3 Reasons Why Young Catholic Women Can't Find Good Men

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[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

Thanks for your comments! Have a blessed Thursday!

[@nataliabancroft8464]

love you!

[@swires1]

The real issue is that women (in general, Catholic or not) find most men unattractive. These men can do absolutely nothing to "magically" change this circumstance, especially in the age of a global interconnected digital world.

[@swires1]

The p... and other addictions you bring up are mostly a symptom of that, too. You think if a guy were well-received, he would usually feel the need to lower himself to this?! Also "strong men" aren't really in demand anymore either.

[@goeffreylundun8113]

How can young Catholic men find good young Catholic women? Most parishes don’t have outlets for them to meet. Even traditional Catholic parishes

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

that is true

[@penelopebrown4083]

i don't find them

[@maxhelvetius544]

so true

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

amen!

[@antonmansten826]

right, if you don't meet her at college catholic group, it is so hard later

[@ModalSoul]

This entire matter can be summed up with 1 scripture 2 Timothy 3:1-4 1 You should know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. 2 For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. 3 They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. 4 They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. If a man fits this description in more than one aspect, you should steer clear of him ladies He is not a man of God Ecclesiasticus 25:21 “Stumble not at the beauty of a woman, and desire her not for pleasure.” In the manner of women, don't stumble at the beauty of a man, and don't desire a man for only pleasure!

[@pammedd5931]

You saw young woman. How about women in their 30s? The men my age STILL act like teenagers.

[@penelopebrown4083]

preach it!

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

no doubt

[@hhsquizbowl]

agree

[@truthwillrevealed1588]

What's your age

[@truthwillrevealed1588]

I am teen ager i act like a teen ager but i am mature enough to handle my Catholic women if i Mary him ....

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

About time! Yes, so true on all of these things. The men in their 20s today act like they are teenagers still. So unattractive

[@penelopebrown4083]

yes!

[@nataliabancroft8464]

no doubt

[@maxhelvetius544]

i hear ya

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

yes

[@antonmansten826]

amen1

[@thecopticmonk9423]

I feel too that most young men now are so immature compared to the same aged men 50 years ago

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

amen

[@antonmansten826]

no doubt.

[@hhsquizbowl]

no doubt

[@LibertysetsquareJack]

It's anproblen not solely with young men either. There are a lot of guys who are in their 50s and 60s that act like insecure, effeminate children.

[@sapenelopelarsipan2915]

For my personal experience, most of the men I meet are not religious. Most of them don't have good jobs and are ambitious. And many of them yes are addicted to either drugs and alcohol or porn. Why would I want to marry that?

[@penelopebrown4083]

exactly!

[@nataliabancroft8464]

i would rather stay single

[@maxhelvetius544]

I can sympathize with you

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

amen!

[@antonmansten826]

that is true

[@penelopebrown4083]

I would NEVER marry a man who watches Porn. Greg, I hope you don't. It would sadden me greatly

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

i hear ya

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

i agree

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

i hear you. a man doesn't need to if he gets sex daily

[@karlafabon9380]

True...

[@alejandromilatorres8053]

Porn is an addiction, destroys both soul and body, nobody wants that in his life... So it's wise to say you won't marry someone who watches porn.

[@sapenelopelarsipan2915]

I think both people complain. The young men complain about the women being trashy. The young women complain about the men being immature. I think both are right

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

good point

[@penelopebrown4083]

yes

[@maxhelvetius544]

no doubt

[@antonmansten826]

only a small remnant of chaste peope exists

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

i agree

[@goeffreylundun8113]

I don’t know how things can be fixed. What would we need to have the divorce rates drop but also the cohabitation rates drop. What would we need to have young people marry young like they used to? We need a third grade awakening. I return to Christian values. But I just don’t see that happening unless something cataclysmic happens

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

a "handmaid tale' scenario

[@penelopebrown4083]

so true

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

i don't think handsmaid is so bad

[@antonmansten826]

i agree

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

so true

[@antonmansten826]

I think porn is a major problem w/ the youth on multiple levels. I was watching "Euphoria" and it made a good point that when college kids have sex with women they do it roughly b/c that is what they have been seeing in porn for years

[@penelopebrown4083]

yes!

