4 Helpful Tips For Nannies With Parents Working From Home

[@bpom527]

I thought I would hate working with parents home and I said I would never do it... but then I had 2 positions where the mom was home(mom and dad at the other) and I absolutely loved it! I had a wonderful relationship with the moms. They let me do my job but I would also encourage them to be with their child whenever they wanted because children need their moms. It was wonderful!

[@TheNannySolution]

That is great to hear!

[@samarilynn3738]

Yea with me it was a little different and a lot of adjustments made

[@Nanny4b]

Same here!

[@bpom527]

@@samarilynn3738 I'm sorry your experience wasn't very good. I'm sure it really depends on the families and personalities involved. Hopefully you found a better fit for yourself. :)

[@bpom527]

@@Nanny4b Yay! Glad your experience was good too! :)

[@treefrog1018]

Nanny here. Rushing in to soothe your child when you have a nanny REALLY hurts the nanny's bonding with the child. I had a parent who rushed in every time and consistently coached me on how to do tiny details (in front of the child). Very rarely did the parents ever say to their child "[Nanny] is in charge. It's up to Nanny if you can do that." Four years later, this preschooler sees me as a grown-up playmate and not an adult the child can trust and rely on. It is a subtle difference but very clear dynamic in our relationship and I find it rather disheartening as a nanny. As a babysitter, it's great but my job as a nanny is to be a Team with the Parents. A nanny is meant to be one of the 5 safe adults your kid can go to as authority and non-judgmental safety. I am not that person for this child despite working with them every day for 3 years straight during a pandemic (where we were in each other's very small COVID bubble).

[@treefrog1018]

I have since started another job with a baby as the preschooler is in school now. The new family works from home and have very clear boundaries. They only come to help if I ask (or the rare occasion their Parent Gut tells them to come -which I will always allow). I have noticed an immediate difference in my relationship with the baby than with the preschooler (when they were a baby). Preschooler (when they were a Baby) was always nervous to transition to have time with me so Nanny Mom and I had a whole parting ritual we did to ease Nanny Mom out the door. New Nanny Baby comes right to me when I walk in the door and together Baby and I manage our parting ritual as the parents leave. This makes a huge difference in my relationship with the baby. While my relationship with my nanny kids depends on my relationship with the parents, I feel New Baby and I have our own relationship rather than with Preschooler, our relationship has a third wheel: The Parents -and the vibe between Preschooler and me is off.

[@TheNannySolution]

It is definitely a challenging position to be in and not all parents know how to work from home alongside the nanny.

[@TravelSeets]

You need to communicate that with the parents

[@debvaic]

Currently nannying for a family that both parents work from home in an office. It drives me crazy that she texts me all the time “is he hungry” “whys he crying” “is he tired” it’s my fist time with staying home parents and it’s awful. When kid’s sleeping and I can eat and take a break, she comes right into me to talk and ask non sense stuff. Looking for a new family that really goes to work asap!

[@TheNannySolution]

I know it can be hard with parents working from home. Unfortunately that seems to be the norm for many nannies. I would suggest you sit down and have a conversation with the family letting them know how you are feeling. Families often don't think about it from your shoes. What if dad always texted mom when the baby cried? Confidently tell them you are handling the situation.

[@hannahscott6604]

I am currently experiencing this and I’m searching for another fam

[@pamelap9821]

This sounds like a boundary issue. Have you spoke with the parents about boundaries? Just curious.

[@debvaic]

@@pamelap9821 I left them and started nannying for a new family in January. Things are wayyy better but still some boundary problem when the mom is around 🤡

[@visionarietta2]

They just don't understand nor care about how hard this is for nannies. I am so sorry you are goung through this. I am too.

[@1tiffanylynette146]

Every single job I’ve had in Los Angeles, CA - parents have worked from home. Fortunately, I’ve been greatly prepared for this time.

[@TheNannySolution]

You're one step ahead of many nannies!

[@melissarocha9339]

Is it normal i feel very awkward when the mom is around! As if im just not as good or confident with what i should do when shes there....

