12 Traits that are DESTROYING your Elegance! | Do not jeopardise your Level Up!

[@sedingwemaduo]

1. Gossiping (personal favorite) 2. Watching TV/ Social Media 3. Fashion Fads 4. Dressing Shabbly 5. Mean and Condenscending 6. Using valguar and inappropriate words 7. Lack of Punctuality 8. Not Speaking coherently 9. Inconsistent and untrustworthy 10. Bad posture 11. Disregarding etiquette 12. Dirty and disorganized

[@kat7939]

D as reds ex

[@refilwenyandeni5181]

Thank you 😊

[@callen9679]

Thanks

[@justinamusyoka4986]

Thank you for the summary.

[@MrMyjrmc10]

Thanks for the tips and reminders

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

Speaking of fashion, proper bra and shapewear/correct undies for certain garments is a major key!! It’s definitely worth the investment

[@ms.ednapost]

Amen!!! That’s not talked about enough!!!

[@aesinam]

@@ms.ednapost everyone I follow on KZbin talks about this so you're probably watching the wrong people.

[@ms.ednapost]

@@aesinam Or perhaps you aren’t watching enough of “everybody on KZbin.”

[@MatipaKombe]

Major major key!!

[@celesteessel4500]

Im literally just realizing this at the age of 24 and im shocked at how much I dont know - Thank you for sharing

[@GarmentofPraiseSewing]

Etiquette does matter. Unfortunately, listening to you I realized I lost a lot of etiquette. Only because being in the company of woman who constantly attacked me over the years in the workplace made me very defensive. I appreciate the delightful way you deliver your messages because it reminds me of what truly is important in spite of someone else’s negativity.

[@kinyettabranner8419]

Yes a video on how to handle Catty women

[@ZaBubbey]

I feel the same way too

[@SnippetsBB]

Hi Regina - I agree and couldn't have said it better. Happened to me too over the years but I still kept the basics. Now I'm at an older age (retired) feel empowered to reclaim that elegance I was forced to defend so long ago.

[@quantinajones2857]

Same here!! Keep YOUR standards 😉

[@starrjohnson1327]

I have a new (female) supervisor. She is the first female supervisor to encourage femininity! She is so refreshing to be around. I didn't think women like this still existed. She gets so much backlash from female colleagues. Many want to dress casual at work, curse and show up late. She does not tolerate that. More ladies are dressing feminine and smelling sweet at work. I love that😊.

[@jillgreene9225]

In the airport recently, a middle aged lady told her son "son don't bother that elegant lady" I smiled inside & out. I greatly appreciate your informative videos...I am leveling UP in more ways than a few & loving every moment❣ Jill Georgette Missouri-USA

[@limania4456]

Being a guy, I think these principles can be applied to both sex. Well presented.

[@stormy8092]

Absolutely. Good for you. A man cannot be too eloquent.

[@gugumazibuko6275]

Well done for watching. I salute you!

[@ososeesekie]

Who thinks etiquette is outdated? It’s classy and elegant and shows self respect and respect for others. Tanks for you talk

[@paradisemusiclibrary1756]

“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work” Thomas A. Edison💡 Never give up on yourself. I believe in you! 🙏❤

[@curlsxx6986]

Thank you for reminding me of the grown classy woman I need to be.

[@Laytopoe-For-Faith-Family-Food]

Vivienne, your words are graceful and full of wisdom! It adds depth to the wise! God bless you Abundantly 🙏. Thank you!

[@angelenkopodi2148]

Vivian, thank you for your channel, you are such a God sent, I've been getting it wrong all my life, just a week of watching your topics, I have discovered who I am, what I want and where I'm going in life 🥂 🥂 Happy birthday to the new Me as a Woman of Elegance 🥰 🥰

[@pamholbrook4516]

I’ve been looking for etiquette videos that are not boring and monotone. Your videos so far, are the only videos that fit what I’ve been looking for. I’ve been interested in learning etiquette for years. I listen to videos in the morning on the way to work to be productive of my listening time. Im looking forward to watching or listening to all of your videos and hopefully I won’t forget to like them all. Thank you!

[@bookbutterfly2408]

You might also like The Feminine Universe here on KZbin for the same reason

[@reelmermaid8844]

Vivian, your video is a breath of fresh air! Thank you for bringing back into focus the long lost arts of good manners, appropriate speech and other character traits that are required for one to be seen as high value and a person of class. Subscribed with delight. Cheers from Canada!

