Your Scruffy Appearance is Hindering your Elegance! | How to go from Unkempt to Classy

Have you ever wondered why that opportunity may have passed you by? Are your relationships disintegrating at record speed? Are you tired of being overlooked every time?
Have you considered that there may be some things about your appearance that need a good analysis and possibly a complete overhaul? Things that have perhaps been overlooked by friends and/or family for fear of offending you?
Ladies, fear not! Your Elegance teacher Is here to ensure you never get overlooked for anything again! In this video I tell you 14 things that are hindering your elegance and how you can go from unkempt to classy FAST!
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[@ninaoaster8039]

I found your channel a few days ago and subscribed. I am a 67 year old white woman and have learned so much from your videos in the last few days. I'm going to work on so many of your suggestions in the coming year. Not to attract a new mate but to feel good about myself. Thank you so much for all your points. I intend to be my best self in the new year!

[@munshiiqra]

1.worn out shoes 2.smelly untidy hair 3.chip & dirty nail 4.missing tooth 5.general unkept look 6.botched cosmetic procedures 7.frawyed clothing 8.loose clothes 9.excessive makeup 10.unmaintained eyelash extensions 11.excessive accessories 12.rubber bands in hair 13.creased clothing 14.body odour

[@ritahnyangoma285]

Absolutely truth list

[@talghow-i2326]

Thank you!

[@lmusima3275]

On the underground train a woman sat opposite me and I couldn’t help being irritated by her severely dirty shoes, completely worn out. A few years ago in summer I saw a woman sitting opposite me with flip flops 🩴 with her toe nails plain and dirty. I was so embarrassed when some guys boarded the train and sat opposite her

[@drstellamaguwudzemd9115]

And an untidy house

[@Munabash]

@@lmusima3275 you do understand that some people cannot afford better shoes, right?

[@jessicaboisabi7905]

“A concoction of garlic and dirt.” 😂😂please forgive me for laughing but your descriptions are hilarious.

[@G_Galore]

that part took me out 🤣

[@sakyiwaadebbie9018]

Right 😅

[@fragrancedeparadiso443]

To be elegant and have a sense of humour- what a cool combination.. The worn out shoes, untidy nails, penguin walk? Ur sense of humour is superb 😄 🤣

[@japayaa5285]

😂😂

[@chantallolive6004]

Please don’t throw away clothes that are too small. Pass them on to friends and family or a refuge /charity shop.

[@niecyjay2016]

If only I can afford a Dentist then I will feel 15% better Mental and Physical Abuse SUCKS!!!!!!!

[@Ekjunior-y7v]

You're 💯 percent right, sharing is caring

[@tennilledebysingh5819]

Great video, I would add to the wrinkled clothing point that cotton & linen are still elegant despite getting wrinkled easily. Most people who know the material expect a bit of wrinkles upon wearing them. Just iron these types of materials before going out. In warmer months/climates, Linen is super elegant and a bit of wrinkling is expected and that's ok.

[@Magpieme98]

Completely agree. Linen is very elegant for summer and keeps me cool as well. 🌺

[@ugochris-aluta8294]

In hot climates, cotton and other fabrics that 'breathe' are your best friends. Silk, wool, polyesters and so on tend to smell when you've been out in the sun for a bit.

[@qytj1182]

Can we talk about the level of detail she goes through 👏 I always look forward to these videos

[@ladylocust1118]

May I add one in addition to #14? Overwhelming laundry scents &/or perfumes ~ when I can walk in our shop and say, "So & so must have been here" because he/she wears so much fragrance.

[@Annieathome716]

Always straightening me out, one look down on my hands and feet and I know I need to do ALOT better. All points noted and will be put into practice. Thanks as always.

[@brendacrawford5744]

So that's why my Mamacita wanted boy instead of girls

[@DoodleBugLisa]

Since there’s so much judgment in this video, may I add proper spelling. It’s A LOT not ALOT!

[@naturescomfort-peaceandrel578]

@@DoodleBugLisaAre you ok?

[@IevaKambarovaite]

I don't really come from a particularly wealthy family, to say the least.. But one thing my mum would never allow me is to buy cheap shoes. Cheap footwear end up costing more in the long run, they ruin your feet and your outfit. Look after your shoes by cleaning them, storing them appropriately when they're off the season and you can wear them for years and years to come. Love your videos and so inspired by you to work on my own channel 💕

[@sarahdesimon5781]

This one is my favourite video from Vivian. You can tell she cares. She never mocks anybody but rather shows a better way to go... Thank you kindly 🙏🏽

[@swizzledizzler9417]

The hair one called me out! 😢 I have locs and they can be expensive to maintain. I love your videos! ❤️

[@anniemo9225]

Locks are beautiful!

