3 Signs Of Burn Out?

[@DrJulie]

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[@milly7994]

🎉🎉

[@palashdatta1313]

I have treated as mental health issues and take 3 sleeping pills every day

[@channelpanda_t]

Hi Dr. Julie. Could you talk about PTSD? Thank you in advance.

[@palashdatta1313]

@channelpanda_t I have love issues,,my Dr treated PD_BDR,,By poller

[@Emma.20134]

I haven’t been eating and I’ve been very exhausted these few weeks.

[@jeremyridge1332]

My anxiety kicking in the closer the flame got to her fingers😭

[@nelilevstek13]

Yes same😂😭

[@katiecooper1923]

same

[@Cass_516]

Same, it was hard to focus on what she was saying 😭

[@JimmyYuen-n5n]

Burning candles at both ends

[@Titus-2-Mom]

Same!

[@haniathezahid]

Got out of my burnout last week🤯 Whoever is feeling that you're trapped and can never get out of it, believe me, it will pass! You're braver than this!

[@AnaluisaManzano]

How did you get out of it? 😫

[@haniathezahid]

@AnaluisaManzano don't try to hide your feelings. Feel every little emotion you encounter! FACE YOUR EMOTIONS, FEEL THEM. Most importantly, TALK with someone. Let it out and it will pass

[@Klumsy_Tumbler]

How long did your recovery journey take?

[@haniathezahid]

@Klumsy_Tumbler almost 2 months I guess.

[@Elmirei]

I need to get out too😢

[@ader3867]

I fit the profile....not surprised....I'm caregiver 24/7 for my bedridden Mom who has Parkinson's and is declining. I keep praying and moving forward....need to start going for walks... She took care of me and my siblings....

[@ArbitraryZer0101]

Hey, massive respect to you for looking after your parents.

[@ader3867]

@@ArbitraryZer0101Thank you!

[@thevegetablequeen]

I'm AuDhd and get burnt out easily, especially from the holidays. It's all too overwhelming and overstimulating. Most years I'm still burnt out and exhausted from the holidays into the spring and can't adequately celebrate my children's birthdays. This year I've said no to as many things as I can and have scheduled in lots of intentional rest. I want to start the new year strong instead of with an empty cup.

[@ArtyAntics]

Me too

[@winnie328]

I had that and what I did was to leave the environment because I consider that mental health is the most important for me.

[@mischelemiller5020]

I left the environment. But not far enough. Still going threw it.

[@LUMENA11]

That's what I dream to do and can't.. the ppl that supposed cared are who git me to this point

[@Kel9109]

Going through this and I have exams for 2 weeks.

[@kamiw5864]

I was working with burn out for a long time before I even realized. Let me tell ya, either you take care of yourself early on or the universe will try to get your attention in some tough ways! Take the breaks, vacation, pivot into a new field, learn new skills. Whatever you need to do. Just do it and don't wait.❤

[@nikwan905]

How in the world was I not aware… I relate to this so much.

[@bi_squared1533]

me too 😭 i dont want to live like this with no passion or peace. im glad we're not alone though 🫶

[@LisaKirchberg]

Why don't psychotherapists know about this?

[@forpcb]

​@@LisaKirchberg They know.

[@amygerstle2037]

Yes I am tired of everything. I am also tired all the time. Lack of sunlight doesn't help. Procrastination top of the list.❤❤❤😢

[@ZoyaFaiyaz-i7x]

I promise you I know right now it seems impossible like you'll never get out but I promise you will ♥️

[@1catmac]

How

[@brendajones1527]

I hope so, I'm feeling very vulnerable and I need a holiday 😫

[@Girl-vx2ej]

​@@1catmac exactly, how

[@KAhmed-wp5ui]

Thank you for your kind words and encouragement

[@ZoyaFaiyaz-i7x]

@@1catmac It may seem impossible rn but the universe has it's ways

[@meileverse]

This is me when I'm around my mother. I'm 28. She sucks the living light out of me, please take care of yourselves guys. ❤

[@47nine74]

Same

[@kaybee23]

@meileverse So I know we don’t know each other, but I‘m much older than you and the only thing I regret in life is not breaking contact earlier with my mother. It’s so freeing, could’ve just been earlier. Just saying, live and enjoy your own life - you just got that one. All the best for you.

