Why Pascal Was Right | Benefits of Being Alone

[@kawasakiwhiptwo5821]

"People say that being alone is very sad...it's not. It's being surrounded by people who make you feel like you're alone." Robin Williams.

[@brianmeen2158]

Only an extrovert could think that “being alone is sad”

[@ahhwe-any7434]

I don't think I ever became me bc of what ppl thought or what I ever allowed to affect me. Bc it was always My choice, My life!.Im just me bc I'm simply me. Ppl can't even simply be themselves w/ out others adding their 2 cents. It's like legitimately, I really don't actually find u all that interesting tho. Plz go back to your own space and bring that weird energy back over there somewhere. Getting older & I don't like investing any kind of energy on anything I consider pointless. Or if I do, I at least want it to be on My time. Idk watching my bbs teef teefs sprout is pretty amazing tho. Tiring, but pretty damn adorable

[@howell7136]

Being alone is nor very sad. Ir is being lonely that is very sad.

[@redblade8160]

@@brianmeen2158 An extrovert is a person who is outgoing and socially confident. Obviously, that is not you, then. You can still be alone, even when surrounded by many people in your life.

[@the.deadpoet]

Robin knew the score. RIP.

[@waedjradi]

Whenever I reminisce on a great day I had. It's never one that involves another person.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Agreed! :)

[@Ruba-v1i]

أهلا 😊

[@manikyum]

Then who is with you in pfp

[@renegade-master29]

Gives you time to reflect and learn the psychology of the people who you believed to be your friends and also gives time to learn about yourself and the situations life throws at you it's a concrete jungle out there stay safe 👊

[@littleredrose6254]

@@manikyum Sorry, what does pfp mean?

[@imankhan1999]

If one cannot appreciate his own company, then one will always be alone.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Thanks for watching 🙏

[@kostaskostas6224]

....said everyone that cannot get it wet due to natural preselection

[@imankhan1999]

@@kostaskostas6224 Whatever that mean

[@GrumpSkull]

The constant imposition of narcissistic me me me people is soul destroying and mind numbing.

[@kostaskostas6224]

@@imankhan1999 google it...

[@peterwarden7471]

My complete life 99% of my trouble cames from outside (family, friends, girls). Now I'm alone for 8 years, no apartment, travel in a camper van, playing guitar, watching the stars, communicate with the universe. I was never before so happy.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Wow! You are proof that peace can be found in solitude. :)

[@TexasDymond01]

That's beautiful

[@OkinInc]

Nice one Peter!👍👍

[@deborahcurtis1385]

I'm going to do this. Looking forward to it.

[@sureshsood8349]

You bet, this is what I am doing now. Well said.

[@georgiafrancis9059]

When you are your own best friend, you are never alone 💕

[@Peter_Pepper_Love]

My mother always said "Son God never leaves us truly alone"💨🤍

[@josephbrown9685]

I am a middle age introvert. I’ve embraced being alone and have learned to enjoy it. I used to be married about a decade ago. There is no way I could ever do that again.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Thanks for watching. :)

[@Arbiter902]

I feel you, when I was married I really missed the me time alone. I'm divorced now and sometimes I miss marriage life but if I got to choose I would choose to be alone.

[@Lucifer-jc3td]

​@@commonconservative7551 he said introvert not shy they are different

[@ibrahimhasbany999]

Reading your comment summarizes what I went through for the past five years. Salute my dear friend. Stay strong.

[@DirtyMikeandTheBoyz]

I'm an ACTUAL introvert. I've never been interested in Marriage... I'm the reason grocery delivery exists. I'm a full time published author... there's levels to this game. This is the most I ever socialized... and it's just with the intent of antagonizing. So my life can remain blissfully lonely.

[@ismaelrajab2822]

The less contact you have with people..,the less the drama.I fully agree.

[@marcuskelly5768]

Best is less

[@ankhpom9296]

But being with the right person(s) is also good.

[@saltrock9642]

Being alone 3 hours before anyone else wakes in the morning is beautiful medicine.

[@stalin1909]

wow….Thats Exactly what i do every single day for years . i wake up around 5 am. the clarity i get is just way too surreal to give up …

[@gorlestondoug]

Same here, I'm up at 4:30 -5:00 am and cherish those hours of solitude

[@Peter_Pepper_Love]

3am, that magical hour💨🤍

[@zerocal76]

It's beautiful being alone at night when everyone's asleep and the streets are empty and quiet. Makes for a fine relaxing drive if your car is even a little sporty 🚗 🙂

[@zoeyanaqvi-zn7482]

true... God bless you !

[@srini9653]

I consciously cut off friends, I just do my office work then I switch off to being my own self. I stroll in my back yard, do bit of gardening. Thanks to my remote living, I'm not bothered by neighbours, family is there but they don't bother me. Some think I'm depressed but the fact is I enjoy being alone and your video just convinced that there are folks like me out there. Peace!

[@richricogranada9647]

Living alone, with my rescued boy is a bliss, it is pure peace. Humans are too stressful to live with.

[@spmoran4703]

Dog or Cat . Often the furry friend can make a better companion than a human . We are over rated

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Man cave, she cave, his tiny house, her tiny house. But beside each other. There sooolllved. Patting myself on the back. Preferably w/ a dude who actually thinks like a dude.... "Likes to assemble. & The likes." Ironically, y does it seem like Some the most messed up ones r the ones who knows how to do that sh. Like enter mechanics .

[@janbarrett4544]

​@@spmoran4703I agree.My dog brings me more joy than anything else I have experienced.

