4 Helpful Ways to Cope with Grief | Therapist Explains

[@aj9780]

It feels the worst when can’t even say goodbye, someone just dies in another place and it’s impossible to be there at that moment and time

[@TravisGoodman]

Oh I am so sorry; that is so beyond heartbreaking and difficult. Blessings to you for peace, healing, and comfort during this very difficult season.

[@heraldofrevival9517]

This exact situation happened to my family yesterday, damn does it hurt

[@STANFORDPlNES]

This is happened to me a week ago with my daughters father who has been in my life for 20 years. I feel terrible for our daughter she’ll be 10 tomorrow it just sucks.

[@ducks_r_da_best]

My grandma hurt herself yesterday and I can’t even go to school on time The worst part is my grandpa dies and I watched the whole thing blood, ambulances, paramedics I waited in the hospital And he died of a heart attack when I wasn’t there

[@lemonnnwater]

This happened to me today. My grandma died this morning. She is in a different state and I wasn’t able to see her. It hurts knowing I couldn’t be there for my grandma in her final days. 💔💔

[@FriHo245]

I lost my brother today and im so devastated. I haven't talked to him in the last couple of months and i got no chance to say goodbye too him. I hate this stupid fucking war so much. Im gonna miss him

[@TravisGoodman]

Oh I am so sorry for the loss of your brother; that is devastating. That is horrible to lose someone this way. What you are feeling is totally normal and common. It is part of the process. Give yourself space as you walk through this season of grief and loss.

[@IoanaaTodorann]

The most painful words that I have told my grandfather are "Bye forever! " 😭

[@TravisGoodman]

Thanks for sharing!

[@lifeisbutadreamm]

I just lost my grandfather on 7/14 pretty suddenly, I wish I would've had a chance to aay goodbye.. I know it's hard, but I hope you find some comfort in knowing you got to say goodbye and let him know how much he means to you.. sending virtual hugs

[@real_freddyfazbear1tiktok337]

@@lifeisbutadreammI lost my grandpa 5 days ago and I still can’t move on… he took his last breath and said “I see Jesus! I see Jesus” and we stayed behind as he went to Jesus and now he’s dead forever… after my sister told me I dropped my phone and nearly started crying… I just can’t take this depression and stress anymore and sadness…

[@lifeisbutadreamm]

@real_freddyfazbear1tiktok337 I'm so sorry for your loss, it's so hard to lose people who have been a cornerstone in our lives, and while I can't tell you that it gets better, I can tell you that the pain does fade a little with time... I'm at a point now where I the memories make me smile more than cry, but I still miss them.. I hope you find comfort in knowing they wouldn't want you to to hurt, especially because of them, even though it only hurts because you love them so. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts; even though it may sometimes feel like it, we're not alone in our grief. Take care of yourself my friend. Sending virtual hugs *hug*

[@SlingTv-uo4wn]

It’s not a goodbye. It’s a “see ya”. And it’s nothing I want to have happen anytime soon though.

[@medhasengupta3823]

Lost my dad all of a sudden to a cardiac arrest and life hasn't been the same anymore. It's been 8 months but the pain still feels the same. I was very close to him , he was the only person in the world who actually understood me. I still question as why did it even happen, he was only 59

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss and for the suddenness of it all. That is awful and painful. There was a TED talk on grief and the speaker said: You don't move on from the loss, but you move on with the loss.

[@Dani_step]

I can see this happened 2 months ago but I hope you are doing better… remember to drink water and eat food… it's what he would want for you

[@firsttimemommy3735]

I lost my dad and mom and grandparents in a short period of time… I don’t think I actually healed from losing my parents and then my grandparents died. My emotions are all over the place, sad, confused, mad angry and lost most days. Thank you for this video! I know now you have to live in the moment before it’s gone. Makes me wonder what we are all doing here?! We make these bonds and get so attached to people and then in one second everything can be gone. It’s so hard to wrap your head around it. 😢

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for so many losses so close to together - sounds so painful, difficult and just crappy! I agree - it really is hard to wrap your head around - blessings to you as you continue to navigate this journey of grief.

[@boiiiiiiiiiii69]

I lost my mother yesterday she was only 51 years she had so many plans in life and was positive and healthy and terrible accident happened and it breaks my heart and soul, and it feels so fricking lonely and sad that i wont ever see or hear her voice ever again in my life, and these thoughts that i could be there at that moment and everything would be different, i feel sorry to everyone who lost their parent 😢

[@TravisGoodman]

I’m so sorry of the loss of your mother, that’s so huge. Know that you are not alone. Take it a day at a time. Give yourself grace and patience as you navigate the ups and downs as you journey through the season of loss.

[@Jeanie_Zee]

Your story is similar to mine. Just lost mine a week ago at 58 years old from a motorcycle accident. We had so many plans together, she had so much she wanted to do and see. Sending gentle hugs, it sucks so bad but you're not alone

[@hannahalexis7050]

My dad passed away in February (going on six months feels crazy), and he was 53. He had some health issues but I didn’t think it was enough to kill him, until he had a blood clot in the heart and I woke up one morning without my dad as a 19-year-old. I definitely sympathize with you, and anyone else who lost a parent. 💕

[@Carolineexmillan]

My beautiful dog passed yesterday. He’s been there when I was extremely depressed and would always make me laugh. My family and I have had him for 12 years and I grew up with him. We were both extremely small and eventually, he grew up so fast. He was my bestfriend and I definitely felt like he was my only friend for a really long time. Our walks would always make me feel better, and even just baking and knowing he was behind me to wait for a piece of cake I just made. Even just having him around made everything okay. I miss him so much. I just want to see him.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your family dog; I can relate to that feeling. Those are good and cherished memories with him. Hold on to those!

