20 Heartbreaking Lessons I Learned In 2020.

[@UmmJannah01]

1. Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever 2. You're stronger than you think 3. Family is everything 4. Mental health is important 5. It's okay to not be okay sometimes 6. Stop giving people chances when they don't deserve it time after time esp. when they show their true character. 7. Pray for everything 8. Don't dwell on what hurts you and what you can't change and move on but take your own time to heal 9. Don't let people question your happiness 10. It's okay to ask for help and receive help 11. You may not know what's always best for you so trust God and his plans for you 12. Change is inevitable 13. It's okay to outgrow people 14. Real friends will be there for you through thick and thin 15. Trusting God leads to ultimate peace 16. Focus on yourself and your goals 17. It's okay to be uncertain and not plan every moment in your life or else you will be disappointed 18. You're still young so enjoy your life! Recognize the blessings in your life and know there are many years ahead 19. Sometimes silence gives you all the answers you need 20. Healing isn't the destination, its a journey.

[@spottedherself9767]

I’m still dealing with #8

[@itsnasrah1420]

Thank you for writing them♥️, bless you

[@sbegum246]

Just made the decision to part from my husband. In denial and devestated. Hard to part with someone you love but know I have to do it for the both of us.

[@godislove4995]

@@sbegum246 am in the same situation but am still in the relationship. Mostly what is holding me back is am so scared of the aftermath .

[@godislove4995]

Thank you so much for writing ❤

[@suemisosoup9949]

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. - Maya Angelou. One of my favorite quotes.

[@lakeiam615]

I really wish everyone went by this! :)

[@AyshaHarun]

Wishing all the best to you this new year! xoxo

[@fatimatumusah1098]

Please ayisha please send me your email I want to talk to you please okay insha Allah

[@fatimatumusah1098]

Or you number please

[@elizabethroblyn1392]

I wish you hve an excellent 2021, and beyond.

[@nosibulelesbulelomavukwana5868]

We love you sissy❤

[@mareeyamasinghatey]

❤️

[@Saidastiles]

When I got divorced I was so happy, I think people didn’t understand that. But I just moved on so quickly and I do feel like there is an expectation to be sad and miserable, but I just felt free. Praying for healing for all of you and thank you Aysha for sharing these valuable lessons

[@mamajay4219]

It’s because you were really desperate with that person. I’m happy for you Saida. Continue being happy

[@Saidastiles]

@@mamajay4219 I wasn’t desperate 😊

[@Flourish_today]

@@mamajay4219 I think you must have misplaced the word desperate. You probably meant something else in good faith. Re-read your comment dear. Desperate means something else.

[@proudmuslim1011]

@@Flourish_today i think the person meant depressed

[@Saidastiles]

@@proudmuslim1011 lol I wasn’t depressed either, I was happy

[@hinasiddiqie4738]

Love you sis! Lesson #21 (and this is one I’ve learned throughout my journey) - don’t ever think that being tested in this life is a form of punishment from God, because “Allah only gives His toughest battles to His strongest soldiers”. Stay strong 😘 !!!

[@samiranurani3788]

For me is prayer and fasting that helped me heal

[@afrahsalih1704]

Hey sweetie we learn every day. I have been divorced two times. I had two miscarriage in 2020 and got divorced for the second time. however I'm happy been single mother. Allah know. Alhumdallah. You are so strong I love you 😍 happy new year

[@salmafatuma450]

May Allah grant you all the hapiness in this world and the hereafter habibty💞💞

[@asmaidris]

May Allah bless you inshallah, keep going your strong inshallah!

[@afrahsalih1704]

@@salmafatuma450 💖

[@afrahsalih1704]

@@asmaidris 💖

[@lily7741]

May Allah bless you and your children ❤️

[@carewithcompassion280]

Such a wise wise woman, I pray consistent healing and blessing for your life.....I'm not Muslim but I respect and honor your life journey......blessing to you🙏🏻

[@user-ub4nn2et4j]

Am not Muslim either but i belive God is a God of second chance and he heal a broken heart.

[@samiyahibrahim7207]

@@user-ub4nn2et4j yess🥺

[@JaliaWaldaMUA]

I feel aysha did this for me🥺🥺we all go through these things & I feel after everything is done,u will look back & bless those who gave u those lessons... When my husband left me,it was a lesson for me to focus & work on my life,God brought him back after I have realized that I needed to work double & love myself Praying for your healing🙏

[@MorghanNoelle]

one of my resolutions is to stop people pleasing!! a quote that i saw a while back said "your life isn't yours if you're constantly worried about what others think" and it stuck with me since then!! going into 2021 with that mindset and sticking to it ❤️❤️

[@lilmbaye29]

Another one is, "Everyone needs more than anyone can offer right now.." So don't worry if someone doesn't like you.