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

😅 facts

[@georgesontag2192]

My cat has never petitioned the court to take the house and get alimony.

[@DillyWillow]

I enjoy being alone and in the first time in 64 years I’m living alone… no stress, no anger… best move I ever did for myself …

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Great 👍

[@GrumpyMeow-Meow]

Me too! Isn’t it weird how some people feel threatened by that? You have to keep explaining “I’m happy by myself” and they look at you look you’re an alien.

[@dennismclaurin1487]

Women can do it better

[@rebeccafrost5542]

I absolutely believe women do Alone better than men but I'm trying to figure out why.

[@martinmerrill5366]

​@@rebeccafrost5542 until the money is gone!!

[@marystacey4796]

It all started in 2014. I decided to take a year off from dating. I spent time with myself, my friends and family. Read books, watched movies, and raised my kids along with my ex-husband. Went back to school at 47 and got my BA at 53. I'm now 55, been single for 9 years. I am in love with being alone. I realized that I'm a happier person alone, more peaceful and have a lot of time for spending time with God, and in silence. Never been happier. 😊😊😊

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🙏

[@MartinScreeton]

That is essentially what I did as well... and Pascal's quote is one of my cherished quotes! :)

[@mrbenn1489]

I am with you, apart from the god thing.

[@bluewendigo672]

You definitely find the illumination of Life.

[@bettyabote4229]

Well said spending time with God is the best of all

[@nelsonvargas9527]

Being alone brings me inner peace .

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Same. :)

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

Facts, outer peace too

[@bettyabote4229]

The Shalom peace of God

[@Gunn27]

Same here 🙌

[@magic2506]

Yes, me too. Some that are close in my life could never understand it.

[@bonzomcduffy8336]

I love being alone. Nobody to tell you how to live your life. Solitude is the best.

[@fineartist7710]

Bonzo, as you know, living on your own with no one's expectation's to fulfill is the great open secret of life! The Church, the state, society, your family, and friends want you to compromise your life, like they have compromised their lives. They all live in anxious desperation with large mortgages, immense college bills, and marital tension, separation and divorce as the result of all this desperate striving of living like hamsters running in a wheel. Bonzo, as you know one of the greatest pleasures of life is tranquility and you can only find that in solitude. I recommend that you read Arthur Schopenhauer, the 19th century German philosopher on women and marriage. He also encouraged the practice and enjoyment of the arts and philosophy as the way to engage with life. Also, I recommend you look up Epicurean philosophy as it emphasizes enjoying the small pleasures and living with tranquility...Best to you in your life journey.

[@EfrenRomero-k6s]

Better to be alone then with bad company. ❤

[@noelevans8239]

So very true

[@redblade8160]

@user-cr5vc6xq3b. "Than," not "then."

[@enriquesanchez2001]

My father's favorite saying. ♥

[@dii-N-sd]

*than

[@redblade8160]

@user-cr5vc6xq3b The correct word is "than", not "then".

[@rommelflores2618]

I always enjoyed being alone. Staying away from toxic people, all good.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🙏

[@martinellis7156]

I am an old man who revels in solitude, but I also enjoy the freedom of the internet to satisfy my curiosity about the human condition. Acceptance of my failings comes in the quiet time of introspection afforded me by a lifetime of work and service to my family, community and society.

[@stefannicholson852]

I always loved being alone as a child. It is what has always made me happy

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🙏

[@lanikiamccloud4227]

Same here, only child!

[@annemarie3693]

I instinctively loved being alone as a kid in my room . Or just alone in my house looking out the window watching the kids I had just been playing with. And I've been doing it my whole life. My brother and sister would laugh their asses off about me BEING INSIDE. They still do! It makes me happy, gives me peace. Let's me think way clearer. I have enough of my own crap to deal with haaa. But ya, for me at least I can only take so much of society,the world, people.... whatever you wanna call it. Your crap! This gives me at least a chance to catch to catch my breath till my next round WITH PEOPLE.

[@bluekatgal7300]

I am ok with or without others. Really both are needed for well rounded life. I always could entertain myself or enjoy the company of others. I did teach and practice yoga meditation which is a powerful tool for opening our minds to opportunities for self awareness and knowledge.

[@carolwaugh5466]

I am 78 and live alone. I have family but they are not close. I don’t mind being alone one bit. I was an only child and learned very early on how to amuse myself. I read a great deal from age five, and drew and made up my own little games. I was fine around other kids and had a good time playing, but never minded being alone. But I must add, that I am in contact with my family, so though I live alone I am not totally isolated. I find life alone very calm.

[@spmoran4703]

I did not have siblings either. I never missed that . And I was not spoiled. That's mythology .

[@ahhwe-any7434]

A little random but I pretty much raised myself. It's a teeny bit funny ppl think I was raised up right. 🥴 =Idk what ppl expect when you're out in the world by your young self, raising ... Yourself but u're gonna do some pretty dumb things. But other than that riiiigghht. I mean, in some ways I look at other ppls "norms" & then think about my background. & I think y'all must be generations of some degenerates bc you can paint me however but good gah some of the ish ppl settle on getting comfortable in. & Honestly, yeah my past is pretty questionable. But I didn't actually ever know what it was like going w/ out, at least materialistically, when I did live w/ those kin. Anyways, I always thought me & what army? I wonder now if I'll always have a huge army but "w/ out even trying..." Or in short, I wonder if the health fields & associates ever feel haunted. And u know what? Nvrmnd. Bc of couuuursse they would. Dealing w/ the elderly does give me perspectives. Like what do u mean handle the well respected... & Now, it's really just a thing to me, kind of

[@Williamb612]

being alone vs being lonely are two completely different things

[@phil2u48]

Indeed. Solitude is not loneliness.

