Modern Dating: The Sad Truth About Modern Dating in 2023 | Adam Lane Smith

[@angiel.2944]

Adam, this is 100% correct. It makes so much sence and I feel that just by listening to all of this already makes my feminine energy flourish. Thank you so much for your content.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Great to hear! I've got a lot more like this coming real soon, so stay tuned.

[@MeghanDonnellyIPY]

Yes this is correct! Thank you!

[@jenniejiang5251]

I want a man who protects and provides, but sadly, i can hardly find any true protector/provider nowadays...

[@mimid9175]

BTW…I agree 100% with you. I truly appreciate your platform of truth.

[@arminxvs3372]

Facts!

[@AttachmentAdam]

🔥

[@anders2540]

Im 31. i am a physician and in a very solid financial position. I have been dating for the last 2 yrs trying to find a good long term partner. Even though i have been emotionally available and providing them with stability, trust and security they (espacially the last one i dated) have said they dont fall in love with me. They like me and loved the time we spent together but still end up breaking up with me saying they couldnt fall in love with me. Its really frustrating and im tempted to give up on finding love

[@AttachmentAdam]

I unfortunately hear this a lot from male clients, and there are usually 2 specific reasons this happens. I'll be happy to talk with you about solutions if you want to email me at [e-mail], we should be able to correct this

[@michellegirau8136]

I will have to say Adam 100% right. There has been many times I have regretted my decision on my life partner. I HATE having to be masculine because my husband just complains about a job where he's at home every otherday. He always says he cannot wait until he doesn't have to work ever but also cannot wait for my job to start. He also doesn't do handy work if somethings broke in the house its staying that way.

[@YvetteInnerGrowth]

"ROMANCE SPRINGS FROM THE BALANCE" ... We need to create a dance of masculine and feminine...Buliding a shelter in commited relationship ❤

[@DeplorableJoe]

You’re absolutely right, Adam. Women do want to feel safe, loved and protected by their man. Right up until the moment they don’t. Then all you can legally do is watch them walk away! Romance isn’t dead commitment is.

[@PeteMD]

Best and most realistic comment here

[@steph6109]

If a woman walks away its because she doesn't feel safe around you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

You believe this is all women?

[@YvetteInnerGrowth]

"Men, today are afraid to be men...man try to be nice boys or bad boys. Masculinity is the embracing responsibility. Bad boys rejecting all accountability, nice boys earning approval ...Women today doesn't feel safe...Romance is dying" Thank you I needed to hear this today 🙏

[@Synthminator]

Much needed video, thanks

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad it helped

[@barbarathompson384]

Preach! This IS the conversation! We love men and when we believe them in this way… romance and relationships will be forever saved.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear this, thanks for the feedback here!

[@user-pv2dp4dq8b]

Hey Adam. I've recently started following you. First saw you on Modern Wisdom with Chris Williamson. I'm a content marketer and just wanted to say that I love your content. You are crushing it. I love your style, I love the length and format. I love the production value (professional but now so shiny that it distracts). Nothing but love for you. Thank you for your great content. Keep it up!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey thank you so much, I appreciate your kind words and support!

[@dvegas]

I agree. When my husband takes care of things that are for the betterment of the household, I can focus on complimentary duties. I feel more relaxed when he is confident in his ability to lead, even when it's hard. He is also willing to sit down and make a plan with me, which I very much appreciate.

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is exactly it. I knew you'd agree with this.

[@indyd9322]

Yes, thank you! This is spot on for traditional feminine women. Yes, we do want to feel safe and protected, so we can relax and fully be in our nuturing, peaceful energy. We can provide and protect too, but it's exhausting for us to do without a supportive partner. Exhausted women get angry ,mean, frazzled and resentful. It's not pretty.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Well said! It's all about finding the right balance as a couple, and most will default into some variation on this. Talk, work together, and build the life that works for both of you.

[@brendaurbina8874]

Yes, I am looking for masculine energy.

[@magnarisu156]

That's such a true. I used to be that type of "defective man" myself as a woman. And in that role I didn't feel any need in men really, I was fine by myself and pretty avoidant. But when I met a man who managed to create a very secure and safe space for me to be in I surprisingly felt so much love and wish to give and care for him and make him feel loved and happy and valued. I've never even thought I had all that in me in such an abundance. So indeed - calm, present, reliable and safe masculinity can absolutely make wonders for women. But it has to be a two way street of course, and woman also has to know how to create a safe secure space for her man to be in and feel masculine around her in return.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Isn't it amazing how this one change can make so many other things better?

