The thing your mentor said, about " having someone who believes in you more than you believe in yourself" would fix a lot of problems for a lot of people.
@lavatr83224 ай бұрын
Wat?
@greenpoprocket79655 ай бұрын
I genuinely wish I had resources like this channel much, much earlier in life.
@chrish8135 ай бұрын
Never too late my friend
@Zorro004444 ай бұрын
Totally! Never had a mentor.
@BoostedPastime4 ай бұрын
Same
@justinjex13 ай бұрын
Pay it forward. Learn from it and then become a mentor.
@BoostedPastime3 ай бұрын
@@justinjex1 Amen to that, lives can be changed
@kimberlybulbulian5374Ай бұрын
I am a woman with 3 sons and a struggling marriage. This video is GREAT. I learned so much and can even apply some of this to myself. I shared it with my men. Thank you!
@HeartCountyАй бұрын
For any man searching for a new career, consider fire fighting. I've just started, but it's an inherently masculine job with plenty of risk, adventure and puts in the position of protector and hero. You'll be surrounded by strong masculine men and you'll form a brotherhood, a community where you share meals, knowledge and life experience. You are required to work out and get better everyday, and the schedule is 24 hours on, 48 off, so plenty of time for other pursuits. Sure, it has some big downsides as well, but I am loving this as a new 39 year old recruit, wish I'd found it much earlier. Keep going brother!!
@camontellАй бұрын
I’m 41 years old and this is the first time in my life I’ve put my mental health at the top of my priority list. I am a complete mess, my marriage is trash, my career is trash. I will be listening in to you a lot more often, I loved this video, the message couldn’t have been more directed to me. So thank you for this!
@gandoyp5 ай бұрын
Killing the lottery mindset really hit me, I'm going to focus on that. Thanks for the video!
@andrewb39205 ай бұрын
Appreciating the present. Invaluable. I've just realized this recently. Forget about the past. Be cognizant, but don't worry about the future. Be thankful and enjoy what you have now, today.
@JetJuice3 ай бұрын
I'm gonna stop telling myself and others that I am broken because of my past
@MJB_1994Ай бұрын
For sure Present Moment Appreciation. I fall into the trap of thinking I’m gonna be happy when, instead of appreciating the happy moments I do experience. Thanks for the reminder brother
@ModernDatingMastery21 күн бұрын
*When men stop comparing themselves to others, they can actually focus on their own growth. Taking small steps to improve each day, like hitting the gym or picking up a new skill, builds the kind of confidence that’s hard to ignore!*
@djpeachyclean5 ай бұрын
I commit to avoiding all thirst traps and instead focusing entirely on leveling up myself and achieving my goals
@AP_123_2 ай бұрын
This is a good one. We need much, MUCH more of this in today’s day and age.
@infinitybassuk21 күн бұрын
Thank you. 🙏 I'm going to commit to more "balance" in my life, and quit the co-dependency on activities and people that I know aren't adding value to me, and are a major distraction. And taking back control and growing the aspects, interests and value add in my life that I've neglected and not valued enough. It's been painful, but lessons have been learned. Never too late to be accountable, admit your failings, and focus on self respect and healing. ⚖️
@GunzyBreedАй бұрын
I’m recently going through a change in my relationship with my girlfriend, realizing that much our relationship has been affected by the unattended or pushed back trauma and issues that occurred in my life. Through this channel, the past couple days have been full of learning more about myself and I’ve never had a resource like this that I could really understand myself and now my current situation. One of the things I’m already choosing to do from this video is take control of my body, getting back to working out and working on my confidence.
@eberalex9 күн бұрын
I think what you do is the best you can get on the internet these days. Thank you very much.
@theimaginarium2 ай бұрын
"make your pain your purpose". I'm going to be using that from now on. Another outstanding video, thanks.