[@afanasymarinov2236]

Being able to rejoice in solitude is a secret super power.

[@LoveHandle4890]

“Be alone, that’s where ideas are born.” -Nikola Tesla.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Love that

[@kirant173]

❤

[@buckynikolic6809]

💯💯💯

[@johnjohnii5849]

I agree, a man thinks best when sitting on the can.

[@patrickolivier1]

Alone and bored is where creativity strives

[@renekirebornrenekireborn4777]

I must say I’ve felt more peace and serenity in my life since I’ve been alone for the past few years. Gone is loneliness and fear. Become your own best friend and you’ll never be alone in your life ❤

[@bettyabote4229]

Amen

[@banginzaza]

I don't know WTF that is but it sounds pretty good!

[@basilfomeen9995]

I feel the same as you, although friends/family keep reaching out to me and when I ignore them, I start feeling incredibly guilty and start wondering whats wrong with me. You experience anything like that?

[@jamesmcmccray8255]

At 35 years old I’m just now starting to understand the joy of being alone. I used to get a false sense of dopamine being around people and needing their validation and attention. Now I’m building my business and focusing on myself.

[@romeo-zw4zw]

I am 39 years old was married for 9 years, got divorce. I have never live alone in my life, when i decided to get my own place and live alone at first was lonely and sad, depressing. But once you get use to it is beautiful. We come to this world alone and we will leave alone😊🙏🏼

[@angusmackaskill3035]

If you are alone then nobody can take advantage of you.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

👍

[@robertihiga2707]

My research too

[@toptiercrip]

That means ur scared lmfao it's easy to know when ppl just want to use you broski keep hiding a shell and die unknown 💀💀

[@sweetestaphrodite]

Well… if you’re alone somewhere in public then perhaps

[@thefoxzeta7089]

The point of the video is that even if you are alone, your mind can take advantage over you and that s what you have to fight to feel in peace.

[@timpearce3314]

Great, wise words, I wasted a lot of my years continually trying to "please people"and failing miserably,I was unhappy to say the least! finally after a very "bad marriage I realised "enough was enough" and escaped into a life of "living with myself" and enjoying the peace and solitude that came with it! never having children was also a big bonus! when I decided to leave my wife , driving down the road it felt as though I had been released from prison! never to return, I was 50 years old then,and now at 67 and retired,I realised what I have missed! and after 17 years of "peace and solitude" and pleasing myself I can truly reccomend it, after all of the "trials and tribulations" of being in relationships,I consider myself "truly blessed" and to be the "phoenix from the ashes of a life gone by!" Good luck, Be strong, Be alone,....😊👌

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Thanks for telling your story. :)

[@IAmNoeyes]

You should try learning to use grammar and punctuation properly now. Thank me later.

[@sandella11]

For sure. I’ve been alone since I was an only child. Single parent..hectic job, feeling as I just am not part my generation. Love my solitude…raised my girls alone, helped raise all 5 of my grandkids…rescued/saved so many non humans also. Born caregiver…easy to burn out and become exhausted..and physically ill. I’m 75 yrs old now…and I understand conscious awareness and letting go and flowing ….long story..but it all began almost 33 yrs ago. Now…I am grateful…feel love…and accept that I’m only able to control my own mindset and my actions/inactions. Conscious awareness … and meditation…and solitude…benefits me, others and this Universe. I believe in vibrational energy. I dwell on the positives within my life..not the heartache and loss of so many loved ones..and it’s amazing that I’m aware I’m able to do this. It’s an ongoing process….but so worth it…and doable.💥💫💖

[@timpearce3314]

@@IAmNoeyes the message quickly typed on this social media post has received 50 "thumbs up" thank you and wasn,t meant to to "proof corrected" like a book, by you , I have nothing to thank you for and will treat your "comment" with the"contempt " it deserves....

[@ramonafeisley5732]

I hear my passed on parents and my angels in the silence. Everyone assumes I am lonely and don't understand and look at it as rejection. Not my prob. Been like this since the age 6, totally get it. It is a gift 🎁

[@jennifer1872]

I love being alone , all my life I’ve been with people but now I’m on my own I feel like I’ve found my haven / paradise

[@StanleyBetts2001]

That’s good to hear. :)

[@elizdonovan9219]

Me too. We can choose to be with people whenever we wish. ☘️🌝🌲

[@justsayin644]

@@elizdonovan9219 i think it's harder for those who don't have the choice to be with people whenever they like or maybe at all. Or at least people they care about and care about them. Humans are designed to have some degree of stimulation from being relational. It's not healthy to have none of this. Choosing to be alone at times is a completely different thing.

[@DrewRueDoo]

The older I get, the more I love being alone. I love spending time with people, but it's just so much more peaceful being by myself.

[@anniemanoo8692]

This is exactly how I feel

[@richardorina7118]

Solitude is an underrated therapy in a such a chaotic and fast world. Being at peace alone is priceless. There's is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Once you learn to enjoy your own company, you'll always set aside time for it.

[@richardmabe4186]

I have only ever found bliss in peace and quiet alone in my room.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Same. :)

[@starsaber9631]

Some peop!e such as myself couldn't even sit on my own on my bed without having a load of shit being brought in to my life 😓

[@richardmabe4186]

@@starsaber9631 I'm sorry to hear that it sounds very distressing. I hope one day you find a way to improve the way you feel.

