3 Counterintuitive Behaviors That Attract Women

[@MarvOverMatter]

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[@ModernDatingMastery]

*When a handsome man maintains his independence and prioritizes his own goals, it signals self-respect and value.*

[@Lev782]

1:40 Prime example of how women be when you’re locked in and not focusing on them

[@MarvOverMatter]

😂😂😂

[@nelyybeats2517]

Im dealing with the 3rd one with this girl in my class and youre right this only works if shes already or somewhat attracted to you

[@MarvOverMatter]

Yeah for sure cause the idea is you’re not giving her the option to have what she wants so she goes harder for it.

[@SimonB.]

1:40 Poor cat just needed a little attention 😢

[@MarvOverMatter]

Nah I’m locked in 😂

[@zandig666]

I used to call it buddy them when u buddy them and they look pissed she's yours !!!

[@MarvOverMatter]

Yep you know the game 💯

[@shawnwilliams2381]

The first behavior is definitely, true! Great topic bro. 💯💪

[@MarvOverMatter]

I appreciate that brotha 🙏🏾

[@DropAGemOnEm1]

Not going to lie I be feeling like an asshole when I ignore them after the fact but lowkey that’s just how I am and it makes sense why they never stop coming my way, some don’t bother overtime.

[@MarvOverMatter]

Yeah you’re following your instincts. Most guys are trying to be polite and that’s why girls don’t like them. Nature has its order lol

[@officialsynthwaverecords8284]

Question. How would you be able to play the game perfectly? I feel like once you miss one rule you kind of screw everything up

[@MarvOverMatter]

Nah you can always recover. You just need time to reset. If it’s a one off interaction then yeah you kinda gotta get it right. But if you see the girl consistently time will heal all wounds. And it just takes practice. You start to see they all have the same game. It’s just a game of leverage and who’s going to break first.

[@thecurrentmoment]

That's why the key is to be a leader and do what you want to do/think is right. Women are attracted to a man who they can't control (because they want to feel safe and secure in your leadership) so staying focused on what you think you need to do and ignoring most of their tests, games, insecurities, etc is the way to go. Trying to get everything right so that she is 'attracted' seems to be a losing strategy in my experience. You really just have to do what you want to do and wait for her to follow your lead. If her response and feelings are the thing that dictate your actions then she is actually leading. A bit like a daddy's little girl where he is doing whatever she wants - it's her world and he is following her. Whereas what she respects and is attracted to is you calling the shots. So here's an example - let's say you really enjoy watching football and this woman you want to get with finds out and now she is not attracted to you anymore. You want to smash AND enjoy watching football. In order to 'attract' her you need to stop enjoying your sport. If you keep enjoying your sport, you lose her. What is the 'correct' thing to do? If you give up what you enjoy to get her, she will actually lose respect for you anyway and lose attraction. So the correct option is to do what you enjoy and ignore her complaints and if she continues to dislike it, you ignore her (and reject her). Same goes for a more realistic example, like should you approach her or not. Do YOU want to approach her? There's a woman I met on the beach and we didn't have phones so I didn't get her number, but she said she is down there all the time until New Year. It felt like she was politely rejecting me but she was really into me and a bit nervous around me, so I was confused. Reflecting on it, I think she wanted me to get closer to her and even kiss her, but I had only been talking to her for 5 minutes. Should I have got closer and kissed her? Well, I wasn't really ready for that and I would've rather got her number and met her properly another time, that's how I'd do it. So I could have 'done what she wanted and found attractive' but instead I did what I wanted to do, and she didn't follow. Did I do the wrong thing? Things have to be win:win i.e. you feel like doing it, and she wants to do it with you. The real problem is focusing on what she wants, not what you want, and needing her to be attracted instead of tuning into yourself and your intuition and thinking what's right for you. I've noticed this feeling in me, and it feels similar to learning about pickup and thinking about what I can do to get the result I want, and that I should be able to get any woman with the right moves, instead of noticing what is naturally happening. The more natural approach is to do what you want to do and just notice who is and isn't attracted to you, and make a move on the ones that are. Your pool of options gets way smaller, but there is way less confusion and issues. So don't worry about messing up a rule or playing the game perfectly. Just notice what you really feel and want and think is right, and do that. Of course, reflect on your experience and learn from it but the only thing you can really do is learn to make good decisions with integrity. Things happen too fast in the moment to think about 'what is the right thing to attract her'. You have to just train your decision-making to align with yourself. I suppose the other part of this is to make her earn it. You do a little bit and wait for her to reciprocate before you do more. You don't do too much or keep doing stuff without her doing her part. You have to allow her to come to you in some way. (I'm listening to the part about talking to her friends and it made me think of this)

