In my personal experience, the more people know about you, the more tools and weapons they have to use against you.
@alibertylover5 жыл бұрын
Human beings are nothing more than containment vessels for the production of human excrement.....
@cirukarago72515 жыл бұрын
💯
@Byteable5 жыл бұрын
For me i see them as teachers showing me my blindspots. Then I take that knowledge and do selfwork
@barboolabola33714 жыл бұрын
tanga
@jam74534 жыл бұрын
True in a way but being a walking paradox among other things can be quite beneficial. Forget about those kinds of people. Those kinds of people don’t deserve to be around a wonderful personality type such as this. Anyone that has to use something against you is lacking in something themselves & by doing such things will never change their personality or whatever anyway.
@rishabhshukla67055 жыл бұрын
So nice to read INFJ comments. All punctuated , not a spelling or grammatical mistake in sight. Perhaps that's the way we all are!
@jawadqaisrani32445 жыл бұрын
Rishabh Shukla Haha so true 😂
@mannhie4 жыл бұрын
You know, I have noticed it right away! There is something neat about INFJ's writing.... and also the coherence of thought and the chosen words to express that thought... it is beautiful!
@yodamoda84003 жыл бұрын
I make mistakes beacuse I am dyslexic and therefore never got around to learn punctuation and gramma correctly.
@AzorTTV2 жыл бұрын
Hmm , I mean , I personally feel like i can be sloppy sometimes xD
@teaforthetiller.7 жыл бұрын
Any other INFJs that are extremely affected by the emotions of people around them? For me, if one of my friends is sad, I always feel sad and down for the rest of the day.
@TwoTrakMind6 жыл бұрын
Avacado 13 do some research on empaths. You are quite likely an empath, as well as an INFJ. I am, as well.
@stephaniefuller2626 жыл бұрын
Avacado 13 Yes! All the time!!
@kb-kg4sd6 жыл бұрын
I do too i hate it
@salmaa38016 жыл бұрын
Saame and I like need to find them a solution as quick as possible, if not Id still think about it till it works out
@John-ih7gp5 жыл бұрын
I feel more emotion, than those who are actually going through it
@mrsturner85327 жыл бұрын
My biggest pet peeve as an infj is when I open up how I feel (which takes a lot out of me) only to be met with them saying "you shouldn't feel that way." Or "that it could be worse".
@miahleissa95997 жыл бұрын
As a very young INFJ, one of the wisest pieces of advice given to me was when an older woman told me that I over-analyze things, and to stop taking the layer cake apart piece-by-piece, and "eat the damn cake"!" Yes. Wise advice for an INFJ. We are not so complicated! Neither is anything around us. We/people make it that way. ;) As we age, we come to realize that much of life's complexity is simply perspective, just as often a "problem" is not even a problem until one decides it is. ;) As an older INFJ, all I can really share on this topic is that I have found a distinct correlation between how simple I can keep my life and happiness and peace of mind. ;) Hope that is helpful to some of my fellow INFJs.
@MCPanda-bl3nc5 жыл бұрын
Well said :). I can feel out of place even with other INFJs because I pretty much went through all this kind of self growth early on; it was first and foremost what I was driven to do as a child, so if I acted in some way, I would reflect. I generally spent a lot of time in applying Ti and understanding my own feelings after taking in the world around me with Ni & Fe. In this way, I have a high Fi and can probably handle conflict better bc I try to fix it asap. Or rather, I'm also very good at keeping drama out that I very rarely have to worry about it. Family conflict is unavoidable, so that's really where my tolerance for conflict comes from. I cried a lot over it as a child. Because I've learned to read myself, the communication part is where I actually struggle when arguing, especially if I feel very emotional about it. I know their feelings & my own so the struggIe is trying to find the right way to express myself which usually doesn't go well in arguments bc I prefer open discussions over presenting opposing sides (heart of heated conflicts that leads to uncontrollable feeling screaming out. It especially frustrating when the other person keeps pushing your side out of the way as if they don't actually care). I look for an absolute way to do things in a way, so I knew from the getgo I needed to take the time to analyze myself and I did. That's how eventually I broke out of depression and I guess a form of Ni-Ti loop which was integral to me learning my own emotions and stuff by allowing myself to use Fe more. It isn't more developed for me than Fi, but it definitely drives the way I socialize.
@abyssal_phoenix4 жыл бұрын
I have a few main problems now, (I’m 16), they are mainly coming from infj: 1. Selfdoubt (problems with loving myself) 2. Fear of not knowing the unknown thing of the future. 3. Crushes. Finally the hormones start to affect me and my behavior. And my infj personality is fighting it
@user-kf3ux8qw3 жыл бұрын
Advice we can see it's validity, but I for one take it into account as concrete advice I still had to do everything the hard way. I may know better but I always like/d to see for my self. It's good for everyone. Constructively
@user-kf3ux8qw3 жыл бұрын
🤔🙃🙄
@CianMcCarthyMusic5 жыл бұрын
Any fellow INFJs watching this in 2019?
@smartkidsgh26885 жыл бұрын
Yes! I'm right here...
