193 - Looking Beyond The Masks People Wear with Chase Hughes

[@kandycepeterson2482]

Anytime you choose to listen to Chase Hughes, you give yourself the opportunity to actually make a notable improvement to your life, and as a human being. True reform begins within. IDK why, or how Chase finds the time to help people for free. I am grateful he does. Thanks Chase.

[@lindasheldon6940]

Loved the series Lie To Me. I had alcoholic parents and my brother was murdered at 44 by a neighbor/ friend. I have been obsessed with behavior and body language. I also love TBP. During my career as a nurse I developed a 'feel' for what patients needed when dealing w Alzheimer's, elderly pts w dementia and end of life care. I am 74 and loved my career and still do love helping ppl. Thank you for this wonderful presentation.

[@katrinat.3032]

@Linda Sheldon. I’m a nurse too and I also love TBP. These types of interviews are so interesting.

[@florence1395]

Chase Hughes is really the real deal. And he listens. I’d trust his judgement any day. Very much the gentleman from UK 🇬🇧

[@leeboriack8054]

“Leave everybody better, than you found them.”

[@Annastesiacrane]

I am using this, what am perspective

[@stephaniesarahkelly4147]

Love Chase Hughes ❤

[@katrinat.3032]

Chase Hugh’s aka tan daddy 😂. I love him too

[@carolynathanitis3783]

Just been binge listening to Chase Hughes interviews and this one would have to be the most enjoyable. I can hear in the tone of their voices the great connection Dr T & Chase Hughes have. Excellent gems of advice are given during this very interesting interview. Thank you for a great podcast 😎

[@TysonFranklin]

Thank you Carolyn for your kind words. Chase did say off-air that he felt so relaxed when we were talking that he forgot it was being recorded.

[@rememberremember5106]

I loved this too. Chase sounds like a really kind, empathetic intelligent understanding guy.

[@rememberremember5106]

Great pod cast , thank you 🧡💛💚

[@withlol777]

I, too, am bingeing on Chase Hughes!

[@susiejay3124]

Was great u got Chase to relax. I've listened to many, and this while still being professional, was a more human connection . Chase has many experiences in combat, and you got to hear one snippet, full of humour too. Go the Aussie's,

[@AmbientAuteur]

This Hughes fella is an eloquent speaker! For these body language experts, studying communication through "observation" is a "science." Learning to be quiet and observe others is a skill that has to be developed for more meaningful connections with the world around us. If one has a disability in this area, like ADD or auditory dyslexia, then we really miss out on life. Looking forward to enjoying this interview.

[@yolliereyes3490]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ntsmi1]

)ll

[@MichelleonaHike]

Chase- I’ve learned so much from watching/listening to you and also on TBP - loved this one! Thanks 😊

[@TysonFranklin]

I have to agree, I always learn something every time I hear Chase speak, regardless of the topic.

[@Beaumirabel]

​@TysonFranklin .Hi guys I am here 3 years later, but I just wanted to share with you an experience I had about 2 years ago. I had just had a baby and I had taken him for a walk in his pram, he was about 3 weeks old. I crossed a road when a car pulled out of a junction on to me, he stopped a few inches away from me. The driver was male, and his (assuming) girlfriend pushed him and shouted at him. I shouted at him and swore at him, i stuck my finger up at him, and gestured that I have a newborn baby. It was an awful situation to be in 😂 so what person am I 😂

[@davidmenke7552]

I'm in love with Chase Hughes!!!!

[@Miss_Oliva]

Me tooo!!

[@christieneal3392]

Love his mind

[@jenniferfree4144]

Same 😅

[@ContinuousRefinement]

When I was eight years of age, after relentless battering from my older sister, through bitter crying, I briefly (one or two seconds) considered suicide... Then I thought of my dad's admonition that bullies do not like anyone who fights back. I made a decision, "I'm never crying again for the rest of my life". That was a life altering decision...I've found it too difficult to express appropriate emotions like crying in response to the loss of someone I love. I'm looking for a way out of that commitment.

[@sisters299]

Exposure therapy through I think they’re called asmdr meditation journal when you feel something and where start opening up about your feelings even to yourself and then a trusted friend. Give yourself permission to feel 🙏🏼

[@elizabethfreshour4828]

I find Chase very attractive and I don't usually with anyone online. I always wondered what it is about him that is so appealing. This video explained very well the reason for that. Body language is very important for attractiveness. It's way up there in necessary traits to me. Much more than appearance or clothing to me. I like a man who is present behind his eyes.

[@MargaretHerman-nt9sm]

Smart is sexy:)

[@Erik-o9q]

As a Harvard graduate, at the school of law..I am very grateful to you two for this video. 😊..

