4 Social Skills SECRETS that Make You Attractive AF

[@clarkkegley]

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[@alshavanattia8773]

Okay! Despite the fact that I don't actually like you and I think you completely full of it just as much as the next bloke down the road and probably been on a diet of bologna sandwiches, Cocoa Puffs and piss and vinegar! Lolol!

[@christopherboxford9556]

Not to sound concieted but I'm a fairly attractive guy but my teeth are starting to take a rapid decline (meth.. cough) Makes me not want to smile as much. Any suggestions?

[@hardiksharma911]

"Do I need to be liked? Absolutely not. I like to be liked. I enjoy being liked. I have to be liked. But it's not like this compulsive need to be liked, like my need to be praised."

[@IvySnowFillyVideos]

Socializing is overrated

[@gnostic-foulfilth430]

narcissist

[@sarthakpawar2407]

1. be interested, not interesting 2. say their name 3. smile 4. compliment

[@leilani7035]

Thanks for saving me 10 min

[@thebigcheese5114]

My buddy told me about 6 years back that he respected how I go after what I want and achieve that. To this day that’s stuck with me. That’s how powerful words can be!

[@dantepepper]

Becoming interested makes you interesting and gives you a mysterious aura

[@tylersmith-bu5zd]

Fr

[@irishcheese9575]

Interesting

[@moonwolf8470]

I think the bigger part of being interesting is to face challenges and hardship. People with lot of experience are, what I find, interesting.

[@ketsuro72]

can you also see aura ?

[@sebastian3004]

You have to impress her enough for her to appreciate that. Otherwise you are just another dude trying to get to know her. Ain't it?

[@Ziggle-ky9kv]

There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

[@hopebgood]

Some weird book will never find you a partner. Real life might.

[@fenderlead1]

Bot

[@SerenityScratch]

For the smile tip, you can be genuinely happy by detaching the people your meeting to what you experienced earlier that day. By genuinely being positive, you’ll be a lot happier. Also by being less judge mental too. Just because someone looks weird to you, doesn’t mean that person isn’t valuable and important just because you think they aren’t.

[@siriusthestar1763]

A lot of people are not valuable/important

[@UrMom-xn1bm]

Everyone is

[@abujunayed]

Judgemental is one word, but I'm not judging you

[@progfrogg]

@@siriusthestar1763 wrong. everyone is important.

[@johnbarrett5229]

I'm sorry but this sentence doesn't make sense to me Stelliphina: "you can be genuinely happy by detaching the people your meeting to what you experienced earlier that day." ???????

[@Primorkusha]

The fact that Social Secrets Mastery is such a well-kept secret says a lot about why so many struggle with dating-it’s all in the book.

[@fulltimervegan4998]

As a female with RBF, I’ve had my fair share of elderly men approach me and tell me to smile. After reading this book, I actually started walking around with a smile regardless of how my day is going. I also have tremendous anxiety surrounding public places and what other people are thinking, so I started making a point of complimenting people I make eye contact with and it has actually helped me to gain clients at work. If I’m already smiling, they just smile back and we don’t necessarily have to interact beyond that, but complimenting them makes me feel better and less anxious and I’ve made someone else smile and saved myself from getting irritated with a stranger. It’s a win/win.

[@everettlatimer3036]

Thank you for this. I think this is what I need to do 😊

[@-mouse]

that's cool

[@wjeczkoo]

Feeling exactly the same! Making an effort to genuinely compliment someone just makes you feel good about yourself and stops all these negative thoughts that you have in your head.

[@isiseloise7286]

Dude, I work in retail and so many men walk up and say for me to smile, not women, just men…

[@phenex5190]

That... I'm going to try that. Maybe not 100% or all the time, but complimenting someone you made eye contact with sounds like something that, over time, would make you better able to adapt.

