Disorganized Attachment - A MAN'S GUIDE
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@Zeimon
@Zeimon 53 минут бұрын
I just watched this video, what a great video to watch before going to bed. Subbed bro. 🙏🏾
@prrsd4046
@prrsd4046 Сағат бұрын
Great, another KZbin wannsbe psychology expert.
@akku845
@akku845 4 сағат бұрын
Its fun lol
@lewisfernandes8114
@lewisfernandes8114 4 сағат бұрын
Genuine question…. Can I send this to her (the avoidant) ?
@nonamedrop
@nonamedrop 7 сағат бұрын
looks like I need to improve in all matters in this vid, thanks.
@games-k8u5k
@games-k8u5k 8 сағат бұрын
i feel free 🎉🎉 for being single 🎉🎉
@user-zs1fr7im6l
@user-zs1fr7im6l 9 сағат бұрын
Well I would tell young men to be careful ! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
@meowmix9537
@meowmix9537 10 сағат бұрын
It is dangerous to say women withhold sex or fun without examining that fully. If you as a man are not showing up / meeting your commitments we simply will not have the desire to have sex / dance in the kitchen. As you said yourself we should not feel forced to have sex when you dont want to. If you as a man aren't showing up, it's likley the other partner is needing to carry extra emotional, mental, physical load in your household that results from men not carrying their share which in turn reduces sexual desire / time to have sex. And that feeds directly into your other point on control. If you as a man agree to take on said domestic tasks like taking out the garbage or pack the dishwasher ect, why would we cry emasculation when its again men not showing up, therefore creating additional load for the other partner to carry but shes not allowed to mention it? I can get on board with much of what you say but a fair amount of this advice appears to be giving allowances / a free pass to men taking responsibility for their commitments/actions they have made under a the guise of women are just withholding / controlling.
@meowmix9537
@meowmix9537 11 сағат бұрын
Everything you have said all just comes back to "I want to be special and have been the only person you've done this with" for both men and women which emotionally comes back to "I want to feel specisl and I'm threatened you've had better". 'Alpha high value' bros who go on with these made up metrics carrying on with their tripe "men can have a high body count because its different". If we can all just admit that we all like feeling special / the only priority to someone we would make some progress but people don't like admiting vulnerability.
@craigrost918
@craigrost918 13 сағат бұрын
I'm part way through this at the healthy conflict and finding resolutions which i age totally with my wife and i been together 5 years almost married for 4 years and we have yet to have a fight or argument as nice and wonderful as it is i worry if it's unhealthy
@martine5716
@martine5716 14 сағат бұрын
Well, you definitely nailed that one! Just for clarity, at the beginning you mentioned that disorganised is different from avoidant and fearful, did you mean to say anxious instead of fearful?
@Himmiefan
@Himmiefan 15 сағат бұрын
Society still tells men that they're entitled to have everything their way. Women can now stand up to this and say no. If men (and women) want good relationships, then they need to improve themselves, deal with their issues, and improve their attitudes. Blaming women for all the problems just shows us women whom we should stay away from. Accept that neither gender is inherently flawed; only individuals are. And no, there are not more flawed women than there are flawed men. Also, recognize when you're being pulling in just for clicks on videos and websites.
@islamicalo1809
@islamicalo1809 15 сағат бұрын
I’ve got this on loop while I study. It’s so smooth!
@fallon7616
@fallon7616 15 сағат бұрын
Women don't want any losers 💯
@davepazz580
@davepazz580 13 сағат бұрын
Which is why the large majority of them flock to a very small number of choice men... then these men receive so much free sex they don't see any practical reason to just settle with one woman.
@DC-1773
@DC-1773 16 сағат бұрын
Beware of "Marriage Hucksters," people selling some kind of Divorce Repair System. They may say, "it only takes one party to save a marriage." That's BS. It takes commitment by both parties to do the hard work of reconciliation.
@BillGriffins
@BillGriffins 16 сағат бұрын
I predict 10 yrs to come 90% of women will be single and miserable and america will have the lowest birth rates ever. All men make ur money and leave asap.
@RyanBooker79
@RyanBooker79 16 сағат бұрын
I think all avoidants carry that hyper vigilance. Hence, the avoidance.
@Texasno420
@Texasno420 17 сағат бұрын
Passport bros sounds like the best options lol 😂
@Texasno420
@Texasno420 17 сағат бұрын
Men are disenfranchised because women have unrealistic expectations in person, at bars, on OLD, social media and at work. American woman really don’t like men. This is obvious and not hyperbole. We have studies and surveys to back this up. Woman are not worth the risk because I’ve been rejected way to many times. Bottom line, we need to legalize prostitution in the USA.