[@ryutohashirama9975]

​@@thecurrentmomentThis is true wisdom right here; imma.take ya advice. What experiences shaped your perspective on this?

[@thecurrentmoment]

@@ryutohashirama9975 just interacting with different women and noticing what works. I've been learning about this stuff for 20+ years, since I was at university and I realized women were actually interested in me and I didn't know what to do. I had read that women want men to take the lead (previously I thought we would 'work together' in an interaction but realized they don't want that, they want to follow my lead). I would notice that the woman I was on a date with would be not assertive and essentially waiting to be told what to do, so I had to learn leadership. And at some point I realized that a woman who is feeling me actually wants to do ANYTHING I decide to do. Basically, if she's attracted, her answer is 'yes'. Do you want to go for a walk? Yes. Do you want to feed the sharks? Sure. 😂 In other words they don't have any preference but to be lead by you. I used to think that I would entertain a woman by doing 'whatever she wanted to do' but that just didn't work. They're MUCH happier following the lead and supporting the man they desire. I noticed that the more aroused a woman is, the more RECEPTIVE she is. To the point where she will essentially freeze up and she basically wants you to just take her. Whereas a man will be more assertive when he is turned on. It actually compliments perfectly. But I used to be confused when a woman would just sit/stand there, look at me, and not do or say anything. I was like "🤔???". Then I realized she was waiting for me to make a move. I remember a woman who worked at a shop and I noticed her because when she started working there she stared at me intensely, like she wanted to have me. After a long time of observing her and subtly interacting with her (she'd never really have a conversation) she helped bring some products I bought out to my car and she stood there in front of me, quite close, and looked at me, waiting for something. I was a little nervous because she was fine and I could tell she wanted to be mine, and I felt like she was waiting for me to kiss her but I wasn't comfortable doing that in the carpark of her work lol. But I probably could've asked for her name and number. She never talked to me or wanted to know anything about me, so I wasn't really at that stage yet (I like to build a connection first). I just said thanks lol, I was put on the spot and didn't make a move, but I really think I could've just kissed her. To this day (almost 4 years later) I can tell she still wants me, and I haven't succeeded in getting her number yet (being busy, she's at work, trying to be discrete, etc) but she has been a bit more assertive and comfortable recently, and she shot her shot at me a bit in the supermarket this week by starting a conversation in line, so that has been my signal for me to make sure I get her number. I feel like now is the time, as she made her intentions clear (in my mind). Before, she was kind of avoiding me or something (maybe she had a man at that point and is now single, who knows). So should I have made more of an effort to ask her out before? Well, I did make an effort and it wasn't really reciprocated in my mind. Maybe I 'should have' but I did what I felt was the right thing to do, and also at times I've been talking to other women or just busy getting something there. I believe if you like each other it's supposed to be a team effort and if she likes you she needs to (and will) do her part. It's not ONLY the responsibility of the man to make things happen. The important thing is reciprocation and mutual effort and teamwork. If you notice her making herself available, then you should make a move, even if it's just giving her attention and even if it's not on the spot but another time. You just want to let her know that you see her and you know what she is doing and you appreciate it. Sometimes it takes me a while to interpret a woman's behavioural as showing interest so I don't respond right away but I'll show some interest when I see her next. Then she knows that we are working together. But the biggest thing I've learnt is that women are receptive and not assertive and they don't think like me, but it's actually a perfect compliment for the way I think, and the important thing for me is to understand what my intuition is telling me to do. Another thing I've learnt is that escalation RELEASES tension. This was counterintuitive to me. So for example, Marv talks about when your conversation turns to awkward silence, that's the time to go for the kiss. I use to think (and still do, really) that sticking to the level I'm at would be more comfortable, but actually moving to the next level makes things LESS awkward. Basically, the awkwardness and tension comes from both of you wanting to be closer than you are, so because the distance is causing the tension, the way to resolve the tension is to close the distance. I've also learnt that women can want to fck me just from seeing me the first time. I always thought we had to get to know each other first lol. I still haven't kissed or fkced a woman just from eye contact but there have been times when I thought I could. To be honest, I am not really comfortable with that, and when I have been a bit slower to warm up than a woman I think that works in my favour. Having the woman be a bit more interested than you are definitely gives you an advantage and makes her more comfortable and interested (because she doesn't have to slow you down to figure out if she's interested or not). Those are just some things I've learnt but it's hard to really say "this experience made me learn this thing" Actually, one experience I had was when I drove to pick up a Chinese woman from another city and brought her back to my place, and I could tell she was nervous on the drive back (so I held her hand while driving). When we got to my place we sat on the floor and I wrapped my arms around her, I think might have given her a back rub or just held her). I tried to have a conversation but she wasn't really in the mood for that. She wasn't really saying or doing anything. So I asked her "do you just want to have sex?" and she nodded her head. So we just went and did that. Haha, it was pretty funny. She had just decided she was going to have sex with me (I mean she had got ready to come back to my place so she was planning on it) and she knew what she wanted, I guess. I didn't have to 'get her in the mood' or anything. But I was actually a little disappointed that she didn't want to know anything about me, to be honest. Because I wasn't just looking to get sex with a bunch of women, I was actually hoping to find a wife out of the women I met (while enjoying the experience of meeting women even if it didn't go anywhere). She literally just wants to have sx. So if a woman is attracted to you, you really don't have to do anything and it's hard to fk it up. The only way you can fk it up is to follow HER lead and be weak. If she wants you you just have to do whatever you feel like and she'll go along with it. Even if you don't want to fk her and just want to talk - she'll be disappointed but she won't lose attraction, I don't think. Only if you're weak and insecure. If she wants you, she's yours, you just need to have a bit of a plan.

