1. Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever 2. You're stronger than you think 3. Family is everything 4. Mental health is important 5. It's okay to not be okay sometimes 6. Stop giving people chances when they don't deserve it time after time esp. when they show their true character. 7. Pray for everything 8. Don't dwell on what hurts you and what you can't change and move on but take your own time to heal 9. Don't let people question your happiness 10. It's okay to ask for help and receive help 11. You may not know what's always best for you so trust God and his plans for you 12. Change is inevitable 13. It's okay to outgrow people 14. Real friends will be there for you through thick and thin 15. Trusting God leads to ultimate peace 16. Focus on yourself and your goals 17. It's okay to be uncertain and not plan every moment in your life or else you will be disappointed 18. You're still young so enjoy your life! Recognize the blessings in your life and know there are many years ahead 19. Sometimes silence gives you all the answers you need 20. Healing isn't the destination, its a journey.
@spottedherself97673 жыл бұрын
I’m still dealing with #8
@itsnasrah14203 жыл бұрын
Thank you for writing them♥️, bless you
@sbegum2463 жыл бұрын
Just made the decision to part from my husband. In denial and devestated. Hard to part with someone you love but know I have to do it for the both of us.
@godislove49953 жыл бұрын
@@sbegum246 am in the same situation but am still in the relationship. Mostly what is holding me back is am so scared of the aftermath .
@godislove49953 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for writing ❤
@suemisosoup99493 жыл бұрын
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. - Maya Angelou. One of my favorite quotes.
@lakeiam6153 жыл бұрын
I really wish everyone went by this! :)
@AyshaHarun3 жыл бұрын
Wishing all the best to you this new year! xoxo
@fatimatumusah10983 жыл бұрын
Please ayisha please send me your email I want to talk to you please okay insha Allah
@fatimatumusah10983 жыл бұрын
Or you number please
@elizabethroblyn13923 жыл бұрын
I wish you hve an excellent 2021, and beyond.
@nosibulelesbulelomavukwana58683 жыл бұрын
We love you sissy❤
@mareeyamasinghatey3 жыл бұрын
❤️
@Saidastiles3 жыл бұрын
When I got divorced I was so happy, I think people didn’t understand that. But I just moved on so quickly and I do feel like there is an expectation to be sad and miserable, but I just felt free. Praying for healing for all of you and thank you Aysha for sharing these valuable lessons
@mamajay42193 жыл бұрын
It’s because you were really desperate with that person. I’m happy for you Saida. Continue being happy
@Saidastiles3 жыл бұрын
@@mamajay4219 I wasn’t desperate 😊
@Flourish_today3 жыл бұрын
@@mamajay4219 I think you must have misplaced the word desperate. You probably meant something else in good faith. Re-read your comment dear. Desperate means something else.
@proudmuslim10113 жыл бұрын
@@Flourish_today i think the person meant depressed
@Saidastiles3 жыл бұрын
@@proudmuslim1011 lol I wasn’t depressed either, I was happy
@hinasiddiqie47383 жыл бұрын
Love you sis! Lesson #21 (and this is one I’ve learned throughout my journey) - don’t ever think that being tested in this life is a form of punishment from God, because “Allah only gives His toughest battles to His strongest soldiers”. Stay strong 😘 !!!
@samiranurani37883 жыл бұрын
For me is prayer and fasting that helped me heal
@afrahsalih17043 жыл бұрын
Hey sweetie we learn every day. I have been divorced two times. I had two miscarriage in 2020 and got divorced for the second time. however I'm happy been single mother. Allah know. Alhumdallah. You are so strong I love you 😍 happy new year
@salmafatuma4503 жыл бұрын
May Allah grant you all the hapiness in this world and the hereafter habibty💞💞
@asmaidris3 жыл бұрын
May Allah bless you inshallah, keep going your strong inshallah!
