What Nobody Tells You About Your Twenties | Livi Redden | TEDxBayonne

[@danylo7201]

Hello everybody. I am 20 years old and from Ukraine. After what I heard in this video I want to cry. I feel that I live in another universe, because building of myself, thinking about the best years of life, thinking before going to sleep "Am I happy enough" - I always have samr answer - no. Because in Ukraine, the genocide of my people by the russians. Right now, I and my whole generation feel that our life is completely lost. Most of my generation aged 16-25 do not see the meaning of life at all. That week I attended the funerals of 2 of my acquaintances who were not even 30 yet. And this happens every month, every week, every day... I really want That such tedtoks would be relevant to me, but all I feel at the moment is envy of my peers from other countries who have opportunities that I do not have and will never have

[@lauramr6094]

I cant imagine what youre going through. I am so sorry . There arent enough words. But time has a huge power. Your life changed and it will change again. Stay strong. No bad thing last forever.

[@samyakjain727]

sorry to hear that man :( how are you doing today

[@anumoleb5742]

Please hope for the best always in prayers❤❤

[@ostannyanadiia]

Мені так шкода, що ми це проживаємо і що росіяни крадуть у нас життя в усіх сенсах. Це жахливо, дуже сумно і неймовірно несправедливо. Будь ласка, бережіть себе.

[@ebtihaljassim98]

Daily love and prayers will be sent to you and your people💚⭐️🤲 I’m sorry you have to live in time of war and violence, I’m telling you from my personal experience, your grief will end, you will find peace one day, no matter what the external situations are! 💕

[@soniakhalid3202]

27 and halfway through my PhD program to find out that my passions lie elsewhere. Currently having conversations with administration to make those dreams a reality. The reminder to make bold decisions to achieve peace and alignment encourages me to keep going. Thank you

[@KhaledElhannat]

Video Summary: The speaker discusses the lack of practical emotional and decision-making training for young people in their twenties and emphasizes the importance of developing these skills to lead a less stressful and more fulfilling life. She introduces three pillars: unlearning social conditioning, designing an authentic way of being, and taking action, to promote better emotional intelligence and self-guided growth. The goal is to empower young adults to make conscious choices and create a successful life aligned with their core values. - 00:00 The lack of practical emotional and decision-making training for young people in their twenties - 02:58 The decisions and habits we form in our 20s have a significant impact on our future. - 05:57 The speaker discusses the struggles faced by teens and 20-somethings, emphasizing the need for better emotional and decision-making skills. - 08:56 Living in alignment means aligning your core priorities, actions, and thoughts with your deepest core values, leading to a blissful and fulfilling life. - 11:56 The speaker talks about the importance of intentional growth and why we put forth the effort. - 14:56 Making bold changes in our lives can be scary, but if it feels right, it can bring more peace than chaos.

[@whoisaish]

Thanks (100th like btw👍)

[@tminus21]

THANK U FOR THIS

[@tminus21]

@@Tetus7 lmao

[@b1gb017]

fresh outta ChatGPT

[@Someone38482]

Thank u

[@atlas.pictor4325]

When I was 20, I don't think we have many great resources like this TED talk here. Looking back on my own twenties, I can say that life has a way of teaching me many lessons, some easy, some hard. So when you come across those hard moments, please don't beat yourself up. It is very likely that you're facing that problem for the first time in your life, it is expected to feel very difficult. Just breathe and learn to grow from it. The fact that you're here to prepare for your twenties means you are light years and wiser from tiny me, don't give up!

[@GbemisolaOluwasina]

Thank you.

[@saminaaktermila2533]

Thank you

[@aranyadaengchoey5304]

❤❤❤

[@vaishalivasava8216]

I also don't know about ted talk, even I don't have the free wifi and laptop, missed many things

[@Kintu-Ha]

At 21, I quit social media because telling the truth, social media never made me happy, but miserable.

[@faithfryatt6408]

At 22, this REALLY resonates with me. The more work you put into yourself in your youth, the better off you will be for the rest of your life. Such an amazing talk! Y’all should check out her book- The Sooner You Know, The Better! Read this recently and she goes into more detail with these concepts with great humor. Highly recommend!!

[@pski3]

Thank you so much, I'll check it out now.

[@RosaliaGenora]

Thank you for sharing, will check it out

[@legolas66106]

Yep, this is true. If you don't, you become a thrity-something nobody, and you really don't want that. So finish school, take a year to really think your future and only then go to college and pursue a degree. Well, unless you already know what you want, then you are one of the lucky few.

[@karoldvallejo2812]

Where is the book?

[@GbemisolaOluwasina]

Thank you.

[@Zila626]

I just turned 30. I'm proud of my twenties. I didn't achieve all my goals, certainly am nowhere near successful by societal standards, and deal with a lot of depression and social anxiety issues. But I learned so much about myself and life and have always been "personal growth" and spiritually oriented (pagan and Buddhist). I was suffering and realized no one around me was going to help me/knew about emotional intelligence work, so I went searching (and still am) for my own answers. I'm so far from where I want to be but I've come a long way and honor my process. Self compassion, curiousity, and mindfulness have been my best tools, along with some therapy to help validate my experiences and realize my core values.

