That thumbnail wins all the things. 🏆 This video deserves a Pulitzer.
@AttachmentAdam3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, I appreciate your feedback! What was most helpful about this video in your opinion?
@oambitiousone71009 ай бұрын
Picturing Adam as -Dorothy- Toto pulling back the curtain on the attachment issues of Oz. 👠 🐕
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Technically I think it was Toto who pulled the curtain back! Plus I’m kind of scruffy 😂
@oambitiousone71009 ай бұрын
@@AttachmentAdam ohhhh you’re right!
@IndigoWisdom18 ай бұрын
😂
@YWH7233 ай бұрын
Toto is a pretty cool nickname 😂 Thanks for pulling the curtain back ❤
@Olyaolya131Ай бұрын
ADAM LANE SMITH. No moore comment need, one of the most intelligente and sensitive human in the world
@AttachmentAdamАй бұрын
Appreciate the kind words and the sentiment!
@SuperRampage699 ай бұрын
To be honest I just can’t believe that people will ever help me in any of these ways. In my experience people will never help you they will always betray you. Been betrayed by friends, family, and romantic partners.
@jessicaagosto36333 ай бұрын
try Jesus, He will never betray you, stay confident in God, Men and Woman are important together but God is Everything and number 1
@michaelmartin17809 ай бұрын
I’m taking a shot getting real vulnerable, because I need help. I’ve been off and on homeless since 16, 8 years military, extreme highs and lows in life, 2 divorces - learned a lot by this point. In a really teetering situation I’m worried I’m hurting my partner’s development & I really love her and don’t know what to do. Asking for 20 minutes of guidance please, I’m moving back into my car and really broke.
@dvegas9 ай бұрын
Your description of secure relationships is exactly how they happen!! 💯💯💯
@olivertwist99719 ай бұрын
Glad to see the answer to that Anxious Attachment vid you did a few weeks ago drop. People like me asked you to do that vid like that, but for avoidant types. This is that vid. Thank you.
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
My pleasure, keep up the recommendations and I’m glad to try and continue to accommodate
@solutions4tenants1419 ай бұрын
Adam, this is an awesome video. Thank you. It’s a real eye opener. The breakdown list you did of the avoidance style of attachment is really helpful. I seem to be an anxious attachment (INFJ) woman who keeps attracting avoidant men. However, now I can now be on the look out for the traits of avoidant men and steer clear while I work on fixing my own anxious attachment style. I’ve been in therapy for 45 years and I’ve not been taught about attachment style healing. Your care for whole community healing is unprecedented in the therapeutic world. Thanks again.
@johannakunze33009 ай бұрын
It is rare, way to rare but not unprecedentet
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Thank you! I’ve had many clients who traditional therapy never worked. Please send me a DM on any of my social media channels and I will get you some resources to help.
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
@@johannakunze3300 accuracy is always appreciated. Gotta stay humble.
@jessicaagosto36333 ай бұрын
wow thankyou for teaching, thank God I found this video, I’m so co-dependent on my boyfriend which has been turning him off, it’s sad to say i’m 57 and learning this now, im changing over night, need to be the Sigma Woman
@SS-in1ts6 ай бұрын
Your videos have already helped tremendously because you give direction and clear examples.poking forward to working with you. Traditional therapy just validates, doesn’t help you grow.
@fernandomoralesyt9 ай бұрын
GOLD BROTHER🎉
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Glad to hear it!
@masonmitchell77529 ай бұрын
Great Truth Adam. Thank you for sharing.
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Thank you, glad this one resonated with you
@Rain-ec4jj9 ай бұрын
Hello Adam, I'm disabled and can't get a job. Is my chance of getting a girlfriend slim to none? i feel like I could have healthy attachment style within me. However, I feel like no will love me back because i don't make enough money....