[@abdullahiaysha6544]

I made no resolution for this year with exception of this, just entered with prayers and God but this!!! I pray God help me cause I really want to stop.

[@user-kt2uu9xo6v]

good luck!

[@lucylameck8222]

I read somewhere "healing comes in waves, most days you're up and most days you're down" somedays I wake up and I think to myself that I've finally healed, and somedays I'm a complete wreck. And it's okay to feel both emotions. Just keep going. 💕

[@loverofhumanity]

move on for fucks sakes. How else can you make your present or future better. There's no other choice really. Would you really want to dwell on the past forever screwing up your present?

[@ztop9626]

As a Muslimah who wants to find a black muslimah on KZbin who’s classy, modest, Allah conscious, beautiful!, eloquent, hardworking, intelligent, etc I can’t say all, I’ll say Aysha is the best. There’s no way you’re skipping Aysha without subscribing unless you’re not after the adjectives I mentioned. Her energy is addictive

[@angeliiis2419]

For me being alone was a great experience. I learned that I like being alone. I like not having to do for someone else. I enjoy these freedom to do what I want and with whom I want. I love turning off my lights and no one complains. It's the simplest of things in life that makes me happy and most of all I make me happy. Women need to learn to be happy within themselves and then others can share somewhat in their space.

[@sanaa.2195]

The last one: vulnerability is key for deeper connection. 🎉

[@aaliyayarey2136]

This world is temporary enjoyment and life hereafter is permanent settlement

[@louisea4920]

I'm claiming a closer relationship with God, family and friends. I'm claiming financial abundance, boldness to step out of my comfort zone, good health for us all, peace, growth & discipline. Amen 🙏🏾

[@tasfiaahmed5405]

This women is so wise and understanding, and it's so calming hearing her discuss important issues we all go through. So much love ❤️

[@noraamaala]

As Salaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah, I have been watching you for some time now, like years lol. I don't comment often, but I wanted to say that you most certainly have it to reach half a million subscribers in this year. You are not only an inspiration, but a joy to watch! May Allah grant you success!😊

[@evelynwilkerson4800]

Your honesty, openness, and strength are inspiring. I am so proud of you!

[@merlynfurtado3793]

Seriously babe! You deserve a million subscribers already. You've touched so many lives. Happy New Year ^_^

[@OhasanaO]

"Don't let people question your happiness. That's because god gave you that happiness, That's because God blessed you with that strength and resilience to move on." Loved that part. Thanks for sharing these! Take care, sis.

[@jeanettejbeauty6374]

Loved this video Aysha 😍

[@nanimohamed2249]

Happy New Year Aysha. You're strong and an amazing young woman. Obviously, it is not comfortable to be this vulnerable on here; however, I would like to applaud you and encourage to share more as you're inspiring other women who are going through the same right now or prepare them to be able to cope quickly to unforeseen hardships and heartbreaks. Love you from Somaliland.

[@Morenasten]

Literally talking to the Screen , saying YESS , FACTS to each point! Especially, the expectations of your emotions when trauma happens. At the end of 2019 entering 2020 , my husband and I both got laid off from the same company . His boss , was so shook that we handled the situation so well and friends and family too. The boss asked us are you guys taking happy Pills ?! Honestly , it is our faith that got us through the uncertainty. Alhamdulillah always will forever be my motto , good and bad events , Alhamdulillah because different events help shape us and make us stronger . Much love for you and your strength Mashallah. Wishing you many more blessings in 2021🙏🏽✨

[@aissam.2420]

These lessons are keys and it really resonates with me! 🙌🏾 So emotional and true at the same time Mashallah. Lot of love from Paris 😘🇫🇷

[@sophiaeza9715]

No tree has 1branch Alll trees start with stabilisers You have just kicked yours clean off Learning and been aware of your mistakes means your experiencing a healthy growth Your a young woman enjoy being just that Being a woman is like being a flower, so do what flowers do best, blossom This is how you pay yourself and loved ones back Glow, shine and blossom, leave the rest to God girl. He will never fail you, he knows everything, that's why we pray to him for answers So stop worrying sweetness In God we trust ❤️⭐🥀

[@madodiagne3007]

Positivity is everything. Turning negativity to positivity ease everything. Life is too short. Stay positive

[@hamdiyamumade3832]

3:35 “im an emotional person” I- if that’s being emotional then what the hell am i 💀

[@samiyahibrahim7207]

frrrrrr

[@zainabhussain764]

I'm really going through a rough season in my life and this video is bringing so much healing into my soul. Thank you Aysha

[@officeline928]

That #14. No.. people aren't fake/unreal because they are "not on your side" during tough times or real when they are. Some of these people only are there for the tea on your saddness.

