4 Benefits Of Being Single

[@christophercruz6495]

1. Save money 2. Less drama 3. Don’t worry about being cheated on 4. More time to grow and be productive

[@JACQUEZ23]

Perfectly said

[@Doberman_6773]

On point #4 - better yourself for yourself.

[@bassfan41]

Those are all legit for me except the saving money part lol

[@nickc3856]

all cope

[@jesustovar784]

@@bassfan41your fucken right 😫😫😫 that’s a tough one

[@jasonfanclub4267]

I am single and working on my mental health, self confidence, fitness and making my home more comfortable and cozy

[@ponokunishima1]

Good job, I’m that way too, but having someone to be with is nice to have.

[@USS_Sentinel]

Dude! I'm doing the exact same thing. I'm getting rid of stuff I no longer need and working on my health.

[@70Ford302]

​@@USS_Sentinelme too. Exact same. To me it was overwhelming watching things become much easier once you start calling your own shots.

[@JaySmith-pv2mw]

I have been single for four years and I am the most content and financially secure I have ever been in my 57 years. NOT a coincidence. The first benefit says it all, "Peace of Mind."

[@juliooquendo220]

Being single is a good thing. Drama free and you be at peace. Thanks Courtney Ryan

[@johngonzalez4298]

100 percent

[@danjenkins21]

Couldn't have said it better myself.

[@Alazar654]

Live on, mgtow!

[@matthewschwartz6607]

Drama free, how?

[@edwardchenock6385]

For years I was ashamed of being single, because of past teasing about it. Being high-functioning autistic, it can sometimes be hard to know if the teasing is hurtful or playful. It actually took getting off of social media, and getting treated for anxiety to help realize that being single isn’t bad at all. I have many friends that I hang out regularly, and I get to do what I want. It would just be nice if people didn’t judge others for being single. Just let people be.

[@thefox47545]

It's pretty great actually. Like being your own boss in all decisions you make and pretty much ALL of your disposable income is yours. Not having to put everything up to a vote feels good.

[@NickDrinksWater]

I don't get why people would tease others over being single, if anything being single and free is the way to go nowadays, it shows independence and theres way less drama to put up with

[@johnnykend5728]

​@@NickDrinksWaterAnd it shows, that we're strong and can easily live on our own. Only weak people live with someone, while strong people can easily live on their own.

[@brianbeames]

As a person who has studied autism extensively, I can assure you that you are normal and just like everyone else. Ask the individuals who are teasing if their teasing means that they like you. Usually teasing means that they like you. If they didn't like you then they probably wouldn't tease you. I hope that this helps.

[@matthewschwartz6607]

What kind of drama do you mean?

[@admirbarucija2018]

I like being single. Gives me the time and space to live life as I please and don’t have to worry about anyone but myself

[@zhaoyun3153]

If you're too selfish of a person, then serious relationships aren't for you.

[@CalinGilea]

Yes,the beauty of choosing not to be responsible for other people’s emotions.

[@thefox47545]

​@zhaoyun3153 I don't blame the guy. When you have high ambitions and endeavors, relationships can sometimes be a distraction. It's about finding that right person who can balance and compliment one's lifestyle. Much easier said than done so staying single isn't something that shouldn't be looked down upon. Most of my greatest achievements were done whilst being single.

[@TV-oc4ml]

Yeah buddy….. that’s why you watch her videos 🤡

[@helixdork]

It’s nice that someone can leave a comment relative to the video and not have people shit on his opinion

[@richB666]

I'm a 55 year old man. No kids and never married. Been single for 9 years. I enjoy being single, well actually I love it. No drama, I get to spend my money any way I want to. It's peaceful and very quiet. If I'm dating a woman, she's not in competition with other women. But rather she's in competition with my happiness being alone. If a woman gives me a headache I simply walk away. It's not worth my time or effort. I have plenty of friends and plenty of toys to enjoy my life. I have 2 motorcycles, a Seadoo, a power boat and a canoe, a car, 3 trucks, plus 2 ATV's I stay active and fairly physically fit. I own my own home with no mortgage and have over 100 acres of river front property. Definately No boredom here! 😊😂 I do what I want, when I want. No one gets to leave me and take half my stuff. I will never get married. As a guy, these days you would have to be insane to get married!

[@iannewby5057]

Totally agree,When your happy with yourself,being independent works

[@Thebignagro]

Hellz ya!

[@positive_vibes_2427]

33 and never been in a relationship. I needed this blog. Thank You!

[@northernmichigan4108]

Best to stay that way, trust me when I say that.

