15 Big Differences Between INFJs and INFPs

[@UkuleleProductions]

My biggest problem with videos like this is, you are always comparing apples to bananas. You tell me how INFJ act in a certain situation and then you tell me how INFPs act in a totaly different situation. Why don't you tell me certain situations and then tell me how INFJs and INFPs act in this same situation. That way I could figure out what I am. But like this I always think: "Oh this sounds like I'm INFJ - oh but that sounded like I'm INFP..."

[@subliminalmuse]

Yes

[@Brownunnie]

You have put my thoughts in words...

[@imnty97]

exactly

[@antheawilliams-dodds4941]

👍

[@sunayana2205]

Exactly!

[@toomuchmeow]

Disorganized, rebel, undisciplined. I'd never heard INFPs described like this before. Thank you. This is so me.

[@냠냠이-n1y]

I feel so seen

[@june756]

Yeah so true😅😂

[@KiaMiaProductions]

Totally me. Working on my organization and discipline. The rebel in me rather do freeing stuff. 😆

[@ephraimburshek6850]

I identify as an INFP and I constantly feel pressure to prove my worth by being helpful because I don't think people value my self expression. Yes, I don't mind being helpful but I love when I feel I can genuinely express myself.

[@kacake]

Yes so true about my bff

[@ludmilamaiolini6811]

Stop spying on me and exposing my flaws at KZbin

[@nicholassookdeo9441]

ifkr smh

[@angelus_solus]

I used to think I was a split between the two, but I discovered the INFJ shadow functions and realised they were the source of my INFP traits. This just cleared it up even more. I really appreciate the work you put into this.

[@QTofLBF]

Infp here. Spot on. I hate deadlines.

[@anotherhetalian8499]

As much as I hate deadlines too, I'm glad that there's a deadline...because I'll procrastinate until I feel like doing it (which is a very long time) XD

[@noelwhyte9834]

I'm sitting here watching this vid when I should be on my way to work so yeah I guess I'm an INFP

[@EviLxFifi]

I hate em too but unfortunately I won't get anything done without them :'(

[@Nonamagic]

Thank you or aknowledging the rebel in INFP, it makes a change. Everyone seems to only talk about the reamer side like we are just airy airy but we are idealists that can see how beautiul the world could be if it wasn't run by psycho's who exploit everything or money. The other thing is making out we all have mental problems,well one reason that we get depressed is because being sensitive and idealistic the world seems cruel when we know how it could be better if people would listen.

[@fayray6698]

Reading this is just like seeing my thoughts. I suffer with depression and when I try to talk to other ppl about my problems they just simply dont understand me, they dont get the pain i feel looking at this world (at the big picture but also at ppl around me) It just hurts me how world can be cruel and unfair and it hurts even more that some ppl dont want to even acknowledge that and they keep doing what they are doing even if its harming and hurtful to others. And when I tell sameone about this and they go "well I dont care about this and you shouldnt either, u cant do anything about this" (Congratualtions u made me feel so much worse) and I just want world to be beautiful place where we all can spread good, it would be so much better place. Actually your comment made my day cause for the first time in sooooo long I felt understood, im so happy there are still ppl that see the injustice in this world and also want a change. U made me smile. Thank you sooooo much.

[@victoriacampbell5877]

@@fayray6698 I get you

[@Terrazona929]

I was suffering with depression for years-barely hanging on. I had a therapist and psychiatrist but it wasn’t until I got involved in Peer-facilitated mental health recovery and strengths-based wellness groups (and yes there is such a thing as Mental Health Recovery!) about a year and a half ago, that I started feeling better- I feel heard, understood, validated and accepted for who I am. Most importantly I can contribute and help others. I am now trained as a Peer Support Specialist and facilitate groups that teach recovery and wellness tools! My faith in humanity is renewed I used to be afraid of my feelings and what was going to happen “TO me”. Now I am excited about life and what is unfolding FOR me-AND what I bring to the table. 👍 There’s probably a mental health recovery “clubhouse” or other organization in your area. Maybe find it through NAMI. I hate to see people suffer unnecessarily. (And of course as a fellow INFP I love solutions!) “May you be happy, May you be well. May you be safe and sound. May you be peaceful. May you be at ease, with love in your heart and all around.” -Loving Kindness Song.

[@fayray6698]

@@Terrazona929 Thank you soooo much for your help. Im actually not from USA, im from Europe (from not too well developed country). Some time ago I actually reached out for help to the therapist and even when my family tried to stop me from doing that I gave myself a chance. Now I feel a little bit better, i understand myself better and I dont feel like a total freak (i feel just like a regular freak now hahah) I felt hopeless not so long ago but now I feel better and I even started to see future for myself in this world, I try to always look for good things, I uninstaled social media, I stopped to watch tv, I just live in my world and I try to enjoy it. I know it might seem selfish but I just needed to close my eyes for the world and open them just for myself for a while. I cant change the whole world and I know that (sadly) but I can try to change for better my small world around me and thats what im doing. For sure I still get in those darker periods where I feel soooo bad but now I at least now that there is hope and that I will be okay one day. I know there is recovery because Im going through it right now. One more time, thank you soooo much for help and I wish you a blessed day.

[@Terrazona929]

Wiktoria Jakubowska I’m sending you well wishes and that you will find connections with healing and empowering groups that support you on your wellness journey.