@jawadqaisrani32445 жыл бұрын
Cian McCarthy Yes 😊 🤚
@drshinobi39794 жыл бұрын
just found out but still dont know even if most signs are just how i work and feel which feels like a stone suddenly lifted
@jawadqaisrani32444 жыл бұрын
Dr Shinobi I know what you mean. I hear you. If you ever need any support or feel the need to talk then feel free to get in touch. I feel at least we INFJs can support each other as we would be able to understand ourselves in a better manner.
@syediqbalhosain67374 жыл бұрын
Oh yes definitely such a resonance for me
@sasha_nivar7 жыл бұрын
I'm an enfp found out my "ideal" match is infj....sigh 1% of the population hmm time to roll up my sleeves and go find them!
@dustinyoung31876 жыл бұрын
Apparently INTP/INFJ is the golden pair. It's weird to think that compatibility works like that, but things are really awesome when I see an INFJ girl I know
@dansoboafo4 жыл бұрын
I'm just one of them,so no need to go further.
@WildflowerAnn7 жыл бұрын
As a 57 year old INFJ, I've found that I have been able to 'master much' & no longer just ebb & flow on the waves, but have control over much more & being an INFJ is absolutely wonderful!
@flair82927 жыл бұрын
I feel proud for being INFJ. I always feel as if no one has understand me, I felt like something was wrong with me. But now I know, it's because I'm an INFJ, I can totally relate to what you are saying.
@arcade14247 жыл бұрын
Hoseok's Wifeu you took the words right out of my heart :)
@flair82927 жыл бұрын
Arcade awww😂😁
@elliescotland1167 жыл бұрын
A fellow INFJ Army xxx
@flair82927 жыл бұрын
Ellie Scotland Heyo✌😂
@lune46826 жыл бұрын
omg I loveeee hobi too heehee
@renitania49827 жыл бұрын
so damn true,,, 😩 it's easier to understand others than myself
@dodonggumiho1836 жыл бұрын
Agree. 😑😑
@PowerRedBullTypology6 жыл бұрын
simply a typical high Fe trait....also I gotta admit, infj's tend to be extremely complicated and contradicting on so many levels, that anyone would have a problem understanding them
@iiAngelic7 жыл бұрын
Such a breath of fresh air to know there are people as weird as I
@Mr.M.UZ3D7 жыл бұрын
agreed
@flowerlover72716 жыл бұрын
Same 100 percent
@Johnny_RB5 жыл бұрын
Isn't it though?
@SkiaRavensong7 жыл бұрын
I really really really really struggle with the friendships thing
@sapphirephoenix30116 жыл бұрын
Alexis Morris, my hubby (INFJ) and me (INFP) don't have friends either--except God, other late family and friends, and almost no others.
@sterlingking23385 жыл бұрын
Me too it is horrible. I just want someone to understand me and spend time with. I have so much to give but can’t seem to find someone who deserves it,I been let down too much.
@geezus78334 жыл бұрын
What’s the point, death is inevitable and we can’t do jack 💩 about it. nothing matters, and one day planet earth will be lifeless and full of the trash we left behind.
@MusicallyyyyyAcapella5 жыл бұрын
#24 i am an infj but i have realised we just look for the security that we r so keen on providing others but never receiving... We make each friend feel special but somehow we always end up feeling like a second option in both friendships and relationships... Like its our duty to make them feel special and not a privelage we r providing...or something along the lines
@Paracelsus237 жыл бұрын
As an ENFP I think INFJs are full of great qualities! But also repressed "let US help you". But we can't do that unless you can open up a little and take some risks. Risk = rewards and if anyone deserves good things INFJs are up there. Cheers =>
@LuxeThe7thLotus7 жыл бұрын
Diogenes Laertius 🙄😌 your post....really made my day thank you for sharing
@ryanspinoza65867 жыл бұрын
Idk, but honestly I feel like only other INFJs can help us.
@andrewcalebgorospe27547 жыл бұрын
Diogenes Laertius my dad was an enfp, haha yes. I think the enfp-infj tandem works especially if the enfp takes the mentor-sidekick role & the infj takes the visionary-student role.
@yojojo30004 жыл бұрын
INFJ here, can agree. We definitely can go without help from others. But, help from others can really make us much better no matter what position we are in. We are just waiting for someone who wishes to understand us and take the time and effort to learn about us.
@greatawakening66677 жыл бұрын
I'm 25 years old, I'm a male INFJ. I just found out tonight about INFJ. This explains me very so well. I thought I was so alone. In these thoughts.
@kaitlynac6 жыл бұрын
Emotions are so difficult for me because I know how I feel, but then I also understand how they feel. So I don't feel like my feelings are valid because I understand things from their POV, but then again they are because I feel what I feel for a *reason*...ugh it's the worst. INFJdom is so hard sometimes
@katrinamareen6 жыл бұрын
22. I love to be alone, but have people in the house with me. Or I like to zone out with a book on the couch while my husband watches TV or something. I like to be with him, but then again, be alone in my book.