[@magnarisu156]

It is! It's like putting missing detail in it's rightful place and all the mechanism suddenly starts running like a clockwork

[@joniharen3163]

I have never been more attracted to a man I've dated than one that I've seen in his element working on the ranch, fixing things, driving big equipment, killing animals lol and also feeling safe with him because he knows how to defend us. I also think the masculine energy in a man is something I'm discovering I need because I've been a single mom for 15 years and have to do it all.

[@mimid9175]

As a single woman that would love nothing more than a committed relationship but, I’ve had to accept that I may be spending my life alone. I’m finding that the guys of today are misogynist misogamist due to life traumas. It’s heartbreaking how women & men are being treated as disposable. The young men are still living life & just haven’t reached a point of knowing what they want. The older men that are grounded in their lives, careers & finances are spiritually confused. Never will I say ALL but most men definitely dangle their masculinity feeling entitled to run through & degrade women. I totally understand that there’s a substantial amount of females that are not women & have caused the men to be this way. At point of life does one have discernment? Most men & women have chosen an incorrect partner at some point in life but that’s no excuse to be deceitful/ fraudulent time wasters…It’s all so unfortunate how society are so accepting of division.

[@Arquebusier89]

Use this analog: in an RPG game, you chose to be a paladin, then don’t go and take up a sorcerer’s role. Be the best of the paladin you are, to tank and shield, while you leave the skill of conjuring to your partner

[@steph6109]

...wait what? Men do understand what we want? Are there many of you? Do you hang out in one place?

[@AttachmentAdam]

We do exist! And we are training many more. The idea is to find a man who was raised by his father to help him become masculine but was also trained into female bonding and communication by his mother. The balance of both is needed.

[@earthtoemily4855]

And yes, this does sound great! Women ideally want their partner to reduce or alleviate stressful situations, not make them worse! We don't want to be mommys to our children and our husbands. We definitely don't want to watch our husband's throw temper tantrums, lose emotional control, panic, etc. Emotional maturity is SO important! Being able to handle life's toughest situations while keeping things calm, cool and collected is a very desirable quality.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Emotional maturity and stability is a huge turn on for most women because it means you can trust him!

[@SpeechTherapyPractice]

Love it!

[@elsbells.]

ADAM! You get it so well! I have re-posted too. Thank you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for listening, and I appreciate the support!

[@swordsnorchids1997]

As a young woman I 100% agree on this! Even though I do like some things that men also like but that's about interest and hobbies, when it comes to character we need balance and right now society is imbalanced but it can change and get better!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Right, finding the balance is crucial! Thanks for chiming in here.

[@olivertwist9971]

I would like to see a video like this for women. How can they better exude and embody the feminine energy that encourages and enables a man to step fully into his masculinity? Everyone everywhere tells men to just "man up" while, it would seem, not expecting women to change at all or do anything thenselves. Both sides have to do some lifting if we want to fix this problem and escape this mouse dystopia.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I agree, both sides need to be working on themselves! I tend toward speaking to the male side of the issue because primarily men come to me for answers, but I can look at providing the feminine side of the equation as well. 👍

[@HappyJiyoung]

@@AttachmentAdam Thank you!!! Looking forward to the version for women! 😊🙏

[@fennek5351]

@@HappyJiyoung me2 :)

[@alienkishorekumar]

Women don't care. 😂

[@earthtoemily4855]

I think there's a problem in this country with men not having enough good role models, and society only promoting toxic ones. There's an over abundance in older men that still behave like they're still in their 20s. It's like they're getting stuck emotionally/mentally in their teens, and not realizing it's time to grow up until they're well into their late 40s, if at all.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I think this is happening for all involved - few have role models for healthy love anymore. Hoping to change that with clearer information that all people can use.

[@sweettagada22]

This is absolutely true, same here in France. Plenty of 30 yo men, acting like teenagers.

[@thomasclarke6934]

I feel more hopeless because of how few potential partners are out there. Maintaining the standards of wanting a woman who is single, loyal, feminine, physically fit, and interesting eliminates over 90% of the dating pool in my age range. And the women who do meet those standards have so many options and get so much male attention that it is almost impossible to even get a foot in the door.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey I'm curious here, what's your dating pool age range?

[@thomasclarke6934]

@@AttachmentAdam I'm 35 and want to have kids, so I'd prefer someone my age or younger. Part of the problem is also that I live in Kona, Hawaii, which is a dating wasteland.

