i just turned 20 and it feels good going into my 20s with mindfulness
@Anon-mx7db3 жыл бұрын
How did you develop mindfulness? Im struggling at the moment and I turn 20 this summer. I want things to change I just don’t know how :)
@JstJaybeingJay3 жыл бұрын
Damn turning 20 does feel a little... uncomfortable/pressure.. don't know why?🤷
@oumaimafikri31663 жыл бұрын
@@JstJaybeingJay i go through this feeling as well i'm 20 so people in this age feel more responsible 💁
@oumaimafikri31663 жыл бұрын
@@JstJaybeingJay for me I feel kind of lost in my life ,I have Soo much Fateful choices so I'm afraid to choice the wrong things and that's will effect my future life 😭🙂That's actually what I'm going through .they called it midlife crisis 😊
@JstJaybeingJay3 жыл бұрын
@Oumaima Fikri I guess it's "responsibility", for me it feels like I've wasted my life so far, accomplished nothing tried to do something failed at it. now just wishing for a miracle. Worse part I've big dreams, like really big...But right now things feel like..............well at a "lockdown"😁.
@SakuraBlitz3 жыл бұрын
Me turning 25 in less than a month: * frantically taking notes *
@aleb62453 жыл бұрын
Chill
@MsSomeonenew3 жыл бұрын
Most important part is that your road is yours alone and that you can't get there until you get there.
@SakuraBlitz3 жыл бұрын
@@MsSomeonenew Definitively, it was a joke :)
@nermeennasser95233 жыл бұрын
It is never late to take these notes
@lvk.a51663 жыл бұрын
guess ur 25 now
@fuzz23533 жыл бұрын
Yeah, turning 25 this year,feeling like I'm stuck in my 17's because of I don't know what to do with my future. I'm lost, feeling weak, unmotivated because of unrealistic expectations. No jobs, no friends, worried a lot. ♥️Remember you're not alone. We'll get through this. Love you.
@yellovika9623 жыл бұрын
You’re not alone! Turning 25 soon and still feel like a lost loser not knowing what I want to be.
@jdr913 жыл бұрын
I turn 25 in a few months, you’re definitely not alone. I feel just as lost as I did at the beginning of college, maybe its just laziness or maybe I’m just not up for this kind of life, I move out soon so I am hoping that will help me shift my direction in life. I have a degree in computer science and ,honestly, I don’t have any motivation to pursue a “career” at the moment. Im told that Im wasting time but honestly time is all I have right now. 😅
@Lostmanin3 жыл бұрын
I'm an adult who has zero passion and motivation for any job, despite I was told it's what you need if you want to have a successful life since I was a kid...growing up I didn't know what I wanted, then I realized I just want to have a normal happy family and be a mom, I wonder if that's weird
@Hisherly3 жыл бұрын
24 and lost too. Unmotivated to find job because I don't know what I want to do.
@xapokalypse3 жыл бұрын
I'm 22 and working in a bakery but I'm searching for a different job cuz after over 3 years working there, I'm just tired of the job and customers because this was one of the jobs that I never wanted to do when I was younger. So now I'm searching but I don't feel like I'm getting really far and I just feel so unmotivated
@TheDragonshunter3 жыл бұрын
On my 20s I realized that adults are a joke...
@babybubblegum42403 жыл бұрын
Yup
@rdsa13 жыл бұрын
on top of that the process of realization comes is from when you start reflecting on the circumstances of the events and actions that happened in your life then you see what's wrong and right of it , so age is not necessarily primarily a condition. hopefully you got my point cus i'm non-native English speaker
@WhatIsMyPorpoise3 жыл бұрын
@@rdsa1 You mean something like: That realization comes when you reflect on the circumstances and events of your life and see the wrong and right of it, regardless of age. A fairly good message and you got most of the vocabulary right, even if the structure wasn't the greatest. Adults aren't a joke. The popular concept of adulthood and childhood being completely separate and so terribly different is a joke. People who rely on their seniority as a claim of greater wisdom and intelligence are jokes. You eventually realize that people are both better and worse than you give them credit for, young people can be both tremendously smart and clever and immature and naive and ancient people incredibly narrowminded while also having unique perspective you could never consider. Just be open to it all, don't concern yourself too much with age differences for friends and... i dunno.
@teddyteddy29513 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@j3j3m0n3 ай бұрын
im 18, thats quite sad and funny at the same time, like bittersweet acceptance
@tiffanyferg3 жыл бұрын
ok so for your own bday you managed to create bingo, a slideshow, and this piece of art??
@buttercup32483 жыл бұрын
I'm the 69th like
@eduardochavacano3 жыл бұрын
please dont call it a slideshow... its much too beautiful for the term. its at least a video.
@Sandra-lu3ri3 жыл бұрын
Hi there!