[@skateordie9628]

The one thing I learned and used the most throughout life is the listening part. I had noticed that unless directly asked about something specific, most people don't care about anything you have to say about yourself, they are just waiting for a turn to talk about themselves as well, and if you're honest with yourself you may admit that you don't care much about what they're saying either. If you want people to like you, let them talk and don't interrupt, just do little follow up questions or a nod at the right time to let them know you're listening. Absolutely everyone loves that.

[@sassy098]

well for me people say that I'm quiet if I do that I gotta TALK to prove to people that I actually talk uk

[@samuelchambers5761]

My only worry is that if I always do that, then it will become an expectation and others will use me a bit. So guess it’s a balance overall

[@lsen01928]

What if you're perceived as a boring unintelligent person who can't hold a conversation

[@skateordie9628]

@@lsen01928 all the more reason to stay quiet. I'm sorry this is happening to you.

[@lsen01928]

@@skateordie9628 I'm asking if that is how you'll be perceived if you don't speak and mostly keep listening to the other person

[@-_Blitz_-]

What I love to do is remember specific things about each person I talk to, and then bring it up next time I meet them. It works especially well with stories and shows that you really do pay attention

[@tomadams3796]

This is legit my favourite thing to do! Their reaction is incomparable. The most common reaction, you were listening!?

[@npcdillon2715]

The biggest takeaway is that for any of this to work you HAVE to be open to change. You can't just watch the video and get excited then carry on. You have to practice and form new habits. But the rewards will be worth it. Plant the seed, water it, and watch it grow.

[@josephciacciarelli9959]

Authenticity is key 🔑 Grateful for the shared knowledge and of course no commercials This is the way 🙏

[@RichiChapman]

So good.

[@jessicajoyce9334]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems..

[@sahilgoel3534]

🗿🗿🗿

[@fatwp6345]

If you want to be genuinely happy it is. But as this video explains, being fully authentic doesn't quite pay off in the social world. You have to put on a face as if everything is peaches and cream in your life rather than being able to relax your face and be as you normally would lol.

[@kimchi8022]

Being interested in others instead of trying to seem interesting…that flicked a switch in my brain and honestly lifted a burden off my shoulders. I can definitely be interested in others. Thank you!

[@someoneelse6934]

As a casino dealer, I can confirm that the things mentioned in this video will actually increase your tips. I was told towards the beginning of dealing poker “you should smile more, you look grumpy” by a player (a.k.a. Resting b*tch face). They were right. As I was new to dealing, I was concentrating and nervous which made me had a serious expression. Now when I approach the table to come in as the new dealer, I be sure to have a very slight smile (not a frown at least). Then when I sit down, I quickly glance for a split second at each player. If I make eye contact, I’ll give the slightest nod (almost like of recognition). If I do know their names, I will acknowledge them with a “hi John”. If someone has a cool shirt, hat, watch or luckily poker “charm” I’ll give them a “nice shirt!” nod. Last week a guy had a Motörhead shirt and I acknowledged it and then quietly sang a a line from “Ace of Spades” (one of their biggest songs). He laughed and said “great tune”. He ended up being my biggest tipper that round. People just want some sort of connection. Once they feel that, they are MUCH more generous when they have the chance to be.

[@iam_adamfromearth]

Bro i wasnt expecting such a real video. This is real af, you gave geniune, soulful ways of looking at socialising. Respect!

[@danherrick5785]

Someone learned quickly - showoff!

[@lucenceparency7870]

Introverts should be careful with "become interested, not interesting." As an introvert, I had a much harder time connecting with people before I started working on myself. Don't be obnoxious about it-read the room-but have something to share, because relationships are a two-way street: giving (interesting) and receiving (interested). Otherwise you're just a reporter, watching and asking questions.

[@mm-cm6kc]

This is true. And then you're gonna be left alone as the "listener". I noticed people like to talk so I listen, but they also just talk about themselves, not giving any chance for you to share something about yourself. So when I notice that it's a one way conversation, I try to open something about myself so I feel good and initiated/hinted that I should also be involved in the talking and not here to just listen. But there are people who talk and ask, these are the people I like to talk to

[@Maximus5775]

@@mm-cm6kcyeah the people who only care about themselves I just walk away from the conversation it’s a waste of time

[@minela227]

it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden ebook called secrets of the elusive girl

[@michaelblag]

never thought a book could help me this much. highly recommend

[@vildana-lama]

Seeing how much people have praised this book recently, I'm hopeful it will help me with my intentions

[@ohlongme1271]

Where can I find this book?

