16 Personalities - Worst MBTI Type in Relationships? (ranking)

[@Youshouldchill]

ENFP “at their worst, they’re still pretty good.” Best compliment ever. Lol

[@marshmallow3866]

ENFPs are seriously coolest, cutest people.

[@WorldsGreatestRingAnnouncer]

They’re cringelords not Edgelords. They’ll smother you with rainbows and unicorns

[@sofiebonaparte7831]

@@WorldsGreatestRingAnnouncer we will lol, can confirm

[@WorldsGreatestRingAnnouncer]

@@sofiebonaparte7831 I had a meeting led by an ENFP and ESFP. All the T people including myself, were bashing our heads against our tables. It was so cringeworthy

[@Astrotase]

There is no such thing as ENFP

[@hafizahjasni8656]

I'm kinda more curious about which of the Unhealthy 16 personality types would be the worse nightmare in a relationship..

[@SubtleAscension]

Great question

[@jjoubert2817]

Good idea!

[@anyone98]

To be honest..... all of them...... there is NO unhealthy type that is pleasant to be around

[@loref4200]

Unhealthy people should work on themselves prior to entering relationship (especially romantic relationship). Unfortunately, most unhealthy people aren't aware that they are unhealthy until they've had many instances of confrontation from those in their life (hence interventions). Even after this, many tend to isolate, casting off others as the problem as opposed to introspectively themselves. I am curious about the levels of unhealth in each type, and how that represents based on their functions. This is a good basis for a new video series for Nathan to consider.

[@loisrabies8713]

Great question!

[@giishaw92]

Something to note about INFPs is that they're hard to get close to, but once you're in, they'll fight to the death for you lol whether you're a friend or a partner.

[@notanartist9908]

That's true unless you betray them and their trust.~

[@loisrabies8713]

And unless you seriously annoy the shit out of them lolol

[@tedlovejesus]

As an ENFP, I think I attract INFP(and so do they attract me) like a magnet and nothing compares with that 😄

[@nightynightlayla374]

*Random INFP appears*

[@dreamingblue3939]

@@notanartist9908 Too true. When people betray me, I cut them off so quick

[@aprilw2287]

As an INFP I'd say I'm deeply devoted to the people closest to me, but I don't have the emotional energy to maintain many relationships, so I'm very selective about where I focus my attention. This can sometimes lead to me not being very reliable, which could be annoying to others I'm sure. So I accept the average score.

[@giishaw92]

I mean, you can only give your life to so many people

[@loisrabies8713]

True. And when the few relationships you have drain you it is insanity.

[@aprilw2287]

@@giishaw92 Oh, so true.

[@dreamingblue3939]

That's very accurate for me as an INFP as well. I throw myself fully into my few relationships, but I'm probably irritatingly absent to those outside of my circle of close friends and family. As much as I value my friendships, communication, and human connection in general, it all tires me out and I often have to withdraw and take time for myself. So I'd say "average" is fair.

[@aprilw2287]

Here's a question for my fellow INFPs (or all types for that matter!), do you ever get the feeling that you value your friendships more than your friends do? It's like they're just around to have a good time. You're there to give of yourself til you break. You plan on being there for them forever, but you sort of get the sense they'll eventually move on because that's what has happened before. So you guard yourself and form new friendships carefully. Something like that anyway.

[@racracrachel1946]

As an INTP, I kinda wanna be single forever. Being in a romantic relationship is quite exhausting. Just think about it ...

[@achannel9598]

Same I prefer having friends that I can hang out with (when I feel like it) I prefer being alone at home so I can recharge (but currently living with my parents so :( one day I will move out ) having another person in my house 24/7 is just exhausting lol

[@nakoda787]

I agree. - intj

[@LifeisaBeautifulting]

@@achannel9598 I'm an INFJ and fear the idea of someone in my space 24/7

[@isthisoneunavailable]

Find an intj. Was like that for years. Then found an intj friends with benefits, quickly turned soulmate. We BOTH fought that happening - we wanted friends, not love. Didn't have a choice. Happiest I've ever been. She gives me the motivation I need to actually self actualize.

[@randompotato7391]

As an infp I agree with you

[@doctoroozehd9450]

INFP - tried compromising, ended up compromising own happiness, self-sabotaged and jumped ship.

[@djdragons69420]

DoctoroozeHD was not an imposter

[@giishaw92]

We can't be with just anyone. A certain level of compromise is needed, but compromising core values, absolutely not. Would rather be alone

[@justlookalittledeeper9953]

ISFP here, married to an INFP for a long time. I noticed when I first met him that he had strong core values. I told him, "You have a moral compass."

[@RosheenQuynh]

We need to pick our compromises wisely

[@magic13christispage]

Yes! Exactly!! Thank you for your comments fellow infps ❤

[@aims_plays]

Perfect. I'm an INFJ and my fiance is an INTJ. I've dealt with both the immature and mature INTJ and this video was spot on. My INTJ now treats our relationship like the top project out of all his projects going. From doing analytics to deep diving emotionally with youtube videos AHAHAHA!

[@louisejoel]

Must be fun being a topic of his analytics

[@aims_plays]

@@louisejoel I like it. As an Infj, I like seeing the patterns that come from his data collecting.

[@kellikakes81]

Oooh, that sounds amazing!🥰

[@meagiesmuse2334]

@AimsJay- how old was he when this change in maturity occurred? Was it dramatic or a slow change? I'm an INFJ who had a serious thing going with an INTJ for 10 yrs. of my prime and then gave up on waiting, so am curious.

[@aims_plays]

@@meagiesmuse2334 we started dating in 2009 (I was 22 and he was 23). He didn't mature until about 30/31 after a few dark nights of the soul and a night in jail putting the fear of God in him. Mind you, he is a Taurus. So from 2017 to 2019 was rebuilding years (his frontal lobe fully formed 😂) and now it's been smooth sailing. He would say it was a light switch, I would say it was a slow 4 years. I would say though, if you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, it is worth the wait!

[@mizuhashitsunoka]

Thanks for not stereotyping INTJs. This is why I love your videos. It's irritating to watch INTJs being some kind of bumbling blunt candor who don't know how to mask their words. As an grown up INTJ, I network properly and try to have amicable relationships with people that are good.

[@sofiebonaparte7831]

yeah that's what I love about Nathan's videos, he doesn't see the types as their stereotypes. As an Enfp it makes me annoyed that our stereotype is an non committal socialite doing LSD in a field. Which I mean, come on it's totally (for sure) inaccurate! We have much more depth to us.

[@jackieocean3511]

@@sofiebonaparte7831I totally got this visual of a hippie w flowers in the hair while laying in the sun LMFAO 🤣🤣🤣

[@sofiebonaparte7831]

@@jackieocean3511 THATS THE FREAKING STEREOTYPE we have a dark side! (It sounds hilarious when I say it of course)

[@Aggiemcdee]

@@sofiebonaparte7831 Me, as an ENFP reading this: I uhhh... literally did LSD and hung out with friends in a field today XD hahaha sorry to be the stereotype

[@sofiebonaparte7831]

@@Aggiemcdee lmao it’s okay, I feel we all have those days xD

[@beeblebroxx4299]

I'm an INFP and married another introvert (INFJ I think) and he basically had to teach me how to function as an adult, frustrating for him I know but we made each other happy, were each others best friend and raised kids together. He passed away too soon and now I'm not sure I want to do it again. It will never be the same. If a train wreck like me can make it work anyone can.