[@TheNannySolution]

It can definitely be uncomfortable when mom is home. It will depend on the relationship you have with the parents. Try talking to the mom about what she would like you to do when she is around. Should you take the lead? Is it better if you take the kids out to the park? They hired you for a reason so let your confidence shine! 💕

[@phoeberose9089]

I feel the same way, especially if an issue comes up because I start to feel wierd about disciplining the child Infront of their dad who is home even though I know what I’m doing and taking appropriate action

[@pmthedonutgirl5221]

I feel inadequate having them around too

[@puritywangare731]

My current situation 😢😢

[@davilaangelica94]

I feel the same way!

[@MsSogo100]

You were right, bother the children! I had a parent, come out of the office and interrupt while the children are playing!! It can be frustrating, thanks so much for the insight, this is so helpful.

[@TheNannySolution]

You are welcome.

[@RabidDisposition]

That is their child. They are allowed to come and "interrupt" Whatever whenever. Stop claiming ownership over children that aren't yours, weirdo.

[@itzberryplayz7260]

@@RabidDispositionmaybe they shouldn’t have a nanny to begin with, since it’s their child.

[@carlel121]

@@RabidDispositionyou are talking nonsense, no they can’t! If they understand the psicology of a child.

[@pmthedonutgirl5221]

Mostly I sympathize with the caregivers because it makes their job harder

[@TheNannySolution]

Not all nannies feel that way. It depends on the family and the relationship.

[@carlel121]

@@TheNannySolutionnot all but most! Especially first time parents they feel that they are helping but they are not and it depends on the child too, some children are more naturally more attached to parents then others, that’s why not all the situations are the same.

[@carlel121]

A lot harder! Parents weren’t here for 2 days omg she was the happiest baby ever, now parents are here, I’m miserable! She won’t let them work but won’t come to me! 🙄

[@TravelSeets]

I had a trial day with a family of a new infant. I have experience with infants in a daycare and this family had so much anxiety.. looking over my shoulder the whole day it was very uncomfortable, at one point telling me how to hold the baby, and telling me to sing the baby to sleep while everyone was in the room watching me. We never communicated again after that day, thank god!

[@TheNannySolution]

That can be stressful!

[@RabidDisposition]

Parents wanting to make sure their nanny is a good fit rather than just hiring a random and leaving their kid alone with you? What monsters they are!

[@TravelSeets]

Ok, telling me to sing to the baby with them in the room was uncalled for and weird.@@RabidDisposition

[@polamidget1926]

I had a very bad day yesterday with my family and I need to have a pow wow with mine my boss is on maternity leave and dad works from home they expect me to take care of a dog, do all house hold laundry dishes sanitize bottle take care of a 2 month old and 2 year old that throws tantrums and rewards her with candy when I try to disabline her. I was very annoy ed and gave them a d attitude yesterday so I'm walking into the lion den today. Something needs to change one person can not be I. Charge of everything when mom is home watching movies and exercising all day. I was not supposed to get the baby all day until 6 more weeks when she returns to work and now I'm totally overwhelmed. This job is not fun anymore and I'm thinking of leaving because talking to them isn't going to do any good. Most families expect way too much for too little pay.

[@TheNannySolution]

I am sorry to hear that you are not being treated well. You might want to start the day by apologizing foe your attitude yesterday. Explain that you are overwhelmed and would like to have sit down to talk about your job responsibilities. Please do not mention anything about the fact that mom stays home all day and watches movies and does nothing. What she does with her time has nothing to do with your job. Talk about the value you being the family and what things need to change for you to be successful. Finally make sure you have a contract in place outlining your job responsibilities.

