3 Secrets I Keep From My Wife (Marriage Advice, Or Crazy Idea?!)

[@wacawaca3]

You’re one of the most respectable men I’ve seen on the internet. Keep up the hard work, I’m sure it’s improving the world. God bless you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I appreciate that, thank you. I'll keep this work coming. Thanks for your support.

[@Foxie770]

This is the BEST advice for men I’ve ever heard on the internet. Husbands and future husbands: listen up and man up! It’s so critical for both men and women to grow and transcend the limitations of our society and childhood. That is the ONLY way that we can repair things and create a stable, moral world again!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you, I'm glad this was valuable for you!

[@carmenbryan-gregory8813]

I'm a woman and this has basically summed up and put into words why my marriage failed. My husband did all these things. I think I now understand more of what was so wrong and unhealthy in our relationship. Everything you described is what my husband did and of course, I would respond in a terrible way. I was basically the way you described the wife responds in the first example.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm sorry to hear this. It's good that you recognize how he was not upholding his responsibility in the home or as a leader. How are you doing now with identifying when a man is the right fit for this role?

[@vital.elements]

Ditto 🖤

[@jasontoddchampion]

I share when I have fear. But I still push through it, because fear is the mindkiller. I think it's an even better strategy because the courage in moving forward is apparent and we both share in the victory and its accompanying meaning. Admitting to fear is a form of strength IMO. The rest is definitely solid advice, and the "withholding criticism" part took me a LONG time to learn. Negativity is not useful or helpful, and the "fear and outrage for eyeballs" media is not making anything better. Also to add to the whole "masculine protector" thing... that means not being a gun nut. That's a form of fear/paranoia/cowardice and it makes others insecure/nervous, rather than feeling safe around you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Pushing through the fear and being solution-focused is a great approach. Sharing under that condition is not a problem, that's being vulnerable instead of being unreliable.

[@1111fairy]

@@AttachmentAdamyes i came here to say i dont want him to keep a secret about his fear. I want him to feel comfortable opening up bcuz sometimes i know something is off and might be more scared bcuz idk what the problem is. But absolutely agree with pushing through with courage and being solutions focused and growth minded and building an outside support system.

[@MartaHobzova]

I would for sure rather have talks about relationship and future as a couple than about TV news and outside stuff we can't influence.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I figure that would be the case. Thanks for sharing!

[@karhukoira]

I would also say courage won't survive without love. Because to act courageously, you need a reason to do it. So courage and love need each other.

[@vital.elements]

Excellent guidance! Emotional regulation and composure are necessary to act as a metronome and transmit calm control in the face of stress and chaos. One caveat, women, like children, know when there's something going on below the surface. Creating a clearly designated space to vent or discuss issues with her is probably better than leaving her to wonder. Women can dream up every bad thing possible and suffer imagination and worry more than any actual reality.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Correct, the goal is not to gaslight anyone but to prevent that constant stress from filtering in where it's not productive. Always give context when asked, just keep it productive.

[@Christina-pp2fx]

This is exactly what i have been requesting!!! Keep the outside fear crap out of here!!!! Yes!!!! Thank you!!! Took the words right out of my mouth!

[@david9920]

I am a person who stopped watching the news because I haven't eney control over happening 24/7 news feed as Doom porn I can influence only the things in my sounding I love what you are telling us about gently guide and lead with Love and gently give of time and tolerance and use moment like that to build more intimacy ❤

[@AttachmentAdam]

Describing it that way - that's a great description.

[@ca5htronaut]

Simply phenomenal. Keep up the amazing work Adam. Every man needs to hear this

[@jenniferhobbs2719]

You're protective of your wife.. that's wonderful. It's scary out here these days. Our city had 3 tornados touch down yesterday.

[@justinbhim809]

Wow great video! Very good information, will utilize this in my life. 👊

[@joansandeen9443]

Amazing advice! Thank you, so insightful!! I'm so glad I found your podcast!

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm glad you're here, and that you're finding value!

[@SaurabhX-c3q]

Hi Adam. You’re doing great work and I appreciate you for sharing this much needed knowledge and also I admire you for the courage of speaking the truth openly something that gives me strength to speak the truth myself. I have love and respect for you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I appreciate that! Thanks for your support, and I'm glad to have you here with us on this journey.

