31 Years Old & Never Had A Girlfriend!

Things are tough at the moment...
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[@BLUESKY-zt1nv]

31 !! ...i am 62 and never had a girlfriend ..tried everything when i was younger ..dressed up , went to the gym 3 times a week ,went out every weekend ..all my mates got the girls and their girls would tell them how ugly i was ...every girl i attempted to talk to made an excuse to get away from me ,like introduce me to a friend then walk off laughing ..every girl i asked out turned me down ..all that "oh you will find someone someday" is a load of bollocks ......i have never even kissed a girl or hold there hand ..how could i possibly ever find anyone ..you have another 31 years to catch me up !!!

[@BorisEysbroek]

Wish more people would read your story. I'm tired of the platitudes thrown at you people. Yes, some people can improve with work, but some people are already the best version of themselves and stil find themselves undesirable. I dress poorly, my hair looks like I escaped out of a psychiatric hospital and I have the social skills of a brick. But I'm 6,2. Still have had women approach me out of the blue at work and out on the street. Can't say that for my shorter brethren though. How abysmall the chance may be, I still hope you have found happyness through other means in your life. Don't let the insincerity of society get to you. Cheers

[@mantislazuli]

I'm sending my support to you. I wish I could do more.

[@Samuel-vw2wy]

try invincible by David tian and the ace formula by Adam lyons

[@somerandomvertebrate9262]

I'm 53. My strategy has become to bet on the existence of an afterlife. Everything we lacked here, we could make up for there.

[@thegreatbenis225]

Damn brother, not too be mean but maybe you were talking to girls above your league? Also you can still find someone, their are single 61 year old woman. If you still care, maybe you dont but dont be affraid too try

[@turtle_power_cosplay744]

Please stop telling him to “Just be confident” in the comments section. Confidence is bullshit.

[@prasmitdevkota4251]

He lacks confidence 100%. How is being confident bs? He gives off very weak vibe of himself which immediately turns women off. He looks like he wont be able to hold a 1 on 1 conversation with a girl for even 10 minutes. He doesn’t seem like a bad dude and should absolutely work on his confidence.

[@ДаняСаго]

Are u confident in that statement?

[@thegreatbenis225]

Sorta, this man is attractive to most im sure but his confidence is ass and its very obvious hes weak. If he stops with the excuses and starts losing the fat he could kill it with females

[@chuckcollins2349]

​@@prasmitdevkota4251Confidence only matters if she likes your appearance.

[@prasmitdevkota4251]

@@chuckcollins2349 Then guys should work on their appearances. And should not chase women who dont like their appearance.

[@theswagapino]

5'5 going to clubs alone... respect for trying at least

[@astroboirap]

dingdong

[@EminencePhront]

If he’s gonna go to the clubs alone he needs to learn some dance moves. If the girls see a little well-dressed guy tearing up the dance floor, then at least one of them is going to be interested.

[@aurelian771]

my dad is 5'5

[@theswagapino]

@@aurelian771 im 5'6

[@gj9157]

​@@aurelian771 So what lol

[@bushborne]

Sorry you were called ugly cause you're definitely not. Have a blessed day

[@FamilyHistoriandude]

I got my first girlfriend a couple weeks after i turned 31. Even though we broke up 3 months later, im grateful for the experience.

[@astroboirap]

lmao

[@FamilyHistoriandude]

@@astroboirap yeah, me too because I proved to the nay sayers that I can get a girlfriend.

[@PetiteDuck4587]

@@astroboirap😂

[@RatedRLoquender]

Did you bang her?

[@crotchbeam9]

Was it better to haved loved then to never had loved at all?

[@Tinto2]

its tough out here for alot of us guys, women have no idea how easy they have it when it comes to dating.

[@bornwithoutconsentobviously]

Oh you have walked in the shoes of every female in this world? That’s an achievement.

[@eheheh3263]

It’s hard for lesbians too… 😂🤣 as a lesbian I totally understand what men go through, and the effort/work they have to put to get a woman… and yes women have it easier in certain aspects when it comes to romantic relationships because they just have to exist and men just approach them

[@bornwithoutconsentobviously]

@@eheheh3263 100% agree, some of these men think only straight women exist or something 😅

[@jonathancoleman6482]

@@eheheh3263damn even y’all

[@Plecofish-ko8rm]

@@eheheh3263lol nah. Many women seem bisexual. It should be easy for you.

[@KennethDiazperlloni]

I see people recommending the gym, it helps but it won't get you a girlfriend and turn you into a chick magnet, women care more about confidence and status. I consider myself good looking and a gymrat and practice skateboarding but I'm not confident or charismatic or have a good paying job. I'm 31 year old and never had a girlfriend, some guys are just not chosen by women.

[@tylertbone9]

Yea lmao the gym is good advice to be more confident in yourself and help deal with the loneliness.

[@Us3r739]

You’re probably short, seems that way. Even if you are taller than other women, they only care about their man being taller than other men. They see you as a side character, as support but never that main support like sexual and romantic

[@MAnon-sq5nf]

You don't "get chosen" you have to "go after"

[@Matty12333]

Gym is more men

[@matthewjames5090]

Not totally true. I'm introverted, ginger, pretty bland personality, didn't have much experience with girls. I focused on building muscle from the age of 21 to 25 - then took it further by taking roydz (just being honest here..) - got supper jacked - wore nicer clothes - manages to get a ton more matches on dating apps - which gave me dating experience - lead to giving me confidence - now I own a house with a beautiful girl for over 6 years now. Getting jacked snowballed my life for the better.

[@UltimateMoralizer]

I gave up on women many years ago and have no regrets. Honestly, it’s not worth the hassle. Men jump through hula-hoops to get women who have a high body count and unrealistic expectations.

[@notanothercomedian]

honestly, i know i can get a girlfriend fairly eisily, but what keeps me back is the belief that if a woman doesnt add peace to my life, she isnt worth it. And while ive met some pretty great women, and ive even dated and been with them, most women today arnt worth it. They cannot bring a partner peace, because they themselves arnt at peace.

[@chennis134]

I'm 31 and have never had a girlfriend either. I wasn't motivated to date in high school and college. Then, I tried various things after college - dating apps, coed sports (tennis, volleyball, kickball), going to bars by myself, salsa dancing, Reddit, getting set up by my mom, running club, chess club. I got about 10 first dates on the apps and 2 second dates, but nothing long-term. And nowadays I get no matches on the apps, so I stopped using them. I fear that I'll never date anyone. I'm quite lucky in a lot of areas in my life, but I feel like the world is conspiring against me when it comes to romance. It feels like I have no control over whether or not I find someone to date

[@Dos-dh9ul]

Go to Tijuana mexico 🇲🇽 you'll find plenty of gfs here , that's what I did 8 years ago , I work in san diego 3 days a week and live in TJ , alot of women here speak English

[@TheCasanovaPugilist147]

how many approaches did you do when you went out?

