3 Simple Steps To Get Him To CHASE YOU! | Matthew Hussey

What makes a guy hooked on you from Day 1?
In this video, I show you how to communicate in a way that makes him feel special, brings out the most attractive sides of your personality, and show your attraction from a place of confidence. These tools will help you remain high value in his eyes and if done right will even make you irreplaceable.
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[@thewhyofthings8450]

I love that this isn’t a toxic video on how to limit your expressions in love but more so just a video teaching women to respect and put themselves first!😄

[@ClarisAy]

ME ENCANTA! además practico inglés! I love your videos and the way U talk and explain! Gracias!

[@ownyourpassionbyalexandrab4091]

OMG!!! We need to talk ahahah!! I’m so inspired right now and I wish I could say why but this isn’t the place, unfortunately! I am the perfect story for you should you ever need the perfect example of amazing pairings and twists and turns…You just validated my whole life journey which I thought no one understood… I feel so good right now! Thank you so much for talking about this Matthew 🙏

[@rebeccabest7766]

Explore the topic of long distance relationships, so many of us are struggling right now cause of covid. And this is for people who know they have the one but how do your relationship and keep it fun and positive when you cannot physically be there for each other.

[@lorrainecooper9504]

Yes... It's so difficult.... Haven't seen my partner for 20 months because of covid..... We cannot visit each other because of closed borders

[@love270110]

Yes we would like something related to long distance relationships.

[@kristijones6922]

Yes! And my LD partner is an avoidant so it's even more challenging

[@SoullessEyes22]

Also with relationships that start as long distance since with the internet, a lot of long distance relationships are developing. I'd love to learn more about what would work in that situation since it's so difficult to find advice anywhere

[@Cantetinza17]

Not only that, but if you do make sure there are rules in place. I was in the military and when I left my husband stayed in, so we had no choice, but to do long distance and we had rules in place, but he broke those rules, so we are no longer together, but because he knew he broke the rules there wasn't any bitterness, so we're still friends.

[@chuachangrieshaber6419]

WOW! Very interesting & Positive Argument... always The best.

[@ClaudiaHelmkeMiller]

Always great talks with you Matthew! I agree that the topic of Long Distance Relationships would be a wonderful thing to explore. It seems the rules of attraction and dating are different when you meet online and live in different countries. It’s so easy to have miscommunication.

[@susane945]

I LOVE this video!! Woohoo!! Great topic. Thanks Matthew for your upfront and honest approach to this! ❤️🎆🌸

[@markodejanovic1635]

Unique pairings love that!

[@sandragalloway5601]

Great adivce to all. You have evolved into a guru.

[@SunshineShellz]

Merry & Happy Christmas Matthew and Stephen🎄

[@ligayamarilag8069]

Thanks Matthew for all your explanation about relationship great talks

[@wolfpack8193]

Matthew is my dream guy. He have so many unique paring.

[@amieamie6268]

I think this "not daring to ask you partner to try something new" is not just about being comfortable. I find that people I love and care about's oppinion of me means a lot more to me, then people I don't know. I think it's also fear of your partner thinking of you as slightly weird or wrong. Like if they think what you want to try is off, then it's going to hurt a lot more, than if a stranger thinks the same thing. However the reward is also a lot bigger. If they accept it and embrace it, then it'll feel a lot better than if a stanger is accepting and embracing.

[@robin-y9w]

Love unique pairing!!

[@notimetodienttd1115]

Bravo! Love your Unique Pairing concept. Like the right amount of salt, sugar & spice..😍 So make sense & practical & the recipe for exciting and lasting relationship. 👍✨✨

[@itsmygalaxy]

I paused to video and came to comment section to tell you that you are mesmerizing. How do you know my problem? My partner doesn't know my problem. But you know from a different corner of the world. Am I hallucinating?!

[@azingwaray10687]

Thank you for this Topic.😊

[@janessmorales7072]

Yr so nice thanks love u therapist best one around

[@anesit]

Our Relationship Doctor ❤️🌹🥰🤗

[@nolagrl2316]

My gosh, you have amazing advice. Do you do individual consultations?

[@notimetodienttd1115]

Our very own strength can also be our weakest link if we solely rely on that strength

[@mariachan-cx2se]

Discuss the topic of long distance relationship (I mean when the other person is in a different place) as the most liked comment said we r struggling with it

[@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light]

Can I say.......great to just be open and talk about these personal issues with your partner........Ive never had an issue with blurting it all out.......it's kind of the way iam..... others arnt like this, and it's ok......some people just can't open up......maybe Matt you can help give us blurters some advice on how to help our quiet partners to put everything on the table? With anything not just sexy stuff........I think by putting everything on the table it's the only true way to move forward positively! Also us blurters must have caring, thankful and appreciative responses, not ones to scare them....which can be human but not respectful, can take balks for someone to open up to us ...