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

horrible show

[@antonmansten826]

amen!

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

i hear you

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

that show is reprehensible but you see why kids watch it

[@antonmansten826]

Sons of single moms coupled by lack of strong father figures in home and TV are destroying are young men. I don't see it getting better

[@nataliabancroft8464]

absolutely

[@maxhelvetius544]

i don't either

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

agree

[@francikeen]

@antonmansten826. Every son has both a father and a mother. Or did you flunk Biology 101? Too many sons have negligent, selfish fathers. Try the truth for a change!

[@TeamistressTX]

I don't think marriage can be saved so long as welfare exists and so long as we keep leaving christianity

[@penelopebrown4083]

agree

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

yes

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

i agree

[@hhsquizbowl]

amen

[@pammedd5931]

agree

[@hhsquizbowl]

#DontFornicate

[@penelopebrown4083]

amen!

[@nataliabancroft8464]

amen!

[@antonmansten826]

flesh is weak!

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

absolutely

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

yes

[@sedevecantististhetruth9578]

So many truths in this episode. I think we cannot underestimate the fact that most young men have been destroyed by porn and divorced and broken families.

[@nataliabancroft8464]

amen!

[@maxhelvetius544]

amen!

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

i agree

[@antonmansten826]

yes

[@pammedd5931]

agree

[@nataliabancroft8464]

Strong men are few and far between. We look for strong physical hulky men but beware b/c many of these men are broken and that is why they are at the gym. and how many of these men are practicing catholics?

[@penelopebrown4083]

no doubt

[@maxhelvetius544]

wolves at sheep's clothing

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

so true

[@antonmansten826]

amen!

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

most aren't

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

Love your dating and marriage episodes!

[@nataliabancroft8464]

love them

[@antonmansten826]

me too

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

love all his tough

[@hhsquizbowl]

amen

[@pammedd5931]

agree

[@georgesouza]

Ask St. Joseph, he will set you up.

[@Jacob-fj7xp]

I am a catholic 22 year old man. Trying my best to get my financial stuff/business in order first before I look for a wife so I can truly provide for her and not marry when I am not able to provide for her.

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

Great advice. Also work on your faith and improve your masculinity.

[@kelvinaheebwa2962]

I resonate with you brother. I'm 22, in my fourth year of Vet. Med School and I just don't see the point in dating when I still depend entirely on my parents.

[@hhsquizbowl]

#FindGoodCatholicSpouses

[@penelopebrown4083]

amen!

[@nataliabancroft8464]

good luck!

[@maxhelvetius544]

so true

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

amen!

[@antonmansten826]

good luck!

[@mrleomich]

I get your points about the messed up dating scene nowadays. But I disagree to blame men for that. “The quality men”…. The issue is both ways. Boys end up resourcing to porn just as well as girls are resourcing to attention seeking online. Boys are being crushed to be real men, and girls are becoming unable to bond to any men given the promiscuity (physical or emotional) they live in their dating lives. Not ever one side is responsible for an issue !

[@laimmaculata777]

Pornography doesn’t affect a man’s capacity to emotionally bond? Lol

[@stargazerspark4499]

The problem is systemic. Central Bank monetary policies since the 1970s have enabled the devaluing of Men's natural role as Providers as well as the degrading of Marriage and Family as the basic economic & societal units. Young women are told to prioritize entering the govt / corporate workforce en masse and to postpone marriage & motherhood indefinitely. Unwise endless money printing by the Fed thanks to the "Oil for Petrodollars" system helped enable this. A hugely overinflated housing market also doesn't help. A great financial reckoning decades in the making is nearly upon us and with it hopefully a return to the natural complimentary relationships between men and women.

[@francikeen]

The video blamed women... just like you did. While you and the video exonerated men.

[@FortisEquus]

@@francikeen Not at all. As the OP said, "The issue [goes] both ways" and "[It's not just one side] responsible for [these issues]." Men and women both bear blame for the current mess we're in. We both have to do better.

