4 Cultural Rules to Know Before Marrying Indonesian Woman

[@keldonator]

Got to say, everything you've said has been true in my 3 years of marriage to an Indonesian woman. It was the best decision of my life to marry my wonderful wife.

[@Hendra23155]

Happy to hear that! Wish your marriage stay blissful!

[@adimardev1550]

so lovely❤❤

[@jamesrose6751]

I am in love with an Indonesian woman...a wonderful human being

[@adimardev1550]

@@jamesrose6751 and so am i my friend..!!! i'm the luckiest being ever exist in this universe! and so as you!

[@lonley1753]

How do western men meet Indonesian women?

[@gabriellakou9292]

Pretty much accurate I'm an Indonesian. Even though my dad is head of family my mom is the THE NECK of family. She can turn my dad to do whatever she wanted him to do. My dad own a store and my mom is the supreme manager. Although my mom says she is only a house care taker that support her spouse😂 Most of family's finance in Indonesia is govern by mom 😅

[@Hendra23155]

very true, my wife is the neck of our family hahaha

[@thomasthomas8102]

The man is the head but the woman is the neck.

[@cilikponpon]

I think depends again, my fam is similar like yours but when I jumped into society, many called it too free... when I helped my dad keeping his jewelry shop, it was shocking to know many lady customers of the shop always bring their husband along to approve which thing they want to buy. One day, a lady came bought a bracelet, 10 mins later she came back with her husband, who got angry asking her to switch for smaller bracelet. She obeyed. That is only one sample, many I met similar. When i started to work, my female colleagues who were married, always asking their husband's permission if they can join an event after work or not.... they say the families whose wife is acting like boss are westernized. I was shocked many times during my experience jumping to real world after my study and lived separately from my parents. I encountered many Indonesian families are still with strong patriarchism which put men as leader and women must obey without protest.

[@onebikeawaysuperman3758]

This is very good if literally applies in my country. Marriage before anything else. No marriage, no kids. THERE'S SO MANY PLAYBOYS here in Philippines. Too many kids no marriage.

[@Hendra23155]

99% my Filo friends in Sydney married young and have kids 😂

[@densetsu8097]

Nice channel, I learned something new from this video. However your culture is too similar to the Arab culture. My parents are Arabs but I was born and raised in Italy, so I’m a mixed mind. Unfortunately the Arab women of today are absolutely toxics, that’s why I chosen a Asian woman, in particularly a Indonesian because I’m Muslim too. Alhamdulillah the world is big, and no one have necessarily marry a local woman, if he think they are not good. I always thought the woman have to follow me, and not the opposite. I’m a young man, but my ideas about this speech are extremely clear. I’m subscribed to your channel, terimakasih 🙏🏽

[@Hendra23155]

Grazie my friend! Welcome aboard, glad that you find it informative. It's similar to Arab culture probably because Indonesia is muslim majority country and we are culturally conservative.

[@densetsu8097]

@@Hendra23155 figurati amico :)) you’re right, we have a lot in common, probably as you already said, for the religion.

[@mardhiyahcollection7424]

Anda benar, wanita Arab sekarang emang sdh banyak yg beracun😆

[@misterx3770]

In Indonesia men and women are equal, but women still respect their husbands, although there are also those who are not good at being disobedient even to their own parents.

[@zeo7085]

Mostly young Indonesian women nowadays are willing to have east asian husband (maybe because of kpop)😌

[@stuharris2219]

Hello again my friend! What another great video! After marrying an Indonesian woman 3 months ago I can see that everything you said is true! It is quite a lot to take on but I love my new wife and Indonesian family very much and I see it as an honour to be the rumah keluarga! Take care and I look forward to seeing your next videos very much!

[@Hendra23155]

Congratz Stu! wish you happy and blissful marriage!! :)

[@nettyettoy867]

Ouw such a heart warming comments.thankyou,hopefully happy for a long journey 🙏

[@abdulsyahid2360]

If a woman's parents feel confident about your future and your religion is known then they will not ask

[@robinsonlandroncorrea2520]

Yes but I met an incredible Indonesian girl who's amazing... She is so different... I just love her

[@Hendra23155]

Great to hear and congrats my friend. Sound like you don’t experience major cultural shock.

[@VivaLaGEOLANDIA]

These rules apply to all the South and Southeast Asian Countries

[@Hendra23155]

Thanks, that’s my gut feeling too but can’t really confirm :)

[@rakriansindhu3290]

If you live her, then marry her. It show your commitment

[@Hendra23155]

Yeah, thing is marrying her is just the beginning of long journey hehe

[@zoomerr]

Thanks for sharing. Your explanation was very clear. I'll share this video to my foreign friend.