@emelial.62513 жыл бұрын
@@eduardochavacano I think they’re referring to something outside this video. They did say “and this piece of art”
@torinthunder30393 жыл бұрын
Somehow I knew you’d be here
@Gormfork3 жыл бұрын
I just celebrated my 23rd birthday, just graduated college, and I've never felt more afraid of my future and the uncertainty of it all. Videos like these are bringing me some comfort that I'm not alone.
@siegpasta3 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna pretend to be wise for a momment. This is one aspect of life that everyone feels, me and you, he and she. You can ask your parents and they would relate. You could ask your grandparents and they would relate. You could ask the 90 year old grandfather who's out walking in the park and he would relate. Just pretend like it doesn't matter what your future will bring you and that will make you feel alot more at ease. Imagine instead feeling "wow, the whole world is infront of me and I don't know where I'll end up in this grand adventure! >:D" Because really, what are you really afraid of ? Not being wealthy? not being famous? These things won't make life more fun for you in the slightest ;). I've been to countries, poor countries, where the 40 year old guy standing at the side of the desolate country road selling exotic fruits for a living, was more happy than I've ever seen anyone else being happy in my entire life before. As a matter of fact when you talk to these people you get an understanding of their lives and how different everything can be for yourself aswell. In my experience, it's impossible to really know what your purpouse in life is unless you havent tried different things before. That means, tried jobs that you otherwise would think "eh, boring" or "ew too low salary". Just ignore the ammount of money you will get, you can always quit. You can always get another one. But experiencing how it is, is so much more valuable than imagining how it would be. Because if you have never been a fire fighter before, you can't know how it is to be one if you've never been one. Once you have tried different things, your understanding of what you like and don't will grow until you have narrowed it down to your purpouse in life. But if you never blindly try, you are never going to find your purpouse.
@kimberlylim45393 жыл бұрын
Same, I just graduated from university and am turning 23 years old this coming August. It's a really scary, stressful and anxious feeling to be and feel uncertain and lost. But, no matter what I know we'll find a way and strive through this. All the best man 🍀🍀
@kimberlylim45393 жыл бұрын
@@artistfromheart7 You tooo 💖💖😊
@holysheem8633 жыл бұрын
i graduated in college when i was 18 tho so its good lol
@babybubblegum42403 жыл бұрын
Same
@TheSamG133 жыл бұрын
Currently a junior trying to reckon with the fact that I'm about to be a senior. I feel like I've blinked and lost my entire junior year. Everything feels so unfinished. I'm burned out, stressed out, and truly, my mind hurts more than I can comprehend. Thanks for voicing all of this, and making sure we know we're not alone. Phew!
@FigaroHey3 жыл бұрын
As a former college teacher, I wish I could have passed a law that strongly encouraged university students to take one semester off at some point if it was all getting to be too much pressure. Saw too many young people under too much pressure, not letting themselves take a break when mentally and emotionally and even physically they really needed it. If I were a parent, I'd be watching my adult student 'child' and letting him or her know that if things get overwhelming, there are much worse things than not graduating 'on time.'
@fieryspidervenom46533 жыл бұрын
I feel the same as you my friend, as a sophomore in high school, never thought my mind could hurt this much lol, but I’m with you wherever you are
@itzli_79303 жыл бұрын
Same I’m a sophomore about to be a junior and I can’t believe it
@nikkisunshine74303 жыл бұрын
@@itzli_7930 me too
@gabrielavasquez73953 жыл бұрын
I’m a freshman, going to be a sophomore starring next semester and I completely agree with you. I feel like I lost an entire school year. And it went by to quick too.
@Lil.Dictator3 жыл бұрын
25 was absolutely a turning point. It was significant and profound. When I turned 25 my whole world practically shifted. It was a transformation from a caterpillar to a butterfly. My health took a decline, I was diagnosed with a chronic auto-immune disease with uncontrollable flare ups. I began to cut out unhealthy behaviors and tendencies and replace them with self-love and positivity I never had before. I healed my mental health by working on me. Focusing on me. Prioritizing me. I eliminated the people in my life who would forever try to manipulate and emotionally abuse me; friends AND family. I concreted the things I would not do, and found things I love that I never expected. 25 was terrible but also beautiful. I've never felt more...me.
@Shirumoon3 жыл бұрын
That sounds beautiful! I am turning 25 next month and I feel so empty. I have almost no friends left, no supportive family und the man I love does not want to be with me anymore. I have yet to start university so no career going on for me either. I am hoping so bad to finally get to my break through and get happy for the first time in forever.
@Lil.Dictator3 жыл бұрын
@@Shirumoon It takes a lot of patience with yourself and love too. Just vibe with the things that you enjoy and that bring you genuine happiness and dont be afraid to try new things! If people arent in your life that it means they arent meant to be there and better people will come along. It's okay to be lost, it's okay to be unsure, that's just part of the experience.
@horseisme3 жыл бұрын
I cried watching this, not out of sadness but out of joy to seeing you grow over these years of watching you. Thank you and love ya :)
@kathykim41433 жыл бұрын
me too :')
@jldp243 жыл бұрын
Wow..get a life
@helios57303 жыл бұрын
Same here...
