10 types of women men no longer pursue VERSUS women they will do anything for

[@jcbaseball434]

After 3 years of being together I was given the ultimatum of her or my 5 year old dog. The dog and I are doing just fine.

[@Ashtanga08]

Ice cold baby

[@DodgeSystems]

Nice, my 5 year gave me the ultimatum I accept her cat and let it run around my house unchecked or I don't get her, they're a 'packaged deal'. She moves out next week.

[@Ashtanga08]

@@DodgeSystems ultimates are power control issues. Terrible!

[@DodgeSystems]

@@Ashtanga08 yep lesson learned the hard way. I don't make mistakes twice.

[@im1who84u]

Those custody battles can be tough. Glad you got the dog.

[@kenbrown2808]

remember, women: if you don't add more value than you add trouble, you're not an investment, you''re an expense.

[@georgeharvey3062]

Well said. There’s enough crap I have to deal with on a day to day basis. I don’t want more at home.

[@BalakeHart-nh4xh]

90% are definitely an expense.....!!!!!!!

[@jennyw9656]

Same the other way around

[@kenbrown2808]

@jennyw9656 true, but it's women who brag about not contributing, most blatantly.

[@b.b.s7545]

Or bad investment

[@MisterNightfish]

Almost all of these can be summed up with "makes the relationship unnecessarily difficult". The other day I heard a woman say that she genuinely believed men wanted a "challenge" in relationships and she was shocked to find out that men (generally) just want peace. There's enough crap to deal with out there that we don't need artificial hoops to jump through at home.

[@allesdurchprobiert]

Perfect summary! That's the one big meta issue.

[@M-S_4321]

Women enjoy drama because 'playing life on easy mode' rarely gets them killed. It just makes for a game they call boring.

[@benshadbolt1465]

Drama belongs in either the movies or television not in reality.

[@im1who84u]

Amen to that.

[@tdrive398]

She was shocked(!) because womyn refuse to listen to or even consider what Men want. They take their irrational emotional perspective and project it onto Men, assuming that we think like they do. News flash: WE DON'T.

[@KatanaKamisama]

#11 A women that only ever cares about how SHE feels, not about how he feels. #12 A woman that refuses to apologize when she knows she's wrong. #13 A woman that is "never wrong" because otherwise her feelings are invalid. #14 A woman that wants to point out flaws, but can never take constructive criticism. #15 A woman who regularly uses emotional manipulation, rather than making a moral or rational argument. #16 A woman who considers you spending time with your friends to be "cheating", because she isn't getting all your time. #17 A woman who tells you to leave her alone, and then gets mad when you don't text her the next morning. #18 A woman that says she likes you, and then tells you all the things she doesn't like about you. #19 A woman who behaves embarrassingly / is disrespectful in public. #20 A woman that wears make-up and tight clothes, and then claims to hate male attention.

[@DeadRed11]

I see you've met my ex.

[@mustangmikep51]

EMOTIONS don't have to make sense... we all know that only LOGIC makes sense....there you have the difference between a woman and a man in a nutshell

[@markgogos2674]

#15 A woman in general

[@ultimobile]

you've described milady with #11-14 & 19 - she complains about everything - I've stopped bothering to respond - and the interesting thing is we're still together after 30 years 🙃

[@georgeharvey3062]

Brother you are on a roll! 😂

[@brentjohnson7044]

How about the woman who expects a man to know and do everything she needs without her telling him what that is?

[@Trifler500]

I had to live with my Mom for 30+ years before she was satisfied I was doing the household chores properly. :)

[@jwester7009]

Oh yes the mind reading game! Most of us have experienced this at some point

[@cryptojihadi265]

or even worse, tells them the exact opposite of what she REALLY wants.

[@brentjohnson7044]

@@cryptojihadi265 , and the many variations. Like telling you she wants one thing, then changes her mind and tells you she wants something else, and when you do that second thing she complains that you didn't do the first thing.

[@Phil_der_Hooligan]

oh... you mean my ex wife!!! 😂

[@jergification]

It's almost like she understands that men have feelings and should be objects of love and compassion. What a crazy concept!

[@robertfermier1865]

I am 64 years old, been single for the last 15 or so years and haven't been in any kind of serious relationship for a long, long time. I have mostly given up on dating since mostly because I still desire my peace at this point of my life. I tend to find women who still like to play games, are two faced about just about everything, and don't give kind of sign when you show interest. I'm not going out of my way for anybody unless they can show my how appreciative they are... At this point, having peace with myself is priceless!!

[@vince8436]

I'm going to be a little crude here but the way I see it the ones that didn't want to go out with you when you were young and they were young want to go out with you now. Too bad you missed your opportunity. And I also like the peace and quiet that has been much of my life.

[@M-S_4321]

It's only in the previous few decades in my life I've recognized how soulless many women's eyes become as they get older. Like the eyes of a serpent preparing to strike, other things occupying their attention

[@vince8436]

@@M-S_4321 what I've seen many times over because I've had female friends of all ages even now I have some younger females that I talked to and mostly because they're from work or other places I do stuff but it seems for some reason once they pass a certain age they completely. I'm not saying that men don't change but we change on a continuous path it seems that were always becoming different but with the females they just seem to hit a point and do a complete change all at once.

[@ShaunHensley]

@@vince8436congratulations on discovering menopause. They are afforded the ability to forego men because of the collective labor of men. Time to put a stop to that

[@KenHicksJr]

At 44, I haven't been on a traditional date in 4 years. I drop $20k/yr on hunting/fishing trips. I'm currently planning a trip to fly fish in France. Then I'm like, why not rent a place for 3 months in the countryside. I work remotely, so I'll have to figure that out. Onward! ☠️

[@mannydcbianco]

My singly biggest turnoff in women is those whose default mental state is angry/difficult/demanding. Like generally unhappy people. I love a happy-go-lucky woman, someone who in general is happy and content with life. This is not to say she cannot ever be sad or upset - of course she will be, we all are sad or upset at times and it is unrealistic to expect anything else - but if her default mental state is to be upset, grumpy, angry and displeased and she is expecting me to constantly fight to make her happy then she can go f herself. I refuse to fight a losing battle to make a miserable person happy. And every time I fail to make her happy, she will blame me for it.

[@jerrysorrell7775]

Happiness is a choice.

[@gentlegiants04]

Every person can only be responsible for their own happiness. If someone else is unhappy, it should never be your job (or anyone else's) to "fix" them and make them happy. It's like trying to save a drowning person, if you aren't careful they will drag you down with them.