[@Hendra23155]

Glad you find it useful:)🙏🙏

[@onebikeawaysuperman3758]

You're a good speaker. Thankyou for explaining all of this ♥️

[@Hendra23155]

Thank you my friend, appreciate your kind words!

[@Si_nengatcha]

Actually women in Indonesia can be kepala keluarga (head of the family) if her husband died, or when both are divorced and she has full custody of the children/the children come to live with her instead of him. Basically the head of the family would be the one who assumed responsibility in that household. Usually husband, but can be a woman if no husband.

[@Hendra23155]

Yes you are right my friend, this video assumes both husband and wife is still alive, I should have made that clearer , thanks for sharing this.

[@Torchiy]

Selamat malam. I just stumbled upon your channel. Don't forget to mention that for a muslim family a mas kawin is also required. Tapi jumlahnya bisa dinegosiasikan 😅

[@Hendra23155]

Selamat sore di Sydney. Oh ya bener jg lupa masukin mas kawin (dowry). Makasih dah melengkapi:)

[@lagurichardluke8515]

Thanks so Much,I'm in Love with an Indonesian Girl.And Now I Have Known We have the same Marital Cultures Here In Uganda 🇺🇬 -East Africa.

[@Hendra23155]

Glad you find it informative my friend, I never knew Uganda share similar marital culture !

[@fdfdv8237]

​@@Hendra23155Either he is a Muslim or in a region with Muslims, but Islam is a common culture among any Muslim community. The Muslim in Indonesia has more common customs with the Egyptian Muslim than the common customs between the Muslim Indonesian and the non-Muslim Indonesian. And whoever says that there is something that unites more than Islam, whether it is a nationality, a homeland, or a geographical location, then he is a liar

[@dessysiti]

Semoga mendapat jodoh wanita Indonesia 😊

[@nisavlog4342]

Ngakak banget yang ekspektasi & realita diawal😭🤣

[@Hendra23155]

Hahhaa biar gak kaget tar abis married :p

[@pratomocahyonugroho2040]

Makanya orang Indonesia kalau nikah, biasanya cari yang keluarga mertuanya tidak banyak masalah,biar tidak Tambah pusing, ngurus istri dan keluarga istri plus sanak familinya.

[@Kharrin_Ragnfrior]

Thank you for creating this video! Finally I can explain it properly to my boyfriend about Indonesian marriage culture

[@Hendra23155]

All the best in your relationship my friend :)

[@wanishabirahmad9268]

Is ur boyfriend Indonesian or Pakistani

[@Kharrin_Ragnfrior]

@@wanishabirahmad9268 German

[@Atif383]

Why u asked about Pakistani😂​@@wanishabirahmad9268

[@mma4l]

Thank You Sir! This is info is greatly appreciated.

[@Hendra23155]

No worries my friend :)

[@nasgothus]

Rule #5: You must love *indomie* .

[@Hendra23155]

@@nasgothus yes! Haha

[@salimyasini3100]

Hie there. I'm a Muslim man in Zimbabwe, I've been thinking of initiating it respectfully with an Indonesian Muslimah, I already know her and greeted her 😂. I'm now worried but I hope it works out.

[@Hendra23155]

Good luck to you my friend! Insya Allah all going well!

[@salimyasini3100]

@@Hendra23155 Jazaka'Allah for that.

[@dannyshett]

Interesting. I'm non Muslim from Cyprus. I just wanted to know if it's allowed to date Indonesian woman. I consider the importance of the character of women

[@Hendra23155]

none will stop you to date Indonesian woman my friend :)

[@carlc.4714]

And there are also non-muslim women in Indonesia. ☺️

[@Si_nengatcha]

​@@carlc.4714 Plenty of non Muslim Indonesia women. He just has to find one... 😊

[@MiM-IpohCity]

Whatever you said could it be base on the size of your treasury and your family status? I find Indonesian women do not ask so may question nor the in-laws to be asking more before the marriage. Or either that I am just the luckiest guy to have an easy going family-in-law with no requests of family support. We had clear conversations on those matters.

[@Hendra23155]

That’s the thing, there’s no such thing as “typical Indonesian woman” and I hope I made it clear in beginning of vid. Indonesia is so diverse, we have Javanese, Bataknese, Papuan, Sundanese, Chinese etc. My in-laws thankfully didn’t ask much either when I proposed, guess we are lucky 😉

[@zizodbest]

Hi, please, where are you from and when you got married in Indonesia, where you expected to bring your family?