[@2cvlt740]

You are very strong and im proud of you!!!!! Take as much time as you need to heal :) best of luck!!!

[@beeblebroxx4299]

@@2cvlt740 thank you very much :)

[@Bongi344]

Hope you get better day by day

[@BJID]

@@beeblebroxx4299 I see that you are a caffeine addict as well and an infp. What a destrutive combo 😂. Well i hope you can be stronger and stronger without changing your personalities. Fellow infp and caffeine addict too 👍

[@beeblebroxx4299]

@Bee Ticket Yes I think that is very true, I may have a companion but true life partner again? I don't know.

[@justme8791]

Me, an INTJ: Relathionships? Yeah, only in my imagination. It's the eternal struggle between wanting to meet someone (friend or partner) and reluctance to leave home and meet new people...

[@trafulgerlaw3332]

same

[@Mr10203040]

If you can play it right, INTJ should be great on these kind of relationship

[@mizuhashitsunoka]

There's life is beyond trying to have a partner or friends. You can make relationships without trying to classify people into those two bins.

[@jyll.7132]

That's exactly the struggle. I've always relied upon social media sites to find someone. I join a group I'm interested in and hang out in there talking about interesting things with people. Once in a while, a prospect will come along. If I had to do it IRL, I never would've meet anyone. My current bf has a lot in common with me, but he gets on my nerves a lot. If I did dating sites, I probably would've rejected him. He drove 10 hours to have coffee with me, though. I feel too guilty to ditch him.

[@dogdonut3]

@@jyll.7132 I don't think I'd want someone to keep me around out of guilt.

[@isaakkirkwood3798]

Me as an INTP thinking I would be the worst: **Gets placed in the Average category** "Not as bad as I thought it would be"

[@valej9387]

Same

[@alarmlessRifleman]

High-five from an ENTP. I really thought we're gonna be at the bottom too. As pretty much always.

[@isthisoneunavailable]

I think I'm pretty damn good in relationships intp or not. Now, keeping up unreciprocated effort for long? Not gonna happen. I think it's less that we're bad at loving each other and more that there's a language barrier. And intps....speak klingon.

[@valej9387]

@@isthisoneunavailable Yesss.

[@thejohnquixote]

Yeah, I thought we'd be bottom tier lol. But makes sense for "once in a relationship" as opposed to my presumption and heavier weight of including "getting into a relationship".

[@sofiebonaparte7831]

Being an Enfp is a blessing and a curse within itself. On one hand, it's great because I can make everybody love me if I try hard enough. But it also sucks because I automatically change who I am to fit other people's standards in a relationship just so that they will like me, and I always feel like I have to put on a show for someone and hide how I actually feel because god forbid I have any sad emotions.

[@dreamingblue3939]

I'm an INFP, not an ENFP, but I can relate to this a lot. I feel like I tailor my behavior, my actions, and the things I say to benefit everyone around me and make them comfortable. Though it can be a good thing, it's also become a problem in some ways. I'm always the one who makes peace, resolves conflicts between my friends and family members, listens, and gives advice. It's gained me a lot of love and respect, but it's also hard work and it gets exhausting trying to present myself as best as I can in every situation, often keeping my true thoughts and negative emotions bottled up. Sometimes I feel sick, tired, hungry, or irritated, and then people get disappointed I can't meet the standard of constant patience and wisdom they've come to expect from me. But in the end, we're only human. Can't always be fun and cheerful and agreeable 100% of the time. Anyways. I hope we can both become more comfortable being ourselves. Trying to fit another person's ideals all the time is exhausting.

[@francescopassero8369]

As an ENFP, I relate completely, like 100%. I had all my relationships end because of this. But now I can safely say I've matured and conquered this negative side. It took 25 years of life and some pain, but you gotta learn to live with your worst tendencies and correct them little by little.

[@lydialittooij134]

Wow, I can relate to this so much!

[@aquariusbabe]

@@francescopassero8369 can you explain more on this please? my partner is an enfp and i just need a little insight.

[@manarmeziani857]

Thats called people pleasing :/

[@loref4200]

"INFJs, giving more than they are getting without telling the other person that this is happening". Yes, it leads to passive aggressive tendency, and at the worst, a 'door slam'. It is good for an INFJ to figure out ways to exercise their 'voice' even if it creates conflict. Conflict tends to be necessary in relationship to generate depth, so avoiding conflict creates a surface level relationship, the very thing INFJs abhor. Thus, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and is a huge area for growth.

[@timefortee]

I'm getting used to enjoying your comments ☆

[@amygirl9534]

I agree. Unfortunately, I personally become attracted to other conflict avoidant types, which seems a recipe for disaster.

[@loref4200]

@@amygirl9534 Yes, it ends up with both people being passive aggressive and finding no resolution, or avoiding the difficult discussion due to fear. This is very difficult. I hope you're able to see conflict in a new light to work through it with those that you love.

[@loref4200]

@@timefortee You're very sweet. Thank you.

[@timefortee]

@@loref4200 It's mutual!!

[@daveb5016]

ISTP and been in a relationship for 21 years with an ISFP. Nothing in life is greater nor more fulfilling than having a successful long term relationship.

[@kellikakes81]

Aww💕

[@aurasky518]

Love my istp brother

[@Snarl_Marx]

I'm an ENFP and my husband is an ISTP. We've been together for years. It's definitely been a struggle at times, and there are things we'll simply never see eye to eye on. But we both appreciate each other's differences, and use them to become a better version of ourselves. Plus, we both love a good challenge from time to time.

[@roy.shrestha]

Yayyy I am so happy for you guys

[@patrycjakowalska2286]

I'm INFP in a relationship with ISTP for 21 years🙂

[@Alice-tq6bl]

ENTP is spot on, the ambiguity in relationships is something I definitely experience. I always feel like floating from people on very wide spectrum of personality types, but never connecting with anyone. And the strangest thing is I don’t really mind

[@Lauray1]

My best friend constantly complains that he feels like Im floating and could leave him at any second. Its hard to convince him that "yes I can leave you at the drop of a hat, but the fact that Im here speaks volumes. I dont like sharing my time woth others at thier time" all he hears is "Yes" drives me up the wall.

[@lifeform106]

Stereotypical INTPs would struggle in relationships, though INTPs who are open-minded and learn basic psychology can be great in relationships :) I am INTP and used to struggle in relationships until I learned psychology and advice and now in relationships, I am very fun. Though this is for all types :)

[@louisejoel]

Basic psychology isn't adequate. I've only just begun at a late age to get a grip on why people behave in certain ways through extensive research over last year as required and I don't even understand myself 100%

[@spring7643]

Same thing happened with me but I'm not INTP

[@roseprescott1476]

Part of it is the psychology but I'd also argue it's combined with how strong your pattern recognition is and how self aware you are. The first person I learned to analyze behavior from was myself and only after this did I start applying concepts to others. But I do agree that INTPs have so much potential if they understand psychology better, I know I've actually been asked by some INFP, and INFJ friends to explain the psychology of attraction, sometimes they find the more logical perspective on these subjects improves their insight too.