[@francikeen]

@@FortisEquus But the video blamed women & exonerated men, in spite of it's disclaimer to the contrary. Disclaimers are a modern gimmick for the speaker to do exactly what he claims he is not doing.

[@catholicfemininity2126]

It's really a cross and a suffering to be a traditional Catholic lady in this day and age....it's worse if you're an average girl, if you're hot, it's probably easier for you. But it's very painful right now.....we have no power to change, only prayer and waiting.... and waiting.... and waiting.... lol

[@tuckersmith8560]

I know your pain. I'm a Trad Catholic virgin man

[@xXbooneman12Xx]

This is true. Time is on men's side. This comments section is full of frustrated men (they have somewhat of a right to be so). But many forget the suffering of the women. I pray for your well being and thank you for your choice of traditional monogamy and living through the empty years virtuously. Your waiting does not go unnoticed by God.

[@DavidMatias79]

I know men who are looking for a virtuous woman. You gotta put yourself out there a little bit. Be warm and open. "Drop the hanky"

[@TeamistressTX]

I like you did a video that criticizes the men. LOL To be honest. Some of the dating ones, target us! LOL

[@penelopebrown4083]

he loves us all

[@maxhelvetius544]

so true

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

so true

[@antonmansten826]

i don't think that is fair

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

yes

[@thecopticmonk9423]

As a monk until I get to 35 or so and then I will look for a coptic wife here in Ethiopia.

[@nataliabancroft8464]

i think it is smart. wait till you are more mature

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

smart man!

[@nataliabancroft8464]

Women divorce men at higher rates. But why greg? Are the reasons why women divorce these men legit? I don't know to be honest.

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

who knows. women will always say it is legit.

[@antonmansten826]

as long as money is to be made from divorce, then it will continue

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

most women I know are leaving for stupid reasons

[@hhsquizbowl]

take away child support

[@pammedd5931]

agree

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

I have been lucky. I'm masculine. I married at 20. I keep my beautiful wife in line. The men in my life are the same way

[@penelopebrown4083]

good for you

[@nataliabancroft8464]

so true

[@maxhelvetius544]

so true

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

so true

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

agree

[@rosa_alonzo]

I’m 26 and I told myself I will only marry a man who pray the rosary and has a devotion to our Lady, if not I will just become a nun.

[@letterofthelaw2567]

picky picky

[@flurry6351]

I pray the rosary daily 😄

[@rosa_alonzo]

@@flurry6351 good for you.

[@blancheb3533]

yes sis

[@DavidMatias79]

I know plenty of men who pray the rosary

[@caseyl2022]

So much truth in this episode.

[@HonestInjury]

I like the socially aware approach here. I think Catholic women are hard to find for men who are willing to marry. I even feel that while most of us set foot in the snares explained here as men of the Church there are still fewer that can not only repent of personal sins but be down-to-earth enough to examine our societal landscape for the “fixings” of a world that we are easily detached from entirely, let alone worried about our calling enough to learn about and re-socialize. The beginning is right now, men, and there are women who need are of want of us. But remember that nothing we do can speak as loud and as clearly as our deeds. Work together if in spirit the demands of a faithful life and believe in the courage to remain in chastity in case the time comes for us to meet one presented to us along our way!

[@penguinvic4188]

Being a very senior man myself I do not wish to denigrate my fellow younger men but truly young men do not know how to talk to women these days. I’m old and hearing impaired but young women approach me all the time to talk. It took a while for me to work this out. Surely young men would be more to their taste? Why do young female shop assistants wave to me when I walk (shuffle) by? And not to young men? The answer? I’m generally polite !! I always (try) remember their names and address them by their names. I keep conversation brief but cheerful. I always answer their questions? I’m always polite to serving staff and tell them I appreciate their help, etc. Anyway, I’ve noticed young men generally just don’t do this. And they don’t practice anything resembling charm on middle-aged to older women, whereas many young women practice basic social skills on older men !! Possibly without even realising it.