[@Zila626]

Look into something called the VIA survey too for anyone reading- it helps narrow down your strengths, weaknesses, and overall values, and gives suggestions for daily actions that align with said values.

[@jackhancock2001]

@zila626 I'm glad to hear this, you seem like you are on a good path forward, take care and I wish you a peaceful life /jack from Sweden

[@jatinranjan7954]

You can make it, i hope you get it someday.

[@darkcloud13]

This is your journey. If no one ever told you: You're doing great. You own this! Keep it up! 😊

[@nisey_holmes]

Just turned 34.. I’m glad I’m not alone. Well wishes on your journey through life. 🙏🏾❤️ at a few years older, my advice is to stay in tune and true to yourself. I have faith you’ll be okay ❤

[@darinherrick9224]

I would say one of the worst problems is this enormous pressure to achieve everything as fast as possible. It’s insanity. An entire worldwide society making children burn out into early graves to achieve a personal future that may never come. Maybe we aren’t supposed to be out authentic selves or achieve self mastery or have all the answers because... we are still kids. Great TED Talk pointed out its society’s obligation to give mediocre people a chance to achieve, not to grind high performing youth into dust.

[@prernasingh4955]

21, Indian. The title itself was an attention catcher. I graduated this year, and trust me this is the most difficult, confusing, stressed, anxious, and struggling phase of my life. It feels comforting to hear that so many of us are sailing in the same boat. also, I believe this is the only time when we are not running in autopilot mode and are finally getting the chance to think about ourselves, our values, our belief systems, and who we really are. during this phase, I have realized that it is essential for me to spend time with myself and reflect on these questions. stay distant from voices that fade these voices inside of me and continue to REFLECT, REFLECT, AND REFLECT.

[@nilakshi-0005]

I can feel you. Truly.

[@pirateluffy01]

Bihari here i can feel you

[@MedicoreMacaroni]

❤

[@Jameslo729]

"You are still in a good position, girl. I’m almost the same age as you and still haven’t even graduated from high school, so don’t worry. You still have a long journey ahead of you.

[@Hiiraatif]

Right ❤❤

[@ayushibansal9315]

I'm in my 20s and I decided to deactivate my Instagram at the age of 21. I heard this a lot that the habits of now are gonna affect the rest of my life. I didn't want mindless scrolling to be a part of the rest of my life, or even for a few years

[@instant_mint]

I'm 28 and I commend you for doing this 💪 It is an addiction, a bad coping method. There are much better things to do with your time and energy. Good for you!! ❤

[@SilkFeathers]

Escapism is often the root of our unfulfilling habits like mindless scrolling as you said, for me as a child it was the internet as a whole. Unlearn and relearn- and we will both stop this habit :) I like staying connected to the moment now, for once in a long while, when only going to my phone for necessities- might try out a nokia and tell you how it goes! Maybe some grounding techniques when you catch yourself in the moment.

[@snowjae9380]

You made an excellent decision. I deleted social media years ago and I have achieved my dream job, lost weight at the gym, and can pursue my hobbies. I look at my friends who have not deleted it and I am sad to see them waste their life away.

[@andrescurls29]

I also did this when I was 21. I am 28 now and have no regrets. It feels much better doing things and living life for myself without caring about other people's validation. And those people who do matter, I've found to stay connected even without my social media.

[@wayof_annu]

I didn't deactivated my account But limit the time of usage now last from 5 days it has consumed only 1hr 39 min of day is it fine?y​@@instant_mint

[@for.am12]

I am 25. Struggling with choices and doubting whether my actions are correct. By doing efforts of aligning “myself” with the society, I have struggled with self doubts. Probably it’s the best video I watched. ❤

[@patriciacavalcantedc]

same here..

[@winnienyevu8404]

same here😢

[@kirti.chhabra]

Hope we find contentment in ourselves soon ❤️

[@ZoeyRobinson-ft8st]

Same

[@belarbsh2589]

same, hits hard

[@Valerie-xs5zm]

Adulting was always my biggest wish. Making choices on your own and not always being dependant on your parents is a really great thing, but it is scary how the time passes and you kind of feel like not living at all and every day is the same. Comparison is also a thing I started to struggle with as I grew older. Realising how unfair life is. This video made me realise that I am not alone and thing eventually will figure. I hope that someday my work will pay off.

[@pulanemolotsi6998]

Someday it will pay off, hope that you're in a better space and things have been working out well for you❤

[@robi3228]

better that than adultering

[@sallylewis9617]

“We must take radical responsibility as soon as possible as this is where joy & fulfilment are born.” Such an important talk for all young people to hear…thank you for sharing your profound wisdom Livi💖

[@GbemisolaOluwasina]

Radical responsibility

[@8wanda123]

I’m 24 and these concepts have been heavily on my mind very often these days. I found this video at the right moment.

[@carmenmoen170]

The amount of people I've been sharing this video with, is mad. I saved it and downloaded it. I'm 20 so honestly perfect timing.

