3 Reasons for the Sadness & Hopelessness of Today’s Youth

[@Vanillababe7]

As a young women Im grateful that I have found your channel. You helped me to start my grieving process. Its very hard without allys tho. I often feel very lonely. Just very very lonely. This is what makes me so hopeless sometimes. And it indeed connects to my lonely futile childhood experince. I wished making true friends would be easier

[@noneofyerbeeswax8194]

In theory, the internet and the social media should've made finding like-minded people and making true friends easier. In reality, it doesn't seem to work this way.

[@barabara7041]

You're brave!!!

[@MisterFanwank]

The nature of allyship is that you are associating, but are not friends. This means you hold everyone at a distance by treating people who could be friends less well than people who won't ever be friends. I found I needed a core of real friends before looking for allies.

[@the_truth-by2vq]

I’m 25 and a woman, I started the grieving journey 2 years ago without a support system. If I could say something to my old self that would be to start the grieving process asap, even without support system. I feel much better now, keep going it is worth it. Even now I don’t have friends or close people near me but I’m in a better position in terms of my mental health. Also learn to set boundaries as it is necessary for healing as well, there’s a lot of bad people

[@vadimchevvie]

People are lost in their worlds. Why very few are interested to make an effort in making a genuine connection - I too have no idea.

[@MrBones105]

I’m 30 (so, young to the old and old to the young), and a therapist myself. I hear over and over from young people about a sense of hopelessness and I think this is a fairly accurate assessment. And it’s tough because even myself, I feel the same things. Despite career “advancement”, I am somehow worse off financially than I was in my early 20s, yet have so much more responsibility (and, student debt). One thing I’d like to highlight as well is that I see immense isolation among younger folks, and I myself feel similarly. I have fewer friends, and no serious romantic prospects. I’m simply not outstanding enough to compete in the world of online dating and Instagram. I have no “tribe” with whom to find belonging, and no one to lean on when things get tough except myself. It’s a rough world out there right now.

[@dmackler58]

Sending you good vibes!! Wishing you the best. Daniel

[@banderalanazi9167]

You deeply touched me I'm 30 now and have been away from home country for 3 and a half years seeking asylum , fortunately i got approved to be a permanent resident of canada now , But still facing the things you mentioned and i'm always reminding myself that i should be proud of my sacrifice for the sake of being my trueself i left everything in the middle east (my home) behind and i learnt english by myself , I started from the scratch , Now i'm good and alive with my new free BANDER (my name) , And evntually it's worth it despite of the challenges we face , Sending you and daniel love and blessings 🌷

[@PJCelis]

I am 37 and run a 58 person software startup and on paper am worth tens of millions. Yet I feel the exact same way. The basic things in life feel impossible to find; a nice house in a vibrant neighbourhood, a wife that wants to be a mother first and foremost, a culture that is not actively hostile, and a government that is not ever more broke. It just doesn't exist anymore. My brain is well suited for success in this materialist capitalist world but there's more to life than just that.

[@eudaemonia3134]

I am 26 and I have the exact same experience. I talked about it with my friend about these issues just a couple of hours ago.

[@zakatista1330]

@@PJCelis maybe be grateful or do something else. Seriously...

[@ozymandiasramesses1773]

21 yr old man here. Been healing from a lot of trauma brought on by loading a lot of "grief" (as you describe it) for myself and others onto myself. Ive been trying to find myself time for its own sake. Been taking walks to the park to see the sun.

[@liamnewsom8583]

I'm with ya man.

[@brahim2462]

Stay strong ❤

[@chrisshannon1125]

you're ahead of the curve. Keep fighting the good fight

[@andrearovenski]

27 year old here and you nailed it. we got screwed by everybody and have nothing to show for it but sorrow

[@alexxxO_O]

REJOICE!!! THIS MORNING IS A GOOD MORNING FOR DANIEL HAS UPLOADED!!!

[@alexlupi3108]

Good to see a new video Daniel, thank you.)!

[@ethanlawes474]

I'm 18, I'll be 19 in 2 months and i only recently discovered your videos, I've always been someone with a fairly isolated/unstructured life which is why I've always dabbled in self reflection and why I've always loved and practiced art, I think most people my age where I live are awful and I often feel alone and not entirely fulfilled, but now more than ever thanks to you Daniel I've been uncovering deep emotional trauma in myself, I've seen my physical health massively improve and my connection with myself strengthen as I begin my journey of healing and self improvement, I have hope for the future because there are people like you and others who are like minded in this comment section, I must be better and I must keep going.

[@lolitavine9616]

Hi, Ethan! I hope you find your way. 19 years is just the beginning of an amazing journey called life. Never give up and remember that you are not alone 🙏

[@ethanlawes474]

@@lolitavine9616 Thank you very much, that means a lot :)

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

you're starting early which is crucial.

[@NE0Nwhip]

I’m curious what level of physical health you’re referring to that changed?

[@ethanlawes474]

@@NE0Nwhip well I've been exercising lots and running again as well as quitting smoking cigarettes after about 4 years so my breathing has massively improved and I feel a lot stronger, another one that might seem small to some but has really helped my self esteem is my acne clearing up

[@Hhbdr]

Not just young people. It's in me too. I'm 53, retired, married to my one and only, healthy.. Terrified the way this country is going.

[@carolineprenoveau7655]

I tend to agree. When you're in survival mode, there's no time to look at trauma so it gets passed on. Though I also think that having a tribe or a village is a mitigating factor. If you're stuck only with your parents like it is the case in the modern world, and they happen to suck, there's nothing you can do. But in a village, with extended family and friends, where people have to work together to survive, you can find someone who will actually take interest in you and nurture you properly. It can be an aunt, a neighbor, a cousin, so long as someone sees you and cares about you, the trauma is lessened. The loss of the tribe or village, although it's not perfect and can hold biases and dogma and all sorts of collective trauma, is an issue, I think. People are more traumatized and more isolated, so healing is even harder now.

[@jabibgalt5551]

Never thought of it that way. Family is the fundamental social nucleus, but linked closely with other families. I'm confident to say most people, in most places, don't know most of their neighbors. We see each other every once in a while, from the distance, and that's it. There's still family, but there's no community (in most places, in my opinion). Thanks for sharing.

