INFJ Shield of Protection - How INFJs Protect Themselves

[@scott.morgan]

Hi everyone, As an INFJ, do you know how you protect yourself from others? This is not an easy thing to identify, as INFJs usually spend their time seeing and surviving how others protect themselves. This video should hopefully provide understanding, insight and explain why and how INFJs protect themselves.

[@scott.morgan]

Thanks heaps Epic Bunny, much appreciated! :)

[@scott.morgan]

Thanks Ursula

[@JillPflugheber]

I've watched this three times now. This is TOTALLY spot on, Scott. I absolutely project truth and insight as my protective mechanism, and I usually do it through writing. And yes, I expect my truth and insight to be well received because it shows I am invested in learning who the "other" truly is. But, alas, it is rarely perceived as such. So, now the question I have is this: If my truth and insight is perceived as threatening, and is met with more extroverted defense mechanisms, how does one break OUT of this dynamic?

[@MrKillswitch88]

I got very tired of feeling dirty by having to be around people so I learned how to use the mirror in another way so to say, rather just reflecting or taking on but rather projecting something like the heyoka. I do not enjoy the environment I have no choice to work in and the people I have to deal with so may as well make the bubble bigger. I can feel the difference as if it were night and day.

[@DTR-NGBAK]

Scott Morgan what iii do as INFJ for protection is becoming the chameleon knowing how to be invisible on purpose and the other way is the code of silence balancing both is key plus if at work iii try not not show my feelings just bury them and focus on portraying the opposite emotion at hand...

[@JasonHyde32]

I think the most frustrating thing about being an INFJ is that we have a large heart, we want what is best for everyone and it's all about love when you boil it all down. Whenever we try and send those positive vibes out to the world we are misunderstood, unappreciated and at times our efforts are even sabotaged. We give, give, give until we lose faith in humanity. That which we give is rarely reciprocated. Often times we end up with narcissists who make us feel like we're crazy or like we're the bad guy. Makes me laugh. What a crazy world we live in.

[@alaysiakayebutler6299]

I had to scroll up and see your name, I could have written that 💜

[@leahracquelGibson]

Spot on. I’m the feel and act the same.

[@jennyshipp333]

This sounds like my life experience. Being so self critical I am constantly thinking there is something wrong with me.

[@Coneman3]

Yeah all the silly games people play. It’s very hard for us because we just want good connections.

[@adamchristopher393]

I also had to look at the name to see if I wrote that.

[@ClayArnall]

wow, this is incredibly profound. I can't even tell you how much this explains many of the interactions I have: Me offering what I believe to be truth and insight. And others getting strangely defensive about it.

[@Coneman3]

I'm still waiting for the INFJ club, so we can rule the world! ;-) This is also why INFJs have few friends. If we are lucky, we find one genuine authentic person. We deserve to be choosy. So many dumb humans. Learning about MBTI and being an INFJ is life-changing. I expect others to find it similarly interesting, but if they are not INFJ, maybe I expect too much. Why do people choose to remain in the dark? Probably never understand that!

[@rb-44]

Yes, they become resentful. Then they betray you. I'm at the point where I just can't handle it anymore.

[@MartinHinner]

Clay, Isn't the "what I believe to be truth and insight" just the protective shield? I am an INTJ and I consider something similar described in this video (probably just more Te/Fi, not Fe) as my inner-world protection mechanism. PS: Your video about loneliness hit me a lot !

[@11LightofLove11]

@@rb-44 yeah

[@rolandgervais154]

I would certainly consider paying a membership fee to your INFJ club. @@Coneman3 🦸‍♂⚪👌

[@debbiesmith8248]

Most people don’t like the truth! I’ve experienced this in so many relationships!

[@richasaxena6636]

Honesty is not appreciated in this world full of fake people.

[@melanie.l6282]

true!!

[@angelus_solus]

"Most people don’t like the truth" Why do you think the majority of Americans are so eager to accept the lies told to them by the government entities and corporations while ridiculing and being hostile to those who don't believe them?

[@debbiesmith8248]

@@angelus_solus, I totally agree. Like with the current virus stuff!

[@light9623]

I've used humor as a defense mechanisim it sometimes keeps people at arms length. Especially humor that provokes thought. lol The truth always works

[@SamSolasdonSaol]

mary mcclure The truth always works?! Ohhh how I wish this were true for me. The truth, in my world, is often rejected (even when complimentary) and I'm painted as the asshole no matter how much I completely empty myself with kindness and empathy. Truth=Rejection with all who I love the most with the only exception of my very understanding husband of 28 years.

[@light9623]

It always works for me Sam but maybe not for them. If folks view you as an asshole so be it. I know this must be a painful reality at times for you but being someone who you are not will be no benefit to anyone, especially for you! Hang tight fellow INFJ!

[@mindabobis]

Thank you very much dear Scott. Your discussion on how the INFJ protects itself rings100% true with me, especially in an encounter I had just this Friday evening, 18 Jan 2019. I have a friend whom I value so much although in the past, say around two years ago until a few months before end of 2018, he had tried to hurt my feelings with seemingly innocent words on and off during that period where I just pretended not to notice and ignored my instincts because as I saif, I respect him very much. During this latest incident I called him out and asked him why he's trying to do it again which he denied strongly and dismissing my observation harshly. As my mind brought forth all his previous acts, I called his bluff and in short, in his attempt to circumvent my suspicion by dismissing my observation as ridiculous, I just had to have the last word, expressing my frustration with him. Thinking back now, I still feel hurt but I don't regret telling him that I won't tolerate his malicious underhanded machinations any longer.