[@susfar]

I’m in a situation where regular sex isn’t even on the menu. I would be satisfied with any type of intimacy at this point rather than anything adventurous.

[@Cantetinza17]

Have you asked why? Is it that your partner is stressed out maybe, or depressed. Are you making the moves? Definitely a conversation needs to be had, so you can get to the bottom of it.

[@NurseBillBennett]

Would love to hear you address ED. With the continuous pressure of the world sometimes “ things don’t work “. As that partner. How do you not make it about you and overthink they are not into you anymore. Also when this has happened my partner has gotten very very upset. Which almost too much. Is there more to someone getting that upset ? And how do I be supportive

[@shannagrubbs8548]

I think you are soo stinking handsome!...so articulate smart and insightful..I would only hope that I will meet someone with your qualities..😳🥰. I love you videos..thank you💗

[@wagasoolore]

OMGGGG LOVE THIS TOPIC MATTHEW XOXO THIS ALSO WORK FOR LGBT TOO

[@SaimaKhan-xx7pg]

MERRY CHRISTMAS MATHEW AND EVERYONE. stay blessed and safe.😘👍

[@jjm8224]

Such a sweet comment amidst all the flurry here. Merry Christmas to you too sweetie.

[@luciadefalco]

Unique pairing comment ;) it could be

[@Noname-1695]

I did what I did, but it's just never enough for him to be persuaded. He didn't even try to talk to me like personally, and there's just no way that a relationship will foster if it's just like that. So, it's better not to continue, unless he gives it a try. I'm sure if he doesn't change his behavior, even after dating other people, he will not found someone who will last long with him, because he thinks it's just all about his looks, and what he attained. Like, I don't care about that, I loved him because I've seen something that is rare, but it's not enough. I need someone who I can talk to, having the same passion as I do. But sadly, I'm done chasing him.

[@GypsyRock]

Obviously it’s not “rare” if he’s just another surface level douche obsessed with looks. (Also u say in the same sentence that even though hes “rare” it’s “not enough” 🤔) U didn’t see soemthing “rare” in him if ur already here complaining about him and his lack of talking to u personally, needing to “change his behavior,” and how nothing u do is “enough for him” Stick it out being single & wait til someone TRULY RARE crosses paths with u. Best of luck

[@erindeerhart5538]

Yeah, sounds like you've projected a lot.

[@This_RuthIsOnFire]

I am actually dating through exploring my sexuality at the moment. This isn’t about me thinking sex is everything - but more that I need to be comfortable enough to express my sexuality, healthily; and when to do it, when I find the person I’m ready to commit to.

[@christinaoneill1711]

Merry Christmas you've put me in the mood to go Ann Summers lol

[@christinaoneill1711]

Go to lol

[@janessmorales7072]

No I dont want to lash out or say things wrong I front of clair shes great I really like her alot

[@madamecurious]

Doris Day is the perfect example of “unique pairings”. She was beautiful and goofy at the same time! She was amazing.

[@audreym3777]

Que sera sera is the epitome of where we should all view life n love …nailed it

[@madamecurious]

@@audreym3777 Sí I agree !!! :)

[@OK-wb1dy]

Paying attention . Yes v important

[@ChoppedByTPodcast]

did Argentine tango one time and the instructor kept saying “let him lead.” Great advice and a display of leadership is to let others lead

[@flordeletras2203]

Greatings from Buenos Aires, I hope you enjoyed dancing to our music!

[@luciadefalco]

Ohhh bello! Keep on dancing Tango Unique dance, unique pairing

[@Sweet.faiza77]

A man like you 😍

[@notimetodienttd1115]

Our validation can become our own enemy, can cripple us..

[@Someone-jf8uw]

Mathew, please make a video on how to stop the habit of emotional dumping... I complain too much to my close friends and boyfriend and i feel like a terrible burden because of it. At the same time, venting is the only thing i can think of that makes me feel better and helps me to cope. I really want to stop it tho, i know sharing too much is toxic and annoying and exhausting to others. Please let me know what can i do alternatively...