[@donlarson3884]

You're lucky since the majority of marriages are jokes. It seems the ones that stay together are mostly business arrangements.

[@positive_vibes_2427]

@@northernmichigan4108 Lack of experience makes me reluctant though....but me being on top in life/career is so important to me. I fear if I eventually get into a relationship, it may take time from that life/career focus.

[@RyFo116]

Could you share what the reason is?

[@animal79thecat]

Currycel?

[@Harikejn]

Important things: 0:34 First Thing ÷ Having Peace And Solitude; 2:50 Second Thing ÷ Focus On Your Career And Save Money; 4:57 Third Thing ÷ Building Social Connections; 6:19 Fourth Thing ÷ Prioritize Yourself; and 9:06 to summarize all the told here. What you have told there for men, it can also be used for women as well Courtney. I can say also additional things about being single. And here are the following things: Fifth Thing ÷ Commitment To Yourself (not in a selfish way of course); Sixth Thing ÷ You Can Start Doing Something New To Do (hobbies, reading books, educate, etc.); Seventh Things ÷ Taking Care Of Your Health (you can also do that even if you're in relationship with partner); Eight Thing ÷ You Can Enjoy In Freedom That God Has Given To You. Thank you Courtney, la perfection madam.

[@ChurlzVA]

Why so many division signs, man?

[@Harikejn]

@@ChurlzVA Just to see difference between ÷ and ; signs, bro

[@ashernotheis76]

I love being single. I get to focus on myself financially and get to use my time solely on improving myself. Always open for getting into a relationship, but for the time being, I’m happy with being single.

[@SavageSanto]

That’s the right attitude 💯🔥

[@Stefita83]

Another perk: freedom! You can do whatever you want whenever you want and not have to answer to anybody! That’s one of my favorite things about being single 😉

[@thefox47545]

That's why I love traveling solo. I can change my plans at any second without having to put it up to the vote.

[@RazrSharpProductions]

Point number 3 is so important. I'm one of the only single people amongst my friends. Most of them live with their significant others, yet they all make time for me. They prioritized their friendships when they were single, and those friendships become important for when they are in relationships; and making time is not as easy as when they were single. It is also beneficial to me for when I do get into a relationship again. I have so many friends that can relate to specifics and provide perspectives that are important, as well as knowing I can count on them. On the contrary, I have seen examples (thankfully not many) where people get into relationships and lose sight of their friendships (for whatever reason) and let me say, that ends up biting them down the road, especially if that relationship fails.

[@rino7789]

I am single and absolutely love it. I have peace of mind, I have my liberty and freedom, and I don't need someone's permission to come and go as I please. I am responsible unto myself and nobody else!

[@obmij7898]

Whilst I really want to be in a relationship and be married, and have companionship, I really try to make the most of being single by focussing on myself. So I just get out and do stuff, hiking, walking, rollerskating, travelling to new places. My friends have made great comments about me getting out and do all those activities, and that has boosted my self-esteem, and that I am a catch. Rather be out and about, doing stuff, keeping busy, achieving new skills than wallow in self-pity feeling like no woman wants me. I did that in the past, and it didn’t do me any favours.

[@Swearengen1980]

This is the right answer. If you haven't found it yet, that's fine. Most of these losers have given up entirely, labelling all women as nothing but narcissistic creators of drama and then claiming they love to be alone (we know it's not true). Yours was an honest statement and refreshing to see in the comments.

[@johnnykend5728]

@@Swearengen1980 Heh, you know jack shit about me then, if you think, that I copium about myself liking to be alone. I don't copium, I lived alone for 28 years (not including of living with my mom of course) and I'm really grateful for never going for a relationships, cuz I'm free and no one can bother me with their own stuff.

[@pacmanfanable]

It’s very refreshing to see a positive video on being single by choice rather than single from not being successful in dating. As for myself, I have finally found a balance in enjoying being single and slowly getting back into dating.

[@glenbateman5960]

1. It's much less expensive. 2. It allows for more freedom to make your own choices and find your own path. 3. Lessens the chances for betrayal. 4. More peaceful and drama-free.

[@chrisfreeman4568]

Getting home and knowing there will be peace - no one to complain, tell you what to do, put stress on you.

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

Me using my singleness to my advantage to better myself is exactly what I've been doing for a while now. Concentrating on my career as a mechanic, my finances, my automotive restoration hobby, my chores at home, getting plenty of sleep and rest for myself, the list goes on. If I don't take of myself well, how am I gonna be able to take care of anyone else? I also have enjoyed my peace and quiet with no drama in my life.

[@LordHasenpfeffer]

Amen!