@victoriafarina3798
@victoriafarina3798 17 сағат бұрын
Men dont want to end up with a slut and women don't want to end up with a guy who has just screwed around.
@PriAle1993
@PriAle1993 17 сағат бұрын
I can't help but find the inicial analogies kind of naive. I don't know other women's brain but I do know mine is far more complex and on the record I just simply cannot afford to feel and think like that. What kind of person would I be to feel devalued by default and not pay attention to the patters of behavior and what could be behind those. I don't know about other women (I'm neurodivergent) but those analogies have no logic aside from manifesting a unique male view of what he thinks a woman would be thinking and feeling (now that might be interesting).
@davepazz580
@davepazz580 16 сағат бұрын
Nonetheless, it's how men basically think...
@GunjanChavan
@GunjanChavan 18 сағат бұрын
thank youu!!
@kevingordon-z9u
@kevingordon-z9u 18 сағат бұрын
That's exactly what happened.in marriage.
@scuzemoa
@scuzemoa 19 сағат бұрын
If you listen to this and not cry like 5000 times, then either u didn't listen either this aint for you😫
@KingTrayTovine
@KingTrayTovine 19 сағат бұрын
A very specific protection strategy In order for me to be okay I need to be alone I will only be safe on my own The only person that will be able to meet my needs is me I am the only one I can really trust Self protection strategies over relationship connections Over index on self protection such as" my business" What hurts you when it hurt you I have to have a safety procedure to ensure that I will always be good I will not be abandoned neglected or my needs will always be met because I am in control You cut up emotionally and also sexually Domt call her sexy cuz you are the opposition There's 50% of you that's just an enigma that I don't even know If I chase it'll be a defensive mechanism activated flight response fight response to protect yourself against me
@hojo_sosec
@hojo_sosec 19 сағат бұрын
Video specifically focused on letting go of resentment, and genuine forgiveness would be really interesting and helpful. The emotional processing involved in genuine forgiveness is complex, and men have unique needs with it. Understanding what forgiveness is, and isn't ; how to get to that place ; perhaps dealing with & accepting some potential unfairness in a scenario that won't change ; trying to let go if a people or circumstance keep maintaining - or reminding - you of the situation that you resent ; etc etc. Would make for 'calorie-rich' content :D
@vmvd
@vmvd 20 сағат бұрын
men see relationships as relationship between owner and property, so property should not be used
@JiHu-d8c
@JiHu-d8c 20 сағат бұрын
I hope that you all can foster the proper conversations with your partners to discuss your resentments If you cannot, write them down, and start to break it down into smaller parts. Take accountability where you can, and hold your partner accountable too.
@Giuseppe-1207
@Giuseppe-1207 20 сағат бұрын
Another, necessary for a good strong friendship… 1) That, you make each other laugh and be goofy with each other. 2) That, you both actually like being around each other… feels easy..
@billydeanmonroe8520
@billydeanmonroe8520 20 сағат бұрын
Connor- For me, I get that. Simply because of the lack of understanding, learning and experience in past history. So if you really have no clue about any of it, I freak out if I have no clue that I’m doing something. I end up behind the veil of consciousness. Scares the hell out of me. Yes, I’m totally sold out to using it as a learning experience to learn what ever I’m supposed to learn from it. It’s the next step. Thanks for your help. 😊
@northernyogi
@northernyogi 21 сағат бұрын
My goodness this video and the one on codependency has been such a reflective mirror. Something about your delivery makes it all make sense in a way that I haven’t been able to understand in such a concise way. Thank you.
@williamhughey6875
@williamhughey6875 22 сағат бұрын
?????? THIS MAN COULD CARE LESS ABOUT HAVING SEX IF THE WOMAN DOES NOT WANT IT EQUALLY!!!!!!!!!!! HAVE MEN NO SELF CONTROL AND FISCOPLINE!!!!!!!!!!!
@Keshiaaa
@Keshiaaa 22 сағат бұрын
We absolutely need men! We need strong, resilient, safe men. And men need women. Safe, forgiving, caring women.
@blablatructruc
@blablatructruc 23 сағат бұрын
I didn’t see the man part of the heading.,
@Akito0110
@Akito0110 Күн бұрын
Number 5 is so on the money with my partner; I need to show him this channel!
@David-l2u6m
@David-l2u6m Күн бұрын
Thank you Conner for your work. Divorced in 79 never considered it again.much older now long term relationships not married . the thing I see is what a lot of Men my age is facing is Gray divorce? How would you have thought.seeing all my life how much this happened is mind blowing seeing the distractions family.i really would not 🚫 recommend marriage all my life And my divorce wose amicable
@ReverentGhost
@ReverentGhost Күн бұрын
I’ve definitely suffered from online thirst traps. An issue I’ve had in my relationship is having online female friends that I’ve made who become OF models. I value their friendship but don’t want to disrespect my partner. She would get upset that I kept them on my friends or following list. It’s been a challenge. I want to clean up my social media feeds but it’s hard. The algorithm is brutal. My friends send me pictures and videos that probably keep my feed in that loop.