[@MiM-IpohCity]

@@zizodbest I am in Malaysia. My wife is from Jakarta and we married here in Malaysia. Yes. The marriage process is tedious and time consuming but we managed without paying an agent. Agents will cost a lot of money, from RM3000 just to process the marital status. Not all Indonesian women have demands. You just only need to know where to look and have an understanding.

[@zizodbest]

@MsianFigSculptor thank so much for the info. So she didn't have to bring her family? I was actually in Malaysia for 3 years by theway.

[@OnStages]

Not only to Indonesian woman, but also to man. I mean, when you married to Indonesian, you are married to his/her family as well. And that's what I don't want happen to me 😊😊, I don't want to marry a man with his whole family 😆. LOL

[@Hendra23155]

Hahhaa. My wife doesn’t feel marrying to my family side , our parents live in different city and we live overseas does help 😆

[@ibukontraktor-taqwaproperty]

This applies only to Javanese cultures, I think, because some of these are alien to me. I am an Indonesian but not a Javan and we marry only parents-in-laws. Their siblings we know but not married to.

[@RasulUrinov-q5l]

I wanna marry my Indonesian gf in recent years. These cultures are pretty similar to an uzbek culture. I love an Indonesian culture. They are Muslims and very friendly. I very respect em. MAY ALLAH MAKE ME TO REACH MY GF IN THE FUTURE

[@Hendra23155]

@@RasulUrinov-q5l Insya Allah all is going well for you!

[@RasulUrinov-q5l]

@@Hendra23155 thanks

[@artofverity8791]

Thank you for making this in English.

[@Hendra23155]

Anytime my friend, please let me know if there’s any topic you want me to cover, i’ll do my best.

[@artofverity8791]

@@Hendra23155 I feel that Bahasa Indonesia can be quite harsh with words. Indonesia need to use tone, emojis or a lots of manners like "mohon maaf" "Halo, selamat siang". Also it's weird to me that to ask a simple question on the phone (eg. Price/ opening times) first I need to give my full name and phone number. Indonesia would do good with improved communication, and strict noise limits. But regardless, I enjoy living in Bali.

[@rockingstar5331]

Thanks man ❤ A new subscriber from north India 🇮🇳

[@Hendra23155]

@@rockingstar5331 thanks 🙏 welcome abroad :)

[@lovemonster7283]

Wow, thank you alot you enlighten me so hell doesn't cover the earth entirely, I'm living in it for so long. I don't know how to speak to women, here it's so different, I'm really not a good candidate even in hellish nation. Happily for me, she's not living in Jakarta anymore. But I start to wonder what luck do I get to had the opportunity to befriend such an empowered woman. I wasn't aware of the cultural differences, so different! Nice well done video.

[@Hendra23155]

Thanks , glad you find it insightful. Hope you great luck in finding the one:)

[@stevepollard2169]

Can someone help me. I am a christian male looking to marry an indonesian Buddhist woman. What are my procedures to convert to Buddhism.

[@Hendra23155]

@@stevepollard2169 converting to Buddhism is straight forward I think. I know a Catholic got married in temple because his fiance is Buddhist and he didn’t want his fiancé to go through lengthy Catholic conversion

[@islandpoet]

hello hendra, nice video! i've been looking on the internet for a video about forein women and indonesian men , and also how do indonesians think about arab girls getting married into indonesian families

[@Hendra23155]

I assume both of them are muslims, I’d imagine there would be less barrier as they share similar values

[@koufax174]

Thank you. I subscribed to your channel. Interesting information on Indonesia

[@Hendra23155]

thanks my friend for your support :)

[@marianipawiro5978]

A good Indonesian woman when they re marrying foreign man is actually a test of her belief on marriage sanctity, that it shall be forever and after like her parents. She can opt for a prenup or separate account, therefor neglect any mishap he might do, as long as he give nafkah.

[@Hendra23155]

marriage within same culture is a hard work, let alone between two different culture. "as long as he give nafkah". Not sure how it fits in modern world. Many educated urban Indonesian women I know have aspiration. They work not purely for money, but also for sense of achievement. They don't want to be just the wife of Mr Successful.