[@mayumi6151]

I cracked at the part where he said INFJs act mad to get things moving. I literally shut my doors, deactivate all my accounts, go MIA and don't talk to anyone. I actually thought I'm so toxic for doing this. Turns out it's just one of my infj tendencies haha

[@metametodo]

Same. I never knew that, I feel less alone because of this. I feel worthless and toxic not being able to get things going while also, right after that, isolating myself from people I love.

[@yamsang0__0]

Not throwing shade but just because its a tendency doesn’t mean its not toxic

[@nebulasofia]

Same! I have that tendency since I was a child. Tho I'm learning how to fix that.

[@ShawnDavid91]

I've recently learned that Anger is the fuel that drives me to overcome. My anger transform, creates and destroys (it's a double edged sword). It gets shit done one way or another but it need to tempered. Shit is terrifying even for me. I (really, really) try to use it with extreme control.

[@annibrowning868]

And yet nobody would ever say that infj's are even slightly toxic! 😆

[@swastii]

This only confused me more. I relate to both.

[@1029blue]

What comes more naturally to you? People can be a lot of ways, but some things come more naturally to certain people than others. Frank James also has videos on INFJ vs INFP.

[@amypetra5021]

Yes, I must agree. I’m very both. I’m a rebel, I’m a writer. I’m quiet, I’m opinionated. I care very much about people (I’m a caregiver for dementia people), I live by my ideas. People find me hard to read, people say I listen well. I’m very tenacious, I’m not getting things done. See? Is it possible to be both? I’m still confused but tested as an INFP, hmmm

[@duaa7576]

Watch Clay Arnall’s video on the INFJ. You might want to check C.S Joseph out too

[@amypetra5021]

@@duaa7576 thank you 🙏🏻

[@RoxyYTP]

You are an INFPJ

[@amelian9677]

I mistyped as an INFJ in the past because I was in a really demanding authoritarian environment where I had to put a lid on my spontaneity, and recently learned I’m INFP. If I’d had this video back then, it would have cleared things up for me much sooner!! The explanation about the one consistent feeling versus the constant adjustment, assessment and adaptation of feelings in the current situation, and the contrast between the long term vision for society versus the goal of living out personal values in every situation were the most obvious distinctions for me. Great stuff! Two great types too.

[@Cpizzo82]

I took this test years ago & bordered on the "thinking vs feeling" aspect. Now, I'm finding it difficult to "categorize" myself as an INFJ or INFP (so far every test I took the % were extremely close, flip-flopping between J & P). IMO, it's silly to try to put 1 label on your personality, given that there are so many traits that can "blur" at any given point & time causing overlapping to occur in certain areas. However, we must also take into account other aspects such as mental health/wellness, past experiences, etc...I've struggled w depression, prior addiction, indecisiveness, etc and these all make it even more confusing. Anyway, thank you for the explanation (especially the last few minutes explaining growth) 🙂

[@kylieberk6220]

INFPs are often mistyped as INFJs, but INFJs are infrequently mistyped as INFPs, if that helps at all.

[@johnstorton]

INFJ here. There are a couple of things I do differently than what this video describes. I'm usually slow to start a project. I spend time thinking about it. I think about how to go about it. I spend time contemplating the how the finished project will look. When I come up with a design, I sit back and wait for another idea to weigh against what I've already come up with. I ask myself if there are drawbacks to the project. I ask myself if it's all worth it. - BUT - Once I've finally decided that I like what's in my head, I get going on it, and stay with it diligently until it's done. My perfectionism won't allow me to do a crappy "good enough" job. When there are things that NEED to be done, I get it done as soon as I can so that I don't have to think about it anymore.

[@sinatrablue7474]

This is the clearest, most resonating description of the INFP I have ever heard/read. The contrasts were explained in such a neat way, thank you!

[@starknit]

i am now pretty sure im an infj with the points: - calculating/predicting outcomes - at worst: one track mind, disregarding important messages and people - at worst part 2: choosing the easy way to get things done... that was basically my survival strategy towards the end of 1st yr college - the helper, but subtle/dont ask recognition for it this video really helped my confusion. i used to type as infp but i had my doubts when i realized that i get too controlling of my environment when it's not according to the big plan i have in mind. thank you mr erik!

[@lionamlokote3769]

You were clear. I'm INFJ for sure, and its not something to brag about , its tough, you feel like you're always out of place and noone can understand you.

[@Coneman3]

It seems the INFJ is looking for objective truths and goals, whereas the INFP is looking within for answers rather than outside. I think INFP are internally focussed on the now whereas INFJ are externally focussed on the future (and how it relates to the past).

[@Alt-a-k5g]

I just cannot tell if I'm INFJ or INFP. I feel like I have a lot in common with INFJ but there are a few things that I'm absolutely not and lean more towards INFP in that. For example, obsession about a particular project. I tend to take a lot on my plate but can never finish it and am quite disorganised.

[@Alt-a-k5g]

@Sudo Sudo I make decisions and often second guess myself a lot but I never change mind even though I'm in a lot of doubt

[@haileyk4772]

same here !

[@AndreasDevig]

How do you feel about Donald Trumps? This is how you settle it. Option #1: I may or may not agree with his politics, but, I do admire that he's a go-getter. He gets shit done. He's a man's man. He's a real man. Option #2: I may or may not agree with his politics, but, well.. He makes me want to throw up, and then eat my throw up, and then throw it up again. So which one did you pick?

[@bishuthought]

Andreas Devig Which type are you if you choose 2 lmao

[@AndreasDevig]

@@bishuthought Is that your final choice?