[@minela227]

google

[@justdoit4220]

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you" 🔥🔥

[@jimmyslade6754]

*Dale Carnegie

[@susanna8612]

I never felt attracted to anyone who tried to impress me. In my mind I always thought, please dont waste your energy. I felt attracted to people I formed real connection, no pretence, no trying, who are honest and honest with their short comings too, who dont try to manipulate.

[@Malevolent_Chaos7]

Man, I just started watching you and you have massively changed my energy. I feel a lot more calm now. Especially after watching your letting go videos.

[@MichelleBrayden352]

Hello

[@rossimarti]

So well recognized today (because of the book)… the ‘repeating name’ trick is a sign of someone who is being manipulative. Less is more. / Less is better.

[@joebello2214]

Tip guys don’t everrrrr let nobody step over you nor disrespected , respect should be payed with genuine respect .Once you let someone disrespect you in anyway you devalued yourself it doesn’t mean talk shit or fight back but stand for what’s right and moved on from friends relationships strangers or even family sometimes. We are all individuals . Happy come within do what you love regardless of what it is .

[@fatwp6345]

Exactly. I'm seeing comments where people are being told to smile by others as if they owe them that. You are only giving that person power of you if you feel like you have to be a certain way to please them.

[@joshuat123]

be interested yes, but don’t turn a conversation into an interview

[@Dhaiziheee]

Great point, hopefully the other person helps with that and reciprocates interest and asked you about yourself. Probably a good cue to walk away if they don’t lol

[@zubinmehta1282]

Remember: Do not compare yourself with others. If you are happy with what you have with your hardwork then you are successful…. Our habit of comparing ourselves with others will really damage ourselves ( I had gone through it and gained nothing)… Concentrate on your hobbies and work; this will simply make you “Attractive”.

[@earth-air-water-fire-aether]

And then people will have another problem of I'm attractive, why aren't I getting some, it's the same mentality of having hope, hope has no action first-hand.

[@apsarasgaming1663]

Meanwhile me don't care i being like or not,i just being myself kek 🤪(please people just waste time lel)

[@apsarasgaming1663]

Also people now a day so judgemental that's why either they like me or not idc tbh , at least i already treat them the way i treat myself 🙈

[@zubinmehta1282]

@@earth-air-water-fire-aether let them be with their mentality bro…you just need to keep going straight…Good Luck😉

[@Axman2024]

The crazy thing is that i remember trying to be "Interested" in someone but they nothing to be interested IN. I would ask about their interests, hobbies etc. And all they would basically say nothing like they didn't have any interests at all. So the conversation would end abruptly.

[@johannachesshir8218]

Well they are boring then

[@bolt6572]

This whole video is basically have Aquarius star sign personality. Detached, genuinely curious in people but from keeps a distance from them

[@onepunchflan3071]

I'm an Aquarius and this doesn't seem to work that well for me. People misunderstand me a lot but that is most likely all in my head

[@bolt6572]

@onepunchflan3071 it's also the sign that is the most misunderstood because it does things differently to normal people

[@kiume_]

Clark, I love how you're comfortable shooting with only an empty background and at a close-up angle. Makes you feel authentic talking about this topic. (Just a random thought I had while watching the video.) First time for me here in your channel, but I can see you've been doing this for a while and putting in a lot of effort to be good at it. 🙌

[@Connectingthedots.]

Those who are meant to be in your life will be in your life. Trust the process 💖

[@RichiChapman]

Totally!

[@jessicajoyce9334]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems..

[@dexterseptember5787]

Invaluable. Ive been living this since learning it my early 20s, but its good to hear it again. This is pure gold.

