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@dirceubordino53602 жыл бұрын
The most useful thing that has happened in my prpfessional life.
@Fawn00012 жыл бұрын
The best way I found to make friends is to participate in aerobic classes at the gym. Go consistently and on a regular basis. Over time you will see the same folks over and over and make friends. When you see someone all the time it will be natural to strike up a conversation. Say "Wow, that was a great class today. Did you like it?" I have made my very best, lifelong friends at the gym. You have a common interest with the group and are doing something positive for yourself.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Excellent example!
@fiat38792 жыл бұрын
I agree! Well said😃
@qwertyuiop36562 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@winningcommunication2 жыл бұрын
That is a great idea, I’ve made a few friends at yoga. Workout classes are great because everyone feels better after so it’s easier to socialize
@YouilAushana Жыл бұрын
I played sports and was happy. So. That's great
@strodriguez852 жыл бұрын
1. Bloom where you're planted 2. Put yourself out there 3. Be a friend 4. Be on the look out for common ground 5. Pick 2 or 3 people and invest in them
@sumari9722 жыл бұрын
most of my life I lived really isolated, thinking that nobody would help me when in trouble, because I was left down many times by those who were nearest to me. But as I had the courage to speak about the problem I was currently facing, there were three wonderful women I had met just once who offered help and got my best friends now. We have fun together and they showed care and kindness to help a stranger when in need. I am so thankful I opened my mouth and spoke about my problem. Although didn't even think they could help me, they actually did and this very successfully. Also had the opportunity to help them too, and am very grateful for their friendship.
@Lauren-vd4qe2 жыл бұрын
people usually like to help other people; those that dont are to b avoided.
@joeschmo7957 Жыл бұрын
When I was personal training the elderly, I would ask them about their family, their career, their pets, their food choices, this or that... take a sincere personal interest in what is going on with them and they will come to rely and depend upon you being there for that appointment. This will cement the friendship.
@alanalyon55612 жыл бұрын
I really struggle with making friends due to social anxiety. This video has some really helpful tips! Love your videos uncle Alex!👍🏽
@TheSign02 жыл бұрын
I’m on the same boat
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Alana! I'm glad the video was helpful. Thank you for your encouragement.
@corner23 Жыл бұрын
Love this! It can definitely be hard to find friends as adults, but it's so important to have that circle of community.
@walteradair77382 жыл бұрын
Your point on listening is a golden key Keep it simple. To gain friends be friendly. Friends are to value, not use. Give positive feedback not criticism. People with a wide cycle of friends with varied interests live better and longer. Stay engaged with life through friends.
@Thamizhnags2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Alex! I think this is a super important topic and a reminder for people like me who struggle to make friends with. 1. Bloom where you are planted 2. Put yourself out there 3. The best way to make friend is to be a friend 4. Be on the lookout for common ground 5. Pick two or three people to invest in more... No.3 and No.5 are my personal likes 😍
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Good summary!
@siwardwoudstra17512 жыл бұрын
I really like it that you give advice from your background as a communication professor on topics that are not essentially business related. Nothing wrong with talking about business, we owe a lot to the flourishing of business. But in my opinion your field (communication) is much more complete if you also talk about friendships and perhaps other topics outside of business.
@penguinch1k2 жыл бұрын
It’s difficult to make friends as adults because all people around you already have their problems while you have yours to deal with, and some of the problems can be quite serious (yours or theirs): obviously if you make friends with people you are submitting yourself to some parts of their problems now, but are you ready for this? It’s really a great deterrent for me for example.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Adult lives are complex. Thank you for sharing, Elena.
@superpoodlehead10 ай бұрын
Totally agree. I’ve had people vanish because of some of my life experiences.
@ionlungu90943 ай бұрын
Is take a long way to make friend
@shyama56122 жыл бұрын
As I reflect, most of my closest friends are from my school days... I hadn't thought about doing it consciously. Thought provoking. thanks.