@AmyKinso7 жыл бұрын
Im apparently an INFJ, but I strongly dislike how nearly 90% of people (even INFJ's) stigmatise this type, like we're "depthy emotional special snowflakes", and yes to an extent thats true, but cmon we ain't the shit, why are we so hyped😂
@annecyan12277 жыл бұрын
AmyKinso same
@EryNightingale7 жыл бұрын
You may want to retake the personality test to confirm your INFJ results. Be advised a personality test taken via facebook is not viable.
@lorasoto5617 жыл бұрын
You’re either the epitome of INFJ who thinks lowly of themselves. And, you may not be one at all? Retake the test possibly? As for me, I stay quiet in most situations which makes me seem aloof but at some point -especially in debate, when I open my mouth I am not a snowflake. INFJ are probably some of the strongest people internally. You can put emotional bricks on us and we won’t break simply because of out self-thought. Internally, we’re like marines. As to the ‘we’re not shit’ .. yeah. We are. We are the most rare of the personality types. 2% of the population is INFJ. We are a dying breed, we must study and understand ourselves because other INFJ’s need to understand the power of their persona.
@simplelifestuff38116 жыл бұрын
AmyKinso well thats true i agree with u on 100%
@666chuckd6 жыл бұрын
Snow flake.... no way! I am overly sensitive. But no one besides my inner circle would know that. And you don’t want to make me feel cornered. When faced with adversity I will rise to the occasion.
@andrewcalebgorospe27547 жыл бұрын
I was laughing & crying at each item at the same time. Gosh...even commenting here makes me feel so scared of criticism and trolls hahaha
@notinuse9265 жыл бұрын
yeah, i always write down what i want just to delete it when i finish... english is not my mother language but i listen and read it most part of the time, and i'm always afraid of mispelling something or just not making any sense. also, sometimes i feel like what i'm saying is irrelevant and others will judge me. lmao it sucks.
@kirubelmusse65125 жыл бұрын
I absolutely relate to every thing you said brother...so funny, I also delete what I wrote even after I've posted it, English is not my mother language either...misspelling, judgment......ha ha you are not alone.
@interestingfamilyorigin35743 жыл бұрын
@@notinuse926 I know what you mean I've had people/trolls making stupid comments that my spelling and punctuation is crap So i just point out to them people/trolls that not all countries are English speaking writing countries and that it's known as the world web as it's available in all over the world so you shouldn't let it bother you about any spelling and grammar punctuation in English just do what i do and point out to any one making stupid comments about your English spelling punctuation grammar that not everyone in the world is English speaking writing and that theres more countries other than the few English language countries
@angelicagutierrez65027 жыл бұрын
Number 18 sounds exactly how I describe "researching" people in my head 😂 I always feel weird about it because it seems like I'm stalking others, but I'm really not I'm just naturally curious about people 😂 it's always awkward when I let something slip about someone in conversations and they ask me, "How did you know that? Did I tell you before?" I usually play it off like they have told me before 😂 awkward... 😂
@SHAYLYN7 жыл бұрын
So true! I always have to be super aware what I say to people after I have already researched them. And I hate lying, or acting like I don't know anything about them. But if they knew how much we have researched, they would consider us weird stalkers. So to counter act that, I have to act like I know nothing at all.
@annasthoughtsandmusicalpar22397 жыл бұрын
Angelica Gutierrez I'm sooo like that too! Haha, but especially when I like a guy 😋
@whitelinefevertrucking46027 жыл бұрын
Girl, you know it. I hate it when someone tells me how to feel and think as well. When others try to "suggest" their perspective, Ugghh! What ever with them.
@uthponsk13647 жыл бұрын
INFJ girls are the best! This is opinion of INTJ men ;-)
@SHAYLYN7 жыл бұрын
Well thank you!! I personally have two really great INTJ friends, and you guys are pretty amazing as well!
@uthponsk13647 жыл бұрын
Thank you for kind words and thank for the answer! I'm dreaming of romantic relationship with INFJ woman. That would the most beautiful experience in my life! Finally, I could open myself emotionally to another person. Believe me, INTJs have very strong emotions inside and INFJs understand that very well. So INFJ is the best match for me! :-) PS: Don't believe in this stupid stereotype saying that INTJs are robots without feelings because It's not true. We just don't show our emotions very often. Sometimes I struggle with them inside and that's very tough for me. I'm ashamed of my own feelings and because of that I don't want to show them. I just need a person who would like to understand me. Everyone has emotions. No matter what type you are. Sorry, I had to write this because this stereotype annoys to death. I can be really sensitive I just don't show it. I keep my feelings inside. Okay that's all haha :D
@SHAYLYN7 жыл бұрын
Believe me I have never considered that stereotype to be true of INTJ's being robots! Two of my INTJ best friends (one female, the other male) I have perceived to have many feels. They just rather operate under reason and calucation than emotion and feeling- but that doesn't mean emotions don't exist inside them.