[@karinae.schofield5605]

You know what I appreciate about you Clark? Although your videos are short they never waste my time! I laugh AND I learn. Thank you ☺️

[@ViralVideos-pr2oi]

10 minutes is long

[@afm-unpluggedunderground8270]

@@ViralVideos-pr2oi how is that long? Lol

[@jessitabonita]

@@ViralVideos-pr2oi 😂 10 mins is long? For life-changing quality content? Try listening all the way through a 4 hour video by The Rational Male. THAT will change your life.

[@CarlosRR02]

That book changed my life, I went from no one caring or remembering who I was at work to the person that people will go slightly out of their way in the morning to greet. It's all about effort and being genuine, the principles written in that book have become habits I do on a daily basis, subconsciously. I studied the book, took notes and wrote on a journal, and I often review my notes and the book from time to time.

[@amyk9813]

What's the biggest point your took from the book? The one that changed everything?

[@Yram0018]

I remember I complimented a guy wearing a beanie (he was wearing this beanie for a week now) and after I complimented him, he never wore that beanie ever again..

[@nathangoodman603]

Crazy... as I watched this video I realized everything I did right last weekend at the bar. I met this girl, was introduced through friends, got her name and a few minutes later I called her by her name and asked her a question about herself. Then I backed off for a little while. Then I called her by her name again and asked another question in which we found a commonality from. Then we kept talking about things with different questions. I wasn't trying to be overly nice or flirty but I was genuinely enjoying the conversation. Towards the end of the night, I complimented her on her music type. Then, right before the bars closed, she asked me if I remembered her name. which I said "of course, its x. What's my name?" Immediately challenging her with the same question to see if she had the same level of interest. After this, we ended up going home together. Nothing was weird, we had real conversation that night and it was genuine and natural. Girls don't want you to try, they want you to put forth effort. there's a difference.

[@ClintChocolateChip]

This was an interesting watch because I've always generally faked interest in people and their interests in order to be friendly and curteous to them when they have something to say, which I've noticed has gotten many of my coworkers and acquaintances throughout the years to like and trust me. I always thought of it as just having good manners. Anyways, my problem is that as I grow older I've come to genuinely dislike people and have stopped faking interest due to the fact that [in my experience] relationships with others based on lies and faked interest can lead you down paths you wouldn't normally take which leads to time wasted on objectives which aren't your true goals and dont reflect your values. The lesson here is: Be yourself, unapologetically. Don't fake your life to appease others. Stop worrying. This is YOUR life, so live it how you want to.

[@anusha2465]

Same girl. I had stopped people pleasing and people at work started respecting me more. I might have less friends now, but people know I am no doormat.

[@grabthemappodcast]

I never realized how impactful something as simple as remembering names could be until watching this. Thanks for sharing such practical and easy-to-implement advice!

[@mikkeljohansen1404]

great video. worked like a charm. every1 loves me now and i got my first boyfriend

[@enockkayondo9495]

Your moustach and hairstyle is reminiscent of the titanic. Good content. Looking nice, man!

[@kathleenlovett1958]

BRILLIANT ❣️ Especially, "Give people a fine reputation to live up to". Thank you, Clark. I thoroughly enjoyed the video, Clark.😁 (I really did like it!)

[@annetteysquierdo]

I listened to that book (audiobook) twice, and I have noticed a massive difference in how people treat me. If I had to guess, I’m a more likable person now. It’s so essential to get genuinely curious about people. I listen more than talk, and it’s made all the difference! I am thrilled to have found someone else sharing tips from the book I have been basing my interactions on for the past two months! New sub! 😊

[@aaronclarke1434]

4 months now. Still working?