[@syifayazidhabibah9303]

Instead of dumping it to someone else which resulted to you feeling bad, try journaling as your new cope. You will be able to vent and emotional dump freely without feeling guilty and heavily burdening someone. Even though the medium different, it can be quite relieving. As long as you dont repress the brimming emotion, every option might be worth to try on

[@Someone-jf8uw]

@@syifayazidhabibah9303 thanx, that seems like a great idea!!! Ill be sure to try it ☺️❤️❤️

[@RunninChic620]

Get a therapist in addition to you journaling. Journaling is good…but it sound like you need to learn how to process things in a healthier manner. A therapist will help you with that.

[@vhayashi7369]

Just tell your girlfriends, we understand each other that way. Men can't handle it much.

[@michelleshen5537]

You are so right! Thank you!

[@totallychillgirl8072]

I tried this. His kink was to watch me with another man! Made me sad, confused and sick to my stomach! What husband wants to watch his wife have sex with another man?????

[@bnb0510]

Agree 💯

[@morighani]

sounds like a dream. I’ll have him if you won’t

[@Mercy1-]

Lmao 🤣 that's embarrassing

[@alezy7645]

Yeah, Imagine he just wants your backdoor and then you realize you really don't want that... and he is obsessed about it

[@erindeerhart5538]

Wouldn't you rather know?

[@LL-wu5ui]

@@erindeerhart5538 why would i rather know that I cannot provide him his biggest wish?

[@erindeerhart5538]

@@LL-wu5ui You'd rather not know why he's going to get frustrated and leave you in the end, with a broken heart and the feeling of having wasted months or even years of your life?

[@tammycain8421]

@@erindeerhart5538 your comment is stupid if a man leaves because of that you don't want them.

[@Cantetinza17]

So he wants anal, you don want to give it, so your scared that he'll leave cause you don't want anal? I would say bye to him. That's a stupid reason to leave.

[@bayot3561]

My boyfriend called me crazy woman in bed. So i dnt know if its negative or positive feed back but i just give him a big smile everytime he calls me crazy woman. Him addressing me crazy woman in bed i felt im being validated that he enjoyed having sex with me. Thank you handsome Mathew for discussing about sex. Somehow u as a man u validated me that im actually doing right steps in my sex life. Because i really thought im weird and not normal being crazy in bed. Now i know that i am normal and my sex drive is just normal 😀

[@GypsyRock]

Going down while he’s on the phone lmao. I tried that a decade or so ago and he pushed my head away. He was on the phone with his mom.

[@erindeerhart5538]

I wouldn't want to be super sexually turned on while talking with my mom, either.

[@bitturuyal6850]

Maybe try this when he's on phone with someone apart from his parents 😂

[@Sara2016a]

Maybe he doesn’t deserve you. He should put the phone away in those moments.

[@erindeerhart5538]

@@Sara2016a I think you completely missed the point. The point is that he's on the phone and is trying to hold an intelligent conversation with someone while he's totally distracted by the pleasure you're giving him. There's nothing to judge here.

[@Sara2016a]

@@erindeerhart5538 Yeah I think I took it the other way lol. Thanks.

[@liliangoodness8154]

I got all of mine exactly where I want them.They think they DO themselves. Bt oh well😎😎

[@janessmorales7072]

Then yeah they keep idk tryin to like talk for someone else or something

[@eemerson7323]

Any tips on making the first move when you deal with rejection anxiety?

[@shia8812]

Just accept it genuinely

[@Cantetinza17]

You have to tell yourself that rejection is protection. Know that rejection is a part of life. The most successful people in the world have been rejected. You move on and you try with someone else.

[@blinddatereject]

You gotta work on the rejection anxiety or else making the first move will just reinforce the dynamic you already have going on.

[@london8044]

Rejection is redirection

[@mevludeabdullahi7138]

Ende wat you laikit to sey wyt dhis ???

[@susanshams1112]

Hi I am susan I need your advice please I'm in relationship with a sex narcissistic person from 4 years I broke my heart. Use me l feel very bad and anxious also sick with him .I'm trying to leave him but I fail I'm lonely I haven't friends or family. I want to stop addiction but I fail please help me

[@r.dorsey5829]

I recently have been very open about what I like and what I don't like... And frankly the guys I'm interested in enough to even have this conversation with, seem to become a bit on edge the more I want to talk about sex.. like talking about sex is too much for them. As one gentleman I dated for about 6 months stated "I'd rather show, not tell" 🤷🏾‍♀️ (like dude what does that even mean)

[@This_RuthIsOnFire]

Feeld is an excellent dating platform if you want to be more open about this :) Set your boundaries and go for it!