[@Detour-2002]

Hey I’ve just got punched in the gut with the things you mentioned in this content. I have attachment issues however this is a problem with sharing my fears with anyone, I allow fear to enter my home and family. I could look at this a way of life and do nothing still or I can do something to improve the the stability, safety and compassion to my family. I am grateful for all you do. Thank you Adam. Be well and be safe… 👍

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for sharing! This fear is conquerable, and having friends you can trust to keep you steady during your darker times is crucial.

[@tyler6god]

This pretty much summarized all that I have learned that I did wrong in my previous relationship. I truly believed, and still believe, I brought a lot to the table and was the best guy she'll ever find... however!, these traits were not up to the standard of which I would have required of myself had I had known of their importance. Adam, again, stud! When my next relationship (as much as I am individually about to) flourishes, I will be unbelievably grateful, just as I currently am for my individual improvement.

[@alisonnoscoe3776]

future as a couple ... future as a family ... always!!

[@TTFWELLNESS]

Future as a couple and personal development nothing about the outside news! This is dope Adam

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad this sounds like the loving approach!

[@Phoenix-lc7jv]

I wish I had found this teacher a long time ago. What he teaches is so spot on. Other people teach these things but he is someone your typical man would listen to.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey thank you, I am glad to provide this information and guidance to people who need it.

[@jjp1978]

As a woman, I love this ❤

[@maricelaortiz7363]

I'm a new to your channel I enjoy this content very informative I have learn a lot not married yet Im taking notes 😊💯🙌🙏 thank you

[@jcqwater8713]

God bless you Adam, God bless your work!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you, I appreciate that!

[@flash12319]

Great video!!! Very accurate information

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad it was helpful!

[@ayyaanalim8323]

Adam. As always, thank you for responding to these comments people have. I'm sure it must take a lot of time out of your day. Your work has helped many people, all over the world. I hope to spread and use this knowledge you have provided to us well and spread the word and info about your youtube channel, to the degree that I can. I hope to one day be able to pay back the value you provide, in some way. As a young guy right now, but an aspiring entrepreneur. I've always wondered about this video. When you talk about hiding your fears from a girl it honestly sounds like you can't be fully yourself around women or our wives. I'm a fearful guy. I can usually solve most problems, but I am scared of people related things. Sometimes I'd like to share that. I might even have solutions, but sometimes I'll still have fear. And being able to share that without the fear that my wife will run away if I let her know about the things that I worry about... This advice almost feels contradictory to the idea of sharing your heart or being yourself around her. Any advice?

[@AttachmentAdam]

Keep in mind the goal here is not to hide things. It’s to discipline yourself so you’re not collapsing into fear. Thats the goal whether she’s around to see it or not. So it could be said that a good woman is a motivating force to make a man into a better version of himself.

[@ayyaanalim8323]

Thanks! I shared this channel with a few friends also suffering from anxiety!

[@hspinnovators5516]

Healthy women avoid the news too. We know our worry and stress would be a burden to our husband. Focus on our home and immediate communities first then it will ripple out.

[@1111fairy]

I dont avoid it but i do limit it. And i definitely keep my solutions to my own domain of impact like myself, family, friends, community, social media, work.

[@therealsagekitty]

I am a woman who love to talk about worldly news… I understand men don’t want to bring fear to the family I agree, but I think after talking with friends and calmed down no matter you found a solution or not, I think you should tell your wife. I think women are the help is built to step up if needed. Not saying to step up into a leader role, but to step up to preparing to mitigate the risk with her man.

[@1111fairy]

Yes we WANT to help. We want to contribute.

[@fightgar13]

Hi Adam, I really appreciate that you’re willing to reply to everyone despite the number of people you reach. I’ve known for a while that I’m pretty avoidant for a while, but I’m realizing that doesn’t mean I know how to fix it. Probably within the last year or so when ever I’m in a potentially intimate situation, I have something like the psychological equivalent of someone blasting an air horn continuously right next to my head and every instinct in me is screaming to get out of there. I’d really appreciate any tips for how to actively work on that.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey there, thanks for trusting me enough to share this. I know that can be a challenge. Sounds like ongoing avoidant fear and that can be very common, but it also can keep you alienated from others. What steps have you taken so far to work on this? I've got a video series of 5 videos on avoidant men on my channel now, some of my newest vids, that should help a lot with clarity.