[@hikingaf6735]

I LOVE your videos Clark! Thank you for sharing your passion! 🤣 at “giving 1/2 expenditure of a calorie to learn your name!” I’ve found that in the same line of making someone feel important, if you’re late for a meeting with someone can also send a message that “they aren’t important”. But when you’re early or on time with a smile on your face, that shows you’re excited to be present with them and can also make them feel important and sends signals high vibrations💕😁

[@ArcOfficial]

As someone with ADHD, I've always struggled with getting out of my own head. Unfortunately. I'm also very stubborn so I refused to accept it was adhd. Now that I'm 24 and friendless.. something has to be done. Videos like these truly help. Thank you.

[@shashankthapa659]

Better to have no friends than fake friend's. Hope you have a great day.

[@Mogwai88]

Start meditating. Seriously, it changed everything for me. And it's free.

[@Yourubeei]

ADHD has nothing to do with it, stop putting labels on things that don’t need labels, man up and take responsibility

[@kalixmaxwell4742]

I’m like a minute in and I know I will watch you for a long time to come. The humility and humour tie it together wonderfully

[@liamjefferson9591]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@liamjefferson9591]

Hello brother, can you please put me in the right direction?

[@liamjefferson9591]

Thanks henry, i found her site.

[@victoriawheeler5445]

Hey Clark , you're a new face on my feed. Right before you mentioned your brand I was thinking to myself this guy should be a health coach and it turns out you are some kind of coach. Well I just want to say i appreciate your video and I love little psychological tips we can use to enhance ourselves, our lives and our relationships.

[@backbonebandit4722]

U took the advice and used his name😂

[@Tacocat315]

To add to your point about smiling, putting the effort in the put yourself in a positive mood will make you smile way more so sometimes you need to change your perspective

[@indicababy5513]

I thought this would be some weird dating coach thing but actually these are really good tips lol thank you im glad i clicked

[@livda9786]

smile, say someone's name, be interested, give compliment

[@FantasticGaming-pw8st]

Become interested, not interesting Say people’s names (“Good to see you” instead of “Nice to meet you”) Try to smile and not have RBF Put some effort into being more social Begin with praise and honest appreciation Praise the qualities you want to see grow up Honest and sincere appreciation Shed off the layers and let go of some old stories and baggage

[@biblelessons4life]

Yeah, but what we all want is a relationship that gives us everything we desire. How much are we willing to give? Learning how to put someone else's needs over our own can be difficult acted out throughout the course of a long term relationship, even if you're in love. We only have to be attractive to the right person that sees us and then join along side them for the ride of a lifetime.

[@GorArkson]

I'm sharing this as a tip for those who find it hard to be interested in the person you're talking to. Being interested is also learning about the person and what could you take away from their stories. Acknowledging that each person have different emotions, experiences, and circumstances makes it all the more reason why it is interesting to hear about people's stories. Even when I talk to people who have similar experience that I had, it interests me to know about their story on how they handled it emotionally or mentally. A rare advice which I believe I have only read twice in the internet. You wanting to talk to the person is already a good enough reason. No other reasons needed, your self wanting the conversation is enough.

[@oponomo]

I had a hoodie that a girl told me she liked that color when i was a teen. some years later my dad threw it in the trash and bought me a new one, i cried for having lost that hoodie. I was over 20 when i cried for a HOODIE!

[@henkjekel4081]

1. Become interested, not trying to be interesting. From experience: Ask about things that bring up emotion rather than asking about facts. Example: How did u feel when.. What was ur happiest, saddest, weirdest, craziest, luckiest.. What was the last time u felt most loved..

[@anusha2465]

Isnt it weird as hell to ask people about feelings at work?

[@Tengoundelincuentenmiabitacion]

Amazing advice. I would keep it casual tho, not to sound like a therapist

[@KIOAgency]

the quality of the video is sick omg

[@roundninja]

One trick I have, inspired by Carnegie, is to remember people's problems. Like if last time we talked their new job wasn't going well, or they'd hurt their leg, I like to check up on that quickly. Not dwell on it, and not try to solve it if there's nothing I can do, but just remembering it seems to go a long way.