@afrahsalih17043 жыл бұрын
@@salmafatuma450 💖
@afrahsalih17043 жыл бұрын
@@asmaidris 💖
@lily77413 жыл бұрын
May Allah bless you and your children ❤️
@carewithcompassion2803 жыл бұрын
Such a wise wise woman, I pray consistent healing and blessing for your life.....I'm not Muslim but I respect and honor your life journey......blessing to you🙏🏻
@user-ub4nn2et4j3 жыл бұрын
Am not Muslim either but i belive God is a God of second chance and he heal a broken heart.
@samiyahibrahim72073 жыл бұрын
@@user-ub4nn2et4j yess🥺
@JaliaWaldaMUA3 жыл бұрын
I feel aysha did this for me🥺🥺we all go through these things & I feel after everything is done,u will look back & bless those who gave u those lessons... When my husband left me,it was a lesson for me to focus & work on my life,God brought him back after I have realized that I needed to work double & love myself Praying for your healing🙏
@MorghanNoelle3 жыл бұрын
one of my resolutions is to stop people pleasing!! a quote that i saw a while back said "your life isn't yours if you're constantly worried about what others think" and it stuck with me since then!! going into 2021 with that mindset and sticking to it ❤️❤️
@lilmbaye293 жыл бұрын
Another one is, "Everyone needs more than anyone can offer right now.." So don't worry if someone doesn't like you.
@abdullahiaysha65443 жыл бұрын
I made no resolution for this year with exception of this, just entered with prayers and God but this!!! I pray God help me cause I really want to stop.
@user-kt2uu9xo6v3 жыл бұрын
good luck!
@lucylameck82223 жыл бұрын
I read somewhere "healing comes in waves, most days you're up and most days you're down" somedays I wake up and I think to myself that I've finally healed, and somedays I'm a complete wreck. And it's okay to feel both emotions. Just keep going. 💕
@loverofhumanity3 жыл бұрын
move on for fucks sakes. How else can you make your present or future better. There's no other choice really. Would you really want to dwell on the past forever screwing up your present?
@ztop96263 жыл бұрын
As a Muslimah who wants to find a black muslimah on KZbin who’s classy, modest, Allah conscious, beautiful!, eloquent, hardworking, intelligent, etc I can’t say all, I’ll say Aysha is the best. There’s no way you’re skipping Aysha without subscribing unless you’re not after the adjectives I mentioned. Her energy is addictive
@angeliiis24193 жыл бұрын
For me being alone was a great experience. I learned that I like being alone. I like not having to do for someone else. I enjoy these freedom to do what I want and with whom I want. I love turning off my lights and no one complains. It's the simplest of things in life that makes me happy and most of all I make me happy. Women need to learn to be happy within themselves and then others can share somewhat in their space.
@sanaa.21953 жыл бұрын
The last one: vulnerability is key for deeper connection. 🎉
@aaliyayarey21363 жыл бұрын
This world is temporary enjoyment and life hereafter is permanent settlement
@louisea49203 жыл бұрын
I'm claiming a closer relationship with God, family and friends. I'm claiming financial abundance, boldness to step out of my comfort zone, good health for us all, peace, growth & discipline. Amen 🙏🏾
@tasfiaahmed54053 жыл бұрын
This women is so wise and understanding, and it's so calming hearing her discuss important issues we all go through. So much love ❤️
@noraamaala3 жыл бұрын
As Salaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah, I have been watching you for some time now, like years lol. I don't comment often, but I wanted to say that you most certainly have it to reach half a million subscribers in this year. You are not only an inspiration, but a joy to watch! May Allah grant you success!😊
@evelynwilkerson48003 жыл бұрын
Your honesty, openness, and strength are inspiring. I am so proud of you!
@merlynfurtado37933 жыл бұрын
Seriously babe! You deserve a million subscribers already. You've touched so many lives. Happy New Year ^_^
@OhasanaO3 жыл бұрын
"Don't let people question your happiness. That's because god gave you that happiness, That's because God blessed you with that strength and resilience to move on." Loved that part. Thanks for sharing these! Take care, sis.