[@dfruitziga2543]

True story: The wedding tradition in Indonesia goes this way: if your parents host the party, your name is written before/above your spouse's name in the invitation, doesn't matter if you're the husband or wife. Now, An Arab guy married an Indonesian lady. Because the wedding is held in Indonesia, obviously the wife's parents become the host, and the wife's name in the invitation is put above the husband's. Being an Arab guy, he couldn't accept this way, thinking that it will be somewhat humiliating that he goes below his wife, even if it's just on a piece of paper. So he told the wife's family, "Put my name upward anyway, or this wedding never happen." Long story short, they granted his wish. However, his Arab friends who married other Indonesian ladies didn't get to win their negotiation, and he laughed them off (because again, that invitation thing it's considered embarrassing in the Arab culture)😅 Moral of the story: just like any other situation, you always get to negotiate if you find that your Indonesian fiancee's family rule is a bit absurd for you. Compromise. Don't worry so much because you always get to bargain. Of course, while negotiating, obey the local etiquette, always choose the high road, and be fair to everyone. Yes, sacrifices happen but it always happens in any kind of marriage, even if you marry someone from your own circle, right? So, step up on your leadership in handling the problems, and enjoy the perks of marrying an Indonesian lady. Good luck.

[@Hendra23155]

Hahhaa that’s epic! Thanks for sharing :)

[@mardhiyahcollection7424]

😆😆😆

[@hassanshafiq3347]

Amazing video. Thank you!!

[@Hendra23155]

You’re welcome my friend:)

[@ibukontraktor-taqwaproperty]

I think what you mean is: Javan Indonesians (which is more than half Indonesians) because some of these do not apply to other cultures in Indonesia. Certainly not to mine.

[@Hendra23155]

That’s right Bu. I hope I made it clear in video intro that there’s no such thing as “typical Indonesian woman” because we are so diverse e.g. Javanese, Bataknese, Papuan, Balinese etc.

[@alibarron7558]

@@Hendra23155 Also different religions and cultures, all the way to Papua (Irian Jaya). The diversity is Indonesia's beauty.

[@Hendra23155]

@@alibarron7558 exactly my friend!

[@judask13]

hey friend , met my gf in NZ she's indo chinese, we;ve talk aobut it and i asked permission with her parents when i went to indonesia with her her dad appears to approved and wants to meet my parents but her mom was so nice to me before but went 180degrees on her opinion and abit skeptical after i asked. my gf saying dont bother with it. Now we're just focusing improving ourselfs and making our relationship stronger until the mom have the green light do i have to pay dowry as well?

[@Hendra23155]

Depends on girls’s family. Like in my case I just paid “symbolic” dowry like fruits hamper , my in-laws aren’t too fuss about tradition :)

[@zizodbest]

Hi, im an international student in Australia, and im recently thinking of marrying someone in Indonesia. Will it be compulsory for me to bring my family all the way from my country to Indonesia, or i can just go there alone and get it done? Also, do you have any idea how much the bride price usually is, especially in places like manado. ? Thanks.

[@Hendra23155]

Only once you reach the stage where you guys are about to get engaged. If you just want to get to know your family then it’s fine to go on your own. Not sure how dowry in Manado, best ask the girl:)

[@sayaorangkaya221]

Kita yang sesama indonesia saja gak gak bisa bawa borang tua karna ekonomi misal yang wanita dari jawa tengah calon suaminya dari ntb otomatis sangat jauh pasagan masing masing sudah saling mengunjungi orang tuanya yang penting anda sudah minta restu dan bisa dikenalkan pakai live wa

[@kaijisan1206]

hey man, if i marry an indonesian woman only at the mosque and not with the state, is there a high risk that one day the police catches and sends me to prison ?

[@Hendra23155]

@@kaijisan1206 then you will have admin hell. If you decide to have kids in future you will have hard time enrolling them to school. From what I understand they ask marriage certificate to produce birth certificate

[@usinebob]

So what if after you get married, you cannot conceive?

[@Hendra23155]

@@usinebob some people I know go for IVF. Few adopt from orphanages

[@holpcs2]

I very much appreciate this video. I live in the states, but have been talking to an Indonesian woman who is Javanese for about a week now. I'm trying to learn about her culture as much as I can because she's a sweet and thoughtful woman, and seems to be a keeper.

[@Hendra23155]

Good luck to you my friend! :)

[@KellySmith-le3ok]

Learn the language, from one American to another, and it's a wonderful place with great people.

[@oskarp.4665]

Does this apply to divorce women with child or children

[@Hendra23155]

@@oskarp.4665 as far as I know it does

[@whontech9853]

No indonesian woman four me

[@Atif383]

BUT U DON'T KNOW ADULTERY IS VERY COMMON IN INDONESIA NOWADAYS

[@Hendra23155]

@@Atif383 in big cities and among the rich, yes I have seen some but not for average ppl though

[@brooklynj2255]

Wihh mantapp bang penjelasannya. Edukatif dan gak bertele-tele. Mostly inisih yang jadi gap nya. Yes! Seneng juga liat komen nya kebanyakan positif. Sehat2 bang

[@Hendra23155]

Makasih banyak apresiasianya Pak!