[@HUGEHARDTHICKANDVEINY]

For a very long time I've believed that the kind of environment you describe is what people are adapted to thrive in. One interesting rabbit hole to go down is studying people like Amazon rainforest tribes. Despite living in conditions we would describe as extreme poverty, one study found only one possible case of depression out of about 4,000 people. The trick is figuring out how to combine that with how the modern world is. A lot of the legal infrastructure in place makes it almost impossible to do that because it's invasive by nature. Culture war bs discourages people from building their own culture in favor of bullying them into assimilating into some narcissistic monopoly which serves to make a select few incredibly wealthy. Hard to develop those kinds of bonds when things are set up deliberately so you don't need to rely on people who aren't part of the government. Seems kind of like I'm arguing for codependency, but on the contrary I think it makes more sense to have a bunch of smaller groups competing with each other rather than one huge group monopolizing everything and trying to plan the culture rather than letting people behave naturally. Those huge groups are a massive source of narcissistic abuse which is going unchecked because they are so powerful. What I do is try to get involved with other people. Work with them and pool resources to create something good and meaningful rather than just working for money. It's a sort of cooperation people don't really do these days. In my mind, it makes more sense to have careers based around building your own community/culture rather than some kind of bland corporate thing where you just want to go home and forget about it. We're not well-adapted to being wage slaves, but if this goes on for generations I think that could change on a genetic level. Like domesticating animals to do work for you. Once that happens it's going to be WAY harder to reverse direction.

[@ozymandiasramesses1773]

So much of how we've created even the infrastructure that we live in on a daily basis reflects that hypocrisy. The American dream realized through suburbia is an atomized and impossible. "Don't be a good neighbor to her or I'll send you a love letter straight from my heart fucker!" -Denis Hooper, Blue Velvet

[@donaldduck3888]

My extended family is horrible and the reason why my parents were so traumatized. They managed to only partially break out but I am thankful to that. Also, this idealised vision of rural life really bloody nauseates me. You want to know how the village handles abuse? They silence it. That's bloody it. Don't speak about it to outsiders, you make us look bad. And eventually the victim that doesn't want to silently accept it's postion is seen as the real troublemaker and nuisance factor, and gets shunned as such. Edit: Like, how come you all pretend that villages are a thing of the distant past and don't exist today anymore? I'm so bloody glad I don't have to live in one anymore and will choose city-isolation over the judgemental village atmosphere anytime.

[@moonrosebaby]

Omg! I have always thought this exact same thing too myself. That's a great way to put it and I agree 100%

[@MsMastress]

This is such a beautiful video, Daniel. I just turned 21 and your description of what our generation is going through is spot-fucking on. I'm dealing with my troubled history, my abusive parents aren't joining me for the ride, the future is highly uncertain and grim, and trying to survive in today's economic system is absolute hell. But in spite of all the sadness facing these realities entails, I feel like I'm moving in the right direction. I feel like my own person for once, instead of the identity and gender roles that society thrust onto me all those years ago. Thank you for doing what you do, I love your work and it's made me feel much less alone in this struggle towards health and fulfillment :) 🖤

[@svetavinogradova4243]

What abusive was in actions of your parents?

[@J3D30]

Im 19 and its like you completely understood what i’ve been thinking about. Its very difficult to see hope when trust in institutions doesnt exist and greed trumps future in environmental issues. With those and tending generational trauma, its hard to find people willing to talk about these things because apathy is a very common way to cope with a bleak future.

[@brahim2462]

Sending you love. Stay strong.

[@iLilith11]

I'm constantly *sad* 😪 I don't have friends, family, someone I can count on... all the struggles life throws at me... I have to deal Alone! I'm tired 😫 woman living alone (due to s ex ual trauma) I barely date and have *any* hope for a better feature. I Don't live, I just exist... I'm just trying to stay alive and cope. I'm sober and it's shocking I've never even been on drugs or alcohol.

[@kujjitafari8509]

ILilith11 please look into family constellation work, it has been the best tool To work out trauma and find self love. It all goes back to the relationship with our parents because they determine our level of self love.

[@iLilith11]

@@kujjitafari8509 thank you for writing. I just saw your comment. My mom died when I was just 16... father was always absent and neglectful. This turned me into a ppl pleaser instead of "avoidant" Like many would expect... I tried so hard to find love and connection, friendship, relationship... none of it was a safe place for me... so a few years ago, I quit everything. I live alone and I'm isolated. It's boring and pointless but at least safe... it just sucks.. that this feeling is painful 💔 I try so hard to find joy and some kind of purpose... I'm lost most time... I just exist. I'll try... thank you once again for writing. Be well ✨

[@leeannsummerfield3989]

This is right on! My parents never understood that their advice - which worked for them - was not useful to us. Everything has changed in so many ways and the previous generations just don’t understand. And all the bad parenting is finally being addressed, because of the internet! I just hope we can heal in time to save the planet :)

[@sophiarahmaputri]

Daniel. I agree with your third point, I think that me and my peers are getting more aware of our own trauma and well-- sometimes it can get very depressing. But, I also agree with your solution to "just go for it"! It might seems counterproductive, because sure, trauma makes you feel hopeless and sad. But eventually, by facing it and actually learn from it, we can achieve post-traumatic growth. I am fortunate enough I had the resource and support to help me thrive through my traumas. And although I don't ever want to repeat the experience, my traumas has shaped me into the person I am today, hopefully for the better. And I'm not even done yet with my own issues. So for all the people who are still facing their own, I pray that you will get through this and comes back a better person. Trust me, it will be hard, but we can do it.

[@ainslie187]

“Today only the person who no longer believes in a happy ending, only he who has consciously renounced it, is able to live. A happy century does not exist; but there are moments of happiness, and there is freedom in the moment.” -Ernst Jünger

[@DING1o1]

I’m 21 and I began my self reflection journey around 16. It just gets more confusing and hard as I get older but also more beautiful. Your channel and a few others are my lifeline- because like you said there’s many many people who are in denial about this stuff. I feel incredibly lonely a lot of the time. Thank you, this video was very validating!

[@trinleywangmo]

When you find a connection and empathy for your own suffering you connect easier with others. We see these things in each other. Good luck on your journey of self-reflection.

[@Nellhollbrook]

This channel is growing like mad; you're helping alot of people. Including me. Thank you:)

[@cindylu607]

I am a teacher, and at a conference they said there was a study done that showed 1 in 3 kids at the high school level have experienced suicidal ideation. It is heartbreaking.