@DeadAngel143 жыл бұрын
I feel you I have been following her college videos since 2017 when I myself was about to travel and join uni in other country. Now I am in senior year :"")
@mimi-yl5bu3 жыл бұрын
I love how I'm seeing this when only 13 💀see you in 12 years ig
@siegpasta3 жыл бұрын
Lmao xD you still have a childhood to live out, SMH. what are you doing here?? XD
@shubhangim35953 жыл бұрын
live out your years with the mindset from this video :)
@fisheraser3 жыл бұрын
see you in 12 years!
@bubaaaaaaaaa3 жыл бұрын
Bruh same, lmao (im younger than you by 1 year tho)
@coolpfpbut95053 жыл бұрын
@@shubhangim3595 try to. Its not easy to mimic the wisdom that others share unless you go through the process yourself
@jbates7253 жыл бұрын
I'm 40, and this is excellent.
@flamingaish3 жыл бұрын
Woah
@honeypotfilms60663 жыл бұрын
the vibe of this video is just so aesthetically pleasing it feels like a short film/documentary? - honeypot films
@zaysekai57833 жыл бұрын
I'm turning 25 in November. Becoming more old feels like dying. We never expect to get old and in the same way we also never expect to die. I haven't accomplished much in my life actually. I don't even have a degree. I wish to start an IT degree next year. I hope i can still I do it. I always overthink stuff, doubt myself and quit stuff. This time I'm going to actively believe in myself, work on my mental health and take on a different strategy to achieving what I want. I'll try. Life is just hard.
@ashleeskhan40753 жыл бұрын
I believe in you!
@frederickphoenix3 жыл бұрын
I believe in you as well. One step at a time.
@RD-bq2mq3 жыл бұрын
I believe in you! I sometimes doubt myself but eh. I’m trying to be better everyday and learning more about myself and the world around me.
@moyoowoyeye77513 жыл бұрын
Hun I understand. I believe in you. You can do it.
@K2SonicFan3 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna be 25 this year as well lmaooooo
@daviddied72523 жыл бұрын
I'm turning 25 in 2 days. My life had been a complete s*it show. It scares me so much that it seems that I'm going to be the same person for the rest of my life. However I hope things will be much better soon.
@mirandad.g39643 жыл бұрын
you always have the power to make progress on improving who you are. good luck to you!
@ensomnia.3 жыл бұрын
Happy birthday!
@Juliana-f4f3 жыл бұрын
Happy birthday , and best wishes in becoming the person you strive to be .
@Alicia-lp5zf3 жыл бұрын
Happy birthday! Please understand that we will always develop & change so dont feel bad
@Marco-jm1mo3 жыл бұрын
Happy birthday brother
@adamb.66883 жыл бұрын
This is going to be a video I will come back to over and over. It's so soothing and gentle and all of the points you've mentioned are so truthful. I love the way you approach growth, self-care, and empathy. I just turned 24 two months ago and as silly as it is, I'm finally learning how to take a break. I'm re-learning how to love myself, love the people around me and learn to be kind to myself. I've watched your videos since your college days. It's so amazing to see how far you've come. Especially this year! Thank you for being one of my favorite youtubers. Happy late birthday :)
@catherinerondel45693 жыл бұрын
I agree with this comment completely 😊
@Katherout3 жыл бұрын
so wonderful to hear the growth you’ve working through!!!
@eduardochavacano3 жыл бұрын
im not of a fan such videos. But Im loving her language, poetic, but really not cheesy and prententious. Okay, I’ll subscribe. I owe her for initially bashing her for not having arched eyebrowse. It just sounds so authentic.
@Blahsheep3 жыл бұрын
I turned 25 this year and I will say, as soon as I turned 25 I just felt different. I felt like it's time to do something and get out there. I've done nothing but be lazy for 25 years. Time to make up for lost time in the next 25 years.
@siegpasta3 жыл бұрын
Idk I think you approach it badly. "make up"? Was your whole life not worth it? A piss in the wind? Eqivilent to spitting down a bottomeless pit of nothingness? No, listen here dude, you are just starting to like different things. Then just do different things. Before this point you did what you liked and that's it. Don't overcomplicate things just say "I do what I like" and that is it. People love overcomplicating things but one of my best lessons I learned is to boil everything down to the simplest aspect there is and then just *do* and whatever outcome becomes of that, will always be better than worrying and regretting or overcomplicating/overthinking. :)
@someczechguy3 жыл бұрын
Same
@Blahsheep3 жыл бұрын
@@siegpasta yeah that's a good point. I do over think things way too much.
