Defending a Little Boy from His Mother’s Violent Attack -- Thoughts on Corporal "Punishment"/Abuse

[@rickturnr]

Lots of children are treated like property, like slaves

[@elijimenez7710]

😭😭😭 is there an emoji 🖤 to express a deep deep pain and hurt for children and nature/animals? 😫😤😿

[@mikeexits]

@@elijimenez7710 No, but there's a hell realm with all the condensed suffering energy of Earth, and Ryan Cropper's been there and told the story. Very interesting watch. I believe it's his Part 2 "Hell Realms" video. He's basically similar to Daniel Mackler except he Astral Projects and is into the metaphysical stuff. The real stuff, not the woo-woo or pseudo-mysticism.

[@anarcho-communist11]

Nothing makes my blood boil so much.

[@AntimatterBeam8954]

I agree. Even parents that look "healthy" seem to do it quite often.

[@elijimenez7710]

@@mikeexitsthank you! Ima check it out sadly 😢 wish i didn’t have to. But it is important

[@lilyghassemzadeh]

This was probably the first time the little boy heard the word "abuse", and the older ones associated it to what their mom has been doing to them. This is HUGE, don't underestimate it.

[@1sanremy]

My french humble ass agrees that this tiny courageous kind but firm demonstration of DANIEL, is essential for the evolution of humanity toward a peacefull world. If we listen to our hearts, and do things by LOVE, we are slowly moving in the right (for me) direction. From a psycho-socio-logical point of view: i am curious to know more about this AGRESSION : Are they still families with children living in NY city ? Gardens playgrounds with sandboxes for children to play ? Peace & love

[@ERH-ph5gb]

The child doesn't have to hear or learn the term "abuse". The child will learn from different reactions other than agitation on all sides. It takes a serene and calm human being to interfere in such situations. In order to de-escalate.

[@albertkirtlandjr6735]

Yes! Don’t underestimate it. What you did, Daniel, tilts our world in the right direction. Even if very slightly. Keep it up! The world needs you.

[@ERH-ph5gb]

@@villaineramatriarchy I was talking about the child and not adults. A child does not need to know a word to feel pain. Nor does it need "acceptance" of a term. It needs adults who can de-escalate a situation.

[@ERH-ph5gb]

​@@villaineramatriarchy So, you are saying that de-escalation is inferior to agitation? A steep thesis. I beg to differ. Daniel said it agitated the mother. When you walk into a room of aggressive people, do you also shout that they are a bunch of violent people and then expect them to immediately quiet down and agree with you? YOU are more likely to be the one who needs to hear the word. Children don't want to see adults badmouthing each other, that's common to all children. They want adults to calm down their world, so it is in turmoil. Maybe you have forgotten what it was like to be a child. It would be de-escalating if Daniel had turned to the child alone in kindness and gentleness. In this way, he might not only have taken the child out of the situation, but also surprised the mother. De-escalation means defusing a sharp situation and I cannot imagine how something like that would cause an "enabling" of further blows. Since it causes irritation in the first place. Those who are irritated pause for a moment with what they are doing. This moment is used for further de-escalation until everyone has calmed down and benefited from the de-escalation. If you cannot do this, you should not do it. That is why people oftentimes don't interfere because they are unsure of themselves how to de-escalate.

[@SantaFeSuperChief1]

They say "you'll understand when you have kids" but they really mean "you'll understand when you join our alliance of denial and delusion"

[@natalieengleman2753]

Exactly, well said

[@Ot-ej5gi]

He should have said, it's because of the treatment by people like you, that I don't have kids and probably never will.

[@alexxx4434]

More like family cult-dom.

[@veganphilosopher1975]

Thanks Daniel for standing up for the children

[@pixel9548]

"I'm your conscience." That gives me chills. 99% chance that child will remember and save that little gem in his mind.

[@Vanillababe7]

I LOVE THAT TOO ❤ I would remember as a kid

[@anarcho-communist11]

Perfect thing to say, because she probably had a guilty one

[@SteveJones379]

If a mother can do this to their child, there is no nurture in her heart. It's all about her and her stuff. Shame. I was raised by such a woman, sad exuse for a mother.

[@RitaLynn444]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@AntimatterBeam8954]

Solidarity. I was raised by a very callous destructive woman.

[@mocarver]

I was too. It’s taken me many years to understand and work through it.

[@Dystopikachu]

I live in Sweden, and here it's been illegal to physically abuse children in any context, full stop since 1979. Some people would call it authoritarian, I call it pro-democracy since it reinforces from an early age the notion that violence doesn't have to be the default option in any negotiation.

[@_helmi]

I know this because it made headline in my country, Malaysia. The wife of a Malaysian diplomat was found guilty of hitting her kid in the name of discipline - I was still a kid when this happened.

[@irenemossa399]

Great. It should be illegal everywhere.

[@alstewart3540]

It’s honestly amazing that there are actually sane places in the world. Usa is fucked

[@Hhej927]

Im also from sweden

[@mona5713]

As great as the idea is and that situation described by Daniel outrageous, it would be advised to take a closer look at this swedish right. It often takes abusive forms towards parents who are Innocent. There were many documentaries about that.

[@daveparsons5630]

Daniel, do not second guess yourself. You did the right thing. I was hit regularly as a child and at 47 years old am still living with the consequences. It has caused major trust issues and trauma issues. If humans are to pull ourselves out of the mess we're in then we need to start with raising our children properly. Children are gifts. They help their parents become better people. I'd argue that the fact that no-one stepped in is the abberation, it's un-natural. Of course it's worse that the parent hits the child (versus a stranger). If children feel loved and supported by their parents/caregivers everything else works itself out. And yes, I have 2 children and they have taught me so much and I would die for them in a heartbeat. Good for you Daniel.

[@smoozerish]

Me too. Still living with the consequences of childhood physical abuse inflicted on me.