@jeanettejbeauty63743 жыл бұрын
Loved this video Aysha 😍
@nanimohamed22493 жыл бұрын
Happy New Year Aysha. You're strong and an amazing young woman. Obviously, it is not comfortable to be this vulnerable on here; however, I would like to applaud you and encourage to share more as you're inspiring other women who are going through the same right now or prepare them to be able to cope quickly to unforeseen hardships and heartbreaks. Love you from Somaliland.
@Morenasten3 жыл бұрын
Literally talking to the Screen , saying YESS , FACTS to each point! Especially, the expectations of your emotions when trauma happens. At the end of 2019 entering 2020 , my husband and I both got laid off from the same company . His boss , was so shook that we handled the situation so well and friends and family too. The boss asked us are you guys taking happy Pills ?! Honestly , it is our faith that got us through the uncertainty. Alhamdulillah always will forever be my motto , good and bad events , Alhamdulillah because different events help shape us and make us stronger . Much love for you and your strength Mashallah. Wishing you many more blessings in 2021🙏🏽✨
@aissam.24203 жыл бұрын
These lessons are keys and it really resonates with me! 🙌🏾 So emotional and true at the same time Mashallah. Lot of love from Paris 😘🇫🇷
@sophiaeza97153 жыл бұрын
No tree has 1branch Alll trees start with stabilisers You have just kicked yours clean off Learning and been aware of your mistakes means your experiencing a healthy growth Your a young woman enjoy being just that Being a woman is like being a flower, so do what flowers do best, blossom This is how you pay yourself and loved ones back Glow, shine and blossom, leave the rest to God girl. He will never fail you, he knows everything, that's why we pray to him for answers So stop worrying sweetness In God we trust ❤️⭐🥀
@madodiagne30073 жыл бұрын
Positivity is everything. Turning negativity to positivity ease everything. Life is too short. Stay positive
@hamdiyamumade38323 жыл бұрын
3:35 “im an emotional person” I- if that’s being emotional then what the hell am i 💀
@samiyahibrahim72073 жыл бұрын
frrrrrr
@zainabhussain7643 жыл бұрын
I'm really going through a rough season in my life and this video is bringing so much healing into my soul. Thank you Aysha
@officeline9283 жыл бұрын
That #14. No.. people aren't fake/unreal because they are "not on your side" during tough times or real when they are. Some of these people only are there for the tea on your saddness.
@egyptianmusk90083 жыл бұрын
💯
@justmeandmyself70013 жыл бұрын
You will be okay! And why? Because you don’t need anyone in your life as long as you have Allah swt. It is great to have friend/parents/ family, but even if you dont have them you will be OK.
@sana54863 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. Literally watched it 2x. Every single point mentioned was part of my life in 2019. Sometimes we just have to learn the hard way and thats the will of Allah. The healing part is surely is a journey and am still on it. May Allah see us all through our difficulties.
@charinearaujo6203 жыл бұрын
Literally... felt every word you said. It’s so hard to love and be loved. It’s hard when that person gives you the silent treatment.... just broken heart 💔
@natashajoseph-deleon65723 жыл бұрын
Vulnerability is courage. God bless you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@louisea49203 жыл бұрын
Literally, I was just discussing this with my best friend. Life doesn't end at 30! This was filled with so much wisdom. I'm going to have to refer back to this throughout the year! You're AH-mazing Aysha. May God continue to guide and keep you! ❤️
@Maryam89103 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your lessons Aysha
@sumayamohamed65793 жыл бұрын
everything you said really resonated with me... needed to hear this after a tough year. I'm proud of you sis
@suzettegalloway68123 жыл бұрын
Listening to your lessons, tells me that you are going to be just fine. As someone who is much older than you, I couldn't be more proud of you and your growth. I am excited to see what 2021 has for you In Sha Allah
@She_nala3 жыл бұрын
Honestly, I'm so proud of u... I hope u continue to grow, succeed and be happy In Shaa Allah
@BritimaShow3 жыл бұрын
I write lists like this every year on my birthday. It’s really helpful to process and reflect on all the years lessons.
