10 Ways to ENJOY Your ALONE Time | A Guide to Self-Loving Solitude

[@zacharyryan484]

I desperately need to break my phone addiction so i can start enjoying high quality alone time 😅

[@RandyStIves]

Listen to esoteric knowledge like Hermes and thoths emerald tablets. They're the same person, or connected to her. Enoch, Anubis, Jesus. My opinion is constantly changing. The greatest magician is a woman which is why middle east hides women like s l a vees. They're all the same person thru reincarnation or returning at the end and beginning of restarts of the currency game the world keeps playing. Nobody can imagine a world with our money is going to keep suffering going. Especially now with the Babylonian Magick system we're in that uses us thru debt slavery. Let's not talk about the corporation ran prisons in America that profit off of each prisoner. I rather know the truth and use critical thinking about this realm than just accept. The Polaris star never moves. It's there's 24/7. In the day and night, use a star app. Everything moves except that star. We're all the same consciousness experiencing itself thru literally everything living and hidden behind the veil on this plane.

[@tehsmom]

I loved this video. I have a tendency to wallow in aloneness. My challenge is forcing myself to go out on my own time and see people. I work in retail so getting home to Mr. Gubbins (cat), and a glass of wine always sounds so much better than going into town.

[@thenerdycrone]

The Tarot time tabling sounds like a great idea :).

[@shellycottrell433]

Single mum here who is longing to get out of hermit mode. I’ve got the spending time thing sorted it’s actually going out and meeting new people. Now at the age of 50 and not having money to socialise it’s a hot mess 😢 love the 10 ideas xx

[@MissEmbersong]

I enjoy my alone time just fine, but I've found that I avoid certain activities (lately, my practice, altar etc) and I think it's because I've made it into a chore. I should on myself a lot and it's making me hang out with people as an "excuse" to not have time for my altar, journal etc. Even when alone I will often play my online games or watch videos rather than sit and "do the work", because it doesn't feel fun and fulfilling... Need to add play into this, I feel! And maybe some of that Tarot Time Tabling! c:

[@LauraSmith-rs8yq]

If going to the movie alone is a hard one.... maybe go alone with someone else. Go together, alive together, sit separately a good ways away from one another and just enjoy experiencing the movie sepatetly. Then, if you want, you can discuss your thoughts about it later.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Great idea! ❤

[@fifidubois5514]

I forgot to mention, I love a bit of glamorous pottering.. I put on Ann Miller from Easter parade and dance along with her. It looks like she's wearing yellow marigolds when she's dancing to "shake all your blues away".. I do get very dizzy though.. spinning round and round...and round....🤣

[@russellstephen6998]

Some of my favorite memories in college were walking to the movie theater in town for a late night showing by myself, getting out at 1:30am and walking back to campus through the fog. It made me feel like I just experienced something special that only I could feel at that time. If it’s not for you it’s not for you but I think for the right movie you’d have a great time! Maybe the right film just hasn’t come along yet ❤❤❤

[@KikiYK]

I was just brainstorming earlier this morning how I can appreciate my alone time more. Perfect timing; I've got my notebook ready 😊

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Awesome 😮 Glad I could help x ❤

[@PashaJackson-b3g]

Their are people who think I don't care about them or that I'm selfish when I need time alone.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

I'm sorry that happens, darling. They need to realise that many people can only show up in community healthily BECAUSE they spend quality time alone. One state of being serves the other.

[@naahhhhHHHHHHHHHH]

the fact that you so regularly do mirror work is so impressive to me. i am terrified of it.

[@adriannademadriguera4859]

one cannot learn to be their own best friend without spending time alone. looking back on ones childhood and beyond. facing the things we were afraid to face. asking the deep questions we are afraid to ask ourselves. time alone should be seen as a true gift. something parents should teach their children.

[@teslagoth9401]

There is never enough time alone. I might as well grow a beard, grab a lantern and hike to the top of that cliff. Love it ❤ great tarot idea and timers!! I make timers my b!&ch! 😂

[@littleerichsenstudios2292]

What really helped me enjoy my alone time back when I was single for a decade was Julia Cameron's Artist's Way. She has so many fun things to try in that book, morning pages helped me deal with any emotional issues with being alone and I got way more productive with my creativity. She calls the self date "artist's date" where you date your inner artistic child.

[@isabelleturner303]

This video is right on time. I was considering an entire day without my phone but couldn’t figure out how to occupy my brain without the instant dopamine hits I get from my constant doom scrolling. Thanks Kelly-Ann👍👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@iannadillo6922]

This was a great video (not unusual on your channel)! So…I have two young children and a cardiac health issue. I am learning how much my alone time is important to me. The need to reset, decompress….rest. What I am finding difficult is how to manage that time. I am going to try the alarm and stop watch thing…ESPECIALLY when I am playing a game on my iPad. I tend to get REALLY lost in those. I mean….when I need to use that alone time for mindless playing, but it’s the other times when I am putting off stuff that can be very beneficial to me during those times that playing becomes a problem for. Thanks so much!!