[@lydiaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

my grandpa died in march of this year. he was only around 50 and nothing feels real anymore and i miss him so much i miss his hugs more than anything i would give the world to see him again and to hug him and properly say goodbye

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss. Not to sound to out there, but you can actually do that. You can imagine giving him a hug and remember what that felt like, allow those emotions, sensations, memories, smells, etc and visualize. You can also, if you feel open, tell him what you have been meaning to tell him. One thing I have done with some of my clients is have them write their loved one a letter and say what they have been meaning and wanting to say. Blessings to you and your family during this season of loss.

[@_Perky-Patch_]

My guinea pig passed. I will never EVER underestimate the pain experienced by losing a pet compared to a person. It hurts more than anyone else seems to understand. He was like a human child. My human child. I miss him so hard it hurts to exist. I saw him three times a day everyday. Everysingle flipping day for three short years. Now, to suddenly never see him again, i feel like im in a diffrent world in which happiness doesnt exist. He was there for me when humans werent. He was never angry at me. Never even had one moment when i disliked him. Why he had to leave so soon i'll never know. He died, age three, cancer on the 18th January 2024 9:30am. And that date is where forever my heart lies, and my happiness with it.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your guinea pig - that is so hard and so difficult - loss is loss - we form attachments to animals and people - we feel loss when we experience loss. Blessings to you as you navigate this loss.

[@Plantwithdino]

I just lost my dad, I wish I would of talked to him more and said I love you.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your dad - what is something you would say to him now if he could hear you?

[@_Mads1711]

15 minutes ago my mom just told me my coach passed away. To be honest he didn’t always make the best choices. At the beginning of this season he had to go to the hospital, but this came out of nowhere. I still don’t know how he has passed. I feel terrible because he didn’t always know what he was doing. This made everyone talk not so good about him. Now I feel like crap for doing that. ALWAYS TALK GOOD ABOUT PEOPLE YOU DONT KNOW WHEN THEY WILL BE GONE!!!

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss the loss of your coach. This is very true, you never know when they will no longer be physically present. When people pass on it can and often does bring us to think about things in our lives and to at times question and think of things differently. I wish you and bless you during this season with strength, peace, courage, support.

[@DeadIy_.Reaper]

I’m going through depression and it all went horribly bad when I just had lost my grandma today and she was the only person I felt the closest connection to. I’m still suffering and processing everything because it just happened so suddenly. This video made me cheer up slightly even for a little while.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandma - that is so hard and difficult - I am glad to hear the video gave you some cheer and uplifted you a bit - I bless you as you navigate this season of loss - I wish you strength, courage, peace during this time.

[@daxtondonahue1388]

My dog died yesterday at 15 years old and I can’t stop crying and it feels so odd too not have her around anymore

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is so difficult thing to go through. And it is odd to all of a sudden not have your dog around. One day at a time. Grief is like waves that come and go; one minute you be feeling happy and the next feel sad and angry. Be kind to yourself.

[@daxtondonahue1388]

@@TravisGoodman thank you she died in piece in my backyard while we all comforted her petting her and saying our goodbyes and it’s so odd to only have one dog now

[@TravisGoodman]

@@daxtondonahue1388 sounds really difficult and painful as well as very tender and sweet. One day at a time, allow the array of grief responses to come. I remember when I lost my favorite dog Tasha, she was the best and I remember saying goodbye and how hard that was. I can say with this time does allow time to heal, but don't rush yourself, don't hold any expectations, and just simply welcome what may come.

[@harrywride3958]

My family just lost our dog about the same age my mom went in to the vet to put her down and I was in the car crying my eyes out for ages because I am too young (14 btw) to go in and be there while it happens 😢😢 I just got over depression after my grandad died last year and now it's all came back to me and Im just so sad and can't cope with everything, so if you ever feel sad your not alone.

[@pilarq7886]

Highly recommend finding a plush animal that resembles your pet so you can hug it like your previous pet.

[@jamietrudeau4069]

I swear, we're never as whole as we were when we were happiest. Please. Just appreciate the people you have. Either you'll out live them, or them, you. And honestly, I'm not sure it's worth any of it.

[@TravisGoodman]

Yes appreciate what you have and be intentional with those you love!

[@Nancinew]

My dad passes away 5 days ago. The pain is incredible. He was the best dad ever. I don’t know how to live life without him or what that even looks like. It hurts so much 😢

[@TravisGoodman]

My heart goes out to you and your family - I am so sorry for the loss of your dad - blessings to you during this season of loss.

[@TransitjusticeBlogspot]

I lost my dear friend in a horiffic violent street attack in the early morning hours of 10/02/2023. When I saw the surveillance video on how it went down, it shook me to my core. I have experienced grief, heartbreak, sadness, guilt, anger, and heartache. His gf was unharmed but got spat on. I was taken up with sadness for the next couple of weeks. He was originally from another city. If only I was there to protect and help him from that monster who took his life for nothing, my friend would still be here. He got fatally stabbed in his chest 3 times. This is the worst feeling ever and no one would be able to understand or comprehend that. 😢😔.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for such a horrific loss - it would shake me to my core too. All of those emotions make complete sense - such a horrible and tragic loss of your friend. I am so very sorry. I wish you peace, strength, and courage to walk this journey of grief.

[@TransitjusticeBlogspot]

Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate it. Just trying to get through day by day. I wish this never happened.

[@dixon807]

My mom passed 6 hours ago due to a heart attack, she was on the toilet at the time and my dad ran to me asking for help and I just saw my mom's lifeless body laying there, I can't get the picture out of my head, I stayed strong for everyone while my dad sister brother and brother in law cried, but now I feel alone they all asleep rn while I cry in bed trying to understand why, but I feel like a part of me died

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your mother, that is awful. You will go through an array of emotions from sadness, anger, numbness, confusion, depression, etc. It will come and go in waves. Blessings to you as you walk this path of grief and loss.