@aminaismail58493 жыл бұрын
Best life lessons in 20 minutes, you just said what life is. 2020 taught me that leaving everything in Allah hand , dua and family will always be the best no matter how bad or good they are.
@tuduleshiggins88323 жыл бұрын
AH The lesson I learned is, one does not have to wait for an apology; in order, to start to heal. By waiting, one only delays the healing process!
@ummaryam13 жыл бұрын
You are so wise for your age. Insha’allah the best is yet to come Alhamdulilah!
@Layla67933 жыл бұрын
Ma Sha Allah you’re absolutely strong and beautiful woman
@kap72963 жыл бұрын
I live by that saying by Maya Angelou. “When people show you who they are believe them”.
@kayteuche58273 жыл бұрын
My goodness! This video is useful for so many reasons not just for people who have gone through heartbreak! You have grown so much and trust me you have blessed so many from this video! Keep holding your head high boss girl! More than 500k subbies in 2021 for sure!!! You will end up with a wonderful man who deserves and can handle a very well accomplished boss woman inshallah!! You have shown incredible grace and courage and I hope young girls listen. Most accomplished women now have the 1st child at 35! You have lots of time!
@bilenmillion11793 жыл бұрын
I am proud of you Ayesha! You are very strong, smart young lady. Wish you 2021 is a better year. Keep going.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽💕💕💕🇪🇹🇪🇹🇪🇹
@nadifoabdi96063 жыл бұрын
You're very strong young lady proud of you
@hajaralol97863 жыл бұрын
May your 2021 be better than ur 2020 hope u guys best 😊
@fatimahomar70613 жыл бұрын
You are strong Aysha, I love you so much ❤️ I pray you get all the happiness you deserve.May Allah (SWA) continue to shower you with his blessings.
@tanyapetersen74263 жыл бұрын
Dearest , Aysha,I am so glad that you came forth with this video. You are just fine. You should never apologize to anyone for making yourself happy. All of this was painful for me to hear. I never saw this coming. Keep doing what you are doing. Your subscriber's love you. You know how I feel about you. I look forward the a better year in2021 with you.
@SAINASAHO3 жыл бұрын
Everything u said is so true🙏🏾 I’m so glad that your doing better and you made this video becuz I been though a couple miscarriages and some of the ppl I thought was gonna be there for me they wasn’t... Definitely agree on praying and good things will come 💕
@suliyattemitope89643 жыл бұрын
I pray this year be your year to glow in glory and achieve the unachievable of 2020 InshaAllah.
@fatimahumarhassan86523 жыл бұрын
I truly needed this, Important lessons. Being vulnerable is definitely one of my 2021 goals. Thank You for this Aysha
@fardows443 жыл бұрын
I planned out 2020 in my head and I was so frustrated I didn't carry out some of my plans. I know now we plan and Allah plans. Allah's plan was best for me because I grew and learnt so much I'm so grateful wlh. I discovered so much about how I'm wired Alhamdulillah. Thank you Aysha for the lessons ❤
@LB-mv9qe3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to you when it comes to asking for help I can never do that even when I need it waallahi I can help others but I don’t ask for help. 🤲🏾🙏🏾
@tamimaislam943 жыл бұрын
Can I just say, I’m going through a heartbreak and every single video of yours really gives me strength! The fact that you overcame this and are glowing and growing, that too in the kidst of this pandemic, gives me hope that I too can make it through. Thank you so much Aysha, May Allah bless you with the utmost happiness in sha Allah 🥺🙏🏽❤️
@Madam-173 жыл бұрын
Your so strong girl, may Allah continue giving you strength and ease inshaAllah. I loved this video and learnt alot too
@Fetia1043 жыл бұрын
#17 yes we can not control anything but you can prepare yourself ahead and training your mind to accept anything comes your way
@elifasehapovic37953 жыл бұрын
Girl....... You better be happy no kids involved...... I speak from my experience ...... Im glad family and close friends were your support when you needed it ...... I still remember though times I went thru ...... Im listening to you and I can relate all that you are saying..... But you know Allah close one door and open another ....... Allah created that someone only for you that will not hurt you in any kind a way ..... Be proud of your self what you have in your life and be thankful for family .......