@jordanlong53545 ай бұрын
This is probably the most powerful video I’ve ever watched and it came at such a perfect time. Having difficulty navigating one of the toughest stretches I’ve had to endure and what you said about not knowing how to handle it struck me. Wow, thank you. Just ordered the book
@edwardclarkson-ph1kl4 ай бұрын
well constructed video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
@Zacharychampion-yy3nt4 ай бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
@edwardclarkson-ph1kl4 ай бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@Zacharychampion-yy3nt4 ай бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@edwardclarkson-ph1kl4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@eleanormartin69233 ай бұрын
Hi I understand your pain. I’ve had on/off each year for 6 yrs with a guy I really loved. Then a year later we accidently ran into each other. Back together again but I’m not doing it after 7. Relationships are work by both sides and never taking each other for granted. You will come out of it and be a different person after a year. It’s tough but over time you will see things differently and grow.
@kodyk1244 ай бұрын
This is some of the best advice I have seen any from any men's help experts on KZbin. Every single item resonated as true and helpful, and some of them were profound -- the point about not comparing your pain to other men's was really helpful to me. I really admire your energy and your wisdom. Thank you for what you do!
@ManTalks4 ай бұрын
Beatty. Thanks for tuning in! Hope you subscribe and man it forward to another man
@darylgholson44815 ай бұрын
Darn it. I use my lottery mindset too often. As you said, it effects what I do in the current. Big one!
@Joeyb33f5 ай бұрын
great timing. just getting out of a relationship and using this opportunity to doing what I need to do for myself.
@MoistOwlettes3 ай бұрын
Working out regularly and PMA really stood out to me.
@NickBingham014 ай бұрын
I am in the process of doing what he's talking about, I don't use Facebook anymore, I don't have social media for the most part, only FB messenger to talk to family and friends who I can't talk to otherwise. It's not easy, but progress hurts sometimes.
@ManTalks4 ай бұрын
Well done 🙌🏽
@robertosanchez352Ай бұрын
This is the best channel I’ve come across in a very long time. Thank you.
@MrcoAu112 ай бұрын
What a good man you are making this kind of content, I really appreciate your effort. I have to say that for someone who English is not his first language your content is so clear and easy to understand and connect with. Thanks a lot 🙏🏽
@larsegholmfischmann65944 ай бұрын
I'm gonna go to the mirror every day now and say to my face "you WERE a victim, but not anymore"
@gigglecompass15 ай бұрын
Conner. This is my go-to channel now. And your book is fantastic. Specifically, Chapters 4-6, amazing! Thank you. You have a gift
@ManTalks5 ай бұрын
Appreciate that! Thanks for tuning in and glad this hit home
@bethany_irl5 ай бұрын
ok a) can't believe you're 40 - you look fantastic. honestly thought you were my age (28). and b) your videos always give me faith in other men like you being out there in the world so thank you. your wife and son are very lucky to have you in their life.
@justinjex13 ай бұрын
There are men out there like this. Are you the type of woman that he would want? I hope so. If that’s the case, you would have incredible children and an awesome legacy. If you are not, then become that woman. You have the potential.
@bethany_irl3 ай бұрын
@@justinjex1 well i don’t go for the type of men that offer unsolicited advice to women they don’t know on the internet.. so all i can do is ignore your advice unfortunately to avoid men like you. but thank you nonetheless
@bethany_irl3 ай бұрын
@@justinjex1 i go for the type of men that have a life and don’t offer unsolicited advice to women they don’t know on the internet…
@shawnjunior610Ай бұрын
I quitted smoking for the past 35 days an it was a drastic change for me but I'm definitely taking your inspiration videos serious.
@Armando09Z10 күн бұрын
If you're taking the first step to self care, and if you did that by watching this video. Just know, you should be incredibly proud of yourself. Take care you beautiful man.
@NerdyScubaDiverАй бұрын
Wanted to leave a comment because I found myself relating to several of these points...I'm 38, and a former band musician, played many concerts, toured, etc. I became obsessed with that lifestyle and "achieving" in it over a 20 year period, that I almost lost sight of how wonderful my present moment is: Being married to a beautiful, supportive wife and dad to our lovely daughter. I still have those band dreams and lottery mindset sometimes...But I do my best to ground myself and remember that life is not a linear path. There were many pitfalls and mistakes and lessons learned that led me to where I am today. But as I stare out the window of my property - we live on a couple acres in the woods - I realize how grateful I am. Thank you for this content. Will be watching.