[@nousummertime9592]

The exhaustion, lack of enjoyment, sense of vanity & withdrawal, the procrastination of the simplest of tasks & the beating myself up for not doing anything.... How do I turn this around I don't know.... I know but won't do anything, it's so frustrating & feels like a vicious circle.

[@katjawiegand2553]

This is what I do right now: Take as many days off as you can, best is at least two weeks (we have more holidays in europe, Im sorry for americans but you really got to find a way to take this break), bring your kids to your family etc, go on a retreat alone and tell yourself you deserve this holiday. You need this for being you and staying alive. You are the most important person in your life, not your boss, not your kids or sick grandma. Only if you learn to refill your own batteries you can continue to give to others. Then make a plan to completely rest and be lazy for 3 days per week right after work (just relaxing and fun things are allowed, make a list for this) for the next month, second month is two days rest, third month is one day rest. And thisn one day you should keep for the rest of your life to prevent burnout from coming back. Also make the decision to mindfully rest every day for a set time, like an hour or as much as you can, depending on your private responsibilities. 20 Minutes is better than nothing. The habit is what will change you. You are a sensitive human being. You also deserve and need rest to be there for your loved ones. In this hour, no guilt is allowed, make it a habit to free yourself of that feeling little by little. Happy new year everyone who reads this, this new year will be better than the last ❤

[@nousummertime9592]

@@katjawiegand2553 thank you so much!!!🙂💖

[@talulatree5297]

Thats an excellent plan! Thank you❤​@katjawiegand2553

[@Julia-ep2uz]

@@katjawiegand2553 I appreciate your common. It does help me a lot and makes it much easier for me to (stay) focus on (a)live. Thank you so much. It means a lot.

[@TamPNW]

This is exactly where i am at right now as well.

[@loreleyvomfelsen9542]

I read the definition of bunrout before, but hearing it spoken by that calm voice with backgroundmusic, it hit my inner self and made me cry. Cause I expierence those symptoms for a long time!

[@whowearereally6494]

Lorelei, you’re not in Illinois are you?

[@loreleyvomfelsen9542]

@whowearereally6494 No, I'm in Europe!

[@findingkarma]

Me too 😢

[@melbaT2770]

I’ve been burnt out for two months. All I did was work out, eat and rest on the sofa during my two-week vacation. I actually slept much better after I got over a respiratory infection. I have been reflecting on what I need to change in my life to not end up being so burnt out where I get depressed or very ill from overdoing it and trying to others’ needs.❤ Good video

[@nuthinbutlove]

Just coming out of a burnout after years. I can't begin to describe how great I feel now. Just elated about life the way I used to be. I was worried I'd never come out of it. Just as you described. Painful to the core.

[@Spacecat1357]

so proud of you! i hope it continuously just get better

[@swapnasrinivas5100]

I am happy for you and want to know how much time it takes this to pass.

[@nuthinbutlove]

@swapnasrinivas5100 it's taken me 6 years but there was a lot involved during that time that prevented me from healing. So much in fact that it kept driving me further down the hole. Everyone and every situation is different. I wouldn't measure anyone else's time by my own.

[@nuthinbutlove]

@Spacecat1357 thank you so much.

[@andreavonwurmb4763]

Did it "pass" or were you active about changing it?

[@Titus-2-Mom]

I have been there. My adrenals and thyroid crashed in 2021. It took awhile to feel normal-ish. Its a fatigue that is mental and emotional. Its deep and just taking a nap doesnt fix it. You need a major shift in your life

[@punishmentgame]

Felt this throughout my school year, I’ve gotten into countless arguments with my parents over this matter, and I really want to seek help. I can’t, so of course I will be working on it myself. It’s important to take breaks, and recognize your own needs, so that you can better organize your time and balance your energy

[@nancy-katharynmcgraw2669]

In Nursing, in hospitals, we call BROWNOUT, before Burnout: saves confusion: allows for 4 day or 5 day weekend to regain our passion.