[@nikitaw1982]

Family court gives custody to the loonie mother along with all the assets. Married women have no reason to bully the crap out of the husband and the kids because what are they going to do about it. If he doesn't like it he loses his kids. Clean up family court and watch that number reduce significantly. Wont cause too much corruption in government.

[@sunnykobe3210]

Idk how the study you mentioned was done but many today are done online where people tend to be more honest esp when taking surveys. The number could’ve been similar in the 00s or 90s. Either way, I agree, it’s heartbreaking.

[@deku3i]

I’m 18 and I’ve always felt this deep feeling of hopelessness, my parents were severely traumatized thus they passed it to me and now I’m traumatized. I find it weird how my parents went through way more difficult things in life than me yet I seem to crack at the slightest pressure. My parents were immigrants who crossed the boarder at a young age, they grew up poor, are still poor, had kids, worked 24/7, they’ve achieved more than I ever will. At the same time, my parents aren’t mentally stable, I can tell they struggle with the past and mental illness. I wish I could push it down.

[@pennyparkin]

how can you express your feelings about your family and what they endured? It can help you to find avenues to express your feelings....writing/journaling/music/art....ways of tapping into your intuition and imagination.

[@allthe1]

Well, you keep watching Daniel and you'll get your anwers. From what I understand, you being less traumatised than them makes you able to be less dissociated from your pain. People who "get through" it only really push their natural reactions down. It makes them achieve things and shrug off extreme situations, but their repressed emotions come bite them in the future. Like you said, they succeeded but had to sacrifice their true self, this is what health issues are in many many cases, mental and physical. Keep looking around you and you will see what I'm talking about

[@krox477]

Sometimes you need adversity to grow

[@lethoh1537]

Thank you for your realness man i can feel it

[@mugiwaraboshi37]

I increasingly have my personal problems sorted out, I’m working on myself and I am gaining skills that will allow me to be independent. But then I look at the world and I’m just horrified. I love nature and it’s being destroyed. I care about other people and they’re getting sick or dying. My country is exploiting the rest of the world. And there’s nothing I can do to stop it. That’s what makes me depressed. And it’s so frustrating because I don’t believe things have to be this way. My mom doesn’t care about any of this and is in denial that anything is wrong. I’m low contact with her, but I saw her last weekend. She denied that things are bad, but then went “well I’ll be dead anyway.” I’m angry that so many people have lived wrecking the world and won’t see consequences for it, won’t even have to face their guilt. My mom is obsessed with my cousin’s daughter but wants to avoid thinking about what the future will hold for her. I’ve made it my goal to move away from all the technology and actions that are killing the planet so that I can live a life worth being proud of.

[@PassionateFlower]

I love how The Ten Commandments says to Honor Thy Mother and Father but NOT a word about Honor Thy Children. I feel like that's where a lot of sadness for children comes from in society. They're supposed to Honor their parents no matter how abusive they are but the parents don't have to Honor their kids according to the religious script. Unfair.

[@PassionateFlower]

God in the Bible doesn't seem to give a sh*t what parents do to their kids as long as everyone worships "Him". He even tests Abraham to make sure he would potentially sacrifice his own son for God to prove his devotion. Sick son of a b*tch. That's also why kids are depressed. Even if their family isn't religious but society over all kind of is religious so the subtext is still honor your parents and God but who gives a f*ck how the kids feel so they grow up and have to have kids of their own to have the power and respect finally from "God" and society.

[@deepdive888]

What about nature? We never honour nature in all forms despite the fact that it gives us everything : home, food, air and water. We just use and abuse as civilisation.

[@NJGuy1973]

Deuteronomy 6:7 commands parents to teach diligently the Lord's laws to their children. In his letter to the Ephesians, Paul warned fathers not to provoke their children to anger, but to bring them up in the ways of the Lord. What would you say your generation was taught by your parents?

[@ncedwards1234]

@@NJGuy1973 The results of ignorance and selfishness

[@QuestionThingsUseLogic]

​@@NJGuy1973the bible is fiction. Plus the 10 commandments were plagerised from the 42 Laws of Ma'at! Much of the other laws were plagerised from Hammurabi's Laws. Adam and Eve was plagerised from Pandora's Box...the flood is the Epic of Gilgamesh, Enuma Elish etc etc.

[@why55555]

Thank you so much. It breaks my heart what our youth are having to face that has been left for them now. It feels more & more daily like we all decided to get together now to heal our generations of Ancestral wounds. Feels like really important moment in time building up all across the planet. TY for your unique perspective, experiences & heart to reach out to us all. Love surrounds us & you are proof.🙏❤️‍🔥

[@ignasmaciulis1095]

I have actually become terrified by society being full of people who are dissociated and run by trauma. Yes, I will work on escaping my family system, but am I not just getting myself into a bigger cage by doing that? To survive on my own, I will probably need a job, and who is going to offer that job? In all likelihood it's going to be some person of my parents' generation who is just like them, having kids of their own and treating them with the same disrespect, abuse and humiliation that I have received from my parents, and to have such a person have power over me is terrifying. The solution could be becoming totally independent and working on yourself, but that takes a whole new level of independence, effort, courage and adult competency, which many young people (including me) simply do not have at this time. Yes, the times do seem to be changing and these ideas are now getting popular enough that it's become quite possible to find and connect with good people among our generation, but I feel like the major social, economic and political power still lies in the hands of our parents' generation.

[@ignasmaciulis1095]

@@grolm8335 I just meant having your own business, clients, etc. instead of working under some boss or agency

[@ignasmaciulis1095]

@@mirasplace Thanks for the idea :)

[@memenatsuki2577]

You poor soul, I’ve had bosses just like my dad while living with my dad. Don’t let the trauma take root. If you’re looking for more compassion I suggest seeking Gabor Mate to resonate with how you feel. You can even browse the aspie youtubers to learn about emotional intelligence. It might make you feel better knowing those types of people are emotionally numb

[@MishaSkripach]

@@ignasmaciulis1095 How did your parents humiliate, abuse and disrespect you?