[@chennis134]

@@TheCasanovaPugilist147 None. And none will approach me. Those are the problems. It is intimidating to approach a group of women. There aren't any women at the bar who are there by themselves

[@TheCasanovaPugilist147]

@@chennis134 You need to work your way up to approaching groups. Start off small. Do Daygame approaching and approaching women who are by themselves. Once you get the hang of approaching woman at say malls, you can work your way to approaching women in groups. Then you can transfer those skills towards the night scene. I've gotten really great at approaching women at the bars. But I wasn't great right away. I worked my way up to it cause I realized talking to women is a skill like any other so I started off small. When I started I couldn't even approach a beautiful woman let alone talk to one without stuttering. Now talking to them is nothing to me but it took me many trials and a lot of failures. One time I practically froze up in front of a girl I approached. I realized all the things that made approaching woman intimidating wasn't really something to be scared of. I realized if I made a fool of myself or look stupid it only ever last a few seconds and I've done so many approaches now things that made me really uncomfortable before don't even faze me anymore.

[@TheCasanovaPugilist147]

@@chennis134 Dating apps have never worked for me. All the matches I get are either fake profiles or girls who just want followers on their instagram. I just approach woman everywhere I go now. Grocery stores. Malls. Bars. Night clubs.

[@teodortodorov1662]

I have had feeling very down for the fact that I`m 20 years old and have never had girlfriend! I was always comparing myself to others people at my age who already have tons of experiences and feel angry, sad and confused about this. But I released and I know it`s true that you don`t need someone else into your life to be happy (girlfriend, wife or friends). Of course this doesn`t mean that you shouldn`t have friends or wife and children, but simply to realize that they are just one of the things that can give you happiness in life and if you are unable to have it then you can find happiness in other things in life. Loneliness is feeling not a real thing.

[@Samuel-vw2wy]

why don’t you just get a girlfriend then

[@teodortodorov1662]

@@Samuel-vw2wy Because if you have a girlfriend only for pleasure then it`s just waste of time and money. Also I want to improve now, not wasting time on women

[@Reeeeeee12345]

Cope

[@Samuel-vw2wy]

@@teodortodorov1662 why do you want to improve

[@mantislazuli]

Loneliness is a real thing for many people on this planet. I'm genuinely happy for you that you do not feel the need to be loved romantically, but this is not the case for the majority of the world population.

[@wanderingwilliam5031]

Respect to you for making this video. I'm not gay but can tell you ain't a bad looking bloke, there's no end of these videos on the internet with men being single permanently so it's a common trend. Myself am 36 and am these days a bit on incel. I feel your despair at what to do also, dating apps don't work, going out doesn't seem to work so no clue to what the answer is.

[@EminencePhront]

Find girls online but just not on dating sites. Best results of my life.

[@tobiaswolf783]

@@EminencePhront and where exactly? xd

[@robertwilson7736]

Crying on shoulders stuff

[@the_dualwielddivine1004]

Ah yes as a 19 year old who has never had a gf I can confidently say I’m probably gonna head here 💀

[@TinyBitBrit]

You're still quite young mate so I'm confident things will turn around for you! Got my fingers crossed for ya 🤞

[@the_dualwielddivine1004]

@@TinyBitBrit thanks

[@e-man2081]

Many people don't start dating until they are around that age. Most of my dating and girlfriends were when I was in my 30s and 40s.

[@tobiaswolf783]

if you have certain traits then it can be very likely. if you are social and outgoing and would like to be with other people it is more likely I guess.

[@lars9168]

21 and it seems I'll be a regular customer with hookers in the future :|

[@pizzaboynizza1]

Go to Southeast Asia…man…seriously. Look, I have Asperger’s, but I joined the Navy at 19 and wasn’t diagnosed until I was 28…but I lived in Japan and traveled around Asia. You can find a girlfriend abroad…plus you’ll be out of your comfort zone.

[@tobiaswolf783]

I am Asperger as well but hate to travel and go to foreign places. On top of that I do not have money cause I am unemployed (due to Asperger I guess).

[@7avilus]

Rooting for you man !

[@truthhammer69]

Confidence means nothing if you don't mog your environment with either looks or social status which is very hard to do for anxious men.

[@Dos-dh9ul]

F all that , move to another country like mexico or argentina

[@bluejay8563]

I’m a girl and I really like your looks, you’re kinda “my type”, your eyes and smile are hot, and I like the way you built Just thought that would be good for you to know 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@Metallex]

Hey dude! Can tell this video took some cojones to make for you, so you should be proud of yourself. So first off, you have anxiety. I can see it in how tight your shoulders are, your talking patterns and the self doubt that creeps in at the very start. Give your GP a call and just talk about starting a conversation about anxiety. It comes with the social awkwardness and if you get it under control like I have...dude you will flourish. I don't do well on dating apps either, it's a toxic quagmire. I think you'd have way more success meeting people in person doing hobbies and that kind of thing. Gym can be a great place to meet people, but meeting women there is a bit dicey but there's all kinds of people you can meet there. You're not a bad looking dude and women who care will not care about your height. I don't know how you dress outside of your house, but based on your t-shirt you might want to revisit the wardrobe. If you get some new, non-ratty stuff that fits you and suits you well with the cut of the fabric and appearance it'll make you POP. I think the first step would be to do the work on yourself first and be happy with where you are on your own - being single can be lonely at times, but being secure with yourself in the life you have before you add someone else into it can be a long road but I believe in you! Get out there. Fake it 'til you make it. The first step is hard. I know, I had to take it too. You've got a bit of a road ahead but from this video you seem like a sound dude and if we lived nearby I'd absolutely grab a beer with you. You got this!

[@shaun2463]

I hear you bro, you're not alone in feeling alone. I hope you get something positive out of sharing this, you're a lot more secure with yourself than I am by doing so.

[@minicake6384]

I think you‘re cute. Genuinely.

[@HowlingMoai]