[@amandaphillips4344]

My beautiful best boi🐕hasn't even 24 hrs and I miss you so hard I can't breathe❤️‍🩹 my sweet boi is the only one who's ever seen me raw and this feels so crushing.thank you for sir for your soothing voice 🌻

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss. Blessings to you during this season of grief.

[@yadi929]

I lost my baby sister to sids when I was 8. I’m 21 now but I still get moments where I just cry and this feeling of just emptiness is overwhelming. She was the light of my life. I can’t even imagine how my parents felt.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby sister so long ago - having moments is part of the process - grieving is a journey that has ups and downs.

[@deadtalkspodcast]

allowing yourself to feel the emotions for sure. literally just feeling the emotion and let it play out when it hits you goes a long way for me as simple as it sounds.

[@TravisGoodman]

Yes - it is like riding the waves in the ocean.

[@squared231]

When I lost my gf a couple days ago, I not only lost someone I loved, but I lost all of my close intimate relationships too since we had so many mutual friends. None of them are siding with me. It feels painful when you can’t be heard and it’s just so isolating.

[@TravisGoodman]

Ugh this is so painful; so hard when these things happen. Such a major loss. I am so sorry for what you are going through.

[@yan_arts4619]

Hi, my mom passed away last March(this year) and until now I still feel sad and I cry every time that I get a flashback about the memories we had together. I really miss her so much because she's all I have in this world, and now I'm all alone I don't know what to do to my life, but I need to get better but I don't know how😔 I don't have any friends to rely on, those people with doesn't care about me, so it is really hard for me right now..

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry you feel so alone right now with the loss of your mother and with feeling those around you don't care. That is really difficult and lonely. I bless you during this season of significant loss. Take it a moment at a time, and allow what you need to feel to come and go without trying to change or cling to it; instead, acknowledge it, hold it, and release it. I wish you peace and strength during this time.

[@Shh-dont-tell-me8473]

My great grandma died today, and this super helpful. Thank you so much.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss - blessings to you and your family as you begin to navigate this season of grief.

[@Shh-dont-tell-me8473]

@@TravisGoodman thank you so much.

[@Dani_step]

I can see this happened 2 weeks ago but please remember to drink water and eat 3 meals a day... I personally and struggling with that currently but I want others to be healthy!

[@XSnowxFlakeX]

My grandma passed away 7 days after my mum was born so I never got the chance to meet her. My other grandma passed away when I was only 5. My grandad (my best friend forever) passed away last year on valentines day. My other grandad also passed away last year in June. Now I have no grandparents. Even though I'm happy that they're all in a better place, it hurts you know expecially when my grandad (best friend) passed away. It's like there's nothing left for me to enjoy anymore 💔

[@TravisGoodman]

My heart goes out to you and your family - I am so sorry for the losses you and your family have had to go through - I wish you peace, strength, courage as you navigate this season

[@XSnowxFlakeX]

@@TravisGoodman Thank you it means a lot ❤️

[@Dman9fp]

Yep probably too many people believe drugs, distractions, deluding ourselves, denial, etc are feasible coping tools, maybe but only temporary, and allows grief and associated underlying emotions (anger, sadness, hopelessness, resentment, etc) to only exponentially worsen. I should probably make my own full talk about it, but yeah, acknowledging it, but knowing huge grief is Not our whole identity is very key to huge unforgettable and permanent grief. And not getting stuck in resentment, towards God or the universe or whoever we feel is responsible. Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting others to suffer, as a wise man once said. But its still a process and won't be linear straight to the top and forever done progress... Grief, as initially cruel, ugly and debilitating as it initially is, can turn into a beautiful thing (of sorts) since it shows us how deep and meaningful our connection/ love was. And that person/ place/ pet, etc. Will always continue to live on spiritually thru our presence Best of luck to all suffering, it'll get easier over time, but you have to stick with it to some degree

[@TravisGoodman]

Thanks so much for sharing so much and for your kind words!

[@corazonliva6117]

Lost my only Son 5/14/24 exactly 38 days now,and just 10 yrs old, now i am completely shattered,too much pain and unexplainable feeling of emptiness..he is the love of my life..he is the only one i have..

[@TravisGoodman]

I know that words right now might feel empty and not helpful; I really truly am so sorry for such a devastating immense loss ❤

[@TLCSweetL]

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I am also grieving, the pain is too much. I am here if you need somebody to talk to. - Luz

[@JahneeArt]

Lost my grandmother this Christmas… Her passing is killing me and I don’t think I’ll ever be the same

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry to hear that - that is so difficult and sad. Blessings to you as you navigate this season of loss.

[@justpinky007]

My friend lost both his parents the same day❤😢

[@TravisGoodman]

My heart goes out to you and your friend for such a heavy loss ❤️

[@selinacastilloo]

Been a year and 4 months that I lost my mother and honestly I feel like I’m doing ok and then it all hits again. 😢 She was only 44 and I lost her so unexpectedly in a car accident 😢

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for such a tragic loss of your mother. What you are experiencing "i feel like im doing okay then it all hits again" is very very very common. Grief often comes in this form. Grief is a season. Grief is something you learn to live with rather then move on from. Blessings to you as you continue to navigate this.

[@jasminemeacham3968]

your words have helped a lot. loosing 2 most important people in my life is bloody awful. your words are beautiful❤️

[@TravisGoodman]

Jasmine I am so sorry for the losses in your life right now. Blessings to you for peace, for strength, for comfort during this season of tremendous loss.

[@memory-stones]

😢oh man thank you

[@TravisGoodman]

Blessings to you!

[@The_Christian_Influence]

I lost my dad and my mom in Sept. Some days are fine but others not so much. I trust in God and allow myself to experience the feelings as they come.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Having days that are fine and others that are difficult is totally normal given the journey of grieving. Blessings to you.