[@randalrschecher398]

@@mindabobis I can strongly relate to your experience Minda. I'm glad you got around to setting a strict and decisive boundary with your friend. I have often taken quite some time to get around to that myself, but we feel better somehow afterwards. With most folks we need to know where to draw the line. It helps immensely! Thanks for sharing this.

[@alibertylover]

The truth is : the "truth" rarely works. The vast number of people can't handle the "truth".....

[@randalrschecher398]

This is an interesting explanation of how INFJs defend themselves. I have found that the only way for me to dispel my own self-doubt and defend myself against other's defenses against how I express myself is to have faith in my impressions and to believe that what I perceive is accurate. This is because I cannot expect to receive positive re-enforcement regarding this process from others since they do not understand and would rebuke such arrogant claims made by anyone, therefore positive feedback or validation from others is rarely, if ever forthcoming.

[@Aussie9er]

For me I think you have nailed this, I wrote a little poem a couple of weeks ago, it only took a few minutes so it's not real deep but seems to fit in with some of what you have explained in this video. I look into your eyes I see inside your world I feel your thoughts inside I see feelings that you hide I see what you can't see I know you better than me.

[@youjin7026]

My God!! I am not alone on this? Thank you for letting me know. Thank you.

[@jenniferkeeponfighting7561]

I love this

[@randalrschecher398]

OMG jbloggsie 1, poetry is exactly how I soothe my pain. Yours is spot on and says so much in so few words. Brilliant!

[@jewelbennett5446]

Like it except the last sentence. Maybe some more educated or normal but not better😊

[@anjaouglova2804]

Great poem!! I know you better than me is Often Soo true...

[@jamespurcer3730]

Honestly, I have given up on the "normals". It's exactly as you have presented it. It's so hard to get through a workday without getting angry and frustrated because their bad behavior is so obvious, yet everybody just ignores the shit and pretends that nothing wrong is happening. AARRRGG!

[@heathalee]

This explains a lot as to why so many people push away. I have always struggled with the fact that most people aren't genuine and can't just be who they are. Great job explaining the dynamic it makes a lot of sense. knowing this will help to not be so hurt or offended by others behavior.

[@scott.morgan]

That's great to hear :)

[@laraoneal7284]

heathalee1888 I find the same thing. Most ppl are disingenuous period. I see it right away especially in what the person DOES NOT SAY which is far more revealing than what they say. Do you observe this also. Thx.

[@heathalee]

Lara O'neal Yes! Many times I will be talking with someone who sounds nice and act like they like me but the whole time I can feel thick animosity and know that our encounter will probably be spoken of with negative gossip. How the act and how they really feel don't match at all. I encounter this a lot so it's very refreshing when you get the occasional genuine person.

[@IceSk8Princessa12]

Is this why I’m told that people feel threatened by me, for no discernible reason?! Bc I’ve never been able to figure that out!

[@easytoslip]

truth, insight and vulnerability are not things some people care to explore, many are content to not go so deep regularly as then they would be questioning their life choices and change is something many humans fear a lot!

[@thenrepeat9124]

I'm guessing that you are smart and kind and at times funny and forthcoming. Also tough. What freaks people out is that we're perfectly at ease having nothing at all to say and days at a time in solitude doesn't phase us at all. It can also be helpful at times so I often have to remind myself that it's ok and to be good to myself even when the affects are off-putting and carried by momentum. We can't change it so embracing it is healthy.

[@thundercloudentertainment900]

Not everyone is willing to accept truth. I've made enemies because of it but I don't care. I am not going to be fake and tell you lies. Either you accept the truth or get out.

[@IceSk8Princessa12]

Then Repeat Yes, you are correct. Thank you for your advice.

[@DMB56]

How do you know me! People always say "You are so private". I don't really feel "private", I just have my shield up! If I feel hurt or venerable or lied to I have my extra strength shield up. I think to myself, you will NOT know the real me when I feel hurt or damaged.

[@11LightofLove11]

Me too

[@broadbandtogod]

So that's why I've been impressed and dreamed of shields and shield formations since I was a kid!

[@surban2005]

This explains so much of the isolation that I feel at times and explains why some have removed themselves completely. It’s ok

[@howardpearlman4847]

A Machiavellian way of viewing this info is that INFJs seem to be born into a "No Win World". We are almost always mis-understood, and perceived in a distorted way that makes many abandon us for no authentic reason. In my humble opinion, that's Not Ok. Isolation Destroys.

[@js9430]

On the flip side, I've abandoned many relationships because I felt that a) they were being intentionally hurtful or b) they didn't "get" me and no amount of explaining would enlighten them. At times I feel bad about cutting so many people out of my life but it seems easier to not deal with those dynamics. The older I get, the more of a minimalist I become, materially as well as socially.

[@nywvblue]

I'm new to this and how I wish I wasn't! Videos with content like yours are changing my life. After 51 long and mostly lonely years, I finally have a way to understand myself. Maybe the next 50 will be better! Thank you for helping us, Scott!

[@scott.morgan]

You’re very welcome. May the second half of life be filled with all the things you desire inside and out.

[@thenrepeat9124]

Same here. All of it is eye-opening. Good luck, and I hope you have come this far with a lot of resiliency and skills! Now it's time to reorganize and power up! Let's learn not to be such strangers to ourselves and get more of what we want out of life. I only learned of being infj out of desperation to know what was so mysterious about me.

[@pasqualetartaglia9639]

I just found out this too,im 59 ,i thougth there was something wrong with me....there isnt,just a bit to nice,maybe more then a bit.