[@starvinmarvin4038]

I’ve been married now to a wonderful Indonesian woman for three years and I seen someone else in the comments say mountain time the women are fantastic they’re kind that friendly and they’re hard-working and dedicated and the culture and the Indonesian people in general amazing I’d love it

[@Hendra23155]

Great to hear that my friend! Wish you blissful marriage for another 3 years and beyond!

[@jamesrose6751]

I cannot wait to marry my wonderful indonesian love

[@ZidaneTribal]

Terribly lazy. And they are not accustomed to help their parents. The parents are already old and work alone in the field, while the children live behind a wall and almost never help in the field. In Russia, this is nonsense. In Russia, children even travel hundreds of kilometers to help their parents in some way (for example, to plant or remove potatoes.). And if they live in the same locality, then helping their parents is like drinking tea. I have not seen this in Indonesia. And the Indonesians themselves, under my wife's video (in which I help her parents in the field), write that many Indonesians cannot be forced to go out into the field to help their parents.

[@AhmedHafiz-pp4nj]

Assalamualaikum 🙏🙏

[@chenchen3582]

Im Filipino iam lucky i have girlfriend Indonesian

[@Hendra23155]

great to hear that my friend!

[@johnavellano5119]

do u accept Philippines is you Hispanic brother

[@Hendra23155]

I guess they just share Spanish sounding name 🫢

[@DeandreSteven]

My girlfreind is indonesia from sumatra, she is batak christian as well. Is it normal or typical for me to pay dowry or not?

[@DeandreSteven]

Full disclosure. I am american

[@Hendra23155]

It’s common to pay dowry in Indonesia, I have seen it in Javanese and Chinese Indonesian marriage. It’s mainly ceremonial and most families don’t expect the man to pay much unless you are rich and famous :)

[@addiekhan-nc3yi]

Ohhh nyyy God the same or more apples in Pakistan..it means very the same culture.

[@Hendra23155]

@@addiekhan-nc3yi yeah Muslim majority country :)

[@addiekhan-nc3yi]

@@Hendra23155 yes you are right

[@mrindians2kvlog]

#mrindians2k vlog

[@dark-void2174]

cough cough ~~ brother i can fulfill everything you said but the problem is religion conversion, you know i am like i know god exists and i do pray to god but i am not into religions but rather like the idea of fictional taoism ( being delulu -> delusional). It's not like i hate islam or anything but still i dont want to convert or have any religion.

[@Bonifatio]

lol 0:04 gambarnya kok realitynya jadi kaya Johnny Depp sama Amber Heard haha serem banget

[@Hendra23155]

Yoiiii warning biar pada gak kaget haha

[@aladdin025]

When I grow up I want to marry Indonesian women

[@Hendra23155]

Good luck to you my friend :)

[@seetruth8775]

Soo basically I will have to be a wealthy man. Or 100k a year to marry over here.

[@Hendra23155]

It depends how big you want to spend on wedding, mine was quite simple for Indonesian standard, our families understood we rather spent it for our future life than blew it in one night. Yes in-law got a say in your life but you can expect some help too 😉

[@seetruth8775]

@@Hendra23155 i understand

[@alibarron7558]

If you make U.S. 100K per year, you will be very wealthy in nearly all countries in southeast Asia. $500 per month is a good wage within Indonesia for Indonesians. True the major metropolitan areas are more expensive. You can live a good, but not extravagant life, on $ 2K per month (bulan).

[@arinkromowidjojo2236]

Hallo Ko,new subscriber from 🇩🇪

[@Hendra23155]

Hallo Pak Arin, makasih ya! :)

[@NoRVever]

Iam English marriaged 10 years to an Indonesian women 🤣

[@Hendra23155]

Wish you another 10 years of marriage and beyond! :)

[@NoRVever]

@@Hendra23155 Thx

[@jeffersonaraujoelcristiano]

1:50 Of course. Indonesian women must convert to catholicism.

[@hawkhawk9360]

Nice video, Some Muslims around the world as you know they have 2 or more wife's, do people in Indonesia have the same or not really?

[@Hendra23155]

Yes some do have 2 or more wives but it’s not that common. Also, non-muslims (especially the rich) like late Eka Tjipta Widjaja (Chinese Indonesian) had multiple wives!

