12 Traits That SCREAM "Hijackal!!! Don't Be in DENIAL.

You're a good person. You want to see the best in folks. You are right ready to help someone excuse their poor behavior, and be understanding. Hijackals count on that! They treat you poorly to see how much you'll put up with. It's often no long into the relationship before they're taking up al the space....and you're gasping for air, dying to be heard.. BE CLEAR ABOUT THESE 12 TRAITS. See them. Believe them. Don't expect them to change.

[@user-kz7dh5tv7j]

Lord touch her body.Bring healing in Jesus name. AMEN ♥ 10/24/23

[@Anneisraeli]

1.lying 2.projecting 3.gaslighting 4.indirect conversations 5.sabotage the relationship 6.belittling you 7.Manipulating 8.condescending 9.discounting & disrespecting 10.untrustworthy 11.arrogance 12.stir up chaos Dear Dr Rhoberta, had to summarise while listening.. you are so helpful ,great and precise. The problem is how you solve the fact that the hijackels victims are just moving from one of them to another one, like we spot them in a room of thousand people . Like we are addicted to them , and how can we get rid of the need of them ??

[@insiteandawareness3500]

Thank you for clarified words in a list❤

[@cyndigooch1162]

Thank you very much for writing the list and I've thought about how my attraction to highly narcissistic, or worse, individuals used to literally happen across a crowded room, which was usually a bar, or nightclub! I've learnt the extremely hard way that the strong chemistry and butterflies, or even anxiety, are actually warning signs of danger ahead. ❤

[@theresefournier3269]

The spirit in them can literally smell their target!

[@CindyTemple]

You get rid of the need of them by knowing, respecting and loving yourself.

[@lunaluna5815]

Dr. Shaler please get well soon. A lot of people need you.

[@ib4359]

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, I hope that you will feel better soon.

[@bookbeing]

Circular arguments seem to be a regular theme too. It's a neverending insufferable song and dance with a time vampire.

[@p4vll]

Time vampire. Love that 👍

[@michelleelmergreen8511]

Wow that is what i been dealing with for the last 3 yrs. It's game over 🙏. Out

[@insiteandawareness3500]

I once thought that I was a hyjackall but I realized that I was raised with hyjackall parents and I chose hyjackall men to be with in relationships and in my workplace which I was in for 25+ years... what was I doing???? I wasn't aware of how much abuse that I was taking from hyjackall people around me. Thank you Dr.Shaler for your help and support on this topic.

[@simplysavvylife]

It is helpful to understand our origins and experience but we then must take accountability for the boundaries we set with people so we don't allow ourselves to be victimized further.. once we know it's our responsibility..

[@Cherryblossom-fg1pl]

Wow! Hit the nail on the head. When engaging in a conversation with a hijackel, They don’t want to be uncomfortable but they want you to be uncomfortable in the conversation!

[@findingnadinyo369]

I am so sorry for your physical suffering… I hope you didn’t receive the 💉 Thank you for your strength and dedication in sharing these messages

[@simplysavvylife]

Oh careful I think Dr. Shaler was actually a proponent of the 💉.. I disagree with her in this and hope it isnt reason for her ailments tho it's certainly not impossible..all in love ❤

[@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih]

​@simplysavvy0113 - none of Us knows personally all the details - only God who is the master healer None of us Knows but God to heal another. Ex Hospice RN jxx

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

Hugs and thank you so so much. God bless you. From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

[@user-ne2bh3tn1v]

When you said to fat, to thin, to big not blonde enough...so on and so forth....I have said the same thing describing how I have been made to feel. The message I never escape..all these years later. Im not enough and never will be enough.

[@shirleybarrett605]

that is how i have felt all my life i am now 70 years old. But you are good enough, you are as good as anyone else, take care.

[@suzannegerrow5925]

Praying for your health. Thank you for helping/rescuing tortured people

[@lorrainenicoletti6232]

My sister: the Smirk. Dripping contempt

[@wonderfulwenna2710]

This was such an important video for me…..thank you Dr. R.❤I have come to the reality that I have been observing much of these traits over years, ignoring them.

[@yolirivera51853]

I deleted my first statement, your conversation is incredibly accurate whether it’s a personal relationship or family or friend. I was so overwhelmed with how accurate and knowledgeable you are of human nature. The creation of havoc/chaos is a definite trait in my sister in addition to others. My mother taught them well. I never realized I accepted for too long, thank you. I used to think only partners could be narcissists or hijackals , I was wrong. Amazing video. Thank you for the in law statement- edited in order to thank and acknowledge your statement

[@peat_dont_repeat]

Thank you Dr. Shaler. I have noticed how they always ask why. than when you asl why they either have a contempt smirk or rage.

[@_VoiceOfGrace]

This is all true! Mine ultimately made an attempt on my life. A last and most bold attempt which finally opened my eyes to the fact that there really was no hope of happiness with him and I wasted 15 years in an abusive marriage…

[@freespirit9806]

I have been blessed with inner knowledge. To know what is fake.

[@susanmcculloch1945]

Im so glad i listened. ...what a gift she has left behind 💝 thank you. 🙏💐...i hope you are at peace Doctor...so brave of you.

[@newhope4me]

Hyjackall smirk!

[@simplysavvylife]

You..cant...trust..them.. PERIOD! THEYLL LULL YOU IN EVERYTIME

[@mjchristie100]

Hope you start feeling better and thank you for all these videos. ❤

[@ellevee5586]

Oh sweety 😢 your breathing is bad ? What’s wrong. Worried about you and so grateful that nevertheless you spend your time trying to provide healing for others

[@lorrainenicoletti6232]

Yep , not so bad , better than isolation and no family of origin. In and out of , bad, not so bad , a lifetime of breaking away . I’m 71.

[@bernadettemcgreevy4771]

I get you, so very true. My only child, all I have.😪

[@p4vll]

Get well soon doc ❤

[@michellegambino8161]

Thanks!

[@michellegambino8161]

You’re so amazing and such a wise beautiful soul!! Thanks soooo much for touching so many lives and helping all of us. Sooo blessed to have found you. All the very best. ❤❤❤

[@pattyrooney1323]

Thank you, Rhoberta for this insightful video!

[@Midwestphotographer]

Thank you for this. ❤

[@everelusivereneetaur9180]

So helpful!! Thank you!

[@user-qn4uu9xq1d]

So happy your here for us thank you 💕

[@lucemarina1905]

❤Thanks for this great information

[@Portia620]

Great videos with valuable information!

[@shirleybarrett605]

speaking of put downs i don't know why my husband has to say for instance, when i said i couldn't get out of his care very well, he had to say in front of everyone, well its not my car its cause your old, or i mentioned that the people at my church were old, and he said well your bloody old, and i had to say that they were older,he said it very nasty ?? If there is an ugly old women on the tv, and my granddaughter, or great granddaughter are there he say there's your nan there.

[@Portia620]

Truths! I was married to one

[@angelinapreiss]

Trying to get away for Years I'm 77

[@elisabethwatkins7386]

Oh no, no, no. Give yourself a rest. I'm 70, and truly cannot bear this going on till I'm 77. Please get out!

[@sweetbadd9852]

OMG sorry for your suffering!

[@vanessamorey3812]

My ♥ goes to you, precious. Theres nothing worse than having your soul sucked out by evil vultures that are reprobate scum who've long forgotten what it means to have one. Spiritual sellouts. They're hellbound and know it. They cants stand to see anyone else being joyful. As they have none. Bless you Rhoberta 🙏 🌸 🕊