@zaram2806 Жыл бұрын
@@siegpasta I know your comment is a year old but reading this has made me feel better about my poor choices
@kunntomo3789 Жыл бұрын
This video is so nice and useful. This year I'm turning 25 because I was born in 1998. Thank you very much for uploading this video I have a lot of things I should learn from this video
@techguy10023 жыл бұрын
I'm currently 21 and WOW this was just so insightful. Loved the editing, calmness, and just overall sincerity you expressed in this piece. Thank you. 😊
@iyanu14133 жыл бұрын
i’m 17 and i’m really soaking in all your wisdom :)))
@user-ws8pq8cd2j3 жыл бұрын
me too!
@nkrwrites38943 жыл бұрын
Same!
@Wheeintage3 жыл бұрын
Same here!
@bahar68573 жыл бұрын
Same😁
@iloveilvolo3 жыл бұрын
The editing on this video is next level. I usually don't watch these "x things I learned in x years" videos, but I love your content, so I did, and I'm so glad. Totally resonate with the health care portion.
@NothingJustHappens3 жыл бұрын
What you said on independence really really REALLY spoke to me. The last year I’ve been reflecting on how my independent identity has really helped me through life but has also made me very sheltered with my feelings and emotions because I always relied on myself to help myself through hard times. It’s almost an excuse for me to not open up or share with others. Now in a relationship for the first time (at 25), I see how harmful my independent ideologies have been because I was ONLY thinking of myself, no one else. I really struggle to relay my ideas and thoughts and emotions to my partner because I’ve never had to do that before. I’m getting better but there’s still a huge baggage there for me to ASK for help and not expect myself to do everything, especially in a partnership. Just a random thought! It was comforting to hear someone else my age reflect on their independence as I’ve been :)
@ananastea3 жыл бұрын
this hit home, thank you for sharing!
@shakiras56793 жыл бұрын
omg, the "toxic positivity" one HIT. ya girl does not know how to not say "GOOD, HOW ARE YOU" when someone asks how i am. also love ur handwriting! you are a precious flower!!!
@aquamarine13yt3 жыл бұрын
This really helped me feel more comfortable about my future, about how I don’t have to be all by myself and it doesn’t have to be stressful and a dark time in my life where I’m alone in a big city living on awful wages and struggling to find a partner and friends while leaving everyone I love behind. thank you.
@jailynn23363 жыл бұрын
i’m 13 and this has given me the peace of mind i haven’t had in awhile. i’m glad you made this video. i’ve taken everything you’ve said into consideration and this is all so helpful honestly. i am so happy i now have a different view on things.
@MOBBY7173 жыл бұрын
Wow.... I wish I were 13 again. Good luck in life
@Javea973 жыл бұрын
This is so true. Crazy, how you have to learn things that sound so obvious when you say them out loud. It took me so long to learn that it's ok not to be ok and that failing at something isn't equal to weakness.
@lostinadmiration3 жыл бұрын
You are so wise for your age, it is truly impressive. I love you are so self-reflective and very responsible towards other people, the society, the community. This is truly something to be proud of you know. Well done
@katie11281003 жыл бұрын
So amazing! As a 23 year old who has been subscribed since 2015 I feel like your videos have always been very sisterly and this one was full of beautiful wisdom! Thank you for sharing!
@becaroni173 жыл бұрын
I think this is the best video you’ve ever posted. Thank you for sharing, from a fellow 25-year-old just trying to figure life out.
@karacoconutag3 жыл бұрын
The thing I wish I had learned before turning 25 most is to divest from hyper consumerism. I've since learned this lesson, and have dramatically downsized my life and completely changed the way I shop, and as a result, I've had more time and money to devote to the things that matter most to me in life, I feel so much lighter owning much less, and I feel more satisfied with what I do have. But for real, I wasted an astronomical amount of money in my early twenties on material goods that I didn't need or even like that much, impulse buys are so addictive. Not everything we think we need to be happy will actually make us happy, and it's really does take questioning each purchase we make with a healthy dose of cynicism to truly find balance as a person living in this profit-hungry, cruel, materialistic world.
@360shadowmoon3 жыл бұрын
"I'm a finite resource with limits." - Something I REALLY wish I knew when I was in college and my early 20s. Awesome video, it is so pleasant to watch.
@sarahs18213 жыл бұрын
I've literally never been this early to a KZbin video before! My 21 year old self will be watching and learning :)
@Katherout3 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@amandasayshi3 жыл бұрын
22 watching this. and damn i needed to hear this. I’ve been so in my head about my future lately and this made me excited to keep living, which is something i haven’t felt in a whiiiile. Thank you for this.
@holysheem8633 жыл бұрын
im also 22 same
@noellabezzle30443 жыл бұрын
The first one about independence is really important. I feel like I'm inadequate for having to rely on others sometimes
@spencer38213 жыл бұрын
I like the mindful vibes. I'm at the end of my undergraduate experience, and I'm finding it so hard to do my work. I feel like my motivation is completely absent. I want to know how I can enjoy learning again.