[@dazzlebreak4458]

I think that INTP have penchant for studying psychology in the real world by observing the people around them unconciously, so they benefit from gaining experience in real life big time.

[@achannel9598]

@@dazzlebreak4458 that's what I do so that I know how to act around people/blend in Intp as well

[@milena8014]

I’m an ENTP, 25 and have never been in a relationship which bewilders people all the time because apparently I’m very charming and can get along with almost everyone easily ... however I haven’t met a person to grow and become better with and don’t stress about it either. I just don’t care maybe that’s weird lol

[@dimassantikaning9650]

Let me propose you, my growth-oriented mate. :)

[@Dixongrac]

I'm an INFP, also 25, and I've never been in a relationship either. So I thinking maybe we could get to know each other. If you want.

[@TaxingIsThieving]

@@Dixongrac Saddo

[@ceilinh6004]

INTP here- I agree with a lot of what you have to say about us. I don't develop relationships easily, but once I find my people, my relationships (family, friend, romantic, etc.) tend to go quite well. I have a great group of friends, have been happily married (to another INTP!) for 10+ years, and I have basically the best kids I could hope for. I can't honestly think of anyone in my life that I'm completely unable to get along with.

[@katharina3322]

I think the forming Relationships for INFP's depends heavily on how we feel about them after hearing them talk to others or even talk to them once. If the person we talk to is really unpredictable, I'll try avoid talking to them as much as possible. If, on the other hand, they start talking to me and we click with a topic or something that is a little deeper I find it easier to start a friendship with them, because I want to find something in them I can at least relate on a little.

[@jannatyjannat4802]

After hearing so many times that we intj's are detached and cold hearted for too long...I have so expected you to put us at the bottom end.... But You really seem to Understand the real insider feelings of us that we are also human and actually can be a great relationship maintainer....So, lots of thanks for that..😊😍😘

[@alexandracasados22]

As an entp I have an entj husband and I LOVE that he’s super blunt and doesn’t sugar coat anything. Hes actually super romantic and fun and wonderful despite his communication style. I love it.

[@JstJaybeingJay]

Damn...only ENTP comment I could find.

[@jaimiehorton9669]

One of my closest people is an ENTJ and it's so refreshing talking to them about everything, and they are very fun and thoughtful. When I was more insecure I did find them off-putting because I couldn't handle the honesty and took everything personally.

[@alexjames7144]

I love the way I can be honest with ENTJs without them getting offended or just pretending to agree to appease me. So fun to be able to yell at someone for an hour in a debate and then have a nice relaxing meal without hard feelings. I also like that they never treat me as if I'm going to react emotionally because they understand.

[@matthewparsons4597]

Hey, ENTJ here. Just noticing how a couple of you have good connections with ENTJs. I suck at getting close to people or maintaining friendships, I don't think I have a single friendship that's lasted over a year in my entire life. Do you have any advice?

[@Lizzzi86]

@@matthewparsons4597 it's like a job, you have to be there always if they have problems, and also in good moments meet them at least once a month and messaging at least a couple times per week. This is what I do for the first year until the friendship is more solid and then you can separate a bit more the meetings and messages. This works only if you are compatible with the other person, and depending on the type of friendship maybe you just do activities together or you will talk more about problems, feelings... Remember that if you don't spend energy and work in the relationship the other person will not do. And that the most important thing when you interact with people is that humans seek attention. They give you time for your attention, that's it, quite simple 😅 I'm a 34 years old ENTP and I have many friendships that hava last for more than 20 years and I can do even now new true friends, and this is what I do to keep them. Obviously after a couple of years of friendship you don't need to be so constant but 4 messages per year are needed (birthday, Christmas and some random more) Sorry my English, I'm Spanish.

[@StellaLoreley]

I don’t expect us INTJs to be very high Edit: omg, thanks for that mate, I didn’t expect it

[@alphhs5260]

It's suprisingly very high

[@frog_teeth]

XD

[@CaveyMoth]

Jeez, I need to find me an INTJ.

[@lizzycat1271]

INTJs are very caring people. They literally dedicate themselves to their significant other 💗

[@StellaLoreley]

@@lizzycat1271 I wouldn’t say that all INTJ are like that. As an INTJ myself I’m very selfish, but maybe that’s because I haven’t met anybody I care deeply about

[@erozionzeall6371]

As an INTJ, I'm trying to find the most optimal path towards relationship and part of that is being vulnerable... sometimes.

[@raindropsonroses3919]

I wish I was an intj . You guys have your priorities all right(my sister is one) . Alas, I am an infp and my life is a mess 😅

[@loref4200]

Yes, a cycle of vulnerability, trust, and connection. As the trust builds with each instance of risking vulnerability, the connection will grow.

[@DreamQuillRose]

@@loref4200 How do you build trust (specific activites)?

[@loref4200]

@@DreamQuillRose I think it depends on the people involved, but trust typically develops over time as you share vulnerability. Examples: talking about fears, sorting through conflicts without running or hiding/detaching, speaking about traumas, revealing weaknesses and the other demonstrating acceptance, etc. As you risk vulnerability and the other takes 'care' of you and that information, a bond of trust is formed and strengthened each time it occurs. Being willing to be 'seen' bit by bit will develop trust.

[@DreamQuillRose]

@@loref4200 Thanks; that makes sense.

[@AndyZach]

I'm ENTJ and married to an ISTJ for 36 years. She's very reliable-'brick' comes to mind. She is blunt, but I like that. We both are very direct and honest. I do have the ENTJ problems you mention in picking up on peoples' feelings and understanding how other people think. If a person isn't logical in their thinking, I don't know what to do with them. I can't be insulted very easily and my wife doesn't care what other people think, but she is aware.

[@wendyhere7204]

As an INTP I got incredibly lucky in my relationship. It started when I was 18 and is still ongoing 9 years later. He did have to show me how to behave like a normal human being and sometimes still helps me with that. He's fine hanging out together while doing separate things or just chill in separate rooms, he takes care of most of the groceries (which really exhausts me because of all the chaotic strangers, I prefer to keep the house clean) and doesn't force me to be social, although it does make him happy, so I'll sometimes come with him. We're very affectionate, which is nice. He's my person.

[@Mejdo00]

Sounds like my relationship :D (except for keeping the house clean, he just doesn't see how messy it is

[@00Klingon]

@cdr 777 I'm INTP, and married to ENFJ for over 22 years. Your experience sounds very similar to my own. 😊

[@3mi3mi]

I’m infp, the average rating is fair. I don’t have enough relationships in my life to speak of but not everything is sunshine with us. we can get into fights and (politely) ghost people. i feel infps are one of the personality types most prone to being romanticized, in women especially because the stereotype of us is that of a disney princess or something. but we’re very flawed and it’s our often our fault. but at the same time i know that my friendships are genuine because of how careful i am in choosing them.