[@VROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM]

You have a good thing going, honestly, don't ruin it with a relationship. Also you shouldn't go into a relationship anyway thinking you'll be taking care of them. If they can't take care of themselves they are not good for a relationship. And you're looking for the wrong person or wrong thing. If you have kids that's a different story, of course you'll need to take care of kids.

[@daktraveler56]

I havent been on a date since 2017 and honestly, i dont miss it. I like being alone. Im introverted, so meeting people is hard. I like having a place all to myself. I have hobbies and books, things to do, that fill my days. I would rather be alone, than be with someone who makes me feel alone. When the time is right and if she's the right woman, l'll take a chance. But now, i just want to read, listen to jazz, and Netflix and chill 😊

[@JaySmith-pv2mw]

I can say the exact same thing about me.

[@supernotnatural]

1-) Meeting people isn't hard, you are insecure and can't talk so you try to justify your poor life with stupid logic. I went to swimming alone and I had a chat with a guy and we became friends ON THE SEA. It's easy, you are just coward. 2-) Sure alone is good, when you die you will become burden to your neighbours who will realize someone died because of the smell. Don't bother others with you are dying. If you had medical situation that can be saved, you might die because you are all alone. 3-) You mean like "I couldn't have date since 2017". You didn't even have a choice buddy. Easy to see your bullshit. 4-) You think like you're Edison and some genius in your home inventing new stuff that will change the world. LOL. Only scary weird guys like you have hard time meeting friends, girls because you are WEIRD.

[@Swearengen1980]

The problem here is that you're implying all women are going to disrupt that lifestyle instead of add to it and not cause drama. Every one of you who try to say they like being lonely and list these reasons do so while reeking of resentment and bitterness because you can't get a good woman.

[@richB666]

​@@Swearengen1980being alone is not the same as being lonely. They are 2 very different things. I enjoy being alone.

[@daktraveler56]

​@@Swearengen1980 spoken like a true henpecked beta simp. I'll bet your wife is the Alpha in the relationship. I'd rather stay single.

[@travisp11]

I grew up as an only child Gen Xer with workaholic parents. Been married, divorced for 3 years and while there is some comfort in going back to what I know, being alone, Im not lonely. But I do have to admit, I do find some comfort in having a companion so I’ve decided to get back in the game.

[@ajtaylor8750]

There are benefits and downsides to being in a relationship or being single. People need to stop trying to put one over the other and understand that one isn't extremely better than the other. It all depends on the season of your life that you're in. Maybe if you're meant to be single in order to work on yourself, instead of hating that just embrace it. Instead of complaining about your relationship, look at the things that make being with someone awesome. Life is all about perspective.

[@gracerules2008]

Good points. Downside risk on both sides. Each person has to decide which benefits are more important to them and determine for themselves which benefits justify acceptable loss.

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

Do you think Love if worth looking for? I've been alone all my life (I'm 46) so it's all I know.

[@roadwarrior7401]

naaaa less good points in relationship

[@whiskii]

Think it depends on you as an individual. Yeah I've had good relationships, my last one was 6 years, but I'm never as peak happy as I am when I'm single. I like having the freedom to do what I want without worrying about another person. I just find it nice and relaxing, east going, etc. I've always liked my own space. Who knows, maybe I just haven't found the right person yet. I don't hate relationships, they can be amazing, I just have experienced more happiness being single. I know plenty of people who are the opposite too and enjoy being in them more than not, which is fair enough. To each their own.

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

Beautifully stated! Thank you.

[@zinan2959]

1. Saves money 2. Reduces heartache, headache, body ache and stress 3. Allows you to grow as an individual and as a future partner 4. Listen to experiences of others so you don’t repeat their mistakes in your next relationship

[@andrewgage6942]

Hi Courtney, I hope you feel better soon. I've been single for decades, I prefer my own company, during COVID, I wasn't affected by being alone on my time off, I like taking on projects on my own, anything from working on my house, motors, generally improving myself, I also worked away for 12 years from the end of 1998 until 2010, my present job, although I've cut down on my hours, I still work 58 hours a week and there's no guarantee I will get home every day/week.

[@vzeq24]

The greatest advantage of being single is the decisional power. That makes a world of difference! 14 years ago, while driving on a highway, I took the wrong exit. I got lost, I entered some unassumed roads, with construction sites on each side. I have seen a banner "Last chance to own a house at a discounted price! Only a few homes left!" 2 hours later I was applying for a mortgage with a bank. I got the approval and I have purchased a preconstruction. Now, the house is worth 3 times more! I was actually trying to buy a router that day but I purchased a house instead! When I tell people this story they believe I'm crazy! Who does that? The truth is I was desperately trying to buy a house but every offer I checked was over my budget. This house ticked all the boxes. It was not an impulse buy! I see cheap offers, fly to X, fly to Y! Wow, that's really cheap. I take it! I do not have to ask anyone. I do not have to check anyone else's schedule. Or if they like to take a vacation there. It's just me! It's simple!