[@nina-mill]

Hi, if you intend to start your own business/work for yourself, don't be too afraid! It's easier than it looks I have adhd/ptsd and starting my own business was so good for me mentally and physically. I am way better at it and have kept at it longer than any regular job I've had. You get used to the responsibility, and there are less consequences if you are late anyway :)

[@BB-bx4dp]

I think other things that may be contributing factors: - the insane school system, especially the push to to take the hardest classes, do the most extracirriculars, and get the highest grades, just to get into an elite university, - constant use of phones and laptops, leading to too much information, too much screen time, the feeling we need to photograph everything, staying indoors too much, not developing manual skills that have been replaced with computer programs, ect - loneliness and loss of autonomy caused by being in car dependent suburbs - lower nutrition. The size of fruits and veggies are way bigger than when I was a kid. I doubt the amount of nutrients increased along with the size.

[@JohnSmith-cg3cv]

I really agree with the constant use of screens. I'm 21 and my attention span, mood, and tendency to socialize in person are all screwed I think because of constant use of screens I think but I don't see a way out. Virtually every occupation forces you to use screens at least a few hours per day. And if you use screens too much, as I and most people in my generation arguably do, non-screen entertainment such as reading a physical book or socializing in person becomes far less appealing. I really wish I grew up in a time before screens and smartphones were so ubiquitous. However, it seemed that the 60s-90s were - despite screens not being used nearly as much on average - full of their own challenges. It seems that people were less aware of mental illness and good treatments of them back then, and people were just more mean to each other than they are today? Less accepting of differences between people? Males were expected to be more "manly" and to not show emotion? Or does it just seem to me to be the case that the 60s-90s were a "rougher" time in all these ways but that is actually incorrect or at least partially incorrect or incomplete?

[@NE0Nwhip]

And constant bombardment of EMFs

[@notmarealnameboi]

Great points all. Totally agree w screen time. Nothing gets processed and everything is mental/in your head. Car dependcy is a very overlooked thing. It destroys a sense of connection and community. Similar to lack of playing w friends in the neighborhood.

[@Plasmafox]

blaming inanimate objects because it's trendy to oppose them is preventing you from thinking. Especially trying to DARVO cars as *reducing* people's autonomy!

[@Earl_E_Burd]

@@JohnSmith-cg3cv I'm a child of the 80's. I think you have an accurate grasp of 60s-90s from my perspective. The generation before me got away with all kinds of bad behavior, especially adults in the 70's and 80's, and they still kind of act like that but just with each other. One thing to note is that growing up without smartphones means we didn't develop the bandwidth for the information of the world to be at our fingertips. Drinking from the firehose can make the infoglut feel overwhelming. I was actually keeping up pretty decent until a series of life events opened childhood wounds that I had been subconsciously denying from myself and keeping at bay... until I wasn't. Long-term intimate relationships can do that to a person. Now all of the noise has become overwhelming.

[@ISAIAH96MARTIN]

23 male here. When it comes to the future generations, better yet, more specifically, when it comes to ME having KIDS... I don't know if i want them. Truthfully. This world is so chaotic , and so clearly far from the type of environment a deeply emotional and fragile little child should have to grow up in. I feel as if there is no practical way to raise a child in this world and NOT have them MESSED up to some extent. Messed up by the "norm" set before us. Society. That is all. Love how you speak and convey your thoughts by the way. Great vids. Kept popping up on my recommendations. Good ol'algorithm.

[@newtonmoon]

I applaud you for having such a mature way of thinking at the young age. I think the question is more to find the right tribe of people who like you care of the environment and do things to protect it. Then have your kids interact with them instead of having random friends who just consume TV and eat fast food. AND be a good parent to teach them all the important things. Sometimes people appear to be popping kids into the world with no clue or interest on how to properly raise them. I feel like many people close their eyes and do nothing while the truth is that everything matters and every voice matters. For example, the Amazon rain forest is being heavily targeted for years with more than 2.3Mn. animals having wiped off the planet. Nobody seems to do something. Remember, one now famous lady who wrote one single letter to the parliament which resulted in change. If people focus on consumption be it TV or otherwise instead of things that truly matter including self development, what can come out of it, not much. So instead of choosing not to have kids, why not choose to be a voice for the voiceless and start with a little step.

[@RedFooVana]

yup I agree. 28 year old female and realised a few years ago, I don't want kids. Besides the fact I don't have the desire to be pregnant and have children, this world is way too messed up to bring any into it in my opinion! Honestly the only way I'd even consider raising a kid is off grid but that's unrealistic! If I do decide I want to be a mother, I'd rather adopt kids who need a home and a family

[@ISAIAH96MARTIN]

@@RedFooVana My girlfriend feels the exact same way! So you're not alone. She often feels alienated for feeling that way. Pregnancy and child birth is often glorified and portrayed as this amazing commendable thing and experience, but from what my GF has told me and taught me, Pregnancy and child birth is pretty hellish within itself. Kinda reaks havoc on the woman's body!

[@ISAIAH96MARTIN]

@@RedFooVana The older generation of course calls us lazy but the fact of the matter is, people are and have become more sensitive to the world and environment they are living. They've become more sensitive to themselves and their boundaries. People are not just settling for the norms anymore. That era is gone.

[@RedFooVana]

@@ISAIAH96MARTIN Yeh totally! One of my sisters also doesn't want kids so it's nice I have her to talk to and our family doesn't pressure at all so I'm really lucky and thankful for that! I know some people whose families are always asking and bringing it up

[@Anatolij86]

For me it's a combination of isolation, lack of opportunities/only unethical opportunities, pessimism on the state of the world, its future and the signs for significant change. And yes personal trauma, which however I believe is made tenfold by all of the above, whereas it would be mitigated were the environment more encouraging. I and many others are struggling big time. And i think the worst part is we're too sad and hopeless to come together and figure out a solution, or even to be there for each other.

[@ChioCharmwily]

Yep!

[@Lilzki]

I think perhaps another contributing factor may be all the focus on ourselves through social media. Most people’s social media are all about themselves. Their own attractiveness, success, money, popularity. I think if we spent more time looking out for each other (in real life) and being kind to each other we would be a lot happier (not just young people of course). There are no losers in kindness: both giver and receiver feel good. Yet so often we admire those who bulldoze over others to get ahead, and that is deemed being successful and is admired. I know that makes me feel sad and hopeless

[@annieo2766]

This!

[@NJGuy1973]

It's MySpace and Facebook. You ever heard of OurSpace or SoulBook? Didn't think so.

