10 Things INFJs Say & What They Actually Mean

[@PSYCH-O]

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[@Thilosophocl3s]

"Just a minute" =please don't distract me at this moment, or else I'll completely forget what I'm doing and go on to something else.

[@christopherj5780]

How about when going to the market for 3 things. Get distracted then leave with 10 useless things and not the 3 things needed

[@PSYCH-O]

This would've been a perfect addition to the list - totally relatable! My classic phrase is "just 2 seconds.."

[@kjlovelydivine]

It almost uncanny how well l relate to this list. I have a step by step list in my head of how/what I need to do things, but if you interrupt me.... I'm going to have (more) than a little problem

[@suedesilva6968]

@@PSYCH-O Australian version is ' Hang on a sec'

[@anelp.e720]

me too I say "wait" so frecuently, meaning let me finish my tought or my work and I'll pay attention to you

[@freebird9229]

As an old INFJ my best advice is to learn to turn your mind off and be in the moment. Breathe the air, feel the sun, wind, and rain. Explore this beautiful world we live in. See the beauty in a blade of grass. In short, get out of your head more often. Just do it.

[@JN-dj5xh]

Great advice

[@ineedaoutlet2963]

And smoke some weed…

[@stacyelaine5799]

Yes!! I notice myself saying to others on occasion "I'm always in my head" or "I need to get out of my head". I struggle to stay out of it and enjoy the moment with others or by myself. Staying focused in being "in the moment" is difficult but I'm working on it, lol 💝

[@freebird9229]

@@ineedaoutlet2963 Well yeah but I couldn't say that LOL

[@amberpirone6776]

I am coming into many of the realizations of the greatness of what I have been gifted, therefore, a new chapter has presented itself, however the decision of which way to go standing at the fork in the road has also made my over analytical thinking brain start to hemorrhage a bit, so the pro/con list has been written multiple times, so I am so tempted to just go, leave all behind & take that leap, Idk y I become so hesitant when all I want to do is stop being around negative helpless ppl but feel the need to be burdened w/helping them out drains me so. These segments are like speaking for me. Wished I cld find my people & go from there.

[@pattia728]

Yes, I say all of them. But sometimes "I'm fine" means that I don't have the emotional energy to explain things to someone. 😶

[@GraceMae15]

Yasssss

[@jamieo1592]

Ditto. SO MUCH depends on energy.

[@VKRollins]

When asked a question, I say "It depends" and then provide multiple scenarios and answers to each one.

[@PSYCH-O]

100% relatable! 😆

[@whimsywilde5533]

Omg I do this 50 times a day with my kids! Lol

[@twentyroses]

I try that too, but often I don't get the time to explain multiple scenarios, cause people are impatient.

[@ShizuruNakatsu]

"It depends", "probably", and "I don't know", are my main responses to any question, to the point where there's jokes about it in my family xD

[@amusingintonations]

As for "That's fine" it often means I'm too exhausted to overthink this now. It's not always to avoid conflict as much as trying to prioritize things. If something isn't a priority for us, we try to make an effort not to dwell on it, as to use our time elsewhere.

[@johngist3761]

My first words as a baby were: "Hey, sorry I missed your call." 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@Meenaia]

🤣

[@tlong2485]

😅

[@silvertonguesings]

God, verbatim . . . 😆

[@PSYCH-O]

Haha thanks for the chuckle!

[@tigercat73]

Yes indeed lmao

[@ashlazdanovich8396]

As an INFJ myself, I feel like you’re translating my language into English for everyone else in this video. Love it. ♥️ (^ ^)

[@PSYCH-O]

Hahah I love that, thank you 😊

[@midknight4290]

I feel exposed... yet understood! It feels so stange 😂

[@joshuachase9742]

Number 7! Thank you! Far too many times people have pressured me into situations that cause me to become over-stimulated, then they guilt trip me for saying something along the lines of "It's too crowded.". Once I finally realized overstimulation was the cause, I've even explained it to certain people multiple times, but they insist I can just get over it and do the thing. As I learn to assert myself and my boundaries more, I've had to disassociate with at least one person because of stuff like that, which of course makes me even more the "bad guy".