@flair82927 жыл бұрын
uth Płońsk You feel as if you open up the whole world will look at you and point fingers at you, right? Do you feel like people will think less of you because you feel as if your emotions are so embarassing that other people might think your stupidly freaky? I don't know, I feel like that's how you feel. Like your suffocating because you can't open up and you just wish to get everything off your shoulders. You feel as if you do you will be able to breathe and live again. This is from an INFJ perspective hehehe I don't know, that's just the way I perceived what you said.😊
@SafiMystic6 жыл бұрын
I'm not sure how to believe that statement very much considering that my ex boyfriend was an INTJ and he found alot of reason to distance himself from me. I came to the conclusion that he never likes to confront his problems or be emotionally vulnerable in my presence so..when I hoped to connect with him, it was overwhelming for him when I'd point out the issues he would shrug off and mirror him in a sense. He said he loved me but he just can't stand me. Lol. That INTJ confused me alot. :X
@mohanadthabet56846 жыл бұрын
I knew about the fact that I'm an INFJ. Once I knew that there is alot of people in the world like me. I felt comfortable, gratitude and started to accept and love myself the way I am. Thank you so much for this vedio :)
@phoebonix7 жыл бұрын
Im also an INFJ and my friends are very close and they complain NON-STOP. sometimes I actually have to tell them to quit complaining because it just affects my mood. I hate when people are sad or angry, and whenever someone is it kinda ruins my day. I was telling my mom one day and she said it's because I have such a caring heart. 😄😄
@flair82927 жыл бұрын
Phøebe Wägner relatable😁
@blankuser9877 жыл бұрын
me in a nutshell
@TheWhitestLoYouKnow6 жыл бұрын
Knowing the struggle of complaining friends and it's impact to myself I still cannot allow myself to hate any person, place, thing, idea. Since I have made the concious choice to exclude hate from my vocabulary or my labeling of things or feelings I have had a lot more energy to focus towards my intent.
@misschameazy63995 жыл бұрын
Your probably an Empath like me..Im starting to think most "INFJ'S" are probably Empaths..
@JellyIsland5 жыл бұрын
I feel like I'm a bit immune to friends whining and complaints. I almost like it. 😂 I can relate to them and I want to know what they're struggling with because I want to be there for them and help them. What I can't stand is when people encourage other to keep their emotions locked up inside - even though they had something truly terrible happen to them. I never understood why we should pretend to be OK when we're obviously not. Maybe I hate that because I want everything and everyone to be genuin and real? 🤔 I do feel their pain though, but I can often take it because I care so much about them and I know that their pain is greater than the one I feel because for me it will go away later but it will stay with them for much longer.
@goldnkrisp37116 жыл бұрын
I use my infj as a blessing sometimes lol. When I don't want to be in a conversation or I realise a friendship won't go anywhere, I will fully open up and just unload my spiritual,conspiracy, and the laws of the universe and why we are here. 99.9999999% of the time it will work and they will never contact you again lol. Easy way to get the lower energies away from draining your energy and to get rid of the mundane conversations they bring.
@KallyJones5 жыл бұрын
A lot of my anxiety is from feeling like I've failed myself, my family and the very hopes and desires I've had for myself. I will worry that I said something hurtful, seriously, I remember things I said 20 years ago that may or may not have hurt someone else and it eats me up. I wish we had teachers, trainers and workplace managers that had an extra skillset to teach things to me in a way that is slower and woven together in a linear way but also pulling basic basic information together and tying it in. A lack of common sense in a process or a comprehensive long term vision drives me $h!t-balls nuts. Those are my overload moments.
@MasterHumanVideo7 жыл бұрын
I totally cracked up when you brought up the Hulk. Lol I never gave much thought about that part of my personality...although it is totally there now that I look. In university my friends called that part of me Destructo so it's pretty hard to deny. I love watching infj videos too. Maybe I'll finally break down and make one like you did. Great job on this one! :)
@SHAYLYN7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your encouraging comment! I should totally make a video, I enjoy going through KZbin and seeing other like INFJ's discuss their personality and expiriences. -S
@done58237 жыл бұрын
Master Human Video Damn you sexy
@MasterHumanVideo7 жыл бұрын
Geez, thanks Atum 777!!! ...and if you don't mind me saying, that's a beautiful shade of black you've got going on ;) Pop by my channel anytime. All are welcome. Haven't got a whole lot of feedback just yet so I'd love to hear your thoughts. Cheers!
@done58237 жыл бұрын
Master Human Video Not u the lady in the video
@crystalfenner60717 жыл бұрын
You say the hulk I say "WHEN THE LEVY BREAKS" Led Zeppelin ..... INFJ theme song.👽👾👽
@kimberliebyington52455 жыл бұрын
Your eyeshadow is beautiful. Really makes your gorgeous eyes pop. Well done!
@goofycawfee7 жыл бұрын
Love the intro song yasss 1D and great video! Infj's unite :)
@alanmcclure95467 жыл бұрын
Beautifully felt words. I have recently found definition in INFJ and watched maybe 40 videos before finding you as the first to share genuinely INFJ characteristics, not just definition. Thank You! Blessings Always!
@alanmcclure95467 жыл бұрын
I do believe you're the first genuine INFJ I have watched here in KZbin and, hope you keep posting as your harmony makes your infinite webs of perception a comfortable web of self awareness that you create for all to Seeeee.