[@estellesstories7467]

There is no such thing as masculine or feminine roles. It’s adults engaging in mutual caring and resource building/sharing.

[@estellesstories7467]

A woman is not a “defective man”

[@estellesstories7467]

This entire discussion presupposes a level of weakness and dependency on the part of women that undermines the message that men do need to hear - competence, self regulation, and trustworthiness are characteristics of adult partners.

[@estellesstories7467]

Adam: I challenge you to present this topic without undermining women or relegating them to a subservient religious complementarianism framework.

[@estellesstories7467]

Being a man and being a woman require the same skills: - Maturity - Forward thinking - Responsibility - Self efficacy - Honesty - Mutuality - Competence - Self knowledge People who hit those themes will be desirable. From there, couples can negotiate their own dynamic.

[@matthewmiller8297]

"There is no such thing as masculine or feminine roles." Bullshit. I agree that adults should engage in mutual caring and resource building/sharing. I agree that "competence, self regulation, and trustworthiness" should be characteristic of all adults, and that both men and women should should have the skills of maturity, responsibility, etc. Very well said. BUT Men and women have very different biology, neurology, and chemistry. Different skill sets. Different circumstances under which we will thrive or be stressed. Women are weaker than men. IN SOME WAYS. Physically, this is obvious. Mentally, men tend to thrive in a competitive, stressful, even violent environment much more than women. HOWEVER, women tend to have better emotional intelligence, and thrive in a relational, connecting environment, the sort of environment where a man might feel smothered and out of his depth. There is nothing wrong with pointing out that women are weak compared to men in the areas where this is the case. But there are also areas where women are strong and men are weak. Men and women are complimentary, not identical. A healthy relationship will not only include mutual respect and responsibility, but also recognise and cater to our differences.

[@MartaHobzova]

This sounds great to be in feminine energy so we can be with a masculine man. And my female friends wants this, too, from what they were telling me.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for sharing this, this is good feedback!

[@benrb287]

I’ve actually had conversations with friends about the women wanting safety topic. I noticed girls I dated telling me they felt safe around me and I always found it such a strange thing to say. Enough to discuss it with buddies, and lo and behold my friends experienced it a lot too. It adds up to me👍

[@AttachmentAdam]

This sounds like a very good advertisement about you!

[@benrb287]

⁠@@AttachmentAdamhahaha if I didn’t run from relationships it might be😂

[@EmmaB-w5s]

It’s so true. Men need to be masculine and stable because too many have made themselves practically valueless.

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is also true

[@lovenosa1105]

I didn’t realize how much being in masculine affects women until I had my mum come over when I was moving apartments. I had a man there who was firing on all cylinders, happy to lift all the heavy things. And not for free either. She insisted on still lifting things and moving stuff. My Aunty came later and started bossing him around because of how he was arranging stuff. I only invited them to come and chat and say goodbye but they turned it into something else. Unfortunately my mum had to be this way because she had to be the provider, organizer etc and now she can’t turn it off.

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is a great example of how bad it can get when you're used to being this way out of safety. After seeing that, what do you want to do differently yourself?

[@lovenosa1105]

@@AttachmentAdam I’ve talked with her extensively about her life experience and the mistakes she made. The signs were there from the beginning that she wasn’t getting a dependable partner but she ignored them. I’ll make sure not to ignore those signs if they crop up.

[@benrb287]

For a second comment, I wonder if a video that goes more in depth on clarity could be a good idea. When you mentioned being clear on what your looking for it reminded me of another person who told me the first thing you need before finding a good partner is clarity on what you’re looking for. I suspect that many of us with attachment issues can become pretty nihilistic and cynical. A guide on how to even figure out what you’re looking for might be helpful.🤔

[@AttachmentAdam]

I've got some of these earlier on the channel, but maybe a refresher is a good idea!

[@verb0ze]

I've done the following exercise that helps in this regard: imagine yourself on a random Tuesday 3 months, a year, 5 years, 10 years out from now. What are you doing? Where are you doing it? Who are you doing it with, and why? Write down those days in excruciating details, and include everything and everyone that's important to you (partner, kids, family/in-laws, friends, etc, coworkers, etc). Then think about how you want to relate to all of those people: communication, time spent together, how they are helping you, how you are helping them, what they make you feel ... Is it the same group of people, or has it changed (for example, are you seeing the same person in 3 months and in 10 years? Are your friends still the same or have you moved to a new area and developed new friendships?) This helped me discern what role my partner and I played in our respective lives, beyond the fluffy stage of dating and getting to know each other.