[@theoytpremium]

you allow to have more than 1 wife, but it’s very rare. even poligamy got discriminate and people will making fun of you. because poligamy is not our culture. here we’ll think that men who poligmay is very hypersexual and “MESUM”

[@winnysumiok5257]

Aku sukak banget penjelasannya ko’. Thankyou banget sudah menjelaskan kepada cowo2 luar negri diluar sana ❤🎉

[@Hendra23155]

@@winnysumiok5257 haha biar pada gak culture shock married ama org indo :p makasih dah mampir

[@frawldog]

Easy women

[@Hendra23155]

Probably for good looking man like you :p

[@iraninawati-ug8rq]

Thank you so much Bro. I'm Indonesian who living in Taiwan. my boyfriend and soon will be my husband. I'm sure I will shared this video to my boyfriend in California. Because he is American. Thank again for the very nice video

[@Hendra23155]

@@iraninawati-ug8rq no worries. Hope things going well for you guys :)

[@ryanbadgerheart]

In short - moglie e buoi dei paesi tuoi - do not marry Indonesian Women (I did)

[@assadullah3819]

I am from Pakistan,and I am in love with an Indonesian girl. She also loves me very much. we have been on Instagram since 2020. She taught me everything about her customs and traditions. Inshallah,I will be in Indonesia in next month to marry her. She is everything for me.I can't live without her.

[@Hendra23155]

Insya Allah your relationship is progressing well for you my friend and happy Ramadan :)

[@Michael9-23-15]

I know how you feel. I couldn't imagine what I would do without my Javanese girl.

[@naomi2177]

Rata-rata orang Indonesia itu pada cuek sama pasangannya dan terlalu gengsi untuk memberikan kasih sayang apalagi di depan umum karena di anggap tidak sopan Apalagi suku batak🗿🗿🗿

[@Hendra23155]

Mungkin kali ya. Takut disiut2in depan umum hehe

[@mayu_647]

In Bali is so open for youngster/adults to live together even you're not married. Might be doesn't applies to other provinces

[@Hendra23155]

Oow really?? That’s news to me. Bali is probably the most exposed to external culture compared to rest of Indonesia but I never know they go that far

[@mayu_647]

@@Hendra23155 I've witnessed most of my friends they date, live together (*seperately from parents). And some of their parents are old and they can do such thing 😹.

[@Hendra23155]

@@mayu_647 that’s so westernised hahhaha. Thanks Mayu, it’s breaking news to me!

[@artofverity8791]

It can happen, but usually not with Balinese and Balinese. Most Balinese have very strict local & religious commitments enforced by authority figures in the village (desa).

[@misterx3770]

Luckily other regions didn't follow, didn't imagine that Indonesian family life would be like western family life 😌

[@bardwheelo]

This is why I love you guys. Stay strong.

[@RhinoInternational86]

Funny that you mention the word breadwinner. Because my Indonesia girlfriend does not like bread and wants only rice.

[@Hendra23155]

@@RhinoInternational86 ricewinner for you then 😜

[@spencerbainter677]

The whole family is my family and that is it nothing else

[@Hendra23155]

good on ya my friend!

[@Dc_tech386]

I am a foreigner that is dating and Indonesia woman we plan to get married soon I know about the religion because I am a Muslim so that don't matter to me she is Muslim but I have to take full care her and we or not married yet she ask me for everything vehicle house money to take care of her family and yet still she don't tell her entire family about me if I don't give her what she want she will stop talking to me or turn her phone off even though we haven't meet face to face

[@Hendra23155]

@@Dc_tech386 that smells like a gold digger to me. I don’t know her of course, please be extremely cautious!

[@shinji906]

I live in France and my girlfriend lives in Indonesia, I want to marry her and bring her to France, do I still have to send money to her family? Are indonesians usually ok with a western man marrying their daughter as long as I am muslim?

[@Hendra23155]

She usually sends money if her family is struggling (or ask for husband’s help if she is a stay at home wife). Some still send money for filial piety reason. Heaps of muslim Indonesian woman marrying westerner my friend, wish you best of luck 🤞

[@mhmoochy]

Hi, I wanna ask a question, what if you met an Indonesian woman online and she has a tuition fee debt of 50k USD, should you still continue with her?

[@Hendra23155]

Speaking strictly from Indonesian culture perspective she would expect you to help paying down the debt. I don’t have an answer to that to be honest, can’t see myself marrying $50K debt.

[@jeffersonaraujoelcristiano]

3:45 I find it realy positive. I am gonig to use this in Peru.

[@elijahdays1689]

With the, very reasonable, expectation of religious conversion in marriage, are there problems in Indonesia with a woman from a Muslim family marrying a Christian man and converting to Christian faith?...

[@Hendra23155]

It shouldn’t be an issue if she is willing to convert to Christianity (even better if her family supports her decision). But I gotta say it’s rare , it’s usually the other way around.