@Nanancay3 жыл бұрын
I'm turning 25 this year and thisis litearlly what i've been learning over the past 2 years - like this stuff is SO GOOD to remember what I learnt omfg. It's honestly so true, empathy and connection with people is the only thing that I feel like is the ultimate cure for anxiety. Being with people you love.
@SamElle3 жыл бұрын
im turning 25 in may and what I have realized that I am way too hard on myself. I keep putting pressure on myself to be at a certain place in my life and it's hard not to compare myself to everyone around me. I have definitely learned many hard lessons along the way and it's really nice to hear your perspective and to know that I'm not alone, if that makes sense. I love this style of video and thank you so much for sharing!!
@raularmas3173 жыл бұрын
I suggest you get a hold of a copy of your birth certificate and hand and foot prints and have them enlarged and framed. Place them in a conspicuous area of your home. Every time your tempted to compare yourself to someone else-- take a moment to meditate on the uniqueness of you for a few minutes and realize that no one will ever be able to take or remember your journey for you and that you are miracle of creation.
@SamElle3 жыл бұрын
@@raularmas317 wow, thank you for suggesting that!!! This really helped put things into perspective
@bekahkgc3 жыл бұрын
As a current college senior, I loved this video, especially the part about student identity.
@mmmmmmeghan3 жыл бұрын
Girl the EDITING. Thank you so much for letting us into this part of your life and sharing this with us. You are so incredibly well-spoken and full of wisdom. I hope you know your content has such a positive impact on people. You should take great pride in knowing you are putting good into the world and helping people. I may be 23, but you feel like the big sister I never had. Thank you. A million times, thank you.
@Katherout3 жыл бұрын
🥲🥲🥲
@inevitabledrifter3 жыл бұрын
kind of interesting how I just turn 25 and everything is coming clear to me now, I am still lost but I have found parts of myself. Keep your heads up everyone better days are to come.
@aaronrhodes11583 жыл бұрын
I’m about to turn 27, and I still identify so hard with this vid.
@gracelarson18423 жыл бұрын
I had to pause this video because everything you’ve gone over so far is so important but your number five is my favorite at the moment. I constantly try to understand what others are going through but there’s a point where you can’t understand and need to switch over to empathy. You can imagine how hard certain situations are but if you don’t live through them yourself you will truly never understand what it’s like, therefore empathy comes into play. I’m so happy I came across this video! And now I can press play again 😅
@1o_0I3 жыл бұрын
girl... I feel like I should write this points down in my diary. You're so good at it.
@sarahelizasmith1865 Жыл бұрын
Some really great life tips here - I've written them down in my journal! The one that particularly stood out to me was that 'your identity is not your thoughts'; having had mental health issues, it is encouraging to know that the thoughts that I have had with them are not my identity, and also that many of those thoughts are not true.
@ezde7113 жыл бұрын
#13 makes me feel validated for being the kid that argued with teachers in class about the things that were being taught and not just accepting what they were telling us but really trying to understand it from multiple angles. and always asking questions about why things are the way they are (really why) and how things are made or get done #23 Glad that you are able to be comfortable in what you like, despite what others think about it. That is an awesome thing to have. never stop working on that.
@emma-di6co3 жыл бұрын
im 19 and im so thankful for the message. i dont have a mom to tell me things like this. thank you! i will come back and rewatch this!!🤍
@uncomfortablyoversizedbrea63473 жыл бұрын
When I was 6 I began playing the piano and was starting to get pretty good at it pretty fast. All my family members used to say that I needed to be a musician, but I never became one. Personally, playing the piano just for myself has kept me sane for many years already, and I don't think making a career out of my hobby would make much fun.
@genyag3593 жыл бұрын
This year I’ll be 25 years old and I have learned something from this video. Thank you.
@tiezukae3 жыл бұрын
Me age 25: no social life, no friends, no social skills.....only got myself to blame really
@amgm19963 жыл бұрын
she: im 25 and i suck also she: makes a very artistical poetic video im 24 turning 25 in qugust btw
@alonaabigael3 жыл бұрын
few minutes into the video and i was already crying. this video feels like... engaging in THAT conversation with an older sister that leaves you with so much wisdom--considering that i don't have any sibling at all.
@BrodieKellyMusic3 жыл бұрын
'Ive never been as burnt out as I was at 24'.... damn I felt this one. I've recently turned 24 and yeah same
@Wra8h3 жыл бұрын
Well, I'm 25 in three days. I've never seen such a..... deeply insightful, introspective, and self-aware video from a young person. I identify so much with a lot of what you said. The independence one, for sure, is a hard one for me as I think it's the default process for me to exist without feeling like I need others. The 'problem-solving' prompt response when someone opens up about a problem.... I, too used to be that way, in a way because I thought that was what was expected from me and I didn't want to disappoint the other person and seem like I can't help. I learned from my own experience and observing that people need support and empathy first and foremost. Also, realizing we're all equal individuals, like truly deeply seeing how nobody is better than anybody at the end of the day, was a big one for me in my early 20's. It actually made connecting with people a bit easier. Of course, everything, is a lifelong process of reaffirming and learning.