[@beanbaghagwag]

I spent so many years working night shift. My husband would go to work and I had so much me time. I LOVE ME TIME! When my husband retired I decided to work day shift to have a more normal life with him. I shared with him how much that I was worried about losing all my me time. It is so important for my mental health. Although I don't have as much as I used to, because that would just be rude 😂, he always makes sure I have enough of it. I spend a few hours after work doing what I want. Now he is the one with a lot of alone time because I still have to work and I am trying to get him to appreciate it. To do whatever he wants with some of it. He is awesome. He does all the dishes now.

[@violetflame5290]

Omg Glamour pottering!! I LOVE it 💕 it reminds me so much of my nana ! She always used to say "oh I'm just pottering around"! She's a wee Libra, homebody and lover of cozy, homey aesthetics hahaha 🥰 but yeah I was like her wee little shadow following along, pottering along with her hehe! Now I'm STILL doing it to this day but am definitely going to start making it more glamorous! 😍 🥰 decorating, tidying, and pottering is one of my favorite things to do and I believe I have def inherited from her ! Hahaha I miss you Kelly Ann! Hope to schedule another session with you again soon 💕 -Hannah

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Omg you were MADE to be a glamour potterer 🥰😍 Miss you too doll. I look forward to seeing you in the future x

[@violetflame5290]

@@kelly-annmaddox 💖💖💖

[@andrew4635]

Definitely loving this ‘letting the tarot decide’ approach! Imma give that a go sometime :)

[@adriannademadriguera4859]

congrats on finding romantic love. you deserve it and that person is very lucky. be well and safe.

[@fifidubois5514]

I spend a lot of time alone. Thank you for some fantastic tips.❤

[@AstralLadyTarot]

What a beautiful message. You've opened my eyes about some things. x

[@purplesunflower8242]

Interesting a group of friends speaking about time alone, this evening..

[@morriganwitch]

Thanks Chick xxx

[@ElizabethNonsuch]

When I was in my 20s I'd 'go up the city', spend time in a coffee shop, do some solo shopping and then go to the cinema and I'd do that regularly (also, before the days when I would have earphones in, I never used to like wearing them in public) and I'd take a book. I've never known what it's like to NOT like my own company, as I've always spent lots of time alone - my husband works full time so I'm alone almost 10 hours a day. What you say about 'self talk' really interests me because I don't think I do that at all. I don't talk to myself in my head very much if at all. Of course I think, but it's mostly pragmatic. I've heard of people talking about 'negative self talk' and inner monologue, but I've never experienced that. I'm fascinated by people who have an inner monologue! I do think social media is melting my brain though - I used to read so much but now I feel like my eyes need constant movement for me to be engaged mentally. Urgh. lol.

[@mckinleaf]

I don't have an inner monologue either (I think in "unsymbolised thoughts") but I think that can just mean that it's much harder to catch negative self talk. If I hear a voice saying "your belly's too big" I'd be like, "shut the f up". But instead it's a tiny brief mood dimming when I see my belly. Or my messy house or whatever. I don't think "how did you let it get like this you idiot" but I'm still having a negative unverbalised thought about myself in response to the messiness. I would actually love to see someone do "how to challenge negative thoughts when you don't think in words"

[@Rachel-sv9pq]

If anything my issue is wanting to do everything alone TOO much but that said I absolutely have a problem with the phone. I have set the timer and that's helpful but I'm afraid I might have to take the extra step and get one of those cases that you lock your phone in that won't open until the timer goes off. Sad but true. It's an addiction. Thanks for some good ideas of how to spend my alone time though!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Woah! I did not know you could get one of them, amazing! No I think it's amazing that you went that far to help yourself x

[@schizorap]

Awesome advice Kelly-Anne, I am learning to love my alone time ❤️

[@ToneeNYou]

MARSHAAAAA

[@achilleus9918]