[@sksbc3895]

nywvblue.... me too, I'm in my 50's and this content is seriously changing my life. So good to know that we're not alone and that we're not 'wrong', just 'different'. From one INFJ to another, I get it.

[@MichaelSmith-jz7xg]

Our truth, insight, vulnerability & authenticity are too intense and threatening to the other types. It explains why we are usually rejected. It's also the reason we need healthier boundaries in order to protect ourselves from additional pain.

[@VeryStupid4547]

🎯 couldn't have said it better myself.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

No, you are wrong. We are not “too” any of this. They are too driven by their own fear.

[@rolandgervais154]

I was once described as being "intimidating" . Your words, "Our truth, insight, vulnerability & authenticity are too intense and threatening to the other types.", explains the very reason as to how I come across, at times, to other other types. Thanks!

[@alisontunny5947]

In other words, the INFJ picks up on others signs of defensiveness and sees their core personality. in turn, INFJs don't give out the same signals so others don't get to see inside them. That leads others to think,INFJs are unknowable or cold. Is that what you're saying?

[@MrKillswitch88]

Not all will appear to be cold but certainly unknowable where people only look at the surface and never know what is going on beneath. For me it would be like trying to understand what all is going on in a star, I can be very warm but also unstable so people loathe me.

[@usa4287]

We appear as INTJ or ISTP, distant.

[@jencgold]

Alison Tunny or we choose to let people see. What we want them to see. It’s easier to show a stranger our authentic selves. To be vulnerable. But everyone else thinks we are ice people

[@AngelaTheDoll444]

We appear inexplicable and that drives certain people batshit lol

[@jclay452]

During my interactions with people who are defensive, I’ve found their arguments are a reflection of themselves. What they claim to “see” in me is really a reflection of themselves based on their limited perspectives. I speak my truth and add insight into who I am, but they’ll never really see me until they do the inner work. There isn’t anything I can do or say to change that for them.

[@noelhoffmann6057]

As an INFJ I am exceptionally aware of that shield. I use this technique in all aspects of life but the shield (hoho) keeps us from being overwhelmed by other people's pain and strife. If we let everything in we cannot function and withdraw. The outward projection of insight and truth allows us to help others when we can and IF we can. Our judgement keeps us from getting too involved. I think of it as using our powers for good instead of evil. We can use it for evil we just choose not to BUT we will pull out that high powered perception when cornered or need to protect ourselves.

[@toy2bato898]

Im an INFJ,i can read people and know how they think about me and that scares me and that shild kicks in and i push the negative thoughts and protect my self, most people see me as the mysterious man,and i don't like it,im a quiet man,I Will not talk anless you ask me a question,idont like nonsense conversation,

[@vsatonthebeat4101]

But everything is nonsense so just go with the flow

[@js9430]

I find it exhausting to talk about nothing too. But I've come to realize that when people are talking about the weather, it's not about the weather. I think that it's really their way of trying to connect, it's just not the right way to authentically connect with someone who is internally wrestling with why we are here and what this all means.

[@homebodyheaven6114]

I’m very bluntly truthful with total strangers. It’s my way of seeing if they might be the kind of person who seeks truth. If they aren’t I want them to stay away. They rarely can tolerate plainly spoken truth. I never lie. That seems so weird to people in the world. Which is weird. Do I care if they disapprove? I think they are morons.

[@paulramirez8327]

As close to precisively accurate as I've felt in the majority of people who comment. As far as ur clarity on the manner of handling using that wich is in ur presence .N now more simple n manageable.Due to your positive acceptance of an active not reactive empowering ,so very not defensive . Defensive for who ? Uncertain n panick because? Don't create more confusing questions. Certain possible positive imposing defining answers that will be followed by more assuring confirmation of what you need to do,ur clarity n answers will expand ur hopes to expectations . Only that the egotistical comment will hinder ur humility n fog ur memory of Why n For Who.

[@ina1815]

Same

[@angelus_solus]

It's not the fact that they don't like the plainly spoken truth, it's that you're presenting it with no tact. The phrase "I'm very bluntly truthful" is another way of saying "I present the truth how I see fit and don't care if they like how I'm saying it". You're barbarically shoving the truth in their face like some calloused Philistine vs presenting it for them to accept or not. Even as an INFJ I get defensive and hostile over that shit. I'd rather someone tell me something nicely than be affrontive and inconsiderately rude about it.

[@homebodyheaven6114]

@@angelus_solus no I don’t. That’s not what I intended the meaning to be. You are the one doing that right now. I simply am plain spoken. I have a gentle demeanor.

[@terrileebrunner9244]

Theres a quote that says something to the effect of "to know the world, look inside yourself". I think that INFJ's do a lot of introspection and in turn understand more about others. Also I think that some people's ability to "feel out" a person or situation can sometimes be attributed to survival instincts. Sometimes triggered by repeated abuse/trauma and each time it is enhanced by simply being used. Things like detecting subtle facial movements, tone of voice, eye movements, body movements, and more which tell us more about a person. I think that others can't fathom this kind of seemingly "psychic" ability because they themselves can't understand thinking or processing that way. I believe it's linked to our instincts.I also think this is why its so easy to be intrigued by a narcissist. Our minds actually take a kind of break because there's so little to read. We tend to feel bad for the hole inside them and at the same time it's a break from the common constant info flow comming from another person. Interesting stuff. I had trouble as a young INFJ protecting myself in many ways. Mostly because I was way more helpful than I should safely be. However as I've grown I've learned more effective ways of handling others, conflict, and am able to use my shield in a more useful manner.