[@alimerchant5545]

💜

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

😂 facts

[@marciamellow1211]

Being alone teaches you all you need and want to know...love the peace..you learn so much about everything...being quiet is a gift..being alone is a gift.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

👌

[@robertlewis3116]

@marciamellow1211 Very well said and I agree.

[@Ridendrty]

6 years ago i divorced after 25 years of marriage. 5 years a go i quit facebook and i stopped watching tv and sports. It is so liberating. I now have more peace in my soul and more time to connect with my small circle of loved ones. I encourage anyone to try it.

[@Jos-qk7oj]

So you watch youtube instead?? 😂

[@Ridendrty]

@@Jos-qk7oj yes i watch content created by individuals that i select as opposed to mass media. See the difference?

[@Jos-qk7oj]

@@Ridendrty yes, I'm slowly doing the same. I'm finding main stream media to be dishonest and depressing in equal measures

[@Ridendrty]

@@Jos-qk7oj me too man. Me too…

[@davidmitchell6873]

I'm in a similar situation but I still love football Sundays.

[@GrumpyMeow-Meow]

I love living alone. I spend time with family and friends, but I’m happy living by myself. People keep asking me why don’t I remarry? ‘Cause I don’t want to, not because I’m anti-marriage, but because I feel the healthiest this way.

[@sophiaisabelle027]

I'm pretty much alone most of the time, and I find it refreshing. It helps to 'recharge' my 'batteries' and to just look back and reflect on some things.

[@kresivarivkah612]

I truly enjoy my alone time. I live by the Ocean. This helps lots. 🤗

[@MaryC-co8fm]

Lucky you! :))

[@ruffian2952]

Nothing quite like the Atlantic for me. Cape Cod now, Cape Ann before.

[@jasondaniels640]

At the other end of he Atlantic. Atlantic seaboard, Cape Town. Love it too 🏖️

[@ruffian2952]

@@jasondaniels640 When wind is right, can hear the bell buoys. A most pleasant sound. Live at Sandwich end of the Canal.

[@MrMassivefavour]

When you're feeling low Try a day of silence Take things very slow Listen to the wireless Never speak a sound Sit up on the hedgerow Watch the world go round Peace will let your mind go

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Lovely.

[@macaroll]

Nice poem! Thank you for sharing!

[@MrMassivefavour]

@@macaroll When you're feeling low Try a day of silence Take things very slow Listen to the wireless Never speak a sound Sit up on the hedgerow Watch the world go round Peace will let your mind go When you've had a row Sit alone say nothing It's really funny how You quickly see that something Wonderful and warm Lies between each second In every side and out Eternity will beckon You and me, we are part of a single soul And one day we will know we're one Sit and listen the word will come There is nothing beneath the sun that we can't realize And one peaceful night Will remind us that it's alright And we'll figure we owe it all To one life of silence Whispers will emerge Proud against the thunder The wind hiss precious words Erase our problems rumble Watch a speckled fawn Hear it crash like seaspray Someone sees it all We will meet him someday When you're feeling low Try a day of silence Take things very slow Maybe listen to the wireless Songwriters: Pete Townshend

[@macaroll]

@@MrMassivefavour Oh! It was a song!

[@DirtyMikeandTheBoyz]

A day? I might have gone too far 😅🤣

[@niteshades_promise]

and this is why i go camping alone with no phone often. the sounds of fire n water are so soothing. no stress or worries.🍻

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🏕️

[@JamesBond-uz2dm]

" When I'm alone , I'm in good company ". ------ Mark Twain

[@tagabulodchastityobedience7292]

When I was so rounded with people I’ve loved and trusted ( with a huge house ) I was depressed, angry, miserable, no appetite ( scary skinny) with horrible insomnia. Now that I’m alone (in a small apartment) I’m very happy and healthy ..Thanks be to God🙏💐🙏

[@moonshine5377]

Reading the comments and everyone's experience gives me so much hope. I was feeling a bit down and depressed because of my failed marriage, getting anxious about my future but seeing how it's okay and even best thing for me to be alone helps. Also recently i came across this person who was 75 years old and he told me he has always been alone but not in any kind of lingering sadness but he was completely okay, he even told he was doing okay. That felt good. So i can grow old and alone and don't need to have this fear or want of needing a partner. Thanks for the video, grateful 🙏

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🙏

[@royaltybeehivecollections8477]

Yes hunny seems sad but I am 32 and only have my children They are 12 and 13 and I even teach them this principle, because truth is human beings let you down in so many ways they can’t be dependent upon I always tell them that everything is only a moment in time They should not attached themselves to anyone but yourselves, but know that they always will have each other for how ever long as they are in the physical But they will always carry their selves and one another each other. Should I say in our hearts no matter where we go even after the physical realm is over everything is only a moment in time. The problem is people have been made to want to live forever, and have the fear of what it would be like to let go of someone or have the fear Of letting go of this life not living in the moment like this is all we have. When the truth is we all have to get old someday and we all have to leave. It’s a very dangerous thing that we are creating in the hearts of our children today with that feeling of hanging on to their parents forever when they have to grow and have they own lives in the concept of life because then they’ll grow up feeling alone and doing crazy things for love. Simply, because they have not been taught the right way about what love really is which is loving yourself not looking for it somewhere else in someone else

[@EricWeston]

One of the most thought provoking videos on youtube.

[@TheBlitzgundam]

I have reduced my social media footprint by deleting those apps… I rarely socialize only with close friends and family. Being alone is great. I get to reflect on my own faults and goals.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

I am definitely a solitary type. While others are out partying on a weekend I’m sitting at home making a video about being alone! 😂

[@Kitiwake]

And how to correct faults and clarify goals.