@jeffpemberton31177 жыл бұрын
i think infj women and infj men are different in a lot of ways and i think some of the things that you are saying infjs do, sounds like what women say or think about.
@Emily-rj1ij4 жыл бұрын
Honestly, the day I told my family how I function when it comes to my feelings, they just made me feel bad about my introvertedness and I how I control my feelings as an infj. I just shut up now about how I feel and when I feel something
@danielzaydi47587 жыл бұрын
I am an INFJ and I like being one because we're so mysterious and alluring to others.
@roveroverdover115 жыл бұрын
23, OMG, Just let me vent. I'm not asking for help! I've learned with certain ppl that I should lead with that fact before venting. And, to return the same consideration, I've gotten to where I go against the compulsion I had when I was younger to try to fix others. Instead, I now wait to be asked for advice before ever giving it
@Willy-the-Fire-Putter-Outter7 жыл бұрын
Number 4 is the reason why "Pardon Me" by Incubus is easily in my top 5 favorite songs
@JoLeonhartt7 жыл бұрын
Are you a flippin mirror?! Same here!
@fallingfeathermoon64407 жыл бұрын
Mine too! 😍😄
@USSJ2Otaku30846 жыл бұрын
Yeup, Pardon Me by Incubus is one of my favorite songs 😅.
@TheRealJaded3 жыл бұрын
Not a top five but I've owned it on my iPod for many many years
@at0mix1976 жыл бұрын
The part about regretting saying something (opinions etc) to someone, I was just in my mind thinking about just that, nice to hear you speak of it, good video
@thehorde48685 жыл бұрын
From what I learned young and innocent INFJs need to be very much careful and should not expect the world to be loving as they themselves are....we in fact need to be prepared to face it because we're the most rare personalities and most of us especially inexperienced ones dont even know what is going in our own world and we probably feel lonely and depressed and sometimes even experienced rock bottom at a very young age....but what we need to know is that everything that happens to us always have a meaning and we should learn to fight and learn from each and every incidents in our lives....we should search for the true purpose of life and live accordingly
@vendetta61805 жыл бұрын
Amen
@okgoogle9995 жыл бұрын
Do I need to say how accurate this is? Love the background music, very relaxing
@pavithrasenevirathne94637 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. It feels so good to know that there are people out there who feel the same way as I do. :)
@m3tr0id866 жыл бұрын
Most of the time I feel completely alone and it's horrible. Especially when I hear consistent voices, not telling me to do stuff, but multiple reminders of horrible things that have happened, where I hold myself responsible and stuff.
@robynmasters3356 жыл бұрын
Definitely got a few giggles out of this. It certainly explains why ENFPs like myself are drawn to INFJs. We have a lot in common but it sounds like ENFPs have a little more calm in just the areas where you need it and you have a little more understanding where we need it. I've got to find me a few INFJ friends. LOL
@HurricaneRainbowOG6 жыл бұрын
"OMG" at every single one... *facepalm*, that kind of reaction.. you know. Shaking my head, going "OMG yes", or laughing. I'm kinda speechless right now, but all I can say is "spot on". TY
@andrewm41385 жыл бұрын
Awesome video, this woman is great, everything she is saying is exactly how I am. I am a 46 year old man. I came across this video on INFJs and said to myself OMG, that is me! As a kid, my classmates always made fun of me, they thought I was weird. The teachers even picked on me a lot. People would also label me as snobby and stuck up because I kept to myself a lot. I don't think my parents totally understood me. One thing about me is that I always put others first before myself. I feel like I do so much for people and they take me for granted. People very close to me would always tell me to quit being so nice!
@ElishaLay4 жыл бұрын
I completely agree with this. I just wish my friends and family would understand me, but sometimes people don't have the patience to listen. They seem to think I'm a weirdo.
@rickhill36135 жыл бұрын
Amazing. I'm about an hour into finding out what I've been searching for my whole life. The cracking of your voice every time you read off an emotion it's like I'm watching myself open up to someone that I would jump in front of a bullet for then cringing immediately thinking about the look or response I'm going to get. You're awesome. Thank you so much for the video. BTW from what I hear it's more rare in men and I'll be 35 this year so you're blessed you found out so early. Just realized my intuition was true. I've been to at least 20 psychiatrist 1 time only lol. I poor my heart out so whatever questions they might have had I've already explained and I get misdiagnosed right away and get offended because I know I'm weird and actually love it and don't mind that normal people sometimes don't get me but when it's a professional trying to give me drugs for adhd or anxiety/depression I know that I made another mistake by trusting a person that gets paid to keep you coming back for years and kickbacks from drug companies. If they actually knew what they were doing or cared to it took finally finding a person explaining me to me on KZbin for 5 minutes to get diagnosed so how can someone who went to an ivy league school and have plaques for best psychiatrist in the town or city 3 years running have no idea. Crazy rant lol. Sorry thanks again. Feels good to know why I always over explain and write comments to long that I don't think people will ever take the time to read haha. God bless.