[@randalrschecher398]

I find your description Terri, is so accurate. This manner of thinking is automatic for me and sometimes I wish I could just turn it off for awhile, but it is exactly how my mind works, like it or not. I couldn't stop it if I wanted to.

[@pasqualetartaglia9639]

Oh yes i have learned,it took a life time,but i have learned,my mom used to say to me ,think like a fox,i didnt really understand what she meant,im a very intelligent men,art ,music,nature,science,geography,i crave to know thinks,but thats not what she meant.(put a shield around your self,so people have a hard time getting trough it).i did,but it took years for that to be constructed.

[@paulclouthier631]

Comes in real handy being an INFJ in building relationships in business. Good people are drawn to INFJs because we are willing to connect with them and help them become better versions of themselves and they in turn appreciate it. It turns especially toxic if you are married to a narcissist - (Bingo) - took me 22 years to realize this other person wasn't interested in improving only controlling and blaming. So I decided to focus my energy on self improvement so I could aid others to do the same. 6 months after my separation...I'm free. Free to help others who really want to improve. I do need to pull back sometimes to recharge and also to make sure that I am not burning myself out but when someone values your help....oh my goodness - what a wonderful feeling. I feel like there is hope in the future for me to find someone who appreciates what is important to me - however, I am scared that somehow I will be duped again in my next personal relationship....

[@bennyboy2079]

Well said ...👍👍🤔🙂

[@andrewball9855]

Thank you. I only recently realized that most people simply CANT(or won't;) see all that is to be observed. My insights are invasive, at least that is how it is interpreted. My problem is boundaries vs. deprivation. The need to connect is usully has a corrosive effect on protecting myself. Still, all things considered, I would rather deal with some pain than be numb to the rest of the world. Good to hear from others. I thought I was reading my own, forgotten post for a minute....spooky

[@Coneman3]

I think the lack of projection from INFJs is one reason people don’t understand us or know how to interact with us, and why we are bad at dating. Others assume we are boring or similar. They don’t know we can see through their shit.

[@sksbc3895]

This is so true and really resonates, especially for me these past few weeks. I wish I could find the words to explain this to someone I know, to help them understand (while keeping their attention) why I reacted the way I did this week to a really bad situation. In a nutshell, I offered truth and insight, then I retreated into myself and alienated the defensive person, all in an attempt to halt the pain. Everything ended with a slammed door, as per the usual when a situation gets so out of control. Then again, I'm so tired of explaining myself (an INFJ) to those who don't really care enough to understand. Thank you for your great videos and explanations....I'm learning so much.

[@sgist7824]

Same, I barely reacted in order to avoid more confrontation and more defensiveness. In order to calmly discuss once they could speak properly. I had to them retreat as they still couldn't see their continued behaviour still pushed me away further.

[@fridar192]

Just learned something new. I understand this reaction to the defence of a person who doesn't know themselves. Which leads to a depressive episode in the life of an infj. Thanks so much! It confirms a lot for me.

[@thereaIitsybitsyspider]

People don't realize that we can see right through them whether or not they open up to us.

[@leeleeg4169]

This blew my mind this morning. I am so grateful for this information. I had my little finger on this exact issue for the INFJ, but couldn’t explain it in the right words. Thank you for your voice. It has helped me better understand myself. 🙏🏻😊❤️

[@jenniferwhite7230]

This is true for me. Struggling to connect with people and suffering from social anxiety.

[@infinitedestiny6328]

Thank you. Rejection. I feel that everyone is rejecting me when now I know that it is others defensiveness.

[@scott.morgan]

You’re welcome

[@jclay452]

Beautiful explanation of the INFJs inner workings. I think boundaries may also play a role in developing or understanding the protective shield of the INFJ. As a young INFJ, I tiptoed around the feelings of others. As an older, more wise, INFJ I’ve noticed that when I’ve have healthy boundaries it’s easier to express my truth and insight, however it results in more pushing away by people who don’t know themselves. I’m not sure why this is so. I’m one of five girls and was labeled as a crybaby and called miss perfect by my siblings. I’ve always struggled to maintain peace within the family (not just with me but between themselves as well). I was always more than happy to forgo playing video games because it wasn’t worth arguing over who’s turn was next. I didn’t even know what music I liked until I was well into my 20’s because (as you can imagine) everyone (but me) would fight over what stationed was listened to while doing chores. I didn’t know who I was. I knew who everyone else was but I didn’t know me. I left home at 20 to discover the world and myself. When I came back home at the age of 38, I was able to stand more firmly in my values. Three of my sisters have disowned me, calling me toxic. Who am I threat to? The old version of me still living in their minds? I’m still non-confrontational but in a way that preserves who I am on the inside. It does hurt to know that who I am isn’t accepted by the people that I still love and admire, but I respect their choices and I know that their words and actions have more to do with them and their limited perspective of me than it does me.

[@simplyme7821]

Scott, such a wonderful topic that I'm dealing with now. When I sense that someone has the capacity to get inside and hurt me then I just hide behind my shield and give them the spotlight. That way I avoid unnecessary pain. But when a person keeps pushing then I do use my ability to see their weaknesses through how they're displaying their defenses and I throw it back directly to them. I have noticed that Honesty and Truth can stop them from what they were doing that was hurting me. Lastly, unfortunately as I have aged I noticed that when I meet someone that I want to get close to that I end up pushing them. I push them gently in ways to see their response. If they become over agitated or cruel then I wash my hands of them. The most precious thing is when I gently push someone and they come closer. All I ever wanted on this Earth what's to be known and to know. 90% at least would never get that far. Sadly, I pushed too hard and I will have to live with the consequences. Thank you again for such an interesting and important topic. Sincerely, Carly

[@tonyafetty8179]

I believe you nailed it especially about the introverted Infj things become Stronger for those who are an empath as well .. much alone time is needed .. some can even disconnect from people

[@angelface14angel]

Omg this is so true!!! People are so threatened by me being authentic && genuine.... only comes from those who are already lacking.... what a shame.