[@angmori172]

When you started ranting about learning skills together I was expecting a segue into "today's sponsor being Skillshare" or something similar. Or Raid Shadowlegends.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Ha!

[@kathrynallofwhoyouare7645]

Loved this.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear that!

[@Coalition4NewerVision]

Adding onto my other comment, how does the keeping fears from her align with the things you’ve said about how to be vulnerable with a woman? Is it all fears you should keep or just certain ones? How about if you share but are solution focused as you’ve said before? Or share your fears but also share your progress and courage in the face of them

[@AttachmentAdam]

Being vulnerable and being an unreliable mess are two different things, and the difference is often in viewing the situation from a solution-focused angle instead of acting hopeless.

[@iohannesfactotum]

I tried to bring in the classics Plato's Symposium was probably not the best first choice

[@andrewkain7518]

My back up plan to manage emotions when stress level is high is taking a walk. Ol' Hippocrates was right. But if i have the time, i like doing some kind of sport, ideally in nature like snowboarding. I'd like to hear some other solutions that people have found to lower stress so that we can be calm around our loved ones.

[@AttachmentAdam]

That sounds like a solid plan! I’m curious to hear what others do as well.

[@positivel5530]

Wow! How does one attract a man with your values 😍

[@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp]

*Now* you're talking! The story you tell of your friend with the stressful job: that's what *presiding* over a family looks like. That's leadership. Masculinity is *virtue* which men have the responsibility to aspire to. If a man shirks that, he might think he's being authentic or enlightened or whatever, but he's generally wallowing in vice. When I was in my 20s I thought that my wife would appreciate me for being "not like other men," that women wanted marriage to be a deep intimate connection with a man as a unique human being, and that my lack of masculinity meant that I would be better at connecting without the distracting affectation of toughness that made most men tiresome to women. Oh, I was so proud to be better than that. I thought that I should be able to share my authentic self and my inner experiences with a woman, and she would welcome that as a liberation, that she would love me as a man who was evolved to the next step. I can see now how detrimental that attitude was to a good marriage, and I've been working to correct it. This means giving up on the delusions I had imbibed about what marriage was supposed to be, i.e. a place where I could be myself and "be known." Yes, this means keeping quiet, even if my prolonged silences annoy my wife, because I want to make sure that when I tell her about challenges, I'm ready to present solutions. This is why I want to throw tomatoes whenever I hear people talk about men being "vulnerable" or even "emotional available" with women. No! As a man you can't afford the luxury of allowing yourself to be open and authentic with your feelings and with what's going on inside, in the presence of your wife or children. Men who try to follow that advice are the ones who become burdensome and despicable to women. They may become abusive as well: a man who presumes to express his feelings freely at home is susceptible to feeling entitled to demanding his family's attention to his feelings. He is vulnerable to the incentive to become emotionally volatile and manipulative. But all this masculine virtue - this performance that a man ought to keep up with his wife - to me it means that the attachment that makes for a good, stable marriage between a man and woman is radically different from the attachment that makes for a mutually safe, intimate friendship.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Masculine leadership is the goal here, yes, so long as everyone in the system is onboard with that being what they want. If it is, this system can help things stay stable.

[@Stukkeman]

Men: Be healthy masculine. Progress towards that. That’s it.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Basically yes, with clear steps.

[@chabonazo0]

I don't agree. I don't think being unable to share fears with your wife is a satisfactory relationship for me. I do agree with the third point though.

[@AttachmentAdam]

How about the second point?

[@chabonazo0]

@@AttachmentAdam Yes, I also agree with the second point. I think it is very important. It is extremely tough though.

[@florentcouturier7465]

Hi Adam ; how to conciliate the postmodern culture with what i interpret here as a form of the traditionnal role of a man? Another way to ask simply : when as a man can we let express our feminine side whitout losing the "countainer" we're supposed to provide and stand for ? Be the shield as well as the wand to follow the analogy ? Thanks for your precious insights

[@AttachmentAdam]

It’s definitely tricky for men to walk this line. Keep in mind that masculine energy can take many forms. A man doesn’t have to step into his feminine to soften his approach - he can switch from directing to guiding but stay in a masculine role. Maturity is about embracing this and learning to read the needs of others so you can respond without losing the masculine center.

[@florentcouturier7465]

@@AttachmentAdam A wonderful conversation in perspective when i will be able to reach you directly. Thanks !

