11 Things People with Depression Would Like You to Understand

A major depressive disorder - usually just called “depression” - is different than the “blues”. Someone experiencing depression is grappling with feelings of severe despair over an extended period of time. Almost every aspect of their life can be affected, including their emotions, physical health, relationships and work. For people with depression, it does not feel like there is a “light at the end of the tunnel” - there is just a long, dark tunnel.
Understanding depression is a good step towards helping friends or family members who are having depression. Depression isn't as simple as "feeling sad", its much more.
It’s more than just getting bad grades.
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[@sophiaxd1133]

I love how she says "we." It makes me feel less alone.

[@jdmj0]

Sophia XD It’s not that i’m ignorant of the fact that others have depression, but this right here, this is exactly how I felt.

[@hel2727]

@Meowi The Kittycorn clearly you're not alone, look in the comments, listen to people around you. Sadly, a lot of people are depressed.

[@user-ve7we3fy4n]

Sophia XD true... its so true.

[@alexkawaii2236]

;-;

[@LittleAngryCarrots]

Yep. For a sec I felt level of dopamine. Shame it lasted so little idky

[@chloewebster5669]

Also, it's not being lazy, we just don't have the energy or motivation on that day and we can't help that. I know it can be inconvenient and by being called lazy the guilt is worse

[@monicag_00]

Chloe Webster THIS and if you have anxiety being called lazy and such makes the guilt is so much worse. I wish people would understand that I desperately want to have the motivation to do things, but I just don't and I feel awful about it

[@enydnightshade]

Chloe Webster true i really hate that

[@gocanadayayyy]

This has been the biggest one for me. I have no mental energy to do things, it seems... I know I look lazy, and I can't figure out why I keep telling myself I can't just... apply for that job, prepare for that interview, call about this or that, book a haircut.... shower... I can. But I don't. I feel trapped, somehow like it's my own fault, and I feel guilty for not doing better. You make a good point about making the guilt worse- a depressed person is already beating themselves up enough. There's no need to add fuel to the fire

[@katywright8161]

Chloe Webster yaaaaassss! I have acute major depression and I feel a complete lack of energy/motivation all of the time. My dad does not understand any of this and is constantly on my back to get up, get dressed, take a walk, go to the gym, etc. I hate it but at the same time, why I am completely sapped of energy/motivation is hard to explain. I really appreciate msg boards like this bc I know that there are others out there who can relate and I know that the struggle is real.

[@aracelimereles346]

My friends call me miss laziness. They believe the only thing i enjoy doing is watching Netflix and i dont even have the interest on that anymore. They seriously know nothing.

[@peanutbutter6636]

My parents have said "don't you care about anyone besides yourself?" or "for once, think of someone besides yourself" countless times when I've been struggling and haven't been able to make myself get out of bed. It isn't as easy as that. And hearing that hurts a lot.

[@Zahlenteufel1]

I'm just here to say that weed might not be a solution but it certainly helps!

[@simoneyoung825]

I hear that more than I should be hearing that...

[@pepsicola2796]

Peanut Butter my mom says the same fucking thing I almost ran away

[@timatou343]

Peanut Butter Or when they ask"are you going to stay like this forever?"Even my psychiatrist tells me this.

[@kimberlysamaroo9413]

Omg yes ! Someone else who shares this ... God I hurts so much

[@adrielle.benner]

Mom and dad... I didn't clean because I couldn't muster the strength to stand, not because I disrespect you. Friends... I didn't answer your texts because I have anxiety over what to say, not because I hate you. Teachers... my grades dropped because I couldn't find purpose in my life anymore, not because I am lazy. Boyfriend... I say I'm ugly because I mean it, not because I'm fishing for compliments. Everyone... I don't say the words "I'm depressed" because I don't want to burden you with my problems or sound like I'm making excuses. It's not like any of you have noticed anyways though... you're all so busy making your own assumptions about my character that you'll never recognize I have a mental illness. Edit: Three years ago when I wrote this comment I was in the worst place of my life. I actually turned off KZbin notifications because my dad saw one from this thread and got very concerned... it was uncomfortable but it started a conversation. I just wanted to let you all know that I hear you, I’m here for you, I appreciate you for all of the encouragement, but most importantly, I wanted to say that it gets better. I’m on medication now that I’m an adult and can make that choice for myself, and although it isn’t perfect and I still struggle immensely, I have hope. We’re never alone in our sufferings. Stay strong ❤️

[@memo-6842]

I'm here for you.

[@unayzah4111]

Adrielle B Relatable :'(

[@davidsirmons]

I've been there repeatedly. I know what it's like. There are ways to stand strong against it. The first step is to find things that make you laugh and that bring you joy or pleasant emotions. Smells, comedy movies, uplifting music. Get rid of anything which threatens a resurgence of sadness or pain. Entirely get rid of it. Look for what kind of endeavor brings you joy, and see if you can make a hobby or even a career out of it. Gold has sometimes been found by people just trying to escape their sadness and depression. And I know what it's like to feel ugly.....although it's the sadness and depression talking....both sadness and depression are ugly to experience, but you yourself are not. I promise. You have a tender heart and soul, and yes I do know that because look how deeply you feel things, and how accurately you describe the above situations with your family et al. In truth, our ability to so deeply feel is a strength above and beyond the callous nature of the average person. There is something tremendously precious in that, and it could be moved into a source of strength for countless other souls. It's there, and it's waiting for you to discover it, I promise.