[@TPot1222]

“Go your own way You can call it Another lonely day You can go your own way Go your own way”... but, no one will follow you, so hope you enjoy isolation 😬😂💁🏼‍♀️ -INFP theme song

[@PlumGustave]

😂

[@meghana1113]

🤣🤣

[@thecreaturescorner539]

Yes 😆🙂😞😢

[@mules8662]

I was already leaning more towards INFJ and now I’m absolutely certain I was right. Although I can relate to plenty of INFP traits.

[@mysticat7652]

Yes, I'm still uncertain. INFJ- or INFP? Both I think. 🤔

[@mysticat7652]

Interestingly if you look at all 8 functions of INFJ- including the shadow functions- they are indeed the INFP's primary functions. (Ni,Fe,Ti,Se,Ne,Fi,Te,Si) So INFJ in shadow is INFP! Maybe that's it. We're doing our shadow side. 🤔

[@dianamlv]

I mean you won't always react to certain situations as "a specific personality" from the 16 ones we use in the mbti, because as humans we can't necessarily be catogorized into one personality. You can use different functions in different situations I might be more extroverted in certain situations and introverted in other stuff (that's the simplest explanation I can try giving that makes sense). What I believe the Myers Briggs helps us in is understanding what we normally are more comfortable doing things in.

[@Ana.445x]

I know that i am both

[@Ana.445x]

@@dianamlv perfect

[@soulfulspec]

@@mysticat7652 enfp is the infj shadow, not infp.

[@realisrare8310]

INFJ here. My daughter is an INFP. My wife an ENFP.

[@MsMayanova]

I'm on the cusp, and at times feel confused as I have INFP aspects (like the creative pursuit of authentic expression), but listening to this I definitely relate more to INFJ, so thank you. My son is ENFP - I love him so much and I love his capacity for intimacy and connection, but he drives me insane - he is so hectic and disorganised, always late, total rebel and social misfit...

[@astrid2885]

I'm an INFP with an INFJ alter ego. Hahaha! There are a couple things that strongly suggest I'm an INFP and I identify myself as such. But I can say that the J appears quite often so, I think I have strong ambivert qualities (it sounds a bit cocky, but I'm not saying it that way) because I jump back and forth between the two often. To sum it up, good luck to those around me trying to figure me out... 😂😂😂

[@MultiSadgasm]

I feel the same way; sort of like a yin-yang thing

[@Petig2002]

Oh yeah, me too, definitely!! @@MultiSadgasm

[@Petig2002]

I often feel like an INFP with strong Fe... though this is impossible if I understood the concept correctly haha

[@allbeing24]

Same.

[@sugaloveCAFE]

your zodiac sun sign can play a role in that

[@macoeur1122]

O.k....after listening to the whole thing, I still feel I'm very close to being BOTH in many aspects....but still feel INFP is my "natural state"....But I've long since grown out of the disorganization and lack of discipline...I don't think I know anyone more disciplined than I am.....But I WOULD LOVE to just take a long "vacay" and screw off and get nothing done for a couple of weeks...and not be accountable to anyone for anything. It's not like I want to live this way 24/7....I've learned the benefits of self-discipline....but have gone a step further and had to learn the downsides of pushing oneself too hard. Thanks for trying to clear up this question, but no matter how many videos I watch, or things I read, or tests I take...it usually ends up exactly where I've ended up after watching this video....namely, "I'm about 75% certain I'm an INFP....but have been forced by life to become more "rounded out", and thus probably "appear" as an INFJ to the casual observer.

[@ErikThor]

It's good that you can feel INFP is your natural state, and that's the point, P vs J is a difference of who you are in stress, and its a sign of where you show control, and where you show a lack of control. INFPs tend to show a lack of control over their own ideas and vision and feelings.

[@ajj774]

MaCoeur You could be INFJ too though... when you were younger that side of you may have not been fully developed..

[@Najd32]

I know you wrote this a long time ago but I’m curious to as how you became disciplined as an infp, I’m an infp myself but I dislike this aspect and I’m trying to change it but its so hard.

[@macoeur1122]

@@Najd32 I think enough people pushed my "idealism" buttons and made me angry enough that I made it a priority to learn how the rest of the world "ticked" and what it "values" and "why" in order to be taken more seriously. It's a bit like mastering the "credit score game"....(which I've also done)... There's an algorithm that is designed to assess credit risk, based on credit history...debt to credit ratio...number and types of credit accounts...late payments or lack of late payments...etc...and "maybe" it's somewhat effective in assessing "actual" risk in a very broad way across the entire population...but even though my credit score is about as high as it can be, I'm probably no less a risk than many others with a lower score...I've just taken their algorithm and played it to my advantage. (The result is that I get access to better interest rates....better insurance rates, etc.) but algorithms have some serious downsides..They're dehumanizing and often just "wrong"...and they drive me nuts as an INFP....Just as the over-simplified way the world thinks it can extrapolate the general "value" of people, based on certain behaviors ...such as willingness to "play the game" (an often dysfunctional one)..and in the process, seems to be creating boring "cookie-cutter part- humans". Basically, I figured out if you're "winning the game" , it's a lot harder for people to criticize your values and question your ways of doing things.