[@josephraaluchi5323]

💥Get more interested in people than you finding their interest 💥Always remember their names 💥Smile a bit small to attract connection 💥Honest and sweet compliment

[@moneywithnira]

it's the first self-help book I read and it changed my perspective on interacting with other people. Remembering names is still a challenge for me though. I tried to use that trick he mentions, but honestly there were cases where I'd forget by the time I want to repeat it. If its a group I'll wait to see if someone else says their name and that helps. Great video though!

[@shanemassey8398]

I'm the same! Recently I've expressed that "I already forgot your name, sorry!" And laugh. They appreciate the honesty and will happily tell you their name. Also, I've begun saying their name three times in front of them, to let them know I'm trying. They appreciate it! Finally, you can challenge them to say your name. Many times they don't either. It's a quick way to bond.

[@bonhamcarter4488]

What's the name of the book

[@DirectaBeMakinAScene]

Try rhyming it....Jack in the back wearing black

[@anboojz]

I watched this video 5 months ago sleeping on someone's couch. Now im moving into my own apartment with my son tomorrow 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 god is good.

[@lenasvisionyoutube]

Thank you for the recap. I read this book a few months back and needed a reminder of the principles. Will use them next week when I'm going out :)

[@cynthiaars8140]

Smiling helps ourself first, with instantly improving our mood! At least that's what it does for me!

[@aprilthomas1489]

The problem with being "interested" is that you end up talking to those self absorbed (un)"interesting" people, and your openness to listen gives them licence to keep going and going and going and going.....

[@Vlad-du6nu]

Be yourself good or bad...the right person will love you for who you are

[@eldritchfloatie7196]

All of these things aren't something coachable, if you don't feel them, you will lose them again as soon as you stop working hard to maintain them. You need to be satisfied with who you are, which will lead you to doing things you find satisfying. You will be interested because your life is actually interesting enough for you to not have to talk about it without being asked, and you will smile because the general baseline of your life is joy. Invest your money in a good hypnotherapist or another practicioner who helps you dissolve subconscious traumas, you'll finally be changing the cause of your problems and not just have a dude like Clark put bandaids on top.

[@iCarryBoatsAndTheLogs]

This all helps and that’s coming from someone who has experienced this recently. I like a woman I had an assessment for a job we were all going for. The second I saw her I was taken back from her smile. I’m an average looking guy, not ugly but not anything special, I’m also a lil chubby too. She’s a healthy weight, the right shape and size with the most amazing smile and clearest skin. We had to get to know each other for the first task and then feedback to the room. We had 3 minutes to memorise 5 facts. From that we went off task and ended up talking in depth about ourselves. We both got the job but I’m into her. We both got to the interview stage and I went in first as we had to go in by the numbers we were given. I waited for her after wanting to get her number and see if she got in too. When she came out she asked for my number!! We are now talking but taking it slow.

[@zaldum386]

The power of having the authenticity to NOT NEED to have nobody addicted to you is far more powerful than all this "fake your personality" cr*p, but that is many levels above this.

[@sirosagaming8228]

Did you... really censor the word crap?

[@franciscapistrano8650]

He did

[@anusha2465]

This. I am so over wanting anyone addicted to me. Performing is only for interviews

[@JayBodden-e2o]

You always make complex topics feel more approachable.

[@psychedelicacynical]

"a bunch of people sitting around complaining, who wants that" - I literally started laughing because I have seen this exact scenario anyway these are great tips!

[@davidjewell1748]

I love this video. Granted I do all these things already, but I got the gratification of knowing these are "The Ways"..... But what made me comment......I was watching and listening to you talk...facial expressions...everything.... You look AND sound just like Ben Affleck!!!!! Amazing. Have you ever been told this before?

[@pyronix]

i have been unconsciously practicing some of these already but it's so nice to learn about a few more things. thank you. great video!

[@gimmetea5615]

I resonate with you. I was hesitant bro. But the no ads helped a ton.