[@trix_42]

I'm watching your videos to know a bit more about Indonesia I live far away, but I can feel what you said about marrying the family Even thought there is not a formal agreement, some people around the world have really "affectionate" family that will pretend to stay very close to the couple Once I left a travelling suitcase at my new boyfriend's home (family home). We then had to go out The morning after I found my suitcase opened and I discovered her mother did the laundry I had a pair of jeans that I broken during the travel and she asked me why i didn't sew to fix them I was quite embarassed, cause my own mother would never do that. She taught me to do everything by myself but respect other's spaces In fact, i had planned to do the laundry myself as usual

[@Hendra23155]

haha no formal agreement per se, it's just the way it is. What happened to you is not unheard of. Indonesian concept of privacy is so different to the West haha

[@violinbite]

Seems like the guy need to have quite a financial stand marry an indonesian wife.

[@Hendra23155]

It’s true for many Asian cultures. You need to have good financial standing to marry Chinese or Korean.

[@ArchieTheCat20]

bang gimana cara dapatkan suami orang belanda ? saya sering dikecewain sama cowok belanda 😂 cowok belanda baik sih tapi mereka kalo udah cemburu dan dicuekin langsung marah gak mau bales whatsapp. pernah pas kerja di british school ada 2 bule belanda dan inggris rebutan saya (bukan kepedean yah) satunya parents dan satunya teacher. akhirnya saya pacaran sama parents kebetulan dia duda eh 3 tahun akhirnya dia cemburu gara2 saya accept friend cowok belanda juga 😢 jadi serba salah 😢

[@Hendra23155]

Waduh gk qualified ksh jawaban, coba tanya ChatGPT jawab apa 😁

[@ricoferdianalexander7069]

Makanya kita ga maju2 wkwk 🤐 Ampun jgn dbantai 😅

[@Hendra23155]

Hahha santai pak santai, gak ada yg bantai koq haha.

[@dfruitziga2543]

negara maju seperti Jepang pun ada sisi konservatifnya, bro ^^ bukan bantai, hanya menjelaskan sisi perbedaan di Indonesia aja. Toh semua keadaan pastiada solusinya

[@eddiekhan672]

Wow amazing we have exectly same culture...love from pakistan

[@Hendra23155]

Yeah we are both Muslim majority countries! Thanks for stopping by my friend :)

[@VeraNita-u9q]

Yes that's true thank you for your opinion ,the best for you 👍🌹🙂

[@Hendra23155]

Thanks my friend :)

[@lucianello100]

Very helpful,thanks Hendra

[@Hendra23155]

@@lucianello100 glad you find it helpful:)

[@spencerbainter677]

The things you were explaining are very simple because my mother is a brown woman, many people refer to as “Brown“ she is a Native American and yes we marry the entire issue of family if that makes sense to you. There is no common if that’s what you want to call it about what we marry. It is the entire family that we marry. Even though I am very much a “white man“ with German heritage because of my father’s blood

[@Hendra23155]

yes we marry the entire issue of family if that makes sense to you => make perfect sense to me haha. On flip side, your problem is their problem too haha :)

[@theandrogynousmisogynist]

Yea man, I’m native and if u marry one of us you’ve pretty much married the entire family lol.

[@TGSM19]

I have fallen in love with a indonesian woman , she lives in palembang, i want to marry her and take her abroad to my country in holland, what do you think her parents will say ? I am muslim , she is 27 i am 37, so there is a 10 year age difference.

[@Hendra23155]

I don’t see 10 years age gap is an issue assuming she is also Muslim. I have seen 12 years gap 😂. Just tell her family you love “pempek “ ( Palembang fish cake). All the best with your love my friend

[@TGSM19]

@@Hendra23155 Awesome thank you !

[@Hendra23155]

@@TGSM19 anytime:)

[@dt8762]

#1 there not American modern women. 👍

[@hankvanduijn]

Very interesting video mate! Thank you!

[@Hendra23155]

Your welcome! 🤗

[@mechniack]

You say God ! What God. There's no God it's 100% nonsense

[@Hendra23155]

Some Indonesians concur, they keep it to themselves for obvious reason :)

[@sonjoydevnath9529]

hello, brother i want get married in future my girlfriend, but the problem is i from another country and my religion is also different, and i will match my religion indonesia, please can you tell me the procedure is

[@Hendra23155]

hello Sonjoy, if you are happy to convert to your girlfriend's religion then you have removed big hurdle. Next is matter of filling out paperworks: get your original birth certificate, passport, local ID etc ready. Indonesian embassy in your country is the best place to get accurate info, you need to go there anyway because you'll need to fill out Marriage Form and ratify your docs. Good luck my friend.