[@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp]

Men can get together to make time and space to express either our feminine sides or the parts of our maleness that women don't understand or like. Just don't fall for the lies of women saying they like men who express their feelings.

[@florentcouturier7465]

@@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp vulnerability isn't a lie. It seems for me having the opposite effect - to a real and authentic sharing rather than seek for validation. But i consider both of your perspectives.

[@deathmeister9452]

She knows now if she watches your videos 😂😅😂

[@AttachmentAdam]

Haha, fair point! Honesty is the best policy, right? Thanks for watching! 😄

[@Stargazing482]

Can you also speak about good ways women can encourage different behavior in men

[@AttachmentAdam]

Definitely, I've got some videos on this earlier on the channel.

[@ConceptHut]

This doesnt seem to align with the findings john gottmans studies show. Hiding yourself from your partner seems like a fast way to destroy emotion connection. Maybe we in the comments are not interpreting your statements as you intend. Also this video seems contrary to other videos youve made. Did you change your mind on things?

[@AttachmentAdam]

This video in particular deals with the struggles of leadership and not frightening those under your leadership unduly with irrational fears or frustrations. And I took pains to specify this is not about hiding important facts or refusing vulnerability, but preserving peace of mind as the leader.

[@dkartzinel]

Such excellent advice, I have had to tell young married men quite a few times to hold stuff back, especially when it comes to critiquing efforts made in good faith. My wife and I use the Bug Report from Big Bang Theory - we do bug reports so we can negotiate how it would be better next time, rather than condemning what happened this time.

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is an awesome approach. I also encourage couples I coach to do weekly checkins on how the relationship itself is doing and then spot-check issues together. 👍

[@giank.5373]

Could you do a video on fear of rejection? I want to talk with girls but the fear that they will dislike and reject me holds me on with fear, what should i do?

[@AttachmentAdam]

I have a fear of rejection video early, PLUS a whole ebook on how to fix it. You can find it here: adam-smith.mykajabi.com/mastering-your-fear-of-rejection

[@giank.5373]

@@AttachmentAdam thanks for being so atentive adam!

[@Coalition4NewerVision]

I really liked this video, and appreciate it! You should keep doing more self improvement for men like this along with the other stuff you usually do! Also you should maybe go into the nuance sometimes like when it comes to the protecting from the outside world. Is it more of just the dark and gruesome or horrible things we should keep from them? Or maybe the types of things that connect with the first thing on the list, what causes us fear? When it comes to my career aspirations as a young man I want to be a writer and journalist/ activist when it comes to things like political, corporate and institutional (like religious & media institutions etc) and cultural corruption and I do talk about solutions and better ways for things to be done, like principles and philosophy, organizations that are good, and new ways to live and thrive which obviously I can share but if someone doesn’t know the problem they won’t care about the solution. Also I would want to be able to talk about my passions with my partner. Would I just want to keep those horrible or gruesome things from her as I said before while also being solution focused? Should I just ask her how much she wants to know and what she’s interested in, or take the initiative to decide that for her? Obviously sometimes I will decide for her what I don’t want to share with her for her own peace of mind, but what about the more moderate or grey area, less extreme things? Shouldn’t she have some understanding of the world and what her partner is into and does so she can understand the world and her partner and appreciate and respect what they do?

[@AttachmentAdam]

It might be good to have a discussion with your partner about that topic expressly and ask what they prefer, and thus help set up a relationship that works for both of you!

[@g.r.s5200]

Hi I've just been told by my wife about three weeks ago. That's she wants a divorce could of done with videos few mouths ago. Nevermind try to work out were to go from here. Thank you for the contain

[@AttachmentAdam]

I am sorry to hear this. I am glad you have this information for now and the future with whatever comes next. Let me know how I can help you along your journey.

[@g.r.s5200]

@@AttachmentAdam thank you for the reply Adam greatly appreciated. 🙏

[@Claframb]

My job doesn't know I have a wife, and my wife doesn't know I have a job. I keep my personal and professional life completely separate.

[@redemptionhappens7725]

That’s a good way to become a scapegoat. You need to at least be friendly. I’m friends with everyone including the environmental services staff. I remember everyones names and thank them. There is a quote from ancient times that’s something like for my friends everything for the rest the law.