[@annajoseph-sims8246]

Speaking about bold changes and their parallels with skydiving in a metaphorical sense really resonated with me. Especially when mentioning how it's the people that have never jumped are the ones speaking against it the most. There's a quote this aligns with: Those who were born in a cage think flying is an illness. I realized this is how some people in my life are, and because they thought flying was an illness, it made me hesitant to fly. But just because they're in a cage doesn't mean I have to be. It's a freeing feeling, and I'm still working towards it. I really enjoyed your tedx talk.

[@skylarsustin]

"life-changing, life-saving, society-changing skills" that line is powerful and 100% true when it comes to emotional development. This is such an important conversation and you share it so beautifully! Everyone needs to watch this! I'm 23 and this definitely resonated with me from so many different angles. Thank you!

[@deegiiswt3745]

same here, I'm 23 too kk and I'm agree with u

[@bilalmanzoor6559]

Hi, I hope you would read my text and as a human beings plz... answer of my text. You are love of my life.

[@mainagacheru]

I feel like the speaker was reading my life currently. I m 25 years living in Kenya . Recently I made bold decision of resigning the job because I was feeling that I wasn't adding value to my life but was more money driven. But having listen to the speaker words I feel like I made the right decision for my future. Once again thank you

[@samuelngae7593]

Moment of bliss au sio.

[@Rob_roberts]

Itakua Sawa 🫶

[@franklyneakivaga]

🤝🏾 polepole ndio mwendo

[@lise-josnyman3739]

I just turned 32, and I have been in weekly therapy sessions for 5 years to try to unlearn so many "ways of dealing with life," and rebuild the foundation. There was so much pressure before to conform to take care of everyone else first, earn well, and constantly be busy. Thank you for sharing about "Living in alignment." The truth right there!

[@liviredden]

This is amazing, good for you👏👏

[@ivethmartinez4147]

I just turned 28 and you cannot imagine how much your comment means to me -I feel so behind and lost, already frustrates to not started before to live aligned to myself instead of society and parents expectations. Seeing how far you came, all that hard work you have been putting, makes me feel hopeful and a bit less alone.

[@yanyu6509]

Well, just take a note here for myself. In conclusion, she metioned three important pillars: unlearning, being and doing. Unlearning is kind of unlearning what the society had taught you all your life, learn to hear how your heart truly says, constantly reflects yourself. Being is being your true self, ignoring what other people say about how you should “build your house”. Instead of that, start building it in your own way. You’ll feel the most comfortable in the house you made for yourself. Lastly, doing. You must take the action, even if it is the most scary thing to do. People tend to afraid of the bold changes, cus it’s unpredictable. But actually, if you do it right, it will bring more peace than chaos. Reread all this and find out, the word repeated the most is “yourself”, make sense, cus only if you see through yourself, you find the peace in your soul. And that’s what matter the most.

[@muskanustad3834]

She said, build a house as society has said, then due to leakage you will find there is something mistake and then you build it by own. This is a different thing

[@GbemisolaOluwasina]

Unlearn❤

[@Ana_02447]

I am a sophomore in High-school. Yesterday i wrote an essay regarding schools providing classes for mental stability and support. Following this video i am so grateful that i wrote that essay and overall provided good facts and information exactly like what was given in this video.

[@IkyeghSky-sj3ut]

I’m 21 from Nigeria 🇳🇬 where it’s almost impossible to get things straight at a young age .I’m glad I just watched this 💯 …… one Tedtalk a day will take you to a different dimension ❤

[@IkyeghSky-sj3ut]

The sooner you grow the better…..

[@I_am_FRANCO]

What country is actually good

[@mfernanda28]

Same here in Colombia. I'm twenty and next year I'ma about to graduate. I don't even know what to do with my life but we should just keep faith in our future and try to make a good live

[@restythenurse]

"A FEELING OF BEING CONSTANTLY AT WAR WITH THEIR MINDS" 100000000000000000% ✅✅✅✅✅✅

[@_rd_kocaman]

Weak

[@restythenurse]

@@_rd_kocaman You know what, I agree. I am WEAK. I have so much FEAR. I overthink a lot. And it’s very frustrating. But also, if you made this comment with me a year ago, I would have commented a paragraph of hate against you. Today, I’m just happy I’m not in DENIAL anymore. That there’s a lot of aspects in me that needs improvement and I can’t wait to become more courageous! Thank you so much for pointing this out.

[@_rd_kocaman]

@@restythenurse that's what's up. pain is the feeling of weakness leaving your body keep doing you G.

[@JenniferClaire50]

​@@restythenursei resonate so well with you... It makes me cry alott.

[@tommasocaccia9778]

@@restythenurseyour patethic. Man up

[@suhailasabah425]

It is 2:35 after midnight, and I’m sitting alone questioning my quarter life crisis,being lost and sad , knowing that 20’s are my hardest part of life , and i need to survive it And this talk came in my way It’s so helpful and the concept is soothing and supportive Like a friend that telling you : it is okay , you are on the right track ❤❤❤

[@lindseypoindexter702]

sending you so much love

[@lancegonzalez6974]

This video was really inspiring to me. I am 21 years old and consider myself to be very successful and on top of all aspects of my health. I have reaped the benefits of working hard to become who I am today. But recently I have been fairly unmotivated and sitting in the back seat. This video has inspired me to try and start an "alignment growth journal." I'm hoping that with at least 4 entries per week, that I can begin to realign my values and actions. "You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems." I have definitely been feeling the repercussions of falling to my systems. I would be terrified to learn that I would live the rest of my life like I have the past 3 months if I was to be hardwired today. So with becoming hardwired on the horizon, I will work super hard to act and think the way I want to do so for the rest of my life.