[@mikeexits]

One day I hope to have children of my own (1 or 2, I'm thinking, don't want to overdo it and cause problems; my dad was one of 17 children in his house and slept 4-5 people on one bed, and he has mountains upon mountains of severe and truly f'd up trauma as the family dysfunction and toxicity was exacerbated by the inability to give enough attention to each child) and raise them as well as I believe I'll be able to when I'm ready for it. Still working on healing, and I refuse to have kids until my progress has reached the milestone it needs to prevent direct trauma from parent-to-child. Even better yet, I hope to teach them to integrate and work through the traumas they will naturally endure from existing in this world, and help them understand human psychology from a young age. Hopefully being "stuck" won't be an issue that plagues them like it does for so many including myself. This is quite a journey and I'm happy to be on it. Much love to you and yours.

[@RitaLynn444]

Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@tonywright8342]

So well said. 💚

[@mikeexits]

@@villaineramatriarchy Thanks for the reply. I don't know how long you've been in this physical plane but I'm 26 so I'm grateful to not feel any rush, I could still wait even a decade if I had to (which is even a little younger than the age my parents had me, and about 5 years younger than when my mom and her ex husband had my little sister). I understand there's conflicting data out there but I've found my body has been reacting very well to a vegan diet without artificial chemicals and keeping processed foods down (I still have healing work to do regarding food-triggered memories and emotions as well), and for now I'm continuing it. I've found ways to get natural B12, collagen building blocks, detoxing agents and other things that are claimed by some to be omni/carnivore-exclusive without using animal-based foods. Actually my body reacts very poorly to animal based foods now (and at the beginning I initially went vegetarian since eating meat made me feel cannibalistic in an unpleasant way, and I was starting to pick up on the suffering of the animals I was eating) as I've discovered from a couple of times accidentally eating some. Dairy in particular might even be an allergy, along with wheat (which started making my body act up a bit later) sadly. But I make an exception for raw honey since I'm not eating another's flesh, nor am I consuming animal-based food that would have an adverse effect on me (plus it has many health benefits in moderation). I've heard about carnivore and omnivore diets helping fertility issues, but I've also found research that does not point that direction, which makes me wonder if the primary culprit could be a combination of obesity, stress, and/or all the environmental toxins we're exposed to nowadays. It's still not totally clear and I won't pretend to know everything, but I do know quite a bit about the body and mind at this point at the same time. My body has sent me signals that I've been on the right path, but if evidence (firsthand and second/thirdhand) starts pointing me the other way, I'm open to at least trying to go pescetarian. But I know this is a bit of a divisive topic for some people so I'll stop there. I can see what you mean about parenting being healing. I get the feeling it can go two ways, either you hit a hard wall and only acutely "alleviate" trauma symptoms by passing it onto your child in various ways, or you've healed enough and are open enough to further healing that you get a sort of catharsis and book-closer on what was done to you. Definitely interested to see how that plays out in myself and my friend-family who helped me start healing in ways my parents couldn't. Sorry for another long comment, it's a habit of mine haha. Much love and I hope you and your loved ones are doing well these days. 🧡💚💙💜B

[@Babu-kr3cr]

Never underestimate the power of any small act of righteousness. A candle in a dark room can overcome it.

[@darcyroyce]

:) x

[@christinebadostain6887]

Exactly! Why is it "OK" for a parent to hit a child, but not OK for a spouse to hit a spouse? I've wondered about this and am glad you brought it up.

[@TheEternalClown]

Children treated like human property

[@RitaLynn444]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@martinestarot4703]

Well you did the right thing, and maybe the boy didn't appreciate it at his age, but he will remember it when he gets older, and it will help him recognize that his mother was unhealthy.

[@IanDoesMagic]

Thank you Daniel. On behalf of a scared little boy who nevertheless worshipped his abusive father, thank you.

[@19katsandcounting]

I have a 3.5 year old granddaughter and she is very spunky, which is hilarious. When we go into public sometimes she acts up. I can feel people wanting me to punish her severely and I never do. It’s hard work to use a smarter method, but it’s worth it in the long run. People are seriously violent and crazy. I bet a lot of parents feel peer pressured to use violence as a form of punishment.

[@Babu-kr3cr]

Especially for someone with that type of personality, you want to channel it in a positive way.

[@19katsandcounting]

@@villaineramatriarchy awe, thank you 🙏 🥰 I do try to be, always room for improvement.

[@19katsandcounting]

@@Babu-kr3cr yes, she will be starting preschool soon, so she’ll learn more structure there too.

[@daisy7066]

Some people use & nurture their children to act out & cause a nuisance in public & on other people. That's another phenomenon.

[@Babu-kr3cr]

@@daisy7066 The last generation was raised that way, I think the Millenials. They are very cold and disrespectful.

[@tahiyamarome]

I love you forever Daniel for standing up. I've done that and it's really hard but we need to do it every time. We are one another's keepers. Violence is NOT discipline. Full stop.

[@sophialeejhonson]

In most European countries this is a crime. Most parents wouldn't dare to hit their kids publicly.

[@tahiyamarome]

I wonder what they do behind closed doors

[@ST-yc7uj]

@@tahiyamarome passive agression

[@sonder2874]

I live in europe and ive seen this happen many times so… Even if its illegal in some countries most people still hit their children and most bystanders dont seem to give a shit

[@sophialeejhonson]

@sonder2874 I don't know from which country you are, but in my country it's not common at all to hit children in public. I was beaten when I was a kid but always in private.

[@sophialeejhonson]

@@tahiyamarome Some parents do it behind close doors like my dad did. That's not the point of what I said tho.

[@ErinnEarth]

The children who witnessed you intervene will remember you forever. It gives them hope that there are actually sane and caring adults in this world. Well done Daniel. Maybe this mother will think twice in the future. Maybe. She’ll for sure never forget you.