[@galactic3536]

Hi, I recently turned 21 and I resonate with a lot of what you said. For me, its how the world seems to be in a sharp decline with covid, economic downfall, job market is awful, I feel like Im growing up in the worst time, I spent all the time around my senior year of highschool in a house doing nothing instead of enjoying my last year of K12, and I feel so stunted. I feel so anxious and hopeless about the current state of the world, I cant help but wish i was born 5 or 10 years earlier...

[@bolshoibooze2272]

I constantly have 8 tabs of videos this guy open and I am not sure which one to watch first 😅 The greatest company while remote working, a true diamond of youtube!

[@dmackler58]

Thanks :)

[@realspen5082]

Daniel please answer this message, my mom just texted me “I was just thinking about you and I wanted to tell you that you inspire me m. Your dedication to bettering your mind, and your body in such profound ways, really is a beautiful inspiration. I love you and I admire your incredible courage. You are truly a gift and I consider it an honor to be your mom.” I think she actually might be on the path to healing our relationship and recognizing her wrong doings. What do you think?

[@Victoricat]

How incredibly on time for me at this moment in dealing with my 13 year old daughter. Many thanks for your always impacting insight

[@darcyroyce]

So, how are you dealing with her?

[@Victoricat]

Now thas a question. Ive really been trying to help her grieve her childhood and apologise for anytime she felt forgotten or alone, being honest about ways I have let her down that she doesn't remember as she was a baby & i wasnt dealing my my own trauma to understand i was repeating ancestral trauma & to set aside my urge to defend myself to comfort her and validate what she is feeling, which can be a task with my own CPTSD and a combative hormone raging daughter who sees her parents as the enemy natually as i have problems with authority myself, but I have noticed a positive shift in her since I've been having these real conversations with her. Being brave and approaching her as a child, giving her room to understand her feelings matter to us, even if her insecurities are all consuming right now, it won't always be that way & reminding myself that too.

[@jabibgalt5551]

As we become aware of our (personal and social) shortcomings, we go through the 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Looking at it from this perspective, being depressed is closer to the last stage, acceptance. And from the same perspective, we could logically conclude that it is much much better to be depressed than to be still in denial, anger or bargain. "The Prophets accept all agony, and trust." Wishing every Prophet here the best. We're on the right side of KZbin for sure. Let's just take a deep, deep breath and keep on keeping on. Let's trust the pain - it's here for our benefit, even though it's hard to see it that way sometimes.

[@christophervishy8273]

What an awesome comment, thank you!

[@pennyparkin]

The "Five Stages of Grief" model first outlined by Kubler-Ross has been discarded by those who work with the bereaved (I'm one of those people) Grieving is not in stages or phases. It's very, very individual.

[@desiderata333]

Daniel I think you're a beautiful soul. Thank you so much.

[@xKarenWalkerx]

Just subbed to you!! You’re my latest Psych favorite!!

[@Guiltyangel605]

Another insightful and beautiful video!

[@Vanillababe7]

I love you Daniel ❤

[@kostas7143]

Thank you Daniel for this wonderful video. You spoke the truth once again. I've started watching your channel about 3 years ago, alongside with my healing process. It's been over 3 hard years for me, full of pain, misery, agony and sadness, but now Im 31 years old and I have resolved many traumas. Im confident, more secure and finally I've found some peace. Im growing and finally becoming a true man, a more connected person. Thank you.

[@anuraag7075]

I'm (22M), was born into a bad economic country (India) that too in a lower middle class family. At 19 years old I realised how big of a mess my life is gonna be. And toxic environment at home was like a cherry on the cake.

[@elizabethdesousa8290]

Nice to see your message is being heard. Thank you Daniel. Also congratulations on getting 100subscribers.

[@a.kashyap6966]

I don’t think anybody is making authentic videos such as yours, thank you so much. Your ideas are very very novel

[@kristinamelnichenko5775]

When I was a kid the water was too cold to step foot in, in WA. now the water is warm or even hot, but the water and air make it impossible to enjoy a swim 💔

[@kristinamelnichenko5775]

The consequences of systemic failures are being framed as individual mental problems. And there’s a profit motive, not just political. Dystopian💔

[@FadelessSparklz]

Daniel you are so amazing for your honesty, strength, insight and sweet soul. 💜💜💜

[@bingflosby]

This is such a beautiful overview of society from a healing perspective and it’s so cool

[@darcyroyce]

Yes, albeit it talks or refers more to early stages of grieving / recovery from trauma. I felt this way maybe 2 years ago, I don't see or perceive it this radically hopeless, today.

[@jenaya_laila2442]

It's not just youth. I'm a late millennial and I feel the same..

[@allthe1]

Prepare to be called a Boomer, my friend. I'm Gen Y, my parents are late Boomers, but I got the "Okay Boomer" once 😂

[@vibrantvoid8568]

I'm 32 now and feel lucky to have gone down the path of awareness and reconnection with myself for the last 7 years, I'm happy and healthy and generally on a good path in life. When I see today's teenagers, I get the impression that they are... lost. They have no mentors, role models or any truly wise & intelligent guidance. Instead, distraction is eating their souls as I write and it's looking dire.

[@darcyroyce]

I don't know if that is objectively true. I work with various schools and even in this microcosm I come across dedicated and knowledgeable staff who are actively supporting the children. Lots and lots of good people in the world. I do, however, agree that social media, funnily enough, is not the place to find true role models.

[@vibrantvoid8568]

@@darcyroyce oh thank you, I'm glad to read this. I know I can't have the full picture, I'm just talking from another bubble.. the world is complex af, but I really do hear and see so much degeneracy these days...

[@darcyroyce]

@@vibrantvoid8568 and that's the challenge that comes with unearthing trauma - you'll feel a degenerate. :) For a while, until you heal, or heal to a great degree (because I haven't seen anyone perfectly healed), you will see, perceive, rather, only the dark side of the moon, so to say. You'll gain a more balanced view of your self, the world, and your place in it, the more you work through your traumas. It's not that you won't notice things out of place and negativity, it's that you'll be able to find the solutions (because you have learned to manage emotions) rather generate both solutions and resources to carry out the acts of solving challenges as they come. You'll cope better and your attention would have shifted from what's wrong to ways to resolve whatever is presenting as a hurdle.

[@vibrantvoid8568]

@@darcyroyce great comment! thank you 🙏

[@heavenly81]

Happy 100K subscribers mister Daniel:)

[@AnacreonSchoolbagsJr]

I'm 30 and I can barely remember being anything other than sad since childhood.