@emilylaughs3 жыл бұрын
o my god i'm turning 25 in 10 days and this was recommended. so nervous but also excited!
@anshumannayak17653 жыл бұрын
9 days. Let's goooo
@TsukaTsu3 жыл бұрын
5 days lets gooooo😙
@emilylaughs3 жыл бұрын
@@TsukaTsu @Anshuman Nayak thank you for my bday countdown! It made my day esp since I won't be able to see most of my friends.
@TsukaTsu3 жыл бұрын
@@emilylaughs aww that sucks! So is today your birthday...? Or am i getting the days wrong?
@emilylaughs3 жыл бұрын
@@TsukaTsu my birthday was yesterday!! i feel so old but thank you for the wishes - yall are the best
@hannahklein99823 жыл бұрын
I rarely comment on videos, but having just graduated from college I could not have found this video at a better time. All of this was EXACTLY what I needed to hear to process my existential worries. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
@dindadewi66793 жыл бұрын
13:06 Sometimes I thought that when I attached to someone story, attached to movies, art, music, being able to feel and understand it deeply is my weakness, I always thought that maybe is just myself overreacting, being a cry baby, being too sensitive, being too emotional over things like that. I thought that strong people are the one that not easily cried. But.. maybe I was wrong.
@starfire2468103 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't say that you're a crybaby cuz I cry a lot too over things like that and I thinking it's cuz you could be an empath/empathetic person or have some sort or mindfulness
@dindadewi66793 жыл бұрын
@@starfire246810 maybe.. But I can't deny that sometimes being an empath is tiring. You can't hide your emotion. I try hard to be an ignorant person and don't care about those emotion but I just can't lie to myself. It's struggling sometimes..
@StephanieBruno3 жыл бұрын
when she talked about the "being emotional at tv shows and things is a gift" i cried. the irony lolll
@Rachel-ov2bg3 жыл бұрын
1. No one is truly independent 2. Stop giving advice unless someone explicitly asks for it. 3. Stop saying "yes" all the time. Set boundaries. 4. Your labor is not your worth. 5. Empathy>total understanding 6. Do things for you. 7. Wear sunscreen. 8. Stop toxic positivity. 9. Investing in health is important over all else. 10. When you think of someone, let them know. 11. Bring friends together 12. Everything I avoided in high school turned out to be good. 13. Redevelop your critical thinking skills. 14. Don't lose your intellectual curiosity. 15. Make space for others. 16. Invest in nice bedding. 17. Relationships can grow and shrink unexpectedly in the virtual environment. 18. Your identity does not equal your thoughts. 19. Rest is a requirement and not a reward. 20. People project a lot. 21. Being able to emote is a gift. 22. Reframe what you want and what you have to give in relationships. 23. male gaze - like things you like because you like them 24. Gained a political identity. 25. The youtube community helped her grow. Please watch the full thing for yourself though. Personally, I really identified with #10, #11, #13, #18, and #23
@nights_over_egypt3 жыл бұрын
Thyroid cancer survivor here and new sub. Please. Never. Stop. (also never delete these vids 🙌)
@LC-fq4cv3 жыл бұрын
I'm turning 24 next month. And last year when I turned 23, I thought and planned about so many things to do in my 23rd year, i thought I'd start being more productive, meet new people, do new things, and more stuffs, or even learn and study again. But none of that happen. I'm not blaming the pandemic tho. But I definitely wouldn't want my 24th year to be the same again :(
@BimmerWon3 жыл бұрын
Hey I’m turning 24 next month too!
@holysheem8633 жыл бұрын
im 22 turning 23 in december i hope i will do more
@BimmerWon3 жыл бұрын
I’m pretty sure I will be dead before 30 anyways. No point in trying. Wish you luck though.
@holysheem8633 жыл бұрын
@@BimmerWon dont say that aslong u are alive there is things dat make u happy
@LC-fq4cv3 жыл бұрын
@@BimmerWon No, you’re not. You’ll make it.
@rickyricardo97103 жыл бұрын
Point 14 is so true. In the years since I graduated college I've found myself getting so curious about things nd missing having an environment where I could learn about tons of interesting topics and regretting that I didn't take more advantage of it. Now I'm in a new college-esque situation where I'm expected to learn and I find myself making all of the same mistakes. Turns out it's hard to feel a desire to learn, even if that curiosity exists naturally in us, when you are forced to learn in a rigid and competitive environment.
@shainesalazar43533 жыл бұрын
this is so beautifully poetic on so many levels
@lucianabaistrocchi3 жыл бұрын
I am here, 19 years, half an hour before an important exam, maybe I'll come back with my grade :') this is a good video btw, very aesthetic
@lucianabaistrocchi3 жыл бұрын
My grade is 86!! Not only did I pass the exam but i don't have to do the final exam, because my grade was more than 70!!! i wish everyone good luck!