@David-l2u6m
@David-l2u6m Күн бұрын
Thank you Conner for your work. Divorced in 79 never considered it again.much older now long term relationships not married . the thing I see is what a lot of Men my age is facing is Gray divorce? How would you have thought.seeing all my life how much this happened is mind blowing seeing the distractions family.i really would not 🚫 recommend marriage all my life And my divorce wose amicable
@David-l2u6m
@David-l2u6m Күн бұрын
Thank you Conner for your work. Divorced in 79 never considered it again.much older now long term relationships not married . the thing I see is what a lot of Men my age is facing is Gray divorce? How would you have thought.seeing all my life how much this happened is mind blowing seeing the distractions family.i really would not 🚫 recommend marriage all my life And my divorce wose amicable?c
@David-l2u6m
@David-l2u6m Күн бұрын
Thank you Conner for your work. Divorced in 79 never considered it again.much older now long term relationships not married . the thing I see is what a lot of Men my age is facing is Gray divorce? How would you have thought.seeing all my life how much this happened is mind blowing seeing the distractions family.i really would not 🚫 recommend marriage all my life And my divorce wose amicable?c
@David-l2u6m
@David-l2u6m Күн бұрын
Thank you Conner for your work. Divorced in 79 never considered it again.much older now long term relationships not married . the thing I see is what a lot of Men my age is facing is Gray divorce? How would you have thought.seeing all my life how much this happened is mind blowing seeing the distractions family.i really would not 🚫 recommend marriage all my life And my divorce wose amicable?
@David-l2u6m
@David-l2u6m Күн бұрын
Thank you Conner for your work. Divorced in 79 never considered it again.much older now long term relationships not married . the thing I see is what a lot of Men my age is facing is Gray divorce? How would you have thought.seeing all my life how much this happened is mind blowing seeing the distractions family.i really would not 🚫 recommend marriage all my life And my divorce wose amicable?
@alanbradley9621
@alanbradley9621 Күн бұрын
It matters very much. Her past relationships will always be on your mind if this is the caee. You can never overlook it. Because it would be as if you are sleeping with everyone with whom she has slept with... It will gnaw away at you forever.... Actually can either of you forget these past encounters? No you cannot...
@unstoppableneedle
@unstoppableneedle Күн бұрын
i’m anxious to secure attachment and there’s nothing i hate more when people villainize avoidants. please don’t be that boring that you can’t figure out why. vet the people you date please & if you want to continue to date them please just understand what an avoidant attachment style is ffs. 😊
@northernyogi
@northernyogi Күн бұрын
I’m a woman, I have never heard my codependency explained so well. Thank you so much!
@CorbanDallas10
@CorbanDallas10 Күн бұрын
Run!
@neilwattoo
@neilwattoo Күн бұрын
I was secure and pushed to anxious at about the 1 year mark. I lost myself. Didnt know what i liked to do. I became her slave. I also notice these people always date up. Yet somehow this broke, no personality, uneducated, zero friend woman has her quality man catering to her. Man, I'm a master manipulator, but i couldn't master her. Why? Because she had no heart. These people's love is purely conditional.
@neilwattoo
@neilwattoo Күн бұрын
Ironic because she is the one who wanted a committed relationship on day 4 of knowing me. She wanted my babies by the end of week 2. She was pushing me to propose by month 6. She wanted to move in a new house together and start from scratch. Once i did propose, all marriage talk stopped. Days before we were moving into a new house together, she pulled out, didnt want to. She started bickering and gaslighting me. I could do no right. She text dumped me 2 weeks later, for no reason. It's a messed up dynamic. As soon as you do what they want, the objective has been completed. Yet if you dont do what they want, then you dont care enough about them. There is no win with these people. God help the ones who have kids or are married to one. Idk how you made it that far. I made it to engaged and 2+ years together. Good riddance.
@LauraSusanJohnson
@LauraSusanJohnson Күн бұрын
Glad I'm asexual. This incoherent double standard bull💩 is why every relationship I ever had ended after 3 months. Same old prude v. slut rhetoric.
@davepazz580
@davepazz580 Күн бұрын
There can be no "double" standard since men aren't women and women aren't men...
@ottifantiwaalkes9289
@ottifantiwaalkes9289 Күн бұрын
At 19: 00 i would like to give my 2 cents. For myself, i learned that open honest communication is more important than having common interests or likes. Communication is more important than to agree or disagree on something. the same goes for understanding something or not. I wonder if men and women have an equal sense of passion for whatever it may be,