[@alienkishorekumar]

I'm not even from the west, but I became hyperindependent to the point that I don't think I want anyone in my life. I doubt I will create a space, call it trauma, childhood abuse etc. I honestly can't see myself in a relationship with a woman. Maybe it's cursed. I think porn has also destroyed my view on how attraction works.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Yes porn is a brutal destroyer of realistic relationship expectations or how women actually work.

[@hspinnovators5516]

Most women who are in the porn industry are autistic so 2% of the population, a gross misrepresentation of how women really are in society

[@tetedur377]

There is what women think they want, what they say they want, and what they really want. Those three things are not the same.

[@AttachmentAdam]

What in your opinion do women want instead?

[@tetedur377]

@@AttachmentAdam Even women don't know what they want. It's all about the feels. Here's the thing: one man cannot possibly provide a woman everything she thinks she wants.

[@Pheonix1111]

Thank you Adam for connecting the dots for men. You thoroughly explained everything that satisfies a woman’s needs when dating and within a committed relationship. I am so glad we have you to help men and women learn how to have healthy, non-toxic relationships. Yes, we definitely desire and are attracted to a masculine man who makes us feel safe and secure. We do NOT find effeminate or emasculated men attractive. We do not want to become a mother to our effeminate husband. We want to nurture and support our masculine husband.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for the feedback here, this is good to know I am on the right track for what people want!

[@tyler6god]

*Financial Crisis Occurs* "Excuse me, I need to go make some phone calls" "SELL IT ALL"

[@AttachmentAdam]

🤣

[@mookeystinks190]

That’s what I got. The fake man dangling marriage and future life. But he failed to get a divorce first. (Lied to me)

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is sadly common among manipulative men. Always check their actions first!!

[@PassionateSpirit88]

Men back in the day were more motivated to be responsible and do their duties when they knew they were getting a good woman, especially a virgin or has an extremely low body count, and when they had power and their country honored men.

[@AttachmentAdam]

What time frame are we looking at here? A hundred years back? More? Curious what window you're looking at - not to judge, but to get the same perspective.

[@PassionateSpirit88]

@AttachmentAdam Specifically the 1950s but there were other periods of time.

[@alienkishorekumar]

That's the thing. They really don't know. They just think they got a good woman but they might be cheating even back in the day. 😂

[@karasmusic123]

When we say this, some of them say we're looking for fathers and we need to grow up.

[@AttachmentAdam]

It depends how a woman goes about this, but looking for that sort of masculine leadership, that's not wrong.

[@alienkishorekumar]

That's true.

[@hawwu7627]

As a quite feminine male with disregulated nervous system, trauma, anxiety, insecurities and history of landing in friend zones... It makes sense and I'm debating on giving up for the best of both parties. Going against all of this feels pointless currently.

[@AttachmentAdam]

What about fixing those challenges you're talking about? What would being free of those help you to achieve?

[@hawwu7627]

​@@AttachmentAdamI'm trying. Therapy, journaling, pushing career/business, excercising/kickboxing, studying yours and Glover's work, trying new things and to get out of my shell... I want to live life full of love, not loneliness; fun and satisfaction, not fear and stress. I want to have fulfilling passions, relationships and love, as that's what I value the most.

[@hectorp7006]

Hey Adam, how about live streaming movies while you analyze the interactions?

[@AttachmentAdam]

Those can be fun, what movies do you try this with?

[@hectorp7006]

@@AttachmentAdam you mentioned "my big fat greek wedding". My suggestions include "the breakfast club" for the childhood traumas; "st elmo's fire" with several young couples; "heartbreak ridge" for masculinity and a man trying to rekindle a past relationship; "Mr and Mrs Smith" with a boatload of vasopressin at the end.

[@Synthminator]

@@AttachmentAdam Family Man with Nicholas Cage please =)

[@Whole.Phantom]

Hey Adam, are you going to cite any references on that study that says 98% of women prefer a committed partner? What institution conducted it, what was the sampling size, and who were the participants?

[@AttachmentAdam]

Here is a literary review citing dozens of studies on the topic, start here for more info: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3613286/

[@SD-mi2vc]

​@@AttachmentAdamno women cares or loves men we're just tools to them

[@AttachmentAdam]

What makes you believe that?

[@SD-mi2vc]

@@AttachmentAdam thats what women sees us as. Espicially if you're not the ideal, 6ft,six inches,100k. I dont how an average man like myself and others can compete with the top five percent. As hypergamy/society comes and destorys any sort of connection

[@SD-mi2vc]

@@AttachmentAdam why should i put in effort for a gender thats hates and trashes 80% of my fellow man? Why do that to myself?