[@devynb7262]

i recently started a full time nanny job for a 1 and a half year old girl. she’s so sweet but she has lots of struggles. she has a speech delay and does not speak at all, she also has severe separation anxiety to the point that when her mom would be sitting on the floor and would stand up she’d start screaming, she also has issues with boundaries as i can tell she’s never had any set with her. this is extremely difficult for me to deal with as her mom and grandpa are both at home all day. if she wants something and i say no, she runs to her mom and starts crying and her mom will give it to her. they all also coddle her extensively, they constantly pick her up anytime she wants and anytime she starts whining and crying. i know how i need to work on these things with her, it’s just extremely difficult when her parents/ grandpa don’t do the same thing. it’s even harder when her mom works in the kitchen, so she can see me and her daughter the entire time i’m there. i really want to help this little girl get the tools she needs in life, it’s just so difficult with the environment i’m working in

[@devynb7262]

i really want to sit down and have a conversation with her to set boundaries. i want to see if she could move her work to a different place, if we could create a set schedule for her daughter (as she pretty much eats and sleeps whenever she feels like it), and i want to ask if i can get a schedule a week in advance (as they currently text me at 8 pm the night before what time they want me to come in the morning). i’m just too nervous to do that because i’m only 17 and don’t want to seem like i’m telling them how to parent in anyway

[@TheNannySolution]

@@devynb7262 I am sorry you are having such a challenging time. It sounds like you need a little more training and experience to handle such a difficult situation. Definitely try to have a sit down with the parents to express your concerns and come up with a solution that works for everyone. In a couple weeks we will be publishing a video about Challenging Behaviour. Check back to watch the video. Hopefully it will help!

[@thefletcheradventure]

I am so sorry you are having this problem. It is super difficult to work with parents that perhaps feel guilty for being the only parent and feel that they need to compensate by giving their beloved child everything they want. I have found in my 32 years of Professional Nanny work that my job is parent education as much as it is taking care of the child. Since you know what the child needs to be successful I would suggest to take things slowly. Take a journal and write down the behaviors that you see and the solutions that you know or feel will work. Then do some research so that you have backing you can refer to when speaking with the parent. Then, and this is VERY important, don't bring all these problems at once to the parent, because then you will possibly make her feel that she is a bad parent. When you sit down to talk with her ask that grandpa to watch the child so that you can both focus. Then use the "hamburger method". Compliment her as a parent and point out specific points of commendation, then bring 2 or 3 points of issue. Read them from your book. Remind her how much you love working with her and the child and express that you care for her daughter so much that you started doing research on your own on how to help her daughter. This will impress the mom that you care and love her daughter. It may at some point be good to remind the mother that you choose this job over others. Parents need to be reminded that you choose them as much as they choose you. Share the points you have written down and how you want to implement them. Express that you understand that this is going to be hard but with you working together you both will see gradual improvement. Ask her for her opinions of the specific solutions that you bring up and see if you can come to happy medium. For example you might ask that no sweets are given during the hours that you are there. Then at the end of the conversation, no matter if it has gone the way you would have liked or not, remind the parent how impressed you are in how she deals with the children, bring up something the daughter does that reminds you of the mother, and most of all express how impressed you are that she saw she needed some additional help so that she could focus on work and how hard as a mom that must have been and that you are prepared to be that help as much as she will allow. In the end these are their children and if they want somethings that are intolerable to you to remain the same that is their choice. It may mean that you will have to find another job, but hopefully with a few growing pains it will work out. This little girl you are taking care of actually sounds amazing!!! -P.S. have you tried sign language with her?

[@visionarietta2]

How would they feel of someone came to their place of work every 2 minutes and disrupt/ruin what they are doing? Because this is what your employer is doing to you. And mine to me as well

[@shaddybaby5530]

It can be very challenging working in a home where the parents work from home. My employer is always cooking when the child is sleeping. The living room and kitchen is in one place and the child sleeps in the living room. She's always making noise and sometimes the husband will be playing video games in the living room making it difficult to put the child to sleep. I ended up speaking to the mom about how challenging it is for me to do my job with them always in the living room. Now they have a new baby and both parents are on leave. What I do now is use my phone to play sleep music and leave it on while the child sleeps. I just have to find a way to make my job easier and go home not stressed. Thank God my contract ends with them this month.