@paulstejskal2 жыл бұрын
This was a good video. Thank you for this. I was struggling since the pandemic and major change in my life with connecting with others and this was a good simple way to approach it. I appreciate this very much.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful, Paul.
@dianepulsone27262 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the reminder that I do have friends! I’m working on branching out to new friends as well as working on the current friends. Once you find friends it takes effort maintaining the friendships. Friendships can change over time so that’s something else to consider. New friends are fun and getting to know others is an adventure. Keep putting great tips out there that encourage us this way. I belong to a church and that’s one more place to make and develop friends. Thanks for the reminder!!
@MsTwiththeTea1980 Жыл бұрын
Great story 😊I am working on making new friends as well 😊best of luck to you on your journey
@melangcao2344 Жыл бұрын
You are doing a great service to society. I wish more young people today will hear you so that they spend lesser time on social media and have fuller lives of their own by having real friends and going on small and great adventures together with real friends. Sharing this with my nephews and nieces. Thanks a lot.
@anythingunderthesun90672 жыл бұрын
Great topic Coach Alex, thanks for sharing. I remembered my high school days, I almost know everyone at my school. Back then I was the jolliest person. But time changed as I matured, I became an introvert person. But I'm still lucky to have two friends who stand by me through my ups and downs. True friendship never ends.
@trishk.7876Ай бұрын
Omigosh, this is gold! You had me from the start with saying people aren't interested in forming friendships if you're just passing through. I've been nomading since 2019 and baffled as to why I have such a hard time making friendships. Now it makes sense! I'm currently planning to commit to one location, and you've strengthened my resolve to really make it stick. About to binge watch your other videos for more amazing tips. TYSM!
@willl71342 жыл бұрын
5-tip action plan to make friends: 1) Bloom where you are planted. -realize that proximity plays a major role in who become your friends. 2) Put yourself out there. -accept invitations. (Be willing to accept all REASONABLE invitations for a period of time if needed and up for the challenge). -consider joining/starting a group. 3) The best way to make friends is to be a friend. -be a giver, not a taker. -take a genuine interest in others. - Be a good listener. (Listening is love). -Let people get to know you by being open. 4) Be on the lookout for common ground. -the more common ground you have on a variety of issues, the more there is to talk about, share, and bond over. 5) Pick two or three people to invest in more. -spend some time here, create some boxes on what kind of person you want to invest in.
@drizzlesmum Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for this summary!
@johndenver50152 жыл бұрын
Thanks coach. Very good video. Very insightful. I didn't even know I wanted any friends. You mentioned some struggle's with making friends. For me it's I realized it's fear. I have been betrayed many times. My parents divorced. Also as a kid My mother moved us around a lot. Also I was married and thought we would be together forever. Because of adultery. We split up. . This is very real in many people's lives. It does make a person think what is the point they are not going to stay anyway. So I would like to challenge you coach to make a video on making friendships with the right people and why to try. I have learned a few things lately. But I am willing to put my self out there. I know I am okay but there's other people struggling. You have a kindness about you and I believe you can reach people that is hurting.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Hi, JD. Thank you for sharing and for your kind words.
@unplannedsyntax2 жыл бұрын
I like all of your suggestions. I learned how surprisingly complicated it is to make friends as an adult! Great ideas!
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
So true, Daniel. As a younger person in school, I saw that potential friends where everywhere and the adults did all of the organizing for me.
@MsTwiththeTea1980 Жыл бұрын
Best of luck to you my friend 😊
@SweetHeavensSunshine2 жыл бұрын
This has been one of the best videos I’ve watched on this topic. Informative, very practical tips to implement, and also makes me feel really hopeful hearing your own story, and how those tips worked for you. Thank you for sharing this! I’m living in a new city now, and work from home, so it’s hard to meet people. Thank you for sharing! These are things I can practically implement.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@stephnoraodionye2514 Жыл бұрын
I can't put to words to how it's been for me as well with the working from home in a new environment.
@noam.s93322 жыл бұрын
Hey Alex, Just wanted to say that your channel provides great value! Thank you for that.