[@marilynminer677]

I'm ENFP. My best bud so embodies the description you give here. It's fascinating. I get the same reaction of defensiveness of course without the automatic shield.... Thank you

[@TheMorticia62]

My experience is......that it is not a 'defence mechanism' but, that 'truth' is a 'filtering' mechanism..not in defence, as there is nothing to defend, but a filtering of those who demonstrate a genuine desire and bravery for truth above all else and those who are programmed....this for me personally, is of the highest importance....without truth there is only illusion!

[@foxtrotA1]

Yes, truth and insight can feel intrusive to others. Reminds me of a French proverb that’s intrigued me enough to keep on my refrigerator: “When one holds the truth in their hand, it’s not always wise to release it.” Boundaries. Also discernment I suppose. Love your info. Wow, you’re good. Hope you’re thinking about publishing this stuff.😊 passive income is good.

[@scott.morgan]

Thanks susan :)

[@easytoslip]

good call, on it can feel intrusive. I never thought of it that way and will definitely keep it in mind!! thanks!

[@randalrschecher398]

Hi Susan, I happened to notice at an early age how many people resist or deny that which their hearts long to experience and cry out for the most. It's quite the oxymoron.

[@dronepilotcanadian6427]

I have that part of me locked down so tight , I literally don't open that part of myself unless I know it's safe , talk crap all you want but It's comparable to a baby as far as vulnerability goes but also carries the pure loving heart which allows me to see the beauty and wonder of the world. If i'm caught off guard or feel a threat I will guard that baby without prejudice and God help you If I sense any emotional vulnerability within myself . People have said the energy that emits from me when this happens is very focused and determined my articulation changes into a firm and direct "this is how its going to be tone and confidence" . I'm not proud to say but if things don't revert back to my comfort zone quick , I will take whatever "Affirmative " action and try anything feasible to resolve the Issue including violence as a last resort if need be . My inner self is truly most sacred to me , Its VERY rare I share this much of it . My motive is to give insight leading to respect and understanding of the infj gentle inner being and give fair warning about the dangerous fight or flight state .This state of mind is hyper focused adrenalized , calculating . If they are looking at you . You are most likely the source of their agitation . BUT Don't fear , INFJ's are genuinely loving and caring, willing to allow you that chance to redeem yourself , almost every time. If you get to this point , its not a joke , you need to do the right thing in their eyes pertinent to the situation and genuinely from the heart without a hint from anyone or it discredits the apology or gesture. YOU simply need to know or YOU are fubar , trust me we get shit done as it is played out in our minds . almost exact with very few variables because we are precise. Now hind sight here , this would be a reaction to an infj laughing having fun then someone comes along and kicks that baby proverbially of course.You know just some dickhead raining on your party. thats a trigger. telling you how wrong you are doing something , smugness and sneakin thieves shit talkers 2 faces . I basically stay away from most people and Facebook lol. anyhow I don't want any of that so I avoid at all cost guard that shit ,my shield is impenetrable unless i say otherwise . You don't ever want that side of any infj , energy focus determination all the same and they can't be stopped they will slip you or drop you whatever . now i can live guilt free after saying this because I realized I can still get the uncontrollable urge to just knock that ignorant low level thinking shitbag right the fuck back to I Dunno how to respect a motherfucker town. And I'm done taking responsibility for argumentative keep the shit going narcissistic fucktard that just like to squack unintelligible illogical rhetoric for the sake of and sole purpose of fucking with me . You push me far enough you wont even recognize me . . This is for that motherfucker who rode me like the town bike got me right to the edge of breaking and laughed in my face because of the look I had. I Introverted and realized I wanted Him gone , dead like at that 1 sec . that shit scares the bejezus outa me . right? because I never ever feel like killing anything anyone , .This was a digger he dug till he got a response. and i'm the bad guy when I snap? ! fuck the fucking fuckers . I don't want to fit in to that shitsac of a group , people are a lot of times shitty . I know lots of good ones luckily but 90% shit!

[@easytoslip]

I hear ya, it's the worst when someone fucks with you hard then acts like you're the bad guy for responding in a totally normal way, snap. hang in there soft heart, it can be a hard world for sure. thanks for sharing, much appreciated.

[@paulramirez8327]

Very well . If u can get an angry dumb oaf to smile , u'll have changed his energy from neg to pos , n u know u can make them smile even if they fight the smile they'll grin n remember, a coin toss they can witness or funny comment they can hear , ull lose tension n a threat n change his n others day , n ull feel satisfaction as to what was done n even share the smile . If ur willing. Theres nothing wrong with silence knowing that words are just one tool of many to accomplish everything ,Fear is a lie , n if u belive it it will scare u. Help unmask the lie with a positive , help the positive stand its ground. Cause if not what is all the knowledge n insight for? Why was it trusted to one ? Why exist if not to be part of existence? Are u certain u can? No disrepect intended . b safe

[@anxioussmurf2057]

I took the MBTI test recently and it said I am INFJ. I kind of get the protection thing here. I've never been one for actively pushing people away to protect myself. My default mechanism for protecting myself seems to be to retreat into myself and close myself off to external factors. Not sure if this is similar to what you are explaining?