@Eclectifying6 жыл бұрын
100% TRUE!! I told all my friends on Facebook they need to listen to this video to understand me!
@Priyadarshan_Nag7 жыл бұрын
Awesome video 😊👌 Love the music in the background as well. On a side note, just try to keep the volume of the music a little low as it becomes a little difficult to focus on what you are talking about. Plus I am an ENFP and I get distracted pretty easily 😝 Keep up the good work 👍🏻
@kwilla17815 жыл бұрын
Loved this video!!! My 14 year old daughter is infj. Ive called my daughter "the hulk" for years. Shes so sweet 98 percent of the time, but you wouldn't want to see her when she finally gets angry!!! Thank you for posting!!
@kwilla17815 жыл бұрын
And she always knows what I'm thinking with an eerily high degree of accuracy and insight far beyond her years.
@TeriHargraveartist7 жыл бұрын
Because I have held down my REAL self for many years and been so misunderstood and, as a child mishandled, I now have major health problems, not life threatening, but painful and tiring, and a complete nuisance.
@yochananreinhardt78337 жыл бұрын
Until a little less than a week ago, I thought there was something wrong with me; but I learned I'm an INFJ-A! Now, I have a frame of reference upon which to build! I Thank God and secondly, I thank you for posting this and sharing what you have, I thank God and also you, very much! :-D
@MrKillswitch886 жыл бұрын
The worst of it aside from the cycles of depression is the "brain fog" where things simply crash and performance drops off a cliff mentally so people believe that we are dumb. I learned to love the complexity as it enriches the experience in an either wise dull life, most people are not that interested anyway beyond their almost meaningless little worlds.
@denn6066 жыл бұрын
I loved your video, I always thought I was really messed up and I listened to what everyone said I should be. Now I know who I am and through videos like yours it feels like the whole world has lifted off my shoulders, thank you.
@brianhoule32194 жыл бұрын
It's upsetting when people call me an over thinker.
@Jacques_van_Wyk4 жыл бұрын
That first point about the INFJ personalities already got me....
@reinajaay7 жыл бұрын
I always feel extremely weird in public or as if someone is watching me be weird. I am so happy to know there are others like myself. I always wondered why I am the way I am. There are days when I feel like being sociable and other days I don't want to be bothered or even feel like talking. I've always had a huge heart
@aaronjohnson4555 жыл бұрын
Things are getting confused right here. I am an INFJ, my brothers have speculated that i have magic rather a high intuition which is key to my life and several decisions made in my are through that. I actually learned to rationalize my intuitions. Yes we love people but we don't trust easily. one specific thing is that we end up not having friends because we can't trust fake people although we love those fake dudes. One powerful thing with INFJ is that we don't hate rather we avoid bad people once we have felt they are dangerous vibe especially when they are ready to harm us or anyone around us. We don't fear but we hold big respect. Lot more to talk. Again we Enjoy being alone and we have too much energy that sleeping well is difficult because our brain and had is constantly processing things and we feel more than what we are allowed to fell as human.
@angelgops26 жыл бұрын
Yes, So true! The last part you said about INFJs “we need to be needed”, I think its much deeper than that. To me its more than a need, it’s a “WANT”. I know that sounds strange. Needing someone or being needed is a temporary feeling. But wanting someone regardless if they are a friend or not, is a much stronger feeling. There is a different when you need someone in your life and when you want them to be in your life. Same goes for needing to help and wanting to help. I don’t have a lot of friends but I’ve had a few (the one’s I let into my world) tell me that they have never had anyone show them how much they cared for them and how I changed their life. It’s because I wanted that person in my life and would do anything to help. Not sure if all INFJs feel the same way as I do.
@maybee...5 жыл бұрын
Brenda, If they are no longer in your life I gaurantee they will never find another you.
@papl206 жыл бұрын
Duuuuuuuuude... Im 24 yo and recently find out about my personality and watching these kinds of videos makes me so Emotional, it's like I'm finally understood
@kinglycaon36274 жыл бұрын
I tend to think with my head but mostly my heart. My empathy and ability to care for and understand others is my work of art! Others often tell me lies masking their truth thinking I cant tell how fake they really are! If you hurt I hurt it really tears me apart! When it comes to the way I will love you it's more beautiful and has a deeper meaning than the music created by Mozart. While trying to figure me out, watching videos like this is a great place to start! I love you all my INFJ family with all of my❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@Jacques_van_Wyk4 жыл бұрын
Is it only me, or did everyone else max out on KZbin vids and other literature - trying to learn about INFJ and how to make people understand how and why I react as I do?
@timwhitmore74 жыл бұрын
Yeahh buddy
@kenmongiovi21905 жыл бұрын
As I was watching this I got a text from my boss saying thier kitty is sick and going to vet..and I felt very bad even though the day before I was mad about some comments said ..you truly are a complicated person as I am ..very nice video well done .