[@wayneelliott1180]

Yes, that inner investigation is one of the main tasks in this life. It can be confronting but ignoring it does us no favours.

[@TheBlitzgundam]

@@wayneelliott1180 I agree. Our own faults, when not confronted, manifests itself as graver faults and sometimes, we are not even aware of it.

[@L3nigma]

Even when I go clubbing I go alone (if that makes sense😂)

[@caffiend.]

“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.” -Arthur Schopenhauer

[@olivieraleman]

Schopenhauer is my go to always❤

[@pitalitta8814]

Married twice, divorced twice. Been alone for 2 decades. Luv it.❤

[@aaron.0303]

I've been told I have an "unfriendly looking face" by people, that I look intimidating, and that's why I haven't been able to make friends since I was a teen (age 42 now). Thus forced to be alone, I've discovered tons of benefits of being alone over the decades. Especially being alone in nature.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

I will make a video about nature as it is essential for our wellbeing.

[@julianterris]

Some people are intimidated by intelligence ~you don't look at all unfriendly.

[@rookiej5587]

Same. They told me about a term called "RBF" (RESTING B!TCH FACE) to describe my face 🙄

[@thabangramokoena584]

U are not alone on that,thats why I decided to never care what anybody says about how I am or how I do things. So long as I feel comfortable in how I am I will never try to change mi personality just to please somebody else. I always believe there someone somewhere who will accept and appreciate me the way I am,for not everyone is perfect in this world. I really do feel trying to change mi lifestyle/personality just to please other people intimidated or uncomfortable about mi personality will just be loading more unnecessary pressure in mi own life,I'd rather have less or no friends at all its fine

[@mahindrarai7660]

It's there loss your gain

[@mikestroud9969]

Nothing wrong with being alone Always time to think and reflect about life at times Such a peaceful feeling. Good for your character and your Soul. 😊😊

[@StanleyBetts2001]

I agree.

[@Gmacc187]

Do not invest much time in people who hold no value in your heart. Withdraw from social media. And realize you are never alone because God is always with you.

[@meta2011]

“We are often more frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality.” - Seneca

[@Amastar13]

Einstein famously said: "Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand."

[@jeffcramer6722]

Have you ever been kicked in the groin? Try it...I'll do it for you

[@rebeccav.3734]

I was married for 13 years to someone who never bothered to understand me. Those were the loneliest years of my life. I'd rather be alone than lonely.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Ppl say it's like your partner is so much a part of ur identity. And to a pt, yes. Bc we do have a kid. And we were supposed to be married. But blah. I never even did the paper work bc I didn't want to. Idk what to feel or how to face it. I just hurt for my kid. Aside from that, he was never gonna steer me away from being able to stand on my own. I always thought about worse case scenario. :/ I lied about how much money I had... Biiisshh, it wasn't enough. But it was 😉. To roll the hell out & get mia on enough. I'd be lying if it didn't low key amuse me he's asked for help. I'm helping our kid. Don't ask me for anything else

[@interesting2491]

This is hitting 100 million views in no time, as most people relate to this in the chaotic modern world.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Wow, that would be unreal.

[@TNewsh]

Yes

[@adamgriffith6750]

been one month since your comment and since this vid pub and it still has tens of thousnds of views to get to make 700k views. this vid may never hit 1 million views let alone an astronomical number of 100 million views.

[@interesting2491]

@@adamgriffith6750Lol, didn’t realise I wrote *100* I meant just 1 million which it will 100% reach

[@SIERRATREES]

you speak sense, and if Stanley was to be true to his work, he wouldn't care about it too much. @@adamgriffith6750

[@tcrijwanachoudhury]

I love being alone. I'm a creative person, that is what happens when there is no people and no phone. But I'm so afraid that as I get older and as life gets more expensive in the UK I will spend less time alone and more time working. I try to do this 4:28 all the time, I look at my environment at peoples faces and they almost never look back theyre usually on their phone, wherever they are, they're not here. This is a very powerful message ♡

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Yes many creative pursuits require being alone. Yes there are a lot of people on their phones these days. You might find my video ‘The Background Static’ interesting as it talks about this age of distraction.

[@voyagetravel1840]

You ever thought of leaving the UK? There's a whole world out there

[@tcrijwanachoudhury]

voyage travel yeah I have, at the moment I dont have the money, i hope to be able to leave some day though. got any ideas ?

[@voyagetravel1840]

@@tcrijwanachoudhury well I would go wherever your currency is worth more. For example I'm in the US. I plan on going to Thailand where the dollar is worth like 34 of their currency. I would suggest starting something online thats location independent so you can take it anywhere. It's possible you just have to put some work in.

[@glowandgrow1976]

i'm here, if you need me! ❤️🙏

[@harryroberts388]

I remember being a very happy person before I took up social media. I never cared about others, what others were thinking, why someone wasn't replying to me. Recently I went on a hiking trip with mates and I forced myself to not take my phone. Never felt happier. I reckon social media is an illusion, and leaving the phone alone in a drawer is the solution to many many problems.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Agreed. Thanks for watching:)

[@Dee-iy9uq]

Yeah social media was the worst thing to ever happen to society. It just a makes everyone 10x more narcissistic, egotistical, selfish and simply evil all from the false reality that they display to be real for the sake of receiving validation from their audiences and trampling on people. It’s a joke, I’m never touching it for the rest of my life and I stay far away from those that excessively indulge in it and make it a lifestyle.