[@miriamlang4373]

Adrielle B it's a bit scary and sad for me how hard that hit home, it's as if you've looked at my life through my eyes and wrote that, I'm so sorry you have to deal with stuff like that and I'd give you advice if I could but I don't have any clue how to fix this feeling Im sorry for the out of place sad comment I just felt the need to respond idk

[@cristianpredescu7557]

davidsirmons ya I tried thinking the same way but when I find something do do like watch video/music/movies I get the feeling that there is other shit that I have to do as well but can't get to do it because I feel empty and its like there is no will left in me to do that (never ending cycle for some time). And yes that was a personal experience of mine still have it but I've seen an improvement lately so I hope I keep improving in the future.

[@DiabolusCiel]

It reaaaaally sucks when your own family thinks all together that your depression is just laziness. Not to mention, you are just an actor when you start crying actor they called you out harshly.

[@timatou343]

Yeon Ikr! My own mom keeps saying that I'm just faking it! Like what do I have to gain from that!it's really painful when your own family doesn't trust you

[@zeinam1027]

normie b

[@kimberlysamaroo9413]

My life ... Everyday ...

[@memo-6842]

My family thinks it is just laziness even though my phycologist says I do, they always tell me to getting my butt up and clean when I sleep. I think,"if you think I'm lazy then I will show you lazy".

[@avocado3-in-182]

Yeon same, my family thinks I’m lazy to do something like doing chores, homework, going outside etc. Actually, I just feel overwhelmed by these kinds of tasks whatsoever. Also, people think I’m a lazy ass and a complainer. I’m sorry but depression holds me down every time I do something.

[@fatherpeggy]

My friend has depression, and I've been trying to help. I've never known what to do exactly, but whatever I have done has helped her. It was the end of the year recently, and I asked her to sign my yearbook. She wrote, "Thank you for being there when no one else was. You actually cared." I almost cried when I read that, I'm so happy I was able to help her. I always thought I was doing more harm than not, so I'm so glad I met her and helped. She's going into High School, so I won't be seeing her nearly as often, but I hope she will make great friends and memories!

[@yourbootyholeisyourbeautyhole]

The_Newbie_Otaku you're a wonderful friend!

[@by3olY3ol]

Good job! You're a really good friend. She's lucky to have you as her friend. You're one of a kind. I really hope i can meet someone like you in real life lol

[@memo-6842]

:)

[@oliviadrinkwine1411]

yes you are being there when no one else was. That is what a true friend should do. great job :)

[@paolafalcon7002]

EXO-L Spread EXO love don't do it, the world needs you. I know I don't know you but I do know that the world needs you because we are all here for a reason. Find your light to hold on 2 and don't let it go. suicide is not the solution. there is always a way out. If you ever need to talk to someone I'm here for you💓💓💓💓💖💖💖💖💖💗💗💗💗💗

[@Psych2go]

Do you agree with these?

[@Snow-sx5ev]

Psych2Go nice video!

[@johnnydinh1879]

Psych2Go I can't relate but it seems right

[@d0ttore]

Psych2Go completely!

[@zyannesimm2667]

Psych2Go I can relate, I wish my friends understood these other than trying to make me do things they'll think get rid of it. Thanks for making this vid! : )

[@CarlosMoreno-wg8qb]

Psych2Go+ Yup, i can relate to many of these ^^' Great video btw :D

[@anonymousdratini]

Sometimes my depression manifests as anger and frustration, it is not directed at you, and I'm not mad at you, I just don't know how else to express myself without screaming and crying in frustration.

[@Andy_Enderson]

anonymousdratini I've done that too damn much myself...

[@memefactor6189]

anonymousdratini Well you dead yet?

[@shoanacharles5158]

Yup

[@Janicesaheed]

Me too!! I get so hard on myself if I end up hurting my sister, and say sorry, because I know even though I deal with depression, my actions are my responsibility.

[@arbrilliant191]

Me too

[@islam.6583]

The painful irony of this is my "friends" never ask me about it, r there for me, help me get through it, or anything. After I told some people they never bothered texting or staying in contact they just kept going about like it was no big deal.

[@Psych2go]

yeah, sometimes other people don't know how to deal with it so they shy away.

[@islam.6583]

Psych2Go Yeah something like that. I have this feeling it's more of a bother to them. They would rather pretend it's not there because they don't want to deal with it. So they do nothing.

[@greenguy2372]

I hate this kind of people. Especially when they were once your "best friends" but after you've opened up about your depression they simply let you drown because they are either to lazy to help/understand, to dumb to help/understand or are just cowards and shy away.

[@islam.6583]

Green Guy [AMVs and More] Yeah its painful and makes everything a lot harder

[@Psych2go]

Yeah, it's quite painful. Sometimes, the people we hope to understand best about us, our only hope, ends up making us feel worse. But I guess, they have their reasons too. Sometimes, they just don't know how to deal with it.

[@shadyguywithshadeswhosells7786]

Another thing: Depression is NOT a choice My mom said to me when I tried to tell her about my depression "Depression is a choice, okay? Don't choose to be depressed and be happy." I wanted to slap her right then and there, because Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, and saying "It's a choice" basically translates to: I don't believe you, and you need to get over yourself and snap out of it. Anyone with actual depression knows that we never wanted to have depression, and those who smile the brightest usually hurt the most.

[@rabbitthatspeaksdeath]

Ender's Trashcan "The most happy are the most broken" a quote i made to myself....

[@kimberlysamaroo9413]

We just don't wanna hurt , but everything hurts

[@Dice-Z]

Max Robert This is stupid. You don't just rank illnesses. And depression is an extremely serious issue that leads to suicide. It can't be treated easily, as it differs from one individual to another. Besides, depression is often a consequence that all the people with the aforementioned illnesses are likely to suffer from. It's not mutually exclusive. So yes, you'll see a lot of depressed people in mental hospitals. Please refrain from armchair psychology, and misinformations, it doesn't help anyone.

[@connierasmussen3491]

My mom always tells me to be happy, stop being lazy, stop being selfish... She's never been there emotionally for me. I just wish someone was. Then maybe I wouldn't want to die..