[@anandaalvarez4336]

@@macoeur1122 goddamned that is so acurrate to what I do, never thought someone would express it that way

[@Petig2002]

I have the impression that INFJs are much more active as far as shaping the surrounding is concerned. They take action when it comes to organising meetings, they initiate discussions on how things will and shall be done, they talk about time frames... INFPs, on the other hand, appear much more passive. It is very rarely that they actively try to influence what is happening around them, which is probably due to their adaptable nature. I have never experienced myself as very flexible, adaptable or sponatenous because as an introvert, I often need time to adjust to new stuff and changes in my daily routines can cause me stress when I feel overwhelmed already, but when I started to talk to judging types, I figured out how much they need to shape and structure the world around them to know what they will have to expect that it became clear to me how often I adapt (unconsciously, even) on a daily basis without it causing me any stress or discomfort. Thank you for your contributions, Erik :) I love it

[@ErikThor]

Yeah and the INFPs usually ask me to organize things for them :p

[@Petig2002]

@@ErikThor hahaha, yes, that sounds familiar :) and I love the way you INFJs organise stuff for us. I never get the feeling of being controlled or that you just take over :)

[@skyblazeeterno]

@@Petig2002 that organisation can easily fall into control after a while

[@amypetra5021]

Here’s what I say to INFP, “yes that’s me” here’s what I say to INFJ, “yes that’s me”. I’ve watched yt videos and a lot of INFP’s and a lot of INFJ’s and I truly look 50/50. It often overlaps. I do shut down when I feel like other people think what I’m doing or saying is weird. I often question if what I’m doing is the right thing to do. I do rebel at unfairness. I do try to help the underdog. I do ignore rules I think are arbitrary. I do question my motives. I often procrastinate. I do lose track of everything going on around me, and often I’m in my head dreaming about this or that. I’m terrible about planning my time. I’m content when I’m alone and feel no distress about it. And what is the difference between the ability of an INFP and an INFJ’s to accurately read the undercurrent of a situation, to “see” what’s really happening? Which one compromises themselves more? Which one is better at sensing that a person is more than their words reveal? And usually it’s the person is in distress of some kind and is hiding it. I usually don’t know the person. Also, the other way, like when a person has something dark beneath the confident, well liked persona and I may warn someone but people think I nuts until the truth comes out. I’m truly confused about my true type. Is there another way to really know?

[@beautifulbutterfly5578]

I am INFJ, I am loving to watch INFPs, love them very much.

[@xanna99]

You literally said the same things I always say, truly amazing! After a lot of research I'm now sure im an INFP, no doubt, thank you so much Erik

[@tanyasantana4641]

IM NOT CRAZY I NEW IT

[@cynthialewis5762]

Thank you! This came at a perfect time for me. I am an Infp my adult daughter an Infj. I want to understand each of us better. And maybe how to work together.

[@ErikThor]

Awesome Cynthia! Which differences did you relate to the most?

[@cynthialewis5762]

@@ErikThor For the INFJ I related to her focus. She is capable staying focused on one art project for years until it is complete in her mind. For me I related to keeping options open.

[@Sophira1]

That is exactly why I watched this too Cynthia! I am INFP and my daughter is INFJ too. It is an interesting combination for sure!

[@joanneswyckmans5921]

me watching at 11 minutes, I think I am a Siamese twin of infp and infj. I often hear myself discussing on doing thing the infj or infp way...

[@Bongoagain]

I am very much an INFP. I keep taking personality tests and hoping it comes out different but I get the same result each time. I also notice I talk over people and don't really ask them about themselves. The hardest part about being INFP for me is not feeling like I accomplished anything even when I have things in my life I did that say otherwise.

[@mjade1673]

Wow!😃 You're website is incredibly impressive, fascinating, accurate and useful! What beautiful work you have done!🙏 I sat on the infp shadow article for months! (I was sick with mono). Today after reading it and deciding to search for an article on who is enfj's shadow. I navigated to the site and I'm immersed in a wonderful whole new world! Your revolutionary work is life-affirming. A well-spring of positive possibility! Am i getting across how incredibly useful and beneficial this work and the access to it is?😇✌ I still remember a few years ago hearing you say you were doing something different to better this. I remember how exciting that was. I remember believing in you. Because it was evident how excited you were, how concrete your base ideas were. And that you had already begun enough work on it to know it was going somewhere great!💞🙏💞 The initiative has not disappointed, Bravo!!🎉🎊🏆 Back to the article. You are so right. And i have a great enfj friend. Who has a very mentor vibe in my life. All if them do. I have a couple. They all are natural and very motivated mentors. But yes everything you describe happens in our dynamic and it is incredibly useful to me. Which is very special in my closed off infp world.🙏 Accuracy. You've achieved that👍. You've taken an incredibly deep look behind this system and revealed us so many gifts. I especially love that list Fj is a giver Fi is a Utopian, etc. As a benifitor I thank you. As an observer I applaude you 👏🙏💪

[@ErikThor]

Oh my god MJade, your comments make me really happy, thank you so much for taking your time to write and appreciate my work! Le t me know if you have any questions and I hope to hear from you again in the future. :)

[@cazbee6126]

My fave vid of yours yet! Loved the stuff on INFJ in times of stress. After 30 years of adulthood I can talk about my feelings and suffering - but I still don't like to get emotional about it.

[@glassanddiaphane]

This helped me clarify I’m an INFJ for sure. I do have some INFP traits tho.

[@NeighborhoodOfBlue]

My partner is INFP and I am INFJ, and you really hit the nail on the head with my being the creative developer and him being the creative editor. I never really thought of it like that before, but applying that lense to how we approach life really makes sense.

[@SusanRBrown-ey5hz]

Absolutely love your channel. I'm an infp(tested 4 times in a year...1st was infj..n last 3 were infp.)!!! Thanks for all the time you've taken for these videos, blogs, n posts!!!