I'm a fair bit younger than you (I'm 5'6" on a good day and you kinda look like me just older) but I was in the same mentality from the latter half of high school to the early parts of college. Granted, it is a lot easier to interact with a lot of girls when you're still in uni because you have to go to classes but I think some of the things that I've learned about the world will stay relatively similar to the way it works in the real world. The biggest thing that changed for me over the past couple years is my confidence in myself. I wouldn't say I'm all that confident now but it's miles and leagues better than how I was at the end of high school and when I began uni. I feel that us guys are really hard on ourselves, we are overly self-conscious, and we overthink everything. It's hard to change this, it feels so normal to look at the world through a negative lens and think that people are either A. predisposed to dislike us or B. actively think negatively of us. This thinking is really obvious to others (even when we think there's no way they pick up on this). Here's a few things that I did and pretty much every one of them is a mental shift (in retrospect this is what I was doing, I didn't really think about it in an intentional way): The more you focus on women specifically, the worse you will feel. Our lack of experience with girls is one of our sore spots, I am a hardcore introvert as well. I'm still in uni but I don't hang with friends that much and I don't have a particularly large social circle. It's not all that often that I feel lonely. However, when I do, I used to just wallow in self pity and wish that I was super social (basically just wish that I'm someone that I'm not). Nowadays, when I feel occassionally feel lonely, I think about how I prefer to be by myself and the negative feelings I get from draining my social battery. Oftentimes those thoughts bring me solace and calm my rising turmoil. If it's a particularly stubborn bout of loneliness I will plan something to do with friends (usually a couple weeks to a month in advance) so that I have something to look forward to. Have things to look forward to. One of the most therapeutic things in life is hope/excitement for things to come. I have about three friends that I've kept in contact with from high school (messaging probably about once every month or 2 months, so it's not super often or anything) and I will ask them if they want to go camping or on a small trip for a few days. Now I know that when you're a real adult (not in university and past the age of fake adult activities like clubbing or partying) people have spouses, children, or a lot of responsibilities overall that stop them from spending a lot of time with the boys. However, it's not too dissimilar from how it is in university. My friends work part time jobs/internships over winter and summer break which definitely postpones my plans a week or two or three almost every time. It's just as hard to plan things with others now as it will be when I get older. However, the thing that I started without really thinking about it was being persistent. I would think "they definitely think I'm being annoying" "I should stop asking them, they probably don't like me". Luckily, I didn't give up and my plans often came to fruition and we (at least one or two of us because oftentimes not everyone can make it) would go on the trip. It would just feel nice to KNOW that whatever I'm going through now is just temporary because I'll at least get to have some fun with the boys in a couple weeks to a month. You said you're not an outdoorsy sort of person and to be honest neither am I. I just think that we spend so much time playing games that we neglect to get out into the world. We are also very self conscious so when we do outdoors stuff we think "I look so weird/stupid doing this" "Everyone is probably looking at me and thinking I'm a creep" just because we aren't very skilled. I'm gonna give you a bit of knowledge that I finally realized after wayyy too long. Nah, nobody cares about you. Yeah, they might give you a weird look or maybe have a passing thought that you're a bit strange but that's actually a RARE occurrence. Maybe 1 in 10-20 people will actually acknowledge your existence in their minds to have a thought about you and maybe 1 in 1000 will actually interact with you, even more rare, maybe 1 in 20000 will appear in your life again. You're older than I am so you probably know even better than I do that what you did in high school didn't really matter. Going on trips and the things you do on those trips, how you look to other strangers on those trips, is basically just the same thing as high school. You'll never see them again, just be yourself. Really, now that I think about it, the biggest advice I could give to you is to learn who YOU are and to accept that sure, you could change stuff if you really wanted to, but there's not much you can do to change who YOU are. That might make you a bit depressed because you're probably like I was and have low self-esteem, you immediately think about what YOU think your "bad characteristics" are and how you're "stuck" with them. If you want my honest, uncensored, not trying to make you feel better in any way, just brutal opinion? You look like a pretty average dude (if not slightly better than the average 31 year old honestly speaking) you think you're too short but honestly you have a pretty good height (5'5" 5'6" feels like we're short but it's not terrible really, we can sit in any seat, clothes actually fit us, we won't have early onset back pain just because we are super tall, we aren't 4'6" so it's not like we can't ride amusement park rides or wear adult clothing. It's just a comfortable height to be once you get past having to look up at a portion of the human population((If you think about it that way it kinda feels stupid to worry about height at all lol)). Sure we THINK girls care a lot about height, but I've talked to a lot of girls in uni and the main thing I've learned is they can pretty much decide if they are attracted to you ((the girls worth a damn at least, life lesson: ignore the opinions of people who just want to start trouble or always seem to find themselves surrounded by it)) so it doesn't really matter if you're 5'6" or 6'6".) You have a pleasant personality that comes across as genuine and kind (this isn't all that common so you should be proud of this). If you want to get better at holding a conversation with others or girls specifically, just find a reason in your surroundings to start talking to them (the weather is nice/bad, they dropped something so try and pick it up for them ((even if they are going to pick it up too, yea it's awkward but it's a guaranteed convo starter)), they are wearing something related to something pop culture that you know, etc.) and then give them a turn to speak. Just hold eye contact a fair bit and be a good listener. Most people like it when others are interested in what they have to say, since we don't get out much, everything other people say is interesting to us so it's not like we're being manipulative or a bad person for trying to talk to them. Once someone talks a bit to you, it's easier to talk to them and then you're less likely to feel like you're saying something creepy because at that point you're just having a conversationg about your lives or something interesting to you. Overall and silly things aside, we should be grateful for the things we have because it can DEFINITELY get worse for us lol. However, we should still find things that we feel like we lack, analyze them critically to see if it's just 'grass is greener on the other side' or if it's something we may genuinely be better with having in our lives. Chin up brother, we still have many decades ahead of us, and cmon, even if we never get a girlfriend, we've always got each other.

[@leisiyox]

Be as confident and nice as you can be but women nowadays have thousands of options and they can find a guy as nicer as him AND taller, its not THAT hard to find

[@curoi555]

Still alone then?

[@cardboard87]

I'm 37, and also never had a girlfriend. I have a physical disability that automatically turns off most women. I also have shaky confidence due to childhood trauma, also being told I'm ugly, and constant rejection from every woman I've ever asked out.. I've gotten much more confidence in myself through the years which has led to great friends and job opportunities, but the confidence quickly disappears as soon as I try to romantically approach women.

[@Wario1382]

The early 90s were so much better

[@yumeaisaka1854]

Don't approach them then.

[@masterlee1988]

@@Wario1382 Yeah I was around that time. The 2000s were fine too.

[@Dmzhkm]

You are not ugly...world is ugly❤

[@ETHANALLEN-zp7wq]

Im 30 never had a girlfriend only had sex once

[@Asilentlearner43]

What was it like? I'm 35 and a virgin. But I'm also asexual. So sex for me, was also overrated.

[@generalkenobi880]

I’m sure you play video games, get online and practice conversation with people in games, there’s nothing to lose and there will be less pressure on you since it’s only over a microphone. This can be useful in helping you become more comfortable.

[@Drinnan]

Hey man, as long as you're happy. Dont find a woman just because you think that's what should happen. Only if you want that in your life. I was 23 when I had my first girlfriend. I was really happy before that, i just "thought" that's what i needed to because normal life 🤷‍♂️ By 25 we'd had a child. By 27 she'd cheated on me twice and fell pregnant again. DNA test showed he was mine, we tried to stay together for the kids....she cheated again. By 29, I had a new girlfriend, we had a kid when i was 32 and she changed drastically. At least once a year i had to stay at my parents for a couple of months. Life was a real rollercoaster of emotions. Cut to last year (41 y/o). I've finally had enough, moved out, got my own place and saying single forever now. I'm finally happy again. There were a couple of happy times in there but it's overshadowed by the hurt and misery. My point is, if you're happy, good for you man. Nobody needs a girlfriend.