[@calyco2381]

Connie Rasmussen me too. That is why i've stopped love & trust her. For me now she just a stranger that happened gave birth of me & raise me.

[@WilfredCthulu]

Pretty accurate for me. As someone who was an outsider and disregarded and misunderstood for a long time, I am so glad that you guys make these cute and educational videos that help people understand other people. Acceptance is the ultimate treatment for personality/emotional issues if you ask me.

[@Psych2go]

Hey Wilfred, thanks for those kind words and glad that these videos are valuable in some ways. Acceptance and acknowledgement of a problem is definitely the first step.

[@jamesdemetro6176]

Psych2Go I have chronic depression, there's no cure,there's medication, but if there is medication, I'll just take them all an overdose,I'm 45 years old, an lived my whole life in fear,and with anxiety ...depression hit me at age 10..my uncle then grandfather died ,after that I was diagnosed with chronic depression, I never got married, never had kids,and couldn't hold a job ,just couldn't deal with people without fear,or crying ,I sometimes feel like I'm normal, but then it hits me out of know where, I cannot control it, Help me,someone, anyone, I cannot live this way

[@markedinmakeup5335]

James Demetro Are you seeing a specialist? Or do you have a family member close to you that you can talk to?

[@MrRightobobo]

Thank you so damn much! people who don't have it really don't get it.

[@Psych2go]

Mhm. Hope this helps!

[@paolafalcon7002]

Riese Marshall I'm here for you mu sweet bean. 💜💜 you are stronger than you think

[@paolafalcon7002]

Robert Harrison maybe not but we sure do anything in our power to help because every soul in this planet means so much💗

[@badfang312]

ikr, i hope people watch this and finally understand people who have depression, like me and maybe you

[@HolyDiscoPotato]

Yeah. Doesn't it suck when ppl who don't understand act like they know what you're going through?

[@xoItsMariangelxo]

I've struggle with depression for about 5 years and my closest friend made me feel like I was overreacting, he never made me feel like what I felt/feel was/is validated. I once exploded with many emotions, I was an emotional wreck and all he said was that I was being a brat and since that day I no longer want to talk to him, despite him being the only person I trusted and the only I want and need to talk to when I'm feeling down. I'm more lonely than ever 😞

[@dinisnascimento4929]

speaking from experience of being in your friend place i dont know how to deal with people like you for years that i tried to help people like you some with sucess some tryied to kill themselves and can only tell you that if he is your closest friend as you say he cares about you and if something bad hapens to you becouse of that decision he will forever live with the knolege and guilt that he could have helped you he just becouse he doesnt get it that doesnt mean he doesnt care

[@taylorb.3014]

You aren't alone.

[@stephaniemitchell8509]

Something that depressed people often overlook is the fact that their interests tend to center around their own feelings and needs (through no fault of their own, the disease itself turns everything inward), while simultaneously neglecting the feelings and needs of those around them. 5 years is a very long time to deal with being a supportive friend to a depressed person while not receiving much support in return, and there is a point where emotional exhaustion and exasperation sets in for even the most mentally and emotionally stable friends.

[@france_films]

How you doing now?

[@gracedyer3175]

Thank you, I want people to understand what I feel

[@Psych2go]

You're welcome! Hope this video helps!

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3163]

Krazyg 55 They never will sweetie. Unless they too suffer from depression ❤. God knows how you feel. He cares and loves you. He will never leave you nor forsake you☺.

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3163]

Krazyg 55 people that suffer from depression are usually highly intellectual and creative. You are special!😊

[@samh3396]

John 3:16 III% Not to be rude, but to me it seems like you're invalidating how bad depression is by saying that someone who has it is 'special'. I know that you didn't mean it like that, but please think about what you're saying and its underlying meanings before saying it. Thanks.

[@Celatra]

John 3:16 III% Say god once more and I'll debunk the shit outta your childish beliefs. done that to 1000 others, will do the same for you. if you can't live without god, then you're nothing but a slave for a being that has no evidence for its existence

[@mariambam8497]

Life asked Death: "Why do people love me, but hate you?" Death responded: "Because you're a beautiful lie and I am a painful truth."

[@puzzlepizza9992]

Wow...That hits hard

[@queen_mandy5531]

😧

[@imaginewolf4674]

Finally, somebody got it right including that excercise part!

[@b.ashley9222]

Kennedy Sparks For some reason people think that the word "helps" is the same as the word "cures", especially when it comes to mental illness. The enorphins might make things better, and it might reduce the symptoms, but if people could just exercise away their depression there would be a lot more people that are really into exercise. Sometimes the only the you can do is bear with it, and people don't get that.

[@imaginewolf4674]

true. i know how that feels, i feel like nobody understands it

[@jammer523691aj]

BUT Y'KNOW EXERCISE CURES EVERYTHINGGGGGG...... i dont exercise

[@imaginewolf4674]

know it does, i tried and i hate it

[@yourbootyholeisyourbeautyhole]

SenoritaPotatoes exercise releases endorphins that tend to make people happy, which is why it's common advice

[@mercurioempeixes]

that was beautiful, i didnt wanted to feel this way, really... SERIOUS. depression makes me feel so stupid, and tired. im tired all the time. but i know im getting better, you guys help me so much.

[@Psych2go]

You're welcome! Best of luck! Depression should not make you feel less than who you already are.

[@mercurioempeixes]

i agree with you

[@apieceofotakutrash5598]

**hugs**

[@mercurioempeixes]

its sucks i know but im trying my fucking hard

[@mercurioempeixes]

thank you sooo much

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3163]

You are CORRECT you always feel misunderstood. I have since I was a child.

