3 Reasons He's "Hot And Cold" Or Only Giving You Crumbs (And What To Do About It)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

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[@estelagraciamedrano9772]

Sometimes is Best to move on. Not every man we meet or date is WORTHY, or they want a relationship but not specifically with You.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💜

[@Avoid_Low_Frequency]

I learned so much today!!! The great take away was I can begin the process of letting go when the breadcrumbing starts….it seldom turns around.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💗 This video I recorded with Jack might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@Yo.222]

I don’t believe in games just leave don’t do anything to be loved , love is natural..

[@Moonstonee212]

Trueee

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, thanks for sharing! 💙

[@kaylagoldson4650]

I was in this situation and I loved him dearly. After 4 years I finally left and yes it was very mentally abusive. I had to gather the strength to leave and to remind myself my worth. I had to let him go! And I felt soooo good after leaving! I felt free!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! ❤️ This episode should be helpful for anyone who wants to get over someone or heal and move on after a breakup: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qnSWeHuqhdCtf6s

[@KB-ih5gf]

I was in your situation after four years too. We broke up and I too felt free. But my story went a different direction. He hoovered me. I fell for it. It’s been 17 years now and I’ve lost track of the number of breakups and Hoovers. We’re presently broken up… as usual I asked a question that triggered him and he went silent. For days. It will turn into weeks then he’ll try to Hoover me. I’m trying so hard to be strong. Btw ironically my question was “how’s counselling going?”. Going to counselling was on the table for getting back together. He went to three sessions, told her things were good now because he’d got me back. Then he quit. Three months ago. 🤦‍♀️

[@marcellejane2298]

We where seeing eachother for 6months, he decided not to contact me for a month. We had a great relationship no issues! He then had the nerve to contact me and wants to see me. I knew he chose someone else. When it didnt work out i was the fall back girl. Damaged was done!! Bye!! He doesn't deserve my time and attention! Im happy to give it to someone who values and appreciates me as a human being. Happy on my own. 💔 over games and drama.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, sorry to hear you went through that. 💙 This episode should be helpful for anyone who wants to get over someone or heal and move on after a breakup: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qnSWeHuqhdCtf6s

[@kristir1262]

Glad to hear it reaffirmed that once breadcrumbing starts, it rarely turns around. Wish I had started letting go much earlier. Guess I'm still lucky to have finally managed to end (sort of) my disaster after 3 months. Unfortunately, I will still have to see him around. Workplace dating sucks if it doesn't work out.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Kristi! This video I recorded with Jack might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

This happened with an old college guy friend I reconnected with. We’ve been rebuilding our friendship for almost a couple years and it’s been nice. He’s been supportive of me thru hard times and the death of a loved one, so I sent him a Christmas card wishing him happy holidays and thanking him for his support. And it seems to have freaked him out, he acted really weird and uncomfortable with it. I always give Christmas cards to everyone, didn’t think it was a big deal. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I realize it’s his issue though. So I’m disengaging, reclaiming my boundaries and my power and focusing on myself for sure. Totally a ‘spiritual awakening’ . ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💙

[@theonejaynewallace296]

When he came back my thought was, okay, maybe he wants something serious now... 'cause he knew my boundaries, etc. But yet he didnt want something serious. The thing is, I heard from other friends and my sister that they also walked away and then the guy came back, then he wanted something serious. So thats what I thought he wanted. I was wrong. The thing is, how do you know the guy is serious. Males can sometimes lie just to get your attention, etc...They are also good in deceiving and giving you exactly what they think you want to see.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💜 We actually answered this question in my latest podcast episode at 36:50 - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/4syZGKzCDIJYW49CwqUHUB?si=eqoEZS_zRwmqDOXXMNDLFQ …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000591944174

[@musicas8549]

I don't know if anyone will read this but i loved when he said "if you don't have conection with no one... You are in a better place". Maybe it is better alone than in bad company.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💜 These videos I recorded with Jack might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc.

[@musicas8549]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@Nicana68]

I haven't seen Jack post a video on YT for ages and was worried he'd 'ghosted' me...😉 I'm very happy to see he's still with us!