[@scott.morgan]

That is essentially what I'm saying.

[@diblack4769]

Most infj live like that because mayority of people are again them

[@bennyboy2079]

Thank you for this...I thought I had mental illness for years 😂 I'm 41 and can't hold down relationships , even I couldn't work out why. But learning more about who I am can help so much.👍👍

[@tinaheald]

I feel validated.

[@brah04X]

Very interesting and relatable, thank you for this! Now I'm stuck with my usual conundrum - should I keep trying to be open, and respect my deep need for authenticity, or should I just give up and play the game as everybody else? Maybe it's about accepting the world as it is and finding those areas where authenticity is actually valued.

[@thenrepeat9124]

We're chameleons and confident in our abilities to change directions and take alt paths when trying to solve problems while many others are more likely to fixate on an approach. We're able to bust out with some extrovertion to throw off creeps because down-time's in our schedules. An infj that masters multiple passions, saves $ and stays healthy is very hard to keep down. There's not always an openning for a jab but the ability to duck and weave and wear 'em down is a must. Finish with a sleeper hold and take their weapons :) Then catch a ride with a friend from the other side of the tracks. When u get home put on some Lawrence Welk & use a good moisturizer.

[@js9430]

Lol, yes! 😂

[@nadejdakopanova415]

Thank you so much for putting this together. It does make perfect sense and help me a lot. There has been a time I was so confused as to what others project towards me that I have started questioning my own self and wondered why people find truth so hurtful and react so badly. Now I know.

[@terrijamison9154]

They KNOW WE KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!

[@gedwhittaker874]

Does this explain the countless times I offer the hand of friendship to people who I like and think we have much in common, only to be met with what I perceive as indifference or outright rejection?

[@jaylewis6310]

With my humor i cover how im quietly analyzing people to their core. All of what you said is on point. I just know people and make pretty quick assessments of them. Im about 98% exactly right about people and events

[@DivaEagle77]

This was so helpful! I’m an INFJ and this helped me understand so many of my relationships. Thank you

[@scott.morgan]

You’re very welcome!

[@Sophia-yo9rp]

Thank you. This makes so much sense. It has helped me understand myself and my resistance to engaging with the world in a more forthcoming and public way. Thank you.

[@Gshkent]

I just noticed you’re left-handed. That’s awesome, My daughter and I are the only lefties in our family and am also INFJ

[@justsomeone9372]

I believe that we create enemies only because of our kindness that we show, people get jealous of that kindness and they think that we are using a mask. They think that we are fake and they hate us for no reason. Even if I help somebody, even if they harm me, I still keep on helping them and they hate me even more after that. They don't understand that good people with good intentions still exist! That's why I don't like having lot of people around me. Only a few likes you for what you realy are, only a good person can see through and find out who we are and i stick only on those few people and my family. I think that all of the INFJ can understand me!

[@ElvenWisdom]

Completely accurate, and great way of explaining this strange process! It hurts me so much when I see people acting immature and hurting others, because then I SEE their pain. It’s almost too much to bare. I really appreciate seeing this laid out so well for me to see what “intuitively” I grasped, but this is true affirmation. 🙏🏼

[@melanie.l6282]

as an infj and struggling in this world like all of us i did find his explanations so clear /enlightening and very helpfull/ also i have notice how he has to find his words and pause in between sometimes................that's exactly how i talked when i had to make oral presentations during my studies and border line fainting!! Thank you so much for this video!!

[@christineferoli1750]

This is the best explanation I have heard of INFJ, perfectly said and visualized! Thanks

[@melanie.l6282]

infj here!! THANk YOU i can relate so much/ my tactic since chilhood to protect myself is i go in total silence and as you say in another video i go to my NI deep in the ocean to feel secure and analyze what's happening.............;which would anger some of my teachers or as an adult people who did not understand my tactic of survival!!

[@ItsMeNanaD71]

woke up at midnight, had to pee, 3 hours later I'm still watching INFJ videos enjoying finally feeling understood (just tested 2 days ago & found out I'm INFJ-T)

[@Greatlakes-z9s]

I am wonderfully stunned as well as relieved to listen to this video. It was something I truly needed. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and heart.

[@dafyddaprhys782]

Yes... The more other people project the more one can see the truth of them. Particularly when others use the 'you are' statements... Yes... I tend to receive false projections without showing reaction or change in body. Sometimes the other speaks confirmation as though I had not received their words. (my studies indicate this may be a freeze response which indicates 'passive aggressive'. Would like to hear your views on difference between 'grey rock exterior and a freeze response'?

[@patforden2365]

It took me a bit to grasp this, but on 2nd viewing, I was ah-ha...lately I have been feeling inexplicably wounded by people around me, so this helped. Never a dull moment being an INFJ.

[@scott.morgan]

Very true - never a dull moment.

[@user-uu3wj1ji9c]

Dear Scott, your utube videos are so informative and helpful to me. Thank you. Especially at this time as I am waking up inside and find that I'm staying present in challenging situations as through my life before I would have shut down or gone into overdrive which is so much more useful for me and the world around me. I found this video on protection and defences brilliant and I learnt so much. With Covid 19 I and others are expressing a lot of protective and defensive elements. I'm in Ireland and I'm blessed to have to spend chunks of time on my own with social distancing and it helps me reflect and learn. I've got your visual of INFJ and other from this video and it helps me 'go deeper' and 'discover a different kind of authenticity' in these challenging times. Best wishes to you Scott, with gratitude from Fiona

[@TheBananaDeanna]

100 % spot on! Thank you so much!

