easily. Another thing I find troubling to actually believe I’m an INFJ is the fact that I’ve tried helping so many people but have gotten nothing in return and because of this I’ve withdrawn and slowly given up because I feel as tho no one truly cares I don’t know if this is a trait of being an INFJ but honestly I need fellow INFJ’s to explained to me whether they think I may be an INFJ or not. I’m so confused…

[@cynthiafortier2540]

Wow me too, I've almost given up on people, too painful.

[@KUR4H]

@@cynthiafortier2540 Felt that 😭😭

[@Effin_the_Chat]

I've known how I felt about things every since I realized I could feel two or more ways about something at the same time. It's an Id/Superego thing.

[@ComplicatedSimplicite]

Every time I watch your videos all I can say is WOW! There’s a lot of people who make INFj videos but yours are just so spot on it’s downright creepy. This was just … again, WOW! 😂

[@INFJcircle]

Thanks so much, that means a lot to me. Evidently I'm so INFJ it hurts. That would actually make a good t-shirt, "So INFJ it hurts". Thanks for the comment :) Jay

[@ComplicatedSimplicite]

@@INFJcircle 😂😂😂

[@B-SharpBenchmarks]

@@INFJcircle merch it

[@markh.williamsauthor7286]

I fit all of these... I believe I'm an INFJ-T so I spend time working on the T part, trying to become less turbulant in my emotions.

[@JIm-w1b]

The most serious problem I have as an INFJ is how it makes me love and understand kids and want to be innocent friends with them. This got me arrested and sent to the county jail on unproven and false accusations that I was a molester. Cost me $35,000 in lawyer and legal fees and I'm only a retired electrician on social security.

[@cameronmacdonald772]

All boxed checked off. All signs point to me being an INFJ, but I'm probably not. I should look for more videos about this and learn more.

[@dianafritz1790]

A few days ago I got called out by one person in a group, that I am always asking how they feel or what they want (because I kind of chameleon and truly care more about what they want and the harmony in the group and etc. etc.). And that one person asked me with an slightly annoyed undertone asked. "So. And what is that you want to do?".... My brain was overwhelmed and I was at a loss for words. I stood there not saying a word and really thinking to my self what I would choose but I couldn't figure it out. Sometimes I feel like that tewking my personality to others annoys many people. I don't want to belive that I am an infj, probably because I still haven't researched the mbti enough to make that decision. *Damn I posted this comment when you said, that I am not allowed to make a decision of my own in some situations. And now I have seen your last point about doubting about being an infj. I am thinking way to much about what to write further. I am slightly overehelmed

[@arlettasloan6453]

All or nothing. Yes. Didn't know that about myself, so thank you. But, yeah ... My family is mostly "What's the point. It's good enough. It doesn't have to be perfect." They don't like plans, they don't like follow through, nor completion. So to them "making a room nice" is putting some kind of furniture in it that will work and giving a mild nod to decoration, or painting the walls, but never mind that the furniture is uncomfortable. It's "good enough" and "will all have to be redone soon, anyway." And, I am like "Let's do it. Let's have a plan before we go to the store. Let's get it done right. Let's get it done all the way and let's do it in a way where we won't want to or have to change anything until and unless it breaks or is worn out after 15-20 years."

[@ErmelindisdeGroot-jx2cd]

TY for the validation Although I already tested as an IN FJ with the Myers-Briggs test, this video clinches it for me; Every. Damned.Point!!

[@marygb777]

This channel has really helped me feel less alone❤ I love all you other Infjs

[@merrylynnallison6922]

What causes a person to be an INFJ? Trauma? Near death experience? Violence? Now I'm starting to understand WHY I don't belong ant where.

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

None of these. We born with a psychological type / 8 functions stack.

[@mediastudies577]

I was pretty certain that I was an Ni dominant (INXJ) before watching this video, but couldn't quite put my finger on which one I was. I was called cold and selfish at times, yet at others lovely. I act rationally, yet also am in tune with how others feel about situations and my emotional instincts. Because I seemed to relate to traits of both T and F, and the tests seemed to be giving me a mixture of the two, I was torn on which one I was. I think the root of this problem stems from the fact that both of these types have thinking and feeling types sandwiched in the middle (Te-Fi for INTJ and Fe-Ti for INFJ). My best friend was the first to suggest I was an INFJ, when I had been thinking I was an INTJ at the time, which got me thinking. My sister later suggested it as well, which made me curious as to whether they could be right. After watching this video it made me certain that I am actually an INFJ. I for so long had been mistyping myself as well, with my first ever result being INTP.