@EJN-44-475 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this, thank you for sharing your truth! It’s a deeper truth that all of us men to the core are struggling with.🙏
@alexannaev706211 күн бұрын
I appreciate your videos. They’ve helped me so much!
@colterthompson68465 ай бұрын
I really respect you and your work, Connor. Thanks for what you do! You're a good example.
@ManTalks5 ай бұрын
Thank you, appreciate you tuning in brother
@stephenschneider920917 күн бұрын
You are good. I love how you explain this stuff, related to most of it but and now i have some answers and tools! Present moment appreciation. Wow. And of course i was a victim but not anymore. You are changing my life. Thank you...❤
@TommyLomeo-k5d20 күн бұрын
I really needed to hear this... Just getting home after some ot and listening to this while getting ready for the gym is so needed. I'm 43, this is the ONLY social media I use and I'm in the best shape of my life. Broken heart and learning how to process it and become better is the growth I'm trying everyday to earn. Your channel is awesome 🤙🫶💪
@lollybagmike25024 ай бұрын
I'm in a bad spot right now, I know it will get better but I'm just listening to this video before I sleep cause I'm a little scared about my future, thanks for making the video Connor, I don't know what else to say but thanks
@chalo47924 ай бұрын
Same here, pal.
@blujack1002 ай бұрын
Same
@dougthomson709922 күн бұрын
Been there. I strongly believe that you have to just take small steps. Is what you are doing today going to make you a better person tomorrow? No one is perfect, and some days are harder than others.
@xTooDope99x3 ай бұрын
My lady brought me to your page and said here u go figure it out pretty much . Bless up
@SingerOnTheTrail5 ай бұрын
You’re right in every point - for 5 years now I try to follow these but I still struggle… I already shared this with my brother.
@muscheenvisuals28252 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing knowledge.
@matthewmcclymont8952 ай бұрын
Very reassuring thank you. In another video you described briefly a breathing exercise for calming and presence, maybe you could do a vid covering some of the basics since this is important
@yibaebielliot1043Ай бұрын
Thank you for this timely advice. Been really caught in some pretty dark moments recently and I must confess that watching your videos have been really inspiring. You just got yourself a new follower. 💯
@thomaswalters802312 күн бұрын
I am going to go yrs in number 10, and be in the present and cherish that
@lsmlsm21155 ай бұрын
Really appreciated this mate. Brilliant advice for men in the modern world.
@matthewnorris203Ай бұрын
Men’s personal well being matters, not just our performance. I wish the message of “find other men to encourage and speak into you” was more popular. Men are consistently told to ‘do better’ - what about how WE’RE doing? Men have to experience that we matter before we’re gonna care about others expectations authentically.
@iancorybutler4 ай бұрын
When the dream comes true, you must grasp it
@ianwynne7645 ай бұрын
Good one Connor. Thank you.
@olehfishchuk5680Ай бұрын
Popcorn is a low calorie snack, perfect if you’re hungry but want to maintain your calorie goal. As long as it’s not having tons of butter or sugar. Minimum oil, some low calorie seasoning is good too go.
@RyanBooker795 ай бұрын
Another great video mate! Appreciate you.
@alwayzbacon4 ай бұрын
I feel stopping the pursuit of short term gratification and learning impulse control will help me the most. This ties into a few of the other things you mentioned for me. Yes the others are important but this one is something I can start today. Do you have any tools for this? Should I try to track those moments as I overcome them? Or would that just feed back into it in some way?
@BoostedPastime4 ай бұрын
Thank you I really needed to hear this.
@user-ee1fn4vt8b5 ай бұрын
First tip was overrated because everyone works out nowadays, but man the rest of the video was just straight insights. The one thing I would focus on is “make your pain your purpose”. That really would solve a lot of simultaneous problems at once in my life.
