3 Tips to Dating an INTJ Personality Type

INTJ Personality Type Ni Te Fi Se Ne Ti Fe Si
1. Approach with caution 2. Ask about special interests 3. Do not lie
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[@coultersheppard2052]

“So you want to date an INTJ?” No, I want to know if someone’s trying to date me, and how I should defend myself

[@musk_0802]

😂

[@trashlandingonyou]

omg same

[@synrael9076]

😂 *Assualts the human with books

[@barbaradps828]

SAME

[@saanPitza718]

Well I want to experience Love as An INTJ but at the same Time I am afraid of love

[@protosstassadar20]

As an INTJ: are you sure you want to date us? There are other 15 personalities out there

[@user-caramelly]

Not intrested in dating .. but meeting one intj isn't the same as meeting anyone else .. you guys are like a rare gem

[@AuthorMostafa]

As an INTP: You are completely right. I think everyone would be better off with the other fourteen

[@foodislife479]

😂😂😂

[@ihatehumans487]

I care only about INTJ and INTP

[@ihatehumans487]

​@@user-caramellyThe best type

[@MNkno]

Point 1: Don't be afraid to approach - I admire courage. Point 2: Ask about specialized interest. Brilliant. Point 3: Don't lie. You will be dumped, with no recourse, no matter how well things have been going. In some cases, you may feel the truth would be brutal... still, don't lie. Refer to point 1.

[@user-np3hn7pn5j]

What if you lied about how you're feeling when they ask "Are you ok?"

[@MNkno]

@@user-np3hn7pn5j There are many ways to answer that question without answering that question... "I've been worse", "Thank you", "Surviving, surviving is good"... etc. You don't have to say "yes" and you don't have to say "no" and burst into tears.

[@webnovelsatu1455]

​@@user-np3hn7pn5jthats fine..

[@Soopo868]

Interesting of what she said, doesn't it? This is so normal to every human being. If you want to talk, say hi. If you want to have a conversation, try to related another person from what are they interested. Don't lie.. well, you probably don't want to find out later that he already has a wife.. right? UGH

[@rasthehead]

You're definitely right about 3. Don't. Fucking. Mess. With. Me. The moment you lie, _we're through._ I *_literally_* don't give a fuck.

[@Kirbylove1991]

Me as an INTJ woman: So you wanna date an INTJ? Umm Why…?🤷🏼‍♀️

[@ollep0lle]

You guys are awesome

[@speedy_comet]

Sapiosexual :) -fellow INTJ.

[@Violet_Odorata]

Why not?

[@farhandaryasepar640]

We want an intj we need it

[@ventaliq]

same

[@Healthyobsession1]

I’m a teacher INTJ and I pride myself in spotting lies. 😂

[@iramanuca3556]

I’m an INTJ principal… same! 😂

[@Illusionary_INTJ]

Things to do when wanting to date an intj- 1. Become friends first. Intjs don't date strangers. Never if they aren't comfortable in your company yet. 2. Never lie. Intjs appreciate brutally honest people. Honest and straightforwardness is sexy and attractive. 3. Be direct. You like them, want to ask them out, do it directly. Self confidence is another thing that impresses intjs. 4. Be ready to take up sarcasm. Intjs will love a partner who wouldn't take their sarcasm seriously and it's a bonus if the partner can reply back with sarcasm. Then it's like an intellectual debate. It's a form of mental stimulation.

[@x_x-lizzy-x_x2022]

The main thing I care about is honesty, if you lie, you're dead to me, and I hardly ever smile, everyone used to be so scared to talk to me as a kid bc I always looked angry, and I'd be like "what? I'm fine. 🤨😂😂" lol. It's not that common anymore, but people hardly approach me, if they look hesitant I think it's hilarious, I might even call them out, in a joking way so there not scared of me. 😂

[@Materialistic_Mind]

I don't think you're an Intj.

[@ENFPerspectives]

Hilariously, INTJ have lied to me ... because "it was none of my business", when I already explained perfectly, exavtly why it was indeed my business. So I dumped them. No one likes being lied to, do they?