[@nattyb2924]

Girl, I have 4a/b natural hair and this called me out too. I have to regularly style my hair for it to hold and whilst I look at upgrading my style, I'm also looking at upgrading my income just for this.

[@tiawalker6365]

Swizzle Dizzle not mine and my lovs are long.i take care of my own locs

[@aesinam]

It will help to learn how to maintain your locs yourself

[@danny270875]

I normally don't comment on videos on this channel but Vivienne you hit it spot on and you got me....the way you keep enlightening the darkness of some minds on your channel is amazing and deserve applause 👏 .What strike me is 'The missing teeth point' and guess what! I am booking an appointment to see my dentist for more info. Thank you sooo much Vivienne for your invaluable help 🙏

[@foxylady6901]

I'm a flamboyant natural (kibbe body typing system) so snug clothing does not look elegant on me. Looser fitting clothes look best on my body. I agree that knowing your body when it comes to dressing it is most important and also not worrying about what looks good on another woman.

[@user-ko2tu3ss3o]

Thank you Miss Vivienne. Simple. Classy. Elegant. Timeless. Classic. Beautiful.

[@crystalquartz11]

Since the pandemic, especially lockdown, I became rather careless about my appearance though I wasn't before. It's the whole mindset that needs to change, so I really appreciate your videos. 💖

[@luxuryedition78]

@Jiitenko I can relate to that at times too!

[@celeste4lyfe560]

I would appreciate it so much of you did a video on elegant clothing brands that are somewhat affordable (and hopefully plus size friendly) Like the Teddy Blake Bag you recommend was affordable but still a level up. I love your videos 🤩

[@molelekoaseroto1881]

I agree with you more

[@anniemo9225]

That would be lovely to see!

[@CharlotteReneeLocs]

Yeeeeeees

[@shaniquafaith]

Yesss

[@catcoffee7958]

Brands are not important what matters most is FIT and FABRIC,,,,it should fit beautifully no pulling no tension the cut flatters your body shape(no two women are the same body even if they are the same size),heavier fabric with excellent quality can be found in any brand but you need to train your fingers to feel the weight how it drapes on you ,,this flimsy fabrics are elegant women worst enemy,,,,,and ladies the linening of a dress or trousers can say allot and improves the dress fitting and comfort ,,,finally Hobbs brand are excellent with fabrics they go up to 18in size (most times they are on the big side),,good luck❤️

[@StylishandGrateful]

Wonderful tips lovely lady! I’m so glad this information is spreading! I’d love to see more women follow these tips!🌺

[@costalclassics5423]

Unfortunately as I became older, over pronation of my feet resulted in needing serious orthopedics that need tie shoes. Even with this standing and walking are reduced. As a woman with so many pairs of beautiful shoes and dresses that has always cherished my femininity and being well groomed this condition has greatly reduced my wardrobe to what can be worn with black orthopedics looking shoes. Although I feel these other aspects of appearance are on point, it is very humbling to not be able to express my femininity fully. Yes, as Vivian stated people definitely notice my shoes ( I always keep them polished) but I just try to be thankful I can walk.

[@catherineanderson4755]

I hear you, I have so many health issues that have bed-ridden me, and prevent me from being the well dressed, glam woman I once was. I also do the best I possibly can. Pretty nightgowns and robes help. ❤

[@BeBeautifullyYou]

I can relate.

[@MsNikkiCrucio]

The way Vivian positioned the tooth and the need for extraction was a great Segway into being addressing her points. Well done.

[@Sketchbook9999]

Somebody I know has saved MANY marraiges from breaking down just by giving very similar advice. There were other men that would not shower as much / take their appearances seriously at work AND at home- NOW their relationships are flourishing and they havê been promoted.