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

No doubt, there is a lack of decorum and etiquette among the youth. The way we talk, dress, etc

[@FortisEquus]

I've noticed most young men today are socially blunted, especially in their interactions with women. I had that problem, and since taking great strides to overcome it, the young women I've interacted with (outside of retail workers) tend to be either quite shy or pleasantly surprised when I do strike up a conversation with them, clearly not expecting it from a younger guy.

[@brooks3376]

This entire video is blaming men for this problem. THAT is the problem. We don’t want Saint Becky the Patron Saint of Born Again Virgins…

[@karlafabon9380]

Entertaining the digital world of lust in a relationship really destructs emotional and spiritual connection and intimacy of a couple. Modern generation may find it boring without pornography and hookup culture, but think of the consequences in the long term. It's hard to be an old soul now a days, they said. But embracing the old soul personality leads to genuine happiness and not temporary pleasure.

[@maxhelvetius544]

How do we get things back in line, Greg?

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

who knows

[@hhsquizbowl]

who knows

[@catholicfemininity2126]

Work on yourselves, and go to FSSP young adult groups... go to confession and pray the Rosary daily. Men have the power to choose women they want to marry.... we women choose who to have sex with, but can't have sex if no man wants to marry you. If a woman shows interest, ask her on a date, if not, then we're not gonna get anywhere.

[@johnobeid67]

Brilliant video! Thanks so much.

[@bieragaino440]

Back to basics? Why is there no more equality between women and men the way it should had been. Was it not there about have a equal friend throughout life form the start. We were created with basic needs from start.

[@lordbaldohomero]

Because you reject them. And ignore them

[@tuckersmith8560]

Based. There's no such thing as a femcel. Only an overly entitled woman impossible to please

[@bobbyhanly3466]

I'm right here. A little past my prime, granted, but if the lady in question has looks, intelligence, a sense of humour, real smile, blue eyes (though green/brown will do at a pinch), daily Mass goer, good cook and a rich Daddy I'd be more than happy to give her a trail run. On a serious note the good men have been taken by the good girls (1% each) and the rest of us are left floundering.

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

Thanks for sharing!

[@francikeen]

@bobbyhanly3466. You are an abusive, vulgar excuse for a faux Christian blow-hard.

[@sir4053]

They're out there. They just don't want us if we aren't at least six foot tall, good looking, white, six figure income blah blah

[@francikeen]

@sir4053 Victim Complex. Excuses for your own lack of social skills.

[@sir4053]

@@francikeen not everything is a victim card. Some people know how to call a spade a spade and not delude themselves you cqn do anything bs. I'm no leftist who's gonna bitch about priviledge and equslity but the fact of the matter is white men have am advantage with women. Most women perfer white men, tall men, men with big dicks, more money. They wait at the finish line and pick the best. Nothing victimhood about facing a brutal reality. The ones who can continue to delude themselves are men who have not yet been severly burned by the game.

[@FortisEquus]

Mhm. Lots will say they just "Want a man who prays the Rosary.", and sadly, the men who do fit that criteria don't realize they're invisible because they don't fit the superficial criteria you outlined. If this weren't the case, then these women wouldn't be marrying outside the Church in such high rates.

[@francikeen]

@@FortisEquus False. No woman "just wants a man who prays the Rosary." You live in a fantasy world. No woman has, or should, make a statement like that! You certainly have a chip on your should against women! Catholic women marry outside the Church because many Catholic young men are drunkards, drug abusers, domestic abusers, egotistical, irresponsible, selfish, gamblers, pornography users or criminals. And for the Mathematical reason that a percentage of Catholic men marry outside the Church. You clearly have resentments against women!

[@bikotheanimator6169]

MIGTAO!!! I'm glad that is the first thing he mentioned. Stay single, men!😁😃

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

If every man state is single, what would that do to society? Men would like largely still be having sex, and children would come from that. Would that be good for the children? And the biggest issue is fornication is a grave sin. So I can’t encourage men to fornicate.

[@AnnulmentProof]

Good video and good point about dowry.

[@blancheb3533]

Very well said!