@europeanconfidence32 Жыл бұрын
Yes I realise you have to be giving, generous, friendly and a good listener. I can do that easily. But I hate talking about myself because my life is boring. I can say some things but I don't think many people are really interested. It's trying to think of what to say to someone is what I have difficulty with.
@NelCreates1172 жыл бұрын
Sir… thank you for your work. Please continue doing what you do. 🙂
@janewright3152 жыл бұрын
These are all great, and I don't think limited to just adults. This is good even for younger children learning how to make friends or who attend schools that aren't in their neighbourhoods or who live in spread out areas. I do think asking people what they do for work needs to die, though. There are some people who are, yes, lucky enough to be able to do what they really want, but for most, their work doesn't define who they are, and this thinking often creates that alignment in our minds. It furthermore makes people uncomfortable if they aren't where they want to be, parent who are stay at home inevitably get looks like they sit around eating bon bons all day even if they do the housework, finances carpentry, etc. People with degrees who struggle to get jobs in their fields and reminded of this, people in blue collar work inevitably question whether this will have some snooty a hole looking down their nose at them. I don't know. I don't think it's necessary to define someone by their job. For some reason the people that do this also really don't seem to take the hint if you don't discuss your work and it becomes a weird, unpleasant situation.
@paulstejskal2 жыл бұрын
I agree. Most people view work as the thing that pays the bills, even if they like their job. But if you work at the same company this may not be true. It is a good way to find out more about someone and their situation though. You do have to learn it at some point to become their friend.
@johndenver50152 жыл бұрын
Just watched this video again. I. Got a little more out of it. I'm probably going to listen to it a few times more. It's like fresh water for a very thirsty soul. Have a great day coach 😊
@mariekitty2 жыл бұрын
These are great tips if someone wants to make friends. Growing up I always had a group of friends to do stuff with. With multiple moves to different cities, I’m happy to just hang out with family and a few old friends occasionally. They live far away. My best friends are my boyfriend, whom I live with, and my sister, who lives in a nearby city. I’m 52. Have lived in a new city for the past couple of years. I like my alone time, and making friends is not a priority for me. I’m open to friendship, but I’m fine without them. I think that’s ok, too. I wonder if there are lots of others who feel the same, or if this feeling is unusual.
@tpv592 жыл бұрын
Yes, I am like you Marie. (63) I 'sort of' like being by myself. I would prefer friendships but I am NOT a 'Worldly person'. I would LOVE to have fellowship with fellow Christians, but the simple true FACT is 99% of them ARE trinitarians, and NOT Christians. - So I therefore have NOWHERE to fellowship. Regards.
@monikalantos74932 жыл бұрын
I live a similar life and I am similar age as you. We might be friends! :)
@ابراهيمالعتيبي-ط6ص Жыл бұрын
I love to make friends all over the world that's make me feel good . thank you
@TedPatrickBaird2 жыл бұрын
Very crucial tips. Thank you!
@Jenhui052 жыл бұрын
It’s is a great video to help people because so many people feel lonely in their lives. I think your approaches in the video are very practical and I am using some of them before I watch your video. Thank you!
@AndresLeonRangel2 жыл бұрын
i will need to pray harder and apply all of these tips to make some good friends. cheers for the tips God bless
@cynthiakk5966 Жыл бұрын
Thanks and I think that a lot of interesting tips and most value: what type of friend are not even valued to invest time and energy.
@nimageofmine2 жыл бұрын
One of the challenges I have found in recent life is kids. Finding time for "your" is always on a wishlist. At least that's my experience.