[@LB-ku6ry]

You’re cracking me up. 😂 I’m new to wig wearing and am worried about it smelling. 😂 I went out to dinner, and the smell of the restaurant was in my beautiful, human hair wig. I had just washed it and didn’t want to wash it again and ruin the hair. Yes, I’m worried about drying it out and heat damage. I use overnight rollers or leave it straight. I didn’t wear it again for weeks and let it air out. I wanted to put it outside, but was concerned about the sun ruining the color and birds pooping on it. 😅 I’m sorry, but this whole video made me giggle in a good way. I love your content. Thank you!!!!❤❤❤❤

[@kerrymartin7557]

Why did you decide to start covering your own hair,

[@ellaguerlain7359]

And thank for the format of your publication. Impeccable vocabulary. Everyone on the learning curve to become scrabble wizards

[@DORCASDIASRIESMAKINGMEMORIES]

Vivienne, thanks for another great video. As someone who is trying to be elegant ALWAYS, I have come to appreciate your makeup. Would you please do a tutorial on your nude looks, it's not loud, yet, it leaves you with a very fresh and attractive look. I'd really love to learn that.

[@EvelynSutherland]

Thank you. Your videos have helped me on my level up journey. I also noticed that you embody high moral standards, which, in my opinion, are a part of being elegant. Thank you, dear sister.

[@lovesmith1489]

Thank you, again! You address so many personal hygiene issues women miss or don't think about. Bad breath and dry lips are other areas I found in some women can you address this. Some women are unaware of this problem. Your videos are priceless.

[@joysilas4724]

You’re channel is life changing! Thank you 😊

[@ellaguerlain7359]

Thank you Vivienne for putting the blank truth out. You are truly an inspiration. ❤

[@sabrinavillemenay3503]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom, experience and reflections on being an elegant woman. I am learning so much and appreciate your support! God bless you.

[@jasminebaby3375]

So lovely as always. Thank you Vivian 💕💕💕

[@oliviaasante3497]

So much to learn here. Thank you my woman of elegance

[@mightychondria3552]

This is one of my fav channel. She’s so beautiful, nice and ladylike. Delightful to watch.

[@charlottekirchner2612]

Thank you!! Love the advice and definitely am going to clean up my act and strive to be an elegant woman!!

[@theonafuwas255]

When it comes to Elegance modesty is key.😍

[@Maria_Svetlana_5923]

20:01 YES its true . Also a fashion studen here and our teachers at f.i.p says to iorn your work and parts for your work to make it presentable , elegant and even expensive looking as a creassed look is tacky . Same goes in our marketing course!

[@anniemo9225]

Thank you for this Video! Once again always giving us the content we need and love to see. Thanks for always being open and honest with us. We are all a work in process and these tips really are beneficial in our levelling up journey. Lots of love 💗

[@anniemo9225]

*progress

[@wowandsmiles4468]

Hi Vivienne! Thanks for all your teachings 😍 Please consider starting a podcast. I'm trimming down my screen time but would like to keep listening to you. 😊

[@jillgreene9225]

Amen! Ragged, dusty, tangled & twisted wigs take the entire look down to 1 from 10....I have seen this on ladies that earn HIGH incomes.no no noooo Aspiring Elegant Ladies😶

[@pinky-ud1rt]

Great video vivian your so classy x all the above is so true x i need this woman in my life love her the things she sayes is what i do xx❤

[@sharonmuga9432]

I love how you speak eloquently

[@Magpieme98]

Vivienne, thanks for sharing these excellent points! Suggestion for fellow viewers: instead of eyelash extensions, try an eyelash serum. Extensions need regular maintenance and damage natural lashes. A serum strengthens and enhances natural lashes and looks much better in my opinion. Hugs from Mary in Florida 🌺

[@oyine1]

What lash serum do you use, I’ve heard that some lash serum cause dark circles around the eyes and when you stop using them your new lash growth falls off

[@Magpieme98]

@@oyine1 I use Rodan & Fields lash boost. It’s pricey, but it works! I haven’t had any issues at all and I’ve been using it over a year. You are correct….you do have to keep using it, though.

[@d.v.stuyvesant6944]

I highly recommend GrandeLash & GradeBrow. My ends of my brows were seriously thinned out and my lashes were thin and wispy. These products fixed both problems.

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

@@oyine1 try the Ordinary serums for eyelashes and healthy hair growth

[@ninawestlake14]

Like i always say : Grooming surpassess fashion. Grooming survives without fashion,but fashion alone looks blah when personal care is absent.

[@erinallee8616]

High value content as usual! I thank you for this quality and I have taken notes.