@joebagadonuts-j4y5 ай бұрын
Thanks for this. They are all true. #7 is #1 for me. Well, it was anyway. Once I understood that this could be repaired, I became and I'm becoming the man that I wanted to be.
@josepozo56016 күн бұрын
Good shit 🙌
@justdylan2957Ай бұрын
Man cutting out games is impossible for me, I enjoy playing with friends and relaxing, it's part of my detox after a long day, getting on and enjoying a game for the rest of the night.
@andersnielsen6044Ай бұрын
You are just another drug addict....
@MrPePeLePuo5 ай бұрын
So much truth here
@ChrisWeezay5 ай бұрын
Man, step 3 made me stop the video to think 🤔 great stuff!
@ManTalks5 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@justinjex13 ай бұрын
Stop comparing yourself to other men, but create benchmarks for success. Look at men as examples for success AND create the epitype of the man that you want to be from the conglomeration of positive traits. I do have to plug combat sports, especially Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. We talk about that a lot, but it is a game changer for those of you that want, need, and crave improvement.
@Rubenzportillo5 ай бұрын
Im feeling rough, I’m feeling raw, I’m in the prime of my life
@awsambdaman5 ай бұрын
W song
@dougthomson709922 күн бұрын
Me too, and I am 57! Ha. Well, in many ways I am way past my prime, but in other ways I am in my prime. Life is long, with many changes. Need to keep working on making tomorrow better.
@jeremyjjbrown2 ай бұрын
Connor, hearing I need to accept that I was a victim is a huge thing I needed to hear.
@darylgholson44815 ай бұрын
“Stop making excuses”. Roll credits 😂. No seriously, I couldn’t receive any other messages after that one. If I can stop making excuses, I could turn this ship.
@jake_with_the_BIG_snake5 ай бұрын
29:20 was very helpful for me to realize. it wasn't until i fully embraced this that i really could feel the full extent of my feelings regarding some aspects of my victimization. one of my primary defense mechanisms have been to deny my weakness or vulnerabilities
@JarrettC7024 күн бұрын
Lottery mindset and PMA
@medosasasasa3 ай бұрын
Thank you
@yulflip5 ай бұрын
One criticism I have here is about your first point, where you seem to argue that sleep hygiene is not as important as exercise. They are both incredibly important, and it could be detrimental to some people to believe that their sleep quality can be compromised in favour of exercising. The truth is that there is space for both, and that depending on one's life situation, one of them might need to be prioritized about the other. And if one's mental state is deeply affected by fatigue, proper sleep and rest will be just as important, if not more important, than a strict exercising regime. That being said, everybody has time for, at the very least, mild exercise (say, a walk) every day!
@richmckeemusic5 ай бұрын
I really appreciate you and your content. Thank you 🙏
@ManTalks5 ай бұрын
Thanks, I appreciate you tuning in
@Bruhne5 ай бұрын
Very good! Liked and subscribed.
@ManTalks5 ай бұрын
Appreciate it!
@eli75275 ай бұрын
Really needed this one today thank you!
@edwardn81655 ай бұрын
thx man i appreciate you
@domebean3 ай бұрын
Danke!
@ManTalks2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much
@jasonfanclub42675 ай бұрын
The title caught my attention
@falsehope44212 ай бұрын
What does it mean to to turn towards your pain? Does that look like anger? Sadness? Carelessness? What does it mean to make your pain your purpose?
@tess77982 ай бұрын
I think he means… the things you avoid because they make you uncomfortable, are the exact things you have to lean into, and force yourself to do
@vladsciencedrums5 ай бұрын
Can you talk about to get thru a break up ? And the no contact rule etc ?
@andersnielsen6044Ай бұрын
This video talks about it from the start to the very end.. ;)
@shawnmendrek35445 ай бұрын
You know, I realized, all the times I went to the hospital, no one in my family ever came to see me or friends(lol). I gotta say, once you know no one cares around you, it makes you wake up to how people 'can' be. I want to become an animal and seek revenge but I will not. Not even a call to check up on me, well complaining about bills. All good though, thanks for nothing. No love lost, when it was never found.