[@skylinerspencer]

I’m a Catholic teenaged guy and I cannot find a good non-selfish Catholic girl anywhere. It gets really lonely for us guys too! Praying for y’all 🙏

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

I hear you. Thanks for sharing

[@FortisEquus]

I'd like to say it gets better in your 20s, but it doesn't. 😞 Take the next decade to focus on your work, your passions and your relationship with God, while still being involved in your community and making social connections. Take those necessary steps towards building yourself up as a proper Catholic man, with a good and fulfilling life irrespective of whether a woman's part of it, and you may meet a suitable woman yet. In my experience, the Novus Ordo tends to be devoid of single women, and the few I have met are typically single for good reason, so I'd advise going to TLMs at least once in a while to see if there are any faithful single women there.

[@mrleomich]

What about the women in this dating apps, and virtual dating marketplace? The reality is that today the women control the dating marketplace, not the men. Women nowadays, tradcath or not, are in contact with multiple men online, even when they are in contact to a real guy. Invariably women end up opting for playing the field and at the end not only guys get ghosted, as the women end up alone and frustrated !!

[@laimmaculata777]

Newsflash: women aren’t even on the apps, that’s why the guys don’t get any matches. Not because all women are narcs with unrealistic standards. That’s a persecutory delusion to avoid facing the fact that you’re literally on those apps all by yourselves, all alone. Many of the female profiles you seethe at are just bots created by the dating app companies.

[@FortisEquus]

@@laimmaculata777 Some are bots, but I've seen first-hand what the OP's described. My friend, who I met on CM, is currently on there and trying to meet a suitable mate. When one of them asked her if she's in contact with any other men, she lied and said no. Meanwhile she's telling me this as we're holding hands on a walk. Women "playing the field" is a reality today, and many Catholic women aren't above it.

[@NoName-zb1gm]

I met a nice woman in my Church and really thought I found someone but she's divorced and broken and maybe a narcissist. I think she uses me for validation. It doesn't make sense. If you like me giving you attention why won't you go out with me? It's sad women today are making bad decisions and grow old having to live with the consequences.

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

The sad thing is sexual attraction cannot be negotiated. One can't convince someone to see they are a good catch. And if she's a narcissist, it is good thing she isn't interested.

[@NoName-zb1gm]

@@5MinuteCatholicApologetics As Catholics are we really looking for sexual attraction first? It's hard to believe even Catholics want sexual attraction not he or she is nice and attractive placing sexual attraction a little further down the list of wants. No wonder the world is so screwed up. Instant gratification.

[@FortisEquus]

@@NoName-zb1gm It shouldn't be the thing we place above all others, however do bear in mind that if you don't find the woman physically attractive, then odds are you'll grow resentful, neglectful, or otherwise dishonor her at some point in the future. But yes, do avoid narcissistic divorcees like the plague, and if you feel she's using you for validation, trust your gut and get out of there.

[@brooks3376]

You told us you don’t need or want us. So we left. And yet you still think men should be the one’s approaching you…ridiculous.

[@johantrenier1685]

You have to leave your house periodically.

[@tuckersmith8560]

Women don't think logically like that. They only blame and complain

[@manuelsteele7755]