@FerretNoodle-ne2of4 ай бұрын
I always wanted to make friends, even as an adult. I don't really want to be alone anymore. I always go walk outdoors to discover new places. Sure i have problems like right now I'm on debt, but I'm not giving up because at the same time, I'll have the sign of relief for improving my financial health. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
@gaelg86649 ай бұрын
Hi, Genuinely, thank you so much for your valuable tips. It sounds so bother simple and natural. I would like to meet someone with this kind of belief and way of seeing life, honest, true, and once again simple. Please keep going. Take care
@Blessed_Beyond_Belief Жыл бұрын
Great info ! Happy I found your channel! 💕💕💕💕
@Sarah-iy7uc28 күн бұрын
So many people already have enough friends and aren’t interested in making new ones, especially past 30. I’ve found that after I invite someone to do something outside of a group activity, as suggested in the video, I don’t invite them again. They’re clearly happy to just be acquaintances, and I look for someone else to connect with in the group instead.
@noemimatias37292 жыл бұрын
Great topic and great video. Thanks for all the wonderful tips. 👍🏼
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@Asser_pro12342 жыл бұрын
These tips are very helpful ,however they are relative to the country or culture you come from. The most important tip here is an unspoken one, it's the fact that you can change not having friends and that it's not a situation you have to live with the rest of your life.
@grumpysquid2 жыл бұрын
What a gem of a “life hack”!
@grdn02100 Жыл бұрын
Proximity is absolutely correct. I have a few things to say about this topic. Friend: someone who has something you NEED or WANT.... sounds harsh but think about it. And I'm talking about adults not kids. I have worked all over this world sans Asia and maybe this is just me, but in my experience non Americans are FAR easier to establish friendships with and I say that AS an American, well half American. The north eastern US is not exactly fertile ground for friendships and of course I am speaking broadly.
@angelas38642 жыл бұрын
This is excellent info. Thanks for making this KZbin video. 😀
@JustinHunterTCM2 жыл бұрын
I always feel like I'm the one who has to put in the effort. Any advice on this? Or is it just how it goes, of you want something take it?
@s.guidry22222 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes,, Very enlightening video. Thank you. We’ll live longer with friends,,, 🙏🏼💕
@brendagraham86112 жыл бұрын
Yes, listening is love... also our time with them is spelt L.o.v.e! Something we struggle with when our lives are so busy!
@yvonnerenoult18192 жыл бұрын
Can you do a segment on how to graciously avoid an unwanted friendship without making the other person feel bad? Especially when dealing with needy people.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
It's an interesting suggestion but I'm not sure if it fits my channel quite well enough. I'll give it some thought.
@daisies44442 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this and thank you for your being so open too. Great advice Alex and I intend to follow it. Blessings!
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@danawinsor13802 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I have learned so much from your videos
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad, Dana. Thank you for your encouragement.
@winningcommunication2 жыл бұрын
This is great stuff - inspiring for the type of helpful stuff I want to make.
@petroshkavandev73892 жыл бұрын
So appreciate your videos. Thank you.
@mokugyo129jp2 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for the Video. I admire and respect you. You looked like a Dale Carnegie, how to wind friends and influence people. I love your sentences, such as "listening is love."
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you!
@jillmeader58829 ай бұрын
😂 how do you wind people haha I know it's a typo but kinda funny
@rachelk75552 жыл бұрын
I will reach out to someone twice. If they don’t respond or meet me “halfway” in terms of making an effort to get a friendship going, I let it go. There are SO MANY flakes out there!
@jiechen93102 жыл бұрын
Thank you Alex, love your teachings, and my son is Alex too. 😇
@46556622 жыл бұрын
I would love a video or link to an existing video about speaking at a memorial. I am tasked with writing part of the eulogy and speaking at my beloved uncle's celebration of life. Besides somewhat controlling my emotions, I am weary of saying the wrong thing or leaving out something crucial. I want everyone to remember him as the funny and adventurous man he was and to convey the love and gratitude we all share. But I am one to fumble on words and blurt out something embarrassing or inappropriate out of nervousness.
@onenchrist172 жыл бұрын
Very helpful video. Thanks for the great information.
@melis.j.2 жыл бұрын
Specially on social media platforms hard to get connected with people and be friends.
@gerlybioco8543 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. God bless.
@Canny-Octopus2 жыл бұрын
That couple who essentially told folks they were going to leave town - what great insight about how that shut down friendship.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
They are really awesome people. We're still in touch with them. They were just excited about their plans to move. It's hard to know how others will respond to that but I'm guessing that other people weigh the potential costs of investing in a friendship when they know it won't last.
