3 steps to finding confidence | Kris Kelso | TEDxOldHickory

[@pamelas.harper5205]

In a world that's changing faster than ever before, no one can know everything.Developing "humble confidence," as Kris describes it, can help us lead ourselves and others through unprecedented situations and come out better for what we learn along the way.

[@LilacPledge]

Self esteem vs. self efficacy- feelings vs. ability to figure it out. I can be confident not because I’ve done this thing before but because I’ve done so many other things.

[@wilmarierodriguez2101]

1. I dont know 2. Reorient your source of confidence 3. Be more open to share your mistakes Thanks!!

[@thekriskelso]

You're very welcome, and thanks for the summary!

[@ChristopherMcCluskey-g6q]

"Humble Confidence" -- I love that depiction and it was worth the entire presentation by itself, but there was SO much more. This talk furthers some of what Kris addressed in his 2021 book, 'Overcoming the Impostor". Brilliant insights, masterfully conveyed!

[@jenniferj.fondrevay]

Why didn't I hear this message years ago!!! As a leader I did think I had to know all the answers, all the time. But I like how this message isn't just applicable to work. Having humble confidence (love that reframe of imposter syndrome) is a great way to think about the mindset you need for life.

[@yadanarmyohtut9037]

I just broke up with someone who has the humble confidence. While listening this, I started to hear what he said to me every time I asked him for advice on something . He used to start with “I don’t know but you should do this and that “ and so on. He is extremely good at giving advice and communicating with people. Always included other people into the conversation even though he was obviously the smartest one. It’s really hard for me to go through this breakup but I will just consider it as the most valuable lesson I’ve learned.

[@thekriskelso]

Thanks for sharing that. I'm sorry for the tough breakup, but it sounds like you are taking some good things away from the relationship that will benefit you for the rest of your life.

[@c.t5136]

Thank you. You have defined me and I had never been defined before in such a positive way. How refreshing. How enlightening.

[@thekriskelso]

You are very welcome, and thank you for sharing that! I'm so glad to hear that it resonated.

[@katehickey6034]

Hoping young people and business people heed this advice! Well done.

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you, Kate! I hope so too.

[@kakelso]

Humble confidence is such a great concept! I'm so bad at wanting to sound more knowledgeable than I am when it comes to new things, so this is very helpful advice.

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you! I'm so glad it resonated. It's something I work on every day.

[@davidaskmusic]

KRIS IS AWESOME!

[@MollyMontgomery-l1p]

This could not have come at a better time, thank you Kris that makes so much sense, we'll done.

[@thekriskelso]

I LOVE it when my message is not only relevant, but timely. Thank you for sharing that.

[@lisajoneslive]

Congratulations on your TEDx talk Kris Kelso! I especially loved how you infused humor into such a serious topic-it’s no small feat to make people laugh while also delivering a powerful message. You had me nodding, laughing, and Googling “how to be as cool as Kris Kelso” all at the same time. Well done!

[@JessicaFall]

Prioritize the value of the learning! Yes, such good advice. Thank you for helping me reframe my thinking.

[@thekriskelso]

You're welcome, Jessica - I'm so glad it was helpful.

[@Seriks-wrld]

This guy is speaking the truth… hence why so many these days feel that heavy burden of an “imposter syndrome”. Asking for help is hard..but not as hard as failing in front of everyone.

[@thekriskelso]

I appreciate you saying that! These are hard-learned lessons and I hope that others can learn them more quickly than I did :)

[@AveryWhitehorn]

This is wonderful Kris!! Well done.

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you, Avery!

[@ewalichorowicz4614]

Excellent speech with great points, Kris! 🎉 When we are truthful to ourselves, we are also truthful with everyone around us and that also helps us build trust. Thank you so much! 🙏❤😊

[@thekriskelso]

You're welcome, and thank you as well. Trust building is such an important work that gets neglected all too easily.

[@SusanRobertson-u6p]

Thanks Kris, these were great insights. I have occasionally fallen into the trap of proud insecurity, and it’s not a good place to be. You’re correct that it creates a lot of stress. I have gotten much better about saying “I don’t know”, which is real progress for me. Your ideas are spot on!