[@TheNannySolution]

It is very difficult to find balance while the parents work from home. Sounds like you found a solution that works for you and you can take what you have learned to ensure the next job is different.

[@heatherkeeton4769]

Ugh. Dad playing video games? I would have no patience for that! I would have looked for a new job long time ago! I don’t put up with that.

[@carlel121]

I don’t understand why parents do that, honestly even if you talk to them is like you are talking to a wall 🙄

[@TravelSeets]

That sounds absolutely terrible, and you can’t be on your phone during nap time which is supposed to be your break

[@RabidDisposition]

Boo hoo. You get paid for watching a single child. Hardly even a job yet you're complaining 🙄

[@laurisbatista8324]

Im a Nani for a infant and she’s lovely her dad work from home and I adore the fact that he don’t come close to me at all while I’m with the baby don’t mind if she’s crying or whatever, he will only come if I text him saying that I need help in something order then that his always on his own world, the house is pretty big so I literally I have my own space.

[@TheNannySolution]

Sounds like the parents respect you and trust you with their child. Great job!

[@fabulouswomenpray]

Good information. Thank you!

[@TheNannySolution]

You’re welcome!

[@CarmenPortillo-vlog]

Thank you! I enjoy watching your trainings. 🙂

[@TheNannySolution]

You are so welcome!

[@michellepamela4445]

I had an interview yesterday with a potential employer, she was happy with me and said she’d send me the formal job offer tomorrow. Thing is, I would be a full time, live-in nanny (actually I would be a governess). I did say to her during the interview that if she does offer me the job I would need a few days to think before accepting/declining the offer, she said she completely understand and said she also takes her time when looking through resumes and interview people. Im just nervous because if I do accept it it would be my first live-in position, I will LIVE with them. Just afraid there would be many awkward moments.

[@TheNannySolution]

I understand. Being a live in nanny is not for everyone. Only you can make the final decision about whether you are comfortable or not. Just be sure you are clear on all the expectations of the job and your living situation (what is allowed and not allowed). And get it in writing in a contract! Good luck, keep me updated on if you accept and how it goes.

[@bpom527]

How did the job go??? I'm thinking about becoming a live in nanny and would love to hear what you thought!

[@tinzatinza7589]

So how is your live in position going on?

[@visionarietta2]

Don't do it. They will feel free to come bother you at any time. I have done that for years because I didn't think I could do better but I actually could

[@TheFrancinetrainer]

I had a situation where I put the baby down in his crib to sleep and he was crying . I set my alarm to go back in 3 mins to check up on him and comfort him . After 1 min I get a call from the parents asking why was the baby crying so much ? So Idk what is more uncomfortable having the parents working from home , or parents that don’t work from home , can watch their kids in the camera and see that nothing bad was happening and still call you .

[@TheNannySolution]

Did you know there were cameras in the home?

[@TheFrancinetrainer]

@@TheNannySolution yes and I don’t mind cameras at all. My point is some parents don’t need to be physically at home , they will still make their presence known even when they are not home . I just thought interesting that parents would still do that when they could see there was nothing wrong happening and didn’t even gave time for me to handle the situation .

[@cocoland502]

I am having an issue with a new mom I started working with . She doesn’t really respect my clock out time , and I come in on time which disrespects boundaries . How can I fix this with her , I feel as if she should know already . It’s becoming stressful , I really like my job , just not the time thing . Any tips or advice , and solution ? I love being a nanny !

[@TheNannySolution]

I am sorry to hear you are having this issue. You are not alone. It is a complaint we hear from nannies on a regular basis. The best thing for you would be to talk to your employer. Communication is key. You can check out the free downloads we have on Family Feedback and Setting Boundaries. They will give you more detail on how to approach your employer and what to say. thenannysolution.ca/resources/

[@debvaic]

It’s so stressful to see the time passing and parents not appearing.

[@AyrAyr-c5e]

You are awesome!!🎉

[@TheNannySolution]

You too!!