[@mantislazuli]

I do not trust most humans enough, especially most women, to even think of marrying them without having lived with them for at least 5 years. So having children... urrrh. Given I'm now 35, it's a big no for me. I need a VERY long time to trust people IRL now, I'm no longer willing to potentially sabotage my life for women who can betray you at the worst time for their personal benefit even after several years of living under the same roof.

[@tobiaswolf783]

What is with sex, don't you have the need for it?

[@Drinnan]

@@tobiaswolf783 I don't NEED it

[@almunumm9069]

I never even considered being an “ugly” guy. In fact my family always told me I was good looking. for some reason I never seem to get any attention. I feel like there are other guys that look worse and even talk less than I do who do better. I do have aspergers so I’m wondering if there is just subconscious things I’m doing that are just pushing people away. Maybe nowadays dating is just non existent because that’s the vibe I get. I don’t even feel like this is a climate where dating is encouraged tbh. I’m in gen z and I don’t see a lot of couple anyways. I hope this helps you not take it as personally.

[@Markovka137]

Same, having aspergers doesn't help. 😢

[@Us3r739]

Ass burgers

[@DarthNihilist]

To be honest KZbin is unfortunately not the best place to open up at all. And I say this from my own personal experience I've been harshly and cruelly attacked by trolls for years. Also because of the trolls I have been reported to the FBI multiple times and I'm really scared and worried of ever making videos on my channel again.

[@Waywind420]

Born at the wrong time mate. A matriarchal time. You don't really get a girlfriend unless you're willing to abandon every scrap of self-respect you have and ideologically fall in line, becoming agreeable to however she wants you to behave. That also means devoting your entire existence to pulling money out of stone so she may live a life of pleasure. Some of us aren't willing to castrate ourselves in such a way. Do I feel envy when I see some dude with a beautiful girlfriend? yeah sometimes. But I'm smart enough to see the truth of it; she's not *his* girl, her heart has belonged to others before and she'll probably get bored soon enough and move on to others. He'll have to deal with all the baggage that she's collected during her time as a communal girlfriend to half the men (and women) in town. I feel sorry for him more than anything. Objectively there's a lot of problems to the dynamic where she's your first and only partner but you are just another dude passing by in her romantic journey. Unless an niche demographic of women emerges over the next 5 years, where they suddenly revert back to being the honorable, patriotic, heterosexual, traditional type of women of yesteryear I can't see any point to pursuing anything with anyone from the current modern dating market.

[@doescodedoescode]

Facts

[@boogus1670]

Yeah yeah buddy, it’s obvious you’re just an incel. To generalize all girls as just people who wring men for money and make them fit in like is absolutely wild 😂😂😂 Have you ever seen an actual masculine man? Depending on which country you’re from probably not! But I assure you woman we’re not made by God just to take men’s money and fit them into a “line” and move on from them

[@DezorakStudio]

im 36 next month 5ft 1 and far from in shape but i had a few sounds silly but if ya out looking people can tell and it puts them off.... each of my relationships have always come when im not even thinking about it... dating apps are horrible avoid like the plague and just try and join things you enjoy and go from there (i met my ex streaming and mutual invited her to join a game)

[@tobiaswolf783]

finding girls online is bad when they are not in your location, though. How such a thing should work?

[@2l84me8]

You’re honest, but it’s important to love yourself first. Starting with a hobby is a good way to build confidence and meet people. I hope your situation improves.

[@tobiaswolf783]

you can (sometimes) only love yourself when others love you.

[@Colesbaby1999]

Man this life shit be tuff

[@DZ-jz8bj]

Thank you for making this video. I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability here. I am 31yo female and never had real relationship. (I got screwed over by online guys - mostly narcissists which damaged me mentally even more). I noticed that in my life I never had "luck" on love (?) Idk how to call it. My disadvantage is that I am fat with low selfesteem. But then u see outside women and also men, who are more fat and uglier than you and yet they still have gf/bf. I don't know why life is so cruel. I even cried because I never get to experience the teenage love. It is so unfair that things which are for majority totally natural part of life, are for us unreachable. My whole life I was into self development books. I tried positive affirmations, mirror excercise, self love and still I had no one! The closest I got was when I was talking online with some guy from neighbor country. The relationship didn't even start and he already betrayed my trust. Its like "Ugh!" If he didnt betray, we could have had relationship. Then on highschool, one boy liked me but I didnt like him in that time. Months later, I started to like him, but at that time he didnt like me anymore. Later on, my classmate liked me, but at the same time he also liked another girl. (The same for the guy who betrayed - he also had another woman in his heart). I am just so sad that even when someone liked me, I was never their No.1 - the only one. And I tried before gym too. I just feel like cursed. And whats worse, I feel chemistry only with the bad guys - fake one, narcissists. Who aren't capable to truly love someone. So even when I had some online situationships - it was never real love. We never met. Only being used and emotionally abused by some online jerks = that sucks even more. I also lost some friends due to being introvert and being more indoor. I just love to have peace and play games, and stay home. In my depressed era, I was able to not go outside for several years. And I didnt even miss it. But from time to time I feel very lonely, or when something bad happens - like someone is rude to me, I need to vent to someone. I have now only 1 irl good friend. And even having this friend didn't drag me out. I canceled many plans. Then a few weeks ago I saw video about one lonely man who said that he also likes to just play video games and have his peace, so he doesn't go out when friends are calling him. But then he realized, what if he was doing this for years? Where he would be in 10 years if he keeps doing this same thing - staying home, playing games and refusing to go outside meet with friends. And this was kind of eyeopener for me. I tried to at least find friends (if not love) online. But it looks like that even this plan crushed. I feel like nobody sticks with me, only fake people or narcissists. But thats my personal issue. I don't know what can be the cause for you. Also nowadays it hit me even harder that probably my childhood emotional neglect is causing me to be unlovable for other people. It was said that our partners are mirroring the love we got from our parents. And I was never truly loved by anyone. :( Do you have option to save up money and try therapist? Maybe it would help at least a little bit. And please, don't apologize for being negative or thinking this is about your self pity. I also felt the same. Sometimes I still feel. I think we deserve better. But one thing surprised me. You said, you are not good person. Why do you think that?

[@bluerain1719]

You are not ugly! That’s an awful thing that was said to you. I have the best hope for you truly. Life is so tricky in regard to social relationships. Sending you positivity!

[@sparkdrive2900]

Date him then. Break his curse if you really meant what you said.

[@barrysmithhy1583]

yeah so would you date him? no? thought so.

[@arturpikas4305]

"look at you. you are such a handsome man. surely there is someone waiting. maybe someone did harm you. don't be so harsh to yourself. eventually you'll find someone" - insulting. just don't argue. 😮

[@avocadeous]

Can you drama queens all chill out with the counterpoints for a second please? You can find someone “not ugly” and not want to date them too; they aren’t mutually exclusive.

