10 Weird INTJ Habits That Make Them Stand Out

[@PSYCH-O]

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[@Cymatic-Mage]

I really like the channel name ☻😈

[@BlackSailPass_GuitarCovers]

Hey, not cool. You stole this video almost verbatim from the @introvertedsoul video of the same name, released July 2021. At least link to the source material.

[@mjr7910]

INTJ lady here, 65 yo. Very accurate assessment of INTJ habits. All of them apply to me. One thing I want to emphasize is that INTJs (some of them anyway) are deeply sensitive. But heaven forbid that we show it! Some INJTs, like the 5w4 variety like me are very sensitive to criticism, my feelings can be easily hurt by an offhand remark. The slightest rebuff stings. But I also cry at beautiful music and at a lovely emotional painting. A day in a forest clearing (by myself) with birds singing and warm sunshine will cause me to sob uncontrollably. My co-workers would be shocked to know this... and that's the way I want it. BTW, my outer self is a scientist....lol.

[@alpharomeo786]

40 yr old here also cries sometime . I think it helps to release the bottled emotions and feels nice 😊

[@Graanvlok]

43-year-old kindred spirit here. It's okay, we won't tell your co-workers. ;-) x

[@mjr7910]

@@Graanvlok Thanks, Graanvlok. It'll be our secret!

[@PrinceFJ]

With my 19 short years I totally understand it.

[@SuperBullyone]

I am intj 5w4 but I don't understand emotions.

[@melodiaesto9184]

The classic disappearing act. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@marblemadness8870]

I like doing that because it makes me feel like Batman.

[@d3scribe130]

@@marblemadness8870 W

[@IkaMiranti]

Yes, i like disappearing

[@asn6751]

Guilty as charged🙋🏻‍♀️😅

[@OdyGals]

Legit

[@racingteam1893]

I am definitely an INTJ female. Lonely person, I hate being touched, I love cotton clothes, I don't like banal conversations, secretly grumpy; until it's no longer a secret, intimidating and serious facial expression. Etc, etc... I liked this video. Thanks

[@awake144k]

INTJ female, as well. You would LOVE 100% flax linen clothes! I even bought a queen flax linen sheet from Ferguson's Linen in Ireland and took it to Israel with me for a year! Utterly dreamy! 💕

[@anh1192]

@@shubhibaghel6810yes! That’s because we live in our head. Sudden irl loud sounds jolts us back to the real world. I find with age …too much noise in general puts me in a mood. I need decompression time towards the end of the day… probably to peacefully go back into my thoughts lol

[@SeriesTube01]

I know this young girl from work, glasses, quiet, doesn't smile often, but she's super smart and beautiful. She's seemps grumpy at first but when she's comfortable, she's really nice and not shy at all. I'm not sure if she's a lonely person though but she doesn't seem used to certain social situations. She doesn't like being touched either. I love the way she is, she reminds of myself when I was younger. I'd love to ask her out but I'm like 15 years older than her, she'll think I'm creepy. ☹

[@Titanium_God]

1 - I get annoyed, but keep it inside. So I seem to be patient. 2 - Yes, yeet myself from the place asap if I decide to 3 - Stubborn all the way 4 - Sometimes? Rarely I do show them between people 5 - And even more emotions when it comes to animals 6 - God complex activated 7 - Oh yes... 8 - Tiny details are the worst... 9 - Ye, that got me into troubles without even knowing I offended someone 10 - Specially with clothes. I need comfy clothes

[@marblemadness8870]

I can only wear cotton, especially to sleep. Every other material annoys me to some degree or another. I also can't wear jewelry. Even my nails annoy me when they grow too long.

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

@@marblemadness8870true.. but I'd like to add that make-up is uncomfortable too

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

We had identical reaction on things 2, 4, 8 and 10 lol

[@elliotfromthepast]

Did you just describe me

[@1Skorpia]

Animals know our hearts. We just melt😊

[@jeaniebird999]

Being complimented feels like being lied to. To me, I think they are either lying, or just don't know WTF they're talking about. Either way, they are WRONG!

[@jacobv6492]

The compliment is either true, meaning I already know that and I don't need it repeated, or it is not true, making it a lie. In both cases the compliment is unwanted.

[@jeaniebird999]

@@jacobv6492 Interesting.

[@noncompliant9258]

🤣💯

[@Coralista_zee]

🤣🤣🤣 spot on

[@shaddowmystwolf]

Compliments are usually ploys to get something from you. Very few are genuine.

[@jeaniebird999]

Fleeing is one of my very favorite coping skills. I call it exercising my right to fuck off.

[@eastcoasthomestead5207]

I like to disappear and do the dishes. The feeling of having my hands in the water and the smell of the soap are calming. But at parties that are at places where that’s not possible, I always have an escape plan.

[@minnie5301]

I think all the introvert types tend to do this. JD comes to mind

[@bradyblackburn7877]

I'm 50 and didn't even know this was a thing. I've just always thought I was a weird loner type.

[@1Skorpia]

I fully embrace it. Everyone else is weird for not having the courage to live their lives they want to live. I had so many people ask when I was getting married and having kids. I was against it. They acted like I was crazy. Fast forward a decade -now it's catching on all around the world. Korean vlogs are dedicated to being single and following people throughout the day. I love them. Very aesthetic.

[@maisie.beans89]

I love the way my brain works, it’s to intriguing how these things are so spot on. Especially the sensory overload, I hate when people touch me unless I initiate it first

[@SpaceTravel1776]

I’m feel I’m pretty much a pure INTJ and have never minded being touched. Not a bugaboo of mine at all. Everything else though, spot on.