[@aquariusbabe]

exactly!

[@tiagonthego]

Another infp young woman here, and I absolutely agree! I think my extreme fear of conflict and confrontation makes it extremely hard for me to confront problems or even minor inconveniences. I just end up running away and being distant (ghosting) or being passive aggressive which usually never helps the situation, and then I love with that regret for the rest of my life haha

[@shuatock8216]

My girlfriend is an INFP and she’s a Disney Princess :3

[@midnight.blue42]

3:25 I'm isfp and I'm suprised you said this. I was sure that being so selective when it comes to people is one of my biggest flaws!

[@izzydog111]

“When ENTPs are younger, romantic relationships will not exist if they can help it.” That’s weirdly comforting to hear, I thought I was just an outlier

[@izzydog111]

I’m 19 btw

[@ZabavaThePower]

@@izzydog111 I didn't have a relationship till ~20 and then it went bullshit (ENTP)

[@HisameArtwork]

@@ZabavaThePower as an INTJ I had relationships early on because it was expected of me. Bullshit doesn't even begin to cover it. Now happily married to a INFJ. Love the peace and comfort.

[@izzydog111]

I’ve never been interested in having a relationship tbh but everyone assumes I’m ace when I say that lmao.

[@oyemate8647]

@@izzydog111 same mate lol

[@christineherrmann205]

As an ENFJ, I'm here for this. Of course, I haven't watched it yet. Edit: Holy sh*t, did you peg us. You actually made me cry. Still having issues holding boundaries (not that anyone else would know)

[@jaimiehorton9669]

My best friend of 20+ years is an ENFJ and I immediately agreed with him. Keeping everyone else happy at her own expense is her biggest barrier to mental peace. As an INFJ I've been through that myself, that's why I can see it so clearly in her.

[@oppenheimerroberta7440]

I am an INTP in relationship with an ISTJ for 6 years now. IT IS AMAZING. He looks after me, helps not to forget to pay bills, he brought order in my life which I never had. And I brought adventure in his life, excitement and I helped him to open up a littlebit and be more understanding towards others. One thing I miss sometimes is mental challenge from him.

[@DreamQuillRose]

As an INTP, that's been one of the things holding me back. I just can't seem to get interested in someone who can't meet me mind-to-mind. They're a disappointment, they lack something I need, no matter how appealing their basic personality is in every other respect. I have tried to feel attraction to non-intellectuals. I tell myself that they would be a great person to be in a relationship with, but I look at them and don't feel any sort of pull toward them. Do you feel that pull? Is it mostly him that comes to you, or do you feel the energy to move toward him? What attracts you personally to him, other than that he looks after you physically?

[@dixielp]

As an ISTP, I already knew our rank before you started.

[@rain0069]

likewise

[@thatonekaeyamain6725]

I have always believed all I can do is sleep I am here to prove myself right

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

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[@thatonekaeyamain6725]

@@blackoceancreativeuniverse the sleeper must awaken \(‘^’)/

[@loisrabies8713]

Same if I stop moving I start sleeping.

[@thatonekaeyamain6725]

@@loisrabies8713 I am sleep deprived to the point that sitting down can be the reason of me dozing of

[@HaotoAnimeOnPiano]

I thought this was about MBTI couples. That kind of video may take up to an hour lol. Oh, I have an idea for a series! Something like "Best XXXX Compatibility." I mean, it's pretty much given online on forums and stuff. But that could be interesting enough when it's an in-depth analysis.

[@kay-sp4gk]

ISTP here, can confirm i’m not great with relationships, even platonic ones

[@Siansonea]

Well, the fact that you characterized platonic relationships this way might be part of your problem. Platonic relationships will constitute the majority of the relationships you experience in life. Friends, family members, co-workers. Maybe you should make them a priority.

[@kay-sp4gk]

@@Siansonea Idk what you’re saying my dude not gonna lie, I’m quick at making friends but often feel like an asshole

[@cooldigirl26]

@@kay-sp4gk we quickly makes friends and forgot about them ( quickly ) 😂😂😂

[@lavolpe8525]

you need to work on that. I worked on my social skills in highschool till now because I would lash out at people trying to get too close and I can say apart from spending most of my time on my own and barely talking to anyway I can have great relationships with people and friends.

[@kay-sp4gk]

@@cooldigirl26 exactly, “uh oh now i have to contribute to something? cringe”

[@denisa-rebecatatar5977]

My heart melted at the last thing you said about ENTJ's. I needed this today.

[@tiagonthego]

Surprised an entj’s heart melted😂

[@justme4579]

I really appreciated your analysis of the ENTP. It seems people often underestimate their potential (in all areas, actually, but particularly with interpersonal skills). Based on my personal experience with an ENTP husband, you’re absolutely right about the maturity factor. After we got married I observed such a lack of understanding between him and his mostly Fe-leaning family. Everyone just got so easily frustrated and dramatic, and he would get so impatient with them and shut down since each person was just communicating on completely different planes. But at home I saw a totally different person than what they seemed to see. So I guess that was the beginning of his growth in maturity, because over the years now he’s been amazing with dealing with his various family members, and has become the unofficial “mediator”/“life coach” both in his family as well as mine lol it actually comes so naturally to him, his ability to remain objective and clearly explain all sides of an issue to everyone involved makes him the go-to middleman in every crisis now!

[@conradsmith9441]

As a younger ENTP, my Ne and high standards/expectations keeps me out of relationships. Even when I find an incredible girl, I think I can do better or doubt and think there may be better. I hate committing. However once I commit...I’m probably already in love and will be EXTREMELY loyal.

[@tonylya]

I feel you. I hate committing, and for some reason it's kinda easy to me to commit to one person.

[@oyemate8647]

same, I almost never fancy anyone, but once I do, I fall deep and I'm a great wife material. But yeah, too bad I'm so rarely interested in anyone xd

[@meredith18352]

I would say average is very generous for INFPs. We are hard to get close to and can be very poor at keeping in touch. If you can put up with doing most of the communication then we will do anything for our chosen few. ESTJs love helping everyone and that validation is very important for them. However, this can mean they will completely forget about the people they should be caring about. Lucky for me my bestie is an ENFJ and she is awesome at communicating and organising.

[@bethnoirable]

completely agree, if it wasn't for my ESFJ friend inviting me to things and organising get-togethers I probably would have far fewer friends.

[@pettertufte3605]

As an INTJ my problem towards romatically relationships is that my standards in finding a compatible partner are extremely high, but i would not have it any other way :). I do enjoy judging my friends relationships tho, when they complain i give them the famous INTJ stare.

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

romantic....................

[@Adil_Turysbek_TVRC]

As an INTJ i can relate. Once i had a conversation with my friend. She asked what are your standards in finding a partner. After i have listed them she replied with following: "You will die a virgin"

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

@@Adil_Turysbek_TVRC romantic

[@Graysett]

Same. I had tons of fun in highschool watching my friends and classmates trying so hard to get into each other's pants. My standards are also way too high, but I think Partners are one aspect of life where Quality > Quantity. (Plus, I admit, I have very different standards for casual flings and actual relationships.)