@stellary983 жыл бұрын
I'm going to turn 23 this October and I really needed this
@professorsnippety-snaps42703 жыл бұрын
live for yourself. not anyone else. u get one shot on this planet don’t spend it vicariously living through strangers and friends. u deserve to give ur vessel as many experiences as u can. experience everything.
@03bryony3 жыл бұрын
this video recommendation really came at the perfect time. growing up is hard and confusing, so I really appreciated these tips and reminders
@mutomboinprogress3 жыл бұрын
I don't even know what to say. I'll be turning 28 this year and I find your maturity aspirational. Plus, the thought that went into this video is 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽. Not only did it invoke introspection in us the audience, but the production quality is top! Well done, Katherin ❤
@averagegranolagirl3 жыл бұрын
This is such a beautiful video. I’m a fairly new subscriber, so I haven’t been around to watch you grow, but while I’ve thoroughly enjoyed your other videos, this resonated with me on another level. I teared up. It’s so truthful, profoundly important, and something I didn’t know I needed to hear. Against a backdrop of such amazing scenery and videography too. This is a work of art!
@anandraman89573 жыл бұрын
'If you treat it like a reward, you'll be kindly and promptly reminded how required it is'. Truer words had never been spoken
@nur-aima3 жыл бұрын
i’m 21. thank you because I didn’t think it would but i learned from this video 🥺 i can only hope to be as wise as you in 3ish time. i hope i make it to that age
@raularmas3173 жыл бұрын
My hope for you is that you take regular time-outs to be and to reflect/learn from past experiences, lean into/live in the present, and stay flexible about future plans bc no one really knows what your future holds.
@Tiana3263 жыл бұрын
I am 15 and this taught me so much. It was great hearing about such thrilling experiences and seeing things from someone else's point view. :)
@kiranclare36963 жыл бұрын
absolutely adored this, it feels like ive watched a friend grow up and blossom, navigating through life and sharing these nuggets of wisdom you've gained which have helped me so much
@tanieshapostsaboutthings3 жыл бұрын
I'm late to this video, but I'm so happy I found it. As someone who is turning 26 in....oh goodness only four months....wow.....I totally relate when I say that 25 is the time where I've finally felt like I'm coming into who I am truly meant to be - even if who that is is completely different than what I'd expected for myself growing up/until now. Thank you for being so transparent and sharing your journey with the public, with us. Its refreshing
@Aurorya3 жыл бұрын
B-but I already knew all of theses things several years ago, it won't cure my depression 😭. I'm turning 25 in some months and I've never felt so bad in my whole life, each year is worse than the previous one 🤕
@flamingaish3 жыл бұрын
This is like a comfort video I can always come back to. Thanks sm for making this!
@melissaleigh30133 жыл бұрын
the independence thing is so true. I am 25 I have been depressed my whole life until I found God (and proof of God) last year
@batwoman18473 жыл бұрын
I’m a convert myself, completely agree. I’m Catholic, what about you?
@SC-gw8np3 жыл бұрын
Same :)
@melissaleigh30133 жыл бұрын
@@batwoman1847 im not a denomination yet 😊 but i think i will look into catholicism soon 👀
@kara17083 жыл бұрын
How did you find proof of god?
@randomrandom53163 жыл бұрын
@@melissaleigh3013 wait can you tell us your proof of God?
@Irene-vz1ok3 жыл бұрын
I'm 15 and I thank you for this.... I've been watching vids like this since 11 and I love how I came from curious to Better Understanding and still Learning. BLESS your life.
@aarya77713 жыл бұрын
I am 21 and this is literally what I needed.
@oliwiasochacka13343 жыл бұрын
friend groups are not a 'myth'. yea people come and go or sometimes you wanna hang out with just one friend at a time but they could still be a part of a friend group. what I think is important is that you appreciate your current friends instead of wishing that you could have something that you see somewhere bc things arent always how they seem. tho great vid
@nurrrr9143 жыл бұрын
"yes we're all in a pandemic, but it's been a different pandemic for each of us."
@adriannak83583 жыл бұрын
Just got this video in recommended .. 3 days before my 25th birthday .. THATS SUSPICIOUS 🧐🤔
@deardawwwn3 жыл бұрын
thank you for your depth, honesty, and love. thank you for being you!
@xrosesc3 жыл бұрын
Im 20, I must have gotten a head start then
@simlebrity71773 жыл бұрын
I learned a lot from this! Esp the part abt not giving advice unless solicited. I did that a few days ago and I misunderstood the situation and what the person was going through. Lesson learned.