[@raymondmasullo3386]

I tried getting back into the dating scene last year, after my divorce, new apartment, and subsequent weight loss. I had a few good dates, but nothing that resulted in a LTR. It was then that I fully embraced the single life and came to enjoy it. I'm reading more books, continuing with my weight loss, getting out a bit more, and enjoying the peace and quiet. I've taken the attitude that if I meet someone, great. If not, oh well. I have plenty of other things to do and a whole life to live. And as others have pointed out, it really IS better to be single than it is to be in an unhappy relationship. 🙂

[@tehlaziness]

Pretty much where I am too (except the divorce bit). Good on you man

[@GregB_1]

Pretty much where I’m at (plus 4 kids but no move to an apartment). The amount of focus and energy I have to balance my own life & priorities, help friends and make my life and home my own was basically the most refreshing element of divorce. A few healthy tweaks helped me quickly become a stable single dad. I love it, hard as it is some days.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Same here. I’m done with the dating apps and have taken the view of if I meet someone great but if not that’s fine too.

[@gregkareem9824]

​@@BrianWaller-qe7grur everywhere

[@timvibes]

I'd rather be single than have a toxic relationship. Be patient until you find the person you can confidently do life with.

[@taras3702]

Having realized it's very likely I NEVER met any woman genuinely interested in me that I felt the same about, I agree. Being alone is preferable than being someone's second choice.

[@vikaspatankar5768]

Being single always provides you a chance to meet the best person you would ever like to meet i.e. yourself... Plus, on the top of that, it builds your confidence, makes you strong and learn through it as you face it alone being your own life journey ... Also, it provides you independence which eventually helps you grow and offers invaluable mental peace....🙏🙏👍👍

[@Moviemaniac174892]

Another perk to being single is listening to your friends Stories of woe. While they do backflips trying to please girlfriend/wife and you just look at them and think (better you than me) but you tell them it's worth it because that's the love of their l life. Then, as a bachelor, you go to a sushi bar and have a drink to your selfish life of peace, quiet, rest, relaxation & freedom.

[@thefox47545]

Seriously, all my friends in relationships have vented to me more than once.

[@Moviemaniac174892]

@thefox47545 I've known a few in the same boat. Matter of fact this could be coincidental but the happiest most functional relationships are the one's where the men wear the pants in the relationship.

[@Moviemaniac174892]

@CJRelationshipConsulting yes.

[@robertshiell887]

Married for 33 years and don’t regret it for a moment, that said I have a lot of fond memories from my single years - let’s face it, the most entertaining stories happen to single people.

[@SL-ix4yk]

I’ve been single for 3 years now, I have spent that time building a new career that has set me on a good successful path, I also rebuilt my personal life to be a better person to myself but not treat others badly though I don’t think I ever did before, I also in the last year have learned so much on finding a good woman and creating a potentially lasting relationship by watching your videos and a select few others , I finally feel ready to find someone and bring them into my life and attempt to make a relationship last. Thank you for all the advice you give to us who are struggling

[@alanruhland2489]

For me, there are a lot of positives (or lack of negatives). a) Major Holidays. I get to spend Christmas/Thanksgiving/Easter with my friends and family as opposed to a bunch of near strangers (and, as a side benefit to that, I don't have to get on an airplane at Christmas time) b) Vacations, I get to choose where to go on my trip c) Solitude. I don't want to be alone all the time, that's boring and I end up feeling kind of lifeless. However, never getting even a moment alone makes me feel cranky. Right now, I don't get quite as much social interaction as I would like, but I'm much closer to the happy median than I was the last time I had a girlfriend. There are others, but those are the top three.

[@matthewschwartz6607]

I didn’t used to mind being single, but at 43, it REALLY sucks! You need someone to explore things with and do things with. Or take a vacation, or something . It does get LONELY! Especially when everyone else your age is involved or married .

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Exactly. No one wants to keep it real on how it truly is

[@chuckmayper7549]

Deciding to stop pursuing a relationship (via the apps and via real life) was one of the most happiest days of my life. Pursuing my interests and loving it. Any doubts occur, I watch a Betterbachelor, Strong Successful Man, or The Happy Wife School post.