[@Lylantares]

Another introvert will work just fine, especially when he/she is a high Ni user. I dare think an INTJ would even enjoy the company of a committed ENTP as they can provide just the intellectual challenge

[@ndwhxsc]

“they don’t always wanna be in the same room as them, but same house? sure” that’s the best way i’ve heard anyone put it

[@evaanjos]

*Te dom 3 secs into this video*: Ah, here we go again

[@nononono8777]

Oh, it's my favourite ENTJ KZbinr! Excuse me, I must profess my love immediately, however out of place this must seem. Your videos tend to cheer me up a lot and I really wish I could work or make friends with ENTJs irl haha - an ENFP

[@evaanjos]

@@nononono8777 Those are such kind words, ahh! Thank you so much. 🖤

[@omer4826]

Im an entj and Im pretty good at relationships. Never really had a problem. You just need to work to make your partner happy, simple as that.

[@newcreation1cor517]

I feel like I'm terrible at relationships, so I tend to try to work hard on them for a while, and then I'm afraid something is going to go wrong, so I run away... I'm working on this... ~infp

[@newcreation1cor517]

But then again... I do have one or two relationships that feel the same no matter what happens. I just don't see those people very often! But when I do, is like nothing changed in the years between (with perhaps 2 words communication now and then... Like every 12 months 😂)

[@traditionalgirl3943]

I can confirm that ISTJs are solid relationship people. They don’t play head-games, they are intelligent and have a great sense of humor. Sure they have difficulty being open to different ideas but at the same time they are open to new adventures. Through whatever difficulties they remain loyal. As an ISTP, I appreciate their stabilizing influence and management capabilities, their dedicated effort, pleasant and playful nature and their kind, introverted ways.

[@DreamQuillRose]

Aww, that's sweet.

[@Sara-fv1ld]

Thanks for the compliment ✨

[@youweird6625]

So true ISTJ are so underrated. My closest friend is ISTJ and she's a very great person, out of all my friends she's the only person I'm closest with even though she's the last person I approached.

[@aquaazania]

Yeah, I can get behind the “average” rating (INFP). You literally have to show me why I should want to compromise for you, it doesn’t come naturally for me. Because “Who’s going to look out for me but me”? That being said once I’ve decided I want to keep you around, I maybe end up compromising too much, because it makes me happy to see the people closest to me happy. It’s weird.

[@scatterbraineddaily4722]

I have a simpler way to go about it. Te doms and aux ->> needs work Ti doms and aux ->> average Fi doms and aux ->> good Fe doms and aux ->> great

[@bopnop680]

Me, an istp and my intp husband will be dating for 11 years on 4/20 this year. It’s pretty cool to say that.

[@monimoobag246]

Haha I am also an ISTP with an INTP husband. They’re great aren’t they? I wonder if yours is as blunt as mine. As an ISTP I love blunt people that are drama free so this relationship works well

[@TheGreatCalsby]

4:32 "I'll be mean because its... enjoyable" He says what we're all thinking!

[@mushroomking8304]

I feel as though a lot of us INFPs are not commenting much this time around because we were all hoping to be higher on the list. We are already starting to take the advice to heart, and have added it as a possible thing to look out for when we wander and build our characters.

[@aibekurazov1417]

Actually---

[@tiagonthego]

Infps here and it’s funny because I did actually expect us to be way higher on the list, so it’s a bitter sweet thing to realize, and it’s been very nice reading other infps’s take on the issues we tend to face. Came here for a sweet rub in the back, left with some reflections😂

[@remysdungeon]

before even watching this I already know I'm gonna be very low on the list XD (ISTP)

[@suealeen]

And always the last one 😂😂

[@bluewrenbirdie]

@@suealeen Being last is perfect, I know I can always skip to the end and not listen to the rest LOL

[@lavolpe8525]

WE SAT AT THE BACK OF THE BUS AGAIN WAITING, FOR THIS"!. but we all knew it was going to turn out how it did.

[@hackinglife9710]

ISTJ’s finally get a trophy 🏆

[@Siansonea]

ISFP doesn't often make it to the top tier either, so I'm happy to celebrate with you.

[@cooldigirl26]

As an ISTP This video makes me much more happy, Than finding out I will survive almost all post apocalyptic situations. It mostly comes from. Don't tell us what we alredy know. Let's move on criticize so we will work on it. Rather than massaging our egos. ( I think it this way )

[@zahirahzakaria1488]

As an ISTP I agree so much with your ranking and was already expecting it from the title itself. I find relationships so uncomfortable and have been wondering whether it’s because of my personality type or because I might be aromantic asexual.

[@KaMi-gz1il]

I agree with you! Though I've always liked the feeling of reciprocated liking, the "being in love" rush, once things start getting serious I have the feeling I don't "match" at all with that person and I start feeling stuck :/ to me, there's no worst thing that losing freedom.

[@PhotoRubio]

(Enamored ISTP) I acquired an ISTJ for my romantic toolbox. I goofed the other day and she "let me have it" over text. It was 2 sentences long to which I acknowledged she was right and said it wouldn't happen again in one a 1 word reply. Then we laughed about it the next day... I see no problem here. Great content sir.

[@justinwhite2725]

Intps 'need some work'. I've been helping an INFJ deal with her INTP boyfriend and reflecting a lot on myself when Iwm was his age. We go through this phase after the initial flirty phase where out to starts to judge the other person. We usually tend to withdraw or 'ghost' the other person. We tend to get complainer very quickly and drop the kindness and take the other person for granted. Yoi say it here 'with the right person...' absolutely. Intps are fiercely loyal and Wil stick with their partner. But if the match is anything but perfect it Wil be Rocky. Intps can be myopic and self-centered and aren't good at providing emotional support for the types that need it. Adult Intps have the emotional stability of a 6 year old and need to develop that before finding healthy relationships.

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

Agreed re: your analysis on us ESFPs. Initially I thought we belonged in grades because of how encouraging and positive we are with people in our lives, but you are absolutely correct in stating that sometimes our chaos monkey nature causes some things were we do need to be charming. Great video!

[@abadi173]

INTPs are underrated, in my opinion i think INTPs make the best partners, they just need to be more organized and put that amazing Ti to actions and they are good to go. Then again im an ENTJ who is attracted to Ti Ne way of thinking so i could be biaset in my opinion, not to mention INTPs dont get butthert when i debate with them and thats very attractive to me, the lack of Fi is a pluse because I don't have to watch my self in fear of hurting thier feelings.

[@fml2247]

could you maybe do a video or separate videos of each type at their best and at their worst? because sometimes the types dont always act like their negative traits if they’re in a healthy and mature state. & vise versa.

[@Brad-hw2iq]

Definitely agree about the ENTP in relationships. We can have amazing friendships but honestly don't really care about romance/deeper connections. Most romantic relationships are done for extrinsic reasons like "Fun", "Boredom", "Horny" so when it's over we just float to the next one. No emotion no pain no feelings. People go up to us and be like "sorry what happened, you were so cute together". And we're just like "Ehh..." like nothing happened. We don't know or even care about how we feel about things and it's really interesting.