[@marcus11619]

My sensory issue is sound, if there’s too much of it like talking, squeaking, banging/grinding noises etc it really takes me out of my thinking and I will have to plug my ears, wear ear plugs, or toss on my noise cancelling headphones to keep from freaking out. I try to hide it though.

[@alianaalagasi5338]

INTJ_T Me 1. Easily Annoyed 2. Ramdomly Flee 3. Don't like talking nonsense stuff 4. forget to show emotions/Insensitive 5. Sometimes can be very emotional but not show them 6. Uncomfortable when complimented 7. Can argue with simple things 8. Get stuck with tiny or smaller details that no one care about 9. Blunt honesty/ Frank 10. Sensory Issues

[@abhyudaychakraborty3818]

Spot on. My mom dislikes I'm so honest. People have no idea how to be pragmatic 😕

[@ilovetochillyay9223]

Excellent video. The most accurate description of INTJ’s I’ve found till now. I would like to add this, INTJ’s pride themselves on being authentic. Human beings aren’t perfect. Nobody is. INTJ’s are very much aware of the things they’re good at and things not so good at. They’re aware of their flaws and imperfections and when somebody gives them a backhanded compliment or exaggerates a reaction to a situation that doesn’t demand it, that person isn’t being genuine or authentic, in other words, that person is being manipulative either towards the INTJ or towards someone else & is using the INTJ. Either ways that means trouble and INTJ wouldn’t want any part of it. This is what’s going on in an INTJ’s head. So don’t b.s around an INTJ. They’re 20 steps ahead of you before you even realize you’re playing chess.

[@hekoriginaljni6489]

When I'm complemented, my brain goes straight to analyzing what was the motivation behind the complement. Who is the opponent in this game of chess, what is his personality, his style, his interests, what might he want from me and what I want from him, and only then I choose the reaction. People say I overthink, but that's just how INTJs are wired

[@carolyntalbot947]

Authenticity and integrity are so important to me, I feel deeply offended by manipulation and frustrated when others question my motivations despite knowing me for a long time. If I say I can't do something, I expect a loved one to assume I have valid (if personal) reasons and not to question my devotion to them.

[@fqn3]

I agree. I do love chess.

[@Synergymark]

1000%

[@PrinceFJ]

Ok, as an INTJ I come to say yes to everything. The sensory part is horrible, I really feel like a stranger, I think it's what I like least, but at the same time I value it.

[@PSYCH-O]

I think every positive trait within a personality type comes with an opposite trait that challenges them.. the sensory aspect to the INTJ defintiely comes with a mix of both 😅

[@shirayryu8071]

It's hard

[@melina4568]

I’ve accepted it as who I am. Don’t touch me thanks! Unless it’s welcomed or my partner just keep some space between us. If it offends someone, that’s their problem.

[@lindziep6319]

Same i just took mbti test and i understand why im bit different on most typical women. They always describe me as odd, cold, arrogant, may i know it all, escapes in parties, blunt or they say brutally honest and analyze everything 🤔 its really hard to be understood by others and they always assume im a loner when im happy when im in my space coz my mind is busy 🤣

[@mhykong6444]

Exactly 💯

[@minorminor2351]

Exactly, sometimes people don't understand why I do not like hugging them. Perfect explanation!

[@noncompliant9258]

Yes! No huggers! 😂

[@deegibb6368]

I only hug those I really like or if I am emotionally helter-skelter during a crisis. Other than that, don't freaking touch me. I am into the not shaking hands since the pandemic, to the point where I am trying to plan ahead with excuses to never start it back up again when it is over.

[@Oraanu]

4:46 Yes 100% - I never know how to respond when someone compliments me or tells me good things about myself. I just default to "thank you" or "no problem" and try to move one to something else that doesn't focus on me, but sometimes I feel like I am coming off as ungrateful or dismissive. I wouldn't be surprised if pessimism and humbleness are also traits that are more common in INTJs because we are introverted - we find self satisfaction by internalizing personal successes and we always have our guard up with other people.

[@mistrylyra5848]

I do this but for me it comes from a space of I am very confident in who I am already so I don’t need the outside validation like the average person would.

[@hekoriginaljni6489]

I've realized recently that my default response in 80% is "I know" and in the rest 20% is "Oh, really? I didn't know"😂 Though I'm working on making responses nicer because people do not seem to be very happy with those once xd

[@mistrylyra5848]

@@hekoriginaljni6489 damn 😂

[@jhemp]

I just dismiss most compliments. "It was nothing" or "I'm just reminding you what you already knew". It's not important to me if others think I did a good job, I know when I've done an adequate job and a subpar one. The former requires nothing, and the latter requires critical thinking and constructive feedback. It doesn't hurt my feelings when people disagree with me, I find it annoying when people won't defend their position when pressed however. Seriously it's not that hard to have a conversation and not get so emotionally involved. How I feel is irrelevant to the discussion... Your motivation is what makes or breaks you as a human being.

[@LizInTheB]

I am a female INTJ and my glass is always half-full, so I don't think that pessimism is a trait.

[@rachelduncan779H41]

Disappearing is so therapeutic to me. I get to do so many tasks on my own and I find that very fulfilling. Learning about everything is basically what keeps me going on in life. I just feel the urge to absorb every knowledge in the world and yet time is running out! It stresses me out when I finish the day without being productive as if I don’t have another day to live. I also hate being touched even by friends unless it is expected yk what I mean?One time, a friend hugged me from behind and I just froze I felt like I wanted to take a shower or something.