[@jeanniedeleon6788]

I have a beautiful daughter. She 15 yes. She fight depression since she was seven. Life for her is very hard. life for me is hard. All she wants to do is sleep. I go walk by my self. I do all the cleaning around the house. I taking her to counseling for many years I don't see it make a difference. she sees a psychiatrist every month but all they do is give her medications. It's so hard and sad.

[@spookywitch0x0]

Jeannie Deleon the medications that psychiatrist gives has very harmful effects on the health, I took them for many yeats, it ruined my heart and other organs. I suggest trying natural herbal medicine, it has no side effects because it's not a medical drug that made by chemicals at laboratories. You can buy it at the pharmacy, without any prescription, it has no side effects or addiction.

[@Killer553]

@@jeanniedeleon6788 2 years late i guess. But you should never take medications. No matter what it is,that shit will never solve the problem. You might aswell give the person a bottle of bourbon,that at least has granted effects.

[@akhamlichmayssane4284]

Could you do a video on siblings abuse please ? Your videos are amazing

[@Psych2go]

Certainly. Thanks! :)

[@marthaz7302]

GRANT Lehana LMAO MY SIS TO ME

[@marianabruin8092]

My mom has depression and cries allloooooooot so it started getting hard on me to One day I started freaking out and just burst out in tears (which I don't usually do) I explained why 3 girls ("popular ") said " just tell her how it makes her feel and she will stop being sad" I explained it's not that simple and then they told me to tell my mom to walk it of and walked away I don't care if my mom cries or anything but she is my mom and I will always love her no matter what ❤️

[@MinerKitten]

screw those girls then

[@memo-6842]

This will now make my friends understand what I am going through.

[@Psych2go]

Glad so!

[@narendrakumarsingh3466]

sorry to say but they will never understand your pain

[@memo-6842]

Narendra Singh I guess...

[@memo-6842]

Narendra Singh but I think they should be more sympathetic to me now.

[@kaytea5958]

Memo • so because you're dealing with depression they should give you sympathy all the time geez.. Also even when explained psychologically no one can understand another not even "soulmates" if you believe in that bs because everyone's mind is different.

[@corrosionkitty]

You just put all I ever needed, yet I couldn't put into words in a simple video.

[@Psych2go]

We're happy to hear!

[@Digitalemke]

I have depression, and out of my 5 friends or so, only 1 cared to ask and be nice about it.

[@dinisnascimento4929]

some people cant read people very well that might be it i am sure they care about you mate

[@missblurryeyes]

OddArtist Animations At least you have One ;)

[@mallory213]

OddArtist Animations The same with me. Thats why I cut the jerks out of my life completely and now I talk to the people who care so much they worry.

[@memo-6842]

Same, my one true friend is always there for me when I need to vent, because she understands me, she too has depression. I feel like my other friends don't even care or forgot.

[@mallory213]

The Memo It's good you have friends to relate too and vent to. I lost all my friends in the past month and now I have only like 2 friends. Only one of them I can talk to and only 1 cared when I told her I was self-harming. Its funny how the comment sections on yt are so relatable and where everyone vents their problems. :P

[@allielkins7870]

Depression sucks, and I wish I was able to tell my friends and family that when I say "Leave me alone" that it's my depression talking and all I really want is for them to sit by me and comfort me.

[@OceanIgs]

Yes I agree but what sucks even more is that we don't even understand ourselves to express our needs. Like you said, I tell them to leave me alone when I really meant I want to talk about my feelings yet I don't want to be a burden to anyone so I don't want to talk about it...

[@anaiyam3597]

Number 7 is most true for me. I’m always feeling like a burden, just by hanging out or talking to people, including my best friend. I vented to her and she told me I was becoming a burden to her with all my problems. So I stopped telling others how I feel and just keep it inside in public. Mom and Dad, I didn’t come in the living room, not because I didn’t want to see you, but I didn’t want you to see my tears.

[@bittersweetlily5593]

it's really sad. the guy i liked said that my depression was invalid bc "i'm not dying and i don't have a disability"

[@b.ashley9222]

TheCoolest Lills That guy is not worth bothering with (I know that doesn't help initially when it's someone you like or care about, but I hope it helps in the long run). You'll find people who have empathy and understanding. I hope you know that your feelings and your illness are valid. Depression comes from the brain, and just because people can't see the problem doesn't mean it's not there.

[@bittersweetlily5593]

Aiden Knight thank you

[@dinisnascimento4929]

ha dang it me trying to say posite stuf in the comment to the bigest amount of people in the comments i possible can but some one beat me to the punch curses

[@mereSwamp]

This is tricky to explain to others. I prefer to look at it this way : Depression isn't a choice but the choice is how to respond to depression. It's often difficult to change how we feel but with the choices we make about how we will view the world around us and what we value in ourselves, others, and things around us. Having a positive attitude helps combat depression but it's important to remember that a positive attitude in itself doesn't just make depression go away. It doesn't make you just "snap out of it"

[@SaRah-vr2mn]

It's extremely hurtful when you point out to your closest friend that you're done with life and that you want to end it.... And then there is silence. Not a text back, not a call, NOTHING AT ALL. Fine, ignore me, push me to the edge. 😭

[@nancy9324]

i want people to know that a depressed people need professional help, and i mean a doctor, or psycolog, not a priest or some kind of religious people. it's not that we don't care, we just too tired to explain everything because you don't understand it. you'll just jump into conclusion that we're too lazy, a black hole in the family, bring shame to you all, too crazy to understand, or even possesed by evil

[@nancy9324]

and when we put our happy mask, you'll tell us to stop pretend to be sad. and mock us

[@timatou343]