[@TylerSantinelli]

Hi Adam (and the rest of the commenters), I'm curious to hear what you think of an experience I had this weekend. I've been talking to a young lady at my church, and beyond the initial attraction I was really impressed with her. We haven't known eachother for very long, but I asked her if she'd like to get coffee later this week and talk. I figured that was a pretty safe ask, and initially she said yes. Exchanged numbers, all that. Later that night she texted me saying she needed to get to know me better before meeting alone (even in public), but encouraged me to say hi to her and her friends next time I see her. I was under the impression I was doing well on the social proof front, but I guess not. Any advice going forward? Anything I might not be thinking about? Thanks.

[@lynnferry291]

How young a young lady is she? Is there a big age difference between the two of you? Is there any reason you'd have a bad reputation? It sounds to me like she needs some sort of stamp of approval from her social circle. That's why I asked how old she is. A younger woman is going to ask her friends and/or parents what they think of you. Either that, or she's not attracted to you and didn't know how to turn you down politely. I'd say give her a bit of time, but if she won't have coffee in public with you after a month, I'd move on to someone else.

[@TylerSantinelli]

​@@lynnferry291She's in her early/mid 20's, I just turned 30. Actually, I've found myself with a very good reputation around, I run a twice monthly social event at my parish and her brother even went out of his way to tell me she was going to be at the event we spoke at last night (where numbers were exchanged et al). I'm inclined to think she's just shy (she does come off as pretty insecure about this kind of thing), but that's why I wanted to ask about it here. From where I stood she was giving me all the go ahead signs I needed, but clearly she had reservations of some kind. I think you're right, though. Time will tell.

[@AttachmentAdam]

This does sound a little strange, but can I ask how old she is?

[@TylerSantinelli]

@@AttachmentAdam she's in her early 20's, hasn't finished college but is doing a double major. I added some more context in a previous reply, too.

[@danladd4764]

I'm sry Adam, I have so much I dissagree with in this video. I have so much I find wrong in these assumptions

[@danladd4764]

I could argue those women in corporate higher up jobs created their own problems by thier own life style and if thier husband is doing something he loves and is happy doing then the standard of living above thier means needs to be lowered. She probably wants more expensive life then he is willing to provide and there is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to make tons of money

[@AttachmentAdam]

Lay them out.

[@sweettagada22]

As a woman this is so on point 💯 it’s very rare that a man is clear that he wants a committed relationship and kids especially while being in his masculine energy. In fact it only happened once to me, we had a great relationship and then I discovered he is in fact not ready and he collects women (with that approach ?) for years and years. And yet when I thought he was genuine, it made me flourish in the relationship, being feminine and absolutely in love.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Right, being honest and transparent, and backing up his words with actions, are how a man becomes trustworthy.

[@heterosapien]

The ''commited relationship all these women want must include LOT$.

[@AttachmentAdam]

All women?

[@Oregoncountryhick]

We need masculine men and women need to let them be.

[@AttachmentAdam]

The world needs more masculinity!

[@dozerdiva5143]

I was just talking about this with my massage therapist a couple of days ago. I believe feminism ruined men. I'm in a male dominated indudtry, I'm masculine but I'm also feminine. Having a guy to keep me there is certainly a needle in a hay stack. I dated a guy that said he slept with 100+ women. WHAT THE???? The reason is he has a high EQ. I loved this guy BUT he was a serial dater & no commitment. Yeah, he'll grow old & resources will be less n less. That's only an example, I was raised in ND I do all the tom boy things but I don't want to. I want to be home cooking bread. No really! Do you know how many men think it's cool that I operate the largest equipment in the world? TONS!! Do you. Know how many men will run when I say "mines bigger than yours"? I could talk forever about this topic. Someone come save me! 😉

[@alienkishorekumar]

Feminism saved men from the shackles of whinging women 😂😂😂

[@alienkishorekumar]

You dated a guy with so much body counts because you were attracted to him and his personality or what he pretended to be. Most men don't get such opportunity because very few men are actually attractive to women.

[@alienkishorekumar]

Men are not intimidated by you. You really overpower them, that's intimidating to anyone.

[@dozerdiva5143]

@alienkishorekumar I didn't know his body count until the end of a relationship (situationship). It only lasted 5 months when I bailed. I went to high school with his ex wife but that's when I remember body count does matter. Not over attractive, but as Adam explains, he was masculine & women loved it, including me with a anxious attachment at the time. High EQ was his game.