[@herrmullerlugenscheid5387]

Also one thing that maybe sounds weird, but has helped me alot in making new friends: Give People the opportunity to prove their trustworthiness, dont shy away from telling them something personal about you, when the opportunity presents itself. Most People have alot more fun talking to new People when theyre instantly treated with not only respect, but with trust (Both to a certain degree of course). And something to also keep in mind 8/10 people are perfectly fine decent Human beings, who will not let you down if you let them in.

[@wellwhatdoyakno6251]

Self sponsor. No ads. Really noticed that until you mentioned it. Love how genuine you are. Thanks a lot man

[@NathanHarrison7]

That was an excellent, well thought out and practical synopsis of Dale Carnegie’s book. Loved how you presented it, and even, at times, showed us what a particular technique looked like by role playing it. Subscribed. You have a gift. Thank you!

[@jaynick1223]

No idea how I found this dude but what a breath of fresh air. Full of wisdom and genuine advice thats applicable to anyone no matter their circumstance. Think I found a new subscribe. Thanks for the video, Clark.

[@cadacabezaesunmundo6496]

Still there are times when I want people to not ask me many questions within the first five minutes of meeting. I believe we still have to develop the art of asking questions or discern what to ask or what not to ask. I dislike when people ask me, “where are you originally from?” because it has nothing to do with the moment other than them being interested on letting me know that I am not from the United States, according to them. I believe the most important thing is to offer people comfort with your presence: sometimes through what you say and at times without saying anything. Anything you say or do shall enrich what the person you are connecting with is saying or doing. Avoid asking extremely personal questions. People will tell you more information when they trust you and feel comfortable and decide to tell you.

[@matty8272]

This all very useful to help maintain myself as unapproachable and maybe people as a whole will leave me alone.

[@prisk9816]

so interesting! What i can tell by my own experience (get complimented for it as well) is the power of keeping eye contact when it’s needed. it’s important to loosen it up from time to time (again the ‚not trying to come over creepy’ aspect) but keeping eye contact makes building a connection between two people that much easier and more real. And it also helps making the being interested part more authentic. if it’s hard for you maybe try practicing it in front of a mirror or with a person you trust (especially while talking as well). it makes someone want to open up more towards you and give you trust

[@destro.4554]

"Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise." My father recommended that Dale Carneige book to me while I was struggling with feeling like I had any real friends. I feel like it applies in so many ways. It really can be a game changer

[@alshavanattia8773]

What I like about this video is he puts it in a gentle matter that we women can actually read your mind/you think you're invisible you're not we have already seen you what goes through our mind is who is this person and what do they want with me which I think that is almost anybody men or woman! So thank you for making this video

[@outhouse.wholesaler]

I have no problem being interested in other people once the conversation is flowing, the problem I have is getting the conversation flowing in the first place.

[@jhf3291]

I have a friend who subconsciously does all 4, he's the most likable person I've ever known.

[@Bj-rl5fb]

maybe he/she does it on purpose in a subtle and a smooth way

[@Good.London]

This only applies if you're a chad i e good looking, if you're a sub 5 i e ugly then this wont work and you're be considered a creep

[@charliealba83]

Thank you for posting this video. I just recently finished this book. Gained a lot from its content. Grateful as always. Thank you for continuing your work

[@jessicajoyce9334]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems..

[@ahmednasif5443]

the best part about this video is clark's relaxed voice and calmness while talking unlike other videos where the youtuber shouts like a dinosaur for no reason and making no sense at all

[@sizwekoomtheMc]

I have always appreciated your videos, but this one has taken my appreciation of your content to another level. Thank u for sharing yourself with us

[@KeegiiBaby]

Ive done this with everyone i loved and interested in and got in return disrespect hatered negativity ghosting and rejection. And being used until they feel they found better or doing better.

[@denisvasiliev3928]

Although I've read pretty carefully and completely Dale Cargegie's book and follow these advices, I don't think that to be interested is enough to create really good social interactions. Active listening is important, but it's only one side of the picture. Another part is still to be interesting. Think of the parties you've been to and there's always a so called "life of the party" person. And all people are listening and having fun with them, because they are good at keeping the attention and telling jokes, stories, etc. So I think that to be an interesting person, know storytelling and leading engaging converstations, to "give" so to say is also a skill that should be learned.