[@readingisfun7205]

It hurts too much

[@TravisGoodman]

I’m so sorry for your loss. It is really painful and hard to lose someone.

[@SunflowerEyes252]

Ive experienced the passing of grandparents, a parent , other relatives and several friends over my 50 years of life. Ive managed them all with time and care. However, 3 1/2 years ago my 21 yr old son was killed. I am still grieving hard. 💔 I find at this point i need to keep everyone at "arms length". I am very uncomfortable connecting. I feel safer alone.😢

[@TravisGoodman]

Sounds like you have gone through so much and most difficult to lose your son. I am so sorry for the loss of your 21 year old son. I cannot begin to image the agony of losing a child (I have 3 of my own). I heard it said once that you learn to live with the loss, you don't move on from the loss. Blessings to you during this season of such tragic loss.

[@Dani_step]

I lost my brother a couple of days ago (a little bit of background is that I'm 17 and he was 19) it was not like he was sick or had cancer no he was in fact in a terrible car crash on his way home from a trip with his college friends to their college football game and he was on his way back home… yes he wasn't wearing his seatbelt but I got to go see his truck today… if he had that seatbelt on there was no chance he would have lived… the fact that he didn't have his seatbelt on is giving me at least a little bit of peace cause then if he flew out of his car and onto the grassy area on the sides of roads maybe he would have survived… but his death is something that is not only putting a huge toll on me emotionally but also physically… I've barely eaten and don't drink water and I lay around my house all day… it's gotten so bad emotionally to the point where I'm numb all day and barely show any emotion and I just bottle it all up until later on when I need to go to bed and can't because I can't stop crying… he was the best big brother any little sister could ever ask for… I'm going to miss him… taken away too early… fly high Michael… I love you… if you want more information look up Platte City's 19-year-old car crash

[@TravisGoodman]

I can feel your grief, this is heavy, I am so sorry for the loss of your brother Michael, such a horrible loss. What you are experiencing is the journey of grief of loss. It will have ups'downs as you move through this. I encourage you, even though you don't feel like it, to do that basics of water and food (calories) to sustain you through this. I hope you have people around you to walk with you through this. Blessings to you in this time and season of such huge loss.

[@riangomie8958]

My father passed 2 weeks ago😢 I’m still trying to fathom not having him around anymore or even being able to call on him, hug him when I need him 😩 the hardest feelings I’ve ever had to feel. I was his baby girl I’m about to have to have my 28th birthday and he won’t be here 😞 he always came through,loved me and my family. Spoiled all of us on every occasion 😞 he was so smart, loving ,caring, good cook, very good family man/Grandpa also a good singer and such a good jokester…I will miss having beers with him and him singing me George strait 😞 I could always turn to him if I needed help and he was there in a heartbeat. he was only 55 when he passed. 😢 RIP daddy Arthur (King Art) ❤ I’ll never be the same without you dad 💔

[@TravisGoodman]

Ugh I am so sorry for the loss of your father - I bless you during this season with strength, courage, support, love, peace, moments for your sadness to be expressed.

[@ぺん名前]

I lost my grandfather back in 2016, and now I lost my grandmother just yesterday, even though I've attended many funerals, when you experience the loss of someone you are close to, you can never get used to it. They were the best grandparents I could have ever asked for, and I regret not spending more time with them. I just wished I could have said goodbye to them one last time while they were still here.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandmother - as well as your grandfather - it is so difficult. I wish you well and for peace and strength as you navigate this season of loss.

[@lollybirdy]

Thank you this. I just put a cat down yesterday and while i had known for a long time it would happen and i would have to do it, it diesnt make it any better. Talking with friends has helped me process my emotions and out of pure coincidence my therapy appointment is today so ill get to talk to my therapist about it.

[@TravisGoodman]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your cat, that is good to hear that you have supportive, friends and family to talk to and process your emotions about, knowing that you don’t have to be alone in this. Blessings to you as you walk through this journey of loss.

[@lollybirdy]

@@TravisGoodman thank you. It's been difficult but my friends have definitely helped me process my emotions and how I feel about it.

[@TravisGoodman]

That is good to have friends like that@@lollybirdy

[@malvika8084]

I lost my boyfriend last year in a car crash. The worst thing about losing a significant other is grieving alone. What has helped is realising that there are more people going through grief than we realise around us. Its a tough journey which should be talked about more

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for such a huge loss. Not knowing we are alone in this journey helps carry that load. Blessings to you!

[@ArjanaArijana]

My husband died 40 days ago and every time I feel lil bit better,I hate myself.. I just want to cry

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss - grief has ups and downs, has forwards and backwards, it has emotions at the same time that appear in conflict with one another, it has moments where you blame self or thoughts of "i should have..." or "if i only would have..." (etc.), it will be moments of acceptance, of anger, of depressed mood and sadness. Grief is a journey. Blessings to you.

[@user-cz5le1zx1t]

I just lost my dad yesterday and the pain in my heart is so massive

[@TravisGoodman]

My heart goes out to you and your family - blessings to you during this season of pain and loss.

[@thugsam]

Thx❤

[@TravisGoodman]

Absolutely! Blessings to you!

[@Paisleylovesu13]

Thank you for explaining this to us. A loved one of mine is currently going through a very hard time with his health. And this helped me understand that how I am feeling is normal. Thank you so much for this video .May God bless you

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry to hear that. Blessings to you and your loved one as you navigate this season!

[@Paisleylovesu13]

@@TravisGoodman thank you so much !! You are greatly appreciated!! 🤍

[@QuonSmith31]

Thank you man. Just lost my little brother a few weeks ago & I’ve been feeling like I’m going crazy

[@TravisGoodman]

Oh my - I am so sorry for the loss of your little brother - tragic. Blessings to you as you move through the grief and loss - as you journey I wish you strength, courage, peace, clarity, hope, energy - to carry you through this journey.

