See Kit's Fearless Public Speaking Summit (affiliate): www.bostonspeaks.com/a/2147516731/hGVphzzJ
@siwardwoudstra17512 жыл бұрын
Funny that you see everything as practice, Alex. I do this with painting since not to long, every painting that I make is just practice I tell myself. And that helps me relax about the end result. Because even if I make something I don't like afterwards it still can be part of a learning proces and further development and improvement.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing, Siward. It really is a relaxing mindset.
@siwardwoudstra17512 жыл бұрын
@@alexanderlyon Thinking about how it works in your situation as well as my situation, maybe I should think of almost anything in life as just practice.
@KumarResearch2 жыл бұрын
@@siwardwoudstra1751 I also think the same...
@siwardwoudstra17512 жыл бұрын
@@KumarResearch I think seeing things as practice is allowing yourself to make mistakes, because trial and error is part of practice.
@user-ot7qp6rr7f2 жыл бұрын
It’s interesting but I do the same when I am painting 😃 and it’s help me to continue even final result is far from being perfect
@mysteryandmeaning297 Жыл бұрын
I say let the anxiety happen. Emotion only last 90 seconds he said is true. I'm scared to death talk in front of people. When I finally had to do it I was shaking. After I sat in the chair after a minute it left. I made it through the speech even though it wasn't that interesting that time, I still did it. I'm very insecure and unconfident in front of others cause my past traumas with rejections so it's really hard. That's all part of me and the journey to get through it. no shame.
@alexanderlyon Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story!
@TheSonjaxfactor2 жыл бұрын
So easily said than done! When you are severely shy, damaged, and insecure, you honestly, truly believe you are abandoned!
@dadadaddyoo Жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that you have had such a rough time of it. I think it might help you is to get outside of yourself when you have to speak. When an actor plays a convincing villain or hero it's not because they are a villainous or heroic person in real life, but because they have created in their mind the personality they need for the part. Then when they go on stage they put aside their actual personality and become the character. Create a version of yourself that is brave and confident and let her give the speech. She is not shy, damaged or insecure -- she is exactly what you think you need to be to give a good speech. This takes practice but you can do it. You may want to practice in front of a mirror so you can work on the body language of confident you as well. Once you learn how to "be in character" you'll be amazed at what you can do!
@hazelconti24562 жыл бұрын
"It's all about the mindset." This interview is fire! Thanks for the insights, Alex and Kit! Love seeing two of the best coaches that I know, in one interview.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Hazel!
@BostonSpeaks2 жыл бұрын
Hey Alex ~ Thank you for having me on!
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Always a pleasure, Kit. Thanks for giving some great advice.
@jakeb3055 Жыл бұрын
I would say that much of our fear is not even necessarily based in mindset, that it goes deeper. I think it is an instinctual response that to some degree we have no control over from the standpoint of the fear and anxiety response in our brains. I do think we can overcome the anxiety and not let it dominate but to rid it completely is impossible. I presented to about 100 people the other day and I literally had to tell myself to calm down even though I had no reason to be anxious. I was well prepared and confident in the topic I was presenting but the anxiety was very strong. My mind was not fearful but my body was out of control with cortisol. I think our bodies play a role too
@lindaugelow2 жыл бұрын
Yes, it's all an inside job and all about our perception of the experience. I was anxious about speaking for decades in spite of being a performer until discovered a way to get rid of my anxiety for good. Having an attitude of practice is also so helpful. It gives us permission to experiment and be in the process. I'm delighted to be one of the presenters at the summit and bring my framework of healing the root causes that are described in my book, Delight In The Limelight.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Linda. Thank you for sharing.
@BostonSpeaks2 жыл бұрын
Hey Linda!
@arturochacin82282 жыл бұрын
Excellent and helpful.
@thrivehappy9610 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@asecoach Жыл бұрын
Alex, I love your tip, "It's just practice!" I will remember this.
@alexanderlyon Жыл бұрын
I'm glad it was helpful, Linda. I say that to myself about almost everything I'm doing!
@mdcmdc1 Жыл бұрын
Mine has always been "starting" to talk because I work myself up so much beforehand. Once I got over that start or in other areas of life I can come across as confident. Always struggled with it though, the thought of feeling/looking daft and its like im doing it to myself.
@thrivehappy9610 Жыл бұрын
absolutely
@arturochacin82282 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Whoa! Thank you so much, Arturo Chacin. I sincerely appreciate it!
@shridharmahadevan2004 Жыл бұрын
Thanks!.
@dixonbuttes2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@bommenasrinivas3836 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much coach.. Helps a lot
@troyandrews30072 жыл бұрын
Hey Alex, good to see you
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Troy.
@christophersanchez15562 жыл бұрын
I love this. Thank you for sharing these insights.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@publicspeakingbasics2 жыл бұрын
Spreading good stuff here! I would also say that finding a group like Toastmasters is essential for improving confidence.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Yes, Toastmasters has helped tons of people over the years.
@brendagraham86112 жыл бұрын
Great Interview Alex & Kit! Extremely helpful!
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@lizzettegamero65182 жыл бұрын
How do you then resolve the causes, is the ultimate trick.
@kendibeth54302 жыл бұрын
I have been here since 50k subs! You are my inspiration
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Kendi! It's awesome that you've been following for so long. Thank you!
@girigiri2167 Жыл бұрын
Welcome ❤️👍
@albertconstantine54322 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Great words but a little hard to listen to with the vocalization.
@theschoolofbodylanguage2 жыл бұрын
CONGRATULATIONS
@revzone35442 жыл бұрын
Why even try to encompasses the "Why" I'm lame at public speaking, and how do I overcome these overwhelming emotions.. Simple answer.. If you suck at speaking, have a shot or two of liquor.. people become confident and open up.. If you can talk to friends or family, you can talk to a crowd, I'd suggest listening to Conor Neil, for building confidence called, " Improve your speaking" Ever heard of him Alex?