[@lavieestundestin]

When I feel overwhelmed I try to take a 3 or 4 day weekend as soon as I can. Helps me recharge.

[@andreavonwurmb4763]

Great tip ​@@lavieestundestin! Thanks!

[@andreavonwurmb4763]

Fantastic if this is accepted practice! Wow!

[@HB-mo8ut]

I‘m not arguing at all. I don‘t want to talk at all

[@DAS-MiMi]

Yep I definitely needed to hear this

[@claudiabecker4673]

So true, and you if you feel the symptoms coming more and more, immediately do something to get out of the situations that drain you so much, like consulting your doctor or a psychotherapist! Don't wait till you are totally at the bottom.

[@ADHD_zen]

I did seek help with a professional and all they did was beat me down even more telling me “we all feel tired, there’s nothing wrong with you”

[@claudiabecker4673]

@@ADHD_zen I'm sorry you made that experience! I know that there are bad therapists, I was lucky to find a good one, I guess.

[@KitCameo]

That's some real dedication to wordplay, damn.

[@LuccaAce]

It's nice (?) to know that I wasn't just being a crappy employee that year my boss decided to give me truly unrealistic expectations while my direct supervisor was on maternity leave (he's since admitted that the expectations were unrealistic and apologized). Had all these symptoms. It took over a year for me to get back to where I felt OK, and I still don't produce at the same level I did before this happened to me.

[@Aurora-Ro]

The fact that she is literally describing my life right now and the past pre year is so sad (minus the drugs and fighting more often, although I do feel like fighting more I just don’t, I like to keep the peace) anyway it’s so sad that I’m showing nearly every sign of burn out at the age of 14-15

[@AlannaStarcrossed]

Honestly USA schools are factories for it. My kid got it in high school and it really sucks. I hope your parents are willing to help :/ addictive behaviors also don't have to be a drug, it can be things like internet, etc

[@Aurora-Ro]

@ yeah. But I’m homeschooled. My moms so scared of failing us, so she chooses all the hardest curriculums and is very strict with all of it. Next year I’ll be in grade 10 and I’ll be doing the history that our local college kids do. All my stress and burnout is from school, but mom will not change it. She’s also strictly against public school, but I’m a social person and my day is instantly brighter if I get to spend a few minutes in town or with friends. She doesn’t understand that some kids NEED public school for their mental health.

[@Charlie_Girl13]

I'm definitely burnout plus grieving 😢

[@Katherine-em4fl]

I find that in many cases around me burnout is linked to grief. it's a lot emotionally.

[@jay-5061]

Your voice is so peaceful 🥹

[@mikkinoxx531]

Felt like this for years now. The people closest to me are the most selfish and I feel abandoning every one of them at times. Most feel like a servant instead of loved

[@uswomanmothers]

Thank you doctor. I didn't excepting that. I have all of them and sometimes can't understand why I am like that worst the procrastination; and i can't do all what I can do with ease. Thank you

[@TeresaHart2009]

I always feel exhausted and mentally and emotionally exhausted and have no interest in the activity's I use to enjoy... I feel like I'm at the bottom of the ocean...

[@MattP8143]

Thank you Dr. Julie. I have a neuromuscular disorder and head injuries. I've experienced burnout quite a few times in my life, and I wish you could help some doctors and other people understand that these symptoms are not just signs of depression, but of exhaustion. 🙏

[@AND.I.OOP_]

My anxiety as the flame got closer and closer to her fingers 📈📈📈📈📈

[@sherwinsalvatori6997]

No 4 the flame on my finger

[@humera121]

All I hear in my mind is "this flame is gonna burn her finger"

[@ChrisDunstan-hv1dl]

My lovely mum had Alzheimer's. Over the years of helping her I really felt down. I was concerned she might not be safe in the 2 care homes ( 2nd one had a locked door) I was confused, miserable, frightened agitated trapped and desperate. Eventually I was snapping and losing my temper horribly. (Poor mum).I lost a stone without trying as swallowing food was difficult. I barely slept. Thank heavens for antidepressants , really helped.