[@msharko6982]

How can I stop feeling so nervous around the mom boss I work with everyday from home? She’s been nice and kind to me but I notice can get easily irritated and angry. Her moods can go from very sweet to very super mad in an instant. I feel so nervous and uncomfortable working around individuals like this because I feel like I’m literally walking on eggshells all the time. One time she was irritated at something else and took the frustration out on me then felt bad and apologized. I know this will probably keep happening too. Is it normal to feel this way when working with parents sometimes? I’m just so afraid of messing up, or making mistakes, or not being perfect although I’m not perfect. I’m so overwhelmed because I go above and beyond in my nanny job to help the family in whatever ways possible. Sometimes I feel undervalued because the things I forget to do or don’t do get pointed out more than anything else. I’m already taking care of an infant, the constant dishes from the family always leaves including the parents, picking up trash, plus dog things when they come up although I don’t have to, laundry folding even though it’s not expected. I was simply supposed to do light tidying up, pick up kids, and then after starting my position I was told to help with the dishes but OMG it’s so many dishes sometimes and I’m an OCD nanny so I feel I must takle a mountain whenever I see one. How can I balance this out? Also, going back how can I stop feeling so nervous/intimated if I don’t do every single thing right? I feel so uncomfortable working when both parents are working from home and I can’t breathe sometimes. It feels like a major bomb whenever they tell me a mistake I made. I just feel so nervous and lots of anxiety when it comes to these issues.

[@TheNannySolution]

Communication is the key. Can you sit down with them and talk about how you are feeling? How hard it is for you to do your job when you never know how they are going to react. Ask them for feedback. Is there anything you could improve? Check out our resource on How to Give and Receive Feedback: thenannysolution.ca/resources/

[@msharko6982]

@@TheNannySolution Thank you this is a great idea. I have asked it has worked out. I think I need to keep on asking. Something recent occurred at my nanny job this week and I was wondering about your advice on how to not take things personally from parents when there always working at home and stressed out. What happened in this case was that the baby was crying so much and didn't want to go down for nap. The mom (not yelling) ask me if he was going to go down or not. Since she was really frustrated and couldn't bear to hear any more crying. I told her I would stop trying to get him to nap since it's been a long time and get him out of out of his crib. Then she just slammed the door really hard. I felt hurt and offended for some reason. I know I do a great job and go totally above and beyond to help the family as much as possible. Why do I feel disrespected? Is this behavior okay from parents. It's the 2nd or third time now where they've taken there stress or frustration out on me. I try to keep things in perspective but It just made me feel terrible. I feel like I'm just walking on eggshells most of the time. Is this something nannies experience often or normal? Maybe I'm just not use to it I'm young and still new to the field. Like I said the parent's mood changes instantly from very sweet and smiling to all of a sudden quite explosive. I feel like I can't breath at times. That's why I need help to stop taking things personal I guess and internalizing the negative experience. I guess. What is your advice or feedback on this?

[@TheNannySolution]

@@msharko6982 I am sorry this is happening to you. I am sure many other nannies can relate. The only way to handle this is with open communication. Sit down with the mom and let her know how you feel. Ask if there is anything you can do better. Talk about what happened at nap time and how you could have handled it differently or better in their opinion. If you need help with communication check out our resources page: thenannysolution.ca/resources/

[@milysharko9164]

@@TheNannySolution Hi Nanny Solution, thank you so so much. This has been helpful. I have checked out the resources as well. Is it okay to tell the parent how I'm feeling when I don't know how there going to react? That it made me feel terrible with the door slamming and whenever they take there stress out on me? I'm trying to figure out ways to say it professionally I guess.

[@TheNannySolution]

@@milysharko9164 As long as you are respectful and ask for their input that is all you can do.

[@Jashan-s4e]

You are giving Better tips too nanny❤

[@TheNannySolution]

I try

[@itzberryplayz7260]

What do you do if the child doesn’t want anyone but their parent and the parent purposely puts themselves in every activity we do. I noticed NK was clinging to mom so I took her outside to get fresh air. We were playing in the yard. She was doing great until mom came outside and started being clingy again.