[@ian_panganiban]

I been feeling the same way as of late- thank u for these words this is smart to do !

[@lancegonzalez6974]

@@ian_panganiban I had failed to commit this to habit and haven't started any journaling :( But I did just buy a guided journal today so I am hoping that helps begin the journey. Good luck on your process!

[@isaacbartolo2988]

No way!!! I’m 18 years old and listened to this video for the first time ever on an April 26th!!

[@КуралайАскарбай-ж6н]

😲😲😲

[@Ehab_James]

This is the other half of the argument on how to live through your twenties that people don't talk about. I love it.

[@curie1677]

In my entire life of 20 years no one ever said to me that you have time

[@DanaJaneWriter]

You have time!

[@rahulk._]

@@DanaJaneWriter Haha! 😆

[@ClubPuguin]

What's funny.... it's reality

[@infinitekarma4949]

You do have time. And that time is now.

[@MsDogleaf]

@@infinitekarma4949 this is better ! makes me feel like i don't have to wait but also I should do more stuff

[@Buildingdoorspodcast-vg4wz]

Absolutely on point- we need to be so much more mindful of our 20’s as it sets the stage of the scene of our lives. Thanks for sharing your story

[@davit1652]

Livi Redden's TEDx talk on intentional emotional development for young adults struck a chord with me, especially as I approach my twenties this year. The idea that mindset shifts and emotional development can alleviate the confusion and anxiety associated with major life decisions resonated deeply. Redden's insights into steering one's life through mindfulness and accountability provided a refreshing perspective on navigating the challenges of this pivotal phase. Her emphasis on proactively shaping our emotional well-being to create a joyful and fulfilling future was both empowering and reassuring. As I reflect on her talk, I realize the importance of incorporating intentional emotional growth into my own journey. Redden's guidance encourages a more purposeful approach to decisions related to education, career, relationships, and personal development. This talk has inspired me to embrace emotional intelligence as a tool for building resilience and steering my life towards a future that aligns with my values and brings genuine fulfillment.

[@petrichoroN-]

24 years old,in Final Year of Medical school,excited yet afraid to step into practical world soon,I think I needed this video the most.The message resonated with me as I'm sure with all others in 20s.Our lives literally are roller coaster rides in our 20s and reminders and messages like these can change one's perspective and approach towards life.Thank you.

[@altruisticwhales]

Thank you so much Livi! I’m 20 years old and have spent the last year working on unlearning generational trauma, accepting and loving my authentic self, and living in alignment!! This video is like a giant thumbs up from the universe saying YOU ARE ON THE PATH YOU WERE MEANT TO BE! KEEP GOING!!

[@ellegrrace]

I felt conditioned that going to University would solve all my problems I had internally. Because Adult’s say “You will figure it out. Just go to University.” When in reality, it was learning mindfulness, stress training, mental health awareness. Because, now I’m ill. I just want to be happy but I’m crumbling under the high-pressure. To me, happy and successful is being at peace. I hope I find this! ❤

[@liviredden]

THIS THIS THIS. You nailed it! So glad my talk resonated. Rooting for you!

[@goldofox5111]

"Because now I’m ill" ... Success pales in comparison to health and well-being. Unfortunately, people often have to lose their health to truly understand this. The countless health-damaging struggles for success feel futile and foolish-a hard lesson learned only when it’s too late. As tears stream down your cheeks, fueled by regret, you whisper to yourself: "I don’t care about success anymore, I just want to find peace ... again." I hope you find your peace, and with a little luck, joy as well.

[@jrjrae]

14:26 was my favorite part. Good to hear when you’re ready for big change but scared about the world around you

[@da_rora]

I am turning 21 in less than ten days and graduate college in less than 6 months. This video came as a sort of life saver to me and am I the only one who is tearing up by the end of this ? So glad I came across this

[@liviredden]

I’m glad it found you my dear🧡

[@fasaanggunistiqomah2175]

I relate to what you said, now I'm struggling to finish college and welcome life after graduation, keep up the spirit for us!

[@Yourjshopper]

Thanks for sharing this video. I'm 23 and Mexican, living a pretty normal life in my 20s. I find myself constantly debating whether I want the same things as others - a house, a car, money. I can't stop thinking about whether these are things I truly want or if it's just what society has taught us to want. It's time to break this generational pattern, be free, and just live. Let's enjoy our lives and stop trying to satisfy everyone except ourselves... Just a thought.