[@lesterdiamond6190]

I have a sister like this. I haven't had anything to do with her for 25 years. It must have been a shock to her when she reached the age that her looks were no longer enough for guys to overlook her attitude. Of course they could only overlook it for a short time.

[@direwolf6234]

like chris rock says .. she's always mad because you were not her first choice ...

[@JHayes37]

100% agree...

[@NSPIREGuru]

Years ago a friend said to me. "No matter how wonderful you think she is, I guarantee you some guy somewhere is tired of her shit."

[@davidbowman2035]

1:19 chased vs pursued 2:21 interested but will never approach 3:34 will turn intimacy down but gets upset when a man turns intimacy down 4:20 wants to be lavished but the man needs to be financially stable 4:55 plays games vs communicating concerns 5:21 the grass is always greener 5:38 won't show effort 6:02 wants unconditional love but places conditions 7:07 never wants a man to show weakness 8:01 gives ultimatums

[@jimjohnson394]

All of those women are just different varieties of the same issue, they expect a man to put in more effort than they are worth, or are willing to put in themselves.

[@simonschneider5913]

@@jimjohnson394 inflated ego via social media and filters. its the same every time.

[@exothermal.sprocket]

The root to all these attributes is: SELFISHNESS, or the desire for a man to serve one's own pursuits. In other words, the exact opposite of marriage.

[@_Diggler]

7:37 My now ex forever asked me to open up, be vulnerable with her. Then when I did,… did I mention she’s my ex? She divorced me. Oh well I guess.

[@exothermal.sprocket]

@@_Diggler Heard of a playbook called the silver bullet solution?

[@garybutler5955]

Lack of contentment is a nightmare for relationships. It calls into question loyalty, commitment, and longevity.

[@bobbyscalchi4013]

These things exactly right here! Low self esteem people have subjective morals commitments and longevity because they cannot even hold those things to themselves and cannot fill that void within themselves no matter how hard they try so they seek it elsewhere until it runs its course and the cycle repeats.

[@twitchbiddy6880]

I would say that most women don’t understand men but expect men to understand them. I’ve been happily married for 34 years but all of my best girlfriends are divorced, 2 are widowed - they were happily married. There are way too many unrealistic expectations by a lot of women but it doesn’t go both ways. Honestly men are not complicated - they need sex, good food, appreciation and love. I mean really, this is about it. Along with those things comes mutual respect, friendship and humour, shared interests and an appreciation of one’s individual interests, having the same values and desire to travel the roads of life together, supporting each other through good times and bad, jointly raising a family and taking care of the home, interdependence not co-dependence, trust, fidelity, open communication and more love. It’s not hard but it does take effort and you need to feed the relationship and not be selfish but rather, selfless. Interestingly, we both came from homes where our parents had fallen out and divorced. We both came from similar socioeconomic backgrounds, are in the same position in the family, born the same year, same religion and commitment to it, both university educated and have professional careers. It does help to have the fundamentals in common right from the get go.

[@frochoffthebranch]

Best comment 💡

[@leaellas8400]

💕🤗

[@themacocko6311]

Sounds like the majority of your success is due to having so much in common including especially your values.

[@twitchbiddy6880]

@@themacocko6311 yes that is true but we’re not infallible. We still have to navigate external challenges, family dynamics, mental and physical health challenges etc. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage but when trouble comes along, as it does for ALL people, we try to figure it out together. It’s not always an equal effort but we’ve committed to always try. So far so good but you can never say never.

[@silverdale3207]

The biggest cause of divorce is fights over money, you both have professional careers so I'm guessing you don't struggle to do the things that make you both happy, don't underestimate how much wealth helps in keeping couples happy and by default together. Just sayin.

[@jkbrown5496]

Not afraid to "approach", just not worth the risks for the man. Better to never love at all than to approach and get your life destroyed.

[@exothermal.sprocket]

And so the Communists got what they wanted. They set up the silver bullet solution, they pushed feminist agenda, they built a porn industry, they turned family into a battle of litigation, they centralized banks and devalued earnings to nothing to keep married folks apart, they built a human trafficking/abortion/pedo empire to destroy the next generations, and built their own election system to make sure they never lose political power. And now men simply do whatever the Commies want.

[@Alirion]

Not the action of appoaching ist the scary thin these days, but her possible negative reaction (and I don´t mean the rejection itself, we men will receive hundreds of them in our lives!).

[@BrandonDeon]

Brother, you're not gonna get your life destroyed by approaching a woman. That's not how it works. She says no and you move the fuck on. My god....

[@jkbrown5496]

@@BrandonDeon I'm of an age and experience that the whole "brother" schtick sets off the scammer red flags. Walk on.

[@Npc1488-wc1kf]

Ive had a lot of women But not once from a cold approach Not once

[@bdcochran01]

I relate the following for women. If you are a good woman and you want to meet a good man, you only have to do two things. 1. go where the men are. Ditch your female friends. Don't hang with them if you want to meet men. 2. take the iniative in small ways. If you live in a dorm, look for the guy eating alone and use a ploy like "may I join you. I understand that you are a chemistry major and I wondered what is studied". Or, you are at a dance and the guy is unattached, "I'm just a beginner and I was wondering if you could teach me a few steps?" Whatever you do, make eye contact instead of acting demurely. Men take a beating because women are taught to reject. What most women do not know is that being in the right place and making the guy feel comfortable makes the difference.

[@gabem6863]

Sadly, in this day and age most men might be wary of this. Thinking its some kind of game to make him look like an idiot or creep because of some friend of hers filming them.

[@melloyello6464]

because of the plethora of toxic situations women have created over the years, this wont work that much anymore

[@Scotty_Bo0m]

Who do you think you are talking to? Women dont use youtube EXCEPT for some reality tv & stuff...

[@sophieruby5893]

​@melloyello6464 Sure, women are just out to get you in a bad way. So much paranoia here.

[@BrandySmiley]

Do you have more? I'm not in college anymore 🥲

[@WilliamWang-c9m]

This is literally the most on point video of how women can get into a lifelong relationship. A lack of passion or "playing it cool" makes me flatline. Men aren't women, we aren't complicated, we want peace, loyalty, and an us against the world mentality. Playing games is transparent to guys you want to date because it happens over and over so it's transparently manipulative. I wish this was the most popular video on KZbin and every girl watched this everyday. A reason men often go for younger women is they have the light in their eyes, they laugh, and don't try to hide how much they like you. I appreciate your channel because the other channels making these points have an argumentative "us vs them" attitude while you clearly don't hate women. I hope your channel blows up.