@SearraMascaro3 жыл бұрын
This is such a wonderfully expressive, brave video. Everything you said hits home for me and I'm sure it does for many, many other people. When you spoke about learning to empathize instead of "totally understanding", it made me emotional because I've recently become much more vocal about my queerness and have received quite a few ignorant comments. So many people are so quick to categorize me as "immoral" for being in a queer relationship/being gay - I find that I am sometimes exhausted from it. It's sad that so many people are so quick to project their biases & insecurities into a belief system. They prevent themselves from truly recognizing the diversity of human experience and behavior as well as their own incredible lack of understanding. It makes me angry but it also makes me want to shout from the rooftops and let my queerness shine all the more. As far as we know, our time is limited. Few people have the courage that you do and challenge their own perspective. You are authentically you, even if you're still climbing up that learning curve. I'm doing the same :)
@nylagaston14183 жыл бұрын
As a 22 year old I always feel mushy brain but this gave me hope that, that is the best way to be in becoming truer to my core self.
@Agpals3 жыл бұрын
The projection part is HUGE! People will say things that don't quite seem legit, but it's really them saying to you what they want and has nothing to do with you or your situation.
@asmaabenkirane35993 жыл бұрын
I'm almost 24, and I've been struggling so bad to make friends since I moved to another country. People in your twenties, do you have any tips to make new friends despite the differences of culture and languages?
@MultitudeOfChaos3 жыл бұрын
I am no expert but i feel like the best way to make friends is to just take a chance. Try going to places that you know for certain young people go to often(if you are in an european country I’d suggest pubs, bars, libraries ect), try initiating a convo with something simple with and see if they are interested as well in getting to know you, also asking for help(indications on a specific location for example that’s not too far away) and then start making conversation and joking around, you’ll see it’s a lot easier. Another good place to make friends is a park, i live in Italy and becore covid there used to be a lot of festivals for students and young people at the park, so you go there get yourself a drink and just talk to random people. I want to warn you against going alone to places that you don’t know very well at night so if you have at least one person you can trust bring them with you. I hope this helps
@asmaabenkirane35993 жыл бұрын
@@MultitudeOfChaos thanks for the advice! I live in Spain, so it's a lot similar to Italy. Well, I don't drink alcohol so I don't think I can approach someone at a bar or a pub, but yeah you're right, sometimes a simple conversation may lead to something better. Covid didn't make it easy either because of the lockdown and the many restrictions, but now that it's kinda getting better, I hope I'll have some luck and make new friends! Thank you again!!
@vibecheck26503 жыл бұрын
thank you for sharing this
@eacolone3 жыл бұрын
This was incredibly made, you have grown so much in the last year! Keep doing what you’re doing!
@Katherout3 жыл бұрын
thank you 🥺
@saintn21033 жыл бұрын
watching this at 21 and tbh its cleared some of my doubts and really challenged my own misconceptions about life and self-worth. thank you for this
@free-palestine0003 жыл бұрын
i admire u so so so much.
@kathyalex7783 жыл бұрын
FANTASTIC video! Currently 18 years old and loving this advice, narration, music, cinematography, everything. Seriously, well done. ❤️🏔
@haleystorm313 жыл бұрын
me watching this at 28 knowing full well i'm about to learn something 🤡
@Katherout3 жыл бұрын
the wrinkly brain line i included was all u so clearly this is a symbiotic learning RELATIONSHIP!
@ye23.3 жыл бұрын
Me at 29 🙄
@Hulumano3 жыл бұрын
lol same
@AceMonkeyIlium3 жыл бұрын
I’m not tryna be rude or anything but I feel a lot better hearing things from someone who’s 6 years older than me than someone who’s near my age. It gives me courage and motivation to do something before I reach the same age. Thank you
@ladylay62323 жыл бұрын
I'm almost 25 still at university and i feel like i'm such a failure thanks for this video ❤️🤎
@chim_chimchimmy15563 жыл бұрын
No, please don't. Don't measure your self worth from other's standards. Comparing ourself with other brings nothing good to the table, just try to be better than you from the past. xoxo.
@jackiemartin7276 Жыл бұрын
I resonate a lot with the idea of the "student identity". At almost 27 I find myself, for the first time in a long long time, loving non-fiction books! I had to be 5 years out of college before I remembered that I loved to learn for the sake of learning. Thank you for sharing this!
@nataliadenisiuc28193 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely amazing, Kat! So much growth in you, and it's beautiful to see. Do you ever look on all this progress and wonder how much of your beliefs/gained knowledge will still hold true in 5/10 years? Curious on what your opinion is about that.
@vanshikaimani64653 жыл бұрын
Hi. I'm 24 and I watched your video at one of my lowest nights. This video felt like a warm hug and just a few hours ago I thought my world has collapsed. It popped in my feed randomly I guess? Or maybe the universe guided me here. Whatever it is, thank you for this video. ❤️
@lolo4713 жыл бұрын
Through the reflection of your thoughts I felt understood. It’s a foreign feeling.
@hithemelon3 жыл бұрын
I'm 23, but i agreed so much that being a yes-man is just burning yourself out so hard. This is truly inspiring, you've earned yourself a subscriber, thanks for the video, truly appreciate it