[@venusrain4198]

I was just having this conversation with my husband this morning about the amount of abuse I witness in society by parents on their children. I’ve witnessed three examples of severe emotional and psychological abuse by parents on their children in public just in the past month, the most recent one on Sunday at a shopping mall by a mother in her 3 yo. It was devastating to watch and I knew if I said anything I would’ve copped abuse myself. I just sent an email to the school principal this evening for a meeting about my 5 yo teacher yelling at her and shaming her in the class today. I told her next time this happens to walk out of class and go to the office and say you want to call mummy. Teachers are abusive, parents are abusive, society is just outright abusive. My brother died last year at the age of 44 from cancer. He was constantly psychologically abused by my father and grandfather and sexually abused for years by my grandfather and no one knew until years later when he was going through cancer. He never married, he never had children and the affects this had on me having to also experience abuse myself, as well as witness it and feel helpless to do anything is just beyond words. For years I was physically abused by my older sister and everyone just put it down to “sibling rivalry”. 7 years ago I went no contact with her and I messaged my niece apologising for not doing enough to stand up to her and the abuse she inflicted on her. She ran straight to my sister and showed her my message and because I stood up to my sister, the rest of the family have sided with her and I have nothing to do with anyone now. I absolutely love your channel. I never went in to psychology for all the reasons you share on here. Even that industry is abusive filled with people not healing from their own traumas and trying to fix everyone else. This society we live in is outright sociopathic/psychopathic and I even find it hard to be friends with a lot of parents. I just can’t witness the abuse nor the condoning of it. I’m the link breaker in my family. I have two beautiful little girls that I will never subject to this and I’m forever educating them on how to stand up to bullies and they will always have me in their “corner” Thank you for standing up and speaking out for what is right. Love from Australia 🇦🇺

[@drooleez]

And you're 100% right, it's absolutely worse that it was his mother hitting him, not a stranger. It's heartbreaking.

[@AndrewEdwardBailey]

Yeah, she went way too far. It is never necessary to do what she did. As for people not being on your side, I have experienced this many times. On one occasion, when I stopped a man viciously beating a woman (2001, Piccadilly Gardens, Manchester, England), there must have been approx 80 witnesses. We watched it back on CCTV. Most shouted at me to leave it alone. They even said I was the one who would get in trouble. The police sided with me and charged him. We concluded that the public were ashamed of themselves and that I had exposed their cowardice by fighting him. I believe this is a common issue with the public who will not get involved. You absolutely did the right thing.

[@nenyeo6090]

God bless you and your heart.❤ thanks for standing up for the more vulnerable in that situation.

[@Lilzki]

You are right. The others who did nothing were justifying their cowardice by turning against you. Respect to you for stopping someone getting assaulted.

[@AndrewEdwardBailey]

@@Lilzki Thank you.

[@sushantharpal5854]

I am a man,32. The earliest memories of my mother i have is of her beating me like an animal. I wet my bed and learned to go toilet late in my life. I don't know if i deserve that. Mother's day feels strange to me.

[@Noelciaaa]

That sounds so horrifying... I hope you're doing at least a bit better now, that life is better... I wish you all the best and to reach happiness. I know there's not much I can do but for what it's worth, I care about you and hope things work out well

[@kenyabarley422]

You most certainly did NOT deserve that. It was her job to lovingly help you not abuse you. So heartbreaking. Not your fault!!!

[@Ryan_Powers25]

I've heard another psychologist say something very true once, if a child's parent(s) burn him with a lit cigarette, he or she will learn that this is love. My own mother used to beat the s**t out of me as a kid for doing poorly in school. I mean, slap me, kick me, etc. And verbally also. Tell me that I was worth nothing and even threaten that she would kill me. I'm an easy going adult, not particularly successful in life, I still bite my fingers from time to time. I used to wet my bed until I was 15 probably from that trauma. I think my mother just couldn't handle raising two kids while our father, whom she did not love, was living abroad.

[@smoozerish]

You did a very good thing, Daniel. That woman in her quiet moments will reflect on what she did, and deep down in her unconscious, she will know she did wrong. The world needs more people like you to stand up for vulnerable children. The kid will also know there are protective people out in the world.

[@AnacreonSchoolbagsJr]

Not likely that she will reflect on anything, most people are around 100 IQ and have no internal monologue, can't think abstractly, and the past disappears from the tiny, simple mind produced by their peabrain the second it becomes the past.

[@Meowch3]

I can imagine the thought process of the people siding with the mother. They think that physical abuse is just a necessary evil to raise a good upstanding adult, and that the mother is a hero for doing this terrible but ultimately good thing. They think it hurts her more than it hurts the child. They think she's the one suffering, so she doesn't deserve to be criticized. That's what I used to believe, too. I hated children and thought they were annoying little ****s that needed a good smack or two to keep them in line. Then I learned about trauma, and the more I sought out information on it the more I realized I was reading about myself. It's so obvious to me now that it's WRONG. I can't believe I ever thought otherwise. I had considered myself quite educated and immune to society's conditioning, but I've since realized that I am anything but. It was brave of you to speak out, Daniel. I am sure that your actions planted a seed inside those children's minds. Unfortunately, nobody likes being criticized, especially in front of others, so their first reaction is to defend themselves. But who knows? Maybe you gave the mother something to think about too after she calmed down. One can only hope.

[@paulamiller6109]

Very well stated!

[@RitaLynn444]

❤

[@AntimatterBeam8954]

I was abused heavily for my entire childhood and into part of my adulthood when she wouldn't let go. I once thought beatings were normal. I thought a parent dragging the child through hell's dirt was normal training for a child. Because as a child that's all I knew, I didn't have friends until I was a teenager. My first sleepover I saw a mother being loving, caring, never hitting her children even when said children were ultra bratty or naughty. One girl took their mums make up (typical kid play) and damaged it whilst playing. If I did that I would have been beaten with that wooden pole, literally thrown into my room and the door locked for 24h plus with no access to sustenance or a toilet. The good mother verbally reprimanded them in a not shouting voice and told them why it was a bad thing to do. I was shocked and amazed that the mother did that, I befriended the mother, I wanted her to be my mother, I forgot about the sleepover I was on. I was 13. I now am blind but if I were able to see enough and I saw a parent beating their kid I would go up and tell them my story in a few sentences and tell them what beating does to future mental health and how I left my mother as I didn't want to have anything to do with her and now estranged 6 years which has helped me immensely. I've even moved address and taken myself off all public registers.