@olivertwist99719 ай бұрын
@@Rain-ec4jj It was a "red-pill" dude/video but his way of putting it resonated with me strongly a few years ago and it gave me motivation when I needed it. Basically, there's three tiers of "dudes" and it's based off of three stats (Tier 1 dudes/Alpha Males score 8-10 in total). You have "Looks" (obvious how that works), "Resources" (obvious how that works as well but it isn't purely money as it's actually your capacity to "get things done" as it were and a dude who can get X done with 50 bucks is the same who can do the same but needs 100), and "Temperament" (i.e. your level of culture, intelligence, and the like. Chicks dig dudes who can compose a fitting poem/song, be funny, describe/articulate their feelings in ways they can understand, etc. Legitimate "Starving Artists" are Tier 1 dudes for this reason). You don't make enough money? Dude, I'm friggin' broke yet I'm confident I can land a "Tier 1" girl (i.e. a securely or nearly securely attached 7+ on the HB scale) because I got Looks and Temperament pretty high. Could be higher (not a full 10 yet), but high enough and on the path to maximum value. If all she cares about is your bank account and whether or not you got a Ferrari she's not the kind of girl you want in your life.
@alaalfa88399 ай бұрын
The same is true about looks. If you think you are not attractive, people will think you are not attractive. Czech actress Sandra Pgodova didn't feel attractive, having a tumor on her forehead as a child. When growing up she didn't feel attractive and tried to hide the scar with hair, when dating or meeting people. 30 years later she read books about personal transformation and when she started to love her body and be thankful to her body how the body is taking care of her and started loving herself even her flaws, her energy changed she smiled more, doing seminars or gabfest with some colleagues, with humor, wrote two comedy books with her father during covid to make people laugh. As she started to like herself and be thankful to her body, people started to give her compliments on how good she looks and wanted to be in her presence, because she is positive, she stopped being attached to things, to money, to material stuff, to looks, or stories etc. She said if you think you are ugly, people will think the same.... if you think people like to steal money,, someone will steal your money because you are attached to it. You should practice love empathy humility and gratitude so you will have great changes.
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Yes, some might call it manifesting, but it can certainly go in the opposite direction too. Don’t you think?
@alaalfa88399 ай бұрын
@@AttachmentAdam What do you mean opposite direction, that the person is so happy that doesnt seek partner? Some think that people dont want relationships for selfish reasons or being a narcissist. But I guess it may be also for selfless reasons, to not bother anybody with some spiritual lifestyle antics. 😀 Actually she experienced a heart break I think she ment the man broke up with her and that at that time she thought its the worst thing, but later after personal transformation she realized it was the best thing that happened to her, because it opened other doors and experiences. Sandra also wanted to heal their relationship with their mother. because her mother felt unloved by her parents so her mom compensated her unhappy childhood, by controlling her daughter and organizing her daughters life, and the professional life of bing an actress etc. Her mom's father didnt allow her to be actress so she was expecting Sandra to be actress and living her dream through her daughter and didnt allow her to choose her own passion and happiness.But Sandra's relationship with father was happy. Her father is a very positive man who likes humor, the opposite of his wife. For some reason, he probably managed to live with his wife even though she is different and too rational. Manifestation can not be easy if you re too rational.
@alaalfa88399 ай бұрын
@@AttachmentAdam It seems pretty face not always mean happy marriage.... if the values are not about some kindness and humility. But if you have kindness and humility, people even start to look at your physical appearance as very attractive. Sandra said that she saw a girl who was actually pretty good-looking, until she opened her mouth. so much negativity came out of her mouth that then people started to say well she is actually not so pretty. Beauty comes from inside, from the heart. She said humility and kindness are most important with this work. So maybe it can not go to the opposite direction with a humble heart, that the person becomes confident but not too confident ora arrogant. Actually at the beginning of transformation, she thought she will lose all her friends and colleagues, and she lost some friends, because they saw the same face, but her behavior was different, she was calmer, and less reactive, less drama. Because she found out who she really is, not who her mom wanted to be like. So she lost some friendships because they stopped understanding her. She asked herself so now with this knowledge I become alone? She says you will never sta years, its just a short-term process. Later some people told her I like you more after you changed you're more calm and relaxed it's a good feeling to be in your presence. only her mom was crazy and didn't understand her, because her mom was a psychiatrist and psychiatrists dont understand 5D world, because in the 3D world they were t aught the old values and prescribing drugs and psychiatrists think they know the best etc.