I have been a lifelong Catholic of Generation X and graduated from Notre Dame. I am also a brown Apache Indian. In my younger years, there most definitely was a subtle type of racism (or sometimes blatant) where Catholic women preferred white men. I experienced racism in subtle ways or sometimes harsh ways. One of the most disappointing was as a freshman when I went to meet my date at her dorm at a major Catholic University (ND). As I was waiting, I could hear the vitriolic, racist comments of the white Catholic women inside before my date arrived. There was a 1990s film that showed a racist Catholic teen girl - "Laura" in "The Craft". Their behavior reminded me of that character. After that, I stopped dating on that campus until late in my senior year. Going into my mid 20s, I experienced rejection. I made a last series of attempts as I got older into my 30s - each led to rejection. Meanwhile, the women who ironically wanted to date me the most were usually white Southern Protestant females. Go figure. After all the rejection from Catholic women over many years, I only found dating success with southern white women. I had a blonde southern belle as a girlfriend from Florida State U. I met her at the gym. It really has been a bizarre experience. Whereas I experienced racism or rejection from Catholic females, one of the nicest women in my class at FSU was an Anglican woman from a white southern sorority. To be fair, now that I am older, I went back to an online masters program at St. Mary's College remotely. SMC is part of the ND campus. The modern young Catholic women I met in online courses are definitely not racist like some of those Catholic women from my extreme youth (late 1980s to 1990s). So, my comments are specific to a generation of Catholics that had been actively dating in the young adult realm decades ago. From a religious perspective, I am very glad now that those dating scenarios did not work out. If I had a Catholic wife and family, the COVID-19 pandemic most likely would have been too much stress. I am a biomedical engineer with an MPH. I know too much about pandemic statistics and it would have broken me if I had a wife and children. Either that or the recession of 2008-2010 could have ended a marriage. Since I am religious, I do know there is karma. One of the Catholic women who dumped me for another guy wound up divorced years later. She is now almost 50 and lost the extreme beauty of her youth with single motherhood status. The days of dumping young men left-and-right with hypergamy are now over. Many of those "unapproachable" Catholic women who were rude or elitist have aged with gray hair, wrinkles, etc. A Catholic priest had said to my theology class at ND that we would all someday get old. His point was that the elitism of some (not all) youth based on appearance doesn't last. He was right.

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

I do appreciate your sharing your story.

[@manuelsteele8030]

​@@5MinuteCatholicApologetics I must point out that the comments above are in the context of the 1980s and 1990s at my undergraduate Catholic college and subsequent experiences of Catholic dating in Florida in the early 2000s. By contrast, last weekend I went back to Notre Dame and graduated with a master's degree I had earned online at St. Mary's College for data science. In the 90s, SMC had been all female. But by about 2016 the graduate programs went coed. The school is still mostly female though. I marched with cap and gown with the mostly young female students. The modern, young Catholic females of 2023 are very polite and welcoming. I had a great experience in meeting the new generation of students at SMC. The valedictorian's speech was awesome. So, the modern experience of graduating at SMC helped counter the negative experiences with racism decades ago at ND. The commencement was awesome. SMC has a great community of young students who are progressive and very devout as Catholics. Now that I am back in AZ, I miss the ND/SMC campus and the people. Times have changed compared to the racial tension I had experienced in the late 80s and early 90s.

[@francikeen]

It's not racism for a woman to prefer a man of her own race. That's called "birds of a feather flock together." It looks to me like you are the racist, throwing your resentments at whites.

[@Sinistercabbage]

Funny, there is NOT a single young catholic woman (18-to late twenties) in my church! Few guys but not a single woman. At a friend's protestant church, similar situation few guys and maybe an odd girl....

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

I hear ya. They are true unicorns

[@FortisEquus]

Same case here. I notice many cradle Catholic girls mysteriously disappear from Church come the college years, only for some to come back "ready to settle down" in their 30s... and they may or may not have a couple Werther's babies in tow. 😉

[@sedevecantististhetruth9578]

And I think the biggest problem is just there’s no masculine men around. And you can see this played out on television. You can also see it played out in KZbin and Podcasts. How many “reawaken your masculinity” Stuff are there for men? Tons because it’s a major problem today.

[@dmitirikolyma441]

I love quoting that divorce stat about women initiating divorce to my family and friends. they are shocked by it!

[@penelopebrown4083]

it is true. looked it up

[@antonmansten826]

me too!

[@mariacelesteacosta1500]

i was shcoked until I saw it

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

yes!

[@pammedd5931]

agree

[@frederiquecouture3924]

Big Brother...

[@JordanLewis-jl6sk]

Wow. Very bleak. It sounds almost impossible.

[@hhsquizbowl]

#BeChaste

[@penelopebrown4083]

amen!

[@maxhelvetius544]

amen

[@alonzodejalisco1440]

so hard

[@antonmansten826]

flesh is weak!