[@thekriskelso]

You're very welcome, Susan, and I appreciate the comments very much.

[@LilacPledge]

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, its thinking of yourself less” “From proud insecurity to humble confidence”

[@bobbao2027]

As a small business owner, I 100% agree with his point. Those insights are truly valuable and based on real experience, which is really important these days. Young people should listen to him and put them into practice. You will appreciate it.

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you for saying that. We have to pass these lessons on to the next generation of leaders.

[@Actress_Monica_Biel]

Great insights! Kris really nails it with "Humble Confidence." It's such a refreshing take on the usual advice! Can't wait to hear everyone's thoughts on this approach. 😊

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you, Monica! I appreciate that.

[@susanmbarber]

Great job Kris! Love your message! Everyone can learn from the vulnerability you are sharing here who might believe that faking it is the only way to succeed when they lack confidence. The concept of humble confidence is a much better approach!

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you, Susan!

[@TABDenverWest]

Fantastic! Your message is awesome and should be heard by people of all ages and levels. Our journey’s are similar and humble confidence is the way to go!

[@javierjav8864]

THank you very much for saying, I never agreed with fake it until you make it, I always felt it as a lie, to people and to you.

[@judibontreger4338]

Well done! Humble confidence and the willing to start with, "I don't know."

[@thekriskelso]

Thanks, Judi!

[@MdJesan-ti7jz]

I just listen his speaking. I think how he got the most confidence when he talk in front of everyone

[@speakerelevation]

This is great, Kris!!

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you!

[@JennyImhoff]

Brilliant concept! I'm going to stop managing my image effective immediately. Thank you, Kris Kelso!

[@AndrewDavisSpeaker]

Wow! Fantastic advice! I love Humble Confidence! Great work @kriskelso!

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you, Andrew! Your influence is definitely present here :)

[@danielakostova146]

Thank you so much for this! Made a shift in me!

[@thekriskelso]

I am so glad to hear that, Daniela! Thank you for sharing that. It means a lot to know I'm having an impact on people.

[@mfreddy22]

Great video, Kris!!

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you! A lot of work (from a lot of people besides me) went into it. I'm really glad you enjoyed it.

[@ThomSinger]

Great job Kris. I agree with the statement about not liking the “fake it til you make it” advice. I always said it was “be a fraud till you succeeded”. lol your whole talk if great

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you, Thom! I appreciate that.

[@makenziestokel8566]

LOVE this!!

[@thekriskelso]

Thanks, Makenzie! I'm so glad it resonated with you. I appreciate you sharing it.

[@reggiedford]

This is so powerful!!!

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you, Reggie!

[@ouafaekaddouri7094]

Great talk

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you!

[@Yuusou.]

“Failures” are not “lessons learned”, they're just “lessons”. They become “lessons learned” when you actually do not have the same “failures”. This misconception is also driving a lot of IT and security departments, who ask “What have we learned?” after an outage. The answer is "nothing", because if the lesson was learned, the outage wouldn't have happened in the first place. You prove that you learned something by executing it properly.

[@thekriskelso]

Fair point - just saying it's a lesson learned doesn't make it one - you have to actually learn from it! :)

[@Yuusou.]

@@thekriskelso I was not expecting you to read or respond to my comment. Thank you 🙂

[@anniewade6214]

Excellently put!

[@KimAvery-q5c]

Great perspective!

[@thekriskelso]

Thank you, Kim!

[@maceface2657]

This is awesome! My dad has said a lot of the same stuff. I guess he’s right.

[@thekriskelso]

Hmm - sounds like a wise man.

[@markshaffer8991]

just finished your TEDx talk. Cudos, my friend!! Excellent, personally inspiring and helpful for me in my current position in life; THANK YOU! I’m passing this along to a close friend in Hilton Head who is currently transitioning from part time entrepreneur and part time employee to full time entrepreneur, a very exciting time in her life! Blessings brother! I would enjoy a coffee/breakfast at some point as your schedule allows; my treat of course. PS: I see you are associated with Nashville EC. Sam is a good friend and past client of Flip. 😉. Small town stuff!