Thank you! I am actually struggling with this issue.😳 Where I live people don't really consider your emotional state.If you start acting "strange" especially if you're a student you must be possessed by some devil that doesn't want you to succeed in life.No matter how much I say that it false, explain and cry , my parents insist that I need to go see some priest or whatever. I personally hate them because of what happened to my sister who seems to have psychotic depression.SHE WAS FORCED into all their bullsh*t for years and now she won't even talk.we both went to different psychiatrics and they both said that we needed those people. What do I do when even a medical professional who diagnosed me with depression and social anxiety says that I need to be treated by some guy who pours odd water over my head? My parents are delighted while I fall into a pit of despair. I'm very excited that someone brought up this topic 😊 it makes me feel less alone to know that there's somebody that understands , your comment made my day(but if you're living this situation right now I sincerely wish you the best❤️)

[@pfair774]

every religious person such as a priest or pastor has just referred me to a mental hospital or psychiatrists anyway so u right about that, even tho I've been there done that multiple times and they were the last resort. but you're right about that, besides those types are extremely judgemental anyway regarding mental illness. They dont even really know God anyway and just mislead people with a book of fairytales

[@iexistasaconstruct]

nancy It's even worse in Japan. Over there they think depression is just a passing phase, and that it shouldn't be taken seriously. I don't think there's a lot of psychologists either

[@queenybing8969]

Thank you so much for making this. I am going through depression and I often feel no one understands what I am going through

[@Olivia-gm2fk]

I hate when people assume that just because I laugh means I am perfectly fine. Sometimes laughing can take some of the weight off your chest so you can breathe. Or when people assume I don't have depression because I don't talk about it. I don't want the attention and I especially don't want to burden someone I love by complaining about something that can't be fixed, because when you have depression and you're around someone negative, all it does is make you feel worse, since most of the time no one ever notices that you're struggling so much in the first place.

[@gaiaorigin9569]

This is so on point. Pretty much sums up everything my mother told me: It's just a mood, get over it, you have no reason for it, just eat healthy and do sports... All these things are not helpful and only make you feel guilty

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3163]

People that suffer from depression also suffer from anxiety we are creative, artistic and over thinkers.

[@claudiag.9307]

John 3:16 III% not everyone

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3163]

Hitomi Iwahana you are correct. people can display different symptoms.

[@shimun7953]

John 3:16 III% i sadly suffer from depression and social anxiety and i am noy creative or artistic i never have been......am i an over thinker? Hell yeah i am.....

[@b-1350]

Me...

[@theepicballoffur7243]

No. We are just depressed and anxious, period.

[@Fupicat]

I don't have depression, but I watch all your videos about it so I can help or understand my friends who are going through it.

[@coldv3nom797]

Need more people like you in this world, I hope you haven’t changed. I try my best to be an amazing friend but I would kill for a friend like you in my own life. Stay safe bud

in 3:23 you have resume three years of my life, and millions of inconclusal words. Thank you very much Psych2Go!

[@thevoidismyhome7242]

Same for me. I've had depression for 3 years of my life too...and it sucks.

[@artiemauve7025]

Thank you for the video! My best friend of all time is clinically depressed. She has explained what depression is like: "It's like waking up in the morning, feeling fine, then getting hit by a truck." (This is for her, at least). She has constantly expressed that she is so grateful that I take time out of my day to listen to her, that it's all that I need to do for her. It just really doesn't feel like I'm doing enough, because she is like my sister and I want to be there for her 24/7, because she means the world to me. She has done self-harm in the past (which absolutely destroys me when she admits she did it or I see her scars) and she has told me MANY times I've "saved" her from hurting herself. But... why does it still not feel like enough? I don't want to smother her either, because I know she DOES in fact need some alone time every so often. But that's where I'm lost; I can't accept that I'm doing all I can, because I simply want to do more for her. If anyone could answer this, you would make my day. Also, again, thank you for the video!

[@trevorfiandaco2348]

You guys are so accurate, keep going you guys are great.

[@thedrunkenrebel]

"Leave him be, don't bother, he only grasps for attention" - my dad daily, when i was down and my mother tried to make me speak about why i`m feeling destroyed

[@shvetasnt]

I wish it was easy for people to understand. Half the battle wouldve been won. It's disheartening to see your loved ones making an effort and in a wrong direction. U do feel you are being a pile on and you end up saying go away when all you want is a warm tight hug. I also feel caged to my insecurities..In a lonely space and that makes me go breathless.

[@darkphilosopher8726]

I really love how well thought out and well spoken your videos are.

[@toolazy4names302]

here's some of the things i've been noticing with my depression: it feels like everyone is just WASTING their energy on me for the sake of god knows wat! why even bother doing these things for me? love, more like burden CREATOR! point in being, this is just wat i feel with my depression.

[@nessa_vidz.]

I'm 13 and I've been having depression since I was 11. Just recently did my family notice because my sister had anxiety and was going to a therapist and it made her feel better so I told her how I feel. She took me to her therapist and she diagnosed me. I'm now visiting her quite frequently but I don't feel like it's helping me. It's not her, it's just that I don't want to do the things she tells me to do. I don't want to go back but I don't want to tell anyone because they think this will "cure" me and if I tell them no, they're just gonna think that I don't want to get out and like being depressed. I don't want people poking at it and giving me solutions. I'd rather they just ignore I have it and talk with me about nice things.

[@chavseni6469]

if you need help go talk to your Friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..

[@monochromesoul5873]

This video is very helpful and it's gonna make it easier for me to explain to my friends.

[@Psych2go]

Glad so!

[@mentalhealthdiaries3494]

I'm quite grateful that my brother has been there for me. He does #9 quite well. Just listens, doesn't try to fix me. He may have when I first opened up about it, but he respects that I'm trying and knows throwing out hairbrained ideas don't help at all. Even when I tell him I don't want to be alive anymore, he just listens and doesn't try to change me. Which is the best thing I could ask for.