[@Gerudo_voe]

Thank you for letting me except the death of my grandad. He died yesterday 😢

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandad. Blessings to you as you walk this path of grief and loss.

[@Gerudo_voe]

Thank you

[@ML-HS]

The most painful thing I said to my brother once stroke hit him in front of my eyes is 'Come on, buddy. Please, move. Please, wake up.' the most painful thing I saw was him giving me being a little thumbs up after they reanimated him and hauled him to scanning and back into the room before they told me he slipped into coma. And is in ICU where he died. I didn't get to see him. Say goodbye. He was only 33 years old.

[@TravisGoodman]

I'm really sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. It sounds like you went through an incredibly difficult and painful experience. Your emotions and memories are valid, and it's okay to grieve in your own way. Please remember that you're not alone, and reaching out to friends, family, or a counselor could also offer you some support during this tough time.

[@christiaancoetser7746]

I come from a poor family and lost my grandfather to covid,precisely a year later to the day my grandma died while she was smoking with my dad.I was 12 when she died and 11 when my grandpa died. I feel ragret for not being able to talk to either of them. I was happy because of them and without them I want to just end my pain.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your losses. An exercise you might find helpful, that I use a lot with my clients, is to write them each a letter. Tell them about your life now, tell that things that you have always wanted to say but have not been able to. Tell them about your hopes and dreams of the future. Blessings to you during season of loss.

[@emerald9947]

My uncle passed yesterday my grandpa just randomly got a phone call while I was sitting next to him just talking with my mom when I hear my grandmother who was listening in my grandpas conversation saying he's dead isn't he and I just stopped talking now I can't even sleep just crying and watching yt shorts

[@christinamd]

I’m only 10 and I really needed this

[@TravisGoodman]

So sorry for what you are going through - such a horrible season you are on. Blessings to you for strength, for courage for peace, for comfort during this extremely difficult season.

[@isabellaa358]

I needed to hear the HOW 💗💗

[@TravisGoodman]

Blessings to you!

[@isabellaa358]

@@TravisGoodman Bless you as well!!!!

[@MollyGill-pn7nq]

Thank you so much, I needed this, my cat just died, she was the best thing in the entire world.

[@TravisGoodman]

Ugh that is so difficult and sad. I am so sorry for your loss. Blessings to you during season of loss.

[@Myacorn]

My friends dogs passed in a fire this morning. I’ve been crying all day and they aren’t even my dogs. I had a very strong and unique connection with one of them. I can’t imagine how the actual owner is feeling if I feel this horrible and to also lose my house? Gosh this sucks

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry, sounds like such an awful difficult sad day for you. Blessings and peace to you today as you navigate this season.

[@Myacorn]

@@TravisGoodman thank u so much 💗

[@jamiesteps6589]

I lost my dog yesterday. In the most tragic way and I can't stop thinking about it.

[@TravisGoodman]

So sorry the loss of your dog - that is so very difficult and sad.

[@WhosJusToi]

My aunt is wasting away and I don’t know how to deal with what I feel. She’s the only aunt I have, if I want with my mom I was with her. I feel like I’m losing a part of me. This is a different feeling than I have ever felt. My wife is so strong and is doing her best to be there for me. I feel so up and down right now

[@TravisGoodman]

My heart goes out to you and your family - I am so sorry to hear that your aunt is suffering so - the up and down is common given what is going on for you and your family - I wish you peace, strength, courage, as you navigate this extremely difficult season.

[@peelspetservicesspb7329]

Thank you ♥️🙏

[@TravisGoodman]

You are so welcome

[@foreignfayz5288]

I lost my daughter at the beginning of the year. 7 months later its hit me and I'm lost. I feel like i can't breath sometimes and then I just get angry . I'm so Lost I feel like I'm Drowning.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am sorry for such a huge significant loss; I would feel lost as well. It is a loss no parent should have to go through. You are and will be in a season of ups and downs and somewhere in between with a mixed array of emotions and thoughts. Take a day at a time, or maybe even hour by hour. I wish you peace and strength during this difficult season.

[@daxtondonahue1388]

How old was she when she died and how

[@stopchildabuse7932]

I just recently lost my husband and I am experiencing the exact same feelings specially when I wake up and through the day, God please please lord gives un the strength because I cannot do this by myself

[@TheSammisTeam]

I lost my brother! He was 37 years old. I never knew how much pain the grieving process would entail

[@TravisGoodman]

So sorry for the loss of your brother; my heart goes out to you and your family as you all learn to live in this new reality. Blessings to you as you navigate this season.

[@JJSammis-unlock-your-potential]

THANK YOU VERY MUCH!@@TravisGoodman

[@thegirlofmanyfandoms99]

My grandma is going to die of a brain aneurysm, and I'm just watching these videos to help me prepare for grieving.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandma - so difficult. I am glad that this has helped. Blessings to you as you navigate this difficult season.

[@ashleyreviewchannel]

Thank you

[@TravisGoodman]

You're welcome!

[@jaydensanchez336]

Thanks😢

[@TravisGoodman]

Of course!

[@r.mercado9737]

Spot on! Semper Fi

[@TravisGoodman]

Blessings!

[@quanwick4516]

Thank you for this message

[@TravisGoodman]

Absolutely! Blessings to you!

[@TransitjusticeBlogspot]

I just lost my brother this past Monday to congestive heart failure. I feel so sad right now. First, I lost my dear friend to m*d*r and now this. This is the second loss for me within a year. This hurts. This hurts awfully. 💔

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your brother - that is so awful. My heart goes out to you and your family for the losses - blessings to you as you journey through this horrific pain.