@kangoocutee11983 жыл бұрын
Wow, very raw and real!! Thanks for sharing, and this will definitely help someone else going through anything
@KR-xh4wn3 жыл бұрын
GIRRRLLLLLL...... I love this new you. There is a maturity and confidence in your voice that I don't recall witnessing before. I hate that you had to experience so much pain to learn these lessons, but I am grateful to God that you came out of that storm better than when you went in. Losing a spouse and friends is traumatic, like BIG T Traumatic. You will continue to grow and forgive and process it all over time. But Praise God that you've already overcome so much so quickly. Shame on anyone who questions the miracles displayed in your life. He is so faithful and you are so worthy of all His blessings and kindness. Wishing you peace and prosperity in the new year and beyond.
@fatimasunusimusa41503 жыл бұрын
Happy new year 🎉 🎊 much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬
@amakaamaechi12373 жыл бұрын
Hello Fati, you are my sister I'm Nigerian too.
@fatimasunusimusa41503 жыл бұрын
@@amakaamaechi1237 hey🙋 Amaka
@shondanesbittfair96743 жыл бұрын
I am in my late forties and everything you said is the truth. This year has been a lot for me personally as well. You words brought comfort. Your future is truly bright if you carry this level of wisdom and reflection on your journey from the age of 25. Be blessed and continue to be a vessel for God. 🙏🏾
@erisajohnson37683 жыл бұрын
So many beautiful truths in this video Aysha ❤️
@latifakarangwa13353 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this, it has inspired me a lot in a way that you cant undersand . May God bless you in all that you do. love you @AyshaHarun.
@nher72663 жыл бұрын
You are such a soft, wise + resilient soul mA. Listening to the way you’ve come to peace with your journey, is so beautiful to hear. Although it wasn’t a marriage, I went through a break up myself last year and along w the manic year itself, it was difficult and something I wasn’t expecting. I’m still healing from it. Like you said, it’s a journey....don’t let anyone rush, digress nor shame you for the way you choose to express or manage. ‘I am not going to apologise for being emotional.’ -just what your soul needed to hear me thinks 🥰
@Naz-qp1tu3 жыл бұрын
Your so wise, honest, beautiful person in and out Aysha. I've learn alot from you. Very true your life does not end at 30..Im living proof & so are many others out their😊 #Queen Aysha 💚😗
@marwohi21953 жыл бұрын
U made me cry 😢 mansha allah 👏🏾😍
@phylisarealone97893 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing with us. I will keep you in my prayers. I was also blindsided by someone I loved. That was five years ago, and it's a journey coming back from the hurt.
@tequilawalker62073 жыл бұрын
Wow!!! It's been 8yrs that I've been following you?!?!? God bless you lil Sistah!!! You're a very strong, intelligent, and beautiful young woman. You and my son are the same age, You got this gurl😘
@btylove18703 жыл бұрын
I'm so proud of you Mashaallah. ❤
@noormalik88483 жыл бұрын
I loved this video its like you were talking to me , i wish i could just give you a hug 🥰🥰 thank you so much for this and never give up xxxx may Allah protect you from the evil eye and make you the coolness of your parents eyes. Ameen 🌹
@dipanpreetkaur73713 жыл бұрын
Everything you said make such sense. You were talking, I was eyeballing thinking about my own journey and connecting with you even more.
@hyperluvr3 жыл бұрын
so proud of you aysha! you‘ve come out 2020 so strong. to happiness & success in 2021 ❤️ my mantra for this year is I CAN AND I WILL and also to start being more kind to myself. 🥺
@fritzie77933 жыл бұрын
What a great wisdom you’ve shared. I am very blessed to listen.