[@cristobalcacereslonga8143]

yes

[@TRACTS4JESUS]

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[@feralandroid]

The opposite is going on at my Orthodox Church. Lots of single young men coming of their own accord, but hardly any young women. Is there a reason women prefer Catholic and men prefer Orthodox? Would be an interesting discussion.

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

Catholic church has 1.2 Billion so I would not say "men prefer Orthodox." It is a smaller group and as such you will find smaller group of women. Catholicism is large so it is a question of numbers.

[@feralandroid]

@@5MinuteCatholicApologetics I concede that its too small a sample size to make a statement of preference. I just meant percentage wise there are more single young men coming to the Orthodox churches then single young women. But it is a very small percentage of overall population in the west. I don't go to Catholic church (although my 2 teenage boys do) so I was just basing my comment on what you said. Peace.

[@jefffinkbonner9551]

Just a guess, but it might have to do with the Orthodox largely retaining their traditional liturgical worship, which intrinsically takes itself seriously, so men see it as something worth giving their lives to. Traditional Catholicism does the same, but the vast majority of Catholic parishes these days are stuck in the tacky, modern modes of the 70s which are very effeminate and repulsive to masculine men.

[@francikeen]

@@jefffinkbonner9551 tacky, weak, illiterate men wrongly presume that anything sinful is feminine/effeminate. That's because you egomaniac boys are blinded by pride and say masculine = good, but feminine/effeminate = bad. #LearnVocabulary. The Novus Ordo Mass is still male dominated, you liar. And it's not at all effeminate, nor feminine. Bad man hate anything feminine, so you call everything you don't like as feminine or effeminate, same difference. Egomaniac boys! The Eastern Orthodox customs are bad and have been bad for several centuries. Orthodox use leavened bread for Eucharist, so not valid. Orthodox have Caesaropapism, which is corrupt. Orthodox allowed divorce and remarriage long before Roman Catholics started rubber stamping annulments. Many Orthodox and Arian nations fell to Islam. Roman Catholics stopped Islam at Tours France, reconquered Spain, and the Battle of Lepanto.

[@karlheven8328]

@@jefffinkbonner9551 My TLM parish ia full of women. Can not generalize

[@johnfernandes6541]

We need a matrimonial agency/ website for staunch catholics

[@5MinuteCatholicApologetics]

Catholic Match and some others are okay

[@FortisEquus]

Ehh... dating sites encourage men and women alike to form checklists and effectively objectify the opposite sex. Not to mention the terrible disparity of there being several men for each woman, and the woman being inclined to choose or reject a suitor based on superficial characteristics ("His eyes look funny.") rather than content of his character (which a dating profile doesn't effectively convey) thanks to her being flooded with options. Spend enough time on dating apps and you're left with lots of dejected men and narcissistic women. What we really need is in-person Catholic communities again, giving men and women opportunities to meet face-to-face and get to know each other without the anonymity and superficiality the Internet fosters. At present, those opportunities are far and few between.

[@pancrasbanda4771]

I feel like divorces have destroyed our mentality on marriage more especially our age. Marriage has to be the center of everything. An apple in the tree is an apple in the hand. Marrying a right gal will be the greatest achievement for me coz that's where everything starts🙏

[@ModalSoul]

Yes, divorces have encouraged rapid whoredom and the bible states Leviticus 19:29 “Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.” Marriage is a seperate union, where 2 people become 1 in the spirit. We are in the last days, so the wicked will love to destroy this not because they can, but because God has written it from the beginning to be so! Because God can! The only way to avoid it is to fear, reverance, respect, honour, follow, pay attention to, know, and obey God. This divorce shyt has only been rampant the last 50 years! In the 1950s it was disgraceful in american society to be a single mother. Times have changed because we are in the last days

[@francikeen]

@@ModalSoul Easy divorce has also encouraged men to degrade themselves into promiscuity, gross selfishness, pornography, drunkenness, drug abuse, domestic abuse, gambling, adultery, and criminality. It was not "disgraceful" to be a single mother in the 1950's and 1960's. You are lying to insult women because you are a misogynist. But their ex-husbands were so disgraceful... they disappeared... sometimes literally. You have a hateful attitude towards women. You need to examine your guilty conscience.