[@SulagnaDutta365]

It was Christmas, when I saw my rabbit bleeding from her vagina. The whole day she was suffering, unable to breathe and always hiding. Doctor came and told she had uterine cancer, the last stage. We had nothing to do but see her suffer. A day before one of my relative died, I was actually very disappointed for that. Now seeing my best friend die, I actually wanted to go with her...I don't know how I will overcome this depression now......... 💔😔But thanks for your wise advices

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your losses - so close together. It is up and down and it takes time. Take it a day at a time. Blessings to you as you journey through grief.

[@timreynolds4252]

Lost my mom yesterday 5-26-23 😢

[@Hikealaska]

I’m so sorry!!! I’m still struggling with the pain of losing my Mom. I wish you the best through this grief ♥️

[@timreynolds4252]

@@Hikealaska thank you I know I don’t know you but it help me not feel alone so I appreciate it I’m taking hard but it’s hard

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for both of your losses. I wish for moments of peace and connection to your loved ones during this journey of loss ❤️

[@Hikealaska]

@@TravisGoodman: Thank you

[@ВладимирСидоров-н2я]

My condolences 😓 I lost my mother 5-22-23

[@dianadavisoconnor9164]

I needed to hear this

[@TravisGoodman]

Blessings to you!

[@fabianpro9909]

my mum passed away this morning after battling cancer since 2016, i just hate how i never got to say goodbye to her

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry your loss. That is a long road and battle, cancer. Take care of yourself during this season of grieving.

[@vam_ola]

the person who i am grieving, the last thing he said was that he hated me and I should’ve never entered his life- and in his note he said that he felt bad over never forgiving me, or letting me apologize. i can’t even remember his voice or face at this point.

[@TravisGoodman]

Sorry to hear about your loss - blessings to you as you navigate this season of loss and grief.

[@Philocalyleena]

It’s been two weeks since my cousins death, he wasn’t just my cousin, my brother and I cant help but have cried consecutively each night since his death.

[@TravisGoodman]

My heart goes out to you and your family for such a significant loss. I am so sorry. I wish you and your family strength, patience, connection, care during this season.

[@holls.h]

My nanna just died (the day after my birthday) and I couldn't be there as she lived in another country so I didn't get to say goodbye properly as the last time I saw her I had no idea she was dying (it was cancer) and right now life doesn't feel real, I feel dead inside and everything feels unnatural. The funeral is tomorrow and I don't know how to process everything as I just feel so depressed.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for such a heavy loss. Not being able to be there as well is really difficult. Blessings to you and your family as you walk through this season of loss.

[@SpaceNerd-YT]

my grandfather passed away today all of a sudden. He was sick for 3 days and after that he said that he was fine. this morning he passed away. he was only 65 years old, and to add on to that, I was not there for him in his final moments. I keep telling myself that It was all my fault, that it could've been avoided, that maybe if I was there with him, he could've passed happily.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for such a sudden loss of your grandfather. Having guild and self blaming is very common when we lose someone we love - we also will bargain with ourselves and get stuck in the "shoulds" which again is very common. The grief process has ups and downs and lulls along the way. Blessings to you and your family as you navigate this season of loss.

[@jeanlanie1]

Lost my beloved father last 4/28/23. It's really a terrible feeling. As if part of me also.died with him. I miss him so much.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for you loss for losing your father, it is still so fresh. Blessings and peace on your journey of grieving.

[@Yamallama585]

This might sound weird to some of you. Some people try to give poetic license to grief. No disrespect, but that's not what grief is. Especially when you lose a child or a parent or a sibling. In those cases, grief is absolutely a nightmare. The second I was able to accept that it was the second I was able to free myself and feel all of the emotions. It's horrible, But I'm becoming who I am and it's not who I was. Cheers.

[@TravisGoodman]

Thank you for sharing your experience - yes there are various forms of grief - what you said was so powerful that "the second i was able to accept" that it was a nightmare - enabled you to walk your path into becoming who you are.

[@Yamallama585]

@@TravisGoodman One of the things I tell people is be present for each one of the feelings. Allow yourself to feel everything. Part of healing

[@Ray-sd7re]

Rest in peace mom, it will be 2 weeks tomorrow 😢😢 ❤

[@TravisGoodman]

My heart goes out to you and your family as you navigate this season of loss.

[@beaniesatthebeach8457]

My grandmother died a few hours ago, and I just want to grief safely

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandmother - you will experience ups and downs - give yourself time to move through this season of loss.

[@beaniesatthebeach8457]

@@TravisGoodman thank you very much, I appreciate the kind words

[@Il0veme]

I feel guilty of the way a grief but i cant help it i have inhibited so I rarely get emotional of the death of loved ones i mean i might cry once or twice but its rare honestly when someone dies i continue with my life and nothing changes i mean i see everyone else around me crying and emotional but im not cryinf or anthing i just feel normal and it makes me feel horrible that i do because i feel like i should be cryinf and emotional with others and stuff but the only time i cry which was only like three times over my step dad who is my dad and i really loved him he was a great dad the only three times i cried was because i was listening to the music we listened to together one day and just listened to it the whole day and i was so young then i just want to grief like others i dont want to be guilty about not crying and not feeling emotinover deaths especially becaue the deaths of people i had in my lifetime were severe my dad had overdouse, my cousin died form a very bad car crash like onl had three teeth left to identify her by it was horrible and two other deaths but it was from a thing i fogot the name of it but yeah i cant do anything about it causethis is just how i am... (sorry for misspelling im busy and im typing rather quick)

[@TravisGoodman]

No need to feel "guilty" over grieving. You have not done anything wrong. Grieving is hard, painful, and can and often takes time. Give your self the space and time you need to grieve. Allow it to come and go like waves in the ocean. Some days it is calm and other days it is like a storm.