[@pegahm4239]

The fleeing one is certainly accurate

[@gyusobeau_6026]

The sensory issue is very true. I get sick if I'm overwhelmed by the things I see, hear, and smell. I don't like being touched, and I always choose comfort when it comes to clothing. I'm quite picky about food, too. I get easily annoyed, most of the time, I don't show it, but when I'm alone, it shows a lot, and I even curse but not too loud. Most of the things mentioned were true for me so far.

[@chenxi8633]

I was playing a show last night and I spilled my sprite on stage. And for the next hour I couldn’t stop thinking about the sugar getting into my cables and underneath my shoes. I ended up have an extremely tiring night and left my fiends in a bad mood and with a headache (of course I didn’t disclose my frustration). Thank you for letting me know why I was so upset!

[@tsbio]

Great video. I didn't know that Sensory Issues were related to INTJ. I have friends who don't understand that I need all cotton clothing or that I don't like common foods like onions due to texture. Onion flavor is good and I use onion powder. I also like caramelized onions, where the onion texture is destroyed. I just don't like whole onions in my food. It is funny when people try to hide the fact that they put onions in the food. They think I will not notice but they do notice when I end up with a plate of discarded onions that I spit out as I ate.

[@minnie5301]

Yes I was never able you wear polyester or nylon blouses. Yuk!

[@deegibb6368]

Replace coconut in the sentence regarding onions and that's me. Coconut milk? No problem. Even toasted coconut is tolerable...but don't you dare try to feed me Almond Joy or Mounds! I loathe raw coconut, especially if it is sweetened! 🤢🤢🤢

[@tsbio]

@@deegibb6368 I am the same way with coconuts.

[@ailurophile2004]

For these 17 years I lived on the earth no one understood my sensory issues 😑😐

[@missinterpretation4984]

The only thing I’m going to say about the getting stuck on details is that you may not realize that most people don’t see the differences in the details that we see. A project at work might have 500 line items but I’ll see the 10 items that’s actually determine the success or failure so while I see my team going through giving equal attention to each item thinking they’re being thorough, I’ll actually zero in on and obsess over the key items that I intuitively know are the most important. I’m not stuck on the details, I’m making sure the details don’t blow the end result. Not to be an ass but I lead 3 teams and we routinely roll things out at a large company and we’re pretty much flawless. Whereas other teams with much less complex initiatives are often looking back to see what went wrong after the fact. They don’t get how each detail affects the end result. And that’s why I have 3 teams, I keep inheriting them because when I oversee things, they go smoothly.

[@Meenaia]

Label me as sus all you want, but I freaking love INTJ's. The ones in my life are just like this, especially #4 😂

[@marblemadness8870]

Yeah... Your on my list now, random KZbin commenter. Now I trust you less than I did 1 second ago.

[@thesignupplace3123]

My daughter and wife both told me to stop smiling because it seemed too weird, being always stone-faced. That threw me for a loop.

[@jlilly1961]

I've many times said I don't belong on this planet. I'm 100% introverted, 76% intuitive, 77% thinking and 78% judging. I'm very much an INTJ.

[@einahsirro1488]

This was spot on. My sister calls me Old Stoneface and Robot. I leave without warning. I hate bright lights and loud noises. If you want my opinion, ask, and you will certainly get it. I also have a tendency to talk really fast when I get going, but I don't know if that's an INTJ thing or not.

[@Youtube_randomnobody]

#7 causes me so much aggravation, I'm called argumentative and yes maybe but I don't argue with people that have no grasp on the subject. If I question you then it's because I think you may have a valid perspective.

[@STLnate]

THANK YOU 🙌

[@jeaniebird999]

I can feel it when I sometimes am not showing emotion, on my face, but I definitely am feeling it, on the inside. It feels weird, though, like guilty.

[@aisyahsanib7795]

Absolutely true all of it. As INTJ, this impresses me. 👍🏻✨

[@nicolaoneill8696]

Sensory overload occurs when my emotions get stirred up. My whole body buzzes and I can't think straight. It's like I'm having an out of body experience and I hate it. The rest of the video pretty much sums me up to a tee 😊

[@generic........]

Great vid! First time hearing abt the sensory issue thing, and I realized I can definitely relate (as INTJ obv). Basically I have this thing where I literally can't get "comfy". Like I despise getting cozy or relaxed because it just feels odd. It's honestly quite annoying, but ever since I was a kid, I've hated anything to do with lounging on a couch or even wrapping up in a blanket. Anyway, everything else is very relatable. It's really interesting to see how other people view us, since this helps us improve our personal relationships and increase the quality of our lives.

[@xg6hpyk]

I am a INTJ who is a very fussy eater. I can't stand onions, garlic, peppers or tomatoes. I once commented that I hate Goldfish crackers because of the onion taste. The person I was talking to said there were no onions in Goldfish, then picked up the package of Goldfish that had sparked our conversation and read the ingredients. The every last thing listed was onion powder

[@kidgay3730]

I HATE being touched by most people. If they are family or partner its ok but that is it. I also have this weird thing where if there is a lot of conflicting noise (like multiple conversations at once) I go to a response similar to physical pain. Anyone else have this?

[@FaeTheFish]

I do the same thing! It's terrible and really annoying!