[@scott.morgan]

You're welcome dlynn :)

[@matthue9419]

You can tell a person's motives even easier by observing them talking to someone else. Whatever manipulation they may have catered specifically to use on you will also be catered to each and every person in the room individually, and it's your job to see if the other innocent people around you are being mistreated, or even targeted. This is difficult when the person is loud and talks about basically nothing actually worthwhile because they're just happy everyone can hear them, which could perhaps make the person feel good about themselves because they're the loudest and proudest in the room. It backfires again however, because if you're worth your salt in Ti child, you'll know nobody does that but overt people neglectors, and at that point it's like lighting a big neon sign above their head that says, "I DONT HAVE ANYTHING TO ADD TO ANYONE'S EXPERIENCE HERE," and then it's just painstakingly obvious. Also side note, this video?? Epic. Make more!! I'd been living like this for so long, I'm glad I've gotten a chance to explore sharing my inner world and it's really changed me for the better, I feel like I like who I've become better than the previous me

[@interestingfamilyorigin3574]

Very good video fits in with me pretty well as an INFJ i love my own space i find that i have trust issues and have done from a very early age for good reason i can't stand being around a lot of people im always acknowledging everything that's going on around i hold things in but i stand up for what is right i have a habit of telling other people home truths when they deserve to have it put too them which tends not too go down to well but mostly i keep myself to myself have a small selece few people i would class as friends even though not even they get me at times i have tried explaining how I'm am i spend most of my time ( pretty much all the time ) wishing that i could just have land in the middle of nowhere or an island and just live of the land etc and not have to be around people well just be around like minded people who get what it's like ( i was a very rural guy from childhood etc from a farming background , learnt servival skills , hunting fishing etc from a very early age always been quite a spiritual person have and always will have my religious beliefs - not as in the Bible's - ) any loved the video keep up the good work stay safe well

[@phillipdozier8143]

It never ceases to amaze me the enter fear people have and so ernestly try to hide,by doing this they are only exposing them selves more.

[@johnwilwerding7512]

Thanks for a summary of what I sense in my world inside and out! Please share where I find other work.

[@fursteveferret3771]

Very well explained the infj platform holds so many hidden subconscious paths. sharing experience and information with others makes this personallity type more manageable in day to day life.

[@laraoneal7284]

I keep myself protected most of the time probably too much. To the point of counter dependence as opposed to codependency.

[@justChrisjones]

Very insightful ! I appreciate this put into such clear visuals. Yes I've done this all along. Thank you so much.

[@scott.morgan]

You're so welcome!

[@PepperyPete10]

This is so insightful and spot on. Found a gem of a channel here. Thank you so much for the content.

[@brokennailsno2863]

Is this why others think I am combative?

[@easytoslip]

who knows with no given scenario noted...but I will share that I am pretty sure that these inner powers I have that not many others do are sometimes envied, and people can act ugly in jealous-mode. I also think when people are afraid they do very stupid things; Do *you* think you're combative? I'm calm, quiet and gentle and got fired for 'creating discord' and yet it was three women who sat watching me work who got me written up on purpose twice because they didn't like me, aka they didn't want to work as hard as I did (I was making them look bad). I come to work rested, I'm positive and friendly, I see the best in others, and I don't have a huge ego; I just know I'm honest and work hard to develop my talents. I guess that is all threatening to people who don't want to or can't work hard? To unconscious people content with messing with others for entertainment? Scapegoating seems common, and if you don't know yourself well and are sensitive you can become an easy target. I also think people project bad qualities in themselves that they refuse to own, making others the ones who act out the bad quality while they remain the good one or the hero in the scenario. People can be super mean and sneaky and incongruent and fearful. It's so important to know who you are and what you are doing in the moment, and to practice self care often and always.

[@lanitheromp7267]

That's interesting, never though it in that direction. That clear it up why people are always jealous of me.

[@mysticat7652]

Excellent! Thank you Scott! 🤗

[@johncabanban8498]

That is true brother... We protect our inner core, and we are an open book to everyone but they cannot open the page that we are protecting...

[@anetteholm6384]

So true! Both that INFJ protect themselves with privacy, so there can be a need to open up a bit, so others can reach out to you, and that others can be intimated by truth and insight! :) Thank you!

[@lorraine8962]

This explains why, many years ago, a manager said he could not “read me.” I do notice a lot of defensiveness in others when I am being my authentic self.

[@prolegomena100]

This is incredibly accurate to me.

[@CaliDiva310]

One thing I’ve learned. You can develop a whole different personality trait all due to different life experiences such as spiritual awakenings. Will I stay an INFJ? Or will I experience another spiritual awakening & develop a different personality & no longer be considered an INFJ? It’s crazy how the world works. It’s so hard to be stable with a lot going that’s why it is VERY IMPORTANT to take time off to get to know yourself & today I figured out with the help of your videos that I am an INFJ personality type. Thank you , it’s always good to learn new things.

[@scott.morgan]

You're welcome Melanin

[@mosesunic9535]

Great explanation

[@gardini100]

the weird part for me , when i meet some new people and they tell some story they had in life , i never forgett the story , and that can be scary to some :D

[@caroliner2029]

We need to learn to protect ourselves, to recharge our batteries (emotional tank), and manage stress as part of professional development. We need to protect ourselves within our private life as well. We have limits, and need to listen to our internal indicators, spend time processing, reflecting, journalling, exercising, & praying. We need solitude, and also to be with the few trusted, loved people in our lives. Otherwise we hit the wall, burned out. Peace and happiness to you all.