[@Terrazona929]

Excellent video explaining this Erik Thor!... How you Going explained all the aspects of personality, how we function (or disfunction) during stress and how we function at our best, was so clarifying for me. I really hate all the stupid stereotypes of INFPs that portray us just as being overly-sensitive poets or always in some fantasy land. (Although I do like Haikus and wish I could live on the Enterprise 😁. Everyone seems to miss our sense of humor!). Thank you so much for getting to the substance. I am an INFP at my best right now, inspired by a worthy cause. I am enjoying the experience of what is unfolding and I’m super proud of myself for making all my appointments and being organized and prepared. I like being responsible and that others can count on me. I’ve also learned not to overcommit and leave a lot of room for flexibility and time to rest and regroup. 👍😊💗

[@sinatrablue7474]

So well put!

[@kimuyentran8705]

Thanks so much for clarifying and highlighting the differences! I am definitely an INFP, but is starting to incorporate more IMFJ traits-- so I guess I’m growing!

[@bananabreadloaf]

My melancholic thing I always carried was wanting to be loved and for the world to be what I wanted for me and everyone else. Two separate things. I focused on how much I wanted to find my soulmate as no one in my life was good for me from birth onward, and I pictured that want In the better vision for the world I wanted to happen as well. I found my soulmate at 20 (not many years ago) and have been able to more focus on what I want to do for the world now since I’ve found love to feel from someone, and not just for them. I was never afraid to die before, but when I found him I realized what it is to have something to lose to keep living for, not just hold out hope for as a motivation to keep living.

[@amykemp3450]

this helped me so much! I was so confused before this video but now I'm 99% sure I'm infp! thank you for taking the time to share your awesome knowledge!

[@tofusamurai22]

INFJ here; mistyped as INTJ for some time. I have leaned on Ti more than Fe. Fe is something I love using when interacting with people I actually want to be around, and something that causes me discomfort (sometimes great discomfort!) when having to interact with people I'd rather not (i.e. bad vibes). One of my occupations is in sales, so I can't walk away either... Still learning! ^_^

[@fluffyclouds555]

tofusamurai22 I get you. Same same. You can’t even deny a bad vibe. I want to run & sometimes even feel a vague sense of danger

[@666chuckd]

I love your videos. Have tested as INFP but always thought I was an INFJ. You are so insightful. I’m definitely an INFP. I’ve been trying to gather the vision to be more true to myself and my higher purpose. Thank you for helping me see myself.

[@nvk743]

I'm an INFJ and my twin sister is INFP. We are losing our minds because of how accurate this video is! I wish you were more mean here with us under stress 😅. We both are in high stress and behaving exactly as described! Thank you so much!

[@nellautumngirl]

It's weird, at first I thought I was an INFJ but after looking into it deeper, I'm definitely an INFP-T. It's weird, I really like INFJs, I admire their wisdom, humour and gentle nature, but I don't feel particularly close to them, more like a distant cousin :D One letter makes such a huge difference!

[@lostangel3852]

Wow. THANKS for the clearest explanation and most resonating descriptions I have ever heard on my INFP type! I admire your ability to get into the heads of each type as you explain very detailed particular ways INFJs & INFPs process & focus on their respective experiences of the world, their tendencies focuses & filters. I laughed out loud in recognition. 😂

[@angelus_solus]

I re-watched your video, and watched a few other INFJ vs INFP videos, and have discovered that I am most certainly an INFJ...only my shadow functions seem to be operating more strongly than in other people, which is why It seems I display INFP traits at times.

[@lorriest.pierre7713]

Very helpful. Thank you! INFJ finally I know.

[@ariadgaia5932]

"INFPs are Rebels"... HA!! Yep! That's me! XD

[@dianadias3]

Go against society.. yes! xD

[@joannesfishininthered1172]

Maybe a bit of a reble😉lol

[@someoneonyoutube8622]

Yeah that’s totally not me (he says sarcastically)

[@ashtintsosie657]

Thank you. I have been going back and forth between INFP and INFJ. But now I can see I am INFJ. The thing that really helped me see this was the point that INFJ sees other options that might not be popular but it could be the new path or the path that should be the one that everyone should take.

[@hkqtt]

Ashtin Tsosie wait I thought he said that was the infp insight, the infj was more interested in following a path they have calculated

[@Shinebakaaho]

Fascinating how deep you can explain someone's soul. I spend big time analising myself and yet so much I can't understand, but you explain it all. Feels like you are reading and seeing right throw me and yet you don't even know I exist, wich leads to the obvious conclusion there's a hole group of people who operates just the same. Interesting perspective, I've always look at myself as an aliens that end up in here for some reason I regret and wanna take back. Are there other aliens then, somewhere, whose mind work exactly like mine? That's interesting. Maybe as much as finally understanding so much of myself that I can't properly classify on me, is this view of maybe not being so alone after all. Your vids either generates a feeling of "it's okay to be who you are" which allows me to breath like "holly fuck, I might not be as fucked up as I was lead to belive" and also a though of "wait, I'm not the only one?" I'm a fucking rock and you can go this deep, can only imagine how many lives you saved by now and don't even know about..

[@jesusisthetruth4497]

Shinebakaaho Jesus

[@albaserranogimenez2649]

Definitely an INFP, but more melancholic than phlematic. And now that I am in quite a good moment, I'm also experiencing some INFJ traits, like the ability to focus in one long project if it is very important to me. But this makes me loose track of my sleeping, meditating, eating habits... I feel like I have to choose between following my dreams and having healthy habits and routines 🤷🏻‍♀️ How can I do both?