[@noellealdi881]

Wow I really related to this as well! I was so brainwashed by trauma and SELF HATRED that’s why we believe this. We hate the children in ourselves

[@jamesboswell9324]

This brings up so many thoughts and personal memories. Memories of being bullied on my way home from school and passersby just passing by, doing and saying nothing at all. In my adult life I have done the same thing - passed by while doing and saying nothing at all, and feeling too scared to intervene. But it also brings up a memory of another incident at my school when I had been humiliated by a teacher and reduced to floods of tears in front of everyone, and then a little later that day a fellow pupil came over to console me. I didn't even know this other person was "a friend" but it was perhaps the kindest act I ever received at school. Years later, when the internet was just getting going, I happened to recall the name of my comforter and looked him up, wondering what he went on to do. Turned out - to my astonishment actually - that he became a policeman. On reflection that gave me a little hope too. Thanks so much for sharing this story, Daniel. You certainly did the right thing and it was no less brave to share the account with us. The little boy may well remember the moment and (as another commenter put it) lean on it in later life. Of course, we seldom if ever really know what effects our actions have on others. The fellow pupil who helped me has very likely forgotten the incident altogether because it presumably mattered far less to him. But it will always be a defining moment in my own life.

[@AnacreonSchoolbagsJr]

Cute story. People like your "comforter" are why I can never accept any claim that the police are bad in general. That sentiment is becoming popular nowadays, I see it as a sign that the average person in the public is becoming bad in general. My dad physically defended me from my childhood bullies once. He grabbed them by their shirts, shook them up a bit, loudly said "WHAT'S THE BEEF?!" (lol) and dragged them to the principle's office. The school administrator thanked him for bringing them in and we never heard anything from either of the kids' parents.

[@Liam-ke2hv]

The old oppress the young, generation after generation. It's so sad to witness. The young that have no choice but to be powerless and dependant, are abused by those who never properly developed into adults psychologically speaking - despite ample time and opportunity. Opportunity that children do not yet have. I am a firm believer that EVERYTHING is the parent's fault, unless their child is one of the exceptionally rare cases of a psychopath or something similar. What you did was right and true, but it's clear now that truth doesn't always win in this world. In time, maybe the truth will propagate in a bigger way. You're probably familiar with this story, but it's nice to remember when you feel powerless in the sea of crazy hatred and suffering. It's the one about the girl throwing starfish into the ocean out of thousands that have washed up on the beach, and an old man asking her why she does it, knowing that she can't possibly save them all and ultimately "make a difference" - to which she replies "well, I made a difference for that one". Our world needs people like you, wishing you the best :)

[@Liam-ke2hv]

I feel your pain. It's the shared pain of humanity, and some of us are more sensitive to it than others. Truly a double edged sword, a gift and a curse.

[@WayneMarion]

Superior comment, thank you, @Liam!

[@cindymayo5700]

Our world has gone insane. Particularly in regards to children.

[@XYZ-kb3mm]

people who are so narcissistic that they hit their children in public and believe they deserve to get away with it, deserve to be called out. and just saying the word “abuse” plants the seed in a child that they’re experiencing something wrong and that it’s not their fault. you did the right thing

[@AntimatterBeam8954]

I was heavily physically and psychologically abused to a level where I would have been taken away from my mother as a child. But nobody knew fully what was going on behind closed doors. I managed to tell my school nurse that my mother hit me and was getting drunk (both a profound understatement given that my mother was poisoning me, beating me with objects, locking me in my room with no access to sustenance, telling me she wanted me dead every morning etc) and my school nurse kept this narrative of "your mum really does love you". I can say to this day that my mother had/had severe attachment deficiency and didn't love me. I myself have very deficient attachment. I'm combative (I try hard not to be), defensive, hypervigilant and low in emotion. Guess who I learnt it from. You did the right thing, the attitude towards abuse of children is sickening. Keep on speaking out. I had my mental health team telling my my mother deserves love. I'm an adult who thinks I deserve no love and no help. I DIY my life and ask for nothing. I'm severely disabled but have no help beyond a very logical and empathetic GP who really seems to get it but knows I am very difficult to manage. I live voluntarily in severe social isolation. I am gaslit to death by people that claim to be my friends if I dare to suffer my life so I hide my feelings and be tough. Abuse is destructive to psychology the most. I'm a very messed up adult. Police arrested me 40 times as an adult for extreme meltdown freak outs where I dissociated and fought everyone. The biggest damage is in the mind. And don't underestimate "minor" abuse there's no such thing as minor abuse.

[@mirasplace]

It is worse that his mother did this because the child expected love and understanding from her. The message he received was: there where there’s supposed to be love - you can find hate, abuse and pain. No child “acts up” without a reason. Their needs are not met -> they yell or cry. Thank you for defending him!

[@ginaiosef]

I can tell you from my own experience, that a "drop" like yours meant a lot to me when I was a child, during my childhood actually, in having appealed to it in so many instances and changing my perspectives inside my inner world. Made a huge difference, so yes, I believe you did a right mandatory thing! Thank you!

[@carospereman3537]

Daniel your recent vid on "defending a lil boy..." is an excellent topic. The craziness in the world takes me back too. I see toxicity all over the place, and it saddens me. Not sure what to do. Do I intervene ? Do I mind my own business? I have pondered this for a long time. Sometimes I intervene and it seems to bring a bit of presence, but these people are so unconscious. They were conditioned as children and don't know any better. A life changing event occurs, then they start waking up.

[@lmoynihanart]

Thank you, Daniel, for standing up for that little boy🙏🙏🙏. You are a hero🙌

[@focusedflow5785]

Daniel this happened to me today. I saw a mom yell at her young child for running and laughing and she slapped her. I screamed “don’t hit your child, that’s abuse.” The mom looked started and put her child in the car. I can only hope that this was a wake up call for the mother. And that for the child, she will remember an adult who stood up for her and told her what her mother was doing was not ok.