[@BreakingJJC]

Well girls and guys call me ugly too and I always try my best to be good looking

[@blake-r7t]

you should learn to drive and put your energy into the gym at home or outside (outside is probably better to build social skills). what do you do for work (sorry if i missed it in the vid)?

[@ikaribrendo]

I think what's best for you is to put your feelings regarding your virginity or lack of a girlfriend aside and just try and meet people in general. Women are people just like you and me, and just focusing on making meaningful connections with people regardless of gender will make you feel better. Even if just over the internet, find people with similar interests and get to know them, don't focus so much on whether they're an option as a girlfriend or not.

[@HowlingMoai]

Yep, you're right. We often forget that girls are just people with their own lives, families, wants, needs, feelings, and insecurities. It's best to just find friends to hang out with and not worry too much about finding a girlfriend. Oftentimes the emotional connection you feel with the boys is just as fulfilling as the connection with a girlfriend.

[@Joe-d3t1t]

I wish it was that easy.

[@ikaribrendo]

@@Joe-d3t1t It really is. Society has conditioned men to see women as other, and has conditioned many women to think of themselves as lesser as well. It's a poison to society and of the mind, and it's caused harm to lonely and autistic or socially challenged individuals who haven't figured out how to maneuver around and see past that which permeates the poison

[@sebp9882]

My interests are too obscure. They're weird interests and I do not care for things that interest the majority.

[@Matty12333]

I used to have a girlfriend when I was 8 to 11 years old, had friends who were girls but no relationship. People think I am gay

[@lars9168]

8 to 11 what? xD Well, a girl asked me out in 6th grade but I declined. I'm still a virgin and she seems to have become a sloot now :D

[@petebreadwards8737]

Bro you're going to be OK eventually. I never dated until my early 20s. It was all online dating, I was useless trying to meet a girl in real life. Keep trying and stop shitting on yourself. One thing I know for sure is no woman wants a whiny man.

[@JimmyWilson-e5e]

You born alone and you die alone as long as u happy it don't matter don't change unless you want it don't date Don't Marry just for the sake of doing it just not to be alone good luck to ya'll I'm 45 no wife no kids no friends just me i live alone I don't mind it doesn't bother me anyway it used to but I don't breathe people I breathe air

[@Robertperezshow]

At your age you might as well forget about it. Any girl you approach from here on out is going to treat you like someone to be avoided. And women can pick up on it when you are the type that doesnt get women. And they dont feel pity. They laugh at you in secret.

[@paradoxstudios6639]

Wait till you get in your mid 50's and still nothing.

[@BLUESKY-zt1nv]

im 62

[@scottholden1398]

are you really 31 year old ???

[@JmanAnimates]

Bro don’t give up. I learned how to date by improving my social skills. As I improved my social skills my dating life improved. The key is to not get too attached to results and have fun.

[@egor.okhterov]

Easy to say 😀

[@JmanAnimates]

@@egor.okhterov it's not easy but I can tell you. It's definitely worth it all of the effort,

[@e-man2081]

@@egor.okhterov Easier to say than to do, but everyone can improve themselves some.

[@JmanAnimates]

@@e-man2081 exactly

[@robertwilson7736]

These videos are getting very common

[@masterlee1988]

Yep, I notice them a lot for the past few years now.

[@robertwilson7736]

@@masterlee1988 yep it's good to know you're not the only one in a big boat 😂

[@Dust-in-this-universe]

​@@robertwilson7736why is it a good thing 😢

[@robertwilson7736]

@@Dust-in-this-universe not really no too many lonely people out there

[@masterlee1988]

@@robertwilson7736 For me it's been several years since I last had a GF(like in my 20s).

[@paxvostrum4824]

I would say the is a point when it will stop bothering you that much, and after that you'll see it more as advantage to stay single and free. For me I think it was around 35. The main point is to find something in your life that you passionate about

[@JimmyWilson-e5e]

There's no reason why you need a gf are u going to Mary her or u just need company the only reason why you can't be alone with yourself is because you're not comfortable with yourself well the truth is if u don't care about yourself if don't love yourself no one else will so u can't do nothing about things u don't have control over

[@andyroo3982]

Big advocate for the gym. Main benefit I've had from it is gaining confidence in your body and self, being around strangers. Second benefit is for your health. Both incredible confidence boosters. Last thing to mention is go travelling! Re-invent yourself. Stay in hostels. All the best mate.

[@jacobmassey3897]

Don't stay in hostels unless you want to get robbed or molested.

[@earthsoundsuk]

Change of environment could help for sure

[@ryangriffin18]

YES TO THIS COMMENT 🤝

[@HaydenYoshi]

been gyming for 2+ years please no one listen to this bs. i swear wayy more girls were into me before working out

[@tobiaswolf783]

what if you do not like all these things?

[@Lovesbule]

I hope all good men out there find the woman they deserve.

[@Dos-dh9ul]

You will but have to move to another country other than the US

[@eskimogamer2493]

Grow a beard ,hit the gym,don’t act too happy around women,and you’ll crush it bro you can do this.

[@dh6hb7ub94]

What gave me the most confidence is >READING

[@zade8586]

good advice. people don't read as much these days. far more enriching for your brain than watching youtube videos or listening to a podcast.

[@tobiaswolf783]

your knowledge can be taken from you as well.

[@pranavm6214]

@@tobiaswolf783 no

[@paganizonda5532]

@@tobiaswolf783 are you clinically infringed?

[@tobiaswolf783]

@@paganizonda5532 what does this mean?

[@cdhigggj]

you're calm, no one is bothering you, you have peace.. something people would pay trillions to have.. start there..

[@my3rs307]

25, same

[@Franco-bw3mx]

Ted buddy had a wife. Let that sink in

[@harryg2453]

Bundy?

[@Franco-bw3mx]

@@harryg2453 yeah

[@BL-mf3jp]

Why does the sink want to come in?

[@dorn885]

First time sx with 31 (she 27), then six year relationship. Told me the whole time she would have dated me before, then admitted - after six years - that it was a lie. She had charming idiots before me. I broke up. That was two years ago. Spare yourself the suffering of being used: She only was with me, because they didn't want her.

[@Leansipprr]

Tuff

[@RenaissanceMary]

STOP TRYING TO GET A GIRLFRIEND. GO OUTSIDE. Get a dog or a hobby. Go to the park and train your dog or do your hobby. Be seen. People will come to you.

[@ForeverShadowBanned]

People come to you because you're a woman, your experience wont be his experience.