[@texascoqui9789]

I lost my husband in a workplace accident 3 months ago. I didn't get to say goodbye, it's the worst thing that's ever happened to me. Pain is excruciating, can't understand why this happened to him and me and his family. He was only 26, and used to say he wanted to live to be a 100. I'm sad for us, him, me and his family.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is incredibly difficult, and not being able to say goodbye must make it even harder. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

[@grainy1438]

I lost my bunny two months ago, she was my absolute soulmate. She was too young to go, and without her I feel my life slowly slipping into a bored useless spiral

[@TravisGoodman]

So sorry the loss of your bunny, it is a transition to do life without your companion. Blessings to you!

[@godzillamonsterultraxz4770]

You understand how I feel? I bonded very close with my bearded dragon, he was a great companion, But he died from poison from a toad when he showed symptoms it was too late and the damage already done far enough, we didn't have the money to put him out of his misery so we had to watch him suffer in his last moments, two seizures killed him(and you really cant stop a seizure) in those moments he was breathing slowly, his beard was black indicating he was very sick, his head was down, his eyes were closed, durning his last and final seizure I was holding him down so he didn’t hurt himself and was holding his hand letting him know I was there for him and then stoped breathing and starting foaming from his mouth, I picked him up and his head and body was lifeless, his head was laying back his arms and legs and tail were lifeless he died e days ago on Saturday jun 24th 2023 at 12:03 PM I cried for 4 hours grief-stricken about his death, I couldn't stop myself from truly showing how I felt about his death around my friends later that day I would off and on cry about him we put him in a show box so he wouldn't rot in the house and left him on Patio the next day we barried him and I couldn't stop myself from crying when saying my final goodbye to him I spent 16 minutes crying before I got distracted by something funny the next day I kept on thinking of all the ways I could have prevented the situation and how I could have saved him, and that I couldn't accept that he was gone , looking back at memories for some reason made me sadder reminding me he wasn't with us anymore, and it doesn't feel the same without him... Is there any tips or advice to move on?

[@TravisGoodman]

Firstly, I am so very sorry for the loss of your bearded dragon. Grief comes and goes in waves. One minute you can feel sad and down, the next you can blame yourself for “not doing enough”, the next you can be angry, the next you can be in a place of acceptance. Give yourself time and allow the range of emotions.

[@godzillamonsterultraxz4770]

@@TravisGoodman thanks man

[@JessieJ-jg6ni]

I lost my grandad today and i cannot get over the feeling thats he is gone forever

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss - a friendly reminder to give yourself time, to give yourself space, to allow yourself to move through the array of emotions and at times the complexities are feeling multiple things at the same time. I wish you well as you journey through the season of grief and loss, I wish for strength, courage, patience, peace as you navigate this season

[@jessicalinbarnett]

I feel super sad 😢 I miss my mom a lot I swear death anniversaries are so nerve wracking I just want to cry

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss - allow yourself to cry - sounds like your body knows what it needs ❤

[@jessicalinbarnett]

@TravisGoodman yes and its okay I cry to let it all out 😕😔

[@joeymartinez1492]

My father is on his death bed he’s only 47 and was shot 4 times he’s being in the hospital 20 days now fighting for his life, my father and I are so close it’s almost like brothers best friends and father son relationship but as of right now I’ve never grieved about anything especially it being one of the closet people I have in my life I need my father I’m not ready for him to go I’m in so much pain

[@TravisGoodman]

I cant even begin to image the amount of pain you are in. It is okay to feel whatever you need to feel. Take it a moment at a time. It is okay to reach out to those that care for you for their support.

[@christinamd]

Ty for this my dads about to die and I really need this so ty

[@TravisGoodman]

My heart goes out to you and your family

[@christinamd]

Ty my dad died but u made me way calmer so ty

[@GoceDelcevMKD]

I lost my dad, it has been 2 years now. Still can’t get over the pain, feel depressed all the time.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your dad - that is really difficult. Moving through grief, through loss, takes time and is a journey, a process. I wish I could tell you exactly when things get easier - however, that varies from person to person and from context to context. Something that can help are rituals of remembrance and connection.

[@GoceDelcevMKD]

@@TravisGoodman thanks for the support bro

[@maunzee]

I lost my younger brother whose body had to wait almost a year to be shipped for burial. Next my dad and a cousin. Last week my cousin’s fiancé who who are both my friends and grew up with me. I’ve been trying to block all the memories and emotions. But this last loss brought everything back. I’m overwhelmed, emotionally broken, feel cursed and abandoned by God. It hurts so bad. 😢

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your loss and the delay in being able to bury your brother. So hard, so difficult and so painful. I bless you during this season of tremendous loss.

[@maunzee]

@@TravisGoodman thank you so much 🙏🏾

[@Personnnnnn611]

I just found out today ways that my former best friend committed suicide earlier in the year. We didn’t have an argument or anything, we just kind of drifted apart. I feel fully responsible for her death, because she told elementary school me that she had some problems at home, that her family member was touching her.. she committed suicide at twelve years old, and it’s horrible.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for such a horrible loss. It is normal to blame self at times of things we coulda or shoulda done. That is part of the grieving process, we try to make sense of it all and at times blame ourselves. Blessings to you for peace as you walk this season of grief.

[@stephenbru]

My emotios are so screwed up!...I feel guilty if I laugh and get mad at myself because i did laugh or started feeling normal...im so messed up! ...i cant even express myself!!

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for what you are going through right now - it sounds really difficult. Sounds like you are in the guilt part of grief which can often feel like you are guilty for everything and anything and often is confusing. Know that you emotions are legitimate. Something that might help is when you have an emotion - just take 10 seconds to pause, take a breath and just notice and label what you felt (for example, I am having a feeling of guilt, or I am having a feeling of sadness). Then from there you can notice what you sense in your body and just note to yourself - I am noticing a tightening of my stomach muscles, or feeling hot or heavy in my chest, etc. From here if you want to investigate - approach you emotions with curiosity - see where it leads.