[@Claframb]

I have a secret family on the other side of the country. That's the only detail I keep from my wife. You gotta compartmentalize bruh.@@redemptionhappens7725

[@AttachmentAdam]

Ha, great reference.

[@Phoenix-lc7jv]

That’s what manly men do.

[@jenniferhobbs2719]

That makes no sense.

[@danladd4764]

I'm sorry but imm bump heads with you on this one Adam 1. Nope, when I'm stressed or afraid, she is gunna know it. Bc she is my partner, she is my battle buddy. I want her to be exactly as resilient as I am. If it effects her this way I don't want it 2. I don't derive emotions from the media and external world I would expect she does the same for her self. Yes, she is a fully operational adult that's can filter her self 3. This is where I preach acceptance first there is no reason to beat some one up EVER. I dint dish it to them bc I don't want it dished to me. Again she is an adult and she can make and fix her own mistakes

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey Dan - Sounds like you're not looking to build a traditional relationship here, which is probably the disconnect! This video is built for people looking for that traditional feel of the masculine partner leading the way.

[@mokshalani8414]

I definitely want to hear about our future together waaaaay more than the dismal global trajectory I do want to know his thoughts on that too, sure, but the space he puts in his time for me & us is far more gratifying

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is awesome feedback, thank you!

[@TheMagpie4Real]

I guess that depends on the woman and her personality. I don't doubt that this is true for you (and thanks for sharing 😊), but it isn't true for me. I explained myself and why I'm saying this in the post I made before reading your comment.

[@PostMillMan]

So basically talk to your wife like she’s the oldest teenager in the house

[@AttachmentAdam]

I’ve heard that before, but no, not like that.

[@deveugene7]

Sigh. Feels like I've been doing everything wrong for 20 years.

[@AttachmentAdam]

How so?

[@Eclectic8]

Umm... Good stuff. Thanks. It's all good food for thought and, I suspect, the advice as presented is probably quite adequate within the limited cultural sphere of men most attracted to this channel. There may be a more flexible and nuanced outlook. (First, for a good hint at where I'm going with this, please refer to the incredibly valuable debate on the Psychacks channel between the ever-eloquent Orion and his guest, the OG, Alexander Grace. Note in particular towards the end how Grace challenges Orion on his relative rigidity around sharing vulnerability with a spouse.) To me, all these suggestions apply equally to both sexes. But the safe space we hold for each other should not need to be so carefully circumscribed when we're alone together, i.e. versus with the children. Yes, there are gender differences, but respecting those doesn't need rigid rules. Away from the kids, I should be able to admit fear and her anger (and vice versa). Gender-wise, more often it will end up being her alerted by my admission of anger to both a legitimate concern as well as an opportunity to temper my response. The inverse applies to her admissions of fear. Both of us need always stay solution-oriented and neither should be about over-reacting to, wallowing in our projecting those feelings on the other. Versus "masculine" or "feminine," that's just called being mature. (On that note, the last thing I want is a spouse [or child, for that matter] who is lulled into thinking I never feel fear who, for example, might diss my duty as protector by recklessly inviting physical conflict when out in public.) I know this might seem frustrating complex or paradoxical for some, but either spouse will feel safest when they're sure that the other can and will responsibly express fear or anger while at the same time not needing/expecting the other to solve it (versus just listen). Again, men will less often be aware of fear and women of anger; but neither need shield the other from these emotions like they're a child. Just presenting one slightly alternate take ...

[@AttachmentAdam]

Its possible we share an outlook here - my goal in this video was not to lead to suppressing information entirely and keeping a partner in the dark, but shielding them from excessive displays of instability if they are relying on the male partner for safety and stability. Does that make sense?

[@Eclectic8]

@@AttachmentAdam Totally! Consideration appreciated. (Also, looking back, I'm "afraid" 😋 I qualified some of my statements with potentially alienating intros. 🤔)

[@ConceptHut]

Authenticity and transparency... but keep your thoughts and feelings a secret? Very confused how those two things go together. Hiding business and health concerns and struggles from your wife sounds very strange...

[@AttachmentAdam]

Watch the video again and look at how I handled these exact objections.

[@ConceptHut]

@@AttachmentAdam I had. I believe either you are communicating something not healthy or didn't articulate precisely enough to see otherwise without a bias enabling that.