[@ivanvelazquez1911]

I love being single because I can Self improve and my mental health i am work so hard one day can find my wife she out there just don't give up God will bring it to you !!🙏

[@Cbass]

Being single allowed me to focus on myself and grow my brand, now I have my own business. Enjoy the peace you get while you're single.

[@lawrence31415]

As someone who has been single for almost 2 years, it has been really nice to just have the time to focus on building myself. I will admit that there are moments when I wish I was in a happy, healthy, fulfilling relationship with a good woman, but I also know that now is not the best time for me to pursue/start one. I do plan to re-enter the dating scene in good time, and I know that I will be thankful that I chose to wait a little longer.

[@alistaircorstorphine7469]

I’ve been single since 2020 and happily divorced since 2011) these days I co parent ( I see my daughter every Friday Saturday and Sunday ) I train in taekwondo 3 times a week and I work, that’s the 3 things that make me enjoy single life :)

[@john6941]

1) Having peace and solitude. 2) An ability to focus on career and save money. 3) Building social connections. 4) Prioritizing yourself.

[@ChrisW1019]

Ultimately you have to be great and wonderful on your own before even trying to be great and wonderful for and with someone else.

[@NickDrinksWater]

All very valid points and I can agree, it is alot more simple, affordable and less stressful being single. When you get over the lust and loneliness and think logically about it, there's not really much most typical modern relationships bring to the table beyond bed room fun

[@jfelix3523]

Thank you. I needed to hear this right now. I hope you feel better soon.

[@Rudolph_Manor]

Taking a break from dating and relationships helps you get focused on things that you need to prioritize like God & your health. 💯

[@clintbrill2317]

Thanks for this…very alone now at 69..still healthy..have money and time..I will try to focus on what you said.

[@philsky888]

Being single means you are always right!

[@banjomechanic]

In less than 10 minutes, Courtney Ryan has delivered a master class on being single. This is a great video. All you need to know. Find a partner, but until then us single men should hone in on what makes each of us productive, promising and proficient.

[@dumperspydiehoe298]

Being single is so chilled, you don't have to keep someone happy 24/7. You get to do whatever you want when you want, you have time to focus on yourself and your goals. Prioritise yourself, don't look for relationships. (Not quite sure why this video got recommended to me)

[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

Thank you for making a video on this! For now I've decided to remain single because I've come to realize I'm not ready to date yet, so it's good to get some thoughts and advice for how to best spend my time being single and enjoy this stage in my life.

[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

Hm?@CJRelationshipConsulting

[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

Mmmm? @CJRelationshipConsulting

[@LordMuzhy]

“Being alone and being lonely are two different things” it’s so true!

[@zionstuart1927]

im 23 my last relationship ended badly so i decided to stay single till im probably 26 when i would be a bit financially free and ready settle i date here and there but honestly i enjoy they freedom being single gives me .

[@angelacosta466]

Great advice Courtney! I think being single has its perks. It gives me time to grow as a person, save money, learn new things and take a trip solo. One trip that helped boost my confidence doing things alone was when I went to the Bahamas. I was on my own program, relaxed by the beach and talk to random people from different walks of life. I experienced freedom.

[@shane9002]

Just doing my thing. Buying an off grid camper and love to be out in nature. And have uncovered and correcting my childhood patterns. Thanks

[@porkbanhmi]

I can focus on my goals, travel when I want and answer to nobody.. I picked up a crazy flu from Tokyo a few weeks back. Got rid of the flu but not the cough. Just won't go away.

[@zhaoyun3153]

You can focus on your personal goals, even while in a relationship.

[@SBK2552]

A little over 2 years back, I asked a girl out who had feelings for me back in the late 2010's. Turned out she was seeing someone else. It crushed me. I was lost and didn't know what to do. I am 32 years old and have been single my hole life and am quite frankly not looking to mingle so yeah I am going to be selfish in my singleness. I began working out, reading more, and bettering myself while I watched her gain weight and lose who she was, in her words, "kinda sorta" seeing. If she were to ask me out, I can't wait for my chance to get the last laugh. She brought that upon herself. Now look who has the better life. I will give you a hint it's not her.

[@davidhodges7535]

I really enjoy being single I wouldn't change it for anything

[@avocadotron]

Focusing on self worth, continued education, and doing things that make me happy alone or with my support group. Not having to cater to another persons needs and desires. The freedom, lastly happiness is comes from within.

[@koutcheroukheinrich9935]

I had my first relationship when I was 15 years old. It ended after 8 months, and when it did, I felt as if I got out of prison. The greatest benefit of being single is not having to consider anyone else besides yourself. When two persons enter a relationship, they both have certain expectations from that relationship and from their partner. When you are single, you don't have to mind anyone's expectations, you just live your life. Of course, this approach only works when you are young and healthy. Eventually a time will come and you will need someone to support you when you go through rough times.