[@FriendofDorothy]

May I humbly suggest that "hiking" is probably the one activity where you DO need to take your phone? A phone, at its most basic level, is for communications, not just hanging out on social media sites. It can actually be used to call.... 911! I don't want to read another tragic story of someone who got lost while hiking and the Search and Rescue people have to look for you for days before you are found (hopefully alive, but not in every case). Otherwise I agree with your comment...

[@Dee-iy9uq]

@@mocrovich Yeah some people love trying to make introverts feel like losers and small people in society and most deem them as such just because they are noncommittal and nonconformist to societal norms. It’s always beautiful to see an individual enjoy their own company instead of the company of crowds built off of insecurity, inadequacy and shallowness.

[@harryroberts388]

@@FriendofDorothy haha don't worry I make sure we're safe when we go. One guy had a phone although we didn't have reception most of the time. We also carried a PLB so plenty of countermeasures haha. Family and other friends got a route card and estimated date and time of return before they call emergency services. Another mate brought a satphone and we all had UHF handheld radios if someone separated. But yes phones are pretty good in that aspect but there are still plenty of ways to stay safe in the bush without a glass brick!

[@sarah.marco888]

I love this. Been really in a lonewolf mentality mindset in my recent years and it's been such a great experience. Can totally resonate with this 😊❤

[@inducruz5558]

I learnt it through hard way.. But finally found a friend within myself who understands me and appreciates me wholly . So there's no fear now of being criticised 😂

[@MartinScreeton]

One of favorite quotes... "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." - Blaise Pascal

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Mine too.

[@jackgammon4084]

Also one of the greatest lies. All man's miseries come from little men sitting in rooms when they know they should be doing something, saying something. Instead they let things just happen out there in the world. The silent majority let the thugs and liars run riot because it seemed, er, that's the way things are going, The quiet men could have spoken up, spoken the truth, stopped a few atrocities or holocausts.

[@deborahcurtis1385]

Most people cannot face themselves; they're engaged in elaborate avoidance strategies. I had one boyfriend who said he had to buy an Audi car. I mean, seriously? It was a must. When you get that thing, that car that luxury handbag it's never going to satisfy you for long. Is it worth what you sacrificed to buy it?

[@malissahyatt2425]

Not always true. I can sit here all day. Mostly because no one cares if I'm here or not. I'm stupid lonely and no one cares

[@MartinScreeton]

@@malissahyatt2425 (That brings up another quote) --> “If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.” - Jean-Paul Sartre

[@daynalynnxo]

I absolutely love being alone. Well alone with my kids. I may struggle financially and I’m rich mentally!

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🙏

[@Nolaman70]

You obviously don't know what alone means.

[@sumiben5211]

Thank you for the video. It is unbelievable how now the phone can bring all the chaos of the world to our rooms while before people had no idea about what was going on in their neighbor village. Our minds are getting more information and worries than what they have been evolved to hold.

[@clifforddriver9434]

Solitude, is what I personally look forward to every single day from growth, development and repair. All three of them take place just by finding the fact that there's plenty of value in solitude.

[@Sew_OzzyWar_Made_This]

Dude, there's nothing better than your own company. Deadass... Is best to find happiness in the self (self love is real y'all) than trying to achieve happiness in someone else's company. Companionship, wether be in a friendship or romantic relationship, will not fill the loneliness void - only the self can do this.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

It should be priority to be happy by yourself.

[@Amastar13]

Your first Marriage, is the Marriage you have with self!

[@Amastar13]

@@StanleyBetts2001 - Factz, your not by yourself, your with yourself.

[@annstewart8506]

What price for peace? I am alone but, never lonely. I can occupy myself in healthy past times. Cooking, gardening and painting. Oh the joy of being Solo!

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🙏

[@perryedwards4746]

So true... Nicely done... Freedom and peace is the two most important keys to a good life in my opinion... Im a poet, so it probably helps, I've been on my own for 30 years and would not have it any other way... My home is truly, my home... Important vid!! Well done sir!

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Agreed. Thank you. :)

[@rosecampos5479]

Being alone can be A treasure if your wise enough to like and understand the energy other others can bring unwanted tensions❤ we are no one babysitter to any adult that's bored with themselves or is not connected to the light of peace God gives us.

[@vincemacheda3287]

😊

[@SilverSurfer5150]

Pascal’s focus was to turn us to God, His presence. We were made for God and when we are alone, nothing stands in the way of that ultimate peace, once we have repented.

[@revolutionofconsciousness]

I've felt the need to be alone for many years now and it's bought me unbelievable transformation. There were so many great points raised here. I'm constantly trying to find that perfect balance between 'being' and 'doing'. Thanks for making this 🙏🙏

[@StanleyBetts2001]

I’m happy to hear that. :)

[@AlviSultan]

@@StanleyBetts2001 ... hear

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Thanks for correction. :)

[@medusagorgon9]

My entire home is my sacred place. This is why I don't let anyone come here. I'll meet you anywhere you want, but you can't come here. Unfortunately, I have the ability to absorb energy, so when people are around me my energy shifts based on what they are presenting. Sometimes I can block it, but it is draining all the same. So, I need my personal space clear.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

What do you mean by absorbing energy?

[@bobmitchell2584]

I'm with you, Medusa, to a tee! I live alone in the Mountains amongst trees and birds, and enjoy watching the clouds float by. And what you say about absorbing energy is so true! Just the other day, I was lying down in a semi-snooze when there came an insistent knock on my front door. I hesitated to get up, but thought it could be a neighbour in need, and so opened up to, would you believe, a Seventh-Day Adventist with a bent to "converting" me, and pushing a pamphlet on me! I was polite (raised to be...social conditioning...?), accepted the propaganda-leaflet, and politely asked him to never call again. But the moment left me in a degree of confusion as to whether I was being intolerant, or whether I should have been even more insistent on protecting my personal space. I don't mind people and get along well enough with decent-minded folk. but, like you, my home is, as you call it, "my sacred place".I lived in a lonely place and space for fourteen years married to a woman who left me to take up with her Lesbian lover...Explains a lot...