[@terrijamison9154]

Yes. I have experienced others defensiveness many times!

[@miahleissa9599]

My life experience became much less painful when I was taught how to empty my heart chakra of pain and then, put up chakra guard there.

[@luscher5093]

Miah Leissa Would you be willing to share how you did this please...

[@alaysiakayebutler6299]

That sounds helpful

[@randalrschecher398]

That is really good thinking Miah. I found this same idea here on You Tube and am in the process of learning the exercises for myself. Would you mind, please, to keep us posted on how this progresses for you and I will do the same? So cool!

[@susancorbett4260]

How do I empty my heart chakra?? So tired of crying...

[@helentaylor5078]

Thank you. 100% understand. It's like the penny has just dropped and I understand my interactions/relationships with others. Always wondered why I can be what I think is just a conversation with someone, and they just explode, leaving me thinking what did I just say to set that off. Then feeling bad and question myself. Especially from close friends and family.

[@PelegoRecords]

Male INFJ Empath Here, You, Sir, Are A Genius!!! 😇 [🛡️] Pierre-Lee Gordon

[@gildaung9963]

As you said "it's often doesn't". Thank you Scott for the explaination

[@scott.morgan]

no problem Gilda

[@RachelPun]

Truths don't hurt; lies do.

[@MissusTayIor]

Wow.....This is the best explanation I have seen yet for what goes on with us when interacting and observing others....thankyou!

[@stacfred9509]

Oh my goodness! Spot on! Thank you for understanding me.

[@scott.morgan]

No problem Stacie!

[@CynthiaMenezes-cj3gd]

Scott because of this people feel threatened by me that they keep telling lies about me. All my life I suffered due to this

[@donellandrews3990]

I only just discovered you a month ago. Wow. You are great.

[@thundercloudentertainment900]

You explained that so perfectly!

[@kawakoliavu5798]

This needs to be articulated more concisely. Our INF makes us very introspect and compassionate people. Because of our -J we tend to be more purposeful and intentional on how our internal dialogue makes sense in the world around us. Hence why we aren't a fan of small talk or ideas that dont work towards a purpose for a greater good and meaning. We are private and will give off levels off truth and authenticity as a bait to see if it is reciprocated. We sometimes fail to consider how it might be recieved by those unable to reciprocate. One is not able to reciprocate if their focus is on an aspect in life that they are not happy with. That aspect is inadvertently projected from the individual. We can read through that. So while we test to see if it comes from a place of authenticity, we soon find out when we come up against resistance and fear. In these instances we are often mistaken for attacking ones character. We are not. We are merely trying to make sense of the world around us in order to find our part to play in this world. We just need to be better at bouncing back and keep moving forward. I no longer focus on my defense. I just focus on my offense and what I want out of every encounter. Its not always clear but overtime it becomes easier and quicker and less taxing on my emotions.

[@caminodelcorazon]

As an INFJ, this was very helpful, thank you! Shared with my other INFJ buddies

[@futurenate]

That was so spot on!

[@hopeangel4949]

I love you videos. Thank you for understanding me. Your voice is so soothing that I could go to sleep by it. I'll start listening to them more a night lol. It's a good thing btw. Prayers & blessings over you Scott Morgan. Stay AWESOME!!!

[@sandywright7554]

As an INFJ I confirm this analysis is 100% on point! Thank you! (31 Dec 2022)

[@compactinfinity]

Lmao so right. The sad part is... i didn't even get it as an INFJ till now.

[@jenniferkeeponfighting7561]

I am very kind and affectionate, but cautious. I'm Rambo deep inside.

[@miloconcepcion4626]

The ability to know/read other people's mind is our best shield and its our main sensor. We can spot who's a good person and who's not that can easily stored in our unconscious mind that when it got triggered we will know what kind of mask/acting role that suited for them. Most people can easily be read and predicted once you master the skills/ability and from that you can easily put what uniform/mask that they deserve.

[@philepling2470]

My understanding of this protection is for the purpose of guarding my heart. Not necessarily my emotions. Truth and authenticity. A walk of integrity. This is my goal and it is what knits us together. I’ve seen the end of my intellectual endeavors many times. I’ve been put in my place by revelation that can only come from One who knows me. I’m very Happy about that. I seek to hear these Truths from others as well. Judge Rightly ! 🤔🤔🤔🤔 Isn’t that our hope? We roll our eyes at the “judge not” campers . We clearly see that it is indeed a matter of Life and death. To Choose Life even if it means to lay our own life down. I’ll have some of that please.

[@shanetomlinson984]

Being an INFJ is what also lead me to conspiracy theories. Because I could read through the lies of politicians, and when I'd see the results of their lies it made me feel how disgusting these people are. And the things I was picking up about these people and things I waa figuring out were being confirmed in the conspiracy theories. Ultimately that then led me to giving my life to Jesus Christ, and he transformed my life. But don't wanna seem like I'm pushing it on anyone, I'm not, I'm just saying. But this video is true. Makes so much sense

[@jennifermaxine2453]

I also hear these same symptoms from complex PTSD sufferers & people with quiet Bpd..I can relate to this exactly....its too bad theres so much stigma with human mental health in 2021. Too many labels...& not enough intelligence or scientific data yet...Its like were still in the 1940s

[@janezimmerman1398]

Thanks Scott! I found this video extremely helpful in understanding myself as an INFJ.