[@thecurrentmoment]

@@ryutohashirama9975 just interacting with different women and noticing what works. I've been learning about this stuff for 20+ years, since I was at university and I realized women were actually interested in me and I didn't know what to do. I had read that women want men to take the lead (previously I thought we would 'work together' in an interaction but realized they don't want that, they want to follow my lead). I would notice that the woman I was on a date with would be not assertive and essentially waiting to be told what to do, so I had to learn leadership. And at some point I realized that a woman who is feeling me actually wants to do ANYTHING I decide to do. Basically, if she's attracted, her answer is 'yes'. Do you want to go for a walk? Yes. Do you want to feed the sharks? Sure. 😂 In other words they don't have any preference but to be lead by you. I used to think that I would entertain a woman by doing 'whatever she wanted to do' but that just didn't work. They're MUCH happier following the lead and supporting the man they desire. I noticed that the more aroused a woman is, the more RECEPTIVE she is. To the point where she will essentially freeze up and she basically wants you to just take her. Whereas a man will be more assertive when he is turned on. It actually compliments perfectly. But I used to be confused when a woman would just sit/stand there, look at me, and not do or say anything. I was like "🤔???". Then I realized she was waiting for me to make a move. I remember a woman who worked at a shop and I noticed her because when she started working there she stared at me intensely, like she wanted to have me. After a long time of observing her and subtly interacting with her (she'd never really have a conversation) she helped bring some products I bought out to my car and she stood there in front of me, quite close, and looked at me, waiting for something. I was a little nervous because she was fine and I could tell she wanted to be mine, and I felt like she was waiting for me to kiss her but I wasn't comfortable doing that in the carpark of her work lol. But I probably could've asked for her name and number. She never talked to me or wanted to know anything about me, so I wasn't really at that stage yet (I like to build a connection first). I just said thanks lol, I was put on the spot and didn't make a move, but I really think I could've just kissed her. To this day (almost 4 years later) I can tell she still wants me, and I haven't succeeded in getting her number yet (being busy, she's at work, trying to be discrete, etc) but she has been a bit more assertive and comfortable recently, and she shot her shot at me a bit in the supermarket this week by starting a conversation in line, so that has been my signal for me to make sure I get her number. I feel like now is the time, as she made her intentions clear (in my mind). Before, she was kind of avoiding me or something (maybe she had a man at that point and is now single, who knows). So should I have made more of an effort to ask her out before? Well, I did make an effort and it wasn't really reciprocated in my mind. Maybe I 'should have' but I did what I felt was the right thing to do, and also at times I've been talking to other women or just busy getting something there. I believe if you like each other it's supposed to be a team effort and if she likes you she needs to (and will) do her part. It's not ONLY the responsibility of the man to make things happen. The important thing is reciprocation and mutual effort and teamwork. If you notice her making herself available, then you should make a move, even if it's just giving her attention and even if it's not on the spot but another time. You just want to let her know that you see her and you know what she is doing and you appreciate it. Sometimes it takes me a while to interpret a woman's behavioural as showing interest so I don't respond right away but I'll show some interest when I see her next. Then she