Hello you beauties. Access all episodes 10 hours earlier than KZbin by Subscribing on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn. Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:48 It Isn’t Coordination, It’s Cowardice 04:49 Original Thinkers Are Rare 09:30 The Problem of Presence 11:58 These Are the Golden Years 21:38 Your Life Should be Led by Design, Not by Default 26:42 Mastering First Impressions 32:26 If You Can’t Live Without Caffeine, is Really Helping You? 35:24 Difference Between Male & Female Self-Improvement 42:30 Gauging the Honesty of Creators 48:22 Loneliness Comes With a Higher Complexity of Mind 50:20 How Audience Capture Has Distorted Media 53:43 Be Clear About What You Want 56:30 The Trap of Defensiveness Being Proof of Guilt
@Anchor.AafreenAli Жыл бұрын
Hi Chris, love your work, I feel a sense of commaradarie because of the similar topics of interest and similar fashion of addressing it. Regarding the topic of loneliness tax, changing your opinion based on one person's (yours) experience (part of the whole experience) is not the best way to deduce a pattern. Your work enables you to meet like minded people, but most cerebral people are surrounded by people that aren't as intellectual as them and seeking another like minded person is challenging enough (because of the small percentage of it and because of all the other tasks that require our attention) that more likely than not, the loneliness tax is unavoidable. Speaking not just from personal experience but probability analysis. Much love :)
@JonathanLoganPDX Жыл бұрын
Chris, this is an absolutely brilliant show. Thank you so much for pulling out these gems and golden nuggets for us all!
@dacreativerush6808 Жыл бұрын
Don't change Chris you're a good man in a cruel world where gems like this podcast do not get the attention that it deserves. But make no mistake you are building an audience of LOYAL fans, that will always recognize and appreciate your work.
@adamyohan Жыл бұрын
These are my favorite. Priceless, distilled wisdom from many people presented through one consistent voice.
@illt3ck Жыл бұрын
"These are the golden years" hit me hard! Thanks for sharing the wisdom.
These are some of my favorite episodes. It's like the weekly newsletter in a podcast format. Great stuff, Chris! I look forward to more content from this channel and your good self. Greetings from Nairobi, Kenya.
@ChrisWillx Жыл бұрын
Thank you! Greetings from Las Vegas
@gregorywitcher5618 Жыл бұрын
@@ChrisWillx Getting married?
@dvntlife Жыл бұрын
Right out the gate with absolute gems! Love the show Chris
@Everyman777 Жыл бұрын
I really felt the value of this one. You know it's a good podcast when you save it because you just know you will be listening to it again. Many thanks.
@gagadonim3354 Жыл бұрын
This man is legend. I don't know how he pulls up so many people on podcast
@marcosromo7640 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing the lessons. Congratulations on reaching 600. Really enjoying the channel
@TRCpLaYa Жыл бұрын
Great video Chris. Heres a tip - before you state the advice, set the context. I had no idea what you were talking about with advice 1 until half way through.
@unbentreality Жыл бұрын
"Male self-improvement sees the person as mutable and the world as immutable (...) this is in contrast with the female self-improvement who sees the person as immutable and the world as mutable." Accurate. I was a very insecure girl when starting into adult life. Finding a way to make myself better has been my #1 mission ever since, so I've literally went through all kinds of "self-improvement" stuff that is out there. The content I can resonate with is mostly from men and I would regularly wonder why that is. That may be the exact reason.
@stemelsupplyinc.1912 Жыл бұрын
I sure am glad I found this podcast, and I am blessed to have found it. Top notch material over such a wide range of topics.
@ka9202 Жыл бұрын
0:03 just the message I needed after a restless night. Thanks!
@mumblez7712 Жыл бұрын
Mate, the rate things are growing these milestone episodes feel like their coming faster and faster. Love to see it Brother, looking forward to that 1 mil subscriber episode in a few weeks time!
@ChrisWillx Жыл бұрын
WE DON'T STOP SON
@gregorywitcher5618 Жыл бұрын
@@ChrisWillx Even with coffee at most being every other day for you, it is your will that makes you you, son. You’re Will is X and has no limit. 1x, 2x, 3x, …10x…1000x You are the son of Will. The son of Will is Will2. You’ve had an IRL Witcher Watching you WillX and I have an idea that it is not simply that you do not stop but more to your youness…you Will not stop. Is this your Jüngian personal mythos, good sir? Let’s dialogue!
@Mamrotek2001 Жыл бұрын
Chris, I've been a fan of your work for a while now, but this video made me stop and think about my approach to life. So much interesting stuff! Thanks a lot, and keep going! 🙏❤️
@ericdraven3654 Жыл бұрын
This idea from the episode with David Serna is one of my favourites: Excellence is the capacity to take pain.