[@suptiparnapaul2996]

Couldn't stop holding my tears as i realised how much your talk resonates with me. The outburst came the moment you said 'Unlearning'. Thank you so much! ❤❤❤❤

[@kailyn1389]

Since my teenage years I have spent so much time agonizing over what I’m unable to do and how much time I’ve wasted in my life that it has petrified me into a cycle of the same thing. I’m 25 now and ready for radical change, but radical change requires radical strength and I don’t know how to acquire that.

[@arc4705]

I'm in my late 20s but this still feels relevant. As a teacher, I also want my teen students to feel this emotional self-discovery. Thank you!

[@gabirana274]

Shoutout to Livi! I am so grateful for this video. It affirmed to me that all the work that I've done and the work that I continue to do, to live my life and my being as the most authentic version of myself, is the best thing that I can do for myself. I was feeling a bit lost and being lost is okay. I'm re-aligning with my path and what I want to explore in this life, and that's more than okay! As long as I'm being honest with what I want and who I am and am trying my best and giving myself grace, then I'm on the right path 🫶🏽

[@liviredden]

THIS🧡

[@farhatbano6463]

Your voice is as soothing as your words. As a 20 years old girl, clinically depressed and struggling with sleep, with no friends and uncertain future, I totally agree with you. ❤

[@jarthurl]

She’s doing the work (reading the right material, taking notes, researching, etc.) for the people who don’t do any of it. People like her are a beacon of hope for the younger generation. I will be a beacon of hope for them as well.

[@liviredden]

Thank you🧡 I have no doubt you will be as well.

[@jarthurl]

@ Hey, Livi! I’m proud of your work! Thank you and God bless you. I’m wishing you the absolute best in your endeavors.🫶🏻

[@zinngengehtun1788]

Honestly, I have no idea about how life has been miserable due to misunderstanding from classmates, financial stability, the worries about future and career as well. I suppose I have been focusing so much on something I cant control like overthinking rather than focusing on myself. Thanks to video for reminding and giving guideline for personal growth.

[@mitchellrosenthal809]

Hi there! your program is better than I expected! I'm now 93 yrs, old, at peace with myself, it's a lot of thinking we must do. M.F.R.

[@T__A399]

Are you really 93? Or just did comment to attract attention?

[@Live-u3p]

Im 17 years old this podcast has really help and changed the way I think .I've realized there's more to life than just waking up everyday and doing the same things everyday this was really helpful and I enjoyed it

[@NehaRawat]

Heard the entire session sitting at tim hortons in Canada while questioning my life as an immigrant who wish to make big in the world! ❤ it was a great reminder to not give up and keep doing what we love the most! Cheers to everyone celebrating their 20s lets make the best out of it guys!

[@domingogenieluzo.7181]

Knowing the things that u like was really hard, but knowing the things that u really don’t like in life was very much life changing

[@Talkpurposetruth]

Wow! This is so eye opening & such an important topic that isn’t talked about enough. Thank you for this talk, all young people need to hear this!

[@nataliebird697]

PAY ATTENTION! Crucial and lifelong lessons! HELP for young people looking for a more healthy mindset journey! Thank you Livi!

[@florenceYazdaniMotlagh]

This is a really great video, I just turned 20 in October and today I realized that I am closer to 30 and I am to 10, and I realized I had not done things that I had hoped I had done by the time I reached this age. I've been wanting to do things and experience more experiences in life but keep postponing them, and it really made me realize why so many older people say phrases that go, "Just do it," "Be young, have fun," "You're still young, go enjoy life" and usually it's these older people who HAVEN'T done what they’ve wanted to do in life, that wish that they HAD done more in life, take more risks, take more chances BECAUSE they missed out on those experiences. I used to think, "What do you know? You're just yapping" or smt along the lines of that. But I now know how naive I was because now... I am one of those older people.

[@Subeomrot]

Just lost my job at 23 and am planning to change my career. Thank you so much for the videos. It made me believe that the risks I'm taking rn are worth fighting for :)

[@Estrallio]

everyone has areas where they are ahead of their peers and areas where they fall behind. Nobody is perfect. Change takes time. I wish i would recall that more often

[@chloe.elizah]

I am 23, about to graduate college and it is just intense. 20’s are so hard to navigate. Like who am i ? I dont even know yet

[@lungelomncwango8025]

I actually navigated through these comments looking for this type of comment of which i relate to, and knowing this information now overwhelms me. I'm thinking i should've known better earlier😅

[@ellegrrace]

Completely relate to this! We haven’t found time to find ourselves due to being numbed out by education and pressure! I am from the U.K. and here it breaks so many people university and college 💖

[@KMKay7]

The ending of college and first 5 years of a career are so strange and scary but we will push through

[@pinklanaswan]

Same, i have yet to really know who i am and such. I know I want a peaceful life without any unnecessary stress or anxiety but I don’t know “how”

[@NububyS]

"life-changing,life-saving,society-changing skills" that line is powerful and100% true when it come to emotional development.This is such an important conversation and you share it si beautifully! Everyone needs to watch this! I'm 21 and this definitely resonated with me from so many from so many different angles. Thank you!

[@OonaConcepcionCayabyab]

3 Pillars: 1. Unlearning 2. Being 3. Doing "Start being intuitive and intentional as soon as possible."

[@hihibug16]

Thank you for the summary!