@alaalfa88399 ай бұрын
Some people started to call her Sranda Pohodová, which in Czech means "Happy fun" or "Comfortable fun" :D Her seminars are in czech but full of humor. Its funny that she ended up being actress as her mom couldn't be, but she ended up helping people find happiness as her mom said well now she thinks she is a great healer, without having a University diploma. Sandra says: Don't be mad at your parents for doing things wrong, because their story is teaching you how to not do things, choosing different ways. It seems like this story is teaching humans, if you want your kids to grow up faster and become grown up, you should let them live their own dreams and choose their own professions., not make them live their dreams. It seems to be actress and a psychiatrist, have something in common Both are pretending something instead of manifesting. She said Now I only care about one role Sandra Pogodova. Now I will pla myself and slowly stopping working as actress. It seems like happiness of the world depends on the happiness in families. As she pointed out she hears women have difficult relationships with moms, and men have difficult relationships with fathers, because the parents want to live their dreams through their kids, to become a doctor or actor, musicians or whatever, or be someone they are not but happy parents fulfilled their dream therefore they allow their kids to find their own happiness, as she did with her father, but she realized her mom was raised in difficult family too, so therefore her mom lives in the past not trying to change etc But if you stop reacting to nonsense the relationships improve.
@LynnTritton-kt2ei4 ай бұрын
Lol the eyes! 😂
@Laddesh9 ай бұрын
Sitting back in my chair for this one. Greetings from Denmark sir🇩🇰
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Hi Friend hope it’s not too cold there. Grab some popcorn, you’re going to love it.
@lynettejohnson90516 ай бұрын
A job is so much easier with the right tools.
@pricetagg6752Ай бұрын
Insane Value on this Video 💯👌✴️
@AttachmentAdamАй бұрын
Happy to hear you think so! Was there a particular part that stood out?
@angmori1729 ай бұрын
I have a question I don't think anyone else has answered: teasing and banter in relationships. Teasing a girl you're flirting with is game101. But what about having a sort of buddy-jargon with your partner? On the one hand, it can be fun and feels relaxed. On the other, it seems like it risks bringing out a more masculine side of the girl, and frankly, they kinda suck at knowing when to stop.
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Haha it can be a delicate balance for sure, but maybe when you find a girl who can do it perfectly it’ll be a big reason you fall in love. That is a personality trait after all.
@angmori1729 ай бұрын
@@AttachmentAdam good point, thank you for the reply. I will add it to my internal list of 'things to look for/keep in mind'
@MK-oz2lf9 ай бұрын
Hey Adam, have you seen the new NAPOLEON movie and what are your thoughts on the character’s attachment and needy issues with his wife Josephine?
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
I’ve known about Napoleon‘s relationship with Josephine for a long time now, historically it looks very troubling. He definitely chased her approval, so I wonder what she did in real life that made him so approval seeking toward her specifically.
@J-t4lds9 ай бұрын
Hi
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Hi there!
@jrubincornier8 ай бұрын
Omfg my stomach just turned thinking about vacations with my ex wife. I do have such a problem with expressing my needs because I don't understand how to justify that they are personal needs. Still got a ways to go haha
@AttachmentAdam8 ай бұрын
Sounds like you need some practice sharing needs with people who are loving and receptive! Do you have friends or family like that?
@jrubincornier8 ай бұрын
Friends or family to express my needs to? Maybe I don't. I keep thinking about how to express with a potential mate, but IDK what I would ask of any family or friends.
@MetaPhysStore07708 ай бұрын
Have you read 'the W.E.I.R.D.est people in the world' by john heinrich about Western Educated Industralized Rich Democratic societies that came from culture were forbidden by the catholic church in mid ages europe to have cousin marriages to "break up the clans of europe" but resulted in "freudian" incest phobia and chronic loneliness.
@AttachmentAdam8 ай бұрын
That's an interesting idea, what do you think of that?
@deryeoman50139 ай бұрын
Adam shouldn't the title thumbnail contain the word 'up'? Because its a rather odd sentence otherwise.
@AttachmentAdam9 ай бұрын
Good feedback, thank you
@projekt5fit4053 ай бұрын
How do I heal my anxiety attached with a splash of avoidance?? As a woman I need your help
@AttachmentAdam3 ай бұрын
Happy to help! I invite you to send me an email to support@adamlanesmith.com