[@JstJaybeingJay]

Yup. But I think for us atleast me a deep connection is way more important than anything else.

[@Siansonea]

Sounds like ENTPs should seek out other ENTPs.

[@vaishnaviranjan6765]

I hella agree with this . I always enter into relationships with a goal, and once that's achieved , it gets really boring and I leave and the strange fact is that I don't mind it, it doesn't affect me at all even tho I might like the person.

[@scarlett8844]

me, an ISTP, unintentionally attracting people I then have to avoid: yeet

[@urban0443]

True! That happened to me many times too and it really sucks because almost all the time they are one of the best friends that I ever had.

[@vicksgreen]

ISTJ here. At first I thought he was too generous to put us so high, but as I thought about it more and more I realized I have almost never had an issue fitting in, at least to a respectable degree, wherever I go. At first I thought about the fact that I have a fairly good bit of apathy towards the idea of fitting in. However, I do see the emotional and practical (more so the practical) benefits to facilitating good relationships, especially at a job. So I do work at it, especially in a new work environment. Additionally i don’t have any problem making friends or friendly acquaintances. It’s also very unusual for me to have an antagonist relationship with someone, though it sometimes happens. The real apathy comes in at two main parts of a relationship for me I think. 1: If it means someone will help me learn something relevant or might help me be more efficient, I will not care if I look like an idiot with what or how I do things. 2: I do not care who you are or what your authority is, if you’re doing something wrong AND it’s interfering with my efficiency, I will address it directly.

[@PKMNFan4664]

2:33 This explains why my mom tried to mediate, defuse, and stop arguments between me and my dad-she's an ISFJ.

[@AM-gm5jg]

Well , that was unprecedented (INTJ)........ although I must admit , you have a good analytical sense and I 100% agree on where you assigned ENFJs (my girlfriend is the best of the best

[@balinttotfalusi7426]

That description of the INTP relationship is on point, you described it better than I've ever could.

[@trissues3128]

Appreciate your rapid-fire assessments; you could do this in your sleep and always always deliver new perspectives and fluid, comprehensive content. Thanks again, Nathan.

[@jyoraj5]

ENTJ here and I'm glad you're telling me like it is. Cheers x haha

[@loveapureheart]

Im ENFP I feel like im an awesome partner when I decide to commit im obsessed with freedom though so I haven't committed yet lol

[@neuteka]

regarding the ENTJ+INTP perfect relationship thing. I'm an ENTJ and have dated two INTPs and it was a challenge.What draws me to them is that they are some of the best kinds of people to hang out, share ideas with and talk for ever with, but when shit hits the fan and my demon FI comes out, they become vacant. It's not that they don't care, its just the way we feel things seems to make us incompatible dating-wise. I would consider myself a pretty emotionally intelligent entj whose on the expressive side, but It's hard to deal with someone who's even colder than I am. I hate feeling more emotional and displaying that side of me to someone who can't understand me. its very embarrassing. Don't get me wrong, INTPs are very great for an ENTJ as a friend! plenty of people find luck with entj+intp relationships too! just not me

[@sophiezhang7258]

I’m an ENTJ too, I’ve not dated any INTP, but I completely agree with you in the emotional part. I feel like I don’t have much trouble expressing myself and that I actually like to tell someone how I feel (at least one person)

[@neuteka]

​@@sophiezhang7258 I certainly enjoy expressing joy and laughing with others, and I do enjoy being the more extroverted person typically. but what I can't really get behind is being the drama queen crybaby in comparison lol.

[@sophiezhang7258]

@@neuteka agreed lmao

[@mollahyo]

I am an ENTJ and have also dated INTPs - I am fond of them but the one thing that frustrates me is it can be difficult to have an exciting or positive conversation with them, they are great conversationalists and very intellectual yet they often lack a fun/humourous side to them. This led me to be turned off in the end because I always walked away feeling heavy almost as if the positive energy was sucked out of me after spending lots of time with them...

[@T.E.Twilight]

ISFJ is actually a better pair for ENTJ, as it is considered its DUAL in jungian typology, which is what MBTI and sociononics is based on, and every ISFJ and ENTJ couple I've seen compliments each other well and stays together for a long time

[@yootopia]

Gee, I find myself wishing I were an ISTP so I could be invited to your office 😍

[@jackieocean3511]

Why was I thinking the same thing 😂

[@leviackerman1336]

Man as an ENFJ who’s besti is an ISTP I couldn’t agree more lmao.

[@LooneyTiksCrap]

I'd like to thank you for not going off the stereotype for INTJs. Much of my social issues are with new persons, whom I have no connections with, or individuals that don't come clean with their intentions. I can not be expected to act "properly" towards someone's invisible expectations. I'm not a mind reader. I don't claim to be the best, but I try to be the best that I can be. My worst trait is likely how distant I keep most people. People that know me, know how I am. I'm not toxic. I don't play mind games. I'm generally polite and respectful. Those closest to me, they are important to me. They are the ones that get my focus, my warmth. ...my vulnerability that I rather pretend to others like it doesn't exist, lol. To the random internet strangers that disagree on INTJs, I only speak for myself.

[@PKMNFan4664]

Wow. I'm pretty sure I'm an ENFJ, but I've also thought I could be an ENTJ, which is why I feel like a splitter in this video because ENFJs got ranked at the very top and ENTJs at the very bottom. At the same time, from my past experience, this explains why I felt like I couldn't be ranked as high as ENFJ was, but not as low as ENTJ was, somewhere more in the middle. However, I have to completely agree with Nathan-a well-developed ENTJ could probably handle relationships very well.

[@monimoobag246]

As an ISTP you are correct. I am straight forward and hate sensitive people as I do not care for sugar coating. I’ve found my husband however, who also does not sugar coat. This works well 👍

[@aWERFRGT6545BGFG]

I 100% agree with the INFP in average part. I never realized how much of an idealist I was until I got into a relationship, I didn't even realize I had expectations. I obsessed over boys and wanted to date them then as soon as I got a boyfriend, I had no idea what I was doing, I started questioning my gender, my sexuality, I didn't know if he liked him or not, I didn't know if I wanted to be just his friend, I felt like I was too masculine for him, and I didn't know how to even talk to him anymore. Being feminine is something I am not used too, I hate being feminine, (No hatred towards feminine people, its just not who I am) And I dislike changing myself, so when my boyfriend started treating me like this untouchable being and constantly simped for me, I felt uncomfortable. And I started thinking "Can I be his girlfriend but be the knight and he the damsel?" But this clearly wouldn't work in a heteronormative society that thrives on the idea of women being the submissive ones. The same problem happened in my 2nd relationship, I got a boyfriend later on in the years and I didn't even think about all these factors like sex (which I'm uncomfortable with), family reactions, me being the submissive one again ect.. So yes I kept idealizing boys and obsessing over them and drawing them in my books but then as soon as I got into a relationship, I had no clue wtf I was doing. My first boyfriend broke up with me due to me being way too masculine and not feminine enough. The second boyfriend I've had broke up with me because I was too masculine and not feminine enough. I realize now that in order to have a boyfriend, I have to significantly change myself...and despite realizing this, I still find myself obsessing over boys.