[@Nedmar]

I don't know whether it is something typically INFJ-ish, but I love to say a more complete variant of the first example: "Yeah, that is also true, but..." when I want to express my view about something without devaluating the opinion of my talking partner. In this way I think I get more openness from them in order to consider my point of view. One's own opinion is always true to oneself unless eventually one realizes by oneself it is not, so if I say this, I have it easier to make them realize their failing understanding about a given subject, if that is the case, of course.

[@Stimutaxx]

I use “you’re not wrong, but” lol

[@g-force1699]

I love the “I miss your call” text😂 that’s me 99% of the time! If someone tells me beforehand I’m calling you then it’s fine, because then there’s time for preparation but unexpected calls are not welcome.

[@dvf4550]

What drives me nuts is when someone leaves a voicemail telling me to call them back, without saying what for or why they called. How do I know if I want to call them back? How do I think it over and prepare my thoughts if I don't know what it is?

[@g-force1699]

@@dvf4550 I know right! It causes some frustration and panicking , sending your mind into overdrive trying to figure out what could be the possible reason for the call or voicemail. 😓

[@preciousgorgeousralf137]

@@g-force1699 you could jst call them back and ask them. Then you don’t have to guess

[@genevievebelanger903]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one (not anymore) who don't feel excited like others when the phone rings or when I'm bombarded with notifications. I don't feel privilegied or popular but annoyed and interrupted in my thoughts processes... 🤓

[@g-force1699]

@@genevievebelanger903 yeah being socially popular just doesn’t sit with us. I even sit with text messages sometimes thinking how do I respond to this😂 but you are right yeah we learn everyday that this weird behaviour and complicated thought processing and preferences we have is actually not a curse but a gift and that there’s others like us out there- taking away the feeling of loneliness.

[@fhdez91]

I feel like saying “I don’t know” is also honest when genuinely not knowing a topic, instead of pretending that you do to sound smart. “I don’t know, but I’m interested to learn what you know about it.”

[@PSYCH-O]

Very true.. Even a good "I honestly couldn't tell you" is one of the most genuine confessions and INFJs would be the first type to admit it.

[@joshuateh8995]

I was preparing breakfast alone when this video is playing, by the 4th things, i was already commenting out loud from the kitchen at the TV "Could you stop reading my mind and telling the public about those things I said?"🤣🤣🤣

[@JN-dj5xh]

I do all of these things and now I’m realizing just how often. Thanks for the video.

[@PSYCH-O]

Awesome, thanks for the feedback! 😊

[@harryboyes2812]

Mostly accurate for me, some differences. A while back somebody observed that I tend to mean exactly what I say and say exactly what I mean. If I say I've missed somebody's call, I genuinely have. My phone doesn't ring much anyway - in fact the last few calls have been robocall scams and who cares about them? If I say I don't know, I genuinely don't. Oh, btw, "fine" is actually an acronym. It means "Fouled up, Insecure, Neurotic, and Emotional." So, if an INFJ says they're fine when you can clearly see they're not, it might just be time to listen to them because it could be a cry for help.

[@stacyelaine5799]

Good catch on an alternative meaning behind when we respond with "I'm fine" 👍

[@harryboyes2812]

@@stacyelaine5799 I read that in Australian Men's Health magazine, July 2004 if I recall correctly.

[@amberpirone6776]

It's like someone took all my thoughts n presented them into this segment. Ty. I wished more people were understanding in this aspect, or I didn't feel so isolated in my obscurities, or as some ppl say, oddities, for which I just take as a compliment anyway.

[@SsSs-qb8rv]

I love the articulate choice of words in this! It’s too accurate it’s scary lol

[@skyeborghesson496]

I say all of these things. We also say nevermind for other things because we're done with the conversation or want to move on or decided on a different course for how we were going to maneuver the conversation. It can also mean that we were thinking of telling someone something but then decided that we weren't ready to share yet

[@jirehmaemon4817]

Accurate! Except for the I dont know about picking meals. Thats one of my pet peeves. I hate going out to eat and not knowing what to eat. I'm the type to be very decisive when it comes to food. Of course, when I'm with company, I tend to gather their preferences, blurt out options and then let them choose. But if I'n with family and close friends, I speak my mind about food.