[@jakefaigen897]

I think you're so incredible, thoughtful, and empathic. I have abandoned my emotions so much throughout my life, and my creativity and what makes me who I am along with it. You inspire me to find it again

[@pennycaldwell8141]

Daniel, Thankyou for all you do..

[@kmoon50]

wow... good to see you doing a RECENT video... I watch the old ones every day... Your videos are REFRESHINGLY HONEST. you have earned your angel wings, my friend... xoxokarin

[@idekbro9143]

You are on point with so many things. Every video I watch from you I think, "I couldn't have said it any better myself". I'm 25 and barely even hanging on with this modern dystopia, but I stick around in the vague hope that somehow, someday I will reach freedom and independence. Much is stacked against us as a generation, as you said. Families screw with us, governments screw with us, corporations are literally poisoning the planet with their toxic chemicals. It's as though there's nowhere left to go. Life is becoming more and more intolerable. There really are no easy solutions other than to keep fighting for the truth, in all areas of one's life.

[@KneelanTey]

Thsi man is based if i make it im shouting u out ur help is fkn profound and its got alot to do with the underlying tension u feel just walki gn thorugh the streets today. love love love

[@karislindvall6181]

💯 accurate!!!! Hit every nail on the head!!

[@ImagineWhy]

Incrediblly put, every thought on my mind

[@HEALTHANDWEALTHCHANNEL-h6o]

Mister mackler, You are a gem of a human being.

[@minyuanlu454]

Hi Daniel, I started watching your channel when I was 17, and now I'm 23. It was your channel that enlightened me about my childhood trauma (even though I had been semi-aware of it long before that). Then I read Alice Miller and Daniel Winnicott as you suggested, and mentioned their names as a filtering criteria while looking for a therapist for the first time, and the therapy transformed my life. (I had major depression, anxiety, psychosis, and huge c-PTSD from my family, and couldn't find any reason to live every single day for years.)

[@juliayoung7580]

I rarely comment on videos, but I just want to thank you for putting your ideas out here on the internet. They have been helping me reflect and grow a lot over the past few weeks :)

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Julia!

[@resilientruby5572]

As a person who is born to a middle class family and a bit privileged to never experience hunger, but also to parents who had to get out of poverty themselves, I think my parents did not have enough time and privilege as me to reflect on their actions a lot, so I don't blame them, but they have affected me to extreme extents that they will not understand, and that's okay. I could only think of it more as I am the luckiest to have the actual opportunity to address and resolve the trauma, and it's the best I could do, even though it is a lonely journey. My parents have been getting more open-minded and open to communication, and have let loose a bit nowadays and I am thankful for it too.

[@potter5647]

You are a breath of fresh air among all these "positive thinker" bs psychologysts ❤

[@nicktaber2969]

I see myself as a young person, younger than my biological age, mostly because trauma stunted me emotionally at earlier ages. It’s only now that I’m going through a lot of the development I would’ve/should’ve gone through earlier in life. When looking at young people, it’s hard for me to tell if things are getting better or worse. Certainly better in some ways. And yet there’s so much egocentric nonsense people engage in that clearly bypasses all this inner work. Tons of judgment and hate. Lack of introspection etc.

[@catherinebirch2399]

I'm a baby boomer, and when I was growing up it was not tolerated to criticise family, especially parents, no matter what mistakes they made bringing you up. If I complained about my parents, I would get, but they're your PARENTS! As if they were gods.

[@alvodin6197]

Are you saying that was how it was for most people and their families at the time? I ask be ause abusive families usually arent open, regardless of the times.

[@trinleywangmo]

@@alvodin6197 My parents (boomers) were raised by "the greatest generation" parents who believed in the value of being still. So kids were told they were "to be seen and not heard". I was even raised this way. Maybe it's a class thing?

[@alanmcbride6658]

You're spot on trinley. I and my friends had the same experience back in the day when as you say kids were seen but certainly not heard. Being a grandad I can say that the scene today is the reverse. We now have child centered culture where the kids call the shots. Strange but true.

[@Emilia-zj2yg]

Your channel is gold

[@nbeezhao]

I am 70 years old. I've been observing and studying nature and humans for approximately 60 years (without a single vacation😅). We are supposedly the smartest mammals on the planet ..... and we have wrecked it physically, and never learned to stop killing each other. I'm very much looking forward to quitting the game.

[@cjork4999]

i love your channel! beautiful video

[@tc9528]

Thank you

[@artisticbloodflow]

I wish my parents, especially my father, would really soak this in. Thank you so much for what you do

[@reemab8374]

Daniel, I love your content and topics you discuss! I am sure a lot of people can relate and I hope your messages can reach a wider audience!

[@cledosliop4175]

Your channel is a treasure.

[@Fashionalternative]

Times are changing on a phycological level, Daniel people like you are the faces of a revolution truly inspiring. we’re evolving as a society We as young people must rise up from the hardships we have and still endure. It’s up to us to create a better future for ourselves and future generations.

[@laraoneal7284]

We are living in a very toxic society. So much uncertainty today also.

[@navgo621]

THANK YOU (!) Thank you for making this video, for speaking your truth, our truth, and being so open to discuss these kind of topics. I/We really appreciate it 🌻

[@t33muk1]

Hi Daniel and everyone! I've recently discovered this channel and I find so much of what's being said relatable. Thank you for what you do. Also, whenever the video ends and the outro plays, Cats in the cradle starts playing in my head, which is a little bit ironic considering the topics that are covered here :) Take care folks and all the best to you

[@dmackler58]

"Cats in the cradle" is a great song. In fact, I'm going to play it on my guitar right now...

[@barabara7041]

Good observations, Daniel!