[@averagejackie1609]

Yes to sensory issues and having a preference for glitches. I absolutely loathe the feeling of dry paper towels and napkins, when I touch them I make sure my hands are at least slightly damp. Also I have never been able to wear a turtle neck. I can’t explain the feeling I get when I wear them, I just hate having a sleeve on my neck so close to my chin. I feel in another world when I have have worn them…my mom used to make me wear them as a kid and I’d throw the biggest tantrums to the point of rolling holes in the necks of them. Even some collared shirts I wear I do wear I have to them have my hair up off my neck because it feels like too much. I am an absurd human.

[@enwe6487]

I think you’re the first human I heard saying this too omg! I HATE things touching my neck, and can’t even wear so many nice shirts because I feel like they’re suffocating me and once I notice uncomfortableness, it will drive me crazy. I though I was just seriously whiny and weird, nope - just INTJ 😅

[@jimmywoolever798]

yes, collared shirts and turtle necks, constantly feeling like I am choking

[@alexr6114]

Regarding sensory issues, almost all humans have some sensory issues. I do not think that this is unique to INTJs. I hate having hair in my eyes or touching my face, but I always wear a cloth around my neck because if my neck gets cold, I will get a sore throat.

[@catherinerhea6336]

You've nailed the overall aspects adequately... I will add the following: 1) ***UNLESS THE BUILDING IS ON FIRE, DO NOT INTERRUPT ME WITH TRIVIAL GARBAGE*** ...I ABSOLUTELY LOATHE irrelevant nonsense, ESPECIALLY when I'm "drilled into" a task... 2) Most of your video illustrated individuals in light/pastel color clothes... **THINGS I WOULDN'T BE CAUGHT DEAD IN!!!** Dark, solid colors, deep jewel tones, NOT a fan of patterns nor "statement" apparel... ***EXTREMELY PICKY*** about my attire, including laundry, even how something is folded!!! 3) ***EXTREMELY PICKY ABOUT ALMOST ANYTHING*** ...I EXPECT functional, reliable, & authentic... no fads, not interested in even "the latest & greatest" unless it corrects a flaw, & then only if I find it functional. 4) For a video articulating my "quarks," it certainly focused on groups & social interaction, something I VEHEMENTLY AVOID. _You cannot adequately describe an introvert using extrovert templates._ Extroverts rely on & seek social interaction & the unspoken approval that "holds it's hand." I neither seek that interaction nor require that approval. It literally IS that "cut & dry." 5) Nothing was mentioned regarding multitasking... something I'm always doing; it's part of how I accomplish so much in a short timeframe: PRIOR PLANNING, PRECISE TIME MANAGEMENT, & LASER FOCUS... which allow zero room for insignificant anything.... 6) CREATURE OF HABIT, & NOT WILLING to allow much of anything to disrupt that. You could have said "VULCAN" & that would have essentially summed it up.🖤

[@waddahElyemen]

I get too logical and stubborn with my strategies paying extra attention to the smallest details and explain them vividly to the point where people find me intimidating. I hate sharing my emotions especially sadness and romance that I was always labeled as a robot. I constantly analyze everything around me from machines to languages and words structures and even trying to dissect others thought process. I prefer to be alone to think. I feel like an outcast and misunderstood. At times I want to dull it down a bit so I can carry average conversation but internally rolling my eyes just to get along. I get very uncomfortable when complemented. I write very complex poetry that most people don’t get.

[@akhirahsparkle3384]

Do I need two tell you I like this comment twice 😏 FYI: just an INTJ vibing with your comment so much right now I'm low key feeling sad... (I can say that here... lol)

[@marblemadness8870]

It's too bad your grammar isn't as "complex" as your pretentiousness. A little humility will help you with feeling like an outcast. After all, no one likes an arrogant a hole. Being an INTJ doesn't mean you have a monopoly over the intellectual. You ARE NOT smarter than everyone. There will ALWAYS be people that are far more educated & intelligent than you, regardless of your personal assumptions on a personality type. Learn some modesty. It will help you out a lot in life.

[@MrSlm1982]

I took the assessment and got INTJ, also have a friend who things I'm might have Asperger's... Being that I discovered all this later in life I find it a waste of money to actually get diagnosed with any of it officially. If I've survived on this rock for almost 40yrs this long and have a job that's suits me comfortably. Why waste money on a diagnosis when I could invest that same money for a better ROI. All that said good, informative video.

[@alexr6114]

I get that a lot also, even from friends. I often wonder how they would react if I told them that they were simply way too emotional and they should grow up and stop acting like a two-year-old.

[@anneh851]

So we are logical. Then, when others base decisions on illogicality and their decision fails, and they complain to high heaven about the results.....does it not logically follow that we get annoyed?

[@marblemadness8870]

Why? Then you get to tell them, "I told you so", or just glance into their eyes without saying a word. That will trigger them even more. Good times. Good times.

[@anneh851]

@@marblemadness8870 Getting annoyed doesn't have to show....sometimes I sit back and laugh on the inside, as long as their actions haven't hurt others. Not all of them ever learn. One guy installed a water main for drinking water out of the kind of irrigation piping that cannot be used for drinking water. He denied and denied after getting caught. Even after physical proof was presented. Sometimes you do have to say, "I told you so."

[@djromantech]

it's hard to see myself as an unlikable person, especially as we have authentic values and character, but these videos help me understand what particular behaviours others see and read, its more helpful than going on believing that "no one gets me because im so detached in my head seeing the bigger picture and the further future."