@abyssal_phoenix4 жыл бұрын
I have a few main problems now, (I’m 16), they are mainly coming from infj: 1. Selfdoubt (problems with loving myself) 2. Fear of not knowing the unknown thing of the future. 3. Crushes. Finally the hormones start to affect me and my behavior. And my infj personality is fighting it
@MsActor20094 жыл бұрын
Particular agree with point 18 - I like to do a little bit of internet searching on someone I’m about to meet, not because I’m a stalker, but because I’m a researcher. Totally get that
@robertktw4 жыл бұрын
I call it my Hulk mode too! When I see injustice (ladies being mistreated, someone got picked on, underdog situations, etc,.) that will turn me into one instantly. But at least I was doing some good. Weird, and I am ok with that.
@Johnny_RB5 жыл бұрын
Just found you. My god it's uncanny how you nailed it on everything. I can't get people to listen to me. They don't believe I read their minds. They don't understand why I need my time alone even though I have explained. Thank you with all my heart!
@privacyIsKing6 жыл бұрын
I have given so much to thinking about making videos just like this. I live in México, I am Mexican but I seldmon interact with people beyond the point or politeness or just business pretty much for the reason you describe. One shares an opinion and then it's just dismissed and you just know you shared a very deep truth and then the people around just talk about football or t.v shows or how the weather is oh so crazy nowadays. There is really not much people, or at the very least that is what it seems to me, that know about personality types and many other things that a tad more "complicated" but I just can bring myself to make a video, my mind goes blank when I'm in front of a camera and the funny thing is that if you put me behind a microphone in fron of people, so long as it's a subject I'm passsionate about I can talk and talk and talk. What I'm trying to say is, thank you for the video :3 You just inspired me a bit
@lowellmiller66635 жыл бұрын
I am a middle-aged infj male. I am very familiar with the list of things you mentioned. In my opinion the infj is not complicated, hard to understand or fragile by default. If they come across that way it is because of past trauma. The infj has a lot to offer if they are secure and are grounded. If they are shaken they shake everybody in their sphere of influence. In my opinion they have a lot of love to give if they can find love to stand on. Childhood trauma can affect them long into adult life and really limit them if they don't get emotional healing.
@Eclectifying6 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh yes, about balancing emotions and trying to process your emotions as an INFJ! All my life I've found myself upset about something and had to stop and ask myself why I'm upset!
@thynisia3965 жыл бұрын
Oh wow that 1D song surprised me, I liked right away 😂
@paulmccaffrey29854 жыл бұрын
I agree with you about the list of famous INFJs, and we need to be ourselves. However, I think you, with your eyes, could convince any of us to turn away from our evil ways.
@mariog18296 жыл бұрын
Hi Shaylyn, I'm a INFJ trying to connect with others to exchange experiences. We are unique but have certain challenges so learning from each other can make a difference.
@yewlamneo7 жыл бұрын
I am a enfp and is a close friend with an infj. Thanks for sharing. Infj takes care of many ppl around them sometimes it is nice they get something meaningful in return. They like well planned surprises that they were wishing all along. Something very personal. If they blow up like a hulk...just let them sort out and their emotion intelligence would sort themselves out later on. Infj are appreciative of even the littlest thoughtful things ppl do for them and they will remember them...shall I go on?
@waterdragon54186 жыл бұрын
Are any INFJs on here an Empath as well?
@remhenshaw43135 жыл бұрын
Meee
@Byteable5 жыл бұрын
INFJ-A, Aries Sun & Venus. Scorpio Moon, Rising & Pluto. I’m the type of Empath that melts the Psychopaths and Narcopaths 😂
@mhyam86794 жыл бұрын
All of them!!! Its actually our motto!
@rstontube6 жыл бұрын
INFJ cards close to the chest... spot on. Good for defending yourself from hurt but closes off the possibility of connection. also your makeup game is ridiculously good :)
@nikolidubey59437 жыл бұрын
Everything you said is so relatable and looking at the comment section, it really feels good to know that there are people like us! ps- the idea of having a instructions manual for people is really good, cuz machines have it why not humans?😝.
@kammusiccc61665 жыл бұрын
The fact that u remember quite everything is so true,been looking for other video's to also have this one confirmed 🤙🏾
@Russell9705 жыл бұрын
I subscribed because I'm an INFJ, I needed this!
@kamilkarnale35854 жыл бұрын
We try to be indifferent to some people to avoid hurting them, instead we hurt them! It's very deeeeep!👍👍
@susaville4 жыл бұрын
I've found that most other people I know don't give a bleep about how we think or feel. It hurts.. We care, but they don't. Lack of empathy is a serious problem in this world.
@RSidd4 жыл бұрын
I am an INTP who has an INFJ co-worker/friend and I am doing research on this type just to know about why I find her so damn fascinating. It amazes me how much a person can actually care about others at the expense of their own well being. I want to gather all the information about this personality in a typical INTP way so that I can at least try to understand about their psychology even though it seems very difficult for a logical type like me. Hope to help them in any little way I can in a world that mostly misunderstands them.