[@justinwhite2725]

1:41 oh so much this. I thought i was underperforming at work and the weekly mvp charts showing i was the top performer didnt convince me. My interactions with customers told me i was doing a bag job (never mind the positive reviews). I 'got over myself' at one point and i was promoted within weeks of reassessing myself based on external feedback rather than internal self doubt

[@INFJcircle]

As we think so we are. I am a big believer in changing thought patters to deliver different feelings and thus results! Thanks for the comment! Jay

[@mariaworkman8912]

Super informative. I've been studying mbti in depth for years and was always on the fence between INFJ or several other types. There is no denying now that I am an INFJ!

[@lingobingo7299]

Loool no. 10 is spot on!

[@kasiastar552]

SO ….. I don’t have to think now.🫶❤️🪷 ACCORDING TO THIS MESSAGE I AM INFJ …. Never knew that such description exists … 🌷🌷🌷🌷🫶🫶🫶🫶 I’m perfectionist beyond perfection.. actually every description describes me . So it’s a good thing I guess. Yeah all or nothing/ except my life situation is / was kind of complicated. Was trapped / could not decide for myself Anyways sending u BIG THANK YOU ☀️🤲🪷🌷❤️🫶🙌😊 For creating this channel! Always demanded from myself more than I even could. Listening to people - love ❤️ it. Absorbing their energies either negative or positive/ yes I’m like this clay. Never liked watching tv or movies / felt that I’m wasting time. Sometimes ….. After years I remember a woman from Russia that has lost her son and saw her crying on his funeral or other things / always felt pain of others / intuitive / like I instantly knew and could pick up info. Yes. Much love ❤️ to you May your channel prosper!!!!!! 🪷🪷🪷🌷🌷🌷🌷🫶🫶🫶🙌☀️☺️⭐️🧚‍♀️🧚‍♀️

[@meagiesmuse2334]

Excellent video as usual! I would add that we don't lie very often, though, due to our mirroring of others to make them comfy, we may be accused of it. We may assume that if someone is wonderful 95% of the time, the 5% of the time when they act like a monster was just them having a bad day. After all, we wouldn't be faking it 95% of the time, so why would anyone else do so? Thus, we give second and third and fourth chances. Ime, almost all of the time, that person you see 5% of the time is the real one, and we need to face those red flags before we get badly hurt. It took me until way too late in life to trust my intuitive doubts about people, so maybe that was just me. I wonder if other INFJs agree....

[@INFJcircle]

Oh I agree completely. The old quote, "when people show you who they are, believe them" is so true here. We should just take people as they present themselves to us and not make excuses. Great point! Jay

[@meagiesmuse2334]

@@INFJcircle - I'm glad it's not just me, but also sad that others are being hurt the way I have been. We also seem to attract people with certain serious personality disorders, or at least those of us INFJs who are also empaths seem to do that. Opposites attract, and we have enlarged amygdala, while they have smaller than normal ones.

[@INFJcircle]

I agree. We attract some really strange people, and often they are sociopaths or narcissists. We need to learn to identify these people and get them away from us ASAP. I also agree we are very much more "emotional" than most, and I mean that in a good way. We consider others feelings whereas many do not. Jay

[@SerenityDreaming]

The deeper/extreme end of this propensity to mirror dishonest or abusive individuals when they've isolated us and they're the only individuals around for us to grow or coach or raise, is a concept called "reactive abuse"... they abuse... we endure until we can't anymore, we abuse back... they accuse us of abuse... and since we're shocked at what we've done and also honest, there's a very real risk of basically absorbing the actual culpability for the entire thing before we even know what happened. Lies and abuse are kryptonite, our righteous indignant outrage has the power to level others, and some of them *want* us to punish them so we can accept their spiritual debt as well. There are one of two perspectives: reactive abuse is justified, but you're simply better at it, and carry the power of truth which the entire Universe will conspire to help you render against dishonesty and cruelty, making you look at fault to a world that can't comprehend cause and effect the way you do (all the jerks who think you're making stuff up?) so you're better off identifying abusers early and slamming that door,..... or.....reactive abuse is still abuse, and you'll end up internalizing that fundamental fact as guilt, until you're somebody's sin-eater, and that sense of righteousness you were born with is gone, so you're better off identifying abusers early and slamming that door. The thing is: two things can be true at once. Reactive abuse is abuse, and they asked for it, out of ignorance of your abilities they didn't plan for, or awareness of your abilities that they *have* planned for, and either way: you must identify abusers early, consider how badly they'll inevitably treat all the other beings you're meant to help, visualize them treating your favorite little helpless person the way they've treated you, and let that be the power with which you slam that door. If you feel that "why would they do that" feeling, and all that comes back is "cruelty", slam. the. door. There are spectacular people who would never make that mistake. The risk to you is too great. Why do you think we're rare? Think about it. xoxo

[@maybee...]