[@alswedgin9274]

37:00 i'm in the caregiver industry; one thing what i took note of is the psychology class and the 'notion that you need to be an 'active listener...No matter the problem; you listen and stop yourself from talking unless it's needed to make the patient keep talking...aand you continue listening...

[@yvonne3903]

Chase I would like you to do an episode on the 29 ways to spot a narcissist on first date/meeting

[@leeboriack8054]

Try listening to Sam Vaknin, Les Carter about narcissists. Great info.

[@katrienvh4289]

Dr T. should I feel very strange now? When I was listening to the part about the masks... and everybody wanted to fit in somewhere. I never felt like I fitted in somewhere. I tend to step away from people. And certainly crowds. I have a few very good friends (that I have know for a very long time, some more than 30 years) but there are a lot off people I don't connect to (and I don't have the need to do) But perhaps that is because I grew up with narcissistic people? I like been on my own. Most days I prefer my dogs over people (what you see is what you get is what I love in them), I really love the quiet nature of being alone.

[@TysonFranklin]

I totally understand what you mean

[@nikkiburns3612]

Tan daddy always does an awesome job but I also just found someone to binge on! Thank you Dr T!!

[@sorinafitzpatrick4826]

Love Chase Hughes, check him out on the Behaviour Panel

[@juliabel2]

When someone flips me off or cuts into my lane, I simply give them their space. I only hope they dont hurt themselves or anyone else!

[@christieneal3392]

What a fantastic interview! Chase Hughes is so incredibly interesting! I won’t say, I love him since everybody else beat me to it. but…….jus’sayin’

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Amazing tips for toxics….thank you for an extremely helpful interview

[@susancampbell8194]

Just had your book delivered while listening - looking at index excited to read it

[@katanyajason3316]

What a fascinating discussion!

[@JJ-McKay]

Great interview!

[@TysonFranklin]

thank you John

[@miblitz]

Around :32 minutes (the discussion of recognizing narcissists) there was a question posed whether it was weird to introduce a friend mentioning their high school or college claim to fame somewhat. I would posit this is good etiquette practices, particularly, as it was stated this friend in question had gone to a private school. Old fashioned etiquette standards would state when introducing someone you state their name along with an interesting fact.

[@stevelenores5637]

Chase Hughes gives us the keys to open almost any lock of human mental resistance.

[@marianmartin9441]

I am in love with Case Hughes!

[@theophila214]

8:04 - "I'm a big believer in, just leave everybody better than you found them." ❤

[@blessingfarm3674]

I have watched Psych with several of my kids as they become old enough. It is fun and hilarious. I have also used it as a tool to make a point to them to pay attention to others and their surroundings. Loved Lie to Me, as well. But Chase is even more interesting. Thank you for the interview.

[@TysonFranklin]

I'm glad you enjoyed it. Chase was a great guest.

[@helensmith7357]

Very interesting, also funny, all in all enjoyable. Thank you.

[@traceychiang909]

This was great

[@rosemariebredahl9519]

Since everything we wear communicates, isn't wearing "neutral" clothing akin to wearing social "camouflage", &/or being a member of the population attempting anonymity, &/or that they have other priorities (cost, source, Etc.). Analogously, cars that aren't flashy still communicate (other priorities, resources, availability, functionality, maintenance access, seats, storage capacity, Etc.).

[@melz266]

I'm a level four! WooHoo! If I get cut off in traffic and a person goes out of their way to be a jerk, I feel sad for them. It's got to be hard to live such an angry reactive lifestyle.

[@joanngibala2058]

Same. I mutter: hope ya make it, pal.

[@littleindierocker]

Love chase 💕

[@micheleburns3333]

OMGSH!!!! Over and over wonderful wisdom pours out of you Chase...Thank you, you helped me see a narcissist counselor..Wow

[@cindysmalling4226]

This was a very informative and hilarious interview!! Thanks!!

[@christineknowles9101]

He’s one of the best! Mr Cool!!!

[@cherialbaugh1741]

HYSTERICAL.... Doctor T and Chase what a great show I laugh and I learned and I hope you do it again really soon you know it's been over a year now...... What do you say doctor T?

[@rebeccam4431]

Psych and Chuck were 2 hilarious TV watching staples for us to enjoy with our kids when our teenagers were at home.

[@joanneblack7697]

You mention IT people thinking they don't need people skills. OMG do they ever need it. One big reason is because the client often cannot clearly explain what they want. As the professional, the IT person should be pointing out, and not in an arrogant way, ... should point out the pitfalls of the design or concept they originally give you. And like Dr. T says, one of the best questions is "And what else do you need?", "What else?", "Anything else?" ... that kind of thing.

[@xyz8655]

Alright girls, calm down over spunky Chase. He's mine! Alright! 😅

[@wap9137]

Chase Hughes for President!