[@mm1234bb]

I am my mum’s carer and completely and utterly burnt out too

[@AAA77444]

Antidepressants may have helped in the short term temporarily b aware of severe side effects plz take good care of yourself don't take rubbish

[@Wildheartbeats]

I'm just emotionally burnt out for years. No one to live, to talk to, friends deceptive, no family, breakups for no real reason and giving and giving love so much

[@prachisarode9473]

How to deal with being burnt out?

[@nikkiteareacts]

You don’t. You just learn to live with it. Edit: To elaborate, it’s going to be different for everyone. I’ve had the unfortunate privilege of getting burnt out from life and just like another commenter said it takes time to heal. It first starts what figuring out what is burning you out and what you can do to manage it, so you don’t continue to burn out and sacrifice your wellbeing. You can’t fix what has already happened, but you can make amends in the now to heal and move forward.

[@lapismist]

You don’t live with it, you try to heal. It takes a while but it would go away.

[@kudai9557]

​@@lapismistI'm struggling to heal but it worsens with a slight of negativity

[@drew8256]

Change everything in you life to reboot

[@kudai9557]

@@drew8256 Correct... But there comes a saturation when you keep overcoming all the losses obstacles and pain but life still is not kinder. The pain persists the trauma persists... For all the lost dreams and lost time. I'm terribly lost... Trying my level best to revive but unable to gain strength.

[@PengPengPew]

Schrecklich ist es, wenn man noch dazu in einem sozialen Bereich arbeitet. Lächeln aufsetzen und niemandem zeigen können, wie man sich eigentlich wirklich fühlt. Ich bin erschöpft, ja ich merke es. Ich bin genervt vom weihnachtsstress und möchte eigentlich nur noch für mich meine Zeit haben, funktioniert nicht. Ich möchte mich in ruhe hinlegen können, funktioniert nicht. Ich möchte während dem Urlaub den Arbeiten nachgehen, welche vorher liegengeblieben sind, funktioniert nicht. Ich merke, wie mein Körper einfach nach Hilfe und Ruhe ruft und ich kann es nicht umsetzen. Die Verpflichtungen dürfen nicht pausieren. Es ist nicht einfach, aber ich bin voller Hoffnung, dass es mit der Zeit trotzdem besser wird. Allein die Tatsache, dass DrJulie etwas neues posted, tut bereits gut. Vielen Dank für ihre Arbeit und ihre Videos

[@andreavonwurmb4763]

Kenne ich, dieser Berg von Verpflichtungen. Ich kann nur sagen, mache eine Auslese. Was ist dir wirklich wichtig? Alles andere kommt erst ganz hinten dran. Finde den Mut, Aussagen zu machen, die zu einer Beendigung der weniger wichtigen Verpflichtungen führen. Im privaten kannst du das Lächeln mal lassen, oder? Und könnte es sein, dass im sozialen Bereich Mitgefühl wichtiger wäre als a Fake Smile? Ich bin überzeugt, dass echte Verbindung viel mehr Freude bringt und (siehe einen anderen Kommentar von eine nurse) Passion für die Arbeit dich aus dem Burnout rausholen könnte. Liebe Grüße ❤

[@ftahachi7629]

You are such a great person Doc 💗

[@melbaT2770]

I am learning to set boundaries and not being so available to others who really do not appreciate me. TBH, much of this is about power struggles. I have been too ppl pleasy lately thinking this will help me be a better person when I have become resentful.

[@guardgirljazz]

i started my first full time job just short of 3 months ago so i watched this to see if it reminds me of me it does, but not me right now. it reminds me of what i felt like in high school

[@helenboyd]

My anxiety watching the flame going closer and closer to her finger:📈📈📈📈

[@PeculiAair]

Thank you for uploading

[@debblackmore7460]

😢 spot on dr julie spot on 😢

[@Stardust_0211]

Thanks for explaining this. This is so true.