[@KristiannasGallery]

These are so accurate, I get stuck on small details, like if I can’t pronounce a word in a sentence I will keep trying until I get it right. It’s also the same with ppl who pronounce things wrong, like I have to correct it. It feels strange hearing that. Also with the compliments, I’m like “well I already know that, tell me somethings I don’t know or heard before”. As for sensory, omg I can NOT sleep without satin sheets like I can NOT do cotton AT ALL 😂. - INTJ Woman

[@whitedragon5223]

It's odd that I've never heard of the Sensory issues until now. I always thought that was just a me thing, but I guess there's an actual reason I avoid letting people touch me like they carry the plague.

[@Coralista_zee]

Number 7 and 9 only applies when I am in the presence of a person i am really really close with. I am hyper aware of people and their body language so I don't argue or offer my opinion until it is absolutely required because I could sense a change in their state for better or worse. It also makes you good at giving answers that a person wants to hear to get them off your back. I will not waste my energy on or interested in your opinion until you have earned my respect as an expert in the field. What you may refer as argument, I will say it in 2 sentences, to the point and be done with it.

[@marblemadness8870]

You're not INTJ. You're very close-minded & fake. INTJs are known for being "brutally" honest, yet you make it a point to study people so you can tell them what they want to hear. INTJs also like to debate/argue, whether to mess with people, or to genuinely learn. We're very open to different ideas, whether we subscribe to them or not. Earn your respect? Why would anyone bother with you? You seem like a very petty, self-righteous, arrogant person, not anywhere like an unemotional robot. You're not unemotional. You're very toxic & full of yourself. That's nothing to be bragging about.

[@VRIceblast]

Very Accurate! Many times I feel like a alien, that I look at the world from the outside in. I feel like a Scientists doing experiments. Women are fascinating creatures. For me, I spent most of my life working a small business, and never having a day off for decades. I only saw the world from the computer screen, and from the people that came and went from my business. Being in a situation like this, you have to change the way you think, otherwise you would really hate life. I'm figuring that's what I did, because I enjoyed my time there. Because this, my sense of being an alien, or other people being alien to me is probably much stronger then most people. I think being a INTJ saved me, and allow me to deal with my life in a box for so many years. Now, that I no longer have a business, I don't like leaving the house. I don't like traveling. If I want to go to Hawaii, I just find a nice video on it, and I'll feel like I'm there. I don't have to worry about losing my luggage, or spending a ton of money, and I don't have to deal with people. People always cause trouble, and I'd rather just avoid it. I can do it all safely from my home. There is so much stimuli on the internet that keeps my brain happy. If I went on vacation, I wouldn't go anywhere. I would just spend that time in my head.

[@pinkyellowblue007]

CoachGregAdams can tell you what women are like, don't waste your money.

[@thugster420]

Lmao sounds kinda sad bro ify

[@thugster420]

If you're an Ai then I'm an Ai

[@angelaharris53]

A lot of these are true. The sensory one is amplified because I have chronic migraine and the post-drome will make me hypersensitive to touch, even my scalp will hurt with a particularly bad episode. Some of my earliest memories are my mom battling to comb my hair and the pain of the tangles. I ended up with a boy cut because she couldn't deal with it. Then there were scratchy clothes and itchy tags in clothes ... on and on and then the migraines made it all worse.

[@pace1719]

1 True. 2. True. 3. True. (generally food) 4. True. Nailing it so far. 5. True. 5/5 6. True. But I do internalize compliments. And I remember. 7. True 8. True. 9. True. If I like you, I will warn you, do not ask me for my honest opinion unless you absolutely are ready for the truth, imo. 10. True. Hello autism. 10/10 good job! Fun video. Ciao!

[@JayMcCorvey]

Sensory issues, disappearing, occasional controlled blunt honesty yuuup sounds bout right

[@burakustunsoy4847]

Just because I randomly leave conversations doesn't mean i wasn't interested in it , I just got bored and didn't want to talk anymore

[@enfieldjohn101]