[@sanskritiverma8010]

Unexpected but good that you uploaded this vid. *My story--*Im Indian so... getting hit by both parents is VERY normal. My parents had a VEEEERY rocky relationship(still do, they didnt divorce becoz its a Taboo here) and they used to take out each other's frustration on me. They started hitting me when I was like..... in 4th grade and it continued till I turned 19. I got burned by tongs a few times too. As a child I thought --'Im being naught, so they're hitting me, thats normal.' But as a I grew up....I just became distant, I stopped talking to them, stopped asking them for stuff. They found out I had a crush on a guy in my high-school and that was the first time my dad banged my head againt the wall. My body hurt for like a week. Now it has stopped but I dont talk to them now. I still live with them, but ....I just feel very very unhappy after we talk. After a few years of hitting me, I became so strong that i repeated mistakes for which I was beaten because I didnt feel pain anymore. I became immune to all the violence. My mom has apologiesed and even said--'Geez you dont need to take it so seriously.' But...Idk....I just.... dont like them anymore.

[@deepdive888]

Move out as soon as you can and become independent. These people don't deserve you.

[@mugiwaraboshi37]

I would have given anyone for someone to defend me or my siblings as a kid. For some reason I was always aware that physical abuse wasn’t okay, but people always sided with my parents over their kids. In 2021, I saw a man abusing a toddler on the street with complete disregard for the poor child’s well being. I screamed at him to leave the kid alone out my window. I don’t know if that did any good, or it I made it worse…

[@melissao9836]

I think what you did took a lot of courage. No one has a right to harm you , especially your own Mother. Abuse of all kinds has become a social norm in our society along with people that are afraid to “get involved “. I agree it is insanity but as you know the victim is afraid to speak up to the abuser and that is a cycle that continues into adulthood unless more people have the courage to change it. Thank you for sharing and spreading TRUTH AND LOVE 💗.

[@daisy7066]

Sounds like a lot of people felt threatened by your intervention. Clearly they have something to protect - either denial of their own experiences of abuse or guilt at being perpetrators. My bio mother used to slap me on a regular basis & attack me when I was 13 onwards until my degree college had to remove me when I was 18 with the help of a government grant. She continued nevertheless at any subsequent encounter to hiss and verbally attack me. Then she learnt to use email & other media to launch character assassinations & accuse me of mental illness. Relief finally came in May 2022 when she sent me a nasty email full of contradictory accusations again, then cutting me off. However she had spread this false narrative to relatives by then to maximise the damage, discredit me, get my relatives to harass me, & save her reputation so I had to send her a legal harassment warning. Amazingly despite being warned about her malicious behaviour using my relatives against me my solicitor received a phone message from my sister to contact her, so she hasn't understood anything & continues to use my close relatives (flying monkeys) against me. I'm waiting for the next chapter after my message that all communications are being redirected to me now.

[@infjness]

i think another factor in this insanity is that a LOT of people are having children blindly, to satisfy some unconscious desire they have, often for the wrong reasons (society, wanting to secure a partner, not die alone, be loved etc) and without having done their inner work prior to having them. Some people shouldn't be having children (i don't want any and i know i shouldn't anyway), it's important that people learn discernment in order to make that decision

[@jebesssBlato]

For a moment I thought that you have overstepped a boundary, but then I realized that you are actually correct! Because of the story that I heard on Yt a few days back about a 13-year-old Christin girl who befriended an outcast in their school even though she was bullied for months on end for it. He was not even grateful to her at that time. But her actions prevented him from becoming a school shooter. He already had a plan to do it. And then, that whole story made me stop hating Christians. Because, look sometimes they do what they preach. Just like that girl, you Daniel, might have started a chain event of healing for that boy. Giving him the ability to remember that hitting kids is wrong and that there is someone who cares, even when it's a stranger. And that could prevent future violent acts like a domino effect. THE BIGGEST CHANGE COMES FROM THOSE WHO OUR SOCIETY DEEMS POWERLESS.

[@deepdive888]

Our society is absolutely disgusting 🤢 you did the right thing, don't ever doubt it!

[@ThemanlymanStan]

You definitely did the right thing. Hitting a toddler or child is abusive. The excuses people give for hitting their children are sad. They surely wouldn't have hit an adult for having done that!

[@AnacreonSchoolbagsJr]

Some adults deserve a spanking

[@andrearovenski]

This will stick in those kids heads for a while. I hope it helps them. Youre a great person Daniel!

[@Babka113]

I’ve had similar experiences .. I would have addressed the child, asked him if he was ok and told him that it was never ok for someone to hit him- and then i would have moved on, never even looking in the disgusting abuser‘s direction.

[@dawnross2514]

You did the right thing. This made me cry. So many experienced 'discipline' from their parents and think it didn't harm them - I think we just don't know who we would be if we hadn't been struck/hit/beaten by our parents. I honestly believe that this could be the actual root of all the ills in the world, that many are harmed deeply by those entrusted with our care. If the adults who created us can assault us, what reason do we have to value ourselves or to ever feel safe? And some will think I'm being overly dramatic, this isn't a position I've come to overnight....I was physically punished by both of my parents, I found it terrifying and deeply wounding - you have no safe place to go to when the people who are your whole world can turn on you in a split second, they lose control and then blame you too. Before she died, I was with my mother in a cafe and a toddler was upset and crying continually, my mother made a statement along the lines that the child should be hit and made to shut up, unusually for me I challenged her and asked her 'Why is it NOT ok for a man to strike his wife but it's perfectly fine for a full grown adult to hit a tiny child?' She had no reply.

[@wakingupfrom]

you're a great man, i've watched a bunch of your videos at this point.

[@AaronD313]

It took me 34 years to see the emotional abuse my mother put me through, and everyone else in my family shrugs it off as if its perfectly ok. Its also given me a warped outlook on women and given me isolation issues.