[@legendaryking890]

@@sofie5192 depends on the enviroment INTJs have been if the have been around a lot of extravorts they can have those energies after all extraveted thinking is there secondery function . by the way INTJ here 😂

[@mayleespann4552]

3.5: Don’t disguise your request to take them out as something else. Just ASK!!! I wish this wasn’t true of me, but I immediately get turned off by someone trying to beat around the bush instead of telling me what they want. I feel like they’re trying to manipulate me into going out with them, which makes the answer instantly no.

[@rachaelm7084]

I just don’t get that they asked me out until I bring it up with somebody several weeks later, and they told me that that’s what their intention was. Just be direct!

[@rasthehead]

I think this is also just a general female perspective. Beating around the bush with a chick won't always get you far, and most women just prefer that you be direct. They admire it.

[@hfortenberry]

INTJ here…you’re spot on. And to those who are interested, good choice! IF the INTJ has developed his/her Fi and is older/mature (not overly arrogant, respects people who are different, etc.) and if it works out that you make it that far to be in a full-fledged relationship with us, then you’ll probably be very happy together.

[@Brevicauda]

That's right one over there 'the mature INTJ one' because I am an INTJ and believe me you don't want to deal with the immature one that is still in the process of learning and maturing. After a couple of regrets and self-criticising and acceptance of the INTJ nature of loneliness, there he/she is! The comfortable INTJ to snuggle with 😂

[@Uraveragemiddleskooler]

As an INTJ woman I would like to say: *yes* *this is true sadly*

[@speedy_comet]

If you lie to an INTJ Enneagram type 1 it's over. Also, please don't let our resting ***** face intimidate you it's our regular face I promise.

[@stiveworth]

As an intj I know that if I smile a little bit it makes people around me a little bit more comfortable but I try the hardest and I can't even fake smile you know

[@tgs5725]

Even as a man, every woman I've dated including my wife approached me first. Not because I was "too scared". But I just never saw the purpose in wasting time trying to get to know someone when I could spend that time sitting exactly where I am thinking about whatever I was thinking about. Sure I noticed "wow that's an attractive woman over there" but then I'm back inside my own head enjoying life. TLDR: Even INTJ men may need to be approached. As annoying as that is to some ladies.

[@wkrapek]

That’s right. Don’t lie. But OTOH we are surprisingly flexible. We think most people are irrational so… whatever… step in line. So you don’t even *need* to lie.

[@nodamekira8580]

I'm just laying on my bed on sunday morning with my lazy finger scrolling down and this is pop up out of nowhere. But i relate to this, eventhough i'm infp. I think this tips is for introvert for general. Or... INxx type.

[@Hein99]

What I've learnt about INTJs (me) today ON YT: possibly autistic, definitely ADHD.

[@Ab-ub2ii]

An INTP like me probably won't ever approach 😂 but hopefully INTJ will let us be the brutally honest person that we are

[@speedy_comet]

Are you a 5w4? Y'all are my literal dream man.. -INTJ 1w9

[@madkmadk6809]

Idk if it's just me but as an intj, i have always found intps and entps the most interesting and they are only type of people where i could find the least amount of flaws

[@roinerov9348]

INTJ are also brutally honest. I am one so I know.

[@chunnilal2111]

Wait, I might be compatible with INTJs (I am an ENFP). I do hesitate to approach people but I might if needed. If I do, I want to get to know more about you so I will ask you questions and get to know you. I am a little shy when I meet new people so it might be a little awkward but as I spend more time with you, it will get better. Oh, and I am PRETTY transparent and I don't really lie unless I really need to. I avoid lies mostly and expect people to do so too. I am actually kinda gullible so the fact that the INTJs are straightforward and don't lie unnecessarily is something I absolutely love about them.

[@ddtz6253]

INTJ woman here. This is spot on. My husband is a ENFJ, and when he firstly approached me, I was in awe of his courage 😂

[@chunnilal2111]

@@ddtz6253 LMAO

[@stephensperr1379]

This is basically how my ENFP gf caught me. Best relationship ever!

[@lawrencebolt3540]

If I like you and you like me... Be very careful. I'm studying you. Eyes are watching you from the trees as you move through the jungle of my mind. I have set booby traps for all those who are fakes and deceivers. My traps are invisible, you will not find them. So walk forward in truth and you shall be safe. Inside the centre of the jungle you will find a treasure more rare than the stones that Thanos adorned himself with. You've never experienced a love like Mine. Like Romeo you will say, "Did my heart love till now?" My love is like your own heart that beats daily, hourly, every second.. that you take for granted but tirelessly works to give you more life. -INTJ

[@stevemiller8895]

🐂💩hi!