[@rajveersoni1703]

I am 21, soon turning 22 and I really took so many decisions in my college life to change my life it really worked, like I did acting to increase my confidence, i did dancing, singing, modelling, sports, and bodybuilding. i enjoyed my journey , but I still regret not making right decisions at the right time, after watching you I will work more on myself and I will definiately become more self-confident

[@liviredden]

Sounds like you did exactly what you needed to do. You explored🧡

[@Visitor______________________v]

Tldr: 1. Reflect on your life constantly 2. Don't just accept what people say as definitive truth 3. Don't be afraid of making bold changes in your life

[@xavierterminello175]

Algorithm getting to good I’ve been pondering what is success and I stopped the video when she was defining it (about ~10:34) to stop and think. And I’m frustrated that her answer makes so much sense because I feel like pleasure of finding out has been ripped from me but also so grateful to have the answer. Of course approaching with skepticism has I’m sure the lives of you my fellow reader may be radically more different than mine. So continue watching at the risk of your own becoming…

[@chayarchy]

why did i not find this until i was 25? oh well, focus on the positive and be glad i found it when i did

[@pratikdas2852]

All that was said in this video, I'm questioning none of it. I felt as good listening to it as any of the others that did. However, there is one nuance that my tiny head isn't able to wrap. I can align myself to my core beliefs, I can be the person that I want and envision to be, and I can do what genuinely serves me right. I can quite that job, and I can take the risks I've always wanted to take. But I won't be the only one living with those consequences, right? Like it or not, most of us are a part of a larger whole. The whole maybe our families, or the group of friends we surround ourselves with, or the larger society around us. People who depend on us, people on who we depend for affection, validation, etc. How do I navigate that conundrum? How do I please myself, and please the ones that genuinely matter to me? How do I take risks knowing that if they blow up on my face, I just might never recover? Even worse, these blow ups will take collaterals, the people whose happiness matters the most to me! How do I navigate this? Genuinely asking a question that plagues my every day. Thank you for any responses!

[@alissa7304]

Very well spoken and great stage presence, I’m 23 in a few weeks and have been in this exact mindset since I turned 20. Even did the skydiving thing whilst never stepping foot on an airplane before. I think this is something that needs to be shared with our youth while they still have a chance ✨

[@clara8623]

Thank you for sharing with us, recently I had been struggle with my life decision, whether did I pick a right job or i dont have enough money so I force to work. My life decision seems like always money and money. This video had motivate me a lot that I need to align myself with own values not other people values, my own happiness is the most important things that I need. Really appreciate that !!!!

[@MadelinePierce-p9y]

Such an inspiring talk. Looking back on my twenties, I wasn't able to make good decisions in life. But upon hearing this, I'm more eager to share this to young adults.

[@ykzish813]

Im having an interview soon enough and now I felt less afraid. THANK YOUUU🎉🎉

[@diyamenon8606]

hey, I'm 18, and lately, I've held myself back and just really been stuck living with the constant fear of what will happen in my 20s there is a lot more I wish to do than follow the laid-out path and the environment that is supposed to make me "more settled in the future". I wish to understand my core more, I wish to understand feelings and emotions. To me, right now at least that is what I consider 'rich'. I could relate so hard to " a feeling of constantly being at war with our minds". I know for a fact that the war has to end for me to be able to bring about change, change in myself and change in the way young minds think, change in the way parents think. After listening to this I feel like it can happen and it has made me a lot more informed. Livi, it's beautiful what you do. I admire your work.

[@liviredden]

I'm so glad this resonated! It's funny how much we feel pressure to DO in our 20s but rarely are reminded or taught the skills to look inward at what that doing might look like in a way that provides lasting peace. Rooting for you my dear!

[@nandinisingh259]

This is true. I started a pandemic prevention project when I was 24 years young in 2014. I'm 34 now and I know how to save world population 😊.

[@vastychery]

This comment is so interesting if you don’t mind me asking how are you gonna go that?

[@DrusillaAcheampong]

After hearing this message I can feel that I have the urge to change my life. I have been relaxed for sometime now and after hearing this I can see that I have been my own enemy. It's about time I make bold decision and get to work on them. Thank you for such fulfilling and powerful message 😮😢❤

[@seiwarriors]

Look at yourself, question yourself, update yourself to the way you want, repeat.

[@Is.Mwas17]

I'm 22 when watching this, I've been watching TEDs and this I'm ranking as one of the most resonating with me.Thanks Big time 💯💯

[@makatforoma9796]

When she said align with your true core values it all added up. Instantly my brain new what they were, the whole mix(finances, relationships,health,spirit, mentality) so thats what I am going to do. I'll take steps each and everyday to better myself in this regard. The confusion for me came when u are looking at everyone else and it confuses you on whether what you are doing is right or not. This has reminded me to stay true to myself, and also not to be so naive to push onto the future by saying oh well I'll find a wife later in life, what's stopping mw from taking active steps now even if it is uncomfortable in the moment. Thats what life is about, moving towards your goals with hope and certainly that with the work and effort you put in you will eventually become who you have always wanted to be.

