11 Ways to Date with Feminine Confidence (Ditching the Doormat)

[@paulaa5752]

I think there's a 3rd aspect that's worth considering... More than how does he feel about you or how do you feel about him, but also how do you feel about yourself when you're with him... Does he cultivate, by mutual respect and consideration, those positive feelings you have about yourself when you're with him?

[@MetalBere]

Love this podcast. You're both so funny, but interesting at the same time 😁

[@carollabelle8653]

I’m so glad I listen to you guys. You just confirmed that I said the right thing to this guy I met on online dating. We had only one date in person. After that one date, he kept FaceTime timing me at 5 o’clock in the morning. The first couple times when I answered the video call he wanted to know why he couldn’t see me. I replied because it’s dark and I am still in bed. It’s 5 o’clock in the morning. He said well that’s why Im calling so early… I want to see you while you’re in bed 😮! I told him don’t ever call me before 8:00 AM again. So then he video called me late in the evening saying I hope you’ve gone to bed. I want to see you. I told him “you have NOT earned that right . I’m not that kind of girl. “ NEXT…😂

[@Gigi-Anai8c7l]

ooofff that guy was a walking red flag

[@TianieMitchell]

It's okay to have relationships but remember you are an individual with individual thoughts and ideas and how habits and hobbies and you can share some of the things like food Hobbies time but never give up your own life and may lose your identity and what makes you happy and you can start being resentful but this is something that you had brought on by being a yes person say yes when it's makes you feel good say no when you don't agree that's normal and strong

[@TianieMitchell]

A doormat is in the perspective of the person a doormat could be the person who welcomes you the person who always makes you feel at home who accepts you for who you are the one that no matter what happens in your life you're always welcome they're there for you that's my analogy of a doormat

[@TheNisiu]

I know people who do ALL of these things but won't hesitate to check you/cut you off when you make the mistake of taking their kindness for weakness. These people are far from doormats. I personally am one who will just about anything for those who are important to me. But it also sparks obsession when I completely cut off contact because you didn't take my boundary seriously. Being there for others doesn't make you a doormat. Not establishing boundaries and accepting the disrespectful BS people send your way because you're too nice is what makes you the doormat.

[@Imdivine1]

What if he gets mad for not wanted to go through plans. After I say no.

[@Gigi-Anai8c7l]

it's not your role to be his mother and help him feel better, leave the room. He should calm himself down. Be careful with men who use anger to force women to do what they want.