[@ninjificus]

A while back someone told me I was a "yeah, but" person and I felt like it was a bad thing, but I just couldn't express myself otherwise.

[@tamaramarshall2451]

Hahaha. Hellooo! Spot on. Squirrel! Exactly. A 💯% INFJ here and yeahh this is me.

[@nisshoku1568]

I'll have you know that number 4 made me feel called out and attacked, and I will not recommend this video to friends, for fear of being exposed ( not seriously). Great video though, strangely accurate.

[@daisy3869]

It is nice for someone else to describe these tendencies. It is hard for me to understand them myself.

[@PSYCH-O]

We're glad you enjoyed it - you're certainly not alone! 😊

[@ironxcrosss]

If anyone has seen or is a fan of "Fiddler on the Roof" I'm starting to think Tevya is an INFJ

[@PSYCH-O]

Oou, we'll have to check out your observation!

[@susanboutilier6587]

I've used all of these often! 😊

[@ComplicatedSimplicite]

I say ALL of those things. I mean, wow just wow! You are good my friend! 👏

[@PSYCH-O]

Love that, thank you for the reassurance of accuracy!! 😊

[@krysbelasco]

Nevermind for me can also mean "I can see that you could care less what I have to say"

[@althea1424]

"i dont know" which literally means for me as "can you give me few days to decide" means.

[@JudahCub1981]

These examples and explanations are on point. I don’t know whether to laugh at the accuracy or feel guilty as charged. 🤭

[@ankowaitingfordo4067]

I have never felt more understand, this video might as well be a guidebook on how to handle me

[@PSYCH-O]

We love to hear it.. so glad it resonates and helps you understand yourself a little better 💙

[@jamielake-boyd3600]

We don't like shallow people or people without substance or depth.unless your funny. I love funny people. Even the ones that don't realize they are funny or funny to me. Sometimes it's just a manner of someone that might strike me as funny and at that point you already won me over..

[@PSYCH-O]

Well said! Thanks for stopping by 😆

[@GraceMae15]

Haha, that is so true!!!

[@MeeCee5204]

If I ask someone to do something for me and they make a complete mess of it, I'll say "it's fine", but I'm thinking, "I should have just done it myself". Then I'll proceed to re-do it myself.

[@nevannarence6542]

when i tend to say thats fine it generally means two things. one im in agreement or it means do what you want ill just do it myself because i dont want to fight and i dont want to fix their screwups

[@nickullery9406]

You guys take a lot of care to accurately represent the infj, and other types. Well done

[@anjelicajackson5594]

Oh man! Most of the time I can relate to these videos as an INFJ, but the “it’s fine” or “I’m fine” are phrases that is difficult for me to loose. My bf says fine isn’t an acceptable word since he already knows that’s typically my go to phrases. Haha. And the “I don’t know” definitely is true.

[@andy1971williams]

"I'm fine" ....... "No, seriously , I'm fine," meaning ..... leave me alone ! I have said that sooooo many times in my life , if you're asking, then it means it's obvious that something is wrong .... if you can't figure it out for yourself, then we are not on the same wave length, and I want to be alone ...... I've got to the stage now where that's all I want but it'll never happen ... They are obsessed with me .... I am their reality now.. They want to know how I came to my conclusions in a two second sound bite , now a days people only have a few seconds of attention, when it has taken a lifetime of observations to come to that conclusion.... Thank you 😊

[@robbrown6401]

WOW This is 1000% me, all of these are true, This is crazy I do all of this, I am just learning about MBTI now and I am still looking at me being an INFJ, still learning, Thank You

[@UrbanCohort]

Two points in and I already feel personally attacked. Wtf?! 😂

[@4977abc]

About #5: Another reason we ditch ppl who could have otherwise been a great friend… is that they come on way too strong. One good example: They come to your house regularly without calling first, even if we made it clear to ‘make an appointment’ 😂.