[@dominusbalial835]

I personally can't really identify a reason for why I'd actually want to participate in society, it seems very ill and fake and I find it very difficult to be myself without being attacked and bombarded. And I don't really want to be anyone but myself, but I feel like having some actual social relationships would help me have a reference point for me to better search my own internal world. While providing me with a slight amount of meaning contributing towards the betterment of someone else. Economically, I'm extraordinarily minimalistic and don't really have a desire to make major expenditures of wealth, and I don't value materialistic things as much as I value immaterial things. I just don't really see much benefit to myself in owning a large amount of money which is really unfortunate and it makes me feel strange for not being more focused on avarice. I don't really see the world heading in a good direction either which is a point that you've made. I see a like of negative things just occurring constantly societally and I see the radicalization towards the negative becoming more and more rooted as the years past. People who don't value freedom and love authoritarianism and totalitarianism, people who are hyper focused on themselves to the determinant of those around them. So many people lacking in critical thinking skills and are just extremely suspectable to exposure to propaganda. Repeating the last talking points they've heard without actually thinking about what they mean. I can't seem to find anyone that's valuable enough to me and safe enough to be around to be my friend and I find that very demoralizing. I used to think everything was my own fault but then your videos opened my eyes to the possibility that I wasn't really the ill one but the rest of the tribe that I was apart of was. and that was a really horrifying realization to come to, something I dreaded, I thought if there was something wrong with me I could find a way to fix it. But now that I realize that there isn't really much wrong with me and it's a illness that's embedded into society it makes me very neurotic in my considerations of how to interact with the world, without being harmed.

[@deepdive888]

You're right my friend. This society is sick beyond repair. It needs to be wiped out

[@moinmaster64]

hey there. As a 15 year old who has recently found your channel and started his own trauma healing journey, I agree with you. However I would like to add one more thing. Todays youth is PLAGUED with dissociation. Social Media is being used as a tool for escapism so so much! All the time in school people are browsing tiktok instead of talking to each other. And it only gets worse at home, people use these apps way too much, me included! We rarely make our own experiences anymore, socializing has become so uncommon that oftentimes it is considered weird to talk with others you don't know. Additionally, I feel like my youth is so extremely rude and toxic and unloving. With cyberbullying being normalized, it is spreading into our real life. People make fun of others for no reason, online and offline. People are not accepted for who they are. Also one more side thing, the most hateful and unloving people are so greatly insecure. By listening to what they say to their friends, you can feel they have some underlying self love issue, always comparing themselves and others, often having unrealistic ideas being normal. But thats just my perspective

[@allthe1]

Totally agree with you. You have a lot of wisdom. Trust your feelings and your judgment, I felt the same way when I was your age, but I ignored it and suffered immensely. I didn't have social media until in my late twenties. But trust me: cruelty, dissociation, and immaturity has been the norm for generations. Don't go and think you are alone and older people don't get your reality! And don't let them tell you otherwise! If they do, they're living in a dissociated fantasy of a past that never existed. I wish you the best

[@moinmaster64]

@@allthe1 I thank you very much for your insight. At times I get really hopeless with how I cant change anything. I can change myself (stopping treating people how I was treated), but the cruelty I see everywhere (and is still inflicted upon me) remains. I am struggling and its exhausting I wish you the best as well :) and thank youu again :)

[@allthe1]

@@moinmaster64 Yep, it's hard! And it's appropriate to feel hopeless when you've been stripped of hope. I feel ridiculous for saying this at almost 40, but someone taught me very very recently that feelings of hopelesness and rage are okay and just go away if you don't fight them. What comes after is more confidence and a clearer Idea of what should come next. Just have compassion for yourself, be gentle and lenient towards yourself, this is how you build strength and the will to fight. You know, at 15, people may consider you very young, but your already very old and experienced and have been through a lot. 15 years is a lot of time for anyone, even people who are 90! Especially when those 15 years have been hard and lonely.

[@moinmaster64]

@@allthe1 thank you very much for your encouragement. All of your replies have been making me think deeply and have been extremely helpful. Look, you as reference and your input made me get more in touch with my emotional state, its something Im working on and you honestly and genuinely had a positive impact on this (among other things!). Yk, you threw some fresh wood into the fading fire of my dream. I am definitely going to mention you in my journal today :) haha. I love you friend

[@allthe1]

@@moinmaster64 Thanks! I felt that very deeply. Always happy to have an honest conversation about the hard truth

[@edgyfitness]

Hopeful for that shift too.

[@Nordgrinder]

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." -Jiddu Krishnamurti

[@domdommer9209]

Thank you for being you, being real. Poring your hart out. It helps me, being me and taking the risk to communicate with myself and others. The road of learning and unlearning is so so painful.

[@madelinewhite9501]

Congrats on a 100k on your channel!

[@patbasse7]

So true what you say about humanity being stuck in survival mode for the past hundred thousand years. We still are stuck in survival mode, even in developed countries. Make lots of money so you can eat lots of food, repeat, then procreate. It's not even our fault, it's just the way our bodies are.. We have to eat after all. But yes, we do have a lot more free time than our prehistoric ancestors, and we should be using that time to work out our traumas a lot more than we do. I spent a lot of time journalling my traumas using the voice recorder on my phone after I discovered your channel. Technology, the internet have provided young people a way to communicate outside their tribe and talk about their traumas, which is probably a good thing. Travelling or immigrating is another way people have broken out of their tribe. Ideally, we'd have a society where food and other basic needs are completely free, and instead of working to feed yourself, you'd sit down and work out your traumas and talk about your deepest aspirations, dreams.

[@marcuscarollo9805]

I think this may go down as your most important video yet. I’ve been watching your content since 2018 (going to be 24 in a few weeks). Thank you for continuing to make your content.

[@KayliDaShizNit]

You’re awesome!! What a treasure to have found this channel!!

[@MargauxMay-ny2vz]

thank you so much for continuing with your videos. helps me tremendously as i am processing my trauma and grieving.

[@fillistine]

Feel the sadness in its fullness. It is not forever. It feels like it will last, but it will change ❤

[@mrshodos]

It does help that people are looking for answers and sharing them. Resolving the how we got here and where we’re going is everyone’s responsibility. Here’s to healing a little at a time

[@DoughDashWord]

You’re a blessing.

[@carecatch]

I'm 39 and I see how someone coming out of the rural area to actually earn a separate living on their own in the city only to find the isolation that they were raised in in the country is no different than the city. It's the same level of financial lack and no foresight. People need to realize that in the type of world we live in you better have some good cash stacked up if you expect your children to ever be able to live independently of the environment they were raised in. In a appropriate society, families do it together - they don't fly away and become an autonomous self-made isolate. That mindset is fiction. Aside from major financial security, there is no independence. And even THAT within this society is a mere token symbol of what it means to be an independent lifeform in an authentic biosphere.