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

Love that I know what I want and what I’m available for, and if he can’t meet that, it’s ok, but I don’t him wasting my time with bread-crumbing me to keep me dangling as an option , so I then choose to let him go fully if he’s not offering what I want. ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, thanks for sharing! This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@debbierogy5328]

I have been seeing a guy for 8 months. He is quite a bit younger than myself. He has backed off because he has been rushing me about moving in together. He says my priorities aren't in line since he has not been involved with my children. I have a career of 15 years and since Ive known him he has quit 2 jobs. I am not a golddigger by any means. Although I don't want to have to support a man. For the most part we get along and have chemistry i don't know how to handle this.

[@LeafsIn2025]

RUN!!! Incompatible.

[@karadaniel6334]

Read “How to spot a dangerous Man”, he sounds like he’s in that book

[@chiobabe2180]

He looking for you to take care of him. Run

[@gwortman3515]

Follow your intuition...get rid of him in my opinion.

[@SuzannePoschet]

Be very Careful about moving a man into your home, ESPECIALLY with children! It needs to be a real solid relationship with a ring and a date for that!

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

Yep 💯 Breadcrumbers = disqualified. ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Absolutely, thanks for sharing! 💕

[@karibelle7143]

Thank u all!

[@christineribone9351]

Thank you Jack and Helena. I love your videos together!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 Here’s the latest one we recorded together if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.infogQNmkJHeNxo?si=71_U-wwFWm4S8erq

[@kathyyoest4085]

Jack did a wonderful job of explaining this subject and I learned a lot , painful as it was. thank you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Kathy! This video I recorded with Jack might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@sunshinesmile94]

This is a gem of a video. What a fresh and insightful perspective.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 This video I recorded with Jack might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@GodsGirl91750]

Great video, this happened to me, I met someone through a mutual friend, allowed him to pursue me, which he did, he called me girlfriend, when I was going out of town he wanted to be the one to take me to the airport etc., after a few months I realized our physical time spending together was becoming every other week - even though we talked on the phone frequently,. We had so much in common, similar values, I would say I was falling in love with him… But the one thing that bothered me was the “crumbs of his time “after five months I let him know I felt like I was on the back burner and we only got together when he wanted to get together but if I suggested hey maybe we can do this or do that it was let me get back to you on that. So over the next couple weeks I almost started backpedaling because I did miss him, and he said you’re not gonna be happy with the amount of time I can give you, and I let that resonate with me and I finally moved on, my heart was broken but I moved on. Still haven’t found anyone yet, but I’d rather wait for the person right for me, than to be treated like an afterthought.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, I’m glad you were able to move on. ❤️ This video might also be helpful for anyone who can relate: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@gitanjalinandan]

Jack, I know we are all evolving. Im appreciating the changes in your presence - its deeper and more solid and somehow wiser. Thank you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video I recorded with Jack might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@rosemarie3915]

An awesome session that I have learned a tremendous amount of clarity with someone who is hot and cold and bread crumbed me. Thank you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I just published a new podcast episode with Jack that’s AMAZING - it’s available on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/0Bz1ZjpbhYS8us9RE086pU?si=ENxUusy0TWqJEx3sfEFxIw …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000600339696 I’d also recommend checking out these videos I recorded with him if you’d like to learn more: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc.

[@LeafsIn2025]

Thank you! Jack's awesome! (Highly recommend his channel, too.) Having you both share and bounce opinions, experiences, and higher education off each other was pure gold! 🌟 🇨🇦

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💗 This video I recorded with Jack might also be helpful for anyone who wants to learn more: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@LeafsIn2025]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you very much, Helena! Happy 2023 New Year to you, Tom, your adorable and much loved son, Team, and families! 💖🥳🎆

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! Happy New Year to you, too! 💞

[@reneedaniel]

Thank you, this person have a good heart. He respects me as a person. He just don't text as much but he did tell me. That he was going through something but it didn't have anything to do with me. We make each other laugh and everything. But I don't hear from him as much. He is a great friend and I miss his company.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These videos might help give you some clarity: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmGwl6pqqcemm9k.

[@christineribone9351]

Great intro.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! The latest livestream I did with Jack might also be helpful: kzbin.infogQNmkJHeNxo?si=71_U-wwFWm4S8erq

[@chrysancheran4477]

OMG!!! I so needed to hear this!!!! I WILL be replaying this episode. So glad I found your channel. Thank you, thank you thank you!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️ These videos I recorded with Jack should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc.

[@a.d.b535]

Glad I've set 1 year anniversary to end this slow torture. 39 days and counting.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos I recorded with Jack might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc.