[@DJMikeron]

OMG Sems Like I got all the things you mentioned. Time to seek help. Thank you Dr Julie❤

[@shwetamalewadikar7460]

All the things she mentioned , it started happening to me since last year till now. I tried to figure out but nothing happened . Someone said it will pass , but when ? It has already taken too much of my time . Even a single say more with this can make my life turn upside down considering that this time period is the most important phase of my life. If nothing gets well now , then nothing in life later would even matter . No matter how it is or what it is.

[@rotemmenachemi2858]

I just realized that I had many times when I was really burnt out starting at the age of 7 (it is in episodes, I'm now going through another one, worse than usual) I'm now 16 years old and doing my best to work on my mental health, my parents are really busy because we relocated to a different country a few months ago, but they are still trying to find ways for me to get the help I need

[@Coffee_Cat_Lover3]

Her videos always help so much ❤

[@luminakazak2573]

Adore you Dr. Julie 🎄🌱🌺

[@moonface79247]

Sounds about right - everywhere u look - everyone is burnt out

[@GordonMaes-zl1yn]

I fit the profile totally 💯

[@1989pacmaniac]

This is how I've both felt and operated for literal years.

[@LadywatchingByrd]

I'm going on 8 years. It's...well I've been having suicidal ideations for almost 3 years now. 😮😢😞😖🥵

[@LuanaOnMaui]

I’ve been burnt out for the last 10+ years. Yes, for real. All symptoms she mentioned. I’m so stuck and lost.

[@winstons.3158]

Thank you for this video, it is very helpful.

[@LisaKirchberg]

How to pull out of it?

[@runarandersen878]

Christmas can be a time to relax a bit. Depending on how you cope with the people you meet during Christmas that is.

[@setogembot]

Dont play with fire dear stay safe alot properties thats enabling the same as fire but not fire

[@markt1387]

This is very useful. Feeling about 60% of this.

[@zareefareen]

Please make more videosss!!! ❤

[@accaeffe8032]

I'm definitely burnt out. 63, had cancer twice, chemo left me with loads of health issues, uncertain financials after retiring (if I get that far), etc.

[@maloum-lsodermark7869]

Spot on!

[@andreashulten2161]

Thanks dear ❤Dr Julie❤

[@nunyazero]

Thanks for the long winded video on the problem, but zero time spent on the solution. Two thumbs up doc. 🙄🥴

[@Steven-u5w]

Yes, I can relate to this more than a few symptoms I was asked about 3 months ago. I think we've been too or three months ago to to talk as it is. And all I could do is just total silence God bless

[@natspink7701]

Thank you so much, I'm and didn't even think that's what it is! ❤

[@Eli-zx2rg]

It really is draining. Like even when I complete tasks, I feel zero satisfaction from seeing the task complete, but dread at having to maintain it or do it again soon. Just exhaustion.

[@davidmark9905]

Wow... All of the above...thanks for the reassurance. Thought I was loosing it.😊

[@sanasiva6450]

This is what i needed thankss a lot ( cause no wonder i was and getting sooooooo angry for like last 4 to 6 month last year and i felt sleepy and mentally drained )

[@alparslanesmer4251]

You read my soul

[@jennyarmstrong9433]

That's me,except I don't argue with anyone,I feel it but keep it to me.I have felt like I'm going thru a Spiritual awakeing.Chrstmas eve and Christmas day were ,I believe my turn around to a new way of life.Thank you and I pray you are doing well.

[@umehabibailyasrehmat9277]

Please also suggest How to deal with it

[@bethmclennan5596]

Thank You so much.

[@MarySambrook]

Absolutely TRUE 🙏🏼 🙏🏼 🙏🏼

[@josephsomuah4630]

You're soo good🎉

[@abbylee7346]

Id like a break down for those of us who are chronically ill and neurodivergent. I tend to get burnt out way faster than most people

[@Tate.com2]

barring the Drugs and the struggling to socialise the rest of that sounds like me 100%

[@vas7ilissi8]