[@TheNannySolution]

It is time to have a sit down talk with the parents when the child is not around. Explain to them why you are having trouble and what is happening. Come up with a solution that works for both of you.

[@cathyparvin2505]

This was another great video, thank you! I'm starting a new temp job tomorrow with a lovely 1yr old nugget and first time parents that both work from home, in a 3 levels split home. As a covid baby, she does play strange and has really missed out on any interaction with people other than Mommy & Daddy. l mention to them that while I was there, it would make it very hard on her if they came in and out during the day and that when she cries, its very important to let me settle her. I'm feeling a bit apprehensive as this is the first position I've had with Mom & Dad working from home (Mom's office is next to baby room and Dad's is down only 5 stairs)where the bond hasn't been established along with first time parents. Any advice or hints would be appreciated . Just to help things along, I woke up this morning with a massive head cold( good grief)

[@TheNannySolution]

Are you able to take trips outside. Trips to the park, library or play programs?

[@cathyparvin2505]

@@TheNannySolution Thank you! yes, we'll be out as much as her nap schedules permit, when Mom & Dad feel comfortable. its only a6 hour day with 2 naps, so, it shouldnt be too hard, depending on when & how long she sleeps. We're only together 6 hours a day. I just need to get out of my head with them being home, and none of us knowing each other. The mom was very kind when I gave her heads up about my cold(snot) and I offered mask up. She said to take the 2days this week as paid sick days. Very kind offer, but I did say "thank you, but no thank you" as i dont feel thats very fair to them paying me my 1st & 2nd day of employment and me at home.

[@TravelSeets]

It’s rare to find parents who don’t work from home now

[@TheNannySolution]

Very true!

[@Brightendale24]

As the parent in this situation I am going to get a lot of hate lol but my issue us different: 1. I explicitly tell my Nanny not to bother me when I am working but she is a chatty Cathy and for some reason when she sees me working on my laptop she seems to think I am open to chatting. Which I am absolutely not. It breaks my focus. I usually work in my room or in the den and she will knock on our door and come in to chat. I have communicated this multiple times but she seems to forget. 2. Whenever I tell her to do something like change babys clothes or feed baby she will talk back as to why the baby does not need to change. I have to mind how my tone is when talking to her because she can be very emotional and feels attacked when any sort of critique is given. Don't know how to deal with that anymore. 3. Most of the day I see her just lounging next to baby on her phone. I feel like she should be doing activities with the baby which I have told her to do multiple times. I have even bought her books or cards, toys, activity books, etc to help facilitate that. She will do it for couple of days and then back to the same. 4. To those wondering, we pay her really well. I have tried looking for other Nannies but because of most ppl working from home the Nanny situation is scarce and since my work is suffering I have to keep at it. Suggestions?

[@TheNannySolution]

If you want to continue to work with her then set a time to sit down and talk without the children around. Communicate all the above points and have a copy written out to give her for reference. Then set a time for a follow up meeting to review if she is following the guidelines you laid out. Make sure you leave time for her to give feedback on what is working and not working for her. Finally if she is not doing her job you need to let her go.

[@carlel121]

I am a nanny and you are right, your nanny seems not to understand boundaries, and have not idea what to do with the baby, I always get along with my families, and listen what they need I don’t reply back unless necessary.

[@TravelSeets]

That sucks I think you need to give her a month notice and try to find someone else. Also keep communicating!

[@RabidDisposition]

You need a new nanny. Sounds like that lady has BPD lmao

[@visionarietta2]

Since covid the parents in the family I work for started to work from home and this made my job a literal living hell. Mother is micro managing everything and is making me feel absolutely worthless. I have no authority with the children (they have learnt that and they now say things like "we pay you so you have to do what we say" and whenever they have a question they will just bypass me and go to her on the other room and she never ever gives me credit or trust anymore). I have absolutely no opportunity to manage my day with them or making choices. I am talking about "mum even chooses what fruit I have to cut for the children's snack" level of control. She has no boundaries and she steps in the room every damn second. Like do your job and let me do mine! And don't let me get started on the amount of homework they are forced by her to do the whole afternoon after school. After 5 years of sole charge this is my situation. I am scared of searching for another job. But it's all so unfair it brings tears to my eyes