[@Multitudes_]

That doesn't really sound like a matter of idealism. You need to find someone who loves you for who you really are and wants the type of relationship that you want. Making compromises in a relationship and changing yourself for someone (or settling for a type of relationship that you're not comfortable with) are different things.

[@dr.spartacus8754]

I'm an ENTP and got married to an ESFJ when I was 23. She had so many standard operating procedures for EVERYTHING. Me...I did what I pleased and and like to "wing it". Well opposites may attract but the the relationship was one of befuddlement. I had no idea where she was coming from...and she thought I was really strange. Luckily her Father brought home a Myer's Briggs test he had been introduced to at work. While everyone in the family was intrigued...to me it was like getting hit by a brick. Now it was all clear to me. Fortunately my wife was patient enough for me to explain...exactly why I did things the way I do...and exactly why she did the things she does. It was an Eureka moment and really saved our marriage. We both had a clear understanding that each of us do not have a choice...we had to be who we are. Then the things that drove us crazy about each other earlier became opportunities to laugh...respect and love. Marriage is going on 40 years and we haven't killed each other yet. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@alphinha_rafa]

I guess Nathan is not a big fan of relationships with Te doms

[@louisejoel]

He seems to be fond of ISTPs

[@jackieocean3511]

@@louisejoel Yea, always ranking them bottom tier and talking about them last...I crack up every single time 😂

[@loverofbeautifulthings]

Great video and I agree with your bottom tier...and *finally* we ISTJs get a nod 🙏🙌🙏

[@AnimeFan4815]

I do consider myself to be bad at relationships as an ISTP , but my straightforward nature (after years of not knowing what to do) can make for an excellent base of interaction with some women 😉

[@pinkplay052]

Preparing mentally for my perfect relationship to start Like in my head it looks really romantic guys

[@sylviaowega3839]

I also would quite agree with you in regards to ISTJ being great with relationship. They tend to have a lot of trust issues, dislike people who don’t hold deference to rules and tradition, can be very cold, and can be judgmental

[@notanartist9908]

INFPs 😅 Kinda difficult to compromise. Heh Would want an open-minded ambivert tho, and an INTP friend :/

[@djdragons69420]

Uh me? Sorry but i am introverted and too much open-minded

[@mrkyurem5499]

im an INTP and my "crush" is an INFP i fell into the friendzone cateogory too fast and im struggling to get out maybe thats why, i can be a very good friend but i myself dont consider me to be a perfect partner that INFPs always look for

[@djdragons69420]

@@mrkyurem5499 i think for us intps, infjs r quite great partners and friends

[@notanartist9908]

@@mrkyurem5499 that's quite sad..but hopefully you'll eventually get out of the waters. Just remember you are awesome whether someone you like (romantically) likes you back or not. It doesn't define your value. (I suppose an INTP already knows that, I just wanted to remind you nonetheless~). 🍀

[@stevester9148]

ESTPs: ''Damn straight, I'm good at relationships! Aw crap, hold on babe it's my wife on the phone...''

[@antropofagica]

As an INTP I can understand when you say we have to be taken care of in a certain way because we are really prone to neglect a lot of crucial stuff but at the same time I'd say we're pretty low maintenance. We are people who most of the time don't expect and never ask emotional assurance, we really trust the feelings of the other person whatever nature the relationship has and even when we do feel neglected we kind of try to reason within ourselves before reaching out to the other person. And YES getting into any kind of relationship is actually a lot harder and even tiring than actually keeping them lol but once we get on going it's always pretty chill when the other person respects our boundaries and I think that's the most important aspect to keep a relationship with an INTP

[@elliemuica889]

Maybe I'm narcissistic, but INFP should have been ranked a lot higher than just "average", especially being ranked lower than types that are notorious for being "bad" at relationships. Maybe it's because I'm a sexual subtype on the Enneagram (4w5 sx/sp) but I've always put my relationship as a top priority. Friendships on the other hand... Can't do them. But romantic relationships have always been a major strength of mine.

[@tiagonthego]

Same haha, I was kinda taken a back by that. At least “good” would have been great lol

[@romeee0oo769]

What is sexual subtype on enneagram

[@BigGreatJ]

Im an ENTP 4w5. I agree that at my worst I dislike people but enjoy being around them and at my best I like people. But the thing about my worst state is that is made by others actions, for example, if someone does something that I admire, I will like that person and that alone will make me like everyone more. Im very honest with myself but currently there are no people in my life that I admire, I cant point out what exactly is that I want to see in them, maybe is more intuition, more logic, better problem solving abilities, more interest in things that truly matter, less shallowness etc... This depeneds in others but ultimately it depends in me, I need to find people like that tho its a complicated task. Also I agree that ENTPs become better with love and romantic relationships as time goes on. Im 16 at the time and I suck at it mostly because Ive never felt acual love, only sexual ;), due to what I said earlier that I havent found anyone, not even a friend that admire or really like. Thanks for Reading jeje :>

[@JokerCrowe]

I'm an INFJ and I think I have pretty good relationships with my friends. I've definitely gotten better at using my own Voice and telling people when they're doing something I don't like. I practice a mantra of "Open and Honest communication", where I try to keep a non-judgemental attitude, and try to clear up misunderstandings as soon as possible. With that being said; I'm 30 this year, and I've never been in a romantic relationship. I can't even say that I've been on a "real" romantic date. For me, the thing that makes it difficult is that it involves my own emotions on a completely other level than in a friendship. Romance is _so_ intense for your and the other persons feelings, and most of the time I don't even know *what* I feel. The emotional highs and lows of romantic relationships also scare me, because I know how sensitive I am to other people's pain. Whenever I'm interested in someone, my Ni goes into overdrive, using Ti create possible scenarios depending on what I'm being "fed" through Fe and Se. The Problem is that I have a really hard time of just "going with the flow", and when you're a perfectionist, you want to make sure you can see a future with the person. I've "dismissed" so many relationships from being possbile because I don't see the captial p "PATTERN" going anywhere romantic. I also think another reason is because I'm a man. People (including myself) have this expectation that I should be the one to show interest first; and I very rarely get around to that point because I talk myself out of the relationship before it's even started. So, I would say that at least I could use some work on that front. Any Male INFJ's in the comments who are in a romantic relationship? Do you have any advice for me? EDIT: removed a double negative

[@jaimiehorton9669]

I'm not a man but I did relate to what you said about the emotional piece and the perfectionism as an INFJ. I had a bit of a breakthrough on that recently. I spent my whole life terrified of my own emotions and worried others' emotions would overwhelm me. When I finally let myself tune in to all my emotions, even the negative ones, and came out the other side ok I realized that I'm stronger than I thought, and I'm much more comfortable with other people's strong emotions now. It really lets intimacy grow when there's space for everything we're feeling. Letting go of perfectionism is something I'm still working on, but the progress I've made has made me realize all the areas of my life its effected, especially self worth and relationships. When you learn to appreciate your own imperfections you have more compassion for other people's imperfections. But we need to be careful, just because we understand someone else doesn't mean that person is a good fit emotionally for us.