@perikoowl5 ай бұрын
the last advice hit me hard
@raginald7mars4085 ай бұрын
... as a German Biochemist Ph D - it is Genetics the conditioning of the PAIN - Reward Pattern in the Auto Pilot to which we have NO access - no matter how hard we try to get there ever. It takes intense Inner Strength Training - a sort of „Navy Seals“ Training to de Condition from that pattern and establish a new Genetics of PAIN Reward - that restructures the Auto Pilot In a wider sense it is „De Domestication“ from the social cultural forces that program our Minds - to do things that are BAD for us - and ultimately destroy the Bio Sphere. The Auto Pilot is never addressable via rational and “verbal” means! Best Business for the Mind Opiate Drug Pushers$$$$$
@john345575 ай бұрын
Could you make a video on why someone would have anxiety before a presentation?
@andersnielsen6044Ай бұрын
This video is a very good one on that subject.
@RicardoPerez-hh3zy5 ай бұрын
How do I get your book?
@TheMightyMidget4 ай бұрын
Book still not available for the UK. Do you hate the English? Joking but I’d enjoy adding it to the arsenal of tools. Loving the content but Everytime you plug it, something agitates me 😂
@ManTalks4 ай бұрын
Damn!! Still not available…. Sorry man, I’ve been working with my publishing house to get it there. Massive pain. Should be available through amazon, no?
@TheMightyMidget4 ай бұрын
@@ManTalks Unfortunately not. No avenues for UK/Eng purchases outside of getting someone over there (stateside) to send it to me which sadly not an option for me. I understand this things often not a creators fault and appreciate the response tho my man. Consistently great and commendable work.
@TheMightyMidget4 ай бұрын
@@ManTalks my bad, recently added to Amazon for preorder Sept 1st. Not an agonising wait given I’ve already waited thus far. Thanks for giving me the reminder/initiative
@chrisd14055 ай бұрын
Great video Conor. It might be very helpful to acknowledge that to stop believing you are broken (which is undoing shame) is not a simple decision. It takes time, dedication, and hard work. Its definitely doable. But to just say “stop doing it” implies it is simpler than it really is.
@user-ee1fn4vt8b5 ай бұрын
Why is there always, always, always someone in the comment going “yeah, well, doing X is not that easy”. Always. No one said it was? Why are you attacking the few people who are fighting for you? What is the end goal of this comment, really?
@SuperSaiyanScandinavianАй бұрын
I don't know how to stop believing that I am broken
@Newgrist2 ай бұрын
Disseminate means to spread or to scatter. In a derived sense, it can also mean to publicize. This is the second video in which I have heard you use the word incorrectly.
@sales_coach_ai2 ай бұрын
PMA and I’m not broken.
@righteousdivine5 ай бұрын
@20:29, you can say reefer. 😂
@fatnesstofitnessthereandback16 күн бұрын
Button for all who just came here after watching girls pull vaulting lol
@foodchainer27223 ай бұрын
I'm 25 and struggle with woman after a 3 year relationship. I'm confident that most pretty women want to be manipulated. Being genuine disgusts them. Gotta go a few tiers lower lol
@Chess-ks8lk2 ай бұрын
Men needs to stop dating modern women in first place. There is nothing to gain. Single life is a privileged life.
@lars28944 ай бұрын
Good talk, but I'm still mesmerized that you are 40 years old 😲
@falsehope44212 ай бұрын
If your childhood is what's fucking up your relationship then how are you meant to deal with that? I don't find that to be very funny personally
@zloungeact5 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@brokenpixels26325 күн бұрын
No on else seems that interested in helping me. I have health problems that multiple medical professionals have been aware of but didnt say or do anything about. The world has had 32 to help me be healthy and capable but has failed. I dont what I have to do to get the help I need. Throw tantrums like a child? Make threats? What does it take? Doctors don't seem to have any interest in even trying to cure anything.