[@alienkishorekumar]

@@dozerdiva5143 To me EQ sounds like manipulation capability. If someone says they have high EQ, all my alarms go off. And I know some women, beautiful women have high EQ because they know how to use their sexuality to gain stuff. And honestly, I refuse to believe this masculine and feminine BS, even as a guy because most people are who they are. They cannot change, because humans are creatures of habit, and if they grew up in a certain household they are already set in ways which will make them a certain way. If a single woman raises a boy, unless she realizes her own shadow and healed, she will invariably make him her husband emotionally, or push some feminist propaganda on his, making him unattractive to women. Same way, a single mom with her daughter will make her daughter in her image, and put all the expectations of herself on her daughter, i.e., to be beautiful, to be successful, to get a rich man etc. A bad mother, a bad father, an absent mother, an absent father, all can influence your so called masculine/feminine. Unless you can realize all of this and try and change, you cannot do much about getting into your masculine or feminine. Unless I want to be manipulated on my own and be delusional that I can change someone, I wouldn't engage with such people. These people grew up in a household where they were taught that they needed to manipulate every time to get what they wanted.

[@PassionateSpirit88]

But she's truly in her feminine if she is a virgin or close to it. Men would definitely step into their masculine then.

[@AttachmentAdam]

What other qualities also embody this?

[@redemptionhappens7725]

Women are PEOPLE. We are more than a hymen Mr. Insecure. Do you care about males being Puritanical? Of course you don’t.

[@PassionateSpirit88]

@redemptionhappens7725 Oh my god...if men are expected to be traditional then women should be traditional too. Not insecure...don't play that nonsense game. And, yes, I do think men should have morals when it comes to sex too and I have been moral.

[@Foxie770]

Female Virginity has absolutely nothing to do with a man being able to be masculine. A woman can be every bit feminine and receptive even after she’s had children.

[@hspinnovators5516]

That's actually not true. Virgins get abandoned more than sex workers because they are not going to be seducing you or appealing to you visually, they are not visible out there per say. Those are borderline women men are seeking out

[@PeteMD]

Overwhelmingly men do do this and have for all of human civilization. It is women nowadays who are not fulfilling their side

[@AttachmentAdam]

What changes would you like to see in modern dating?

[@michaelbateson8636]

Im sorry but there are so many holes in these arguments i cant even keep up.... if women wanted safety they wouldnt be so loose with their inhabitions when it came to dating. And they want their oartner to make enough money for BOTH of them? Yeah good luck with that. I live alone and work a great job and still work paycheck to paycheck. So what chamve have i got with a woman staying in my house using up all the utilities whilst im out..... I understand the role we must step into. Many of us do, and then some. But lets be perfectly clear. ITS SIMPLY NOT ENOUGH FOR WOMEN. Women dont want to feel safe. They want to be rich and powerful, by proxy mostly. And those who get rich and powerful by themselves? Well they dont need men either. Its simply a different time now. And we have to adapt, and evolve. We are faced unfortunately with a gender which mostly have no idea what the hell they want. Its a cultural change, the sexual revolution that noone wanted. Women need safety? Men need safety too and that starts from within.

[@AttachmentAdam]

If both need safety, what can we do to bring that back to mutual safety together?

[@Foxie770]

You sound pretty bitter. Women do not want a bird man who whines. Sharing a home and working in the public sphere so your wife can raise your children and build a family legacy with you is the REWARD. Life is not about money or power. It’s about living your values and your purpose. Sad when people’s values have devolved to the material.

[@WyomingWonders]

I agree with everything you said Adam...that when a man makes his woman feel safe she will appreciate and open up to him ...and he has to use discernment in choosing the right healthy woman that he wants to protect with his life.

[@alienkishorekumar]

​@@Foxie770that's like telling a black man to shut up and dribble 😂

[@michaelbateson8636]

Embrace the loneliness. Enjoy it, and it becomes not loneliness, but solitude.

[@AttachmentAdam]

And give up on connection?

[@michaelbateson8636]

@AttachmentAdam I can get plenty of "connection" having a laugh with my friends and work colleagues. It doesn't come with conditions either. Mix that in with being happy in my own company and I'm all set.

[@PeteMD]

Mate men do everything for women and STILL get screwed and robbed blind. Try again

[@AttachmentAdam]

All women, all the time, in every case?

[@hspinnovators5516]

That's redpill brainwashing.

[@TheMissnum1]

Adam you are such a gold 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you!