I can see why you started with annoyance. I'm so easily annoyed that it's, well, annoying. Yes, I'm sometime annoyed by my own behavior. :) The things that especially annoy me are: sudden loud noises, high pitched noises - especially screams, unnecessarily bright light, people who go on and on when I've clearly let them know that I've heard enough, commercials, things that are immoral but are being treated as if they aren't, illogical arguments, being interrupted when I'm focusing on something or daydreaming about something (one of the two things I'm pretty much doing all of the time), uncomfortable clothes or shoes, chairs that look comfy but aren't, and the list goes on... Yes, if I can sneak out of a boring or upsetting situation, I will. Sometimes I manage to do this by just daydreaming and tuning out the world around me. Other times, the situation is so overwhelming that I have to physically leave. I've done this my whole life. I'm not sure I could stop if I wanted to. It's pretty much an instinct for me. I'm incredibly stubborn and it takes a very strong, well thought out and sometimes even backed up by evidence argument to change my mind about anything. Once I've decided that something is too silly or wrong etc. to continue to pay attention to, I'm done with it and won't give it a second chance. There are so many TV shows, for example, that I've never seen more than the first two or three episodes of because I've written it off. Meanwhile, I've got things I like a lot and couldn't care less if others like them too. For example, I love the movie 'Wrath of the Dragon God' and consider it to be an excellent example of what an RPG brought to life would be like, but so many people I know don't like it at all. No matter what they say, I still keep my DVD of it and re-watch it now and then. I certainly don't pay attention to my own appearance in terms of being concerned about how others might perceive it. I wear what I find comfortable, give myself haircuts that are focused solely on getting my hair to stop itching my neck and ears - I've no idea what my hairstyle is called, and I have been told that my face looks 'neutral' or 'bored', even when I'm actually feeling an emotion intensely. I've been to funerals (I hate funerals and would rather not go, but it was part of the culture I grew up in - everybody who even sort of knew the person was expected to go) where I'd be sitting there just taking the situation in, maybe enjoying the music or the smell of the flowers, taking interest in the design of the church, etc. Someone will ask me if I knew the deceased and if we were close and I'm like "Well, yes I liked him a lot. I'll miss having him around." But I won't cry or anything. Much later on, if something comes up that reminds me of the person and I'm alone, I'll find myself feeling the loss so strongly that I'll cry then, but I never cry in public. When I find myself needing to show emotion outwardly for some reason, it can feel like I'm acting out a part in a play and I sometimes wonder if I'm being convincing at it. I've even taken acting classes in college, partly because I find acting fascinating and partly because I'm hoping that it will help me show emotions outwardly in a more convincing way. I keep emotions from showing because all throughout my childhood, I was bullied horribly and the only defense I felt I had was to try to make them think that they weren't hurting me by just staring blankly at them or doing my best to pretend that I couldn't hear them. It hurt a lot though, so I'd take out my frustrations by playing action video games and by finding a stick and hitting inanimate objects such as stacking up cans, blocks etc. and knocking them over. For a while, I had a 'bopper bag' that my grandpa gave me for Christmas and I'd box it around or hit it with a wrapping paper roll to take out my frustrations. If something makes me laugh out loud, rest assured that I find it incredibly funny. If it is only mildly amusing to me, I may not even show it. I've been working hard on showing my positive emotions more, especially ones of affection towards others. I do love my family and friends, especially my wife, a great deal, but it feels awkward to show them that in ways other than solving problems for them. Fortunately, my wife figured this out about me early on in our relationship and doesn't expect me to change. When I do manage to show her more 'normal' signs of affection, she realizes that I mean it even more deeply that I might be showing it. I've overheard her talking to a friend about us and they'll ask something like "What do you see in him? He seems so cool and aloof." to which she replies something like "Maybe on the outside, but he's wonderfully romantic on the inside, I can tell." She understands me. Yes, I find compliments very awkward indeed. I don't even like the attention I get for winning something or being given an award for something I've done. I never know how to act in those situations and probably come across as embarrassed by it. I rarely sign up for competitions which give out awards at events for this reason. People say that I really ought to try out for something like that and I'll say that I doubt that I'd win, when what I really mean is that I couldn't cope with it if I did win. The best way to compliment me is indeed to listen to me and follow my advice. When I find out that someone has done so, it feels very good. My closest friends and family have learned this about me and often show me that they care by asking for my help and then actually letting me help them, or doing what I suggest. That's like saying "You're a great friend" to me. I suspect everyone. :) Some say that I'd make a good detective because I'm always evaluating and examining everything and everyone when I'm present and not daydreaming. If I can have a discussion with someone where all of us in the discussion stay rational and unemotional and most importantly, stay on subject, that's a fulfilling and fun experience. I think it's one of the things that keeps me coming back to online discussion groups (yes, I'm still active in many online bulletin boards and chat rooms that predate Facebook) and certain social media groups. The ability to have a detached, usually logical, discussion about a topic of interest without the awkwardness of being with other people face to face is wonderful. When it comes to details, I don't see myself as 'getting stuck' on them, but rather I'm usually the only one who notices them and does something about them. In working groups, I'm often both the 'big idea' or 'what if' guy and the 'what about these details - I'll take care of them' guy. I do tend to be very blunt in expressing my evaluation of things. I'm trying to be more gentle about telling people that their idea won't work, but it takes focus on their feelings which isn't natural to me, to do so. I have to stop and ask myself, if someone wrote this to me, how would I feel about it? If I think I will feel even slightly perturbed by it, I realize that others might be really upset and I'll change what I'm writing. I try to tell them something positive about what they are doing for each negative thing. I also do that for my document editing clients and for reviews of books, movies, etc. It's the best I can do to spare people's feelings. Good video which makes a lot of valid points in an understandable way. Thank you.

[@anak5183]

These are right on! 👍😉

[@PSYCH-O]

Awesome, thank you for the feedback 🙌

[@anonygent]

Caveat to the disliking compliments: INTJ's freaking LOVE winning awards.

[@narolincepeda6523]

The INTJ is basically neurodivergent.... and they are the most neurodivergent of all the personality types.

[@chrisiscool]

This fits more then when a psychologist was recitating symptoms of autism and oh boy was that one exact......i love psychology for this, it's amazing how it's so exact

[@Dedo70]

I often wonder if all INTJs are on the spectrum. -INTJ female

[@koliveira0712]

​@@Dedo70 I've been thinking the same. I am an INTJ and have lots of symptoms of autism too...

[@lgempet2869]

As an INTJ myself, I can say that the disappearing act is DEFINITELY a thing!🤣🤣🤣 And I’ve done it multiple times & when I haven’t done it, I’m constantly thinking about it: strategizing ways to get out of a public &/or event obligation or simply to flee the evils of the world I feel are constantly all around me.

[@johnknight9150]

If we disappear all of a sudden, you're probably chewing with your mouth open -- the mark of a true knuckle dragger.

[@imitationsofmyself]

INTJ yes this video is accurate.

[@ChantelStays]

I've been professionally typed...as infj for 20 years. Twenty damn years. But never resonated with Fe. Took a year today.... INTJ. I don't know man. Internal implosions. I truly resonate. But I so resonate with infj too. The complexities are real.