@GoogleUser-wx8mw2 жыл бұрын
Great information. Thank you.
@LetsProgram-fw8gq4 ай бұрын
Very very very good
@SM-nc2pt Жыл бұрын
Great tips! Thanks for sharing.!
@silverseeker33682 жыл бұрын
Very helpful advice from the heart, thank you!
@Anakena32 жыл бұрын
interesting. Fun as the "yes" approach (cf yes man fun movie) could work. My take on the difference when you're younger in college/ Vs working full time in a company is that in a company there's often a competition back ground, and also, oneself at work is not systematically your home self. you have to go by a specific culture, refrain yourself often, And that's a great difference to me. Not saying it's impossible, but definitely not easing it at all . So interesting too on Takers (so so true)
@gulliver7419 Жыл бұрын
I think there are other things in the mix, they need to admire something about you, you need to be positive and be fun to be around.
@mohanm1587 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! It was a great video
@alphabeta82842 жыл бұрын
Church is an awesome place to make friends. We have met so many other young families there. It’s funny, cause the first few interactions are almost like dating.
@tpv592 жыл бұрын
May I ask please, are you a trinitarian, or a Christian? ( SERIOUS question ) I have found not ONE Christian church. ALL are trinitarian churches. FACT. (they ALL WILL PERISH) (hell)
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I've met many at church myself.
@abdulhafizbozdag2988 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@evmather2 жыл бұрын
This is awesome. Thank you for putting such great content out there.
@evmather Жыл бұрын
Hey, just wanted to come back to this video and comment. We moved to a new area lately and have been working on meeting people, making friends, and building a network. Your tips have really helped. Especially just saying yes to any and all social invitations, and getting involved in community groups. Thanks again for the great content. :)
@selamitumer2431 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, it's very helpful!
@alexanderlyon Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@twainjones2 жыл бұрын
You know what. This is about a 1000 times better than a psychiatrist right now. And I can't make new relationships for sh*t.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad it was helpful, R. S.
@MondoLeStraka4 ай бұрын
How do you put yourself out there without seeming "needy."
@LOADUP012 жыл бұрын
Ty coach
@BillySerrano-z5w3 ай бұрын
hope this help me
@f.s-97983 ай бұрын
You can do it billy
@OnanX501 Жыл бұрын
Great advice
@Kris-ym2zr2 жыл бұрын
Alex, thanks 👍🏿
@bellakim94042 жыл бұрын
I eat out often, and alone because my bf is an Eat & Run type of person, where I enjoy the experience., and I love sitting at the bar at restaurants. I have made a few great friends and have made numerous acquaintances from doing what I enjoy. I feel going out alone is easier to start, make and keep conversations going.
@luv2travel2000 Жыл бұрын
Interesting video. 👍
@kanishkaagrawal106Ай бұрын
Amazong tips..thank you
@alexanderlyonАй бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@deestevens54882 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the great advice and helpful videos. I will definitely try your suggestions.
@shivani7512 жыл бұрын
Would love if you could react to some of Lee Kwan Yew’s interview with the American media. Great stuff
@jamesmcinnis2082 жыл бұрын
I'm confused. Why would an extrovert turn down invitations, thinking "I don't know anybody" when you hope to meet new people? Isn't the definition of an extrovert someone who meets people? Why would you reject an opportunity to do so?
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
As I said, I was moping around and homesick. Also, extroversion is not tied directly to wanting to meet *_new_* people, especially in all situations. If you look up explanations of the term, you'll see that is not the definition of it. I was missing my old friends and family and feeling a bit depressed about it all. As my story illustrates, I snapped out of it after several weeks.
@jamesmcinnis2082 жыл бұрын
@@alexanderlyon Oh, I see. You were pouting. I've been guilty of the same! It's not very productive, is it?