[@belonabratt5480]

Look I have done anything necessary to embrace a healthy and nice relationship. But he is narcissistic and the first time I said that I wasn't happy ,after hold everything in for 3 yrs. He turn to me and said OK. Walking out of my life ,and the every next day he engaged a relationship to someone else and they seem very happy together and planning life. I never had that with him a part of insulting. Its just 5 months we broke up.

[@alezy7645]

So much better he is out of your life, what would have been if you had kids....

[@NurseBillBennett]

Jesus. I was with a narcissist for a year. I don’t know how you did : I know all too well what you endured. I hope you know none of that had anything to do with you.

[@GypsyRock]

“Every next day” ?? 🤔 🤨

[@erindeerhart5538]

@@GypsyRock very next day

[@taffylove6193]

❤❤❤You are very blessed that he left you!! PLEASE REMEMBER that everything with a narc is FAKE & a LIE.. I have met huge amounts of people that had to ESCAPE from narco/paths. Think Gabby Petito~~Then you will understand. Blessings❤

[@wildchild2866]

What if you’ve been with someone and you’re at a place where you know they limit you and the relationship has become toxic, but you have been struggling to let them go permanently. I feel attached & addicted. However, logically I know this relationship doesn’t serve me anymore. Do you recommend any of your videos? Pls help.

[@christinaoneill1711]

Just distance yourself from the person vist a friend etc

[@Cantetinza17]

I say get a therapist to help build your confidence and help you come up with your exit strategy and then go.

[@janessmorales7072]

I kinda worked out earlier yeah oh alright I don't sing while sad

[@janessmorales7072]

Yes cops said take pictures

[@janessmorales7072]

Yeah there also injecting things in me and kaylie too idk

[@sue-annthandy5387]

I’ve joined 27+ meet up groups but 1 sexual one/ Party’s/ 2 other Jaccuzis places Ect Ect, what I can’t do others can Men go to courtesans because the wife/ partner won’t strangly

[@cs7009]

WHERE DO YOU GET THAT SCULPTURE AT 10:12

[@fatmasharaf2953]

Having a good company with this, these days.

[@rubyvillarubia3338]

Are you happy to do that

[@thearodriguez5251]

That awkward moment when Matthew Hussey describes forcing a sex act onto a person at an inappropriate moment without warning and portrays the fact that it may annoy a person and be bad timing... as an opportunity for communication too deepen intimacy! How about being thoughtful enough to communicate first, too learn, what a person enjoys!

[@thearodriguez5251]

@Gift Cynthia I am not heartbroken dear!

[@janessmorales7072]

Idk

[@MrPip007]

Hi Matthew, my concern with meeting his enjoyments, is my partners porn viewing has distorted his view of 'real sex' & what women like. He likes to view 'extreme' & that i would be 'vanilla', so meeting his needs is far beyond what normal women (myself included) do. What do I do in this case? He is a nice guy & I enjoy his company, but porn has distorted his understandings.

[@MRosaPereira]

Estou sendo incomodada por alguém a passar se pelo Matheus para me extorquir dinheiro.

[@Womansdailyneeds]

I live in a very religious culture so sex is a No no . It’s something people don’t talk about. Then there’s me who is very comfortable in my sexuality. Not a topic I’m afraid to talk about. My friends and family think I should stop I’m like why. It’s normal outside of Utah . It’s all about communication of needs. I’m so glad I have to say everything that comes out of my mouth. I would love to come however I can’t right now. Unless matthew you want to convince my bf to get it for me ? Haha. You got my attention all the time matthew. You could make a video of you sleeping I bet your fans would still watch. We are all beautiful and unique features about ourselves. If someone doesn’t like you then that’s there issue not yours. Love your passion so beautiful. I want my bf to come to Utah . Stubborn man I say. Anyways so it’s our story no else’s. I am not shy letting a guy know I’m attracted. I’m kind to everyone so I always make sure to do that. I like the bring up things as well on dates. I will start to defear well I have done that. I like the advice thanks matthew hussey

[@GypsyRock]

“I will start to defear well I have done that”. ??? 🧐 🤔 can u explain???

[@bnb0510]

Utah is so freaking weird man!

[@veronicaphiri7432]

Lol girl are from the LDS church?

[@lleohana]

«You could make a video of you sleeping i bet your fans would still watch» it sounds weird but i think people wouldve done that 😂😂😂

[@marymusgrove4930]

All hubby says when I try and talk to him about sex is I like it all. Or whatever you want to do...

[@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light]

Maybe just a nice pash to start with he he.......like old school movies lol!!! Maybe some fun dirty dancing lol!!!