[@rash_9-p4f]

So Touching, talks like this made me reconsider my situation and move forward in life.

[@jacemenezes6155]

Just turned 23, I feel so lost. I used to take edibles daily, play video games all the time, and scroll on my phone for hours on end. I'm in masters for engineering, but I cant pay attention in class, I struggle to make connections, people bore me to the point of pain. It turns out, I was overdosing on dopamine, numbing my reality. Today is the first day I'm sober. Went for a run. Read a paper. Did a homework assignment. It was difficult, but I'm proud of my baby steps in the right direction. I want to build habits of reading, writing, running, meditating, and singing. No more will I indulge these cheap highs.

[@owenmoran7605]

This is an important message. Stay consistent and it will get less and less difficult!

[@jacintawambui5325]

You’re doing amazing !! I’m happy for you 😃🫶🏾

[@Yourjshopper]

Proud of you! Sending love :)

[@ulugbekergashev4107]

Suggest you book, Atomic habits

[@sarasarwar3942]

@jacemeneze6155 same i swear, working on dopamine detox these days and it's so difficult

[@yaminaboub-jo2lb]

This is so wise and it has hit me ...we should follow our intuition and listen to our inner voice .... the goal is to be happy not to be successful at least that is what my voice is telling me

[@JamesWhittaker1]

So powerful! Well done Livi. What a blessing you are to all of us on this planet 💜

[@OctavioRomagnoli]

Thank you, I'm 19 yo. I had thought about aligning myself with my values before, but it was really validating to hear it from you. I feel a bit more relieved now, tysm.

[@lelemelis628]

I’m an Italian 22 years old studying psychology in Portugal for no specific reason and I’m currently finishing the last year of my bachelor degree. During my last teen years I matured a pessimistic view of life because something inside hadn’t been feeling right as I was heading to an independent future. This last summer, in my home country, I choose to go deeper and to question why couldn’t I feel fulfilled. To summarise, I realised how fear is what really brings people down rather than an event itself. I spent three amazing months of deep connections, vision and life like never before since my childhood. Now, after three month, it feels like I slowly lost control of that state of being. I felt 100% times more aware, but that led to a constant critic and standard that I had to live up back at my university life. After experiencing a deep feeling of sadness for more than once so far, everything started to look like a paradox, everything looks questionable and my mind races back and forwards and it is hard to let go of the thoughts that do not make me feel authentic. I have faith. Life can be lived in so many ways we can’t even imagine it, and that’s scary too, but I’ll never give up cause I saw human light and I’ll chase it till I die.

[@thegallerydailylife]

Thank you for the topic In my 20s,I have been facing problems such as educational and financial,It’s not easy to give up on my graduation to chose the way to find money.Start from now I will not wasting my time by finding money.I will try to grow up more in my 20s and let follow the money with my skills

[@jarthurl]

This is great at the self-help front, which we know the genre to be making its way into mainstream media as of late. She’s helping out regardless of the backlash this genre gets. Emotional intelligence is a huge factor in her talk as well. Pretty great stuff.

[@nusratjahankhan4954]

Feeling bold after watching this amazing video as an 19 years old girl ! ❤

[@tinydanceryoutube]

She is spot on re emotional skills. Our world needs these skills taught. Somehow. Someway. Our children need this.

[@utibeetuk3339]

Thank you Livi Redden for such a wonderful talk. Am blessed.

[@henriquesdialo1804]

Wow , I really loved this video, I am a young from Angola 🇦🇴 , and there’s many young people that needs to hear these words to change their lives. It’s so good to see that there’s people that wants to help young generation.❤️

[@cindysoner8657]

There are many many people who needs to hear her

[@erasylabdenbekov92]

In this year,I turn my 20 year old.I figured out after watching this video what is the main pillars of life again.I have taken a lot of things before it.But it was also one of the most important videos for me.Thanks

[@suavegvlogs4068]

"correlation doesn't always determine causation" 🔥🔥🔥

[@GbemisolaOluwasina]

True

[@Shenderson3003]

I'm 23 and this video has been very reassuring for my current path in life. My girlfriend broke up with me last month and it left me feeling lost and helpless, but it also forced me to get out of my comfort zone again and really work on myself. I'm still grieving over the loss of the relationship, but I've also come to realise that I need to build a foundation for the rest of my life. For anyone reading this, never hold back from changing yourself if it's for the better.

[@Aaandreeiiitaa]

Hi! My boyfriend broke up with me too, I’m from Spain, i don’t really have many friends because I was really involved in my relationship, if you wanna talk let me know!

[@Shenderson3003]

@@Aaandreeiiitaa Sure, let's do it! Do you have instagram?

[@JenniferClaire50]

​@@Aaandreeiiitaa🙃😪 wanna talk?

[@ravinchandra]

I'm in my early thirties, and my twenties were horrendous to start with and eventually ended up to be better. I honestly don't regret the recklessness in my twenties, I personally believe that it was required to make me a better person, a calmer individual and a bit more rational. Don't stress about your twenties, enjoy it and make mistakes. Just be sure that you learn from your mistakes. Yes, 20's can have a significant impact on your life, I don't deny that at all. Learn empathy and think before you hurt someone, sometimes it can be irreversible. Also, please lock your phone away and enjoy your life with your friends and family; and please do take care of your health. Do make bold changes! Best of luck everyone.