[@Torrque]

#9: OK, so this may seem weak to some but my best little friend cat who had actually came to me as a tiny kitten during a profoundly tough period of my life, and who had been with me for 14 years, ended up getting cancer and having a disturbing final 3 months of life. I was heartbroken at his passing. A piece of my joy went with him. My X was not only cruel and non-empathic to me through his demise but several months later, stated she was glad I hurt that bad from his passing… because that’s how she felt when we had disagreements. I told her, “that is the difference between me and you; I don’t EVER want you to hurt. I feel badly for you when you are troubled. It bothers me.” Two years later from that relationship, I’m now detoxed… and a bit angry… but at myself. I’m not pleased with having accepted that kind of person in my life so intimately… and for as long as I did. I kept holding out hope… hoping for peace… but kept receiving a malcontented woman. I don’t see this as her fault but mine; I didn’t walk away sooner, cleaner, surely. The low-grade mental illness of so many people in this country is breathtaking. It’s not just one gender. People do this to each other. But relating to Emily’s channel here and the points she makes, so much of this is so many women of today. Dannnng! Emily is like that friend we all wish we had in our personal lives that helps us to center ourselves to enter this crazy world of dating today. I say this with genuine appreciation for the content she creates. Thank You, Emily.

[@cjanquart]

Glad you got out from under that crazy.

[@user-ut4zw6so6o]

Wow, sorry, that’s awful.

[@justinbarhorst5531]

5 is so true. Women play so many games. We just don't have time for all of these games.

[@cjanquart]

"A strange game. The only winning move is not to play." --- Joshua, "War Games"

[@Jan-qv8ku]

I hate mind games and I’m a woman. INFJ

[@justinbarhorst5531]

@@Jan-qv8ku sadly it's so hard to find women like you. Most women play mind games. Most men that I know have given up because women play games.

[@flyingfiddler90q]

Yep. I wish more women watched your stuff.

[@ejtaylor73]

They don't watch it because she's saying what they NEED to hear, not what they WANT to hear. They won't listen until "The Wall" is crushing them and they get desperate for a partner.

[@Hodenkat]

Trusting when a woman says she wants open communication and sharing your inner feelings can be tricky. Especially open emotional communication. It would be wonderful if more women wanted this and could actually handle it as a partner. You can't ask for a man to be vulnerable and then call him "weak". That will destroy the relationship and make a good man withhold any communication he perceives making him look weak.

[@Alirion]

Men should never, because it will be a weapon in divorce court. A good partner will find out your weaknesses anyway and will never use this knowng against you but instead help and prevent you in such situations. Sad reality concerning the first point, but life is not easy and kind most of the time.

[@gabem6863]

They want a man who will open up emotionally, then when he does, she gets turned off, labels him as weak, and leaves him

[@Kyle-sr6jm]

Have male friends to decompress with. Never with the woman you want in bed.

[@Notme-tq4xs]

I never say anything.

[@MartinSBrown-tp9ji]

Then a women you are kind and nice too, they tell you "when you are too good you are no good"

[@MSMW23]

Alas, in my experience, at least one of these traits is ticked off by the majority of women out there, sometimes more. We are tired of jumping through so many hoops, and instead tend to remain grounded, less injury and more peace that way.

[@kathyp1563]

Someone who wants you to jump through hoops to please her is simply immature. This age-appropriate in a toddler, but still not acceptable, in the sense that the mom should teach them basic manners in gratitude. You definitely want to surround yourself with people who are easy and fun to please. You men love to spoil a woman who is fun to spoil.

[@thenightraven60]

Might be just me but I don't think guys should have to jump through hoops neither. Self entitled women are ruining things for everyone

[@timpaulsen6761]

After watching several of the videos on this channel I subscribed today. I am glad to have someone who understands and fights for good men. I agree as someone who has ended up on the wrong end too many times. It's encouraging to see caring women still exist.

[@gregm8522]

Yes, I also subscribed today for similar reasons. I used to think that most women are inscrutable. Emily is helping me understand that which either I did not or could not.

[@cherithcampbell1157]

Some of us do genuinely care, but I'm not found yet...

[@patrickjordan2233]

Younger fellas? A piece of advice... don't date 'party chicks'... You will come come to regret it...

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

I have no problem letting a man know I like him … entitled women expect men to jump through hoops !

[@silvermine2033]

The best and longest relationships I've ever had, is where the woman first approached me and asked me out.

[@ShonnMorris]

We need orders of magnitude more of you. Like @silvermine2033 said my best relationships were the ones where the women approached me. In my personal experience, a woman who does that tends to be more honest and play few games.

[@logos9391]

You got it

[@ashleysawtelle8015]

I just did this today...and got rejected. 😢 😀

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

@@ashleysawtelle8015 😞 There’s one man that will not reject you. That’s the one you want 🤍

[@nickf2170]

The entire situation has become so toxic and saturated with unacceptable risk....it just makes more sense to let it all go in the ditch, WITHOUT YOU. Self preservation is a very noble cause.

[@darylmcginnis6033]

You nailed this top 10. You are pretty wise to be so young. Keep it up, I’m hoping you are teaching men and women with your content

[@paulatk44]

As I watch this enthralling video, it resurrects the painful memories of my recent breakup a relationship of five years that ended just 3 months ago. The woman who meant everything to me decided to leave, plunging me into a vortex of heartache. Despite my desperate attempts to reconcile, I find myself trapped in a cycle of frustration and longing, unable to envision a life without her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I find solace in expressing my lingering affection for her here .

[@SusanVivian-g3l]

Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 12-year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with her. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.

[@paulatk44]

Remarkable! How did you discover a spiritual counselor, and what's the procedure for me to get in contact with her?

[@SusanVivian-g3l]

Allow me to introduce Suzanne Ann Walters, a highly skilled spiritual counselor known for her expertise in rekindling past relationships.

[@paulatk44]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@thevind1cator964]

Never go back bro. It ended for a reason. Taking her back in her mind will be you giving her permission to misstreat you even more. It will never stop.

[@georgeharvey3062]

I can personally attest to approaching women at a young age just to say hello. If I felt there was no positive feedback I just left and never considered that person ever again. You either give me back a little positivity or I’m not wasting my time.

[@cjanquart]

Woman: "I don't need no man." Me: "Thank you for your candor. I don't need you either. Good day."

[@KevinJames-yg9eu]

As she still expects her daddy and the government to do everything for her....