knows that we are working together. But the biggest thing I've learnt is that women are receptive and not assertive and they don't think like me, but it's actually a perfect compliment for the way I think, and the important thing for me is to understand what my intuition is telling me to do. Another thing I've learnt is that escalation RELEASES tension. This was counterintuitive to me. So for example, Marv talks about when your conversation turns to awkward silence, that's the time to go for the kiss. I use to think (and still do, really) that sticking to the level I'm at would be more comfortable, but actually moving to the next level makes things LESS awkward. Basically, the awkwardness and tension comes from both of you wanting to be closer than you are, so because the distance is causing the tension, the way to resolve the tension is to close the distance. I've also learnt that women can want to fck me just from seeing me the first time. I always thought we had to get to know each other first lol. I still haven't kissed or fkced a woman just from eye contact but there have been times when I thought I could. To be honest, I am not really comfortable with that, and when I have been a bit slower to warm up than a woman I think that works in my favour. Having the woman be a bit more interested than you are definitely gives you an advantage and makes her more comfortable and interested (because she doesn't have to slow you down to figure out if she's interested or not). Those are just some things I've learnt but it's hard to really say "this experience made me learn this thing" Actually, one experience I had was when I drove to pick up a Chinese woman from another city and brought her back to my place, and I could tell she was nervous on the drive back (so I held her hand while driving). When we got to my place we sat on the floor and I wrapped my arms around her, I think I might have given her a back rub or just held her). I tried to have a conversation but she wasn't really in the mood. I ended up asking her "do you just want to have sex?" and she nodded, so that's what we did 😂. I was a little disappointed that she didn't want to know me, actually, because I was ultimately looking for a wife (but enjoying the interactions that didn't get there). But I learnt that when a woman is attracted to me, I don't really have to do anything and it's actually hard to ruin it, unless I am weak or insecure. I just need to please myself and she'll still be there.

[@Rudmyster]

The friend zone one works the best because they don’t even expect to like you it just happens automatic and because she knows you as a friend and you have sheared so much of your life stories she feels connected and yea they will usually mention having sex with us first in fact we made them a friend so we should never ask for it. She will eventually. The ignoring them works also but it must be real a women can tell if you are just doing it to play that game. The best way to pull this off is if you have other women that you like and are targeting like 3-4 at a time this will keep you occupied. So you really don’t care and when you ignore her it’s real then it works.- the talking to her friend is the gold card because if the friend is talking to you and laughing with you she just social proofed you, like you I had the happen and when the friend went to the bathroom her friend jumped at the chance to get in my face, but I played this one different than you did the friend Was the one I wanted even though it started with the other women so I was polite but waited in the friend to come back to turn up the charm. What do you Know about Twin Flame Relationship ? This gets deep and is hell on a handsome man it’s actually the beginning of our end to having many women.

[@MarvOverMatter]

Perfectly stated. Especially the part about having multiple women you are interested in so you can actually ignore them like you said. And no I don’t know too much about that. Who’s a good source to learn from?