[@cristinamagurean]

I figured out that my mother was a malignant narcissist when I was 50. It was a very painful revelation that has changed my life. I stopped blaming myself and I understood this horrible pathology . Sadly, our relationship did not improved until she died of cancer 2 years ago. I still feel guilty for my relief when she passed, after taking care of her for her 5 last years....I am still dragging sadness and resentment and anger but I made sure that my 2 daughters and 5 grandchildren know how much I cherish all of them. I am now 62 and can spot a narcissist from a mile...I am sorry you had to go through a difficult childhood. I wish you only the best from Transilvania

[@AaronD313]

@@cristinamagurean thank you for sharing Ms Cristina ❤

[@KamuSaladi]

You can beat your _own_ child and that is fine. Legally even. In most developed countries. Interestingly, South Africa criminalised such behaviour a few years ago. Using the same logic as you: if it’s not ok for strangers to assault children- neither should parents have that carte blanche. What is interesting is that if that same lady had smacked a dog (regardless of size) for misbehaving in public- she would have been severely chastised by the public. I say this because I recently discovered a Reddit forum called ‘dogfree.’ I like dogs and always had them growing up. But I was curious so I peeped inside. Some of it is a bit extreme but they make the valid point that Dog Culture is to the point where we have anthropomorphised dogs such that we feel more empathy for them over humans- and now *children* too. What is happening to empathy that we have become so desensitised to another human’s pain happening right before our own very eyes ..

[@Ana-Maria-Sierra]

I’m a psychologist with a specialty in child abuse. Your observations are interesting and spot on. Decades ago our hospital based clinic discussed the issue of confronting child abuse in public. Many of us had chosen to do so in a sympathetic manner so as to engage the mama. I haven’t caught someone in the act of smacking or otherwise harming their child, but I have been witness to escalating situations. I have approached the child with sympathy, acknowledging their feelings, which usually catches them off guard and finds them astonished and attentive. Then I’ve directed my attention to the mama, usually also caught off guard, yet willing to receive my words of acknowledgement and support. Sometimes this has led to a brief conversation. Mama calms and child calms. The situation is normalized and a kinder approach takes over. Parents need support. They are often overwhelmed. Where do they go? They often have no one.

[@klarmy8824]

You are a hero. Thank you.

[@Maria-ow8pk]

I believe that your interventions made a difference in the lives of those children and even made some impact on the abusive parents and bystanders, despite their aggressive behavior. I grew up in an abusive household and while the hitting and screaming took place mostly behind closed doors, there were instances where I was mistreated in public and no one intervened. I felt so alone and isolated. I thought no one saw or cared what was happening to myself and my siblings. We were very thin, and were often dirty and bruised. It is clear in retrospect that we looked like abused and neglected children but no one ever directly stepped in to intervene when they should have. I am proud of you for standing up to those parents and bystanders, because that is a difficult situation to be in, especially when you experienced abuse yourself. Those children were probably hit or yelled at many times later, but they will also have the memory of a stranger intervening and telling their parents that what they were doing was wrong. I wish that happened for me, even once. I think it would have helped me feel less alone. It would have also given me some perspective on my dark reality; that I could have a life that was not violent, dark, and degrading. As for the parents and bystanders, they probably were reacting defensively, which would explain their outlandish reactions to your very reasonable intervention. The parents knew this was wrong, and one of them had the grace to be ashamed; but the other tried to defend herself probably because she couldn't face herself and her abusive actions. The bystanders also knew it was wrong but were probably also ashamed because of their inaction, which caused them to try to defend the indefensible. Some of these adults were probably also hit and yelled at when they were kids and unfortunately have grown to accept that behavior in society, which would make them react poorly when those beliefs were challenged. But child abuse is unacceptable and should never be tolerated, especially in full public view. Child abuse is a disgraceful, shameful, disgusting cycle that needs to be exposed for what it is. And children need to be protected, even from their own parents. Thank you for intervening! 💟

[@michelelangford633]

And children are inculcated that in civil society “ you never hit anyone smaller than yourself” and in the epitome of hypocrisy parents hit those who are smaller than them all the time. That was brave of you and decent.

[@mangochutney4874]

Corporal punishment of children has been illegal in Germany since 2000. But not all parents agree. Reasons include helplessness, stress, overwhelm. Nevertheless, much has changed in the upbringing and handling of children since then, due to the changes in consciousness. But our work is not finished yet. Thank you Daniel! ❤

[@insanebrain213]

I remember my little brother used to have hysterical "tantrums", crying so hard he could barely breathe, convulsions, panic, confusion... My mother would be putting on a big act pretending she's so overwhelmed by such an awfully behaved child and how much stress he puts her through etc. One time she was trying to force the seat belt on him. She stopped a police officer and said this naughty boy won't put his seat belt on, and the policeman went told off my little brother. Not the first time she convinced somebody to tell him off. I later recal the gleeful, excited, sadistic look I'd see on her face. That hideous smirk. She was enjoying it, the drama and the attention. She was truly sadistic in many ways. Many many ways. Her abuse wasn't always so obvious. Eegh.

[@anarcho-communist11]

I'm glad you intervened. I was beaming the whole time you told that story. I think that's the right thing to do and everyone should respond that way.

[@roxydina7615]

As usual, well done.Daniel I wish everyone could, would see your vids.😘💙🙏

[@darcyroyce]

Everyone is not beating children up. :) In saying that, Daniel's stories offered me soothing when I was beaten black and blue, and I decided to run away from one such parental figure, so he'll always have a place in my heart for that. :) x

[@samanthagreen7722]

Thank you for standing up for children ❤

[@msbrunataylor5125]

You did the right thing 💕

[@andyrunkel8296]

Thank you for speaking this truth. You have no idea how comforting this is to me, a 60 year old who was attacked by my primary caregiver (Dad). Perhaps the most damaging part was his apologies to me afterward, they (apologies) shifted the shame right back on me. In my mind, if I wasn't such a bad kid I wouldn't bring this violence out of him.