[@TheNannySolution]

I am sorry this is happening to you. Have you asked to sit down and talk to the parents and express your concerns? If you are miserable in your job you should definitely look for a family that respects your role as a professional nanny. I know it can be hard leaving the family (especially the children) but sometimes that is the only way

[@visionarietta2]

@@TheNannySolution mum is in denial and not available for a conversation. She uses the fact that she pays me slightly more than the average to keep me and uses that everytime I try to talk to her. I feel a bit stuck. No family that employs a person in their house to look after their children should behave like this. Her level of micromanaging and control has affected the children as they have way less confidence, their behaviour has become sometimes impossible and even their toileting has regressed, as she wants to be there when they go number 2 so she cleans them. If she is on a call and they have to go toilet I see the children hurting and struggling and refusing to go without her. Sometimes they have accidents. They are 7 and 9. This hurts me so much because I was with them since birth 10hrs a day, I raised them to be strong, confident and well behaved, I don't recognise them anymore. For them now I am just the annoying lady that comes to do a ton of homework mum has decided for us. From start to finish of my afternoon I am stuck at that desk with them. I apologise for this long comment but I have nobody to tell these things and it's a bad situation for me.

[@alyssaaguilar519]

I'm so sorry. That's a horrible situation to be in. From what I know, it's best to put yourself first and be assertive. It's a privilege for them to have you more than it's a privilege for you to have them. If they're not treating you properly personally OR professionally, I'd suggest you assert your boundaries and let them know how your job becomes impossible when you're not being respected and valued. It's important you express your genuine care and concern for the children's well being as well in that, because it will show that you are not seeing this simply as a means of income. I hope and pray your situation improves or you're provided another opportunity to work. Take care.

[@shirleycarb132]

Find a new job. You already have experience why be scared, no respect to you that is not healthy. Your health is number one if not happy you'll be stressed and if stress equals sickness.

[@karinaalvardo2553]

I’m sorry to hire that I hope you found a new job or situations change

[@laylawrence8087]

Hey , What if both of the parents work from home upstairs and both of the children ages 3 & 4 only play area is the living room downstairs and it’s now getting cold outside so outdoors isn’t A option and the family doesn’t allow any tv time how would you handle this ? Because I know it takes time for kids to adjust but if the kids are running upstairs because they are the parents back-and-forth all day and the office doors are open through the day it’s A little challenging especially because they want them to actually learn a curriculum.

[@TheNannySolution]

Are there any playgroups, libraries or programs that you can attend in the area?

[@laylawrence8087]

@@TheNannySolution , HI no the only place im able to keep the two kids both ages four and five are in the living room which is downstairs the family live in a upstairs downstairs home their play area. Is downstairs in the living room The parents typically would be fine with the kids going outside they said but right now it’s getting cold they also don’t have a TV in the house and don’t believe in screen time . There are two kids one get home at 3:00 pm and the other one get home at 4:30. Three and four years old. The kids requirements are as soon as they get home to have dinner then two hours later to have lunch then the following hour after to have a snack before bed they are required to eat all of their food and it’s a big serving size because the parents feel they are underweight the kids never want to eat their food and the parents have a requirement that until all food from throughout the day is gone nothing elsecould be completed After both kids eat their first meal I have to put them both in the bath the bathroom is right upstairs. The father works upstairs and leave the door open all day, so when the kids don’t want to do something or see a familiar face they just run to there parents For example, today one of the kids was not listening he was hitting his sister throwing stuff at her I told him hes gonna go to time out and he’s not paint with me & his sister the child ran upstairs to his grandmother he got mad, because the grandmother try to reinforce what I told him the child got mad and smacked her the child then enter in apologize she’s in such it’s OK for the child. I said you know he’s going to time out it’s not acceptable certain rules need to be in place the Gradma gave him a cupcake rewarding he’s bad behavior I guess what I’m trying to ask is how do you handle ? family in the house because when the kid is yelling and the parents are trying to work or the kids are running away, distracting the parents because they know the parents are going to baby them and I feel like a woman to see my car not doing your job properly

[@betsyjohn5192]

U r awesome 👏👏👏

[@TheNannySolution]

Thank you 💕

[@helenadulluz7469]

This is 💯 and it's hard for me am loosing weight becz of it.not becz I dot knw wat to do but the fear 😨 I hv

[@TheNannySolution]

It is a difficult situation.