[@MrLordWarren]

Brother this title is imo very unhealthy! Why would it ever be good to get someone addicted to you!? Sounds like it could create a codependent relationship there. Anyway that's just the title, gonna listen to the video now lol

[@wagasoolore]

that's why people go cheating and explore the sex out of the relationships

[@rubyvillarubia3338]

Think first before you talk in social media I'm not to come here to make myself happy I'm here to work and for your information i didn't go to date with men,,ok

[@jadegreen1554]

I wish I could hear what Matthew has to say about strip clubs, prostitutes (is it just normal?) and should we just expect it? I think it is a guy secret. 😶 really.

[@cakissin]

Now do 3 simple steps to get him unaddicted.

[@jjm8224]

😂

[@BanaMSahli]

I feel you! My last love interest (who turned out to be MARRIED) was obsessed with me. He was so controlling

[@DarlingGoddess]

😂😂😂😂

[@FunnyAsian00]

but as a man, I wasn't supposed to chase

[@Mercy1-]

The video means how to love your partner

[@janessmorales7072]

If I see my kids in danger I won't hesitate to call the police

[@trevorm9551]

i AM weird

[@jadegreen1554]

Where is the episode about non-monogamy?

[@meganpasta164]

I imagined him getting blown under the table like he mentioned 😂

[@privateequityguy]

*11 Simple Self Improvement Principles For Strong Women* 1. Drink more water 2. Eat whole foods 3. Practice daily gratitude 4. Pick up a book 5. Daily walks outside 6. Listen to a TED Talk 7. Forgive someone 8. Stop following Kardashians and build something for yourself 9. Join a group of supportive individuals 10. Stop nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) 11. Congratulate yourself for this growth Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.

[@privateequityguy]

@Billy Graham Yep, many people struggle with it. We help with that as well as with any bad habit people want to break.

[@erindeerhart5538]

Where do you get #10? Sounds like bullshit to me.

[@erindeerhart5538]

Or maybe you're just saying that women's self-worth is more dependent on their fingernails than it is for men.

[@mlbm13]

@@erindeerhart5538 I see a lot more men with ugly nails than women

[@mlbm13]

Mail biting is a form of anxiety

[@hollyc.691]

Poor Matthew Hussey has got a cold

[@MsJamilaaa]

I LOVE Mathew dearly, but the title of this video has nothing to do with the content 🙏🏻

[@kneeyo00]

..".How to Get him Addicted " In other words... "How to manipulate his emotions...based on your own insecurity in the ability to keep him interested by just being yourself..."

[@kneeyo00]

@shafaat salisu ... When he left... He done right. 🌸🌿

[@MetaPhysStore0770]

I think your missing the FACT that guys tell all their guy friends about the kinky stuff he just did, guys can NEVER keep it to themselves. Blabbermouths make me hold back!

[@sh3498]

☀️☀️💐☀️☀️💐

[@mheartshape6817]

spice it up, cheat!

[@gigibtsurvivor3348]

Why such a hyperbolic word like “addicted”? Addiction is never healthy. Please discontinue use of such titles and descriptors.

[@GypsyRock]

🙄🙄🙄

[@erindeerhart5538]

@@simplicity4783 much much? 🙄

[@erindeerhart5538]

Anyway, I agree. Addiction is unhealthy, and trying to make someone addicted is the equivalent of pushing drugs. So you really want someone to suffer horribly when you're not physically or emotionally available for them, or if one day you leave them? Who in this scenario is the one with the problem?

[@TheFairKnight]

It's KZbin, clickbait titles is the name of the game here

[@erindeerhart5538]

@@TheFairKnight The medium is, unfortunately, the message.

[@robpri]

Wtf

[@Revolution-tl5wo]

As well-intended as these segments are, it just gets annoying to see how female-dominated this market space is. You never see these coaching channels directed toward men, and you never see men doing all this emotional labor to figure out how to be better. I got over spending my energy on this stuff years ago, not sure why YT keeps showing me these titles. Women are stuck with a disproportionate amount of emotional and mental labor already just to coexist in a world dominated by men. I damn sure am not doing it in my intimate relationships.

[@lordcathank.kavanahgmailco7271]

Let me help you manifest restoration in your relationship with your ex permanently in less than 3days..👆🏻📧

[@datapatch7381]

?

[@bongvalera5742]

The fuck! Why should you chase HER.. You're not a dog.. 🙄

[@rubyvillarubia3338]

I'm so angry for that wrong information plz stop all of this,,,don't make me clown for all social media,🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@rubyvillarubia3338]

Your are the great famous and rich,,why you always tricking and ruining my life and broadcast in the world's you make my life clown,,,,thank you so much,,,