[@user-sh9pl1sx2m]

Same problem

[@ChantelStays]

@@user-sh9pl1sx2m it's frustrating! Doesn't matter how much ive research on the cognitive functions. I'm able to apply it to other people but have a hard time seeing through the multifaceted self and bias. All I know is I lead with Ni and use Se. Best wishes xx

[@JJ-rp2df]

Scarily accurate breakdown of INTJ traits. I relate completely to being easily annoyed, expressionless, combative, blunt and stuck in detail.

[@pearlg6411]

I relate to all of these. I would have added to our emotional trait our tendency to instantly (& usually permanently) sever emotional ties when someone offends our core beliefs.

[@DavidMummert]

My sensory issue is my hands being sticky. I can handle dirt or grease but to have my hands become sticky is an immediate freakout moment. I've gotten better with only freaking out internally, but it used to be external. I've always been this way.

[@anonygent]

The brutal honesty is really accidental. We say stuff that seems self-evidently obvious only to discover that a) it wasn't obvious, and b) it wasn't tactful.

[@meagangriffin2170]

Its interesting to ponder the notion of "tact"...I think by its very nature it is skewed towards the majority that make up a society/society norms...this is why we are often at odds with our SJ/Sentinel dominant societies ...don't get me wrong, SJ's play an important role in creating an everyday functioning society...we just don't tend to conform for the sake of "status quo", although as we mature, in order to survive, we gradually acquire a better sense of the way "tact" is constructed by our particular society....just every now and then we slip up :P

[@mage3690]

Huh. I never thought of tact in that way. All I knew is that all the interesting things in my head are generally poorly received when I say them out loud, so I don't say them often.

[@FirstnameLastname-mt7uk]

"certain physical activities" no wonder i havent been able to be to get close to anyone my whole life lmao

[@angelbulldog4934]

My emotions are deep and real. Doesn't mean I live by them. My heart can't think, so I use my central processor. Logic, common sense (which is rather uncommon), and truth rock my world. Most other women don't understand.

[@kayecee2871]

"Randomly flee" -- especially when someone wants to *talk about their feelings*. I'm already looking for the door...

[@FourCatsOnly]

I agree with being not comfortable with receiving compliments.

[@farfaraway4285]

Point 6 - you got me again, so accurate.

[@Owlsworthy]

I related to every single thing except perhaps the blunt honesty, when that happens it's always an accident. Having said that, I am 99% sure that I am NOT an INTJ. Liked the video none the less. I got very invested in Ni Dom (just like everyone else) bc I got typed as INFJ- however, digging deeper into typology and stumbling onto OPS I am now confident that I do not know my type at all 🙂

[@PSYCH-O]

Haha very interesting.. sometimes learning about the different behaviours of each type can help you make sense of yourself regardless if you know your definitive type or not, so good on you!

[@Owlsworthy]

@@PSYCH-O Thank you 😊 you are absolutely right! The amount of knowledge I've accumulated through typology is astounding. I am so much more open and understanding of others. Thanks for helping in that journey, and I can't wait to see more videos.

[@ccre88trixx]

I have been known to give the ol' irish exit at parties lol

[@t.terrell7037]

First it is uncanny how these comments seem to confirm accuracy of video. I’d love to see some videos or even podcasts geared toward intjs that speak to work that works for us and plays on our strengths because I believe we have so much valuable info to share that others can benefit from. I keep going back to these types of videos in order to figure out why any jobs related to human service or dealing with people to a large extent just Do Not work no matter how hard I try. Taught for 21 years and invested in furthering my education for it and I feel like I wasted so much time I could have spent on something I loved. Then started a new job last week as a career counselor and felt my heart drop yesterday at a training as I realized I was yet getting back into a similar environment as the one I left. I’ve been asking myself what my calling or purpose is for almost 30 years and still don’t know. At my age stability is important but it’s like my mind and body won’t permit me to stay somewhere that won’t work for me😢😢hearing from other people like me gives me some ideas to consider and perhaps research to help with discovery

[@michaelazimmerman8321]

That’s so me, an INTJ. I have all these habits, can’t imagine living life any differently.

[@nuclearpasta3307]

This personality type came up for me as INTJ-A and it fits my personality type quite perfectly.

[@elijahang507]

why was this so freakingly accurate for me? haha

[@deborahmacdonald321]

Wow 10 all the way! When I was very young I had to wear a wool skirt at Catholic school. It was torture, and I hate when anyone touches me unless I initiate the contact, also sudden loud noises really irate me.

[@_Paul_N]

You’ll catch us wearing ear buds/headphones even while grocery shopping, and our death stare is on full display even in the best of moods. It comes with the territory lol.

[@aylon1678]

Whoa, it’s pretty accurate, but I always love to hear about last one because I’m intj with primary love language physical touch and it’s like I don’t really like being touched by people in general but if we’re close I’d be okay hugging nonstop

[@pityparty9955]

Is Mr Spock an INTJ? He has been my hero/role model from the first time he appeared. I hate people’s drama.