@TheZGALa Жыл бұрын
You are giving me hope, Chris. That is worth everything. SuperLove. SuperGratitude. I appreciate you.
@PumperPanda95 Жыл бұрын
I love your monologues more than your interviews for some reason. It's just SO good
@candiceerorita9505 Жыл бұрын
Good morning from the Philippines, Chris! 💜💜 Love your work, and I'm incredibly proud of the channel's speedy growth! Congrats on the 600th episode! PS: Please have Patience Xina or someone as young as her as your future guest. ❤💜
@victorduffy4459 Жыл бұрын
Great show Chris
@official_emayel Жыл бұрын
Wonderful. Bravo Chris
@essarai Жыл бұрын
lol ! bang on Douglas impression. brilliant podcast Chris, thanks for your contributions
@furkansimsek33 Жыл бұрын
You are always very inspiring, and you make many contributions to the lives of those who listen to you, even if you don't know they exist. Thanks a lot :)
I so LOVE learning new things...did not know all this about buttons and zippers, though I did notice, as i wear a both men and women's clothing, and as collars have shifted, buttons and zippers are often the only way to tell--that and pocket size and fabric/thread strength. You are a gem Chris. Thank you.
@AbundanceImagination Жыл бұрын
Great lessons Chris, thought I'd add this, a quote - The weird thing is that the more efficient, on task, on goal you are with your time, the more energy you have. Working with no traction, or for that matter simply wasting a day, does not relax you, it drains you. Strange as it may seem, when you work a daily plan in pursuit of your written goals that flow from your mission statement born of your vision for living your dreams, you are energized after a tough long day - Dave Ramsey
Regarding neuroses and effort in vs return out: I heard a quote once from someone who said something along the lines of "sometimes having 'control' of a situation doesn't mean gripping it with white knuckles, but merely keeping a finger touching it so you know where it is without looking." I feel like applying that mentality to a lot of the rest of my life has helped me find that balance in what I can change the outcome of versus what will happen regardless.
@findpatterns Жыл бұрын
Thanks for this Chris, this episode really resonated with me.
Hey man really love your stuff. It’s interesting seeing someone ask question in a neutral basis. You’re not necessarily looking for right answers. It’s more about what answers have we come up with and can we question those answers to better define what “this” is. It’s fantastic to see put into to content form when I’m sure many of us ponder things like this daily. Some would say question societal norms. Some would say against the grain. Again it’s great. Hope to see you on Rogan again soon!
Gen X oldster here. IIRC I discovered your channel when you interviewed Jordan B. Peterson. Subscribed shortly thereafter. You get good guests, and you ask good questions. An enjoyable hour of "talk radio" several times a month. (for those of us old enough to have worked in community and public radio when talk radio was king!) 😃
@TheZGALa Жыл бұрын
I DO have opinions on immune related stuffs, as a person who has lived with autoimmune-type diseases my entire life and so spent decades researching and n-of-1 testing, yet, all opinions that stray from the 'main line' are disregarded currently, it seems, even in formerly intimate circles. That said, I absolutely agree with normalizing NOT having an opinion on things we don't have personal information or original thoughts about. Loving your content increasingly, Chris!
Loneliness and Complexity of Mind To your point on Austin I feel this is entirely dependent on your environment. Living in rural America it definitely drove my own loneliness and I was often (with good intent) told that I didn't belong there and needed to move to California or Washington DC. I took that advice, moved and made more friends in a single summer than I had in ten or twenty years back home.
@aditisharma7221 Жыл бұрын
Loved it .❤️ Cheering for you.
@NooraHakkinen Жыл бұрын
Wholesome video, thank you Chris!
@grahamvandyke9 ай бұрын
I kind of see it like that 5-15% more you're getting out of all the stress and anxiety is what is separating you from the rest of the herd. And that separation is the difference between several hundred thousand subscribers and several million.
@solidplain8030 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your insight and perspectives. I’ve never considered just how much I live in default mode. There’s no time like the present to change that.
@roxannb2746 Жыл бұрын
So good. I listened to it twice. ♡
@73elephants Жыл бұрын
Stupidity often _causes_ malice, though. And thinking about how happy you are at a given moment is a _distraction_ from that happiness.
@mayflowerlash11 Жыл бұрын
Hell yeah. This is condensed wisdom. The problem of presence and These are the golden years are very insightful. Enjoy the present, you have nothing else.
That Alain De Baton idea about loneliness could be productively interpreted as describing the adaptive valley on the journey between the fake friendships facilitated by our inauthentic selves and the true connection with those kindred souls we come to meet when we finally boldly discover and assert our true selves… a difficult but worthy price to pay for authentic being and connection.
@gregorywitcher5618 Жыл бұрын
Living Becoming, eh mate?