[@themultiverseman]

Spot on accuracy! I thought number 6 was just a me thing and not an INFJ thing. I often feel like Bran from GoT trying to look at past memories, except it’s of someone else’s POV and experience haha Many times I get so lost in their narration and putting myself in their POV, that I have to snap out of it and that’s when I say “wait, say that again.” Or “sorry, say that last part again. You said, such and such?” Just so I can confirm my ears were hearing them correctly. And the weirdest part about it is that it just happens naturally. I can’t not just casually formulate and try to piece together their story or the information I’m being given, I HAVE to put myself in the situation and it feels like I was transported to a different universe.

[@catherinecastle8576]

I totally understand. Totally.

[@hottimasprime]

Painfully accurate

[@robiness5344]

“You know what I mean?” My fav line 😀

[@shyldaodell6442]

This is spot on for this old INF J. I say pretty much all of these things. I just have made it a poi😮nt to engage in some cases or turn off in some way. choose my battles as I've gotten older.

[@91GT347]

Pretty accurate I’d say. Except I usually know if I like someone, within a few mins. That and Thats fine or I don’t care, usually means I really do not care. Usually it is about food or where to go.

[@siminhoseini5739]

Nice video. But the thing is, it's supposed to help other types understand what we mean...but the funny thing is the comment section (and perhaps the list of viewers) is full of us infjs, and not the ones who actually need to watch these things...and I'm too shy to share this with my friends, because in your videos you're kinda always complimenting infjs😅...

[@RosequartzDivination]

I would say "that's ok" when I'm lazy to explain shit to ppl.

[@kammarimeghana2172]

I'm an INFP ,but I can relate to every single thing in this video 😭

[@bc3757]

Uncanny. This is like a documentary of my communication style. Wish I'd seen it as an older teen. Would have saved me lots of time and confusion with all the over-thinking that accompanies this stuff.

[@penneyburgess5431]

Every single phrase I use. Every single one. And the meaning behind them. I am not sure if I am happy about being understood or completely embarrassed that it’s out in the world for everyone to see. We are private mentally speaking for a reason. At least we think so. Right?

[@Meenaia]

#4 is so dead on

[@icesmileliping]

Hahaha wah this is too much. How could you understand us so well. Feel so exposed now xD

[@PSYCH-O]

Haha well at least you're not alone! 😂

[@GraceMae15]

Me: "Does that make sense?" Them: *stares at me with gaping mouth.* Me: I will take that as a no...? Them: YOUR FREAKING SPEAKING ANOTHER LANGUAGE!!

[@oluwasemiloreprecious5469]

This is so accurate

[@jakemcnamara8317]

Today I went to a book club meeting because a pretty girl invited me, and I like the book. But during the conversations I found myself daydreaming a lot and had to ask to repeat the question a few times. Lol

[@mariacristinagabaisen1230]

Well, I have done those things but what struck me most is about the phone ringing..I thought only me and my weird nature does this. I really ignore calls. But if it's repetitive already, I would pick it up coz it might be emergency. I don't say, "I'm fine"..but will say, "I'm good..no worries." Or "no worries. It'll be ok". If I see things which for me isn't good, I will say, "I am not a good person. But for me, this is wrong."... Or "this isn't right. I will not support this..." If I quite agree, I will say, "ok. U maybe right, and I am the left..." (Then I begin to state my opinions) 😅😅😅

[@vvernami3585]

I used "Nevermind" the most.

[@Psy_IS_me0520]

Omg. So spot on!

[@nmercenary]

Should be retitled to “INFJ Catchphrases” 🌚

[@jakemcnamara8317]

I don't know is probably my most used one. But yeah, this video is 100% accurate. But I don't know.

[@colinoneill1632]

Very accurate for me!

[@MzToyaLuvU]

I use all these phrases often. I find it so hard when I'm ordering from a menu and there's too many options and someone's impatient I would just say nevermind. #🚶‍♀️

[@samanthacroasdaile311]

I say them all!

[@imandelany4]

Hate people waiting for me to hurry up and make a decision! Any decision? What gives? Hence love shopping alone..at my own pace in peace ✌ 🙉😄

[@PSYCH-O]

YES! I much prefer shopping alone, even at the grocery store 😆

[@christinegatti5688]

Give me a sec please... I'll be right there... Let me think... I'm not sure. Great video! Keep em coming!