[@Portia620]

Thank you!!! I married one man and woke up sick next to another one!!! I broke and he left! Autoimmune disease saved my life!

[@texluh]

@4.15 "You initially used it for evil" - no, wrong assumption.... Completely unfair. And I've watched Chase for many hours in total - and what he says in response was patent and fine. But I've never seen him regress to 19 years old before, as he did in reaction to this accusation, which put him back into an aspect of that world : : "Like, err, like....it was like"

[@brittadicke2372]

When is Chase coming to LONDON?

[@mandychadwick6823]

September 2022 hopefully

[@EdelweissM_TheJourney]

Thank you for having Chase on, Tyson! I was told by a family member a few times to unmask myself and just be myself! Is that possible? I don't wear it, I don't think so when I'm with my daughter or my bosom buddies!

[@TysonFranklin]

I think awareness is the key, and it sounds like you're aware.

[@EdelweissM_TheJourney]

@@TysonFranklin Okay, thanks a lot!

[@marciaadamson7032]

I really like Dr. T, he has a great sense of humor!

[@TysonFranklin]

thank you

[@factsbykd1829]

Great podcast! ☺️

[@rememberremember5106]

Did you get to Sydney with the lockdown.

[@MCC4RTHY1]

At 26 minuets in you mention how when you were younger if someone would have cut you off and flipped the bird you would have flogged them, but now not so much. It isn’t numbing or desensitizing there isn’t as much anger because you have come to terms with the fact he’s or she is a dick and you can’t change that. Like chase mentioned you get angry when you think you can change a behavior. Super interesting vid. Had no idea chase was in the navy, my father as well was navy and ended up only retiring after not getting master chief. People like to think navy as an “easier” military job but it really just depends on the job and level of dedication so chase thank you for your service

[@4seasons546]

Always interesting 🧐

[@pamelamanning99]

The excessive number of ads is a negative

[@TysonFranklin]

I’ll need to look at the KZbin settings

[@yvonne3903]

There was an expression that it was when the patient was leaving doctors office, handle of the door, that the real reason for visit would come out their mouth. Don't know how true that is.

[@alswedgin9274]

Just started listening to this podcast and already this series i've watched 'Lie to me' gets mentioned. From what i've learned from the 'Behavioral panel' there are a few incongruencies but overall i found it to be a great accompanying series to elaborate on the subject... Actor skills put aside...

[@nikkiburns3612]

I really enjoyed this!

[@Portia620]

What a talent to have and wished I had one when married to a narc!!!!!

[@mrsmacca126]

CHASE!!!! 💗 💕 ❤️

[@EmbraceTerror]

I can spot manipulators in their first two sentences or paragraphs (or a few meetings if the person is a more subtle manipulator).

[@lauracicero-miller3238]

How could anyone resist Chase ? You seem like a really shy nice guy ...... from right I learned from chase reading him! Lol Look at those eye's. Would love, love , love, to pick his brain.

[@amazingsupergirl7125]

I know. He must’ve just used himself as a hypothetical example rather than real life.

[@AdeebaZamaan]

Having just had a cataract removed, I'll bet a profiler couldn't infer much from my blink rate. I suppose an ophthalmologist could; for instance, yesterday one posited that fluid was leaking from the back chamber into the front, but I won't be putting my eyeball into a glass trinket to wear around my neck.

[@markdandeneau3404]

The first thing a profiler does is establish a baseline. While it is true that your blink rate is abnormal there is still a possibility that your [current abnormal] baseline blink rate is different from the rate when you're being deceptive.

[@AdeebaZamaan]

@@markdandeneau3404 Oh, I know. I'm just a crochety old hag with a weird sense of humor! I was mostly being contrarian in order to alleviate my anxiety about my eye--it feels to me somewhat like gallows humor, one way I deal with life's little easter eggs.

[@alswedgin9274]

6:25 At my age i no longer feel the need to conform. I walk don't down the street on my daily route, if the guy that always says 'Hi' to me all of a sudden doesn't; i don't go into a panic.. Maybe someone said to him something that is unfavorable about me or he realised something about me or he is just having a bad day.. I jus t can no longer care what people think of me; it is a mentally exhausting exercise... Does this put me into an APD group ? I must explain that philosophically i feel kindred to the 'misanthrope...

[@alik3934]

Very engaging with lots of valuable info, definitely kept me listening to it all.

[@Nothingman88]

Chase, would you say that a 'mask' could be an unconscious idea or action, or else just pretty much a conscious projection? I am fascinated with this and, at least my idea, that the 'ego' is essentially an unconscious version of the mask; all the ideas, beliefs, thoughts, feelings, etc. programmed into us that most people would identify themselves as. And then of course, as we start to consciously identify these beliefs, etc., we can start to unravel and see through to that which is before and from which the beliefs, identities, etc., actually arise from. Thank you gentlemen.