[@JokerCrowe]

​@@jaimiehorton9669 Thanks for replying! I think my biggest problem is that I don't Know what I'm feeling. It's like... there's negative space where the emotions should be. I can sort of decipher what I'm *not* feeling, but I have a really hard time reaching through (or tuning in) to any emotions at all. I've been through some hard times emotionally, so I know I can withstand a lot of emotional "worst case scenarios", I'm just not particularly motivated. That being said, I think talking to someone (or in this case) writing, and putting my thoughts out into the world can really help me get a better understanding of how I feel. So thanks for your reply, getting to reply back has really helped me think through my thoughts and feelings on this, and it helped me make a few decisions. ^^ (Fe is good for getting out of the Ni/Ti loop. Really Se is also good for that. :P )

[@jaimiehorton9669]

@@JokerCrowe I'm so glad talking it through is helping 😊 I think that's why I'm so compelled to comment, it helps me sort out my thoughts and feelings sometimes. It's cliche but meditation was what helped me tune in to my emotions, and I've started to look into somatic work now to self soothe. Best of luck in your healing, it's definitely a bumpy road some days but the flashes of enlightenment make it worthwhile.

[@restingbitchface3775]

As an istp.. I do tend to find people annoying 🙃

[@frog_teeth]

Agreed (intp)

[@jjoubert2817]

Agreed (Only some people though) -INTP

[@aurasky518]

Agree. ISTP

[@janco333]

Fully agree, ISTP.

[@dixielp]

It’s not me, it’s you, actually. 🙃

[@applepi4039]

as an intp, i'm usually very loyal to the one like (i've been in love with the same person for 7 years, and she doesn't even love me back lmao), i'm usually daydreaming about cute stuff with her. So yeah, i would say im a pretty romantic person. Regardless that, i'm not interested in being in a relationship, i like more the idea of remain as friends. idk, maybe im scared things will end up bad and screw it up

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

I rarely argue with your opinions, but to say that ISFPs are good judges of character is the opposite of what I've heard as their Ne trickster blinds them to people's motives.

[@valej9387]

I think I'm great at the closer relationships in my life. I'm simply... selective and uninterested in wasting my energy. -A, dare I say, more mature INTP

[@PKMNFan4664]

4:39 I think I remember hearing that Nathan was an INTP, so I can understand why he'd personally downgrade ESFJs-INTPs are Ti doms.

[@thepockawaii]

As an ENTP I can agree. Understanding others' emotion is hard for me. I used to be in a "date" because the guy thought it was a date, but for me it was nothing but just hang out, so I keep "hang out" with a lot of guy & know I'm with my boyfriend & I am sure with him it was only hang out. My sister is ISFP & she's nothing like me, knows how to treat her date & is knows how to make guys comfortable around her, unlike me, who always intimidating

[@sophiezhang7258]

As an ENTJ I’ve to say this has been one of your less accurate videos I’ve seen about myself. I know there’s some stereotypes about ENTJs but I actually have feelings lol. When it comes about relationships I expected that you’d put me at the bottom as you did but I feel like ENTJs could perfectly go at least in average

[@Velvet003]

Entj here. The entj you described was me years ago! I used to be extremely honest thinking it's for mine and the other person's better which led to losing many friendships. I'm learning now how to be more agreeable (Or at least pretend to) and honestly it saved me from so much headache lol. When it comes to relationships, I'm dating an infp and it's a struggle to put my feelings into a meaningful sentence and rather I'd explode or say unpleasant things but I'm glad my partner is teaching me so much about handling feelings and learn how to properly show them. I still have a long journey ahead.

[@anamarijamilos1290]

I’m a ISFJ. You are very accurate!

[@ran29120]

As an ENFP I dont feel the need to date unless those book characters come to life ....😂

[@magic13christispage]

Interesting video! I think estjs are quite misunderstood, I don't know, as friends there are quite good, in their mature version at least (a good friend of mine says she was kind of "bad" in the past with relationships -of any kind- but that was because she tends to get bored of people easily). As for the others, I would like to mention 2 types I have encountered: istps (I see them commenting quite much as well) ...I don't know if my interaction was with an immature type, but what I experienced was quite the opposite of what you depict. It was a person who wanted to avoid conflict by any means, which meant he was far from blunt and straightforward, he was actually keeping too much to himself (being straightforward is not about practical stuff only, in which they are quite good at, but also about thoughts and feelings), and was the one to make me lose any trust I could ever have to people, so yeah, for me he was the worst kind of all, but for exactly the opposite reason of the one you mentioned (if you have anything to comment on that I would highly appreciate it)... And infjs: again, the opposite. They do tend to keep things to themselves (highly annoying to me), but the problem is that they actually give less than the other person thinks they give, not more 😂😂 And yes, I do not compromise. I have quite compromised in the past and it only backfired, since I felt like I was not me anymore, so yes, I do not, and I am proud of it. I'd rather be authentic and alone, rather than be a stranger to myself, surrounded by people. In fact, people who appreciate us for what we are, are the ones who should surround us. We don't fit everywhere, that's normal, instead of compromising we should try to find the people we deserve and who deserve us. (infp) Thank you for the video!:)

[@dorasdoublejawsurgeryjourney]

I know you commented this ages ago… but I wanted to say I appreciate your analysis of the ESTJ and can say I totally agree. I’m an ESTJ-A and I would say that there is a HUGE difference between a healthy ESTJ and an unhealthy ESTJ. While I don’t enjoy my own emotions, I’m still quite in tune with them and the emotions of those around me. He started out saying only positive things about the ESTJ until it came to the emotional aspect. And while I personally don’t think emotions are everything, it goes without saying that not all ESTJs are as he described.

[@magic13christispage]

@@dorasdoublejawsurgeryjourney Hello and thank you for your comment! (it wasn't much of an analysis, rather a statement, haha) Yes, of course it depends on whether you are healthy or not, plus (let's not forget) that we are all different and unique, despite our mbti or any other type we fall into:) That being said, this comment gives me also the chance to say I wasn't in a good emotional state back then when I made my negative statements about istps and infjs, and of course the same that I already said above about estjs applies in general (that we are all different and unique, and it has to do with whether we are the healthy version of ourselves or not; no generalisations are ever good when approaching so complex issues as is someone's personality)

[@mingyu1211]

PLEASE ANY FEMALE ISTPS HELP ME UNDERSTAND YOU GUYS I'm always overthinking things with this girl (istp/intp somewhere around the middle) and as an isfj it's so hard to NOT care about how she texts or stuff like that.

[@katrinamareen]

Me, an INFP with an ISTJ husband... my ideologies make him work harder at achieving them... and as a caring empathetic person, I understand he can't meet them most of the time... which is a little frustrating, but I get it.

[@elphieofkiamoko]

INFJ and..... yeah, wow. Sooooo many of my friendships have fizzled out over the years because I realized I was the one initiating every conversation, so I stopped. No blow ups, but frequently just...letting go.

[@mushroomking8304]

Yeah, I get that feeling a bit. Where if you were to see them again it would be a little awkward, but could probably pick up hanging out again for a bit. Though would not result in a good friendship, just a friendship or even just acquaintances.