[@ascendme]

I've dated 200+ women and 99% of them did all or most of these problems. The 1 that was normal was from Switzerland, had a nice family and was very healthy mentally.

[@JHayes37]

I'm starting to think I'm going to have to meet a woman from somewhere other than the US in order to find a decent wife...

[@07wrxtr1]

35-40…. After that I stopped dating and then met my Fiji girl 😀 She’s amazing in every way imaginable

[@joygibbons5482]

Well if you’ e dated 200+ women that’s a red flag right there

[@ascendme]

@@joygibbons5482 that is over a few decades you know. Not just this year. Many not more than phone calls or coffee meetings.

[@hannah20071000]

If you dated 200 women, that's one a week for four years. Or, more likely, one a month for 16 years. If you truly dated that many women over a 16 year period something isn't wrong with the women, there's something wrong with you.

[@rebeccameinzer8551]

Completely agree! We have been married 20 years worked through a lot together. I take carexof him he takes care of me.

[@hammer48ful]

I'm glad I dated in the dark ages. My wife and started with nothing and built a life together. We supported each other in our endeavors and tried to make each other successful. We've been married fifty-one years.

[@scottroder5516]

My life is similar, thank God for the good old days. I got 44 years with my bride.

[@BHUFF]

Same with me 38 yrs now

[@TheStupidrule]

I don't know if I've just had bad luck, but the "won't show effort" women seem to be very common in my dating history and those of my friends. As I usually phrase it:"Many women seem to only want to 'receive' relationships rather than 'participate in' relationships."

[@highlanderknight]

I was lucky with my ex-wife. She did put a lot of effort into the marriage. Unfortunately she was also putting in effort with other men...

[@huntstyle]

It's not just you, this is how a lot of women are

[@Echo30Mike]

You've forgotten a bunch of them, so I will just throw in one for you. A woman that can have as many male friends as she wants and routinely dish out her number to some guy because " he's just a friend ", but if she finds out that her man has even glanced at a woman or said " hi " to a female neighbour when putting the bins out, she'll go from calm to defcon 1 in a millisecond. FYI: that happened to me.

[@GrandPitoVic]

Baby girl, you hit it on the head so much. You set back and observe and you see what mist don't or won't. I've been married 24 years now. Peace is the #1 thing. Caos is a no no. It was 10 years before I said no I am too tired. The peace and tranquility is so important. You should not come home to war. I need a minute when I get home. And my wife understands so well. I am getting older now. I am not old. And yes I make really good money. We have been together pretty.much homeless to where we are now. She is a great woman. I wouldn't trade her for nothing. I see these young cats fight day on and day out. I would not out up with any of it. Can you say cat lady lol. You are a sweetheart. Thank you for seeing ND helping these young cats find their peace.

[@Scotty_Bo0m]

What the fuck? Baby girl? Oldcel simps everywhere here! Im sure your imaginary wife doesnt approve!

[@brianlovvorn4150]

I believe it all boils down to respect. As men, the way we perceive as being valued and loved is by who shows us respect. I for one, enjoy going to work because that is where i feel respected so that is my escape. It is tough when home life feels like a constant battle that you are always losing....

[@Scorpiogirl_1029]

I agree with all of these as a woman.

[@VashVenus]

Number??

[@Scorpiogirl_1029]

@@VashVenus Number 1 is something I agree with the most. I would rather be pursued instead of chased though.

[@troydunn8463]

Back in the day, pursuing a woman who was interested in a relationship made sense. In today's, sexually liberated, don't need no man, working on my career, marriage is oppression paradigm...ugh. It feeeels like many women only want the chase, and they want it to last forever (even after marriage). Men are starting to figure out the entire purpose of the chase is merely to feed her ego.

[@VashVenus]

@@Scorpiogirl_1029 I meant like what’s your number 😂

[@derwoodhamburger]

If you want to be pursued more, you should be open and receptive and never play any games

[@kylecurryyt]

These are accurate.

[@Antonocon]

It is amazing the amount of women that can be anxious, complaining, all the time. If you show any sadness or weakness in any way ever, they get angry and emotional and try to turn the focus back on themselves again.

[@antimatters6283]

"He should always be ready to go." Yup. Many - both men and women - believe this, with some men having a need to brag about their sexuality "I'm always ready!" Women expect men to approach them. They rehearse how to handle this, they talk about it since early life. In contrast, men never talk about "what will I do if a woman approaches me?" And it happens so infrequently, men are not mentally prepared for it, may not be sure it is real, a joke or prank. Yet, women think the exact opposite is true; and worse, if the man doesn't respond as she fantasizes, then "He isn't interested." Everything about this scenario is lies and delusion expectations.

[@stu3705]

This is Dr Phil's thing. He may be a shrink but he doesn't know much about sexual dynamics.

[@cw9515]

Channels like yours have really helped teach men understand the true culture and ideology of different types of women and help men understand the dynamic of where they are coming from as well, which has helped these men make better decisions about who they want to pursue other than just chasing downs looks, which has beenthe most common pursuit of men for many many years

[@AutumnHigginbotham-s9k]

To me, can be summed up in one single statement. That being a woman who want a one-way relationship with her man. I've gone through this exact thing in a 40+ year married relationship. As a man, it is / was awful. It demasculinated me. Completely destroyed my self-esteem, left LT me with no confidence. I ran away to work. Work became my main source of affirmation. I truly excelled in that environment. That goes along with what I have come to believe regarding men. I truly think the majority of men, will gravitate toward the environment where they are allowed and expected to be men.

[@SanchoPanza-wg5xf]

Emasculated, you mean.

[@AutumnHigginbotham-s9k]

@SanchoPanza-wg5xf Yes, I used the wrong word. Although, had she been able to get away with it, she would have demasculated me, too!

[@gypsyfiresign1064]

As a middle aged woman who has had her fair share of dating relationships, as well as periods of being single by choice in order to focus on working on myself, I’d say the #1 compliment I’ve gotten as feedback from men I’ve dated is that I’ve never been afraid to admit when I’m wrong. I’m very self aware & I am not a right fighter, I’d rather be happy than be right & I just want to get along again, so when my misstep is brought to my attention (I say all the time, “don’t let me keep doing it wrong”), once I realize I may not be seeing things from their perspective or I was wrong about the situation, I do apologize & J do try to change my behavior and that has really been some feedback that stands out to me in my dating life. If a man is patient, kind & a good leader, I submit gladly bc that man gives me someone to follow. But then again, I grew up seeing examples of true love & commitment in my childhood/young adulthood. So there’s that.