[@deryeoman5013]

On reflection i think i would have preferred this to be 3 seperate videos. Number 1 is quite demoralising if its not unpacked a lot more than it was here.

[@AttachmentAdam]

🤔 What about that part felt demoralizing to you?

[@Foxie770]

Wow, I don’t think so at all. No woman wants a beta man who worries and complains like a weak sister. Women want strength and leadership from their husband.

[@deryeoman5013]

@@AttachmentAdam the complaints of the redpill guys stem from cultural distortions surrounding relationships. They're struggling, they want support, they've been told and they expect to get that support from their girl, they make themselves vulnerable and bang, betrayal. You can't talk about this without framing the whole thing properly for them. 1) people are supposed to get support from multiple relationships in a community not just one, because 2) just as you can't ask your best friend for sex, you can't ask your girl/wife for this. 3)if you feel this need to talk to someone here's what to do etc etc... If you don't cover the bases then it's all just 'blue pill thinking' another white knight loading men down with more thankless burdens.

[@MtBrendor]

Thanks for the video Adam, have seen many videos and this is my first time posting. I agree with the poster that this felt demoralizing - feels like it means i can't share my worries and fears with my life partner. Is that true? That i wont be able to look for emotional support from them when things are hard?

[@redemptionhappens7725]

This guy gets it.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad this one resonated with you!

[@i.q.1979]

Very good video.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you. 👍

[@Stargazing482]

We definitely don’t give a damn about world news 😂 Listen to him guys

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for the feedback!

[@Cyrus-sw9sw]

Hello. Do you think a relationship needs unconditional respect for the husband? I mean that the wife should be submissive whatsoever

[@AttachmentAdam]

I do not believe anyone should be stuck in a relationship where they are forced to be submissive regardless of how they are treated.

[@krisb5695]

Well this channel has changed since I watched last. Yikes

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey, not a fan of this video?

[@krisb5695]

@@AttachmentAdam not even a little bit and news flah say a woman barks orders is calling her a dog I doubt adam from 1 yr ago would have said that

[@jacktaylor1801]

Since you asked...no wonder I'm single. First one: The thought of being with a man who hides his fears makes me want to vomit. I have never been a child or a mental midget who needs coddling. I'm the one you WANT to brainstorm with. I solve problems. If a man won't tell me, I assume he's about to screw it up and I just added another problem to solve on my plate. No thanks. Second one: No really, tell me about clown world news so I can filter out what it means for the family. No, you're not "worrying my pretty little head" you're giving me data to shore up OUR defenses. But keep crappy "entertainment" out. Gross. I already do that, too. No disagreement on that one. Third one: it's always nice to acknowledge hard work while getting your needs met.

[@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp]

Have you ever been with a man who does not hide his fears? Who expresses them without moderation? Would that reassure you that he's not about to screw it up?

[@jacktaylor1801]

@@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp yes I have and yes it did.

[@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp]

@@jacktaylor1801 Right.

[@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp]

@@jacktaylor1801 So you don't need coddling. But you don't want to have to deal with a man's failures either. Don't you see? These amount to more or less the same thing. An antagonistic attitude in a woman of "don't try to coddle me!" should be a clear signal to any man that if he lets her see too much of what he's dealing with, she will charge him with either incompetence, or oppression: adding more to her emotional labor, etc. That's why competent men know not to share too much with a woman.

[@jacktaylor1801]

@@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp Failure after communicating and trying a solution happens. The failure sucks, but it's not damaging to the relationship. Failure resulting from lack of communication and therefore the other person's input is. And yes I have a low tolerance for incompetence.

[@i.q.1979]

All you did was confirm almost all the red pill talking points, yet you clown it.

[@deryeoman5013]

The problem with the red pill is it's framing. It acts like the inherent nature of women makes them evil and justifies exploitative behaviour. If you starve your dog it will eventually attack you, this doesn't make dogs inherently bad.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Do you believe that redpill invented authentic masculine leadership?

[@AttachmentAdam]

Do you believe that redpill invented authentic masculine leadership?

[@AttachmentAdam]

Correct. Claiming authentic masculine leadership as a redpill invention and pretending the fearmongering doesn’t also exist… wrong.

[@D0land0_94]

There are cornels of truth in the redpill, but just as Adam says, the redpill didn't invent these things, it perverts them.

[@mostbeautifulbelovedgarden]

Future as a couple!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear it!