[@edwardcornell1263]

Throughout my entire childhood and into my adulthood, being single is the story of my life. Most people are so lonely that they feel they will die if they are left alone to their own company. Me on the other hand, don't care. I use to, but after being an adult since 2005, the more I deal with people, the farther I want to stay away from them. A highly empathetic male living in a highly Toxic state does not work too well. I have thought about many of times leaving the state and finding a place that is not so Toxic (Good Luck). A place where I feel rested and not having to worry about being in fight mode response 24/7. When you are always in that fight or flight mode all the time, it changes your personality. After seeing what is posted on the internet all we see is the negatives, very rarely do we see any positive. No wonder why this world is so divided now-a-days. If you treat people like they are animals, they will eventually become animals.

[@elliotthall5543]

You got a thumbs up after the first point. I'm a life long bachelor and happy to be one. I'm not remotely against a relationship, but I don't NEED a relationship because of the time I am able to spend on my own goals and interests. Yes, I am knowingly a bit selfish, but I'm happy. If you cannot be happy on your own, how are you going to be happy in a relationship? What you will actually be is codependent. This goes for both genders.

[@superdragonsunshine]

I’m currently single because I’m working on myself. I’m hitting the gym hard and dieting very rigidly, and I’m also working a TON. I COULD have a relationship rn, but I’m choosing not to because I want to be my best self, and I don’t think I’m there yet. I am not my best physical self, not my best mental self, not my best financial self, overall have a lot of work to do!

[@josephstevens9888]

I very much enjoy being single. Some of the best vacations I've been one were by myself. It is great if someone want to come along with me on a trip, but I'm not going to deny myself of an experience due to lack of a travel partner.

[@alansun70]

Some 1 player games are fun to play solo. I didn't enjoy flying solo the 1 time I did it. Being able to play board games & video games with 3 friends at the same time would be wonderful.

[@Sorakingdom4]

I’m alone but certainly not lonely. I have plenty of good friends and family that I can rely on if I ever need them.

[@mr.talldarkandhandsome4111]

Out of all the 27 years that I've been single, here's my two cents. I think that a big benefit to staying like this for this long would be that now, as you look to form whatever connection you can, you no longer have to worry as much with portraying something that you're not. You are who you are, flaws and everything, you no longer are interested in lying about yourself to any potential partners. Another benefit, probably even more important, would have to be that now, as you're completely used to being on your own, you are more likely to walk away from any potential inconveniences/red flags within getting to know others. And let me tell you, that's a liberating feeling right there knowing that I have the inner strength to have little to no tolerance for other people's bullshit. All in all, yes people will say being alone for so long isn't normal while others will say that it's potentially unhealthy, I feel like these things that I mentioned will provide a solid foundation on how to conduct yourself as you possibly navigate the dating market. And on the other hand, should you chose to remain single, I think such discoveries can also help you on that path as well. Tis a curse and a blessing for me.

[@TheNo1MovieMan]

Really appreciate the videos on this channel. Very sincere and well thought-out observations. So important to like yourself and your company. Relationships offer lots of amazing possibilities - but they require sacrifices and hard work! A romantic relationship will not solve your life or fix your problems!!!! You need to have a steady foundation in life that comes from self-discipline, etc

[@JungKimrecruiter]

The Apostle Paul was single as he dedicated his life to preaching the Gospel. We should strive to find meaning and purpose in life as life is too short.

[@jeremycarpenter5550]

Amen brother we should seek his face not his hand . I have been reading scripture a long time and only God can open our eyes to his word he keeps telling me I was seeking his blessing not a true relationship with him i was seeking his hand not his face not a true relationship I was putti.g idols in his place God showed me he will not give me an idol he wants all of us body mind and spirit I was sinning God does not bless sin I repented and was made whole in him . He keeps telling me to seek his face true repentance brings healing he is healing all my broken places we sin when we put idols in his place he wants to heal us that's his heart . I pray God heal all your broken places I pray God put a love of his word in your heart I pray God draw you in a close relationship with him brother in christ . Play the worship music healing rain Michael w Smith and Jeremy riddle Jesus have it all really anointed music by God.

[@JohnDegenhart-it5qe]

On a side note, I'm sick 🤧 too. I know the feeling. Being single and alone and I still get sick. However God will strengthen us. Amen.