[@carolinekusimba8154]

Worn-out shoes - that was me very recently my everyday flats were worn out but I kept holding on to them until I did notice it myself while on a date!😂😂

[@wirsiyyvette9928]

Thank you very much for this video ma'am. I needed this trying to level up for myself and for my fashion business from this year. God bless you

[@MrSynhair]

I love that these videos help so many women, these things are so natural to me, you’re doing great work 😍♥️

[@maamafavour]

vivian your vidieos have changed me alot• am extremely elegant •😊 thank you so much ❤

[@kwanelehlabanomoyo]

Wow! Just discovered you. Love your content. You’re a true lady. Looks like I have a lot to work on. Thank you so much

[@martakoffi]

I watch you from Ivory Coast. Thank you Vivian ❤️

[@ArachnaeNonafel]

Thank you so much for these videos! They are so very useful! I started with your video on having afternoon tea. Bless you.

[@preciousendebele1183]

Firstly i would like to say ...thank very much for your videos...i learn a lot ..its like you were talking to me ..i will change many things in my life ...once again thank you very much...God bless ...you

[@bonniehafeman9757]

Moderate and appropriate.. Beautiful message. Thanks. Amen.

[@quintinavideo]

You are sooooooo talented. Self care feels so tiring sometimes especially with little children in hand.I need your chanel for encouragement. Thank you.

[@oliw-xn2ng]

This channel is gold

[@asewejetosin5248]

When it comes to elegance, modesty is key.

[@floramercer3074]

I love all your videos. Thank you for sharing. ❤❤❤

[@roselychee9644]

Tips for Body Odour: ~ Taking chlorophyll drops with water is like a natural perfume and deodorant. It's very good for the rest of your body as well. ~ Invest in sweat-guards which you can stick to the underarm areas of your clothes. These absorb sweat and prevent your clothes from being stained. ~ Ladies, remove hair from your underarms. I know it's very trendy for people to say shaving these parts is "mysogynistic" but in all honesty, not removing hair there will make it easier for an unpleasant smell to stick around! By keeping the hair, you'll have to do twice the work to prevent smelling and nobody wants that. ~ Sometimes the smell isn't necessarily from your underarms but can come from other areas such as the feet. If your feet are often smelly then be sure to get a doctor to check if you have a fungal infection there. If you do, they can give you treatments to cure you of it and remove the odour. ~ Incorporate fruits like pinapples, oranges, lemons, cranberries and apples regularly in your diet. Over time these give you a naturally sweet and fresh smell.

[@giftygropone4518]

I really appreciate your effort just to put us right and presentable

[@joankirkland6255]

So much great information,Thank goodness I do most of you suggestion.This video is priceless .Thank you.❤️

[@midnite325]

My mom always maintained that shoes are 1 of the 1st things ppl notice & the extreme importance of caring well for your foundation (your feet! ) & to not compromise on that.

[@swizzledizzler9417]

Could you make a video on how to stay elegant while working? Summer jobs seems to suck the elegance right out of me 😓

[@IevaKambarovaite]

I think work can often make us feel exhausted. But I think it's all about the intention and the energy you bring to it. Remind yourself that your work is making a difference in someone's day and that what you is valuable and show up with good intentions. I think that makes a difference 💕

[@fancybeingawesome]

Gal I used to feel that way.Until I realized being the best version of me helps a lot.Enjoy the perks of your job.Dress well and always have something feminine with you.

[@elizabethonyekwue9368]

Great presentation! Thanks a lot. Any guide or tips on how a mother/nursing mother can maintain her elegance will be well appreciated.

[@aesinam]

Keep it simple. Don't try to do too much. Wake up, groom yourself and wear comfy classy clothes that are elegant but still make breastfeeding a breeze. Once baby is sleeping, take care of yourself. Put on gloss or lipstick if that's your vibe even if you won't wear makeup. Focus on your skincare during this time. Brush your hair, lol, and style it in a simple ponytail or other easy style

[@Herhealingtouch6683]

Great points indeed also two additional points if I may , wear clothes that define you there's nothing like one size fits all that a sales talk .....two wear a bra that fits you not one that pronounces your love handles in Capital letters ,. a bra that grants you that confidence as you stand, sit or walk.

[@brittybee6615]

It’s sooo difficult to find bras that don’t show through clothing somehow, even if they do fit! I’ve been trying all different styles lately.

[@bonniehafeman9757]

Thanks for sharing beautiful lady.