@livingbeings Жыл бұрын
@@gregorywitcher5618 😁
@jamesjgannon Жыл бұрын
Carly Simon taught us, in 1971, that we should "stay right here 'cause these are the good old days....🎶
@belindaterry6010 Жыл бұрын
Fantastic points and Oh how i love that i don't agree with it all. ❤ Be mindful and take care not to stress on life to the point of immobility but dream big and pray for the hellfire under your tender bits to move you to do what you MUST do to give meaning in your life.
@freyadoblev Жыл бұрын
These Are the Golden Years 100% agreed, ty for the reminder!
"If no amount of evidence could change someone's opinion, then they don't hold a rational opinion they hold an ideological belief." been trying to put this into words thanks
@joenebeker3373 Жыл бұрын
Very profound thank you
@ramanchoudhary5780 Жыл бұрын
Not fearing is not equal to not caring.
@MeaningSeekerPod Жыл бұрын
Well done Chris and team.
@tensevo Жыл бұрын
the modern problem is the ideology of identity, the world wants to assign an identity to you, in order that they can judge you, so they know how to put you in a box.
@mayflowerlash11 Жыл бұрын
I only discovered Chris Williamson a short while ago. 2 weeks? He puts things in perspective.
@Squirrel-zq6oe Жыл бұрын
Bro thank you 🙏🙏🙏
@JoannWoolley Жыл бұрын
May I make a request? You’re the right podcast to highlight polarity communication for relationships. The author of 4 books on the topic, Zack Roedde is an interview that will change lives and marriages.
@Theembodimentchannel Жыл бұрын
Great summary as ever. As podcasters we get an education money just can’t buy eh?!
Thoroughly enjoyed this video. I would like to weigh in on one topic. It is not the corporations that are pushing women into the business world. It is self-preservation! Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce and, as women, we have to be able to feed ourselves and our children. Yes, building a family around us is very important. But some of us also crave learning and creativity. It's not all black and white.
@rossshiell2670 Жыл бұрын
I'm glad you went that route with the de Botton quote, as I was all set to call you out for not recognising that it just needs a qualifier. For me, the "truth" of it is in your decision to leave England, and head to Austin, with its wealth of commentators and support for an appetite for self-improvement.
@peters8080 Жыл бұрын
I enjoy your interviews, but am kind of curious about your conclusions. Led by design, ok, which design? I would offer you something interesting that you might be up for: Dr. Stephen Porge's Polyvagal theory. For me this changed everything. Its kind of one of the significant missing pieces in the puzzle.
I really respect you aknowledging people like Dr Peterson or Mr Willink and yet being able to have something to say about their philosophies. I'm a big fan of them and taking responsibility in life but it's interesting to hear you saying that there might be some shade of grey there. It just proves that you can appreciate someone and yet think for yourself and formulate your own opinion.
48:22 Loneliness Comes With a Higher Complexity of Mind. I'd use the word aloneness, as loneliness is a state of self reflecting upon self; comparing our own state with that of what others apparently are; i.e. the life of the party, etc. Whereas aloneness is the complete understanding that we are all alone at our core, and there is no conflict within that, which in turn does lead to a great depth.
@joew245 Жыл бұрын
The first hour of tomorrow’s 3 hour run sorted!
@darth_vdare Жыл бұрын
With regard to the "Mary Sue" character type as found in the Mulan remake or the Star Wars sequel trilogy, the youtuber Missing the Mark had an excellent video a while back commenting on this phenomenon. Mary Sue is not just bad writing, it's a genuine archetype that symbolizes women transitioning into high sexual value while still young. In terms of that specific aspect of life, it's true that women don't need to do much to work to develop themselves. Of course, this character type and storyline only make sense in the context of traditional gender roles. It becomes nonsense when it's juxtaposed with a hero's-journey-type plot arc, putting the Mary Sue in the role of the hero of the adventure, as in the Star Wars sequels and many other recent examples.
@Hozagen Жыл бұрын
In this world, stupidity is way more expensive and destructive than malice
CBT is great and I would recommend it but when I started taking a magnesium supplement the anxiety I was trying to manage just kinda went away. I'm sharing this in hope that someone might benefit from this experience. If someone can derive an abstract lesson from this apart from "you might just be deficient in magnesium" don't hesitate to reply.
@aleidius192 Жыл бұрын
@@luxurybuzz3681 yes
@gregorywitcher5618 Жыл бұрын
Are you on the spectrum? You got a touch ‘o the ‘Tism? CBTa and DBT are supposed to be good for Autist Artists and with a different brain perhaps your neurophysiology makes it such that you don’t have a magnesium deficiency if you were a Normie, but what with a divergent brain you do? “You might just be deficient in Magnesium” for YOUR YOUNESS… Too abstract of an abstract?