[@luka1828]

Emily. Thank you for the smiles. Thank you for stating your opinions and facts that help me feel normal in a world not easily understood.

[@kb3byu]

In my experience, when you find the right woman the relationship moves ahead effortlessly without drama.

[@UnconventionalReasoning]

"Traditionally, it was always on the man to approach" [2:30] is a bit off. Traditionally, it was often on a friend or relative of one to approach a friend or relative of the other. This option being gone is one of the biggest challenges in dating today.

[@wittymystic7361]

Yes, this is so true. This method faded away as women entered the workforce and had less time for creating community and social connections. Having a trusted third party involved in the dating process provided more security about what one was getting into since if either party behaved badly, the third party would find out. It also aided in obtaining somewhat reliable information on another person's past, and allowed for a way to collect knowledge of some of the other person's true desires and expectations before you went on your date. All of that is virtually gone. Now, everyone is left dating strangers who can play games and pretend to be whoever they want to be in the moment.

[@ViJt-oq5nq]

In the West yea, but back home it's still a thing. And you know what, all my cousins who had a marriage where it was closer to an arranged marriage, they're still together, have kids and moving on well with life. Literally all my cousins who had a modern marriage, are divorced, or were forced to marry because of an accidental baby and will probably divorce in the future. Ain't lying when I say I'm trying to go the arranged route. The biggest difference is you're more focused on figuring out what each other wants for their future instead of chasing right now satisfaction.

[@UnconventionalReasoning]

@@ViJt-oq5nq There is a 'self-selectivity' aspect with the people who *chose* the arranged marriage, or 'personal matchmaker" option. As much as anything, it is a comment on those individuals rather than the system. The system allows them to meet their goals. First, they have a community which knows them and who they trust. Second, they are taking a practical, long-term view of a partnership. Third, the community will try to help them stay on track, otherwise it is a blemish on their selection and advice.

[@anthonytillman6363]

As a Man, I Want to say that I agreed with almost everything you said. You were pretty Spot on, and and Honestly gave me some Clarification on what I am looking for in my own life. Only thing I disagreed with, kind of, was when you were talking about a Woman withdrawing Love because his Man is getting Lazy about Cleaning up around the House. I mostly agreed with what you said, you had a very interesting perspective. But I would add the Caveat that, at some point, she has a right to be Upset about a Dirty House. The Man needs to at least meet her Halfway.

[@AutumnHigginbotham-s9k]

The best manager I ever had, in a 40 year working career was a woman who understood the power of affirmation. She was so appreciative of my work. She praised me. She encouraged me. That made me want to be my best, for her. I put so much effort into becoming a better employee, a better man. She was my boss for about 5 years. She made me feel like I was a hero. Particularly, her hero.

[@yanceyschwartz]

Wow, the pictures just kept going through my head of all the women I have dated who fit these categories as you went through them! In fact, I came to a realization about one woman who I told on our first date that I wanted this to be her last first date. I was committed from the word go. But she was a "grass is always greener" type, yet I kept taking her back every time she went away and then wanted to come back. Finally, it all fell apart and I've thought how unfortunate for the lost opportunity for us to have built a really good relationship together. But now I realize that could never be-- she would never be satisfied and never stop chasing every butterfly that fluttered by.

[@Keekay91]

This is just spot on. 4 &5 were me exact. My ex of 8yrs decided she was done one day and notified me over phone out of the blu. She even admits she should have communicated better. After serious loyalty and working 70-80hr work weeks to sustain us in an extremely expensive location, I was hoping she would get a job again or at least take the discussions we had to heart that we had had. I don't argue. I did what needed don cause I was loyal at the expense of my health. In 2 conversations one 2hrs mainly just me listening cause she finally spoke up. And the last one 3 min. She ended it. Turned out to be one of best decisions. I saved 10k in the first 6 months and bought my first house in Texas that im getting ready to rent out. It was hard but I can't imagine dating now. I feel like I dodged a bullet. I was very careful with kids so I also don't have any. No alimony. Without weights, "running" to success is alot faster.

[@Notme-tq4xs]

Good for you !

[@gregdavis19]

Women and men want to be complimented and feel needed that’s love. I was thinking of what I hated when I was dating after my divorce and it was drama, and you covered it. I was married to my first wife for 10 years and it felt like 80 it was so bad. My current wife have been dating for 21 years and coming up on our 19 wedding anniversary. She is the best, and I’m blessed.

[@millenialmemoirs]

I love being married. Wife is happy to see me most days, we can silently read each others emotions pretty well. I go work and invest, she manages the house/children/pets. I come home and cook for her most days and she loves and respects me.

[@bigneiltoo]

We didn't say marriage could never be happy. We pointed out that if SHE is not happy then the man has no legal protection for his assets. Your wife might not ruin you on a whim, but she could, on a moment's notice. That's called an Unconscionable Contract.

[@bigneiltoo]

"we can silently read each others emotions"? She "manages" the "pets"? So not a housewife so much as Senior Director of Homemaking? Chick alert. Men, watch out for women posing as the men they pretend exist in quantity.

[@j.d.aengus]

You are a rare exception as a couple if you can silently read each other's emotions. In so many cases, the woman expects the man in her life to be able to read her emotions, while the man is expected not to have any negative emotions. I was married for 20 years. We knew each other very well. She expected me to be a mind reader, to just understand her emotional state (and all the reasons why) without her saying a word. Meanwhile, she often could read my emotions, but assumed she knew why, instead of asking me or being open to letting me talk about emotions. We're no longer married, but co-parenting, and she recently said something about how she was supportive all those years... I've had to give it some thought, and I feel like she was supportive only a small fraction of the time, dismissive more often, and avoidant of the conversation most of the time. So, if you are so blessed...enjoy it. If you have the ability to share how to do it, then please do. But I hope that your comment wasn't a brag that was intended as "we can do it, what's wrong with the rest of you". I tried very hard... harder than anything else in life.

[@joedonbaker1673]

I really hope women watch and pay attention to your videos. You're spot on.

[@rclv428]

Chris Rock said it best. "Only women and children are loved unconditionally. A man is loved based on the condition that he provides something." He's 100% right.

[@jasonredic9457]

He is far from my ideal comedian but the man was not capping when he said that. At all.

[@heatherguess518]

I agree that most men are treated this way and I don't agree with the treatment at all. Men need care and love just as much.... probably more than women do.