[@amnamaryam6986]

Lost my pet green parrot yesterday. He got hit by the fan (was flying really high). Stayed with me overnight stared at me. The vet told me he’ll operate on him 12 in the morning and i had to wait for the whole night. He was breathing the whole night but around 7AM he died in my hands. It just feels so weird cuz i have my course to review and practice but i just cant seem to forget about what happened and i cry randomly. I feel guilty all the time and just cant seem to get out of this cycle at all.

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your parrot - that is really difficult - as you navigate this season of grieving your parrot I wish you to have peace, strength and courage.

[@michaeltnk1135]

I’ve just been trying to keep myself distracted. I’ve become addicted to scrolling and watching mindless videos online because it distracts my mind. Usually as soon as I put my phone down I start thinking about it again and get severely depressed

[@TravisGoodman]

So sorry for your loss. Distracting is totally normal as you journey through. Remember to take time to allow yourself to be in and with your emotions - even for just 5 minutes to start. Then you can go back to distracting. Imagine going into to cold ice water for 5 minutes then come back out and rest. Then go again. Blessings to you for peace and strength during this season of grief.

[@real_freddyfazbear1tiktok337]

I lost my grandpa 5 days ago and I’m still depressed about it… every time around others I just fake laugh or fake smile just to hide my emotions so they don’t know I’m actually depressed and want to end myself in the future… I’m 19 and still am losing everyone and everything slowly…

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry and my heart goes out to you and your family. You are in the beginning part of your journey in grief. Take it a day at a time. Blessings to you and your family.

[@real_freddyfazbear1tiktok337]

@@TravisGoodman ………

[@One_and_only74]

The worst part is losing my nephew due to covid and no one to be there in the room when he took his last breath! It hurts!!! 😢

[@TravisGoodman]

Ugh my heart goes out to you and your family. That is awful and cannot begin to imagine the pain and loss. Blessings to you and the family as you walk through such horrible grief.

[@cubelif3]

Right now it's November 26, 2023 at 3:40 a.m and my aunt,whi i was spending the night with, went to the casino and on the way back home she passed out and has a 1% chance of survival so this is helping for me right now cause she is the closest aunt that i have. Please pray to whatever God you believe in to help her. I love you, Aunt Bridget please fight.😢

[@TravisGoodman]

OH that is awful - I am so sorry for your Aunt Bridget. Blessings to her and to the medical team working with her. Blessings to you during this season of uncertainty - for peace in the midst of the storm.

[@cubelif3]

@@TravisGoodman yep there going to pull the pull today

[@Jeanie_Zee]

That's the thing, I don't *know* how. I'm only 32, no one prepared me for a life without my mom figure...for feeling orphaned even though both biological parents are alive. No one prepared me for how it feels that I didn't get to say goodbye. It's still so fresh at barely over a week that I'm nowhere near any sort of how...and I feel so lost and lonely despite having a support system 😔

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for your the loss of your mom - that is truly awful. You are at the beginning journey of grief - this will take time - this will be a journey with ups and downs and in-betweens. I wish blessing upon you for peace, strength, courage as you move through this.

[@MelissaAuthority]

Lost my dad yesterday, and I'm just feeling broken and lost.

[@TravisGoodman]

Melissa - I am so sorry for the loss of your dad yesterday - that is awful and my heart goes out to you and your family. Wish you peace, strength, courage, comfort in the midst of the grief.

[@lillacd21]

I just found out my uncle passed. I don’t want to be alone with myself anymore I just can’t. I’m so scared. Just 10 minutes ago life was perfect

[@TravisGoodman]

Ugh that is so horrible, I am so sorry for the loss of your uncle. As you walk through this season of grief - blessings for peace, for moments of joy, for connection!

[@beetunee]

I’m trying

[@TravisGoodman]

In seasons of grief, at times, that is the best and all we can do. Take it a moment a time.

[@Tory-fd5gs]

My rabbit called pi died yesterday she has been with me since as long as i can remember i couldnt sleep at all last night i was just crying lots of people say that ill get over her in a day but thats not true i miss her alot

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your rabbit pi - give yourself the time you need to allow yourself to grieve - you will experience a mix of emotions - you will get to a place of acceptance - even then you can get hit with a wave of sadness. Blessings to you!

[@agustinlacandazo9855]

My wife died last july 26,2024..i can't describe the pain, i miss her so much 😭

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your wife - that is truly awful and heartbreaking - that pain sounds unbearable at times im sure - I wish you strength, courage, hope, rest, peace as you navigate this season of such tremendous loss!

[@agustinlacandazo9855]

@@TravisGoodman thanks man.. appreciate it🤍🙏

[@melindaheaton7407]

What if you don't have anyone to lean on? What if the only person you had to lean on in moments of loss is the 1 person that died??

[@TravisGoodman]

That is really difficult, I am so sorry for the loss of such an important person in your life. That makes even the more difficult when they were the one you would turn to for support. Take it a day at a time. When ready, an exercise I often do with my clients is to write that loved one a letter (or letters) where you get to say what you need to say, where you get to talk with them.

[@Elsss_01]

I lost my Nanny in November i didn't get to say goodbye bye and when she died i hadn't seen her for weeks. Ot breaks my heart because i feel like i didnt tell her how much i love her enough for her to know how much i really really loved her. I saw her coffin in the funeral and the bit tjat got me was realising that she was in there and she was really gone. They put the coffin in the hurse and drove of, just like that she was gone and i didnt wven say goodbye. (Also some stupid friend of one of the family was taking pictures of the coffin in the hurse and videos during yhe service evn though it said no phones

[@TravisGoodman]

I am so sorry for the loss of your nanny - that it so hard. I know it may sound strange but tell her how much you love her - let her know that - it might help to write her a letter as a tangible act that you can engage with. Blessings to you as you journey through this season of grief.

[@Elsss_01]

@@TravisGoodman thanks for the idea. While I don't think the grief will go away I'm healing but it is going to take a while to get to a point where I can try to move on