21:38 Your Life Should be Led by Design, Not by Default. Most would claim to live by design but are merely attempting to fit into a system not of their own making... seeking wealth, seeking fame, etc. Very few ever look at life at its default setting. Only when we actually understand the basics of life can we actually live. Most are willing functional machines for the system of capitalism, or whatever system wherever; so-called communism, religions, etc. By choosing a life for yourself, you only set up imbalance and needless conflict. Calling such growth is delusional, is it anything other than a rat on a wheel?
@TheZGALa Жыл бұрын
"enabling them to mastermind their own delusion, and to very cleverly become stupid." at the risk of creating yet another mirror-bubble, I will say "genius".
@ajlambe1340 Жыл бұрын
The bull learns to tolerate the plough. (Ovid)
@haraldtheyounger5504 Жыл бұрын
04:49 Opinions are superficial, simply second hand baggage with gapping holes, to which those picking them up are too blind to see. We do not need knowledge as such, we need insight and intelligence. Both of which burn brightly enough to give clarity in this dark world, given the opportunity. Thinking itself is not actually the great facility for which most give it credence. Thinking is always the limited approaching the unlimited, the known blanketing the unknown. Memory is the basis of all thought. However, I suggest there is a far more integral way, awareness. When we realize whatever within ourselves, that is entirely different from accepting information imparted by others. The latter leads to superficiality, to arrogance with the assumption that "I know". Very few know anything, merely regurgitate. Knowing has its own action.
@user-op6kt8pg9y Жыл бұрын
My dream is to have a conversation with Chris one day
@gregorywitcher5618 Жыл бұрын
Captain Jean-Luke Picard would have something to say to you… No, not facepalm… Also, “Goals are dreams with deadlines.” -Somebody smart but I forget
In reference to loneliness being a tax for those with a complex mind, I think it is true. You just have access to a network of deep and interesting thinkers. The average person is more or less at the mercy of their local environment (not considering online social groups; which as you know, are not sufficient substitutes for in-person interactions)
@derek_jesio Жыл бұрын
I do think, however, that when connections are made, they are far deeper and more meaningful.
Mutable person or mutable world? Mind blown 'lil bit. I have been trying to change the world, as is my instinct. I think this is another reason men and women are better together...change ourselves AND change the world.
@nevbarnes1034 Жыл бұрын
"I saw the best minds of my generation destroyed by madness, starving hysterical naked," _Howl,_ -- Allen Ginsberg
@eulier1 Жыл бұрын
Life system design may sounds overwhelming, tedious & freak-control however not doing so is waiting to somebody else do that and I'll argue most of the time you woudn't like the outcomes.
@-Gorbi- Жыл бұрын
On the first point, yes people are cowards with liabilities, and yes the security state is NOT incompetent at all, but to me that means that it’s easy to pressure everyone into conformism, and to believe that never happens consciously is incorrect
@gingerayyle11 ай бұрын
This is a great video and I love a lot of the points you make. However, I feel like the male vs female self-improvement point was grossly over-reductive and doesn't consider a ton of important nuances (i.e., social media idolizing "sigmas" that are realistically just horrible people). Something I think about a lot is if the male self-improvement approach is so great, why do we have so many more rampant mental health issues and unaddressed problematic behaviors? Regardless, I may not agree with some of your ideologies, but you present your information as unbiased as possible and I can appreciate that effort and I can tell you're trying to help everyone out.
@marcc16 Жыл бұрын
The only thing we take to the grave is our last meal. Enjoy it.
@torockiusz8836 Жыл бұрын
Thumbnail when the impostor is sus
@christopherfanelli8821 Жыл бұрын
Do you ever worry that people are asking questions only to get your attention so you will record the response?
@maximem.6660 Жыл бұрын
Social media is like a casino for likes
@aenigmatica8 Жыл бұрын
Smarter people tend to be more complex, and more lonely… So there’s some overlap there.
There is no present.. cause time doesn't stand still, so theoretically we live in the future and the "present" is really the past...... I think I've just blown my mind... yes I have.... lol.
@daytonjobgen8639 Жыл бұрын
The " It Isn’t Coordination, It’s Cowardice", is only partly true. You do have the True Believers/Ideologues & activists that do push hard and are unrelenting. This coupled with the Cowardice of most within institution and bureaucracy , is where you get to where we are today. Same as it was in the past.
Respectfully, nah they know what they are doing (govt)
@darth_vdare Жыл бұрын
wrt women (in the personal development context) believing that they need to be accepted as-is and the world is mutable, note that in the evolutionary context and, in many ways up until like last week, people's lives and perhaps women's lives especially were radically circumscribed. So anything like a mindset of self-acceptance and asking for change in the world would have been a very limited pushback to correct some of the extremes of social demands and social conformity. Now a lot of that force of social pressure has been removed.