[@midnightblue3285]

@@StanleyBetts2001 we are Absorving the people aura energies when we are closer to the people, we can even feel the people energy from long distances too

[@boledle]

I've always enjoyed being a lonely introvert. My one beef with life though is that the world rewards the extroverted and social game players

[@therealwewin]

You mean narcissists and psychopaths?

[@boledle]

@@therealwewin in many cases, yeah

[@ruffian2952]

My loyalty to me is it's own reward.

[@adamhughes4442]

Being a lonely introvert sounds sad.

[@user_000_1.]

people don’t innerstand the power of being alone, able to adore the silence. but you aren’t alone in your loneliness. you who you truly are when you are alone. good vid.

[@donnasilver940]

I'm a loner from 10 years old.People get on my nerves .I could only stand being around most for awhile.Then it's time to go.

[@Divyanshu0236]

Being alone... Not lonely, because contemplation and reflections are possible only when alone...

[@renatovonschumacher3511]

Being alone is NEVER lovely. Being on his own, however, IS.

[@A.ICraft]

I honestly love "just Existing", I feel happy observing the nature and things around me without any objective in my mind.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🙏

[@saharamir930]

Really like this perspective

[@bamijokomalik]

Adam must have had a lot of these experiences before he fell out with God. Spending time in nature's so refreshing and beautiful.

[@sandimcclain6523]

I love being alone! No BS or drama! 😜

[@RLC8093]

Being alone has been a blessing, the peace and clarity that comes with it is unmatched, sometimes I just sit on my sofa for hours with the TV off and no interuptions, of the best medicines other than healthy food.

[@trevorgwelch7412]

Alone : Peace of Mind . Peace with oneself . Some people are afraid of there own shadow .

[@BiijiiTheGamer]

I think you made an important point, that the true peace doesn't come until the storm of thoughts finally calms down. I can sit in a chair with no stimulation and occupy myself with thoughts for hours, but that's rarely more fulfilling than any other distraction. I like to spend most of my time alone, but I think I need to be honest with myself about what types of alone time are beneficial to my well-being, and get better at deciding when to nudge myself out the door.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

I always feel unpleasant if I think too much. We need silence and stillness in our lives.

[@enockt6218]

I changed city and moved away from everbody i know and my family. Do not use any social media or anything like that. Moved to a small city. Its been 6 month and never felt better and im in peace that i have never experienced before and never taught it even existed this kind of peace. All of sudden i do not feel to drink alcohol or anything. As 34 year old to do a drastic change like this was one of my best thing i have done to save my very soul. I throw away everything i own and just moved with one bag of cloth and a laptop i needed a full reset in life and feel great now.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Glad to hear that, must have been difficult at first.

[@enockt6218]

​@@StanleyBetts2001 Yes it was and thanks to it

[@shirleysmith9421]

Peace of mind us what we all need and each of us has our own way to obtain it Peace to all and we all need to find our own path!🤩💖👍🗣👥👥👥👥👥👥👥

[@autumn5852]

Your on social media now 😳 so I think you maybe meant that you don’t spend a lot of time on social media 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@enockt6218]

@@autumn5852 No not social media, i use KZbin as information site and listen to music. I do not know anyone nor intent to know anyone in KZbin. Yes i still use internet as you see. If i example i comment in someone's website or a blog about deep space if that is social media then i guess it's true then almost everything in internet are, even email. When i say social media i mean those platform i connect with people i know such as Facebook, instagram, snap etc I'm sure you understand.

[@meriena]

I am so used to being alone and living alone for many years, I started to lack social skills, but never been more grateful for all the peace and freedom. They are running through my veins like a drug. Once you get addicted, it's hard to go back.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🙏

[@silverdale3207]

I hear you on that one, I was widowed young 3 and a half years ago and by default started to isolate myself to cope with the grief, now I cherish being alone and don't want to go out because it's addictive being on my own ( I do miss her though) . Like you I think I've lost social skills and struggle to remember how to have a conversation but consider it a small price to pay for the peace and solitude and calming of the mind.

[@meriena]

@@silverdale3207 I am very sorry for your loss. Grief is one of the reasons people decide to set off on the road of solitude and it's a process. I pray for you, dear. God is taking care of everything, trust Him. 🙏🏽

[@michaelcase8574]

You can only be truly happy when you stop pursuing happiness.

[@westwild75]

alone ...with the CREATOR of the universe... Best feeling's و حدي مع خالق الكون احلى شعور..

[@DennisNowland]

I believe in a balance between solitude and social interaction. I live alone and spend a lot of time alone, but I'll tell you what it can play tricks with your brain.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

I believe in the same thing.

[@Kitiwake]

Agreed

[@autumn5852]

That’s the beauty of living alone, you get to get control over your mind instead of it controlling you as it does to the majority of people in the world and the thing is, it’s not even their mind, it’s the collective consciousness that we claim as ours and being alone helps you to realise the truth of this

[@potatospace6084]

Before, I felt disrespected when that one classmate called me a loner, but these days I felt more prouder that I can manage myself being alone. This actually made me discover and try things that I am afraid to try before. I'm so proud to be this independent now, I don't need to depend on others and just blindly follow their lead because I can't decide on my own. Being alone is freedom and it attracts opportunities because you don't have to always consider other people which at times becomes baggage to the things that you wanted to pursue.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Yes 🙏

[@shreel8880]

🎯 agree!