[@jefffinkbonner9551]

No-fault divorce laws have also made civil marriage a major liability for men. It’s basically a way to potentially loose half your stuff plus be moreso on the hook for alimony. Of course that’s a very base and somewhat cynical view of marriage, and we as Catholics should have a much greater understanding and paradigm of it. But that legal/ financial aspect does undergird how many in the wider society view it.

[@francikeen]

@@jefffinkbonner9551 MEN designed, promoted and passed No-Fault Divorce Laws, starting in CA in 1969, BEFORE there were many women lawyers, legislators or governors. Then the predominately male American Bar Association promoted No-Fault Divorce to all 50 states. *No-Fault Divorce covers-up for the spouse who violates the marriage contract with the common male vices like: drunkenness, drug abuse, domestic abuse, neglect, gambling, pornography, adultery and criminality.* Prior to 1969, either spouse had to cite a grave fault to even submit a divorce petition. Statistically, after divorce, the average ex-husband has a higher standard of living and the ex-wife has a lower standard of living. So marriage is a huge risk for women. But you only care about yourself and men. That is what is wrong with American men. The modern American man loves men and despises women, like you do. You only care about men to the point of lying. Marital property is divided 50/50. *Most wives work outside the home,* so she also paid for that property you *falsely* claim is his. Men are so greedy, they even lie to play victim. You are also lying about alimony. Alimony is rare and temporary. And it is only paid, for a few years, and in the few cases where the ex-husband's income is dramatically higher than the ex-wife's income: dramatically, not slightly. And palimony laws apply to ex-wives, whose income is dramatically higher than her ex-husband's. Examples include Sandra Bullock, who was forced to pay palimony., even though her husband was having an affair. Same with Kelly Clarkson. But you continue to dishonestly play your male VICTIM CARD. Men pushed No-Fault Divorce. Yet men blame women for divorce... even when the husband provokes the divorce with anti-social behavior. And Catholic divorce rates are only 2 percentage points lower than Protestant divorce rates. (43% Catholic divorce rate and 45% Protestant divorce rate) So Catholic men are just as selfish as Protestant men. You are a good example of that.

[@davelaz5582]

I did my best to be a faithful Catholic man. I was a virgin when married at age 30 as was my late wife. We married at age 30 and had two sons. My wife died 9 years ago on January 14, 2014. After experiencing the loss of a spouse, I can't encourage anyone to marry because it will eventually end in death. Looking back, I would have rather never married, never had sex, never had children and never experienced the loss of spouse through death. All the happiness of my 26 years of marriage does not outweigh the pains of the loss of spouse through death.

[@KeiPyn24]

Brother, I too lost my wife of 6 years on Jan 1 2015. Sadly we were heading toward divorce. She suddenly died if a pulmonary embolism. I decided to marry again 2 years later. My children from the first marriage were affected by the lose and change. After much counseling my 2nd wife filed for divorce. Presently going through Church annulment. It's hard to maintain frame and be the spiritual head of the family. Especially with feminist women. May God give you the grace to grow and heal.

[@nicoleackerman205]

You don't care about your two kids who are still here though that it was worth it for you to be a father.

[@jefffinkbonner9551]

I can’t speak to that level of pain and loss, but all of life will involve suffering and pain; it is inescapable. In fact, a life of comfort and always in fear of anything that could cause pain and suffering will ultimately be a meaningless and stale life because you never would have committed to anything. You can’t get anywhere in a poker game always holding and folding. The cross of Christ is the hope and promise that all suffering can be redeemed. Christ is with you in your sufferings!

[@KeiPyn24]

@@jefffinkbonner9551 Truth

[@francikeen]

@@KeiPyn24 You wrecked your first and second marriages... yet you blame women/feminism. Typical weak ego lazy man, with no responsibility, only blame.

[@oregonghost3226]

i respect you becoming a female aka trans.. but be front with males, they are looking for females, not crossing lines on people religions.