[@xg6hpyk]

INTJ who also loves Mr. Spock. I think of him as a role model

[@sarahmoore4917]

I hate that sensory issue. I can hear, see and feel. Sounds, lights and vibrations. At both the higher and lower frequency then average person. I can hear when machine or computer is overheating. By the differences in the running noise. Tell when forklifts are coming by the vibrations in floor. The Engineers I work with know now. To get out their meters to understand what I am picking up on. But trying to explain to a Mechanic. That my car sounds and feels different therefore something is wrong. Or sleeping when neighbor is playing music with lots of bass. Can be a challenge. W

[@mrvoid912]

Accurate Especially I hate being touched. I hate taking the bus for this

[@sumurssno]

The sensory overload is a bane to my existence, I can't even use an Emery board or leaf blower, anything that causes too much vibration throughout my body or it feels like my entire limb will fall off and it's entirely too painful. I'm always highly aware of how clothes fit my body or touch it; I rarely experience sensory deprivation so I always know that I'm wearing them which can be bothersome. I'm glad I'm not the only one who goes through strong bouts of not wanting to be touched unless initiated 😅

[@t.terrell7037]

Yup so it can make romantic relationships or intimacy a bit hard😂

[@randompersonwithinternet1001]

im an entp which means that when im not feeling myself, i act like intj (shadow functions) this really describes my times of exhaustion and burnout, i act just like this

[@baba_haitam]

1 - I have anger issues 2 - yes. 3 - stubborn indeed. I don't want to lose either 4 - sometimes probabbly. I like to show my emotions to irritate others 5 - Very true. Expecially to animals 6 - Actually yes, bcs i don't know how i supposed to react to that 7 - Yes. 8 - I hate it. 9 - I somehow always offended people even when i felt like i'm not 10 - I hate showing skin that much. I like baggy clothes

[@biggerinfinity9522]

the compliment thing was very accurate

[@iamgreatnomatter]

Everything was so true especially the 10the one... But the 6th one-to some extent

[@PSYCH-O]

Awesome, thank you for the honest feedback! 🙏

[@michaeldoherty2707]

Hey all, #8 is a focus on small details that wouldn't gain much interest from most people. Is the devil not in the details? Are the details not what make the plan fool-proof? Maybe the details are very important. I think in most cases, its the details that make the difference in the outcome. Thanks for the video.

[@thexshattered]

This is all true for me. I was pleasantly surprised to see #6 (They can feel uncomfortable when complimented). I always thought it was just a strange remnant of my childhood lack of affirmation from my parents. We weren't a very affirmative household. (You did well in school? Well, yeah, that's what you're supposed to do. You should've been doing that this whole time.) So, growing up, I noticed I felt really weird and uncomfortable whenever anyone complimented me about anything, even my appearance. I thought that with some therapy this would change somewhat, but maybe it's all just part of my personality now. I can literally never just take a compliment; I always question if the other person is just being nice, or if they are correct about me at all.

[@lynnh1682]

The disappearing act is more like i can leave whenever i want to and i dont need to let you or anyone else know beforehand.

[@manuelcoelho8445]

this is actually so accurate... 😅😅

[@arthurshat7793]

9 really resonates with me.

[@Cooliemasteroz]

The INTJ characteristics seem very similar to the commonly described traits of the Sagittarius star sign.

[@PSYCH-O]

Very interesting relation! Some people actually have related the traits to that of a scorpio as well 😆

[@Cooliemasteroz]

@@PSYCH-O I'm actually an Ophiuchus which is thought to have a bit of Sagittarius and Scorpio traits. Another thought is that I'm fairly sure that I'm an INTJ and I also have O negative blood type which also occurs in a small percentage of the population which makes me wonder if other people who are INTJ OR similar also have a rare blood type. It would be interesting to do a survey.

[@mjr7910]

As an INTJ, I would say I relate to Aquarius.

[@Cooliemasteroz]

@@mjr7910 do you know if you have an uncommon blood type ?

[@mjr7910]

@Tim Hill yes kinda rare... A negative

[@ifarded4986]

Number 6 rings true for me. I do like positive feedback to know my plan worked for everyone involved but I don't need someone to kiss my ass to tell me I did a good job. I'll know if I did a good job or not by the outcome. Praise isn't necessary.

[@3KYA]

The sensory overload spoke to my soul! I try to explain this to others and they kinda get it but not really lol

[@jimmywoolever798]

oh man the sensory issues, Everything is always too bright, too loud, too coarse, too dry, etc.. Even as a child, I would refuse to use the chalkboard. It's pure torture.

[@kittyowlblu]

INTJ here 49 yo female, I never knew that hating to be touched was an INTJ thing. And I thought that was just me.

[@Thugpassionfashion]

My favorite thing to do is leave a function 30 mins after being there and when I leave I sneakily do it I don’t say bye to anyone ; it’s just too much work 😂

[@titusgunter2824]

Last one hit spot on

[@dhonihanif4525]

i really shocked😅that was all true !!. I'm INTJ - A after test on MBTI. i dont know why i got hurt when people said that im weird : )

[@trevorramey9843]

I know it's not limited to INTJ , but is hyper hearing common? I swear I hear the electricity from neighbors houses when they turn on their televisions. If you think you have tinnitus give this a try. Find the most silent room in your domicile. Focus on the tone of your tinnitus. It may be a solid note or whine, it may pulse or strobe. Now touch a wall or something grounded. Touch and release it a few times. Every person I've had try this states the pitch of the note changes. Can anyone attest to this and maybe help me explain?

[@praneeth5127]

You revealed my secrets!

[@sid4836]

This is one if the first accurate intj videos ive seen.😂

[@radoslavraykov9038]

Definitely 10 on 10 for me ..... I wasn't like that before my 30s, but after that 100 % accurate

[@pompinarzari789]

I thought it was odd to not like compliments 😂but i understand myself better now

[@amilee7580]

I've always hated being touched my strangers. I have a dislike of rough and dry cloth like canvases. Didn't know it's a sensory issue in INTJ until today. This video is very accurate.

[@gachabeach2657]

this is weridly accurate. i must know more about myself.

[@MrHarryc727]

Nailed it from an INTJ