[@egyptianmusk9008]

💯

[@justmeandmyself7001]

You will be okay! And why? Because you don’t need anyone in your life as long as you have Allah swt. It is great to have friend/parents/ family, but even if you dont have them you will be OK.

[@sana5486]

Thank you for this video. Literally watched it 2x. Every single point mentioned was part of my life in 2019. Sometimes we just have to learn the hard way and thats the will of Allah. The healing part is surely is a journey and am still on it. May Allah see us all through our difficulties.

[@charinearaujo620]

Literally... felt every word you said. It’s so hard to love and be loved. It’s hard when that person gives you the silent treatment.... just broken heart 💔

[@natashajoseph-deleon6572]

Vulnerability is courage. God bless you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@louisea4920]

Literally, I was just discussing this with my best friend. Life doesn't end at 30! This was filled with so much wisdom. I'm going to have to refer back to this throughout the year! You're AH-mazing Aysha. May God continue to guide and keep you! ❤️

[@Maryam8910]

Thanks for sharing your lessons Aysha

[@sumayamohamed6579]

everything you said really resonated with me... needed to hear this after a tough year. I'm proud of you sis

[@suzettegalloway6812]

Listening to your lessons, tells me that you are going to be just fine. As someone who is much older than you, I couldn't be more proud of you and your growth. I am excited to see what 2021 has for you In Sha Allah

[@She_nala]

Honestly, I'm so proud of u... I hope u continue to grow, succeed and be happy In Shaa Allah

[@BritimaShow]

I write lists like this every year on my birthday. It’s really helpful to process and reflect on all the years lessons.

[@aminaismail5849]

Best life lessons in 20 minutes, you just said what life is. 2020 taught me that leaving everything in Allah hand , dua and family will always be the best no matter how bad or good they are.

[@tuduleshiggins8832]

AH The lesson I learned is, one does not have to wait for an apology; in order, to start to heal. By waiting, one only delays the healing process!

[@ummaryam1]

You are so wise for your age. Insha’allah the best is yet to come Alhamdulilah!

[@Layla6793]

Ma Sha Allah you’re absolutely strong and beautiful woman

[@kap7296]

I live by that saying by Maya Angelou. “When people show you who they are believe them”.

[@kayteuche5827]

My goodness! This video is useful for so many reasons not just for people who have gone through heartbreak! You have grown so much and trust me you have blessed so many from this video! Keep holding your head high boss girl! More than 500k subbies in 2021 for sure!!! You will end up with a wonderful man who deserves and can handle a very well accomplished boss woman inshallah!! You have shown incredible grace and courage and I hope young girls listen. Most accomplished women now have the 1st child at 35! You have lots of time!

[@bilenmillion1179]

I am proud of you Ayesha! You are very strong, smart young lady. Wish you 2021 is a better year. Keep going.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽💕💕💕🇪🇹🇪🇹🇪🇹

[@nadifoabdi9606]

You're very strong young lady proud of you

[@hajaralol9786]

May your 2021 be better than ur 2020 hope u guys best 😊

[@fatimahomar7061]

You are strong Aysha, I love you so much ❤️ I pray you get all the happiness you deserve.May Allah (SWA) continue to shower you with his blessings.

[@tanyapetersen7426]

Dearest , Aysha,I am so glad that you came forth with this video. You are just fine. You should never apologize to anyone for making yourself happy. All of this was painful for me to hear. I never saw this coming. Keep doing what you are doing. Your subscriber's love you. You know how I feel about you. I look forward the a better year in2021 with you.

[@SAINASAHO]

Everything u said is so true🙏🏾 I’m so glad that your doing better and you made this video becuz I been though a couple miscarriages and some of the ppl I thought was gonna be there for me they wasn’t... Definitely agree on praying and good things will come 💕

[@suliyattemitope8964]

I pray this year be your year to glow in glory and achieve the unachievable of 2020 InshaAllah.