[@Rudmyster]

@ On the Twin Flame subject I’m new to it myself so I’m just soaking up info from a lot of sources on line. I do think there is some truth to it. But if there is one person I’d say start with Delors’s cannon - it really isn’t for most people only for those who actually have run into their twin and this don’t happen that often but as a handsome man running into one’s twin it’s going to be crazy x 10- I do have a good subject for you to cover. I find as a handsome man when I’m cool with women they often fall in love with me and the line I now have to walk is like a tight rope I don’t want to lead them on so that they think we are getting into a relationship I say this because some women play us for the long game she never fully comes out with it but I can feel her getting emotionally attached: example I just hung up the phone with a women we can talk for hours she will say wow I’m so comfortable talking with you, when are you coming back to my city I’d like to see you, she really likes me she is a 8 and a great person I took her out a few times but the spark just isn’t there, I know if I hit it she will want more and she will be hurt. It’s getting to the point I almost don’t want to Date, there was a time in my life when I really didn’t care who got hurt as long as I got what I wanted. I’ve grown into a much better man so I find that they want all or nothing from us, kind of goes with what you said about what happens when you friend zone them.

[@luckieramos9001]

Ngl, when I see your title I was like da homie running out of topics…? He hit that redundant stage Decided to listen…. The material is still fresh And if a man has never experienced what you are talking about in this video lol, he ain’t outside It boils down to a game of Who will friendzone who first Women do it to test men It’s a playful thing ( unless dude has done something despicable and feminine 🤣) But all this stuff works 100 percent But like always A guy can watch your video And say, oh ok, I’m gonna do that If it ain’t coming off as genuine The more clever girls will see through your act and hit you with ignore… and you have to know how to play through that Basically, become the mechanic and not the guy that changes car parts Few understand this😏😎💎💯

[@MarvOverMatter]

Ha! Well I appreciate you watching regardless of your initial criticism 🙏🏾… I do my best not to be repetitive. And yeah everything is better if it’s genuine of course. But you gotta fake it until you make it sometimes. You’ll get some success simply from the behavior even if it is with the not so clever women and with that success you will build confidence and with that confidence you’ll actually be less pressed about women and be able to genuinely display all of these behaviors.

[@YHWHszn]

💯💯🤞🏾

[@genovasquez8361]

I have done all these things. But it wasn't on purpose. I genuinely had lazer focus on one type of female. I just wanted super dark skin girls. So i always had pretty yellow bones chasing me because they weren't on my radar. I guess they figure like he doesnt see us.. an got turned on by it.. I wasnt acting. I really didnt care because what i wanted was an alex wek or bria myles. I was only checking for Lupita.. not any other chicks..so all races of women would beg for my attention.

[@MarvOverMatter]

Word this is how I discovered it I always got girls I didn’t want so I just found out how to harness that to get the girls I do want.

[@genovasquez8361]

@MarvOverMatter I always got the girls all the other men want..doing that naturally and also my natural aesthetic was more attractive to pretty girls. To me the pretty girls look like my family. So I would typically try to date women who had more African features and darker skin . But the girls who chased me the most were the girls who looked like my nieces when they was young and my female cousins . Part of it I believe is aesthetic too because when I changed my look I attracted different girls the same way. Like my ex wife. She is 8/10. But she is dark skin with dreadlocs. I changed to a rougher aesthetic. She said when she years later she prefers roughnecks.. Before meeting her in my early 20s I always attracted 9s and dimes only always light skin or yellow bones with a few brown skins like Megan Goode. But never a woman darker than that would approach me. The few dark skin girls I was able to have a situation with..I had to cold approach.. an they were usually difficult or harder to deal with. But if they had a homegirl or family member who was really pretty and light skin that girl would be all over me like a moth to a flame.. Like I was there soul mate or something it was weird. I remember this dark skin girl I got. Her pretty friends was all over me Infront of her. This happens time and time again..I literally had one dark girl say to me, I'm not gonna talk you because my friend want you more than I do. But that's when I had head full of good hair weighing 150lbs with a six pack and dressing daper and not thuggish. .

[@MarvOverMatter]

Yeah that makes a lot of sense imma talk about that in an upcoming video. Cause you can be handsome but aesthetic matters even more sometimes.

[@kushkidish]

You have to be an attractive guy to do this 😂 dont be doing this when you are average…

[@MarvOverMatter]

Facts 😂