[@slq4358]

No way an INTJ would ever write this, this is ESFP talk. Only thing missing is you referring to yourself in the third person and something along the lines of "she walks through life with passion in her heart and fire in her eyes" lmaooo

[@Princessofghosts]

​@@stevemiller8895 HAHAHA

[@speedy_comet]

Fun fact Thanos is an INTJ 1w9 😂 -INTJ 1w9

[@sumimasen_wtf]

​@@slq4358Perhaps an INTJ with developed Se. I know this because I have managed to get a bit more in-tune with my Se than usual INTJs.

[@MrEcto]

I can only speak for myself on this one but I think the lack of conforming comes from never really fitting in ever. You get so used to not fitting in that you don’t even notice how far you’ve fallen from normal things.

[@MisterGames]

you really are quite odd you know that dont you? yep. and you dont care at all do you? nope.

[@foodislife479]

​@@MisterGameshit the nail on the head there 😂😂😂... I mean 😐😐😐 - INTJ

[@kamikazefu-2364]

Yeah . Pretty accurate I would say.

[@prajyotshinde6995]

A girl approached me once in my college, she said why im so serious all the time. Like yes we might be death staring a tree while thinking about a potato dunno

[@AuthorMostafa]

When I met my now best friend who is an INTJ (who taught me about MBTI and helped me discover I’m an INTP) I asked about his interests. As you said, they will tell you. Way too much. In way too much detail. I also tried telling him a few lies in our time knowing each other. Nope. Don’t do that. They know. It isn’t they might or they probably know. It’s they know.

[@juni_pearl_9591]

As someone in a relationship with one….On point #3 I would also include with that to be very specific with your language. Say exactly what you mean. Some people just sort of carelessly say things, not even really lying, just generalizing or saying something off handed without thinking it through. They will remember and will latch onto what you said and if you even accidentally go against what you said ( and you may not even remember it) they most certainly will. And this sounds scarier than it has to be…but they will remember what you’ve said and will be at least minimally call you out on your inconsistency.

[@annie.bo.briggs]

We're all different. I think I'm approachable.

[@Materialistic_Mind]

Being an Intj , I can give u some ideas..Supposs u are dating me.. I don't want to date anyone but if it's necessary then Ok..I would like to observe you , don't be shy to talk.. I don't know what to talk but I like others' thoughts (if those aren't illogical or boring)..Oh.. one thing, Don't go back when the conversation goes very logical.. And before dating me, you should quit your cringy behaviour .. If it's cringy then it will not take 1 minute to end the date right there.. I'd like to know your ideology than your qualities.

[@Princessofghosts]

Nothing is cringe 🥺

[@FC-BS]

This is so accurate

[@english_5359]

Spotting lies is my strength. I can tell all the subtle nuances.

[@Greenflame-vc6fv]

“So you want to date an INTJ” No, I’m an INTJ 😐

[@eena_na_ve]

As an intj I'm agreeing with all the three, I've seen a men like those but they'll ended up in my friendszone.

[@SchwabGames2014]

Thank you for telling me how to date myself

[@Princessofghosts]

I will try thanks !!!🎉

[@iwatchedtoomuchsaikik8949]

I can already imsgine someone asking me about my special interests and then i go off on a tangent about crabs. 💀

[@safyullahjawid8592]

I'm a INTJ She's really Right I cannot believe how right she is

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

So true !! 💙

[@davidzimmerman5359]

I can spot a lie on the phone even if it's a text. Women always think im overreacting

[@MisterGames]

lie once and i can never trust anything you say again ever!... and, i have a real Real REAL good memory for what you said, no matter how long ago you said it.

[@riyavij2347]

I just found out I'm an infj and I feel so understood like there are people like me it's honestly shocking

[@funtimefoxy6699]

I clean buildings for a living, but I'm mentally building a colony on Mars. I could use your technical expertise, because developing a stable biome has proven challenging. Do I need to transport ALL the bugs? How much materiel do I need to haul up, and how much can be mined on-site? Also, my people are thinking of seceding from the US and creating an independent nation. Do we really need an ambassador to ANYWHERE? Also, at what point does my hobby garden start to become a homestead - and how do I avoid that? I don't want to take all the fun out of it. I don't know where I sit on the Meyers-Briggs scale. Every time I take the test I get a different verdict.