[@ST-mv8ki]

I feel you! Stopped doing yoga completely (i was doing yoga every day for the last 3 years) because a big exam came up. coping with stress by skipping the stress coping mechanism can't be the solution...

[@duchessdelarue5983]

So I often score 51/49 or 49/51 on these and never sure which one is really me. But I think a P because what I feel is more important to me than what others feel about me. Did I get that right?

[@Ancoraludel]

Thank you. I watched a lot of videos to determine the last trait, but you're the first one that made it clear.

[@ErikThor]

Glad to hear 😊

[@lvt2050]

Thank you for you video! Really great stuff. On tests I am usually INFP or INFJ, here I still recognize myself in both groups. I have a lot of different ideas and then I focus on the only one for a long time, however stress put me in INFP. I do believe that it is possible to be both, in a sense that in 55% of situation you will be INFP but in 45 you might react like INFJ , or that someone will act as INFP in 30% and also 70% as INFJ. Like Mayers personality types are extreme (distribution peak) but the people can be in between so combination of two distribution.

[@Chris500000]

You’re a master at this, Eric! Thanks to you, I finally know I am an INFP. ❤️

[@GunGryphon]

I've watched several videos, each describing traits on both sides that I heavily exhibit, but I've found this one to make things much clearer. What I gather, I think im an INFJ, but through training I've aquired displayed INFP traits to make it hard to distinguish.

[@stephyLynn7]

I’m an INFP in love with an INFJ and he is the one that grounds me. And I open him up. It’s a really cool dynamic.

[@bokononlives9071]

Thanks, this was really helpful. I'm pretty certain I'm an INFP and I almost always test as one. I still question it though, and I guess there's a part of me that still hopes I'm not one. But when you pointed out that the INFP is the guy that's bringing the perspective of what could we do differently, or how could we make this better, or hey guys have you seen this, we could do this instead etc. you pretty much nailed it. I love when I can bring that to the tribe and it's when I feel the best. I spend a lot of time thinking about optimization and why things went wrong and how to do it better. I also related to your description of an unhealthy INFP or the INFP under stress. That's exactly how I handle it. I also like how you said the INFJ and INFP can look similar during a growth period as I do see some of those INFJ traits in myself when I'm at my best.

[@katemcdonald6134]

I'm an INFP-A (Assertive) which fits me to a T. The more I read the more I go "OMG....that explains a lot."

[@ana_yuna_8431]

I love hearing your voice, it like calms you down

[@skyblazeeterno]

The best and quickest way to differentiate between infj and infp is this....infjs dream of the perfect job and will sacrifice a relationship for it....infps dream of a perfect relationship and will sacrifice a job for it

[@joannesfishininthered1172]

skyblaze eterno I agree!

[@georgiewheldon7409]

That settles it then, I am an INFJ haha

[@kristenbloomer5614]

infp:) really appreciate what you do. thank u for this.

[@PlumGustave]

I’ve done 3 separate tests over about 2 years all concluding I’m INFP. Algorithms though seem to believe I’m INFJ 🤔 Listening to this I definitely identify with both...

[@YozoraYue]

Thank you for this. I am now confident that I am an INFP.

[@chickedeedee292]

Very insightful, articulate, informative and knowledgeable.

[@jennifermcmann8691]

First time here. Love you already- the way you so effortlessly break down the information in a way easy to wrap my brain around IA impressive and most appreciated. Thank you.

[@Novakiller]

Your preview was exactly for me! Still in the same boat due to identifying strongly with parts of both types! Leaning more to the P than J the more I learn. Your examples are very helpful! Also liked “In growth” I have changed a ton over the years… 👏🙏🤘

[@Chokoboh]

It still is interesting. I did and still do identify as an INFJ, even after double, triple and quadruple checking several times but i DO share many similarities with the INFP type. Some things you said that INFPs want, are also concerns of me. I do value my individualism very strongly and do not bend to rules or expectations that do not allign with my values and morals. As an Aries born, i do not tell people what they want to hear, i tell them what they deserve to hear. I tell them what they need to hear to improve. I usually am brutally honest with what i say and don't think about "how does it not hurt their feelings if i say this?" I ask myself "how do i make my point perfectly clear to them and make them realize what they missed?" After all, i'm not trying to win a popularity contest, i'm trying to better my surroundings and by extension, the world. Just don't get the impression here that i'm always challenging everyone. I'm usually rather quiet, friendly and nice, as long as i have no reason to do otherwise. I'm clearly goal-oriented and have an ADHD-like hyper focus when it's about a task or topic that peaks my interest, and when i have to deal with something i don't have interest in, i often find myself procrastinating and/or dazing off, thinking about completely unrelated things or about my next objectives and whatever. Just cannot for the life of me focus on things that i simply have no interest in. I always need that carrot in front of my nose to move forward. Otherwise, i save the energy for more rewarding activities. :P I have a blooming imagination, everyone around me used to say that when i was a child. Do have a high IQ, too. Sadly, our society didn't encourage my talents at all, they instead did irreparable damage to me and i soon dropped hard and ended up depressed and jobless. My parents were really bad at being parents, too. So naturally, i was set up for failure from the very start. But i got better and now i'm in the lucky position that i do not need a job to survive where i live. I can just go after the activities that i choose and i don't even want anymore money than i need. Money is a bad concept that encourages greed and corruption in the world, imo. If i had too much, i'd give it to the homeless in town or something. Hoarding it does more damage than it does good. I'm happy as long as i have 4 walls and a roof, can pay my bills, my food and as long as i have a running PC with Internet. I always wanted to have kids someday, since i'm the last of my blood who can, but i guess that's it then. Humanity has most likely successfully made my bloodline go extinct. Congratulations. Not that humanity has any need for insightful thinkers like me. They'd rather have another sheep which works hard and never complains than an odd wolf who makes his own decisions and contributions. Or have another greedy, corrupt politician. Yes i know, they are oh so loved by community. I dunno how the world can be THIS wrong that these guys are successful in life, but i get mobbed and almost driven to suicide. I might get a job one day to try getting something going and to actually contribute something useful to society, but that depends on the employer and the work that i'd do there. It's not my fault that they all wanna force me to become a silent cogwheel worker bee zombie, when i'm in fact a fully functioning machine on my own, a renegade killer wasp. I'd rather stay my whole life jobless than become someones bitch and work my ass off doing something i don't wanna do at all. My lifetime is the most precious thing i have and once spent, it never comes back. Thats why i rather use it for something that has value for myself now. They screwed me over, now they pay me and are my bitches instead. I call that compensatory justice. Call me a parasite if you want, i don't care. I'm just a mirror. If you're nice to me, i'll always be nice to you. If you're not, then... your fault.