@bubber745 ай бұрын
Sorry to say that number 9 is missing ;-)
@BloodyHeck5 ай бұрын
I understand not giving women the attention they crave through apps and social, but I'm someone who isn't on any of those. That isn't going to help you get into a relationship because most men need to do those things in order to meet the woman in the first place. And when you said not to go after women you don't have a shot with, that's especially hard because anymore, an average guy has trouble even getting a below average woman. A man who is a 6 is lucky to get a woman who is a 4 because she's holding out for a man who is an 8. And while I don't look at much porn, I'm guessing you're referring to masturbation as well. Most men, including me, aren't giving that up because that's the only sex we get. I'm with someone and haven't had sex in almost a year. We had sex once in '23 and once in '22. Before that we had sex maybe 2 or 3 times a year and the first few years we were together, maybe 5-6 times. So like most married men, taking care of it yourself is about the only sex you can get. And I'm not giving up video games. While she doesn't like me doing it, at least I'm on the couch with her. If I'm out doing the things I used to do like long bike rides or in the kayak and I'm away from her for the majority of the day, then she will make life unbearable. I think I'm like most guys my age when it comes to games. When we were young, we'd play video games and D&D because we couldn't get dates. We now play them because we've gotten dates and learned we prefer video games to being in a relationship.
@doggystyle84575 ай бұрын
All I could read was: 'excuses excuses excuses' . BS my friend, you are where you are because you have put yourself in that position.
@BansheeKing222 ай бұрын
Pretty much. However I'd add that you should genuinely seek Jesus because no matter what, He is all that matters.
@andersnielsen6044Ай бұрын
Stop comparing.. Stop your lottery mindset.. You really did not whatch, listen and understand the video at all..
@BloodyHeckАй бұрын
@@andersnielsen6044 Then what did I miss? How do I have a lottery mindset?
@dietryin67235 ай бұрын
Invite Craig Jones please
@Savvynomad225Ай бұрын
Men don’t need to go it alone, but seek other men for help, not therapy or women
@andersnielsen60445 ай бұрын
If men did what you say here.. There would not be any MAGA, red or black pill society.. :D
@seantv15105 ай бұрын
You forgot some rather obvious and important things like the complete degeneracy of everything mainstream disguised as "peace/love/new-age/hippy" movements that preach acceptance of *"everybody" while hypocriticaly practicing the opposite. As well as all of the weak followers of the false dichotomy of the left v right paradigm, where people foolishly and ignorantly speak badly about, lets say.. the "right" or Trump, while supporting something as odd or ridiculous as our current supposed "leader of the free world" 🙄 It all goes into the trash where it belongs.
@hannahstriker3 ай бұрын
@@andersnielsen6044 And instead, we will get the "Misandrist", "Feminist" and "Liberal" society of our current culture. Two sides of the same coin mate.
@Rustle.76Ай бұрын
31:00 apes together strong
@Wiston_WottoАй бұрын
✊🏾🦍
@BansheeKing222 ай бұрын
Or ten things I can keep doing because I don't trust any girl. As long as I have Jesus and my video games then I'll be fine. I dont care what women find and don't find attractive. We are broken. Every one is broken. Only Jesus can save and fix us.
@jep33054 ай бұрын
LOL. How dare you?! Not being in shape is for women only.
@Fideedle5 күн бұрын
Love your videos and your overall message, but I feel like you put women on a pedestal far too much in this video. "You shouldn't be doing xyz because women will think less of you" is a very toxic ideology imo (this would hold true if this video was directed at women and the message was about what men think of them). Who cares what the hypothetical general population of women thinks? Not to come off as misogynistic, but it just feels as if you are putting all the emphasis of growing as a man into getting a woman. As long as and person is doing things that help them grow as a person and feel fulfilled with life, rather than doing things that prevent them from growing and feeling fulfilled, they're on the right track.
@khalidanejjar44045 ай бұрын
This guy helped me to focus on my life and my goals 🫶