[@Robert.Sheard]

As a 60-something INTJ I think I've become undateable because I have zero tolerance for BS anymore.

[@drunkestdriver]

Point 3 is the most critical for me cuz a friend of mine said “things” a few years ago and now hes talking as if he never said anything a few years ago and its very infuriating. He talks as if nothing happened like tf

[@abra.hui.]

As an INTJ, I'm poker face but because of my look, they see me as a playboy or F boy on first impression. The more I receive confessions through messages from women, I tend to be straightforward and reject them lowkey and won't reply at times when I feel that it's too dry to reply or maybe I'm not just entertained. I can easily see if they lie, I tend to point it out but still, they like me even though I'm straightforward even I know that I'm hurting their feelings because they think that I'm just being silly and charming. My father is an extroverted charming person like a politician and I learned how to charm women as an introvert but I'm cold when I'm not interested lol. Average or above-average-looking INTJs are hard to impress we can spot lies easily so I suggest not making the first move to INTJ, letting them show you some clear signs that they like you also then escalate it slowly but don't play games because we hate games lol

[@Eehhhhhhhhhh]

POV you’re an INTJ woman:And where did this idea of wanting to date someone like me come from?Because it’s clearly stupid.

[@darkvertx3158]

Last one is on point. People are very easy to read.

[@joflores2267]

I agree with what you said, lady. I like the way you said, resting ... face with a pause

[@cdnmetelhead4013]

People that know me: If you would just smile instead of the serial killer face more people would talk to you. Me: good it’s working.

[@istvanpraha]

Yes about spotting lies. Sick of people think I have personal grudges or believe conspiracy theories for pointing out obvious stuff. And sick of people not coming back and saying “you ended up being right”

[@OHYEAH-km3md]

I dunno how others do it but once I'm lied to, I can't ever like the person because I'll never trust them

[@88yellowjacket]

ISTP here - Step 1. Hi Step 2. I like sex do you enjoy sex? Step 3. Profit. Works every time 80% of the time with INTJs

[@thisnthat7760]

"You want to date me,an INTJ -A" woman!??? Don't worry sweetie, if i don't fancy you... I'll let you know. And the whole neighbourhood will get to hear it. But if i like you enough, I'll let you know before you know it.... But here's the downside..... It can only happen once in a blue moon every 500 years 😂😂😂

[@GregDaDefender]

U not lying‼️ 💯

[@Hickle]

Spot on

[@Suhailee91]

Absolutely correct 👍🏼

[@11gwu11]

"I don't suggest you trying with them" 😂😂😂

[@user-vm6ii9jv5n]

Absolutely right!

[@mohammadshaheen5376]

Processor of our minds looks like intel icore i13 vs intel icore i5.so be ready to protect yourself

[@Orphic_Z]

As an INTJ, yall wants to date an INTJ brave 😂 there are 15 personality out thereee

[@Nate-dw2pt]

As an INTJ i agree with the last one as I can consistently pick up on lies in a very short amount of time

[@kierlak]

"Interesting" 😅 as an INFJ I really like them. They're super cool 😎

[@julietellsthetruth4811]

That last one. Do not lie to me, do not lie about me. I will not make your life a living hell if you do; You will simply become a complete non-entity to me. Do not judge me by your own standards. My own are higher.

[@heather9857]

A new potential "friend" was constantly texting me with small talk every night. As the nights (decades...) went on I couldn't take it anymore so I text back a list of incredibly interesting things to talk about it. Shouldn't she be grateful I made it multiple choice? Haven't heard from her in a month. Relieved.

[@Cc0odemeisterr]

as an intj i thought it was just going to talk Abt stereotypical stuff but HOW IS IT SO ACCURATE..

[@ENFPerspectives]

How to date Anybody...

[@lexhal5471]

INTJ here, wanting to date someone i think is also an INTJ. I'm not used to people approaching things the same way i do.

[@Ranek61]

Don't know why I'm seeing this, lost me at INTJ...

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

Guided by your Intuition and your unconscious behavior. You might have the INTJ personality type.