[@gumnaamaadmi007]

At last, my moment has come! Thanks, Courtney! 😀 P.S: Feel better soon!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you! ❤️

[@gumnaamaadmi007]

@@CourtneyRyan Welcome.

[@KIKROX86]

I have been single for 10 years. I just re-recently started dating again. We are taking it slow and I am good with that because I’ve been single for this long. What’s a little longer. Another bonus is, we have been friends for a long time.

[@PelvisPresley7294]

Not needing another person to define you is a good thing. No drama, no restraints, no financial drain. Of course Courtney loves being married- it's all perks for women, but an unbalanced/unfair deal for men. What do you mean? If a woman doesn't provide bedroom activities a man is insensitive if he requests this. If a man doesn't provide (loses job, etc) he is berated and the woman leaves; i.e. woman don't have to hold up their end of the bargain but men do. One gender is accountable and the other is not.

[@GregO0oo]

I love this message; it’s deeply profound and so underrated…hugs! 🤗

[@fairtaxguy60]

I am 63 and have been a widower for a year after 38 years of marriage. Everything you said in this video is true! Very good video! I have been enjoying my singleness, doing all the things in this video, while hoping for a future relationship.

[@FitzkeithFitzhugh]

I'm keeping this a short, broad statement. A good thing on being single is that you can stay true to yourself and enjoy life. All too often I see people not being themselves, to attract and keep someone. Eventually it backfires because their true, real selves always come out of the closet. It can become quite ugly and chaotic. Final thought: Stay honest and true to yourself and others. Be authentic.

[@mariettaberry1711]

I have lived alone for 20 + years and really love it. I've had a few long term relationships but broke them off. I'm never lonely.

[@christopher-du8vz]

I love that you made this video, the right person will come, but enjoy your time to grow!

[@thefox47545]

Ironically, or not, my biggest achievements were done while I was single, mainly because I had no distractions and could dedicate an incredible amount of time to those achievements.

[@naynayradiou]

the breaking the 4th wall about construction had me dying

[@liamisfluffy]

Its hard to appreciate because im at the point in my life where I have never been in a relationship and want to get that ball rolling because I believe I should start thinking about family plans.

[@Saltynutz333]

I became single as of last month after catching my ex GF cheating on me. Seven years down the drain…

[@tehlaziness]

The vacations bit is definitely one that is a big part of why I'm opting to stay single. I've never been particularly interested in traveling. I've hated being away from home for very long periods of time, I hate dealing with the traveling part of traveling (airports, driving, etc) and there aren't many places in the world that are very interesting to me. I'm honestly happy just taking a week off work to catch up on personal life stuff like chores and hobbies, play some video games, etc. I just see travel vacations as such a huge waste of money when there are much better things I could be doing with it (like saving for old age). Most girls these days seem to be looking for men willing to finance expensive travel vacations a few times a year and that's honestly a no-go for me. Edit: As far as fostering personal relationships goes, I'm 36 and honestly just not interested anymore. I have a few very long time friends that I trust whole-heartedly. But I've also had several friends in the past, both male and female, that have just been horrible and wound up betraying me. People suck and I'd honestly rather be content with a little bit of loneliness that deal with another betrayal or heartbreak.

[@VROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM]

That's pretty much every woman. They will ALL require you to take a couple fancy vacations a year. You're going to go broke paying for it all. Men try to save and plan, and most women blow all their money the second they get it. And then plan to marry a guy who has that all figured out later in life. No thanks, I'll save my money.

[@TheItalianKid]

I've been single for a long minute and I don't know if I want someone.. I don't have to answer to anyone, and I won't have to worry if she's out here on social media finding a backup when she gets a little unhappy in the relationship

[@MMorellat]

I am working on giving all the friendly dogs in Churchill, a neck, and belly scratching. Yep. That's my goal. One benefit to being single, is I don't have to tell someone what time I will be done work at. Thanks for your videos. Sending a virtual hug.

[@Fadzom]

agreed, i want a relationship but I've benefitted greatly from my time single, but I think I'm effectively very ready to be taken now lol

[@LordHasenpfeffer]

And being taken you will be!

[@Panflutemaverick]

@7:57 is what I have truly embraced as a single man. Finding myself, doing the things I like, and not worrying about pleasing anyone else.

[@cskvision]

I think being in a relationship with an introvert would be the best. Two partners that love each other but also value their solo time and peace. Get well soon Courtney!

[@dgwaters]

I would love to find a girl like that!

[@YeeSun]

Thank you for the much needed video. I have 2 friends who are getting married this year and both are pregnant as well. While I’m happy for both of them but deep inside I feel jealous because of their milestones while my life has been stagnated for long time and wondering whether my milestones will come.