[@nicholassookdeo9441]

As an INFP. i feel very attacked and understood

[@TRBSTRG]

Cool profile pic, where can I find it?

[@suzannehutnick2662]

Best video I’ve seen on this topic. I now really know that I’m an INFP. Thanks Erik!

[@Workingclassdad]

I write individual letters to my children and wife every month and sit down with each one to review them. This has been consistent for years. We talk about only them. The good, the bad, and the ugly. I also wrote a book about it. Working Class Dad. Not promoting the book, but just confirmation on being an INFJ. The world makes sense now. ☺️

[@amelia1292]

I test pretty much 50/50 between INFJ and INFP but it typically leans a couple percentages towards INFP. It was really good to listen to you. With everything I've researched I related more to INFJ even though there's a good chunk I relate to with INFP. I think my test results end up skewed due to my struggles with anxiety and depression. I'm not the best at knowing how I feel and am constantly looking to the future instead of focusing on what's right in front of me. I took the test on your site just now and got ENTJ haaaa (the E/I @ 55% and the T/F @ 52.5%). I've tested as ENFP before too. Idk man at least the N is always the same ^^; Tests aren't my forte. XD out of them all I still relate to INFJ most. (I read about the types often to help build characters in my writing.)

[@KiaMiaProductions]

The way you described them both. I resonate with both. More so with INFP, definitely.

[@pash9956]

Right off the bat I realized I'm an INFJ from your first point. Thank you for clarifying so quickly.♡♡♡

[@IndieAuthorX]

Looking forward to it. I am not really questioning anything, but I always like these videos!

[@ErikThor]

Really, this series is all about helping people get better at identifying and typing others and understanding each others a little better, that's my goal with it at least! :)

[@IndieAuthorX]

@@ErikThor I used to get INTP and INFP a lot. It did not help that I usually get a 5 on the enneagram.

[@mandyvincent1439]

I am INFJ married to an INFP. We are well matched, somehow. From your videos, I have come to understand that I seem to well balanced and have helped my INFP mate feel comfortable with finding and voicing himself. Thank you for your videos.

[@ErikThor]

INFJ and INFP is a common match. Glad to hear you can help each other. :)

[@mandyvincent1439]

It is a common match? I have heard many INFJs say that the 'holy grail' is to be in a match with another INFJ. It wasn't for me. We both love the information you give in the videos we have watched. I am also watching for my niece who is INTJ.

[@afri4443]

these vids make me love myself more. infp 🙋🏽‍♀️

[@JuliaNileen]

Thank you so much for this video! 🙏 I really was struggling, to finally point out, which type I am, between these two (and the test results unhelpfully were just confirming that) I love the way you're talking about it - even when showing off the types at their worst, it goes in smoothly and kind of a cute n funny way - recognizing your own flaws and auto functions, when stressed.. for example. ;-) Kudos.

[@dagnabbitt1158]

I had to watch the entire video, and by the end there was no doubt. Thanks, excellent job.

[@glyzelcarmona5948]

Was INTJ but recently took the test again and ended to be an INFJ and got myself reading more on it. The video is well-detailed, even encouraging somehow since I've been slightly frustrated for feeling so different haha so thank you!!

[@Dischordalchorous]

It's hardest to begin.

[@nebulasofia]

Thank you so much. This made me confirm (like 10 time again lol) that I'm an infj. Also this 17:38 Is so relatable, specifically when I'm a 9w1 lmao.

[@kenyangirlie]

Oh my goodness I LOVE this its so clear I am now sure I am INFP because I am concerned about values, phlegmatic, definitely not a helper, not a statistician, people are usually surprised by how strongly I feel about things, have been fake choleric, I procrastinate when stressed, struggle with discipline 🤣. I am currently working on myself and growing probably why I thought I was infj

[@nehadhurwey503]

Untamed fan I see.

[@kenyangirlie]

@@nehadhurwey503 yes, wangxian are my favourite characters ever

[@nehadhurwey503]

@@kenyangirlie you meant character zhanwuxian or actors wangzhan.