[@fityourstereotype]

Link for blog doesn’t work, brings you to the Nannies on call page but no content

[@TheNannySolution]

Yes, that is an older video and the website has been redo. Here are some of the resources we now have available. thenannysolution.ca/resources/

[@godiva1984]

It’s highly frustrating to have the parents at home. The micromanaging is becoming to be too much for me. The dad is back and forth in the living room where the child sleeps, he makes so much noise and proceeds to turn the brightest lights he can find to sit and eat. The mom pumps milk but comes running when the child cries to nurse him. I am not sure why I’m here when your taking the child out of my arms and not allowing him to detach from you guys so the child can be more comfortable in my presence and create a bond and trust between us that will allow me to do my job more productively. I just don’t know what to do at this point.

[@TheNannySolution]

Have you asked to sit down and talk to the parents about your concerns?

[@SindaZenda]

I just started a new nanny job how can l get baby used to me she's 12months old but she has been crying the whole morning mom works from home and she's clingingy to her

[@TheNannySolution]

Sometimes it just takes time.

[@ritakonadu7899]

😭😭😭 just I started today is day 5 and I am quitting. They are very kind, but a lot of red flag from the mother. She told me she will be interrupting and is going to be harder for me. The little one always wants mommy the oldest will talk about old nanny is the boss not me. So many stuff. Can’t go back on Monday or I will break down or have a heart attack help please Michelle

[@TheNannySolution]

Have you asked to sit down and talk to them about the issues you are having? We have some resources on our website that might help. thenannysolution.ca/resources/

[@ritakonadu7899]

@@TheNannySolution Not yet! Also they leave everything for me everyday as if I’m a maid or a housekeeper whereas I told them the reason I left my other job was limited childcare and more housekeeping which is not why I was there. It seems like they are doing the same. I don’t even take a break. Hmmm

[@TheNannySolution]

@@ritakonadu7899 Did you talk to them about the job expectations before you started? Do you have a contract outlining your duties? It sound like you need to request a sit down meeting with the parents to discuss everything.

[@carlel121]

Forget it! Look for another job

[@hannahscott6604]

I now refuse to take jobs with infants- particularly with first time parents. They’re so overbearing

[@TheNannySolution]

It’s important to know what kind parents you want to work with.

[@carlel121]

It’s easy when parents are not around but difficult when they are, stay parents homes don’t understand this.

[@gaythrinayak3103]

👍👌

[@TheNannySolution]

Thanks!

[@carlel121]

When parents are around I literally can’t do anything with her, I can’t change her diaper or clothes or take her outside, the situation becomes bored and uncomfortable, they know that, and still mom sit down in the kitchen counter to work! I don’t know how to tell them anymore.

[@TheNannySolution]

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's important to communicate openly with your family about how you're feeling. I hope things improve for you soon.

[@carlel121]

@@TheNannySolution thanks!

[@tommytwotone910]

A lot of families have difficulties with hired help in general because they aren't used to it. VIP services aren't for everyone even if they can afford it. Not everyone is good at being a slave or servant for your fellow human beings. Good help is so hard to find.

[@TheNannySolution]

It is true that families are not good employers sometimes because they have not hired anyone in the past. That does not stop them from treating everyone with respect.

[@tommytwotone910]

@@TheNannySolution I agree.

[@RabidDisposition]

Nannies are almost as privileged with sahm who have nannies lmao

[@TheNannySolution]

Not sure what you mean.