[@jasonredic9457]

I try not to watch a lot of these videos on the sex wars right now because it tends to flood my suggestions, but your takes are always presented in a way that's reassuring and tenderly to the target demographic, not overly insensitive to the extent that women would avoid watching it entirely and feel hopeless and defeated if they did. That shows real thought put into the content you create, and makes it worth watching.

[@danieldpa8484]

Spot on - the more mature the guy is, the less is he willing to put up with the nonsense

[@HanasDad]

7:11 Men must NEVER show weakness to a woman regardless of what women say. If your dog just died NEVER cry in front of a woman. Never complain in front of a woman about your job or anything else that you are worried about in your life. Never include a woman in your decision making process until the very end when you are down to 2 choices. And, NEVER allow a woman to make you angry regardless of how cruel and uncaring she is towards you. Always laugh off any attempts she makes to make you angry. These 4 things are key for men who want to settle down with a woman. These are universal truths

[@Metatarsus0]

Lack of reciprocal effort is the biggest problem I've faced so far. Most women will show no apparent interest and put almost no effort into even basic things like conversation--even on a date. I'm not the greatest conversationalist there is or anything but the difference between today and even 5 or 6 years ago is astounding! It used to be so much easier to just chat with people and now it seems like they're making it harder on purpose. To their credit, several women have openly shown interest through small gestures and I appreciate them for that because it's about as clear a Go signal as I can expect these days. 😂

[@claudepepin501]

I have decided a few years ago to stop looking for love. Good list

[@rollacoaster421]

Nailed it! Again. You get us. Love that about you!

[@keithphillips1234]

Woman are so different today, obviously. That’s why we have these conversations time and time again, and the reason you make these videos. I don’t understand why to be honest. If the man is a good man, works, provides, helps around the house, takes care of the kids and so on. How hard is it to love him, remind him what he means to you, thank him for what he does, give him sex anytime he wants it, and let him be the leader god made him to be. Now if he’s not a good man of course that’s a totally different issue at hand. But damn, yes you ladies work too, yes you take care of the kids, the house, the bills, whatever it may be, but don’t think that entitles you to throw it in one’s face,look what all I done, or I’m to tired to have sex tonight or what are you gonna do for me. See these are truly key things that destroy a relationship, the reason they never make it. Oh how I lived with this for some years in the beginning, but I finally said look. This is NOT the ways things are suppose to be, I will love you , honor you , provide for you and the kids, help you in any way I possibly can, listen to you, be there for you take care of everything I possibly can with these bare hands, but I will not tolerate you hanging things over my head, and most of us know what that is, so on and so fourth. Needless to say things did work out, things did change and we learned to love each other all over again with out the bullshit. Marriage is a lot of work no matter what anyone says. Communication is number one! Trust is just as important. And coming to the realization we cannot be like other relationships, we cannot be like the worldly ways, we have to focus on what makes us happy and works for us to survive this life together.

[@MichaelPiz]

I have experienced all 10 of those. All of them in my ex. BTW, if there is an answer - any answer - to the question "Why do you love me?" then there's no such thing as unconditional love. And who would want that anyway: "Why do you love me?" "Oh, no reason. I just do. I feel the same about everyone - no difference." No thank you.

[@ronniemaynor4434]

We men want peace, not drama. If she doesn't add value to your life, she is not worth the effort. I have been married 50 years. Choose wisely. This advice is right on.

[@RebeccaLunsford-qe2kt]

I definitely especially with the emotional part. I want my husband to let me know when he's not okay. I want to help him get through the hard times.

[@VinceYT2408]

Omg thanks. Talking about not wanting the drama. It's the main reason why I do not want to be in a relationship anymore. Also, I'm the one to often say no for intimate moments. And No woman has ever been able to accept it.

[@WilliamChallenger]

I think I won the Jackpot. All of the 10 types was my ex incarnate. Now Do the 10 types of Men.

[@bobbyscalchi4013]

😂 You think it's only 10.

[@WilliamChallenger]

@@bobbyscalchi4013 no, i think it was all of the types

[@paulmaryon9088]

As an older (60yrs) man in the UK I find your videos well informed, inspiring, to the point, and you give me faith and hope in young woman today, and for that I thank you, and have subscribed. Excellent work, keep 'em coming, and be lucky in everything you do.

[@whiteknight5100]

Genuine sweethearts are the ones ill do anything for regardless of their looks or body size. That is all

[@mannydcbianco]

I will definitely agree here. A genuine sweetheart; a kind, happy and friendly woman who can laugh at herself and crack jokes is to me the perfect woman. Wife material. I married one of them, going on ten years now and I couldn't be happier.

[@mannydcbianco]

Also username checks out, lol.

[@whiteknight5100]

@@mannydcbianco Yeah it does Considering I'm a white man of European ancestry

[@dougieh9676]

Thank God there's women like you in the world. I'm 59 so I got to experience old school relationships. I feel sorry for young men these days. Keep up the good red pill content.

[@michaelsanchez8457]

The woman that clearly puts her friends before her date. Honestly, from all the Chad dates, I can understand them becoming aloof. However, if friends come first, then that's fine, but that's not for me.

[@jeffro.]

You pretty much nailed it, Emily! I can't believe how I "lucked out," back in grad school when I met my wife. I had a couple of girls that I was interested in, and since I had just gotten out of a crap marriage, I wasn't keen on jumping into another long term relationship. But, then another grad student from my department comes along.... We all ate lunch together, and I started noticing that she "got" my jokes, whereas I was used to most people not, and so she stood out! Then she started making it clear that she was interested. Well, that led to an affair where we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Yeah, that part hasn't stopped yet, and we've now been married 38 years! Seems like only yesterday..... But, in all honesty, I did make myself into someone desirable, BEFORE I met her. Because it's a 2-way street! Thanks for the insight, Em! Keep it up.

[@Scotty_Bo0m]

& everyone stood up & clapped... ffs these lady grifters have clearly cornered the market on lonely boomers!

[@MEDIA_NETWORK_MARKETCAP_IS_3M]

"a woman who's interested but doesn't approach" I can't stand it when she stares at me for years but never tries to talk to me. I don't mind you staring at me as long as you talk to me once on a while. Say hi, don't just look at me. Otherwise you're just putting pressure on me and making me feel uncomfortable.

[@Alirion]

And it is creepy to, even a woman does this to a man, we don´t have to mention the situation reversed.

[@awclark3]

Two shy people make a great relationship together because they tend to happy at home. Problem is one has to risk the chance to talk to the other. They can both be happy in a home full of books or children .the can have it all in good home.