[@kenyangirlie]

@@nehadhurwey503 I love the actual characters but the untamed actors did a great job portraying them. Wei Wuxian is my guardian angel and spirit animal 😆💞

[@kenyangirlie]

@@nehadhurwey503 did you love the show?

[@MaritsaDarman]

You made a good point about holding onto an emotion for a long time that is Fi introverting feeling and why mbti made a mistake. INFJ are FiNe

[@GM-je1vw]

Thank you so much for these incredible and so true explanations. An INFP.

[@fri9ndo886]

Great video! Made it clear to me which I am better than anything else I’ve found so far. Thanks!!!

[@analezaa6306]

I had seen 2 videos by 3 people that commented that INFP's are always moving. And I'm not always moving my body so I got confused. But I'm definitely an INFP from listening to your clarification.

[@MM-vg4du]

Thanks very much. I am still confused- I have both type of cognitive functioning and dysfunctional patterns you described for both INFJ and IN FP. And in different environments over 5 years, my personality type changed from INTJ to INFP based on the MBTI tests Meanwhile, I am quite sure that I am INFJ-Can’t multitask whatsoever. Can you explain more about the judging vs perceiving.? . And any practical advice for both type to experience less suffering and grow more healthily ?

[@omarvanderloo7270]

Great explanation Erik I really like your videos they are clear and understandable thank you for doing this because of you I got i MBTI thank you

[@mortymordorwubbalubbadubdu703]

so am I an INFJ at the worst 😪 or a chaotic INFP ? I'm struggling with (obsessively) trying typing myself from more than a year 😔 If I just could get over this...

[@esrath2212]

I feel you

[@proquo-s]

If you're thinking THIS long trying to sort out your feelings you've got to be an INFJ. Constantly re-evaluating yourself is your Judging function trying to settle on one conclusion, it's just that you're lacking a bit of faith in your own judgment.

[@nataliebutler]

Wow, it's not that important in the scheme of things and won't make much difference to your life anyway.

[@rog.1894]

INFP. Thank you so much for your insight!!!!!

[@verntoews6937]

Thank-you for mentioning the 4 humors in us all in various orders and amounts being the lowest common denominator for everyone's diversity Phlegmatic the super introvert who keeps an internal record of observing the outside world in the present tense. Melancholy, the ordinary introvert mastermind who keeps an internal record of an internal focus on mind and emotions. 2introverts, 1 outward focus 1 inner focused Big difference here 2 extroverts Choleric, the ordinary extrovert, ready to physically and mentally react to any situation in the outside world they are focused on. Choleric and phlegmatic focused outward on the material world The melancholy and sanguine are both focused on the inner world of mind and emotions. The sanguine by contrast to the melancholy although they too first draw on mind and emotions to decide which extroverted activities would coincide with their inner inspiration in contrast to the other extrovert the choleric activities are reactionary to external conditions, although they use their remaining 3 temperaments less in prominence to be productive and plan for future advancement I think the most important divide is between the material focused phlegmatic and choleric And the internally focused sanguine and melancholy I think the Jewish Pharisees were predominantly phlegmatic and choleric and their opposition the Christ as well as the prodigal son were both melancholy and sanguine in predominance. The phlegmatic choleric want tradition no forgiveness of sins The melancholy sanguine are for change and forgiveness Show me a good finish carpenter and I'll show you a predominance of melancholy sanguine All 4 are of god and have a specific purpose and all can be good spiritual or bad carnal

[@evilgod1535]

Im still screwed between two 🤒

[@ennelbimoreno5877]

As an unhealthy infp I can relate and I don't know how to put my life together and now I'm crying lol

[@Cpizzo82]

@@Terrazona929 I'm finding it difficult to "categorize" myself as an INFJ or INFP (every test I took the % were extremely close). I know it's not so much about a true definition of oneself & overlapping is going to occur in certain areas no matter what. However, I've been struggling w depression, prior addiction, indecisiveness, etc and Idk what it is but your comment just gave me some hope (so Thank you, lol). I have my AA in Social/Behavioral Sciences & Education and I didn't even know there were such opportunites out there. I'm so glad you found your calling & I would love to learn more about what you do. 🤍

[@marowarahman775]

You really explained it well! Finally I got to know that I'm an infp. I love you!😀

[@cancersh]

It was so much fun and hearing from you was not offending at all.

[@kelleysueofthemountians]

A great video, all my close friends need to watch this and understand why I am backing out of commitments.... lol

[@curiouselephant1573]

I love this video it has brought me to tears...I am infp and everything you said touched my heart. It is strange in an amazing way that you know so much and everything about how I operate in ways that I wouldn't have known if it weren't for you! so thank you so much. I first found out about this test by my therapist who is also my best friend and since have tried to understand it more... your videos are perfect and help me feel not alone and understood better by others and myself. Thank you again for the beautiful and special videos

[@natasdabsi1138]

this.

[@josephaether377]

very smart elucidation... i'm impressed (not that this is supposed to mean anything to anyone; lol). great job! :) edit: though... i dislike the apparently impetuous and somewhat self focused nature of my persona's description >:( infp seems to have the least personal power (or perhaps even desire) to affect things around them when i'm stressed, i see everything as so overwhelming as it's hopeless and there's this sort of laughing abandonment where i just kinda have fun with whomever is near. i've laughed when completely screwed so many times in life yet i don't feel this means i don't have discipline when i feel it's important. it's just rarely important enough to overlook other's. kindness seems to be near the top of my priority list intrinsically.