[@thandosdance1504]

Was about to comment about table manners coz us in Africa use our hands to eat so was about to ask whose culture is referred to as refined table manners. Am glad u gave that example.

[@lillianthomas9861]

Thank you for this! I've always thought of etiquette as: overt manners for others that are around you. It is a way to love other people.

[@aliceayinga2161]

This is great👌

[@karencollins2440]

Absolutely spot on, Vivienne. Thank you for your lovely service to women, and to society as a whole.

[@annavalentova5046]

Dear Vivienne, your videos are such inspiring thank you for sharing them with us. It really encouraged me to keep learning to be better version of me instead of complaining what is not possible. I have lost part of my elegant behaviour but now I realize it is never too late to try again and get even more decent, polite and confident than before. You are true inspiration, thank you and I wish you a pleasant day! 🌹

[@GiaGDixon]

I wish everybody knew this. 💁🏻‍♀️It feel so elementary, but I see these things done all the time!

[@nymnym91]

I just found your channel, and I truly appreciate your content so much. I've come from a rather new money family and realized over time that I often came across as crass and have wasted so much time not being a more feminine, elegant woman when I was in my 20s. I'm really looking forward to utilizing all of the knowledge you're presenting here.

[@mrstoluajala1317]

Thank you so much for this. After listening to all these points I realized I have always lived my life around some of these points guess I have always built my life with God's word and this has resulted to excellence in me.

[@writeousrhema]

Thanks! I will take heed. All mothers should teach and show their daughters etiquette

[@dorisaugust7200]

Power packed content... If it's the vocabularies and phonetics I learn here alone, I'm fulfilled!

[@kristensamsike8923]

I am no elegant lady because I cannot be one. I am a man. But I did enjoy this video. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge Vivian. I sure will be recommending this video not just for my female friends but even male too!

[@Magpieme98]

I think all these points were just spot on! Poor table manners is a pet peeve of mine and I’m so glad you covered it. Great video!

[@valangstatolbert6775]

You're priceless, VIVIAN. Thank you so very much for your expertise in assisting us with TIMELESS STYLE and BEAUTY. I just found this channel. GOD is re- enviting me, and after prayer and meditation, HE sent me here. Thank you.

[@ThePwanjiru]

Wow. This is me too. God brought me to this channel today. I am in a season where I need to implement these traits for my next God given assignment

[@TriniRoyQuiReyes]

This video speaks volumen. Reminds one that one don't need to stay away from whom God has called one to be. Thank You for sharing elegant sister. I can see things I need to change. - Qui 👑

[@monajones6748]

Your videos are so great. I appreciate your elegance and sophistication pointers as they are fantastic reminders.❤️

[@isabelmartin40]

Thank U, Vivian, may the art of elegance come back a little to this modern life😮

[@augustaluch7354]

Hello Vivian. The very first time I saw your video, I think that was "how to speak Elegantly", I was drawn to it and immediately I hit the "subscribe button". Thank you so much for this series of valuable content that you share. I hope you reply me. Like I said, from that very first time I took a decision that I will be an Elegant Lady, it takes a lot of unlearning and re-learning to get there, but I'm willing to work it out. But it looks as if my decision to become elegant made me short of friends, they treat me like I am a weirdo, try-hard or even a pretender(subtly telling me that I'm trying to mimick things not pertaining to my status). I understand that you shouldn't let people bring you down either verbally or through their body language especially when you are doing the right thing, but it's just so hard to be alone and not have someone you share things in common with. If I can get comforting words from you, I will appreciate it, thanks.❤️

[@ibiminaabiye257]

Augusta, you're right on track with your decision to be an elegant lady. Forget your circle of friends and get one or two new friends who are on the same journey with you. Hope this helps.

[@augustaluch7354]

@@ibiminaabiye257 thank you so much. It really does.

[@namutebisylvia7066]

I dont regret subscribing to your channel, i learnt alot thanks 💪💪👏👏

[@1moniqueceleste]

This video blessed me. I am a work in progress and truly value this information. Thank you

[@teenindustry]

So glad you looked at the idea of following the etiquette of the culture you are in.

[@naomi_cmfrancis]

Well articulated. Thank you Ma'am. I really appreciate your teachings.