[@IndigoHazelnut]

When I make an observation about a seemingly inefficient parenting style of an individual and the comment 'do you even have children?' is thrown back at me.. my initial thoughts are 'no, however I have been a child and I'm aware these are unpleasant experiences for the kid and I have also had to re-parent myself because of said trauma.. That has to count for something'

[@Nellhollbrook]

You're right, you did the absolute right thing, please keep going. Your actions and ways are a map for many people. Clearly you don't turn away from trouble but you deserve to live in a more peaceful place. Thanks for shining light onto human darkness

[@priscilam.9808]

I'm in my 40s now. My mom used psychological terror on me as a child. She tried to hit me recently but I was able to step away. I told her "IF you ever hit me I'm going to hit you so hard you gonna regret it". Society is so screwed up I'd probably get in trouble if I actually hit her. Thankfully she didn't try it again.

[@fabiobarbieri2213]

Hi Daniel!! Congrats to you!!

[@Rose_Ou]

People treat children horribly and then they wonder why there's so much crime and aggressive adults clearly seeking revenge.

[@ellajohnson3276]

It is so hard to be the person to call out unethical but unfortunately normal abuse. It’s scary and uncomfortable. You are amazing for doing it anyway. Thank you

[@leeannsummerfield3989]

This is SO important, what you did for the boy! He will remember that there was another viewpoint in the world, later on! This is what my brother and I COMPLETELY missed out on and it would have made a world of difference!!!!! Thank you! “Crazy society; parents own their children.” Yep :(

[@natalieengleman2753]

This video was actually pretty painful for me to watch as it reminded me of when I was choked and hit on a train in England by my father when I was nine years old and no one said or did anything. With that being said, my heart aches for that little boy and the fact that you were the only one on his side.

[@RayZ842]

Childhood abuse leaves a scar into the childhood especially into romantic relationships. I have difficulty to be vulnerable with people bc I've learned that what you thought is love would develop into manipulation. They'd use, abuse, and discard me. That lingering anger still lives with me.

[@jtiv576]

Thank you for standing up for children. I’m so sorry people have been hostile towards you for it. The way I see it, people get defensive because they think you’re undermining them. It’s an insecurity issue. Especially if those people were themselves hit by their parents. As if everything would just collapse in their lives if they came to realize that what their parents did to them was wrong. Given all of this it’s easy to see why so many people get personal about these things.

[@MultiSuperPotato]

You did the right thing, I'm taking you as an example

[@angiebarraza423]

I enjoy listening to you Daniel. Thank you for having "hard" conversations... We need to have knowledge about trauma abuse and that it is never ok. See like you just said Daniel. Some people dont know what abuse is .. knowledge is power.

[@paulamiller6109]

I recall a neighbor's outrage, expressed to me, questioning why my parents hadn't taken me to a doctor to find out why I was limping so badly. My dad was a "let's wait and see how bad ot gets" kind of person who didn't want the doctor bills. But when I told my mom what the neighbor had said to me, it was her embarrassment, not concern for my condition, that finally drove her to take me to a doctor to correct the limp. So, abuse can be a subtle thing that manifests in neglect. My hip dysplasia was not recognized or corrected until I was almost 30 years old, after years of pain. Because my parents had always told me to "work thru the pain". Thankfully, it wasn't a life threatening condition.

[@oooops537]

How can you Not intervene ? How could you respect your self if you just observe, move on.? You did good Daniel.

[@thankyou9534]

Children have RIGHTS. I am in on your side.

[@thankyou9534]

On mothers abusing children... I’ve just saw Sinead O’Conner interview with Dr. Phill where she explains the tortures she endured for years. Have you seen it? I had a similar experience. I know now my mother lost it completely. She must have been in a psychosis state. Sinead’s mother never admitted molesting her. Neither did mine. They have a (comfortable) memory black out (very common in psychosis). Sometimes WE Do NEED TO PROTECT KIDS FROM THEIR Own MOTHERS. AND SUPPORT MOTHERS STRUGGLING WITH MENTAL ISSUES. Helping a mother is going to help her kids. Thank you. 😉😊🙂

[@Grejegando]

I found myself in a similar situation a few years ago. I was in Dubai walking outside at one of the tourist attractions and an Indian lady slapped her daughter hard across the face. No one said a word because that's also considered an acceptable behavior by parents in India and in the Middle East. I calmly approached her, looked her straight in the eyes and said firmly don't ever do that again in a warning tone. She started apologizing to me and I continued, if you want her to hate you for the rest of her life then continue to treat her like that. I was treated like that by my father and I still hate him and never forgave him. She said I few things in an apologetic way and I said apologize to her not to me... hug her and let her know you love her. And I walked away annoyed by what I had just witnessed but satisfied I took a stance. It blew my mind how in a crowded place no one said a word to defend that little girl whose fragile cheeks deserve to be kissed every single day. One of the things I'll never ever tolerate is seeing a helpless child being scared or physically or emotionally abused. I'd gladly lose my life but stand up and defend them. The knives that will poke my skin later on for not taking action are much harder to tolerate than a sudden death. I raised my kids without even shouting at them. My son thinks the world of me and sees everything he wants to be when he grows up. He taught me so much and I always watch my words and actions responsibly in front of him because he remembers everything I say and reminds me of it later on. It's astonishing the damage you can do to a young child knowingly or unknowingly, especially an intelligent one like mine. I was exactly like him, intelligent and sensitive. I never fully recovered from what my dad did and I couldn't achieve everything I wanted to achieve in life due to self-image issues. The price a child pays and how trauma manifest later on in life seldom anyone can fathom or appreciate. Thank you Daniel for speaking out and for confronting the abuser. It hurts more when its the mom or dad because while you're being hit the image of your hero is also being shattered. The abusive parent destroys your sense of safety, your hero, and your self confidence all in one action. Life is a constant struggle from that point onwards and healing, if ever, is not equivalent to a healthy upbringing. Your neural pathways have already formed, the myelin sheath is hardened, your beliefs about the world, authority, people, and life in general are affected and your response to stress and anxiety is never like that of a healthy brain. It's hard to explain that to most people and their responses are more frustrating than one could possibly imagine. Anyhow, I'll never stop being someone's hero, the person who'll disrupt the system and show others that they aren't alone, aren't crazy, aren't hopeless or helpless.