[@SanjKingProduction]

i love youre cmmnt

[@Singiel]

Hi. Let's start with the fact that my English skills are not good enough, so I translate using Google. I hope you will understand something from this. I come from Poland and I'm 33 years old and I've never had a girlfriend, although I look like a Greek half-God if it makes you feel better and I'm quite tall. I'm also an introvert and I don't drive. I also stay alone and without anyone. I know a certain GROM special forces operator who is also as tall as you. However, it looks really good. It's a matter of training and getting fit, you can exercise at home, at any exercise facility, anywhere. Where can you find some pull-up bars and a place to do push-ups. I used to go out everywhere, hoping to meet someone, and I've been doing that for years. However, I ended up going to places where I can exercise and I didn't meet anyone, but I got super fit and I still do it. I recommend it, best regards. Hang in there buddy and stay strong, we're all in this together and you could say we're all on the same rickety ship.

[@linnblom3640]

Please know I have so much love for you, and love will find its way to you when you least expect it. You are not ugly, you are not a bad person and you are not unlovable. You are important, brave and more than enough

[@Reeeeeee12345]

Why don't you date him then?

[@linnblom3640]

@@Reeeeeee12345 I'm married and waaay to old for this lovely guy anyways. But if I can offer anyone some encouragement, I am more than happy to do so! His love story is out there waiting for him

[@Reeeeeee12345]

@@linnblom3640 Typical response.

[@linnblom3640]

@@Reeeeeee12345There is no fault in treating others with kindness and consideration

[@mantislazuli]

@@linnblom3640 Unfortunately, love stories happen less and less the more you age. There is a young women hypergamy problem, and over 35 a "older single women VS older single men who could not build relational maturity when young because of young women hypergamy" problem which has been steadily rising since 2008. It's important to treat others with kindness and consideration, but it is also important to not give people false hope like love would be a magical thing that happens to everyone sooner or later. The % of men who go loveless their entire life is rising, and not surprisingly it's much higher in disabled men, men with no diplomas, and men in lower socio-economic classes (while this is not the case for women).

[@BarriosGroupie]

Life is tough: some of us are male yet too feminine and fragile looking or female yet too masculine and strong looking. Good luck in your life.

[@madylines6364]

😂😂😂😂😂 life will end pretty soon it just a matter of time

[@kimberlys8422]

34 and never had a boyfriend, never been in love. Still lost my virginity because I wanted to. At this point I'm a bit of an incel; I know it's different for females but still.

[@freezy2755]

😂😂😂what a joke

[@tobiaswolf783]

well we can try a long distance relationship, cause chances are we are very far away from each other. 🙃

[@OVORICK1]

Sure whatever 304

[@sebp9882]

The second line explains the rift of difference in experience. It is not possible for you to relate. You are not an incel, because you had the choice of losing your virginity 'because you wanted to'. This is rage bait isn't it.

[@SanjKingProduction]

life is all about "Fun. 😀

[@chiqsilog8336]

If you keep doing the same thing, you will most likely get the same results. Go look in a different market, try the philippines if you want a wife or thailand if you want to have fun.

[@donglegs]

Not going out and meeting different people, and not having a circle of friends to socialise with, chips away at your self esteem. It’s easy to end up in this situation without being especially unattractive. There’s nothing particularly wrong with me except depression and social anxiety which led to me being avoidant and not taking initiative in friendships, and I’m in a similar position as a woman. Unsuccessful in pretty much every facet of life. I’m not sure if dating apps are a good way of finding someone in the first place, but it’s hard for men to get matches just based on the sheer number of men versus women there are on them and how women have to be picky because of that. I wouldn’t let a lack of matches get to you, or comments from the type of people who go to clubs. I’m certainly not seeing an unattractive or unpleasant person here.

[@Wario1382]

All women care about is looks so they just only swipe right on the Chad and avoid those with disabilities

[@donglegs]

@@Wario1382 Many guys don't seem to know how to take good photos of themselves and don't have much going on in the way of a personal style so just fade into the background when people are flicking high-speed through profiles. It's not like swiping on an app is the optimal way to find someone who you click with on a personality level. You're blind to many aspects of a person that you might actually find attractive face to face.

[@masterlee1988]

@@donglegs I mean, looks is one of the most important things on dating apps. But you are right in the fact many guys don't take good enough photos and they need to work on that or else they don't stand a chance. I agree with everything else.

[@DAS-Videos]

What is the definition of a girlfriend? A girl you chat to online everyday? A girl you go on a date with? Depending on what a girlfriend is, I may not have ever had a girlfriend.

[@MBPhoibos]

almost 38, never had a girlfriend either

[@showie6966]

You actually look descent, thats unfortunate

[@PepperstoneGB]

*you're well-mannered, well spoken compassionate caring polite thoughtful. Indeed a gem of a lad. Good lad. Top lad.*

[@nainfuego]

Unfortunately those are a list of things that repel women, unfair yes. Accurate? yes…

[@PepperstoneGB]

@@nainfuego *I've realised girls think polite men are rubbish seggs. This is what I found out. Hence why they get attracted to thugmaxxers because they deem them capable to pound them into submission. Girls in Chelmsford told me I couldn't pound . Girls are very visual and want guys to pound them. politeness = weakness.*

[@Wario1382]

Being nice gets you nowhere. Women want a men that treats them terribly because it give them validation and boosts their ego to draw more attention through disputes.

[@LittletriniWeeb]

You just haven’t met your people yet. Find a hobby you are passionate about, and you can maybe find someone you connect with that way. ❤

[@michaelbirkett4932]

Hey, keep your head up and remember it’s absolutely never too late to find love. Focus on what you can control. Do you work? An absolutely massive percentage of married people meet their partner at or through their work. I think it’s nearly 50%. It’s a great way to meet people organically, where things can happen spontaneously and you and others learn about each other, which can go further. Regarding your height, I’d maybe try wearing shoes which bring your height up more? Or soles? I feel different heights in different shoes. As long as you’re not wearing high heels, no one will think you’re catfishing or anything and it would give you more confidence for sure. And driving. I know lots of people find it very nerve wracking, but I have a friend who has big anxiety problems (who happens to face quite similar challenges to you based on what you’ve said) who has managed it and now he’s driving confidently and comfortably. Driving is a game changer, when I started driving, even though I’m not a car guy at all, it made me feel better in many ways. You’re good looking and you have a genuine personality, so you definitely have potential if you do those other things. I think if you focus on yourself, really put the work in and think - right, I’m gonna start today, then you’ll feel better about yourself and honestly a relationship will come along without you even looking for it. Take care.

[@vienymember1000]

Honestly the only way is switching location, even if temporary. You'll have luck in countries where being from the UK is a cool thing by itself.

[@dublintales6311]

I don't know if this will be any help but I've found that the best way to meet people and make friends/ partners is via shared hobbies and groups that cater for them. So if someone likes comic books join a club or society online and see if they have meet ups or suggest a meet up event or even organise yourself! And that can be for any interest you have or can imagine yourself liking. There are groups for everything these days. I met most of my girlfriends before my current wife via being a member of a political party and community groups. Honestly it is far easier when you automatically have an interest or ideology in common as it gives you something to talk about out of the gate. Give it a try!