[@craigmalcom6294]

Being alone isn’t the same as lonely. If ur introverted that’s fine but it’s important to connect with friends and family.

[@jacquelineireland2273]

Being alone there is no frustration, anger, demands, urgency, loudness. I enjoy my own presence. I follow Eckhart Tolle. And several Buddhist monks, gurus. Spiritual teachers. Inner peace brings external peace and ability to handle life better. Namaste.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

I agree completely. :)

[@autumn5852]

… only life isn’t for handing, it’s for living (the clue is in the name) and it’s for living in perfect joy and harmony so either your gurus are feeding you bs or you’re misunderstanding them or maybe you’re just listening to them and not 11:39 doing that actual work but either way handling life sounds like hell and you’ll never succeed because life doesn’t need handling, it’s perfect just the way it is ❤️

[@TudorOwen50s]

As I watched this video, I found myself paying attention to my breathing. I felt an inner smile...like I just discovered the young me again. 🥰 Thank you so much for this video. My day was very hectic but my silent night will rock my to sleep.

[@notw333]

Love it. But Im never really alone. God is with me always. He is ALL I need. Done with relationships. Select friendships are great, but I will never give up my peace.

[@markbigelow2608]

Even when i was in a relationship, i was alone.

[@jocelienjimenez9821]

I'm an INFJ Woman and i value being alone i need it to recharge bieng around people who are always talking and needing assistance constantly drains me to a point where i feel so tired and i need my me Time. Thank you Millie👍✌👊❤🦋

[@StanleyBetts2001]

🦋

[@a.pantherinlex4368]

For me its the ability to detach from the world and say I make me happy... I alone bring me peace.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

That's an amazing ability.

[@lilray7210]

This is why I love being alone. It gives me more time to concentrate on GOD. Instead of listening to other peoples problems and drama.

[@deputydrip4520]

I’ve always had a great social life, but more-so I love spending time alone and having a conversation with myself in my head or even out loud. It really helps me stay grounded and serves as a status update in my life.

[@claresmith9261]

The real art is being with people and enjoying your own peace and aloneness within and seeing them as that love too

[@ErikamGar]

Im a female from México in her 30's I was living with a partner for a little while, but it didnt work for me. I've spent most of my life alone which has developed many good things on me, especially being serene, I enjoy socializing but not for a long time, it drains my energy. Im taking the path of an ascetic life , I live in a small hill, life is so good here. 😊

[@anpuarcturus]

I learned to be alone when I was an adolescent. I refused to be part of the "in crowd" just to be accepted by my peers. It helped to prepare me for life. Being a grown man, it makes me think about what a young Latino Bro said to me 15 years ago " Life Is Just An Extention Of High School." A lot of truth in that statement. No man is an island. We need we, but being alone has awesome benefits. Having someone in your life who understands that can be a blessing. Quiet time is sufficient. Find out how beautiful you are inside/out and the beauty that surrounds you every day. Awesome video ❤

[@andrewbeattie244]

Peace,tranquility,aloneness are tuned with perfect harmony. There's nothing wrong with being alone, though the world thinks and acts differently. I'm more alone in a room full of people .The Belfast poet Andrew Beattie.

[@StanleyBetts2001]

You are right, there is nothing wrong with being alone.

[@songsmith31a]

There is a misconception that being alone means being "lonely". Nothing is further from the truth.

[@renatovonschumacher3511]

So do not call it "alone",- call it "being on one's own" for eing alone DOES mean lonely.

[@songsmith31a]

@@renatovonschumacher3511 In the sense of being without companionship, you are correct. I suppose that it frequently associated with a state of suffering mentally from that particular physical state. The word "solitary" is more appropriate.

[@victoriabetts365]

I think this is a beautiful and necessary message that we must all take on board and live better for it. Thank you Stanley, for taking the time to do this. The videos, clips and photos you've chosen to put these points across are perfect and only add in a positive way to the overall message. Saying that I could close my eyes and just listen to your voice, a meditation in its self, so calming and wise. Brilliant stuff. Greatful for it ❤

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Thanks a lot! :)

[@dannycasey8261]

I totally enjoyed the wisdom. I’m 62 and sometimes forget the old wisdom from my Dad and Grama.

[@DA-bp8lf]

No matter how many problems I may have on a given day, or week. After I go out and run for 2 hours, there all solved and gone. The mind is an amazing thing, if you only allow it to work for you! In my entire life, I have never gone to another human being with a problem. I just put on my shoes, head out the door. Then all I have to do is relax and listen.

[@internationaldirector2917]

Alone comnune with God Almighty prayers and reading Holy Bible for 3 to 4 hours daily especially early morning like 4 to 7am. It helped me to become strong in all challenges also in terms of making decisions. Thanks to this video God bless you.

[@Quietriot1970]

❤an art force that once learnt is priceless

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Thanks for watching! :)

[@amosbeedle9875]

Thank you for this , I got more from these 11 minutes than from 6 months of therapy... The irony is that the GIANT INESCAPABLE ALGORITHM OF DISTRACTION is what brought me here !!?? I am glad it did ! subscription enabled

[@StanleyBetts2001]

Glad my video was helpful, and thanks for subscribing. :)

[@nickname3471]

I also found this by auto feed... Very ironic.. Cheers.

[@tedlogan3194]

WEIRD

[@mcarmelita6524]

😂

[@georgiafrancis9059]

therapy only benefits the therapist.... think about that and then be your own therapist