[@liviredden]

1000% love this comment 🧡

[@nickthompson1812]

Just remember, there’s a big difference between mistakes and bad decisions.

[@MARK-nu2et]

I used to listen ted and here I'm again listening this amazing person who shared a lot of positive words where we can use as a tool to conquer the world. I've always believed that everything has a purpose and i wish we had the opportunity before to listen this kind of show which is really helpful especially when it comes growth.

[@EimileKhalifah]

There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.

[@bonsai5753]

You’re a bot. Posted this same comment with similar number of likes on almost all the Ted videos. KZbin has to ban this

[@sallala388]

Thank you algorithm, I needed to hear these words! Last year I am living in chaos, as you said constantly in war with my mind. This video helped me a lot.

[@arin20]

Being , 23, my only fear is becoming a failure , and being told ,'you had so much potential, you ruined it'. So, I started working on my skills. I just completed my masters' , so I am looking for employment, but seeing others living the dream life of mine does hurt. So, I stopped following them and started to skill up myself, and be a person who can actually contribute to the industry, something, that I am interested and passionate about, I made a roadmap, how, when, and where. I am going to take time blocking the outer words, sushing my inner insecurity, finding strength, so that I could make a better version. The thing is I am my own competition. So, let's see after 10 years when I am 35, I don't have any regrets.

[@MaddisonMcCabe]

The way Hidden Time Wealth dives into the concept of productivity is mind-blowing. Hidden Time Wealth tips are pure gold, and I wish more people knew about them.

[@Innerplanetjanet]

I’m 25 and I am truly struggling severely with depression and anxiety and want to be better so bad. I don’t want this to become my hardware. I’m exhausted and lost.

[@kritika6675]

Take a break for some time.Spend your time with yourself,nature and kids(they make you forget about everything else)

[@aadilahmad14]

I’m late in my 20s and struggled with being a 1st gen American in a rural town. This advice resonates so much despite her not being an immigrant amazingly! Be true to yourself and make the bold moves and seek for yourself without steering from anyone. You are in control of your mind and no one will switch places with you when times get rough. May peace be upon you all!

[@chocomilk9505]

I’m about to turn 18 years old in a month, and I’m absolutely grateful for convincing myself to watch this. I still have so much to learn about life and this video taught me so many things I have to know about before my 20’s . As a 17 yo kid right now I’m very afraid of making wrong decision of my life. im worried about my future what if I made the wrong choice. I don’t even know what is right for me I don’t know if the decision I made was right or not. But after I’ve watched this video all I know is I gotta work hard. Stop thinking worrying about everything in my life and start to doing it right now whatever I wanted to do. And I’m absolutely agreed with the advice that many adults tell us that “you still have time, don’t worry about it” is the worst advice ever for me. The worst thing u can think of is that you have time.

[@rosieee1390]

I'm also 17 years old having a hard time since I only have 1 year left before college and I don't know what course I should take, because I don't have a dream job, I just wanna make money 😭

[@abdullahadem7300]

Same

[@khandaker_hamim]

​@rosieee1390 Same bro, I am so worried about it.😢 from Bangladesh.

[@araara9189]

Shes so lovely, gorgeous and smart. I think im inlove. The way she articulates her sentence is very attractive

[@clarketalishe]

This is incredible and i’m thankful for it. Livi is extremely intelligent.

[@liviredden]

Rooting for you on your journey!

[@clarketalishe]

@@livireddenaw thanks Livi! likewise!

[@JenniferClaire50]

​@@livireddendo you have anything to say to me I feel very useless, I'm 18 I'm so confused 😭💔

[@liviredden]

@@JenniferClaire50 Hey bud! It could help to think of a moment in your life you felt useful. Sit in that feeling. That’s STILL you. And as you navigate life going forward remember there is generally no “right” or “wrong” direction to take things. And whatever you do with your life there will be pros and cons, all you can do is the best you can with the cards you been handed up to this point🧡

[@RaeannNamanImad]

Hidden Time Wealth blew my mind. I’ve shared it with friends, and they’re all amazed at how much more productive they've become.

[@tasfiazahan001]

I am 21 years old. After a difficult decade, at the age of 18, I found Islam, a religion that made me stronger mentally and emotionally and brought peace into my life. Islam means peace, and I have truly witnessed how adhering to its principles brings peace to one’s life. It is truly beautiful 🌻🩷

[@KhadijahIfiok]

I became Muslim in April. And walahi, I'm at peace with myself

[@tasfiazahan001]

@KhadijahIfiok assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, sister 🥹🩷 subhanAllah !! May Allah keep us steadfast upon this beautiful deen, ameen 😭💝

[@courtt444]

As someone who also lost their dad to ALS at a really young age, this video resonated with me in many different aspects. As a college student majoring in psychology, with hopes to one day become a therapist, I found this video very insightful and eye opening.