[@fatimahumarhassan8652]

I truly needed this, Important lessons. Being vulnerable is definitely one of my 2021 goals. Thank You for this Aysha

[@fardows44]

I planned out 2020 in my head and I was so frustrated I didn't carry out some of my plans. I know now we plan and Allah plans. Allah's plan was best for me because I grew and learnt so much I'm so grateful wlh. I discovered so much about how I'm wired Alhamdulillah. Thank you Aysha for the lessons ❤

[@LB-mv9qe]

I can relate to you when it comes to asking for help I can never do that even when I need it waallahi I can help others but I don’t ask for help. 🤲🏾🙏🏾

[@tamimaislam94]

Can I just say, I’m going through a heartbreak and every single video of yours really gives me strength! The fact that you overcame this and are glowing and growing, that too in the kidst of this pandemic, gives me hope that I too can make it through. Thank you so much Aysha, May Allah bless you with the utmost happiness in sha Allah 🥺🙏🏽❤️

[@Madam-17]

Your so strong girl, may Allah continue giving you strength and ease inshaAllah. I loved this video and learnt alot too

[@Fetia104]

#17 yes we can not control anything but you can prepare yourself ahead and training your mind to accept anything comes your way

[@elifasehapovic3795]

Girl....... You better be happy no kids involved...... I speak from my experience ...... Im glad family and close friends were your support when you needed it ...... I still remember though times I went thru ...... Im listening to you and I can relate all that you are saying..... But you know Allah close one door and open another ....... Allah created that someone only for you that will not hurt you in any kind a way ..... Be proud of your self what you have in your life and be thankful for family .......

[@kangoocutee1198]

Wow, very raw and real!! Thanks for sharing, and this will definitely help someone else going through anything

[@KR-xh4wn]

GIRRRLLLLLL...... I love this new you. There is a maturity and confidence in your voice that I don't recall witnessing before. I hate that you had to experience so much pain to learn these lessons, but I am grateful to God that you came out of that storm better than when you went in. Losing a spouse and friends is traumatic, like BIG T Traumatic. You will continue to grow and forgive and process it all over time. But Praise God that you've already overcome so much so quickly. Shame on anyone who questions the miracles displayed in your life. He is so faithful and you are so worthy of all His blessings and kindness. Wishing you peace and prosperity in the new year and beyond.

[@fatimasunusimusa4150]

Happy new year 🎉 🎊 much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

[@amakaamaechi1237]

Hello Fati, you are my sister I'm Nigerian too.

[@fatimasunusimusa4150]

@@amakaamaechi1237 hey🙋 Amaka

[@shondanesbittfair9674]

I am in my late forties and everything you said is the truth. This year has been a lot for me personally as well. You words brought comfort. Your future is truly bright if you carry this level of wisdom and reflection on your journey from the age of 25. Be blessed and continue to be a vessel for God. 🙏🏾

[@erisajohnson3768]

So many beautiful truths in this video Aysha ❤️

[@latifakarangwa1335]

Thank you for sharing this, it has inspired me a lot in a way that you cant undersand . May God bless you in all that you do. love you @AyshaHarun.

[@nher7266]

You are such a soft, wise + resilient soul mA. Listening to the way you’ve come to peace with your journey, is so beautiful to hear. Although it wasn’t a marriage, I went through a break up myself last year and along w the manic year itself, it was difficult and something I wasn’t expecting. I’m still healing from it. Like you said, it’s a journey....don’t let anyone rush, digress nor shame you for the way you choose to express or manage. ‘I am not going to apologise for being emotional.’ -just what your soul needed to hear me thinks 🥰

[@Naz-qp1tu]

Your so wise, honest, beautiful person in and out Aysha. I've learn alot from you. Very true your life does not end at 30..Im living proof & so are many others out their😊 #Queen Aysha 💚😗

[@marwohi2195]

U made me cry 😢 mansha allah 👏🏾😍

[@phylisarealone9789]

Thank you for sharing with us. I will keep you in my prayers. I was also blindsided by someone I loved. That was five years ago, and it's a journey coming back from the hurt.

[@tequilawalker6207]

Wow!!! It's been 8yrs that I've been following you?!?!? God bless you lil Sistah!!! You're a very strong, intelligent, and beautiful young woman. You and my son are the same age, You got this gurl😘

[@btylove1870]

I'm so proud of you Mashaallah. ❤

[@noormalik8848]

I loved this video its like you were talking to me , i wish i could just give you a hug 🥰🥰 thank you so much for this and never give up xxxx may Allah protect you from the evil eye and make you the coolness of your parents eyes. Ameen 🌹

[@dipanpreetkaur7371]

Everything you said make such sense. You were talking, I was eyeballing thinking about my own journey and connecting with you even more.