[@jenm981]

I am your age and still dealing with the covert narcissist mother. Yes I get depressed, angry,hurt, and feeling of hopelessness setting in. I hear you saying how you are basically relying on you to try to solve your problems. These young people need help from god. We live in a fallen demonic world and they mess with people using narcissistic people, fear tactics like global warming which now called a climate crisis 20 yrs later. Without god we are hopeless. Like it or not we will continue as a soul after we die living for eternity in one place or another. I have put all my trust in Jesus Christ and have been healed several times, brought up out of the pit of despair, and he has made a way financially for me to have a good life. People you can’t do this alone, and the people that you think are your friends sometimes are just there for themselves and are not supportive. This younger generation are surrounded by pride which god hates. I’m talking about people taking selfies and having to be perfect, having everything in your house perfect, having your makeup perfect, and putting a charade on Facebook to keep others believing your perfect. We are a society that’s not living anymore and being manipulated by everything on tv along with tolerating bad behavior and no morals. If you all have seen back to the future part 3 Biffs world that is the direction our society is headed if things don’t get turned around. Sin is so acceptable in todays society the Bible talks about when this happens he will give them over to a reprobate mind and let them have what they want. This behavior has happened over past generations and they all end up destroyed in the end. Turn to Christ not yourself, because you can’t save you!

[@ChildrensRightsFirst947]

You hit a bunch of nails on the head with that last one and stated it so well. I also think number 3 is the main answer to the other problems you mentioned - The world wouldn't be in such a mess if it wasn't for selfishness, lack of self awareness, and personality disorders on every level, especially in those with the most power. When/if humans ever get healthy, the world will start to change for the better.

[@JFalcony]

I found your videos yesterday amd have read a good bit of your essays. Thank you Daniel, I had feelings for some of these things but couldnt put it into words, let alone do anything about it. It's like I'm remembering. Live freely, work joyously, and trust those notions are contagious.🎉🎉🎉

[@karolus28]

there's also this where social media while it's meant to connect people more it actually separates them - it fulfills the human need for socialization, but it doesn't actually bring people close. Instead of meeting each other we prefer to communicate over the internet. A good friend is made by spending enough time with them, not just by cold texting. Also, nowdays, it's hard to make friends, because the society is old, there is basically less young people out there, there's a lot of kids growing up in a surrounding where there's only old people. After you leave highscool, if you don't go to college(that you can't afford) you can't just go out there and make friends with people of your age when the average age is almost 40! Another thing is, you can't even go up to people to talk to them, when you do that you're being perceived as a wierdo: "why are you bothering me?", you don't ask for someone's phone number, at most you ask for thier instagram... holy crap that's a long drunk post

[@ChioCharmwily]

On point about the Instagram thing. A lot of people just want to add you on social media and forget about you otherwise - which isn't real friendship. If someone actually wants to build a relationship with me that means they won't just see me as another follower.

[@kanilana1007]

As a millenial, these are the reasons why I am not having children. People who are still having children at this stage are in denial or are completely selfish.

[@nikitaw1982]

Probably more that ur a feminist.

[@Liam-ke2hv]

Can you not just leave your decision at that? Everybody always wants to lord their choice over others

[@nikitaw1982]

Ur young and cute getting a lot of male attention. When that dries up suddenly u will want kids making ur self miserable and everyone else cause left it too late and delayed finding a suitable husband.

[@ange1210]

​@Cdiwins1😂😂😂

[@princeofb7383]

Amen to that

[@3nrika]

I'm 31 now and have been doing recovery work for the better part of 10 years, although I had to wade through the thick of nonsense in the beginning before I understood what's what. Greatly disappointing of course that the vulnerable and downtrodden get exploited in their efforts to heal. If the older generations were summarised by a motto I guess it could be, "If it moves, you can extract energy from it". Grotesque. Like yourself the only hope source of hope I have is healing for all. And the only reason I got to keep going is to preserve and share my self-cultivated repository of insight. But those are more than enough reasons to live, contrary to what most people would appear to believe. My life is abundant with meaning and the source of my strength. Thanks as always Daniel and good friends!

[@haileyspiano4327]

Insightful as always ❤

[@zomepeople1315]

Thank you for this perspective! I'm 25 (from Europe), and identify a lot with what you said, and I feel you described my generation very well. I know many who are really hopeless and don't want to bring children into this world (me included), but that last part was unexpectedly hopeful. The young generation could well be very thoughtful parents, and since the amount of children may decline, that might be a silver lining.

[@Plasmafox]

watch the movie idiocracy the first part explains what's wrong with your thinking very succinctly

[@mackenzies4610]

im so happy i foun your channel. I think there's a lot of problems right now but being able to listen to a trustworthy person as yourself and simply talking about it is so therapeutic

[@dualshock3]

Hey man, I've been following you for a while, and i'm glad to see that your channel is finally growing.. well deserved. I hope that more people will watch your documentaries aswell, I thought they were sincere, raw and compassionate. I enjoyed all of them :) thanks again!

[@emmanuellacontopoulou]

I wrote a comment yesterday and it disappeared afterwards. I was thinking maybe Daniel removed it for some reason or maybe it is a sign that it shouldn't go public and I was a bit sad about that and wasn't sure if there was any point of re-writing it, but I decided to write it again and if it disappears again, then maybe it is a sign after all... What I said was actually something Daniel has said on another video: Depressed people are healthier than dissociated people. So, if more young people are depressed (in a society where dissociation is rewarded), then that may be a sign that we are moving towards a healthier version of society! Through a painful path, but the best (only) way out of pain is through the pain. Trying to avoid pain is what has led us where we are, so maybe we should start feeling our pain instead of avoiding it with medications or addictions or all sorts of unhealthy behaviours that perpetuate trauma. About the future of our environment, there is another amazing human being, Zach Bush who is a doctor with an impressive medical background that is now involved in large scale regenerative agriculture because he realised that all health issues come back to how we treat the soil. You can watch him on various interviews or podcasts on the internet. He is a speaker also at the Integrative and Personalised Medicine Congress that takes place this week in London (for anyone that lives in London). I hope that Daniel will also be a speaker in that conference one day, as they have a whole day dedicated to Mental Health and the health care professionals need to listen to his "heal your childhood trauma first" message, if they want to help others to heal. I feel that if these two big issues are addressed, the economical health will also follow, as a natural consequence.

[@dmackler58]

Hi Emmanuella -- I didn't remove it. But I just searched for it and it wasn't there. Hmm -- sometimes strange things happen on KZbin. I don't know the reason. Glad you wrote it again. Daniel

[@WuLOOLOO99]

Dan the man with a plan!