[@Ranek61]

​@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes Welp learnt something new and good chance I fit that personality, thank you for the reply.

[@blacksheep3060]

im an INTJ, seeing you headed towards me, im already in deep thoughts what your motives are haha

[@cerasteelman9112]

Lmfao. My boyfriend is an INTJ and the first thing I noticed about him was that he looked so angry, I saw him from across the room and thought, wow that's one angry looking dude, what is his problem? But of course, he wanted to talk to me and I got to see his charming goofy side, but that face still comes out around strangers and it's intense

[@tigerex777]

I'm an INFJ male and my girlfriend is an INTJ so yeah I already caught me one lol

[@CHANCEINTUITIVE]

Thank you❤

[@johnphelps7519]

Love the "interesting" followed by eyes aside look. Something you want to say?

[@plantstho6599]

Male INTJ... Women never approach. I'm tired of instigating everything. Guess I'll just die alone.

[@ExTRAErrestrial_Travels]

As an INTJ-A I agree 1000.00%

[@michaelbuick6995]

I think we get perceived as unfeeling evil robots, and yes as an INTJ I cannot help but point out the logical contradiction there, but we're really not. Still waters run deep, and we're not completely un self aware if we say something that gives off "evil genius" vibes it's usually us just playing up to our rep. Like the time I threatened to sell my girlfriend to somali pirates because kept asking questions about the plot of the show we were watching together. Let them deal with it.

[@someZH]

as an INTJ ,if you are dumb! just dont try to talk with me

[@iramanuca3556]

Facts!

[@hastiabbaszadeh8852]

As an INTJ thats all right

[@sue9037]

I also hate lies only to protect feelings

[@rolexshadow]

For number 2. I’m not sure of their intentions so I just say I just stay home and watch Netflix all day and if they ask which show, I say I watch the same show over and over cause I’m very boring person.

[@simjaeyunultimatefan6529]

I'm an INTJ woman who planned to be single all my life.

[@ihatehumans487]

Nice choice

[@weathforjr]

"So you want to date an INTJ"? ...We're not pokemon. Find someone else.

[@Dischordalchorous]

This is just another way to typecast people into little boxes.

[@annesantiago471]

I don't believe in this personality type thing. But I've done the test 5 years apart a couple of times and no matter what I answer I gave, I always got intj. Recently I liked someone but I'm a 100% sure I scared them off with my resting bitch face. I was so bummed. I hope it's okay to be like this. I just can't do anything about who I am.

[@crazy_bun]

*yes*

[@sohaylaislam5266]

Sooooooooooo true for me

[@user-cx2kr1xm4g]

INTJ is the intersection between autism and virgoness😂😂

[@brianbauer3148]

Someone's embracing stereotypes😆

[@ihatehumans487]

People are stereotyped, but INTJ are unpredictable

[@IgirisuGuy]

I am an INTJ no clue why I got this but…. 1st one is yea… true. This one girl sent 14 of her friends over to ask if I liked her. Said no with a dead straight face each time. She still thought I liked her :|

[@TheRealSora-Knight]

I knew my friends we gonna leave me a YEAR before they left me 😂🤣😆😁😀💀

[@Showmei-nim]

True

[@FooxuruiHalley]

As an intj.....the people who are taking this tips, did something impactful happened in your past?

[@grain5678]

just dont lie, or thats the last thing you do. intj male.

[@spiritofclay3758]

I'm boarderline INTJ to INFJ depending on the day of testing...

[@iwatchedtoomuchsaikik8949]

Learn about cognitive functions, you will most likely be one or the other.

[@19-zn6ns]

INTJ + AQUARIUS 🫨😅🥶

[@user-pk5pl7ox1e]

I like them! They just run away when they start falling in love! BOOOOORING! They need to ACCEPT

[@chowmein321]

EXACTLY

[@LittleYoki]

Man: Wow you’re beautiful I just wanted to tell you that INTJ woman: Thank you for the compliment. How kind of you. Have a great day, sir.

[@gregsmith7828]

#3 100

[@Got4foryou]

doesn't do the unattractive intj body language move early in this one

[@AABraGY-qr3mj]

Prepara yourself to feel shameless

[@sunsetcs5005]

Intjs are hyper critical which is very unfortunate.. very tiring

[@asoberanasombria]

not really