[@jenp342]

Thank You Vivian, for sharing these videos, I agree💯, and appreciate very much.🇨🇦

[@anketsp.4670]

I am following you from Ethiopia, thank you for the amazing presentation Vivian. We have a lot of good cultures, thank you for mentioning it on number 11.

[@lmusima3275]

As someone who studied fashion, I feel it’s necessary to learn it from the elegance and image consulting point of view. I avoid bad language, it appears classless. Looking shabby is terrible. I can never go out with dirty footwear or dirty clothes

[@tinamike3018]

Thank you so much for pointing out areas i need to really work on at being the best version of me .

[@Vegcrafttt]

Emotional processing is vital. Let's be careful not to encourage toxic positivity. If you are feeling negative feelings about someone who did something you didn't like and you want to discuss it with your husband or something then please do. Negative emotions exist. And always will. Please process those feelings.

[@Whatever-t9s]

Sometimes it's wise not to mention to the husband.

[@jenniferlynn3537]

I agree with the necessity of emotional processing, and commend those who can do so unassisted. For those who cannot - that is when a therapist should be sought. Don’t dump on your loved ones - you’ll only end up alienating them. While some will have you believe that therapy is self indulgent or capitulating to one’s weaknesses, I maintain it is accepting personal responsibility for oneself. Think of it as self-investment, as along the lines of personal development. Unfortunately many of us were raised in less than optimal environments - and became acclimated to unhealthy beliefs, negative thought patterns, and unproductive behaviors. It can be problematic understanding which traits are self-limiting - and equally difficult identifying which people in your life don’t have your best interest at heart. If you’re truly to become self reliant, consider therapy as part of that journey.

[@olivikakatti4111]

I'm abit kind of tomboy but after watching your video's I feel like moving towards elegant way.💃💃🏃‍♀️

[@ThePwanjiru]

So glad God led me to this channel today... Timely for me, so helpful for my next assignment.. blessings to you Vivian

[@enny8854]

Thank you for this lesson ma. Please can you do a video on building vocabulary?

[@SKITSHOW]

Thank you, Ms. Vivian, you're beautiful inside and out and a great communicator ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Laqueen724]

I've just discovered your channel today and I'm loving it,very educative.Thankyou.

[@royalhighness6263]

I am Soooo grateful to have been connected to your channel. Divine timing is always perfect. However, hats of to you for coming out and teaching our ladies how to create a more elegant lifestyle . Everyone can benefit from this. Your channel is super important & genuine for us. Love all your tips and videos . Hope you're having a good day and I sincerely wish that your platform goes a long way and generates endless success 🙏😇💯 God bless

[@carrimattan1236]

This is one of the best of "Woman of elegance"

[@natchasolutions8908]

Great points. Woman of substance

[@marycovey4960]

These are very nice reminders and you present them beautifully. I truly enjoy taking part in your encouraging and insightful videos.

[@lissam8988]

Back in the 40s and 50s, a young lady learned etiquette in school they took that away, and everything else went down.

[@Juliananaki100]

So much encouraged by your lectures. Thanks you.

[@ameryek.9607]

This is one of your best ones! Rock on! But I'm still working on having "a depthless intrigue".

[@lioness4447]

Do you have a video on posture, walking, standing and proper sitting, Very happy to have found your videos...Thank you

[@christinme8375]

Love this ! You gave me some great ideas 💡 Thank you You’re so beautiful and well spoken 😊

[@makoabdo861]

So enlightening ❤. Clearly you are passionate about women and elegance. Thank you

[@jones2277]

these are great tips and are good for anyone, regardless of gender.

[@paulcarlachapman628]

All your points are good, but I have a special distaste for gossip. Thank you for emphasizing it.

Hello Vivian 🌸 Thank you for sharing this amazing videos. It have been helping me a lot. Blessings ❤

[@helenajacobson2221]

Hey Vivian, you are beautiful and intelligent; I'm a big fan and admire how classic you present yourself; thanks for educating women around the globe 🌎 many women needed this, especially in this part of the world where I live now. And I'm learning from your various videos post; they are informative and educative but I'm having trouble downloading the handbook any suggestions on how I can get it? Thanks you 🤗

[@ogochukwumadufor1353]

The way you manage to speak eloqently for a few minutes without stuttering still beats me. I celebrate a true elegant lady. I'm learning😁.