[@ContinuousRefinement]

"Start seeing everyone from a point of suffering". -- Chase Hughes "Every obnoxious act is a cry for help". -- Zig Ziglar

[@apassionforlace]

Always great to hear people talking shop, because I only heard 2 or three #uhm -s. Hello from Holland!

[@Co-Creamos]

Cuando tenía 19 años Chase ya había Google??? Escuché mal? Que edad tiene che...? Parece mayor que yo .. y a mis 19 había disckette internet pocooo

[@elainegroom1989]

Chase is kind and respectful. It is no secret. Just treat people the way you want to be treated. Anywhere. Anytime. Duh

[@rosemariebredahl9519]

Re the truck scenario, I've reconciled myself to realizing that I simply don't know enough to answer the question "Why?". Sans the hand gesture and brief application of the brakes, I've had to cut in front of people in traffic to get to the hospital quickly. Before I became disabled from sequelae of breast-cancer treatment, I was a Family Doctor who delivered babies in a small-ish town Hospital where the only in-house Dr was an E.R. Dr {most ~ "break out in hives when a pregnant woman presents there, and redirect them to the O.B. dept in which R.N.s are the only scheduled staff). In fact, the most serious single patient emergency that exists is a "code purple" which is cardiac arrest in a baby still in the womb (& that's potentially viable). Alas, there's no way to communicate what's at stake if a Dr can't get to their destination stat. Likely not uncommon for various on-call first responders. Point? Idk why another vehicle might be driving aggressively to get in front of me.

[@shirleymason3853]

I lighten things up with AGT or BGT that said;I loved lie to me and the mentalist and I used to watch psych quite a bit… I have never spotted that damn pineapple ❤

[@lk8856]

Of course we get angry at hurricane.s. Absolutely

[@alswedgin9274]

I'm gonna walk my dog now and i will relisten to the podcast after..i'm not the smartest person on earth, but i am taking notes and feel i missed some stuff..

[@kathytrawick3554]

I'm not interested in narrative without video. That's what you tube is for! Leaving.

[@TysonFranklin]

I agree Kathy. I also prefer to watch videos, however I only had the audio of this episode, so it was better to release the audio than release nothing, and it's had hundreds of positive comments. Also, and this surprised me, KZbin is becoming quite a large audio platform for podcasts, which is why I now use it for both audio and video. I totally understand you leaving and I hope you find a channel that better suits your viewing needs.

[@absta100]

on the plus side it gives your eyes a rest ☺️

[@alswedgin9274]

I wish there was a T-shirt out there that is plain but says: i can see your suffering. Bring it cause as an amateur i just might print it myself..

[@beagarrett236]

What college Chase because your background does not cover that?

[@choochalah]

chase is such a nice guy!

[@TysonFranklin]

and he openly shares his valuable information, which is great.

[@veraluciacampos3776]

Tan daddy! Uhu!

[@spice8831]

Legend

[@laurasmithira]

So if we all wear a mask, that means Chase wearing a mask too.

[@laurasmithira]

I like his mask so far

[@thegiftedone]

🙏🏼✏️

[@modelformodels]

What if you just shake your head & say "wow youre so cool?" Or act all excited for them when they oass like outting your fists up at a sporting event like go get em buddy!! As though they are winning in a race. What does that make me to be calm when others cut me off? Well, ill tell you. It makes me incredibly aware of others & ive seen too many people get mad for no reason. So theres no point cause thay person doesnt affect my emotions i jist laugh at everything anyhow. Its alot easier that way

[@janpeterson6851]

I’d go home with you, Chase!

[@bobperson1173]

So many ads

[@marydd4147]

Oh puhleez not everyone who is vegan has to tell you that, that's just meat eater guilt. Love Chase so he was worth listening to.

[@annalo2152]

Haha vegan. They always do tell you too 😂

[@sophiarevel6952]

I love watch a lot of cooking shows but the kitchen is another story.

[@FaradayStanford-y4m]

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[@Chris777.]

Why can’t men accept that just because they get rejected,, it’s doesn’t mean how you are .. more about y to bay women don’t find them attractive 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Annastesiacrane]

There so busy judging me they fail removing there own evolving

[@antoniolittera2154]

If I were a spy and someone pulled out a pair of tweezers and started picking my eye brows I’d probably tell them to waterboard me instead. That hurts like hell, how do women even do that? Would women also be more resistant to torture being used to picking their eye brows? Questions abund...

[@yvonne3903]

It's not sore after first few times. Try it.

[@cjdflkj]

Women here, it doesn’t hurt at all. Plucking nose hairs on the other hand 😆

[@karenmossbryan7932]

Number one is never a good placement.

[@allenharrelliii7424]

Space monkeys