@annasthoughtsandmusicalpar22397 жыл бұрын
I feel like the thing I relate to most of all is wanting deep, meaningful relationships. Also the wanting to help the world thing. I've felt that way at least since I was a teenager. I do feel like I probably get stuff about people and the probable reasons behind the ways that they are more than a lot of people do, leading me to not be very judgmental in comparison, but I'm not so sure that I really feel others' emotions 100% I also tend to understand both sides of an argument and not "take sides" too easily except for when it comes to like core moral values.
@abibaker20214 жыл бұрын
I am an INFJ and can relate to everything in this video. Regarding conflict, i have a hard time dealing with it if I’ve accidentally upset someone as, to me, I have failed to be a top quality friend, the person will hate me forever and ever amen and so I should just walk away so I don’t hurt them ever again.
@Emily-dy5gd7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video, i related to each and every thing you talked about. I very often want to share a pamphlet or informational video about being an INFJ to my friends or family so they can understand me better, lol. I often feel like I'm asking too much asking my friends/family to understand my complex INFJ personality. It sucks when you feel like they don't want to put in the effort to try to understand you as best as they can...also i feel like i talk about Meyers Briggs and infjs alot (i try not to talk about it alot, if i talked about it as much as i think about it, then i would probably be talking to myself)
@areverie9785 жыл бұрын
#14!! Lol The Hulk- perfect way to explain it! #19, 21!, 22, 24. #25 ALLLLL the WAY!
@annasthoughtsandmusicalpar22397 жыл бұрын
I definitely relate to the regretting opening up thing too... Since at least age 14
@eirikmurito4 жыл бұрын
I have few friends because I can't be around selfish people. They want to consume energy and don't want to give any energy back. And then they get surprised when i doorslam them. Unbelievable!
@sergejbertram37555 жыл бұрын
On the next morning after I found out that I am an INFJ I got suddenly moved by my emotions on the way to work that I had to cry, because I finally found something that explained / described my behavior/weirdness e.g. why I always look for purpose of my life and can't just relax and enjoy life like others etc, why I feel like dreaming the reality, struggling with opening up to people or just enjoying group conversations / parties like others but instead sitting aside and dreaming like an alien. It was so relieving! But then I also wonder why there are just 2% of us? Maybe just because we are not that necessary/needed? Would the mankind even notice if we would disappear? 🤔😏
@maybee...5 жыл бұрын
You have crossed the bridge, once you know what it is that makes you an INFJ you can never go back, welcome to the club, embrace that you do not really fit in, who wants to anyway, you have a higher calling. Being an INFJ can be lonely at times, but we truly enjoy our own company and don't feel the need to be social all of the time. If you feel the world is too exhausting give yourself a break, go away from people to find your true center again, it's okay, you are okay even tho others don't understand you, they don't need to.
@thenotitfactor48716 жыл бұрын
23 is just more a female thing i think as well as a emotional maturity thing. 37 infj and I don't mind people giving me advice because it shows they care
@thenotitfactor48716 жыл бұрын
I totally get that about being loyal to friends. I care about people so much and i just want them to be happy and i want to do what i can to help them in any way i can, but yea often people aren't used to being treated with so much love and respect so they back off and it hurts.
@PapaRed897 жыл бұрын
This is awesome, you're amazing for making this. thanks
@remykapel46886 жыл бұрын
Learn to control your energy- don’t say its hard for us- thats excuses. You CAN control you be the best you always . Trust your instincts ! Always
@davidkepke14357 жыл бұрын
Great list. Pretty well stated. I can relate to most everything you stated.
@priyamlimboo51966 жыл бұрын
Every single thing is true. At least I'm not alone in this whole world when it comes to personality types 😂
@mothercoyote3516 жыл бұрын
I'm an INFJ and I strongly agree w/u. I'm an easy going person but I am wrapped up in myself quick a bit & I also have a quick temper.
@daniellafrederici52154 жыл бұрын
I feel we are completely misunderstood. I have yet to find a single person who gets me. Always comdemned and judged. Always left feeling I am on the outside looking in. Yet I have a heart of gold. It is never reciprocated. That is when I disengage. Not right away. It takes a lot for me to say I am done. It is lonely
@maryjomorrison94625 жыл бұрын
Isn’t it fascinating, once we realize we are ifnj’s we have finally found there are other happily complicated “weirdos”, out there that feel the same way we do, and that, for me, gives me a sense of comfort. My husband just took the Myers Briggs test and found out he’s also an ifnj. I felt he would be, maybe because we have been married for 50 years.
@hugmc2 жыл бұрын
Infj learn too go with your flow not the other things around you and be blessed taking care off yourself ❤️
@BusyBeeCompany5 жыл бұрын
I think there's a law that INFJ's have to have a four poster bed, it seems to run across all of us...lol.
@shawtyness6 жыл бұрын
You have beautiful blue eyes.. I enjoyed your video and I agree with you mostly, especially the dont-tell-me-how-to-feel part. I do already know how I feel and just want to share it to someone, who just wants to listen to that. I also do tend to process slowly a lot, most people I know would complain about this because they think I'm lagging. Well maybe I am, because I develop an attitude where I hold my self to react. It felt really good to be understood!
@remhenshaw43135 жыл бұрын
I can relate to all of these!!! Not so much the memory part but every thing else 👌👌