[@mogwiawolf4354]

also have had to deal with most of those and that is before the first date or hangout which ends up getting canceled in the end cause of them never showing up multiple times and eventually followed by them ghosting and or disappearing entirely or me saying f*** it and just deleting them cause im tired of my time always being wasted

[@guzzirob]

This woman seems to understand the way a man thinks. Amazing insight.

[@louisenglish8069]

Variations of the princess syndrome

[@edminchau811]

I met an actual princess once. She was much nicer than most of the women I've met. Of course she wasn't one of the super-wealthy royal houses and had a real job, might have had something to do with it.

[@user-navezgane]

We have an accord on all ten categories. Thank you for your thoughtful insight to all of these matters.

[@cplcabs]

As a man, I am not going to pursue women any more (no, I am not gay). I am just fed up with the games, entitlement etc. Its not worth it.

[@juddymacmusic]

Great post! I had forgotten about all those weird games you described from my dating years back in the 70's. Women seeking true love in a relationship with a good man should pay attention. Especially What u you said near the end, about a good man knowing his worth. That is so true. A good man will not sell himself short either. A good man certainly would not put up with the first issue about woman playing hard to get for more than a week or so. Much less with the other crap. So if any woman reading this thinks she is stringing a "good man" along with that crap as a relationship strategy, she's not. She is just dating another loser like herself. After having 45 years with my true love, my best friend, and my beautiful wife, Annette, I feel absolutely qualified to give advice on True Love as well as anyone. So I created and released Love is Dangerous, the LP, by Juddy Mac. A true story of a forty-five year long romance. Available on, Itunes, Amazon and where ever music is sold or streamed. PS - seeking true love? All the answers are in the lyrics of the title song - Love is Dangerous. All ya gotta do is listen.

[@tdrive398]

I know that good women exist... somewhere. But today's relationship market is filled with low quality prospects- and many females fail to meet even a very low bar. Fit, feminine, friendly and LOYAL. It's discouraging how few are willing to meet this.

[@glstka5710]

Get your passport and a plane ticket to the Philippines. I found my sweet wife here.

[@LegioXXI]

​@@glstka5710 Most south-east-asian countries work for that imho. Women there tend to actually value human decency and appreciate stuff that is labeled "the bare minimum" in the west. Also dating there is not overly political. I found my soul mate in Thailand even tho back then i was at a low point in my live (unemployment bc covid). But that was also a good thing because it phased out all gold diggers by default. On bonus, women there are on average shorter, so you also have increasing dating chances if you not 1,80m / 6 foot tall. Also the women there tell you exactly what they want very early, so you don't need to waste several dates (often months of dating) just to realise that you are not compatible. The dating experience there (no matter if you want long-term relationship or just short-term) is just 100 times more pleasant.

[@glstka5710]

@@LegioXXI Women there are on the average shorter- I'm 5'3" so it was easier to find a wife my size here in the Philippines. I have heard of many guys also finding their match in Thailand, others Columbia. Any where we go we are finding better options outside of the U.S.A.

[@BrandySmiley]

They do, and I believe good men exist too. Just most good people won't be a good match for everyone. Usually due to different values they don't match ( like religion - especially smaller communitues have more trouble finding someone)

[@jdlech]

The woman who rejects you, then gets upset when you move on. (similar to #1) The unapproachable. If you look and act unapproachable, maybe it's intentional or maybe not. Either way, I'm not going to bother because maybe you don't want to be approached. And I have no intention of being "that guy". The woman who gets hypercritical (she's always mad at you) as some twisted expression of love. The woman who just wants to replace her father, maybe with occasional benefits sometimes. Contempt, in any form. There's a big difference between anger, disappointment, pity, and contempt. The moment either of you feel contempt for the other, the relationship is over. Any further investment is wasted.

[@AutomationDnD]

Men who _Say _*_"NO"_* , it can be Older Men. (non- "New" anybody who's been dating a while) ---- in fact, it's often more likely to be an older Man. I am not referring to _OLD_ Men. ....just Older. & they will say "no" bc they may simply be "Tired of The Game' OR perhaps they have _Learned_ that this "Game" just isn't fun any more. So even tho they MAY _ACTUALLY_ still have a quite significant "drive" to be with a woman. ..... as is said now? "The Juice just isn't worth the squeeze" - it's jost NOT _FUN_ anymore. & it doesn't matter how badly the Man, "Wants it" Sometimes it is a "younger" (but mature) 35 year old. He still is VERY Driven, to be with a woman. But as this trend continues? Men are simply learning to be much more controlled, at a younger and younger age.

[@AutomationDnD]

Something *NEW* that women do need to begin to realize? They'll often classify men as "incels". But that's becoming (increasingly) untrue. What women *_Do NEED To Realize?_* ..... Men are _Choosing_ to be "Vol-cels" they're becoming *VOLUNTARILY* Celibate, & this is so foreign to women that they often simply do not believe it's a (real) possibility. But they TRULY need to begin to understand, that--- women have *BECOME* so threatening / toxic / difficult for Men. ..... it's really just NOT "worth it". & Men now realize it as a _Reality_ (but women do not)

[@AutomationDnD]

I believe that THIS "Trend" , does derive from the "Men need peace at home" variety of thinking & feeling. Men DO have plenty of competition, challenge, danger, energy-burn, focus, & general adversity within their own workday or workweek. & when he gets home, yes, *He Wants Peace* & the woman who _THINKS_ she needs to CONTUNE to "challenge" her man (almost as if she thinks he hasn't 'Done Enough YET') .... yeah.... _THAT Woman?_ THAT Woman, is gonna be the one who hears "No". Your average "Common" Man? has . PLENTY . of challenges in his Life. & it is *Just THAT Simple*

[@jdkayak7868]

Or the few Christian men who are left but not married.

[@AutomationDnD]

100% @@jdkayak7868

[@phillipsinclaire]

Keep up your good work! You have my deepest respects...

[@stevec3526]

How about the women who turn a date into a job interview?

[@user-ut4zw6so6o]

Not sure that’s a bad thing. She’s just letting you know she’s dating with the intent to seriously find a partner, not just have fun. To me that would engender respect that she’s a person with a sense of purpose who knows and respects herself and what she wants. The honesty of that would indicate a trustworthy person.

[@shawnm1902]

That usually turns into her assessing his bank account, then deciding how much can be withdrawn

[@Omar_Zazzle]

If she hires me then I expect to get paid.

[@StatmanRN]

You turn that rifgt around on them and see how they like that.