#222, I have alway's been this way, it wasn't until I discovered the MBTI that I realized why, and how, I am this way. I know that I am an INFJ, over-thinking drives me nuts, I over analyze, I'm really good at it as I've done it so much I have perfected the process.

[@ericalane7220]

I am literally watching this video to check for the 100th time if I am really an INFJ. How funny!

[@nancycronin551]

Yeah, I still don't think I'm an INFJ. I think either I'm not, or I've been so messed with for so long by so many people in so many ways that I'm just done with humans. Like, I totally believe in reincarnation, but I am NOT coming back to this planet I don't care what they try to tempt me with - it's not worth it. I have made sure my loved ones know that I love them and I have been a responsible human, so when I finally shuffle off this mortal coil, I REFUSE to put on another meat suit for this rock. HARUMPH!! Thank you, Jay! Love the channel! Love your videos!

[@deborahfendrich2461]

🤣🤣🤣 Number 10 caught me red-handed. During the whole video, my mind was like: Well… Yeah… I resonate with these points in some way, but not to the extend described. People learn to deal and cope with many societal norms, so am I just used to cater to others social needs or am I basically no INFJ at all. The points described can show in so many different ways and lead to so many different types of behaviour. I also struggle to believe, that INFJ‘s are so rare. I mean, how many people took part in this test anyways, so far? Does the amount of data gathered realy paint an accurate picture of the actual situation? How proven is the testing procedure itself? And how accurate is the concept of 16 personality types, for it was invented quite a while ago, during another time period. How do other factors, like cultural backgrounds or the social status and environment we grew up in (for example) influence our view of the world an ourselves and therefore maybee also influence the results? Sooo many questions 😱. It feels like every time I dive into a topic, the more I learn, the more questions I have afterwards. It seems nearly impossible, to know enough about something, to take all aspects into consideration and to realy be a quote on quote expert… And therefore able to give a detailed and sound explaination. 🙄

[@Philobiblion]

Excellent, and spot on, although I hate that expression.You nailed it. I think you may have convinced that INFJ traits do not emerge in lock step throughout the stages of life, and that you may be an INFJ as a result of the experience of your entire career. At age 75, everything you say rhymes true, but 35 years ago I was not INFJ.

[@kurtking8452]

Hahahaha😂😂😂. #10 is my favorite. I always ask myself that. I know that I am rare, when my brother can ask me if I am sure that I am his brother😊

[@jadint1793]

I know I’m an infj(after watching like thousands of videos) just wanted to see what you had to say. You are 💯 right😂

[@Kcali111]

Dumpster fire situation pretty much sums up my life lol 🔥

[@carebearboo4247]

I’m such a skeptic I took the 16 personalities test a couple of times over the past few months to make sure I wasn’t messing with my answers to what I “want” to be. It showed INFJ each time 😂😂 I think it’s funny that you mentioned the doubt at the end. It’s so true 😅

[@INFJcircle]

I get the skepticism, but it just rings, so true it’s impossible to deny. thanks for watching. Jay

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Stop it!! Stop reading my mind so well 🤣 NUMBER 10!!! HOLY CRAP, ACCURATE!!! I’m sorry for the all caps but I am impressed by how well you are nailing these!! 😄😄

[@cosmicman621]

With regards being an emmotional dumpster for one off people you meet once every blue moon...or just a party type social situation.Feel no hesitancy in just walking away mid-dump...it’s hilarious.It’s like just walking in one morning and quitting a job you hate.It’s a beautiful thing.

[@diamond852]

Fiction contains more meaning than nonfiction and it's better because you're not being told what to think ot feel. Fiction is the best way to help with perception.