[@bioweapon4425]

This is so true. I met my wife on POF when I was 19. I had some stupid South Park quote as my title as I wanted to see if anyone would get it. After about month, she messaged me with the next line. Been together 12 years. People love to share their passions with others, it’s a great place to start.

[@njp2k914]

I came here to pretty much write this but you’ve done a great job already :)

[@dayzps4plays887]

Let the blackpill guide you

[@lars9168]

blackpill will only destroy what is left of you.

[@MegaSwissWatch]

Another lie you think. You said you never had a relationship? You said you had friends. So you've had many relationships with friends , work colleagues etc. And remember a girlFRIEND or boyFRIEND is only a friend. When you marry you become more than friends. So what you are saying is that you want a wife?

[@espenbrathen7156]

You should try going to the gym more often, even tho it's kinda scary in the beginning. Being short is an advantage when it comes to building muscle

[@tobiaswolf783]

what you want with more muscle if you can not really use them?

[@espenbrathen7156]

@@tobiaswolf783 More muscles will make you more attractive tho

[@bigmack10]

i have the answer, get to the gym get fit af and find a nice SHORTy, u got this bro

[@mannybruhh9969]

Do this ill try to help ...wear baseball hats wear plain shirts and more colard polo shirts it will give u atleast alil more confidence at least for the start

[@TinyBitBrit]

We brits don't really wear baseball hats but I see what you're going for, thanks for the advice! 😁

[@stevemann1299]

Mr you aint got any excuses. You are a goodlooking guy. But you have no build. Build yourself up and you will attract women. Im sure of it

[@PigeonsPie1]

This is my son's situation. Same age too. I would like to ease your mind. My son seems to be contented. If he meets a great woman, then he meets a great woman. If he doesn't then he doesn't. It's his life story not mine. I really don't have anything to criticize him about.

[@manosijroy8282]

Damn. I am 8 years younger than your son(if he is 31) and feel as if i am running out of time. I am a guy who turned 23 last month(on 22nd December) and never had a girlfriend before. I went on my first ever date 4 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 few days ago) and we went to the mall, ate in Mcdonalds there and got my first hug from a girl but still yet to get my first kiss and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she was cute. But 2 weeks after the date she became toxic and mean to me and blocked me on all social media. She basically used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her so she can post them on social media. I also have massive crush on this another girl for the past 6 months where I go for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college about 6 months ago and going to study MBA next. She also turned 23 just over a week ago. She has even called me cute several times and I pulled her cheeks too but I am shy near women in person so she is the one who initiates conversation with me. Few months ago I gave her a chocolate too but I often see her with her male friends so I get worried whether I have chance with her or not. 3 months ago, I went out with this another girl in the same class who is also 23 but so far we are just friends. We just roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant and I pulled her cheeks a bit too when we took selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. It was a fun day and we might go out again probably next month. I also have been following some girls on Instagram who are in the 21-25 age range from the same institute but different classrooms and messaged few of them and had been chatting with 2 or 3 of them who are also about 22 and 23 year olds. Since July 2023, I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who is 19(turning 20 in April). We were in the same school but didn't know each other in school days so we only have been knowing each other for 6 months. We also send each other virtual hugs and she is very sweet and we have many things in common like we are both foodies, like similar types of movies and many more and we plan to meet up to eat somewhere very soon too but in the end I am still single.

[@ASPEDBUSDRIVER1]

Your son is miserable and doesn't want to burden you with knowing that. And if he's awkward..YOU screwed up somewhere, (and it's an uncomfortable thing for you to confront. ) It's a lot easier to tell yourself and others: "my son seems content," isnt it?

[@Reeeeeee12345]

​@@ASPEDBUSDRIVER1Btch roastee mommy is coping hard

[@Evanwheatley4d953]

Unless hes gay, he definitely wants a girlfriend badly

[@ASPEDBUSDRIVER1]

​@@Evanwheatley4d953mom knows this and she knows the damage is already done

[@thomasmalamas1431]

No problem bro . Love yourself

[@sammytrillo7724]

The human condition is horrible for everyone. You and Don Juan experience different aspects of the horror that is the human condition. It's all a pile of shite mate.

[@MariaGonzalez-nv3nl]

I’m seeing a radio host. Try that. U seem like a very good person.

[@ThereBeGoldInThemTharHills]

I hope you read this: Home gym is the way to go, my man! I have always been a gym rat. But i have never liked going to gyms. Lifting weights needs to be something you fall in love with. Not something you see as a chore. Do research, try creatine monohydrate and whey protien, learn to identify injury. Most importantly, push yourself until you scream out. Don't use a mirror or a scale to track your progress. Tanning and crest white strips really make your features pop. Height means very little, girls like it, but it's really not necessary. But follow my advice, confidence grows slowly. Genuine confidence can't be faked. Through that confidence, you'll come to be more witty and charming. Too many men don't try the gym the right way and say it failed for them. You need to make it your personality, but never talk about how it's your personality.

[@spazmatic05]

Having a girlfriend is cool but when it ends your life changes. Especially when it’s that one girl. There’s the before you met her part of your life. The part where you are together. Then there’s the sad after where you wish you never met her.

[@masterlee1988]

Ha, I see what you mean. But yeah that's how it was with my last GF. I did love being with her for several months but after it ended it changed me as well.

[@ankaanka2316]

Im 41 . I suffer for social anxiety and anorexia , all my life I have been isolated , have only few friends , I never had a serious long term relationship , Im afraid of sex , Im afraid of men , I even have no experience and I would not go to bed with bf , 41 with small experience , what I have been doing all my life ? Isolated. Im sick all my life . I would like to meet a new friends . Im a loser

[@gekizoku635]

i know you just wanted to do this video and let your thoughts out and i support that. i wish you best and i hope you find her......

[@artdelaney5622]

I found this video and wanted to tell you a few things. Firstly, you don't lack confidence. Stop believing you lack confidence. You put your face out there on the internet talking about a sensitive subject in your life, that requires a lot of confidence. You need to believe you can make things happen. Not that something will happen to you, but you will make something happen. I know being short is hard, but you're not a bad looking dude. I would recommend getting back in touch with your male friends first and practicing social skills that way, and then maybe go to a bar or an activity with women your age. I really respect the confidence you had to make this video and I wish all the best to you from the USA.

[@ClumpypooCP]

Youre not a bad looking dude. Get your style up, lose weight, build muscle, do all the self improvement you can. This is in your hands man. You can improve and get what you want.

[@xxxiiixxx1404]

You can't even with self improvement women will still reject you

[@Kitty5710]

I have no idea what kind of Women you approach if any, but I suggest a woman shorter than you. They are out there and there is probably one in your area. Don't try for the tall. beautiful, model types they only like the tall guys making 6 figures and rate a 10 in the looks department. By the way you are not ugly and you have the "Davy Jones" charm.

[@Jedirising]

Please keep your head up! Life is hard and unfortunately it only gets harder.