[@thekriskelso]

Thanks, Mark! I appreciate you sharing it!

[@bukurie6861]

Thank you🌍😍

[@thekriskelso]

You're very welcome! Thanks for giving me a bit of your time.

[@bukurie6861]

Thank you😍👏

[@theavengers.]

Love ted since young

[@mariaantoniettamontella9173]

bravo

[@EL-jl8zg]

I've always felt uncomfortable when hearing people tell me to "fake it til you make it." I finally know why.

[@thekaxmax]

=="Lie to yourself until you believe it"

[@EL-jl8zg]

@@thekaxmax = to delude oneself

[@thekriskelso]

Me too! It never sat right with me. Took me a while to figure out what to do instead.

[@Anifix123]

I had the same experience

[@laurenb1963]

Brilliant advice! Thank you.

[@thekriskelso]

You're very welcome, and thank you for saying so!

[@Danartbello]

Bravo❤

[@thekriskelso]

Thanks!

[@kamilaakizhanova5636]

Omg I’m girl who are studying in 11th grade,I have to graduate to university and do you know guys,I’m trying to make it elsewhere,because my voice in the hand always tell me “You must be leader”.Owing to I’ve just watched this podcast I understand that we never been leader elsewhere,just keep your hobby or job good work and it will be enough

[@saharbelhouchet]

One of tay tay lyrics in her new album ttpd :" it's fun to fake it till you make ' ❤

[@yogeshkad6928]

Thank u Krish I am also not agree with fake it till make it

[@Pulpdiction1999]

The same people who tell you to fake it til you make it will be the first to say they can't be their 'authentic self'.

[@thekriskelso]

Ha ha - good point!

[@craigpaxson8848]

How about instead of "Fake it 'til you make it' we say 'Learn it 'til you earn it.'

[@thekriskelso]

Ooooh - I like that.

[@AnonyMummy]

Such a dull title i almost didnt click but geez it was good!!!!

[@thekriskelso]

I'm so glad you did!

[@bahrekamaladvocate4847]

Great

[@GarengSitumorang621]

Failure makes me better and work even harder, without it u'll never get better and get what u deserve. It's cool n it's pleasant. But it doesn't means this is the cause of you making the same mistake a million times, it's 'bout how u react and find the value of the failure u've made.

[@Dromarmaree]

هل صليت على رسول الله ❤️

[@mohzakir07]

TED ❤

[@samriti1215]

❤

[@grimscriven]

Taskmaster has conditioned me to think this man will be disqualified because he's stepping on the red green.

[@thekriskelso]

Ha ha! 😆

[@sisilyarams6374]

Wanna become a tedx

[@shannonkrasinski3642]

!!

[@Im.gaganmann]

First comment plz pin me❤

[@HennessyDeborah]

You won't believe what happened to me recently. I was broke and struggling with finance,getting contracts offers failed. I felt like i was hitting a dead end every time. But then, I came across this unconventional solution while reading online. I decided to give it a shot out of desperation.

[@AndreasHofmann46]

Really? I'm in a similar situation right now. What did you do?

[@HennessyDeborah]

I came across a powerful prophetess and i followed her guidance and rituals provided.

[@HennessyDeborah]

And guess what? A company that had rejected me before called back saying they wanted to award me the contract. It was like a dream come true. You should look her up online now

[@AndreasHofmann46]

wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

[@HennessyDeborah]

Her name is Prophetess Regina Kuma,and she is great at what she does. you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

[@orfeas8]

half the video had a negative tone trying to discredit the ''fake it till you make it'' motto, which if used correctly people can be helped. just pass your message without tearing down others and a method which has helped many people be on their desired path. we need someone to look up to at least in our first steps in order to make a start.

[@Funny-f3f]

I don't know 😂show you outdoor from client end is fact 😉. You move business to business because of your statement 😞 rather than paying physiologist you should spend 😂on marketing manager or product manager, outsourcing your business may help you to sustain in single business for long term 😢over loose money 🤑💰 and time 🙏.

[@sobczak0712]

"Fake it till you make it" was one of the best speach on TeDX on tyhis channnel and now its a BIG MISTAKE xD