[@andrewknapp5691]

I took the tmbi a few years ago and realized I needed to take it again because I sensed I was in my coping mechanism when I answered the questions. Especially the question that asked "if at a party, do you leave early or are you the last one to leave? My wife is almost always the last one to leave, so I end up staying with her. When I rethought the question, I realized I wouldn't have even gone to the party in the first place. Overall, I was in tears with most of the points in this video. Thanks for helping us.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Would u say you're social or outgoing? Like w/ ppl id like or what? Oh wait, I don't have any friends. But in that sense of being w/ ppl I like, or even somewhat vibe with. Sure. Only somexs tho. Wait what was the question

[@GraciousSpirit001]

That is so me.....especially the part about the garbage dumpster...😂 i get it now! I understand me so much better. Love you all, my kindred spirits. Keep being you!!!!! ❤

[@INFJcircle]

Love it!! Yes, the garbage dumpster! Lol Thanks for the comment! Jay

[@naufalnoorizan1763]

I think im an infj, but occasionaly switch to intj when my emotions overwhelm myself in terrible situations, because i have impulsive emotions, and i love my emotions, but sometimes i shut them off because they make too much noise in my brain, i like it better to just power through my problems then to think too much about stuff

[@omegateklu856]

Number 7 Has given me sosoo much trouble. i just thought maybe i don't know how i feel because i don't feel anything? thank you. sooo feeling and thinking this way is not wierd. i'm glad.

[@queenofscots839]

My God…. Nailed everything… I’m not alone….

[@chelsealeigh2417]

Haha .. my extroverted sister said to me the other day "Do you want me to come over this weekend? I hate the thought of you by yourself all of the time" I just replied .. "You absolutely don't need to worry about me, I love it" She thinks I get lonely, bless her 😄 We did actually go watch an ice hockey game together, it was a good day .. I need her to do a personality test coz I'm curious to know what she is now.

[@jamiebarlow8241]

You are truly making the world such a better place!!!! I could listen to you talk forever! Thank you sooooo much!!! Please please make so many more videos! We all need to donate!!!

[@litadiorio6770]

I took the Myers-Brigg a few times through out my life and for awhile I thought I was an INFP. As I have gotten older and retook the test, definitely an INFJ. All of these are spot on. I always felt like an outsider but I do get along with many. I have Bipolar 2/PTSD as well so trying to figure out if this is my personality or my mood disorder. Thank you for having this channel!

[@INFJcircle]

You are welcome and I’m glad this is helping you! Jay

[@donbarbaraphillipson6285]

Yeah I figured out my INFJ along time ago ! I’m still not a ‘doer’ tho. I watch first then jump in if I feel like I can participate somehow…

[@Kattpt]

Wow! Your channel is the best I’ve discovered about infj . You get it and you can explain it so much better

[@FrankOlsen-f8f]

Boom! Love to learn. I live to learn, and want to be a good force in this place. Our earth.

[@ThomasSnider-p9s]

wow you just explained me a completely I never knew the term but wow thank you very much

[@alicia7240]

In elementary school I spent my spare daydreaming time thinking about all of the hard work my teachers put into their classrooms and all of the steps involved in how they got to that moment in their lives to be a teacher.

[@saifiiui]

Why i am infj 😨? Why i dwell in this mbti. I can't stop studying and researching it more and more. Don't know when i am gonna heal from Admitting myself as infj 😳

[@MichaelBorek-e4z]

This was so helpful! I cant thank you enough. I liked the saying, 'Done, not perfect. ' That may be the E=mc2 for the INFJ and the most helpful. Thank you

[@christinawynkoop4027]

Thank you. I need that. I'm grateful.

[@gandfgandf5826]

Tested as an INFJ in a work related course last year. Had always been ISTP previously. First time I did MB test was 25 + years ago. Test taken again 2 or 3 times over the years since. Always ISTP. I was very surprised to get such a different result recently. INFP. Ok. 🤷

[@maye3141]

All signs check ✅ and the last one hits really deep. I'm an INFJ indeed.

[@INFJcircle]

Welcome! Jay

[@Nick-Nasty]

This last point really got me lol.

[@Duke-i8b]

Well said...knowing about infj personality factors has been hugely positive for me. It explains a lot.

[@INFJcircle]

Yes, it can really be enlightening! Jay

[@hilsbroorjlch3259]

10/10 I don’t get INFJ when I take the quiz. Oh well, I guess I am one. 🎉

[@t.r.w.7778]

The garbage dumpster part just gave me an a-ha moment

[@sissysalander6150]

Every one of these rang true for me. The last one especially. Think one of the reasons it's so hard to accept is other’s reactions when you try and discuss it, can tell even my husband is sceptical. People think you're trying to claim to be somehow special/superior. Have subscribed to your channel and mailing list. Thank you ❤

[@SSS00180]

Thanks so much, all 10 are exactly infj , yes, I'm

[@emmacurada8159]

Other thing that you'll know you are is you have strong intuition or jsut instincts of just about everything sometimes. Your gut feelings is always there.