[@Pandozo]

Sometimes"I don't know" means: I don't want to explain all the topic because that would take a lot of time and you probably gonna get bored half explanation or you won't understand what I'm explaining to you

[@PSYCH-O]

Very true, or simply picking up on the fact that someone is already disinterested and is just asking questions out of social obligation. In other words "I know you don't care so I'll save us both the hassle." 😅

[@TiraTurner]

Omg so true 😆🤗

[@matthewsalvador9783]

My friend called me back in November lol I told him I’m sorry I missed your call I’m eating dinner with family I’ll call you back in 15 minutes here it is June and I still haven’t called him back… lol he’s a good friend since little ppl school so he knows me. Lol . Ps everything said here totally resonated me….

[@ROBERTGOTSCHALL-j8u]

Just a note, I have lived in Las Vegas most of my life. I spend an average of about an hour a year inside casinos. The lights and the noise are almost disabling to me.

[@Betscu.]

"I know." is maybe one too, to shut up someone's condecending attitude.

[@PSYCH-O]

Lol good one!

[@barbaraeamiguel8383]

I am infj all is true to me why I'm like this

[@rickgreenberg8729]

Got to "Nevermind" and all I can say is that I was rotflm*ao thru the rest. And yes, I say these all these words and phrases with regularity

[@markedbynoelle]

Those Parts. 😭😭

[@ljsmooth69]

No we know where we're going and what we were saying it's just the topic of the reason why we were telling you it has flown the coop so the reason why we were telling you it is no longer there even though we know what we said pretty messed up but I've caught other people doing it too

[@karenratza5929]

Definitely ME!!!

[@mattford455]

I say all those multiple times a day lolol

[@PSYCH-O]

Lol thanks for the feedback 😆

[@infostarhanger]

All of the above :)

[@danielbast352]

Infj. Because I was zoned out for most of this vid, after noticing......... did you get the stock photos and clips for the video from the government approved , most racially, and sexually diverse pretty people department. Just curious.

[@lovealegria]

Yes, but or Ja, maar in Dutch is considered very annoying to alot of people I meet. I have been told many times to not use it because it makes them feel like their point is not taken seriously. I wou;d think, based on the video, that it is a positive thing to validate their opinion and at the same time let them see the other side but most people don't take it that way. It is very annoying to me to be the "yes you're right" person because they can't handle my opnion or the fact I don't automaticly agree with them 100%. Sometimes it gives me the idea I am not validated as a person for having to nod along with the rest.

[@moon-stardesire7503]

Fine...I use this one when I am mad and don't want to talk. Leave me alone.

[@korinhubbert7163]

Guilty ×10😂

[@RoseyRoseyugh]

All of them

[@NeuralNotes5]

Oh God, all of them all the time 😅🤣😇

[@erezcrestfallen1383]

I'll think about it = NO!

[@robbinashmore2578]

Yes

[@janicerockwell8417]

Some people are highly favored by God and unable to find recipients able to benefit from their spiritual gift of exhortation. Labeling limits communication.

[@juliehamor2112]

asukara kokona

[@joshy0369]

More or less

[@ljsmooth69]

Nah for going out to eat and we say we don't care doesn't matter that's exactly what it means we don't care we don't matter we're just going to go out to eat the songs ain't some place that you know I hate like say somebody hates pizza or something you know you know obvious things if they're going out if we're going out to eat with you it's obviously you should know us quite frankly we don't care.

[@ericagerrard2099]

FINE Fucked up Insecure Neurotic Emotional Yeah. I’m just fine and dandy thx.

[@RichterScale-oz5pp]

Rarely off

[@angieinswfl]

Yes, but, does that make sense? Nevermind. Very me. Hey, sorry I missed your call, lol. I hate answering when Im doing something. It's too crowded, let's go somewhere else. Fine. I really am fine. I don't care.

[@ballibalina]

first🖐🏻

[@PSYCH-O]

🙌

[@jamielake-boyd3600]

I don't know means fuck do I want teach ypu this subject just so I can tell you what about it bothers me.

[@suesaville3160]

All of them so true!

[@neoanderson726]

all of them