[@maricelg777]

Love this Vivianne . Thanks for sharing 🤍🌸

[@rachaelbempomaaapenteng4888]

Thank you so much Vivienne,I always look forward to your videos

[@amuzumabel2]

Rightly on point!😊

[@NoelleOgu]

Your videos are top-notch 👌 🎉 Thank you

[@cathymunyua4944]

You nailed it viv...Bless you big I wore worn out boots 👢 😩 last Saturday for a seminar and guess what...I slid and fell badly 😢...I threw them to the trush same day

[@carellesile6506]

Weeeeeh

[@dolineadhiambo7397]

😂🤭you're now better placed

[@elizabethzemedkun6224]

😂😂😂😂

[@deborahgitto1614]

Ladies just to add on, with some good news Jesus loves and accepts you in a way that doesn’t matter what you look like or smell like and especially not in a way that you may perceive how others may judge you. He doesn’t judge. What’s more important than your external appearance that’s what shines out from inside The important part of you is actually your beautiful heart. Love Jesus and love yourself and others as He does.

[@elizabethnjoki4912]

Your descriptions are hilarious. 😂 Hair like a mop. .... garlic and dirt. Lol😂

[@babycakes1402]

For the wig, you never really know if that person is wearing it because they're going through chemo & if that's the case, they have an entirely different set of priorities. As for scratching your head, I've discovered that one of my 'menopause side-effects is radom itching for no reason. I carry anti-itch lotion & a back scratcher with me now, by necessity, not choice.

[@eloisesjohnson28]

Thanks for sharing this. I have some work to do.

[@katiekrupa6608]

Great content! Thank You 🥰

[@sisteroflight]

@ G.G. you don't have to pretend be your authentic self,just embrace more gracious behavior, dignified mannerism. Even the strictest, proudest person can do that at a higher level of sophistication. Love you more, ignore negativity, Keep God first.

[@highlyfavoured4912]

Thank you ❤️.You are so elegant.I like your videos and you sense of humour 🙏

[@huskysc7415]

Excellent guidance! Thank you!

[@treasuremamba7350]

Thank you Vivian.. You're such an inspiration and an asset to this generation. Keep it up sis.

[@BraidsAreBae]

This was a nice one,please do one for those who put on scrubs,specifically hospital staffs.

[@iraiarulniveda]

Awesome content . Thank you Vivian ❤

[@africansister]

21.39 baking soda is good for armpit smell, a bit of ACV + water is also good to rinse armpits in the shower, before bed apply coconut oil and rinse in the morning, drink more water than fizzy and eat less meat too. Most of all pray God is the Healer.

[@nokwandahlongwa6274]

Please can you do a video on classy hair styles for wigs,braids and natural hair.

[@Bibi_Nweze]

My Lady V I have loved you from the first day I stumbled into your video

[@ShequiraMoves]

I love your face on the thumbnail 😂 great content. I love your videos.

[@vereniedavis9755]

Enjoyed this video.

[@lisawynne-magnuson9469]

Absolutely lovely! THANK YOU 🙏💕

[@oluseyiagbaje5488]

Thank you, very informative piece.

[@tyshadixon4630]

Newbie here!! Thank you. I love your videos. Very helpful!

[@Juliananaki100]

Thanks dear Vivian. You're a good teacher.

[@marie-clairemotchie349]

So interesting! Thank you.👌

[@elizabethosomo9999]

You are lovely, Vivian.

[@lavieestbelle6068]

This color looks amazing on you.

[@ranjeetnk4660]

Good job thanku so much 😇

[@janeffamuchiri2869]

Thanks Vivian

[@bonolomonakwane2616]

Thank you...good advice

[@Marsha_Ann]

I just realized, you look very similar to Venus Williams. 😆

[@Lady_Tee15]

She does!! Omg😮❤❤❤

[@esthermutua1287]

Thanks alot for this so informative ✍️✅💗💗💯🙏

[@melainekamdem8534]

Concerning the jewelleries, I will say it depends on the traditions. You could look classic and still respect your tradition. As for ironing, it is vital. People underestimate that fact but ironing clothes are very important for the health. If someone has Body odour, I personally approach him/her and try to help them out, if I can. #elegance.

[@tracyklein9669]

Wow you made me laugh like never before... thank you I really need this... I will work on myself...

[@mycouturelife6392]

Well I really need to change my complete life! I got it all wrong.. Where do I start..lol thanks for sharing