ooh i definitely struggle with being alone. i thought i was an introvert for so long and then finally i realized that i'm not, i'm an extrovert, i'm just socially anxious and picky about who i spend time with (i'm autistic, so being around non-autistic people and/or people i compulsively mask around is very tiring). i think for me i've often felt the compulsion to be with people when anxious or struggling emotionally, but then until relatively recently i haven't had people who reacted well - that is, i had friends who made things worse. i also had friends in the last few years who were really great once or twice, and then changed. i got into these loops of needing comfort and going to the person who had given it so effectively, not getting it, feeling worse, coping alone but struggling more because i hadn't got the thing that i knew would make me feel better, and then needing that comfort even more the next day. i've had a really shit two years, and being alone felt unbearable at times. anxiety and other mental health stuff, both stress about a specific academic problem i was dealing with for a year and just the emotional effects of autistic trauma. i have plenty to do when alone - i'm a phd student, so in theory should be spending a full work day alone researching (not that anyone does, realistically), and i walk a lot, and journal, and sing, and write... but when my friends are all so busy (cambridge students are overworked, friends from before phd have full time jobs) i still struggle a lot with it. any advice from people reading would help... but also, one thing i have found helpful is doing things when alone with my friends in mind - when my friends were stressing over exams and i felt more alone than ever, i baked for them a couple of times - i got to anticipate giving them the cookies i'd baked, and after i'd spent a lot of time worrying i'd bothered them with my emotional stuff it was nice to feel like i was doing something FOR them this time

[@deangoodwin3663]

Great video! We love you ! Your videos do make a great difference for us. Your videos on connection to deities totally helped my connection to Hel, Zeus, Anubis and all the deities I work with. Thanks for all you do. I’m taking a day off today and found your video. Perfect!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

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[@LuneFlaneuse]

Great video as usual 🌻🌻🌻I think a good way to spend quality time alone is to first start journaling, putting all thoughts in paper. Then it’s easier to connect with ourselves. After that, other activities can benefit from the journaling insights…. With a clearer mind and focus.

[@clairefletcher1993]

Love this video ❤ I went away on my own this weekend and it was one of the best things I’ve ever done! To spend time with myself and explore a new place on my own felt like an adventure. I’ve made a little scrapbook now with things I collected and photos and it’s going to be a journal of how I am getting to know myself by “dating” myself.

[@kaitfowlie]

This is SUCH an excellent topic, and I really appreciate your thoughts here! It’s given me lots to think about.

[@IAMtheoneyoulovetolove]

Thank you

[@marestellarum7894]

I think im more scared of being surrounded by people all the time

[@fernandajerez3]

❤❤❤ what about when you have a hard time sharing with people… for example, I enjoy being with people but I enjoy much more the time with myself that I can feel that I waste time having a social event. Also, after a social meeting, I feel so good as I should do more but also, wow that was a lot of energy… I need a year to do it again hahaha. ( also I guess being a migrant in a country with a different league for 5 years already affects). Crazy, right? I don't even understand me… do you have something to say about it?

[@mckinleaf]

It doesn't sound like there's a problem? You're just describing introversion. I also need a lot of time alone, but also it's good for me to do social things anyway, even though I never want to go at the time. But because I know that, I go to them sometimes, think "that was nice, now I need to rest" and rest. Where's the problem? Some people like going for hikes even though it tires them out; they just do them sometimes

[@miniatureartist1512]

♥️

[@RandyStIves]

Slipknot is magnificent

[@dirkfireflash7773]

Never understood how going to the cinema got associated with socialising when it’s the least social thing that you could possibly do with someone. The only people that do actually socialise in this situation are the annoying, inconsiderate people that talk their way through a film. If you want to talk with your friends then go to the pub or cafe. You don’t have to pay for the privilege of being there so all that money can be spent on food and drinks.

[@honeyfaewoman]

I was hoping for some advice if anyone has any. I struggle so hard with eating healthy on my own. It's like it's own executive dysfunctional habit I've gotten into. I've tried different recipes and buying only healthy food, but I end up wasting so much of it because I won't eat it. I know this may sound like such a stupid problem, but I really want to change. I just can't seem to get my footing stable into any routine I've tried so far. Any tips and advice is appreciated. If you have a long message you'd like to send, please do! I really could use the help.

[@Brodmann312]

I went through this numerous times in life while living alone, especially when my depression was overwhelming. Here is a mental dump of things I've utilized over the years. -Figure out a few different options you would enjoy for each meal of the day, plus a couple of mindless snacks. -Stock up on frozen vegetables. -After grocery shopping, wash or otherwise prep everything that gets put away. If you get a big thing of meat/whatever, portion it out for ease of use. -Pick one meal per day that you turn into a luxurious event. Be your own barista, plate your food beautifully, set your dining space nicely, whatever appeals. -Make multiple servings of food, then freeze some for another time, so you don't have to put much effort into eating well in the future. -Check out the fee for one session with a local registered dietician to provide guidance and personalized ideas. -Fiber, protein, and carb for snacktime. -Soup/stew/oven Sunday (pick a day). -Try one new food/recipe per week. -Make a smoothie (as needed). -When you notice a food you're avoiding in the kitchen, that's the time to eat/cook it. -Try a different method each day to see what clicks. Perhaps your "routine" will look like a rotation or random assortment. I hope at least one of those is helpful. Learning to cook well made a big difference for me, which takes time. Keep going! You've got this!

[@KiiruKiringu]

1min in and I've just noticed your earrings 😍