@thesensitiveowl2 жыл бұрын
I dont sem to fit in where I live, and working from home doesn't help.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
That's very true, Marina. Working from home is a huge barrier. As mentioned in the video, I recommend finding a group that does things you already like (or would like to learn more about). Just go for the activity and it'll put you around people who you almost automatically have things in common with.
@sergiobravo2522 жыл бұрын
Hello Marina!
@aaronrs2002 Жыл бұрын
I find it hard to make friends as an adult because most people never seem to mature. They stay the same narcissistic, self center brats they were as children. As a child it was just harder to recognize.
@winstoncrane78032 жыл бұрын
You should ask Dr. Jordan peterson on to interview. You two could have a great conversation about speaking.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
I emailed his team a long time ago but didn't hear back. I'm guessing he gets dozens of invitations per day. Maybe I'll try again at some point.
@LK-jn4uj2 жыл бұрын
Wouldn’t JP say, “Be persistent!”
@vahidehmoslemi24602 жыл бұрын
Your channel is awesome 👍
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 😀
@benhawkins8822 жыл бұрын
Well said, sir! Such an important topic!
@heather4822 жыл бұрын
No one gave the 5 in comments ? Man I have to watch the video. Geez
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Yes, you have to slog through it! Ha.
@msgoldenemerald Жыл бұрын
I live 1 hr from the city where the clubs and people I am interested in are present. Your tips are wonderful, but does not apply to my situation. The people in our village are stuck to attending the village church, they have their church clubs and mostly dismiss dismiss
@michaelbodine92402 жыл бұрын
LOL…If only I could find someone I like! 😅
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Well, that’s another issue! Ha.
@michaelbodine92402 жыл бұрын
@@alexanderlyon lol…. I was just being facetious …great video.
@Raymond.Butler2 жыл бұрын
Being retired and working from and on my property is very limiting, but I have been looking for groups.
@viniciusgmachado12042 жыл бұрын
@Communication Coach Alex Lyon I’m an autistic young adult...who’s also in college. Could I still use your tips to make new friends, even given that I lost almost all of my grade school friends?
@robertbeckler50582 жыл бұрын
Since I got divorced I've only worked and not made any friends that are not work mates who I don't spend time with after work. I got divorced 11 years ago.
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Robert. Well, I hope the video got you thinking about ways to put yourself out there and connect. I wish you the best.
@larslover65592 жыл бұрын
Seems like we have "common interest", chess haha. Want to play a game, Alex?
@yowsers64752 жыл бұрын
This was great. Thanks!
@SJ-ds8lp Жыл бұрын
The thing is I am so deeply entrenched in my own world that I see nothing in common with anyone.
@hillaryhedglen85842 жыл бұрын
I would love to know how to decline an invitation politely. Not making up false excuses about why I can’t make it…because I totally can. I just don’t want to. How do I decline politely?
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
I have a video called "How to Say No Politely." It might have some useful tips for you.
@rachelk75552 жыл бұрын
What if you really do plan on moving to another state in a year or two?
@alexanderlyon2 жыл бұрын
I think it's fine to bring it up the fact that you're planning to move but I wouldn't talk about it most conversations or lead with that. Also, it might be best to focus on joining groups if you plan to move because that's the easiest way to be around people with similar interests and the investment of time people are making in getting to know you will be in the context of also engaging in the group activity.
@brainbombify2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the advice friend
@gpswatching2 жыл бұрын
This was helpful thanks
@heymakerphd19822 жыл бұрын
A great many people would take you for a stalker, or a predator, using your tips. Still, what are the other options?, wait until you can save their life? Long ago, I saw a quote about friends: "A true friend is one that is as concerned about your wefare as he is about his own." Sort of a high bar. So, lower the bar, then everyone you know,...have ever met,...is a good friend!! Some people's kids!! They have too high a standard for what constitutes a good friend. I'm kinda guilty of that myself. On the other hand, if someone like Tom Brady or the President, stops to ask how I'm doing, they've just made a lifelong friend of me. Friendship is a complicated condition sometimes, and sometimes not. Good luck with that.