[@norm5785]

These are all right on point.imagine one who received a gift, but because it was not what she wanted and then tells her friends about it. #9 Reminds me of how Clark Kent was when not Superman

[@garybutler5955]

#10 - If she says it's my way or the highway, guess where I'll be?

[@scotter]

7 years now of saying no to women because it's so difficult to find good ones nowadays. Thank you for putting energy into more unification in the face of all that is promoting/causing division!

[@janeordway4841]

Finally a video without you holding your phone in a mirror.

[@kemuelronis4807]

Truly excellent video Emily! I know that this is often repeated by other men, but your understanding of good men and relationships is so valuable. I appreciate your words and the clarity that you bring through your videos. I use the expression: A two-way street. Men are willing to do more for a woman that they like or love, but if the traffic always goes one way, then we will eventually take a side street and get off.

[@rockymatrix8105]

What do men want? Basically, everything women don't want to give them.

[@jeromedenis4754]

I remember women, young college women like you're describing. One girl I was interested in marrying but in a number of years, I was too young in my mind. She turned 20, and married some guy just like that over the summer. I also turned 20 yr. old, and was surprised when I saw her and her reaction was to say to me, "Well, you weren't doing anything!" Wow, she never let me know anything on how she felt, we only dated, never steady but she always acted like she was sort of nor really interested. ?? So, she was pissed at me? Yes, and it was really weird.

[@bckelly23]

What about "The woman who can never decide" what she wants to eat." ?

[@dmitripogosian5084]

That is so minor

[@BTW326]

Totally agree Emily, l am currently going through a painful divorce. We were together 22 yrs. My biggest complaint no ability to show me love or act interested in what l go through to provide for her. No support and no peace. And l really love this woman. Just a simple "how was your day" or putting her arm around me would mean the world to me. Very sad. Don’t get me wrong l was definitely at fault in my own ways. I hope maybe some day she sees the light as l do love her or l will find a great woman although that scares me l have a hard time getting out there and talking to women. Plus l am 47 and feel like its to late to start over.

[@flobba123]

i kinda rejected all women that was interested in me, Ironic since all women i liked has been disinterested in me.

[@JesseOaks-ef9xn]

I like your list. I think you are on the right track. I think both parties should apologize when they are wrong. I know too many women who seldom apologize.

[@dannyd1213]

I am 66 been married 45 years, unfortunately all of today's kids are missing so much of life. It's really sad.

[@scotthill6807]

Agreed! 64years old, married 43 years and a grandfather. If young people would just stop playing games and communicate honestly they’d be much happier. They would probably have a better chance at finding that special person to spend their lives with.

[@dmitripogosian5084]

@@scotthill6807 I am like you ( - 3 years) and I actually feel opposite - in that young people tend to communicate too much, everything needs to be discussed and spelled out and as a result they are highlighting really minor and irrelevant in long term issues in relationship and feel they have to act on that.

[@markabraham2765]

Your analysis on most topics are spot on. I sure hope the women are paying attention. Very frustrating out there these days and I'm probably too old school for most women these days.

[@nickolaszissimos1189]

Truly good women, even though not yet extinct, are getting harder and harder to find these days. One has to look far, wide, and hard to find one. However, one'll never know if they don't spend the time to at least see with their own eyes. Also, ones eyes is exactly one of the places they gotta look. The eyes can tell you allot more than most people may realize.

[@bobbyscalchi4013]

It's the honest to God's truth. The eyes and the facial expressions never lie. You can tell a lot by them. If they are depressed, conflicted, excited, evasive, confused, evil, good, interested, uptight, lying, uncomfortable. People need to study body language more. Sadly even though pretty skilled I need to pay closer attention. Can't catch everything but I instinctively know when something is up.

[@nickolaszissimos1189]

@@bobbyscalchi4013 Sounds like you are strong with intuition, those are all easy to spot with someone whom has intuition high on their cognitive function stack. And yes, it is always good to work with that and grow it stronger.

[@bobbyscalchi4013]

@@nickolaszissimos1189 Well I'm A.D.D. and my minds narratives run 200 MPH all the time like I'm addicted to thinking about too many things to the point of being overwhelmed and anxious sometimes. But? When something interests me especially psychology or people watching or behavioral observations. From experience I've had lessons burned into me too many times so I read people relatively easy. Its taking the right course of action immediately when there are things looming. Usually I keep a note file on a woman and her behavioral patterns. ALL OF THEM! What really burns my @ss most of the time is I realize all my observances were right and hindsight is truly 20/20.

[@nickolaszissimos1189]

@@bobbyscalchi4013 Yup, I am right, you have high intuition. Question, are you introverted or extroverted? Also, do you think up the most likely possibilities or just all possibilities?

[@bobbyscalchi4013]

@@nickolaszissimos1189 I'm actually both! Lol. Depends on my mood whether introspective or just being loud and brazen. I love the art of good intriguing deep meaningful conversation where experiences and wisdom is shared, good questions about life are asked and pondered, and possibilities are explored. But my limit in conversing with people can't go beyond more than 3 in a group or I have a hard time keeping up especially with women. Dudes conversations are much simpler. But yeah when the swag side of me is on. Its on! Witty. Charming, Funny Artistic, Deep. I sing dance and rock the stage! It's my home. Then there's the other side where I'm quiet, observant, reserved, and just alone with my thoughts. I like connections sometimes where you don't have to say a thing and can just reciprocately read each other's eyes and body queues but I've had that far a few in between. How about you? What's your story?

[@lawshorizon]

All this has little to no meaning since most have sense enough to behave as nice as humanly possible until her goal(s) is achieved (e.g. putting a ring on it, retirement plan, paying off bills, an affair, etc.). The difficulty for men is in trying to foretell a probable future with her which so often leads to being without her..

[@anielyantra1]

I do agree with your list....but to find a woman that is excluded from your list is a unicorn nowadays.....better to be MGTOW.

[@thenightraven60]

There are good women out there. They are easy to find cause they ride unicorns.

[@Sladdir]

If there's one thing I've seen all the women of all my relationships do, is that they will always give a gift that they will profit/like too, sometimes even more than me. While, when I think of a gift for my woman, I think of what she likes the most whether it will benefit me or not. All I care about is her happiness even if that means I won't be able to get myself something for my next project..... So lately, after pushing back a project of mine for 5 years, I've decided to think of myself first. Yup, it means that I also have less time/money for our common projects, but it seems like only a man can get himself what really brings joy into his everyday life.