@deannaczernon38263 жыл бұрын
Girl you are wise beyond your years. Glad to hear that you used therapy to help you heal. Keep you eyes on your future, the past will take care of itself. God holds your future and it's beautiful, Peace and blessing for 2021💖
@Eva_R9663 жыл бұрын
I really really hope you hit your goal of half a million this year! You deserve it♥️♥️
@narhaw313 жыл бұрын
Such a strong and powerful video. I love it. Wish you all the best for 2021❤️
@_immaculata3 жыл бұрын
Sending you a million and one bucket loads of love and support. You are a blessing! And you are genuinely amazing. 😘
@vanessaglover55723 жыл бұрын
OMG, you are so beautiful inside and out. I applaud you for being the woman you are, and the advice you're giving. You are so brave and smart. I hope you continue to grow, heal and prosper. Much luv and respect to you babygirl.
@halikause60543 жыл бұрын
We definitely need more of these types of videos from you aysha, extremely motivation and relatable thank you
@MM-sr4nn3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video Aysha. Every lesson you mentioned is one that I learnt this year too. So relatable. I have stepped into 2021 putting my trust in Allah and truly content. I pray Allah grants you blessings in this life and in the next. ❤️
@husnahahmed88953 жыл бұрын
This is what i have been looking for thanks so much dia
@4eyedgirl_3 жыл бұрын
Happy new year Aysha! You’re such an inspiration. Thank you for being transparent even in uncomfortable times. Wishing you an amazing and prosperous year full of happiness 💚✨
@madelynvw3 жыл бұрын
Asalaamu aleykoum sister 🥰 loved this video! Would be great to see more of these sit down videos sharing experiences, advice etc. Much appreciated as long as you enjoy it yourself ofcourse. Excited to see more of you this year in shaa Allah ❤️
@juliamorales7973 жыл бұрын
Absolutely, this journey through life has its high and lows but as long as we learn from each experience, we’ll be better for it.
@bothoseiphemo12343 жыл бұрын
I love you sis! ❤️Hope you have an amazing 2021❤️positive vibes ONLY!
@dawaneebba51643 жыл бұрын
I been in the same situation but what I learn is forgiving and give time for your self to heal.
@solafashamira44753 жыл бұрын
No.18 really speaks to me like most of the time
@Sh-pd2wf3 жыл бұрын
I am so proud of you, watching you grow throughout the year. ❤❤
@ionhassan3 жыл бұрын
Aysha, you are a true inspiration! I love to see the growth that you have experienced in 2020 Masha’Allah. One thing I have learned this year is how growth is also not a destination but a journey and that sometimes we may feel stagnant in our growth because we start to feel affected by our past traumas. That doesn’t mean that we are back to square one in our journeys, it just means that we are human and we must continually work to bettering ourselves for ourselves. I look forward to seeing the blessings and lessons that this year holds for you!
@faithandgrace82443 жыл бұрын
This was the most profound video you've done and to me your best video. God bless and thank you!!
@rozanabuqtaish8083 жыл бұрын
Masha’allah sis❤️ so proud of the way you are getting over everything, u know not everyone can handle this, you are strong, pretty and successful woman, wish u all the best cuz u deserve it❤️
@zzainab90173 жыл бұрын
Allah brought me to this video. Pretty much everything you said hit home for me in 2020♥️
@gperks373 жыл бұрын
Happy New Year, I truly understand about 2020, after 19 yrs of marriage, yes, you find out how strong you are.2021 is goin to be great, less stress
@Jesuisjou3 жыл бұрын
18!!! Soo truee! We need to unlearn the Ingrown traditional ideals we have about Realtionship and life! 😔🙈
@islamlover4ever13 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Aysha. This year has been hard for me as well mentally but I’m optimistic and trust Allah. I know healing is a process. I pray Allah makes this year be full of goodness and joy for the both of us my dear 💗
@noushin09973 жыл бұрын
Mashallah your strength sister❤️ I’m so happy you haven’t lost your faith. I’m going through a hardship right now and it was so refreshing listening to this.❤️
@fatumayusuf19383 жыл бұрын
Whew! I felt all of this, praying for our peace & healing in this new year. So excited for the future 🤍