[@MegaSwissWatch]

This is real life. Please don't pretend making a video isn't real life. It is.

[@officertom6751]

I am a German who is 36 years old now and who also has never had a girlfriend or been in a relationship. But now I would actually like to have a girlfriend too. I also often feel very lonely and sad so I should probably go to places with other people too.

[@ThereBeGoldInThemTharHills]

My girlfriend is from Regensburg. I've also been with a girl from cologne. They seem to be the best women in the world. Very caring, open-minded, non judgemental people. I personally would only pursue German women over American after my experience with them.

[@heyitsme2921]

i am in germany too i am 25 never been in relationship its hard out there.

[@ThereBeGoldInThemTharHills]

@heyitsme2921 they go for the American soldiers at the bases over there. There's entire clicks of women who plan that.

[@synx7874]

Its his mindset 100% , and i'm 2 minutes in. I think he looks even above average. A better shirt would make him look better , probably a black one

[@werdna_sir]

Yeah agreed. Confidence is all he needs. Dress well and lift some weights - just enough to raise the endorphin level. One month could make a major turnaround.

[@xxxiiixxx1404]

Wrong the negative mindset comes from bad experiences

[@TonyTheTiger1000]

I turn 30 bro same situation as you never had a girlfriend before but had a few one night stand it’s so overrated

[@richardwilson6976]

62 and never had agf thats even worse.

[@Wario1382]

Only Chad allowed

[@kristapss]

You failed at life unfortunately

[@victorvalderrama9941]

Don’t talk down to yourself brother! It’s never too late! At any moment it can happen! If I was you, I would take this as a learning experience. I would do just a little introspection and see what is life trying to teach you in order to get what you want out of life! Don’t stop! You’ll get there! Don’t lose hope!

[@Markovka137]

I am 23 and feel like a younger version of you. I am 5"7 and in USA it's brutal. Jesus!

[@vavvokilluminati]

5 7, had 4 gfs, 2 taller than me, one of them Slavic with blue eyes and great tit's, had multiple sex partners I am 28

[@doescodedoescode]

also 5'7 here, and almost 19, never dated, I think height-wise could've been worse but it doesn't help

[@1992tjmc]

You seem like a great bloke mate - chin up, and know you are worthwhile. I dealt with shyness and confidence issues in my younger years so I feel you - but things can get better!

[@avocadeous]

@kymypynot with that attitude. Negativity is a self fulfilling prophecy and it’s sure as hell going to stay if you leave the door open. You need to reframe your mind mate because an attitude like that is getting you absolutely nowhere

[@avocadeous]

@kymypy or just stay in the cycle. If you want to wallow in misery and self pity I’m not going to stop you.

[@bioweapon4425]

@@avocadeousYeah, I have noticed that there is a lot of self-pity and anger in these comment sections. You’re right, an attitude adjustment would go a long way, but it is easier to just blame the world.

[@avocadeous]

@@bioweapon4425 I sympathise with them to an extent. I realise that these people are likely bitter due to negative experiences and rejection from those whom they seek validation from, and I cannot blame them for having these feelings. What I can blame them for is their refusal to change and accept that there are things that they can do to change their situation. I understand that it is hard for them to change mindset, but when they don’t even try to take advice I can tell that they do not want to improve, so I stop sympathising. I only wish them the best, even if they are rude.

[@Us3r739]

Nah it’s just so funny that there’s no women here.

[@Ross72A]

It seemed like I had a chance back when I was 18, I waited too long and missed it, didn't know how to use it. I saw the writting on the wall right then and there Now I'm 58 and nothing has changed, I never had a girl. Rarely gets to me these days tho.

[@jessicavega8322]

Why do you think you've never had a gf?

[@Ross72A]

@@jessicavega8322 i don't know it's like I always discusted them

[@jessicavega8322]

@@Ross72A I'm 21 years old and I've never had a relationship either and I think it's ok, maybe you should try meeting people out there.

[@Ross72A]

@@jessicavega8322 at this point it's too late feller And I have friends, I'm not alone Women hate me

[@jessicavega8322]

​@@Ross72A It's never late to find love, the one who is limiting is you, why do you think women hate you?

[@crayonsvat121]

I’m 34 never had gf I just lost girl I thought was going be my gf so I don’t know what to do I agree what your saying .

[@rungeon83]

I've had sooooo many girls tell me I'm ugly... yet I still managed to be with very attractive girls. No normal person would go out their way to tell you , that you're ugly, EVEN if you was(You're bloody not!). There is no reason for it, just like you wouldn't walk upto someone "Hey just to remind you, you're over weight... that'll be all, ta ra" There are some nasty bad people around, bullies and people who are down on themselves, I know you are down on yourself and not like that, but everyone handles it different, you remained lovely, they didn't.

[@PessimistPirate]

7:43 I’ve totally been there. They feel really bold about doing it because that’s all they really value and they know that they can get away with this act of cruelty.

[@chimetimepaprika]

Duuuude, we are so crazily similar in many ways, even with age. It is hard to accept that it might just not happen for us. I mean, there is a lot more to life than romantic connection... but it can definitely be lonely, and sometimes I feel insecure to admit it to people. I think I was unsure of how to structure my expectation for the romantic or sciatica encounters do my romantic interaction algorithm may be faulty, too. We are in the same boat, my dude

[@bartholomewwellingtoniii5540]

I was thinkin exactly the same, blaming myself for not trying hard enough, not doing good enough etc. but man I'll tell you, I was so wrong. you should stop blaming yourself for this. just accept it. it's not happening and it's not going to happen so save yourself from endless grinding/struggling and loop of blaming yourself for something you can not do anything about. it's not your fault. if it ain't happening it ain't happening. just accept it. that's what I did some time ago and i've got to tell you my life has been a lot more comfortable since then.

[@jacobmassey3897]

I'm 26 and been in one relationship which wasn't great if I'm honest because i dealt with a lot of psychological abuse throughout. I was also brought up in a strict religious family so wasn't encouraged to even have relationships with anyone that wasn't from the same religion and this (along with my shyness and introverted personality) has made it incredibly difficult for me to pursue romantic relationships throughout my adult life which is frustrating because i personally believe that the best time to learn how to behave around a girlfriend is during your late teen years because there's no expectations for you to be fully mature and you're far less likely to be expected to commit anything long term. Short term relationships when you're young teach you valuable life lessons so a committed long term relationship becomes far easier when you reach adulthood. Sorry this comment is so long but I wanted to express a few personal feelings I have regarding how to best have a healthy romantic adult relationship but then this is coming from a guy whose only had one experience with a girl so I'm no expert.

[@Samuel-vw2wy]

get ifs therapy and one date by chase amante

[@dstroxp]

you and me both growing up religious as only being allowed to date within. on top of the introvertness and people thinking I'm weird 1st girlfriend scared me mentally and my insecurities disturbed my 2nd so being 27 now its like who in the world will i meet but i guess it is what it is.