I'm a kindergarten teacher in Greece. Which translates into me driving 1hour every day to the school I work and 1h back, having a classroom of 25 students, some with different diagnosed and undiagnosed disabilities (because the parents refuse to either accept what is being proposed to them for the benefit of the child or refuse to accept that their child has a disability to begin with), almost no law covering me for having children in my classroom that could get injured or worse because of their disabilities, parents that become extremely difficult to work with and/or disrespectful and sometimes even threatening to my wellbeing, no help whatsoever from an assigned assistant teacher or otherwise (our government thinks that we are robots capable of covering everything while implementing modern programmes), a school build since 1970 that has never been renovated and prepared to receive children with disabilities, from this school year almost no supplies and a ton of bureaucratic work that keeps me away from my home and adds on to my burdens. I figured I was burnt out, but watching you describing it made me realise it for the first time and, what's more, it made me understand how much it affects my family life because I'm beside myself and everything seems like a ton to carry. This is the moment I realised that I need to change my career because I should be working to make a living and not living to cater for my awful placement. Thank you!! 🙏

[@rabouala]

2 months post partum and I hope it starts to get better because I can’t do the sleepless nights and wake up to a toddler anymore 😢

[@vrajpatel1310]

Your mind and body have gone through many changes during pregnancy. Please know that this will not last forever. Your baby will grow up in a few years and you would not have sleepless nights. Every new mother goes through this, you're NOT alone. Please take care of your needs while your baby is asleep. More power and prayers to you! ❤ 🙏 🕯️😊

[@qonitasyahira7042]

Is it just me or that flame is like the subway surver video that keep us engaged? 😂

[@PRAKSHI-o9o]

I definitely burntout 😢😢

[@yondermileslimpey3892]

Not leaving my responsibilities behind bc i care for people but frequently fantasing about death and release. I 1000% would not be here without loving them and knowing that would be a horrible impact on their life. Im trying to get better. I keep it all in unless im alone. I really hope i can get better

[@natiriswenson6319]

This is exactly right

[@JasminJas-n6l]

OMG THAT EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!!!!!!😢😢😢😢😢😢💔

[@Alessandra-m4p]

whenever i tell my parents i think im depressed or burnt out they just call me lazy and say i need to get more active, it sucks

[@turtur735]

Thanks 🙏

[@TheResilentNerd]

Life is made up so many parts, it is easy to burn out but, you can get through this take steps and you are half way there ❤️ life ve your videos inspirational I hope someday I look back and say eh I made it and look how far Inhave come it may not have been easy but it made me who I am today

[@nikkimckay860]

@DrJulie.i can definitely understand and relate to everything in this video 😢

[@ACHRAF1644]

Well all the above 😅 ❤❤❤

[@Courtney-cg4ng]

Same

[@3BHU1KR]

Burnt out enough to just laugh about it when realized.😂

[@ACHRAF1644]

@@Courtney-cg4ng how long have you been burned out

[@paulam3988]

She knows exactly how I feel.

[@lavniyarana3796]

Very true, I feel like I'm burned out for about so many years

[@LaylaAssaff]

This also describes grief

[@itsjustjessie5096]

Well I just found out I’ve been burnt out for over 7 months

[@mumstheword7141]

I thought i was out of burnout...xmas i just didnt want to partake. All i kept saying to myself is that we're in the middle of winter and we're rushing around unnecessarily. Where we should be slowing down. Im a carer its demanding job. I feel im working more than ever. My parents are poorly. I have brother staying with me... when do i get my chance to be still to re charge ? I find socialising too much. I managed a walk in the forrest. I need more of thatbut body too tired.

[@aicasiii]

that's how i feel! what should i do if im burnout

[@imNqt]

And what is the Solution!?! Mindfulness, Walks and self care?

[@ashwinjayadevan5554]

tell us, how to overcome this!

[@SummerThyme-ye5rd]

That's me. Except I don't argue with my close ones. All I can kick myself to do is work. And it's not even me kicking myself but the need to pay the bills. Feeling like turning off.

[@Ftrocks71]

Please tell how to deal with it

[@sophiereyucel4589]

Yep...I am burned out but don't know which direction to take...

[@AlisaMoonLove]

Thank you

[@panmaciej121]

Can we have next video 'how to fix it in 3 steps in 1 minute'?

[@joeblogs8204]

I know! You can’t light a candle!