[@oliviahartman854]

what i wish my dad would understand would be that i cry more often than i should. i cant help it. im 12 and it seems he just thinks im a baby

[@jvelin9723]

Just bitchslap the fuck out of him and say its a disorder. Im gonna do it

[@selenaho4652]

This was practically perfect! I feel less alone now and this video really helped explain to my dad what I felt, thank you so much!!

[@panicat-the-middle-school-6257]

I literally have depression yet have no idea what to do to help my best friend who is also going through it

[@quit2434]

I'm pretty sure my girlfriend has depression and I was always confused about why she seemed so different out of nowhere and why she always said she ok but seemed so sad. I would always try to help her and try to fix her problem but I didn't realize how much I was probably hurting her in the process. Thank you so much for this video it really helps me understand more about why she's feeling this way and what I can do and tell her to let her know I'm always here for her if she needs me.

[@lauragadille3384]

I hate it when people tell me to get over it or your faking it. Really?

[@stephaniemorrell1276]

Laura Gadille Me too! I tried to open up to someone the other day and they thought I was joking about being depressed. How is that suppose to help anything😪 I don't think people understand unless they've actually been through it themselves which is so annoying

[@lauragadille3384]

S M that's why I don't tell anyone anymore

[@stephaniemorrell1276]

Laura Gadille yup same here, and everyone is just so oblivious to it all

[@monaliyoongi2860]

i used to be like that xDD until i've been depressed now i know how it feels Laura don't worry you will find many people that understand how you feel

[@sheebitz]

I'm so glad you made this video. More people need to understand what many of us go through

[@marcop.2606]

This quote helped me: "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." Well, it might be only working for me. But I think depression is the absence of wonder, of mystery, of motivation.

[@Mr.Axolotl347]

Thank you fof your nuanced take on the situation. People often tend to generalize things they don't understand based upon their personal bias.

[@Kinda_Fruity_NGL]

This bloody comment section makes me so, so happy because there’s people who actually understand...

[@AuntBeeDoesLife]

I agree with these and also wanna add. That it takes everything out of us to reach out, and we are sorry to choose you as the one we call on in these times of need. Postponing a mental breakdown is hard on us. Timing could be bad but its how we feel in that moment. So sorry.

[@princesszia5]

can you make signs of depression video??

[@A_Smurf]

Princess Zia they allredy dud

[@princesszia5]

A_ Smurf Aw fuk really??I feel stupid

[@Psych2go]

For sure! :)

[@andreaspatsalides1914]

Princess Zia and I feel depressed

[@princesszia5]

Psych2Go omg I'm glad that you actually said that, still depressed but I'm smiling!

[@d0ttore]

How coincidental, that this video was uploaded right after I relapsed....

[@septemberwilson9989]

THANK YOU 😁😁 We all needed this

[@dinisnascimento4929]

i didnt take that haha dinis wins another pointless argument he started for some reason again this was a realy dumb thing to say but i have no argument about this well good luck with every thing

[@Schulz628]

Once I talk with my "friend" About my depression and she LITERALLY said "Yuli sorry but and are talking to much, don't hate me about that but I didn't listen to anything you said". That thing broke me.

[@Nokoris]

Thank you for this Video. I really like the Videos you make, they help and are interesting.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! Glad they help.

[@878sabog]

"it's not your fault" waterfall of tears

[@meghantucker452]

I wish that sometimes people just understand that I just need time to myself sometimes, I don't need people around me all the time to feel happy sometimes being alone and just figuring things out is better

[@timothyday5187]

That’s why if I am truly truly truly desperate, I would talk to a friend. They end up feeling useless cuz they think they can’t provide me a solution but the truth is, I don’t need any. Someone being there who gives a shit is all the solution I need. No going to gym, no go on diet, no find a hobby, no go out make friends or anything. Not to mention, I’m afraid to talking about it with any of my friends no matter how much I trust them because they will end up seeing me as a depressing, negative and dramatic person to be around and would tell others to stay away from me. I have had a few friends whom I thought I trusted enough to speak about it but then they just end up feeling scared and think I’m an exaggerating drama queen and eventually stayed away. So now I learn to deal with it on my own and would person talk to someone who I know will never judge me (but not frequent though). People need to also understand that depressed people are not toxic, wicked people conspiring to drain your energy and make your life miserable. We are all genuinely nice human beings with individual characteristic traits to offer. If you give us a chance, we will express that values of ours. If you then accept us and encourage us, we would be happier and love ourselves better. Also, we are suffering depression doesn’t mean every single moment hanging out with you are just me rambling about my thing, sometimes we don’t even fake smile. Sometimes being with you really do make us happy, we would do any damn thing to keep it that way. Plus, when we most equivocally are not attention seekers, we don’t want the whole world to know or even to care, just someone we can lean on. Oh and, you’re not an object we use to throw our problems at, we appreciate you being there, we care about you and your problems too. We can share that loneliness and help each other. A depressed person is someone who is EMOTIONALLY dumped and are alone in the world and want so badly to have someone by their side, so when there is someone by their side, they would love and appreciate that so much. We’re not degenerate people who see others as a punching bag. One last thing I always wished that I could say, you can’t make someone love themselves more by giving them more reasons to hate themselves and you don’t throw someone into a lonely pit and expect them to not be lonely, if they get out of that pit all by themselves then that means they are freaking brave and broken. It’s so much easier to give someone a hand, to love, to listen, to swallow your pride and understand and accept others. For all we know, you could be the reason why we learn to love ourselves when we already have had talents, kindness, wits,... sometimes all we need is someone who realizes and validate those worths for us, we can perhaps do it ourselves but it is more painful and long. It’s so much easier in the world if we just love more, Lord knows that love can save lives. I know exactly how painful depression is, I just want to say that, no one on earth deserves to feel this way. And even to the people who don’t understand us, I would do anything in my power to make sure you will never have to go through the same pain we had/have to. Rant over. Thanks anyone who has read to this !