[@victoryjackson7625]

Thanks so much Vivian for this educative video♥️

[@leofarmqueen7951]

If I love you one more time, I love the way you teach our ladies

[@jayzmom09]

You did a fantastic job with this video. Thank you

[@MsRoss-xv3nx]

Good Teaching! Preach!!

[@meziefavour4531]

I love love love your elegance etiquette❤️

[@maysanroy]

I can listen to you all the time....soothing to the soul ❤️ thank you!

[@phylis3917]

Enjoy your videos the most. You are best and being copied. Especially you really care and it shows. More nd more please. Thank you Vivian.

[@AndreaChabanChristianLifeStyle]

Thank you very much for these inspiring videos ❤️

[@danielniltiss6355]

Hey Vivian l really like you so much you are the type of woman I need in my life hope more ladies would learn from you . I watch your videos every single day especially when I wake up in the morning. I respect you so much.

[@bronwenmabunda8103]

Thank you for all your content, ive learnt so much.

[@AngeliqueTraveler]

I already adore you. What wonderful advice! I am inspired.

[@lydialal.l.f8382]

This is very true, I agreed 100 percent. Thanks so very much 👍🎉

[@verasoraya2102]

Wow, I love the nigerian actor. A very talent actor, I have watch him in nigerian movies

[@octaviahicks-braye9859]

Great points!

[@yeshifeyisa5473]

Thank you my Dear !I 'm not late to follow you .You are the most powerful change me every day. From Ethiopia

[@luisamarto2010]

Thanks for the channel, Vivian!!

[@simoneC-i6r]

So happy I’ve found this channel. Thank you!

[@gulsahgunes7732]

so useful, and crucial points to remember. Thank you for this amazing video🙏🌞🥰

[@thegosphel]

Hello, I just found your channel a few days ago and I’ve been enjoying the videos. Thank you for sharing this type of content.

[@sidneysidney7306]

Thank you Thank you Thank you again and again Bring back etiquette and elegance. Have you written an etiquette book? If so please let me know.

[@vds4252]

Thanks 😊 for this video , sometimes I'm not confident because English not my first language. Thanks to mentioning it. I also like your video about hygiene I a Learned alot with you🥰

[@gladysdpenha6241]

Awesome tips. Thank you and stay blessed.

[@yvonnenick5374]

Thanks so much , so happy I ran across this video

[@mdk2338]

Hey Vivian...glad to watch you again with pretty true and practical principles. Thank you again. I agree and I am really working on all these. Love from India.

[@skynIV2.0]

Thanks for this, I struggle with some things. However I’ve always been a nice person. I just need a bit of refinement.

[@wandjicarine1945]

Wow....i enjoyed the video. Thanks for sharing these tips which will help me be a woman of elegance.

[@kelechivivianodogwu1908]

Hello Vivian, I appreciate your video and I'm thankful I found your page.

[@stretchgrieme]

Thank you! I just discovered your video and appreciate your advice very much!

[@Lauren-db7hb]

I absolutely agree. Thank you so much for these

[@trustingyah7659]

Thank You!

[@onyinyecrownwell]

Thank you so much Miss Vivian.❤️

[@AmarachiDuru]

This video is exceptional. Thank you so much.

[@clever4442]

I've just discovered your channel and am enjoying everything

[@ruthwanjiru2318]

We are grateful for your wisdom

[@jacquelinesmith-gaston2071]

Watching this great video again! Thank you!

[@sundaythamos6796]

Just watching the video to learn more in case if God bless me with a baby girl. Am Still single but I just need to learn because I know that no knowledge is lost.. thanks Vivian

[@amnamir6676]

Beautiful video ! 💯 gems of wisdom

[@GreatBritainusa]

This is beautifully said, however when the monthly shows up, I’m all over the place. Can you help us to be elegant while in pain? I feel bad at the end of the day, knowing I could’ve done better 😫🤣

[@Necky.N]

Your videos have helped me to improve in so many areas of my life.

[@dr.jovita4249]

Thank you so much ma, I love you.

[@elizabethsmith4307]

Thank you

[@MyFitgirlLifestyle]

Very lovely points indeed, although some would take a bit of work to implement, it is worth the try.

[@kiannad418]

Thank you for the video I truly enjoy them all and you’re just stunning ❤️

[@meezuchopra3044]

Greetings! I appreciate your effort of providing the important content which will help us to be the best version of ourselves. Warm regards!