[@ericbray4286]

As a survivor of abuse it was very important to me to have memories of Adults who told me what was happening to me wasnt right, even if I couldn't internalize what they were saying at the time they gave me the option of not blaming myself.

[@drooleez]

This has been on my mind recently - a few weeks ago I was walking down the sidewalk and heard/saw a man ( dont know if father or not) yell at two girls ( maybe 3 or 4 yo) to "get up the steps before I smack you!" I glared at the man with a WTF look and he proceeded to verbally attack me. I felt extremely overwhelmed and anxious. I walked away, but felt very upset for the rest of the day. It made me feel so sad and upset for the young girls. I felt helpless in the situation - do i just let it happen?? But ultimately sad for the man too because he has that much pain and hurt inside of himself that he would take it out on two innocent children. And of course, reflecting on the situation, if he would threaten children with violence of course he would threaten another adult (me). What to do? I often feel totally overwhelmed with emotion and anxiety in these types of situations and so helpless

[@dmackler58]

I hear you!!

[@havadatequila]

To know that healing is a possibility is a miracle in itself. Most people spend a life of coping.

[@sebblackmore3697]

You was right and fair to say something, it takes courage when society teaches not to interfere with others parenting. Would you saying to the little boy before leaving the altercation, "dont worry, there will be a day where she can't do that anymore", been an good exclamation mark on the point you was making, for both child and parent? To see what the reaction was like to that phrase would have been interesting too! Well done brother.

[@sebblackmore3697]

@@villaineramatriarchy The truth sets the child free...eventually...maybe. Like all of us? Does true courage mean going the whole way and speaking it, even at the expense of persecution and wrath?

[@sarahcooke8522]

Good on you for standing up for this boy. It doesn't happen enough and people should be held accountable for abuse - not through punishment but to bring attention to the behaviour, when they're doing it, that it is abusive and not okay!

[@seekonlytruth512]

I stood up to a father abusing his son in a busy street one day, and he starting threatening me so I starting threatening him I got so riled I was ready to fight him. He was a small man, an arrogant controlling prick, I could tell the boy was grateful someone was standing up for him. I hope it changed things for the better for the family. I did notice at the time though other men were standing around looking on their phones ignoring the abuse.

[@eccehomo5393]

Thank you for standing up for this child!

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

Even if the little boy sided with his mother, he"ll remember this years later. At 30 rather than 50. Xx

[@almam.6880]

💚 You are a true role model, may you be blessed

[@user-mg8if8po4e]

I admire so much your courage to come up on camera and speak your mind ! A book covering all these content that you've made, or at least a written resume of the main ideas /teachings from your experiences would reach so much more people and help to break the language barrier, people from other non-english speaking coutries need these messages! ❤

[@gingerlemon865]

I worked at a hotel once. This lady pulled and twisted her kid's ear and he was in tears and holding in his huffs. I was only 19 working the desk. I looked the kid in the eye and asked if he was okay. He didn't look okay, but I wanted him to know I won't ignore that stuff.

[@victorissaev8125]

You are a shining example of the kind of men and way of thinking we need more of in this mad world.

[@Justarandompersononyoutube.]

Daniel is a pure soul he did the right thing by speaking up to remind the parents and child as well that physical abuse is never normal or okay. And for the people still defending it, I broke of contact with my father because he always tried to force respect instead of actually being a respectable person. No amount of yelling or beating is going to make your child respect you, quite the opposite. You’ll end up alone and with no contact from your child.

[@pod9363]

I guess the only real solution at the moment is to heal and study healing so we can ramp up the amount of people who can serve as examples of what happens when you focus inward. I've tried standing up for kids in this way before and it's always been like beating my head against a brick wall.

[@ghohen]

It is definitly worse if it is the mother, the parent, who hit the child instead of a stranger. The child has to endure the situation with his parent as long as he become an independent adult (that thought accompanied me during my childhood and teens). If the violence is done by a stranger, the child can hope for help and consolation in his parental figures. At the mother who angrily asked "Who are you?" one could justly respond "I am one who had been treated like that as a child and learned to be scared of his parent instead of feeling loved and enjoing to love back, etc.

[@cynthiapetro8708]

Again, I applaud your bravery for standing up to this abuser. I was sharing this story with my adult daughter who made an insightful comment, "I wonder what would have happened if the abusing woman had been confronted by a woman instead of a man?" While I believe the abuser would NOT have acted differently, I wonder if the witnesses would been more neutral (not siding with the abuser) if it had been a woman interferring, since the majority of child raising is done by women.

[@RoSario-vb8ge]

You witnessing and interfering the child abuse may have an important effect on the boy in the long run. As an adult he maybe won't be aware of his childhood to be abusive, but there might be a strange feeling, something wasn't right. The moment of you stepping in as a witness might help him finding the right track and reassuring him.

[@clara.c.m.]

...And THIS is probably the main reason why CPTSD is so prevalent in our society... 😕

[@cometogether]

anytime i speak out in public about parental mistreatment of young people, i become the problem. the same is often true when we speak uncomfortable truths. yet that is all the more reason to say these things, to point out that something is harmful and wrong

[@BleuParrish]

Needed this thank you ❤

[@claramercier7924]

Thank you so much for your authenticity, Daniel. It's courageous of you to stay so grounded and true to your actual experience of this world and human beauty & madness. I appreciate it deeply. 😙

[@Kim-wt2gl]

He'll never forget you for doing that for him. It was great that you intervened. Absolutely. You were an ally to him. That's what children need in order to not get stuck in the Trauma of Abuse. Another thing, more than likely she does that to him on a regular basis. Good for you. Never stop standing up and intervening when you see child abuse.

[@sfshaman]

Yeah... Video ends as bitter as our reality is. Good to hear from you, Daniel.

[@brigitte9999]

I believe you changed everything.

[@deepdive888]

It's quantum physics! He did change everything ❤

[@lindseyhoney9408]

Thank you for sharing this story. It is interesting in when you put it into the context of adult/child as apposed to mother/ child. Good for you for standing up for what you know is right.