[@biggibbs4678]

Absolutely not, they're the life of the party because they talk a lot, aren't afraid to express themselves, and they have the ability to be "on" all the time.

[@mdleweight]

I use one more of Dale's suggestions that always works: When someone asks me how I am there is only one answer: "Great!". It elevates you and everyone around you who hears it. No other answer ever makes sense.

[@Juvenalpinedastaysfit]

“ To be interesting you must be interested.”-Jad T Jones

[@peterwhitey4992]

It's not true though.

[@pinto_8261]

@@peterwhitey4992 autistic response

[@tsvetansumerski7231]

You know Clark, I really appreciate that the ad is at the end of the video really helps me focus on the video and enjoy it.

[@spiritualBaddi]

This is amazing. I actually find people super interesting so it's awesome to be genuinely interested- and it's true everyone loves it hehe 💗

[@aarongaffney6466]

So much easier! I am more innie of ambiversion, so it’s natural for me to love listening more. :)

[@David-ho1em]

Good advice, Clark. "I'm bad with names hehe" is such a boring thing to say. I try to counter with something witty like "Well I'm bad with money."

[@prdeacon974]

I like these tips. Sadly I am not interested in making any friends. I’m a loner because I love being alone. If a coworker becomes to friendly, I cut it off. However, I can talk to strangers at any time, but only at that distance. Plus I talk to fast , almost like a stutter. So many that is why.

[@iam_adamfromearth]

Maybe u love being alone, because you're scared to be in social situations. If that's the case, force yourself into them. Fight against your weakness! You can change!

[@tonykika6884]

Stop trying to be emo

[@Luckyou1]

@@tonykika6884 why cant you respect their feelings? And being an emo is not even that

[@subliminalstealthhh]

Although I’m insanely shy and rarely socialise, i find whenever I’m at an event a sudden confidence I never have usually comes over me. But i swear this only happens when I’m forced to be at events and parties 😹

[@adgepeterb]

Wow interesting. Tell me more. That sounds sooO cool. Uh-huh, Uh-huh, mm-hmm. So how do you get to these events do you drive? And why do you feel shy is it because people like me have to pretend were interested in what you say?

[@anusha2465]

This is so me!! I became overconfident as hell in parties or get-togethers, but I tone down these days as I realised confidence bring a lot of enemies. Generally I am shy af.

[@DylanSigleyDropServicing]

One of the best books of all time for sure.

[@daubyj]

To be honest, saying someones name repeatedly is also a tactic in sales. I'm not saying you should never use someones name, but use it sparsely. When someone use my name a lot in a short timespan (especially if I'm not close to that person) I feel kind of manipulated.

[@tigergreg8]

I'm familiar with this book because I have one of the first editions of it. The man who wrote the book lived literally miles away from me. It seems to be one of the most used (self help) books on the market.

[@kamehameha9160]

Damn the first 20 seconds resonate so much with me! I just want to really be charismatic so that people like talk to me more And yes! I just overthought every single action even like standing up

[@jessicajoyce9334]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems..

[@kamehameha9160]

No thanks!

[@Halo4beatsB02]

lol

[@jonisoma5726]

…..I like listening to people and asking them flattering questions. It is interesting to see how long they will speak….be their captive audience. It’s fun.

[@lmaopew]

i was pretty bad in social situations and was kinda shy and unpopular in school, but now i've improved myself, my buddy even said "i was probably the first one in college to be in a group of people and haveing friends"... which i can see, cuz i actually kinda talk with everyone and some friends are like "wait, who was [name] again" after i mentioned a name. i've learned to just not think much and just listen and talk whats going thru my mind, dont overthink, just be yourself and smile! my resting face has a slight smile, so people always view me as a happy person, which makes me actually happy

[@mattlukaszewski]

I wouldn't mind seeing sponsors in your videos! If you still provide such an amazing value and get paid for it, I'm all for it!