[@tonyovermyer5368]

Being a newly guy, I feel many things. I'm sad the relationshio ended I'm happy that it happened I'm also relieved that I dont have the pressure of the relationship anymore. As time went on, it became clear that we werent going to be compatible long term and I think both of us were suffering because of it. I feel very different now compared to when I was newly single after my first breakup. When I split with my high school sweetheart, a period of deep depression followed for several months. Then I had a short fling which was great during but I felt even worse when that ended. From that point I yearned for a new relationship and was very unhappy for over a year without it, until I found the girl that I was previously with. Things were great in the beginning, but as time went on the flame fizzled out. Now I feel happier being alone, without the pressure and responsibility of a relationship. I dont have the energy to give to someone else right now, and I feel the desire to be alone for awhile. I have some chaos in my life that I need to attend to, and some goals I want to meet before committing to another relationship.

[@terry412]

One thing that drives me crazy is when people assume that THEIR way of doing something is the ONLY way, & anything different is 'wrong'. I think it's great that many people are in happy relationships, but may of us are fine being alone.

[@helixdork]

I’m single, I live alone and I love it. I was married for 21 years and divorced for the past 10 years. I was in a relationship for 3 years and all she wanted to do was lay in bed and watch tik tok for hours, that’s not for me. I work a lot of hours and every two years I take a couple of my kids on trips to Europe, it’s a ton of fun and I get to talk to them as adults. If someone comes into my life, great, if not then I’m fairly happy with it now.

[@johngonzalez4298]

Happy Sunday, Courtney! Feel better soon ❤

[@Marco.The.Phoenix15]

'I think being alone and being lonely are very different things.' - you are right. I would describe it like 'being alone' is the situation (e.g. sitting alone at a lake with a fishing rod, working alone in the garden, being alone in a room writing on a book). And 'being lonely' is more like the feelings, thoughts, perception someone has (e.g. feeling not loved, misunderstood, having negative self talk, self image, seeing only the bad or sad when there is also good). People can be alone and lonely, alone and happy, together and lonely, together and happy. I think understanding this is an important life lesson. Thanks for speaking about the topic Courtney. ^^

[@delberthcastro656]

Love it, and i save for investing and traveling. Travelling is great and looking forward for the next one. But, mostly getting ready for retirement.

[@alejandroxan]

Being single and without kids I find has made me happier than those in relationships with children. They appear stressed out more often and with a more restrictive life.

[@Firesword534]

I've been married for over ten years now and love the relationship I have with my wife. That being said, I was able to experience a lot of the benefits Courtney went into prior to getting married. Before I met my wife I was able to pay off the majority of my student loans, went back to school to start a career that I'm still enjoying, and had time to just drop what I was doing to be with my friends. At times I kind of wish for those times again. Then my kids to something hilarious and I realize I wouldn't trade that for anything. Point is, comparison is the thief of joy. One can be content wherever they are and this video is a great reminder of that.

[@GustavoGonzalez-d9n]

If you get past 30 and single just stay single. That means you enjoy it. It's ridiculous to go past 30 and still going out dating as if you're a teenager. Our lives are on a time clock and once the train passes it's too late to get in it. Like it or not some things can never change. CLASSIC is here to stay!

[@CapProGames]

I think the "building social connections" point you touched on was the most important benefit of being single. Having a strong social group or even just having a few really good friends satisfies our needs for socializing which, in turn, reduces the desire for a romantic relationship.

[@mysteryman38649]

Even though you're under the weather, you still produce a solid presentation for all of us out here. Thank you.

[@wesleyprattakron]

Alone vs. lonely is a great point. Alone means I can do whatever I want whenever I want wherever I want however I want. But doing things with someone else makes life much more fun in my experience.

[@no_regerts5176]

I’ve been with the same woman since 2006. We didn’t have squat, but we built a great life and have wonderful kids. I highly recommend finding the right person, not just the “hottest” chick you can snag. But, if you’re going to be single, use it to make yourself better.

[@spirit-smithentertainment-89]

1. Peace & Solitude - To Be Honest I can understand the peace part I really can sometimes when I hang out w/ people I want to talk then go silent and be in peace and to be in the moment of where I’m at because

[@sansthedrummer]

After learning that I can't have children, I feel much less pressure to find someone.

[@zhaoyun3153]

When any man is in a relationship with a woman, they must be ready to accept the possibility that their partner will cheat on them. As a man, never assume that your female partner won't find someone better than you in some regard. Never assume that there is no other man that can attract her to him. Assume that there is always a more attractive fish for her to catch. Its a good test of your and your partner's true character.