[@isabelacastaneda3142]

Could you do a video on not being able to tell your parents your depressed?

[@hallu.2500.6]

saaaaaaaame

[@memo-6842]

Same, I have a lot of symptoms of depression, though I am too scared to tell my parents.

[@solumlupus9018]

Sometimes it's better if they don't know about it. My mother now says that I'm just seeking attention, that I'm never satisfied, that I don't like my parents... She even forbidded me from going to the psychiatrist because she doesn't want to go there and speak about it. She told me to wait till I'm 18y old, so she doesn't have to do anything about it. So now I'm waiting, just 3 more months before I can seek a help if it hits me again. Maybe you have better bonds in your family, if so go for it, I'm just saying that telling your parents about it doesn't help everytime.

[@katherinerawls4771]

Stay strong, I hope the psychiatrist helps you.

[@turkeykorvid]

My parents keep nagging at me to tell my feelings but when I do they make these assumptions that make me feel worse.

[@GinaGodfrey]

That if I were to share this video on my social media it's not a personal dig at my friends. Bottom line for me is I just want some empathy and gentle kindness, not judgement, shame, guilt and being told I need to think about how I affect others - I don't choose depression! I am trying so hard and you don't think I am 😢

[@memsus2346]

Idk if what I have is depression or just sadness or whatever. I just feel like I am slowly drifting away from life. I struggle to stay motivated, put on smiles and I can’t look my girlfriend in the eye when I say I love her because I don’t know if “I” can even identify as myself any more. It just feels like my life is on autopilot while my conscious mind is just mostly asleep. Sometimes I feel like I wake up, I suddenly notice where I am and the autopilot goes out the window and then I just can’t bring myself to do something as simple as take a step or type a sentence. Tldr, I feel like I’m living out of the moment, from a 3rd person perspective and the observer is asleep. Any one else the same? Or know what this is?

[@insertname8187]

I think that's depression.

[@Andrea-mc6tv]

I like the voiceover now much more than 2 years ago. The voiceover now is just that much sensible and compassionate

[@Jem_80s]

Depressed notification squad where ya at?!

[@annamarie7461]

TheMangamaniac666 boi, I'm here!!! XD

[@DeadpoolXI1]

TheMangamaniac666 Sadly Here! D:

[@unicorngirl237]

TheMangamaniac666 "Depressed notification" really? that's not cool man

[@andreaspatsalides1914]

sorry for being late, I was watching another video

[@septemberwilson9989]

unicorn girl No, they meant we are a depressed, notification squad. We are depressed and part of the squad

[@itsvollx9684]

Psychology helped me a lot, I learn about my own emotions and why I feel what I feel

[@danielh3719]

Suicidal thoughts run through my mind constantly, eventually I’m going to end my life on my terms.

[@CosmoniYT]

This is what I need to show my friends I've told my close friends since the beginning, except for my best friend because I knew she'd tell an adult. I decided to tell her as long as she promised not to tell. A couple days ago she told me she would tell her mom. The thing is, if she does. Or did. It won't help. When she told me she'd tell, my stomach turned and I started a migraine. I almost threw up because I felt so anxious. I didn't want to burden anybody with my problems. I didn't want to make it seem like I was overreacting. I will send her this video because I need her to understand.

[@MinYoongi-rh2qd]

When I’m happy: Stop laughing it’s weird When I’m sad: Crybaby When I’m excited: Stop your annoying me When I made a mistake: YOU CANT DO ANYTHING RIGHT when I’m trying to make others happy: (they don’t appreciate it) When I’m angry: YOUR TOO DRAMATIC When I say my achievements: Stop bragging nobody asked When I show my best: (Doesn’t notice it) When I’m quiet: Why are you always quiet there’s nothing to be shy about Me: I’m not shy I just don’t want to show my feelings or expression because I know people will just look at the bad side of it and will use it against me and just judge me

[@purokuha5364]

This is the best video on this topic that I have ever seen, and every single one of these things is true!

[@imaginland1596]

when i tell people that i have manny disorders they are concerned, worried or just don't care. when i tell them the i have bin to an asylum three times... they become scared of me or they torment me. they tell me to just stap out of your disorders, to just fix yourself, but they don't understand that you can't do that! so thank you psych2go for helping people to understand these things.

[@Psych2go]

Glad this video helped. =)

[@imaginland1596]

max; an asylum is a mental institution, a place people go when the things that are wrong with them make them daggers to them self or others.

[@fishboysss]

One of my best friends is suffering from depression and this video helped me a lot. Thanks for that...

[@devilkitten1927]

Hmm, something I wish they would all know? I don't need fixing, what I need is support, encouragement to solve my problems. Without it, I don't even want to try...

[@devilkitten1927]

I have support, but im speaking for those who are like me. :)

[@RoseAuflick]

This video is so awesome that I shared it on my business and profile pages on Facebook! I like how easy this video is to understand.

[@squirmtastic]

Another thing: over simplification or the lack of caring. Like for example: "Dad/mom/guardian, I had depression and I'd like to talk to you." "Oh, depression? you've just been feeling sad. okay."

[@brady7089]

i agree with these, another thing is. some people like to yell/raise their voice to make someone feel better. this makes us feel even more worthless.

[@TeaAndCroissants]

7 definitely. 8, 9, and 11 too. All of them really, but these are my favourites.