[@mohamedrisly33]

How many Indonesian women you have experience with?

[@Hendra23155]

As a friend: plenty :)

[@springteen3743]

What if my family and my problems are her problems too? 🤔

[@Hendra23155]

Yeah sort of….but again every family is different :)

[@wilonahamid5568]

I'm Indonesian loud and proud 🗣🗣

[@Hendra23155]

Good on you my friend :)

[@adventureswithcharlie9133]

I met a women from bekasi she wants me too come and get married .. but no sex before marriage rule .

[@Hendra23155]

Wish you live happily ever after my friend!

[@G1manime]

Thank you for the information

[@Hendra23155]

your welcome my friend :)

[@Ali_king290]

Hi Hendra how are u can we get ur contects

[@Hendra23155]

You can contact me on: [e-mail]

[@RaquelTV207]

hi sir can u please make a video in how to know the culture of Indonesian man before getting married

[@Hendra23155]

Thanks I will consider it for future vids. Generally Indonesian men are traditional i.e. they assume their role being main breadwinner, expect respect from wife (even obedience for some). Sharing housework load and raising kids is secondary to them. Not all of them are like this of course. Those living in big cities and educated tend to treat their wife as an equal partner in marriage.

[@RaquelTV207]

@@Hendra23155 thank u for that info sir ✌️👍

[@ansariazmi7069]

I m from India I m alhamdulillah Muslim I need marriage Indonesian ladies

[@Hendra23155]

Insya Allah you will meet your soulmate soon :)

[@Rai.1869]

Helooo

[@gogogolyra1340]

Hi👋 I have a question: is it allowed for an indonesian muslim woman to marry a catholic man in indonesia?? My catholic friend is seriously contemplating marriage but hes worried about being forced to convert

[@Hendra23155]

I don't think it's possible for civic marriage purpose. Religion IS part of marriage in Indonesia. There are 2 ways couples get around this technicality: get married overseas or get married locally but they quote 1 religion only for civil ceremony then worship according to their faith once they are done with paperwork. I hardly ever heard a muslim converts to other religion for sake of marriage, it's usually the other way around, I am afraid your catholic friend will face huge social pressure to convert.

[@gogogolyra1340]

Thanks for the advice👍

[@koufax174]

Are large age gap relationships with foreigners common? Where is best places to meet good traditional women?

[@Hendra23155]

I have seen some indo woman married to much older Westerner but can’t say whether it’s common. Go to country sides if you wish to meet good traditional women. Good luck my friend

[@linaamuliah7513]

No. It's not common. We're not as cheap as philipinean😂

[@Atif383]

​@linaamuliitah7513 It's common in Indonesia I have seen that

[@koufax174]

Thank you 🙏🏼

[@seetruth8775]

And her family has a say in my marriage.

[@christophe5756]

👍🏽👍🏽

[@amitwalve7162]

hey bro..i have seen your video .just want to know if my girl is an indonesian muslim and by religion i am hindu..can we both carry our own religions and get married in indonesia??

[@Hendra23155]

You can get married overseas but not in Indonesia as far as I know. Also, I would be surprised if you don’t get pressured to convert 😂

[@goku5323]

According to ISLAM a Muslim and a hindu can not marry each other at any circumstances. *Although you can marry Indonesian hindu girl. They are in majority in Bali.*

[@theoytpremium]

actually in islam, muslim also can get married with non muslim. but only with brahamic religion, which is chritian and judaism. we cannot married with hindu, budhist, and many

[@vasyear]

What if the guy is disabled and is on benifits like me?

[@Hendra23155]

Just being upfront to her, you never know my friend

[@vasyear]

She knows i'm disabled and we've gotten together but I'm thinking more about the family how would they view a disabled guy seeking their daughter/sister?@@Hendra23155

[@moonbow4088]

Ok siap share ke gebetan 🙈 thank u ko! Sukses sllu

[@Hendra23155]

Siapp, moga2 lancar y! :)

[@iqluvnat]

My mum is Indo and my dad is Aussie haha, funny how you mentioned Australia tbh I guess Indonesian women marrying white men is common

[@Hendra23155]

Haha true! I hardly seen indo male marrying Caucasian woman!

[@iqluvnat]

@@Hendra23155 yeahhh, i do know one couple in sydney thats an indo male and aussie woman but i think thats the only one 😅 and the guy was supposed to be in an arranged marriage with my indo aunt but i don’t know what happened there

[@Hendra23155]

@@iqluvnat his family most likely disowned him by now haha

[@iqluvnat]

@@Hendra23155 yeah 😭