[@hyperluvr]

so proud of you aysha! you‘ve come out 2020 so strong. to happiness & success in 2021 ❤️ my mantra for this year is I CAN AND I WILL and also to start being more kind to myself. 🥺

[@fritzie7793]

What a great wisdom you’ve shared. I am very blessed to listen.

[@deannaczernon3826]

Girl you are wise beyond your years. Glad to hear that you used therapy to help you heal. Keep you eyes on your future, the past will take care of itself. God holds your future and it's beautiful, Peace and blessing for 2021💖

[@Eva_R966]

I really really hope you hit your goal of half a million this year! You deserve it♥️♥️

[@narhaw31]

Such a strong and powerful video. I love it. Wish you all the best for 2021❤️

[@_immaculata]

Sending you a million and one bucket loads of love and support. You are a blessing! And you are genuinely amazing. 😘

[@vanessaglover5572]

OMG, you are so beautiful inside and out. I applaud you for being the woman you are, and the advice you're giving. You are so brave and smart. I hope you continue to grow, heal and prosper. Much luv and respect to you babygirl.

[@halikause6054]

We definitely need more of these types of videos from you aysha, extremely motivation and relatable thank you

[@MM-sr4nn]

Thank you so much for this video Aysha. Every lesson you mentioned is one that I learnt this year too. So relatable. I have stepped into 2021 putting my trust in Allah and truly content. I pray Allah grants you blessings in this life and in the next. ❤️

[@husnahahmed8895]

This is what i have been looking for thanks so much dia

[@4eyedgirl_]

Happy new year Aysha! You’re such an inspiration. Thank you for being transparent even in uncomfortable times. Wishing you an amazing and prosperous year full of happiness 💚✨

[@madelynvw]

Asalaamu aleykoum sister 🥰 loved this video! Would be great to see more of these sit down videos sharing experiences, advice etc. Much appreciated as long as you enjoy it yourself ofcourse. Excited to see more of you this year in shaa Allah ❤️

[@juliamorales797]

Absolutely, this journey through life has its high and lows but as long as we learn from each experience, we’ll be better for it.

[@bothoseiphemo1234]

I love you sis! ❤️Hope you have an amazing 2021❤️positive vibes ONLY!

[@dawaneebba5164]

I been in the same situation but what I learn is forgiving and give time for your self to heal.

[@solafashamira4475]

No.18 really speaks to me like most of the time

[@Sh-pd2wf]

I am so proud of you, watching you grow throughout the year. ❤❤

[@ionhassan]

Aysha, you are a true inspiration! I love to see the growth that you have experienced in 2020 Masha’Allah. One thing I have learned this year is how growth is also not a destination but a journey and that sometimes we may feel stagnant in our growth because we start to feel affected by our past traumas. That doesn’t mean that we are back to square one in our journeys, it just means that we are human and we must continually work to bettering ourselves for ourselves. I look forward to seeing the blessings and lessons that this year holds for you!

[@faithandgrace8244]

This was the most profound video you've done and to me your best video. God bless and thank you!!

[@rozanabuqtaish808]

Masha’allah sis❤️ so proud of the way you are getting over everything, u know not everyone can handle this, you are strong, pretty and successful woman, wish u all the best cuz u deserve it❤️

[@zzainab9017]

Allah brought me to this video. Pretty much everything you said hit home for me in 2020♥️

[@gperks37]

Happy New Year, I truly understand about 2020, after 19 yrs of marriage, yes, you find out how strong you are.2021 is goin to be great, less stress

[@Jesuisjou]

18!!! Soo truee! We need to unlearn the Ingrown traditional ideals we have about Realtionship and life! 😔🙈

[@islamlover4ever1]

Thank you so much Aysha. This year has been hard for me as well mentally but I’m optimistic and trust Allah. I know healing is a process. I pray Allah makes this year be full of goodness and joy for the both of us my dear 💗

[@noushin0997]

Mashallah your strength sister❤️ I’m so happy you haven’t lost your faith. I’m going through a hardship right now and it was so refreshing listening to this.❤️

[@fatumayusuf1938]

Whew! I felt all of this, praying for our peace & healing in this new year. So excited for the future 🤍