[@jtosety]

I'd like to add: reassurance is something that needs to be initiated by the friend. If we ask about it, depression will insist you're just being polite and are, in fact, annoyed by us or worse offering to help is nice, but as stated, specific offers are much better. not only may we not know what we need, but, again, depression will often tell us 'don't ask for that, they really don't want to be bothered with you'

[@ughrowie]

This video is accurate. Thank you for this

[@fullelement4886]

These are all very accurate... reminds me of my highschool time where I was so depressed I'd sleep my entire weekend and then go to school, ditch out, and sleep in the gazebo at school just because I wanted it all to be over as soon as possible. What's weird is I'm not sure if I'm totally cured, but for some reason one day it was just... not as bad. Happened right after I got left by my GF at the time, suddenly I was able to turn the pain from that into motivation, lost a bunch of weight, got a decent job, got a car, started taking care of myself, its like I just hit ultimate rock bottom, and since I wouldn't give up on life, it had no choice but to bounce back up. I'm not sure. What I am sure about is that it has also become MUCH harder to feel any real emotions, not just the depression. A worthy trade though.

[@Digitalemke]

This has never happened to me, but what about parent abuse and it's effects?

[@amber_octopus4389]

The other day my dad called me useless and although he apologised afterwards and I know he probably didn't mean it, it really struck home and hurt so much. I don't think they're at all aware of my mental health situation right now and I really wish I was brave enough to just tell them that I need help, but I just can't bring myself to do it.

[@aegleloa8081]

I hate the fact that everybody thinks that im fine even when im not like i have to say to them that im not fine so they could help me or ask how ?? Its just hard to explain . I dont want u to ask me if im okay just when i say im not if you want to help me or u are my real friend u would know.. I eat too much, sleep too much, i want somebody to care but in same time i want to be lonely... And when they see me eat too much they just say how can u eat that much and never grow taller or how youre not fat? But even when i told them one said that she understands me that she is SAD too???? Its not the same i wish it was easy as being sad but its not. And same thing when said i have anxiety . Other said but u are not depressed . When I asked her why u think that she said u dont look like that. U DONT UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH IM TRYING TO HIDE THAT. In these past few months i started telling them about my problem but i stopped. Becouse I realized that they dont understand me and never will. And to be honest I dont want them to understand me I just want them to say that they dont and stop saying they do . I cant take it anymore .😒😞

[@Azmina_the_warlock]

Worst thing for me is feeling this way and knowing other people have worse lives than me. I know I'm very privileged, and I'm very grateful, but I can't always find joy. And that sucks. I feel like I should be able to "get over it" i try, sometimes i can feel better by trying harder, but sometimes i cant. And i don't want to reach out every time, how draining that must be on my other people. Yes, I don't want to be a burden. It makes my whole day when someone says, hey this made me think of you, and its some picture or video... I dont think people even realize how much it means to me

[@Azmina_the_warlock]

Sorry for that ramble, I'm usually much more coherent in my posts, but I'm tired. :D

[@camillecardoze5501]

also, we are not "lazy", we just can't find any motivation or energy to do things. And because I smile or laugh once in a while doesn't mean I'm "cured".

[@mirainaito6725]

Thank you, now I know how to better understand my partner whenever he feels depressed. It never hurts to learn more and i love how your videos always brings even more insight about many things ^^

[@eblake3617]

Could you guys do videos on Borderline and/or gaslighting? Thanks

[@linlelin4667]

A lot of people always say "youre not alone" and while that helps most personly it makes me feel as if everyones struggling with deppression but just manage to get over it so it makes me feel as if I'm not normal for not being able to just ignore it

[@franciscohernandez9572]

Where do you take all this information?

[@Psych2go]

It's from an article our writer, Kayleigh put together by asking people: www.psych2go.net/11-people-depression-like-family-friends-understand/

[@theboop7993]

Finally people SOMEONE understands And, i look when she says we. It makes me feel better to know that other people struggle with this

[@riley1333]

So my story: I went to play downstairs today and like every one of my "friends" were there and we were playing badminton( I'm pretty bad but everyone was just as bad as me and I said sorry for all my mistakes ) and everyone played like 7 to 8 matches and I only got to play 3 I came at the correct time and only my bff stood up for me but not tht much(so I'm pretty young I'm 11 , and this might seem like a weird story to u but they do this to me every other day and my parents dont even care and then in school I'm fat shamed even tho I'm not fat I'm now anorexic and everyone bullies me) so I came home crying cuz I was obviously really hurt tht no one likes me then when I reached home I was sobbing and then my mum opened the door she was in her night clothes so she called my sister to tell them to let me play as well but my sis didnt wanna a and my parents didn't wanna either thts wht hurt me the most tht they dont care I want someone to love me just 1 person :(

[@breiffnihogan4136]

Many thanks for this info video. Yes, all the wisdom and advice are correct. When I talk to people about my illness, I do so in 'layman's' terms. This means I relax when speaking about it and use terminology that is common lingo, so as to diminish any negative understanding on their part. Anything that puts the listener at ease boosts understanding and appreciation of what the sufferer is going through.

[@Inhalepens]

Can you please make more videos off social anxiety

[@Psych2go]

Yeah, we can do so. We haven't done one in a while on that topic. What about social anxiety would you like a video on? The psychology of it or solutions?

[@Fizzybow]

awww . . . I love the "let's go for a walk part" or "can I get u some tea?" its the little things

[@icantthinkofanamesothisisi7814]

when I'm at school teachers ask if I'm okay I just say yes but I'm too scared to say no cause if I do I have to say what's on my mind and its hard for me to open up I mean really hard too I can't

[@soldiermega5937]

Sometimes when you say " I'm okay " but somebody insist saying they know you are not okay is when somebody do care about you.

[@ngt.ngan516]

The "How are you?" Is a strong question.

[@someone-et6hs]

Just would like to add HAPPYNESS IS NOT ALWAYS A CHOICE