[@tandyarmstrong946]

This fool that iam still healing from lead me on for a year and its been hard but iam ok

[@sylviam.castillo9931]

I get you. 😥

[@tanyamurrieta7289]

What about when you become exclusive and then he pulled away and continued to do the bread crumbs little by little and maintaining the exclusivity…

[@sheliasmith2884]

Avodent dismissive that's who I'm with this what you stated is their pattern.

[@marionheyns4715]

This man is brilliant..thank you❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These videos I recorded with Jack might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0si=4ilbHhCSDEd6M5Sf and kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebcsi=6n5l1c_1OElXibG-

[@karibelle7143]

He includes me in his future. But right now, it's as friends. He says he doesn't want a relationship. I'm not sure if it's ever or just now. He even says it may change. He still says. WE statements

[@thejackbutler]

Does a friendship serve you?

[@karibelle7143]

I love it but I want to marry. I can't talk about relationship it gets him uneasy and acting weird

[@liztowers2058]

@@karibelle7143 when men want a woman he will make sure she's off the market. Be his friend. But don't u dare give him sex until he says you're his GF and he shows it. Sounds like he's bullshiting u.

[@karibelle7143]

I've thought about that Liz

[@liztowers2058]

@@karibelle7143 it's tough. I've been there...some men are just wasting your time with no interest on actuality using your time for YOUR own good. Just theirs. Don't fall for the sweet talk. Look for action. Look for consistency and above all else....look for him not wanting u to date others... Ask him flat out: So I guess u won't mind if u see other people than since I'm still technically single than? See what he says.

[@diannaantes5262]

I Appreciate Jack so much

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Jack gives great advice! This video we recorded together should also be helpful for anyone who would like to learn more: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@bettychi5021]

so how early in the relationship does he say he wants a serious partnership? What does he say?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

While every situation is different, these videos might help give you some clarity: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKLHkmxtqrWFp6s, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmGwl6pqqcemm9k and kzbin.infoCuWhh-DnLJY?feature=share

[@SuzannePoschet]

What if you’re seeing someone long distance who’s in the military? Their jobs are super hard and stressful and getting dating advice is more challenging

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

How long have you been together, and how often do you see him in person?

[@lauriepeifer7297]

This is one of the best!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Laurie, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💗 This video I recorded with Jack might also be helpful for anyone who wants to learn more: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0

[@dnibcn93]

What happens if a man wants to do 50/50 on some things…? It doesn’t feel good to me. :(

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

Haha love the gluten analogy 😂❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@joanne5275]

Thanks!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Joanne! ❤

[@shirlenepershad3969]

Hi,why mature men 47 yrs do the breadcrumb thing

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

They do it because of the same three reasons we shared in this video - both men and women can do this at any age if they’re not truly interested. 💜

[@debmccafferty1007]

Ex needed big big money, blew us up and ran

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Sorry to hear you went through that. This episode should be helpful for anyone who wants to get over someone or heal and move on after a breakup: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qnSWeHuqhdCtf6s

[@Jess-wk5jo]

Hello i have question for you i have always what to get back at my ex boyfriend Morgan for two timing me in high school what happen if i was married to Morgan i start to see my ex stephen a again and i tell Stephen i what to affair with him to get back at morgan for morgan two timing without having sex but only seeing Stephen and texting him then meeting up with Stephen and only holding hands and kissing and hugging him and watching high school musical dvds without having no no no sex with him what what of type of affair would had be. Just romantic affair no sex one eww sex 1 emotional affair 2 emotional and physical affair without having no sex P.S it will never happen it only thought over it Thank you for your time from jess

[@Jess-wk5jo]

i am trying found out if i had affair to get back at my ex friend morgan from high school for his hassling me this year what would be texting and meeting up and Calling person and holding hands and kissing and hugging and watching films without having no sex. Is it emotional affair or emotional and physical affair without having no sex just romantic affair no eww sex i hate word sex make me feel sick.

[@cherylpoline4546]

4:06

[@renubaldeo2102]

Maybe he is a narcissist???

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If you suspect the man you’re dealing with might be a narcissist, this podcast episode should be helpful - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/3NE34U7nic4fZqFSvKVAOQ?si=9sNw510cQomKvAX2Q-GiaA …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000537158156