4 Things a Man Needs to Feel to Commit to You

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@brightpage1020]

Ladies, if he’s married - even if he says he’s “getting divorced” or “but my wife is crazy...” or whatever - if he is still married - let that be a hint that he is unavailable for sustainable relationship with you and it is likely to bring tumultuous drama to both your lives - not worth it.

[@marciavernor1849]

Totally agree

[@Sloan341]

This is for all ladies stay away from Married men.They are not free they are not single they are married. By you messing and meddling with a married man you are destroying his marriage. You’re nothing but a side skank.

[@AlternateHistory]

It depends, sometimes men also suffer from an abusive partner and that partner will not be easy to divorce.

[@sarebear4351]

Absolutely. Same goes if he just had a baby or came out of a long term relationship under 6 months.

[@sarebear4351]

@@AlternateHistory yeah but it still means he is unavailable. Great time to support him from the friend zone until he wraps that situation up. If he is proactive about finalising it to be with you is a good sign. But if he has been abused he may be traumatized so may need a bit of professional help 💖

[@sofiaroiz1152]

It brings me tremendous joy to see you so enamored with your partner, Mat. I know that you are the type of man who will nurture your precious relationship and will never get complacent. It makes me smile as I can really feel how content you are in this beautiful new relationship.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aw thank you Sofia that's so sweet! Yes I am so happy with her

[@patriciakey-xc5bs]

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[@janetshanbacher1737]

This is awesome! I am always finding myself in a relationship with unavailable men. They start out thinking they are and realize they aren’t as far along in their healing from divorce or losing his wife. Or even have lost their job. I stay too long trying to be compassionate and waste a lot of time 😞. I was 36 when I was divorced and 49 now and still not remarried. This is excellent advice and will take it and hope other do as well.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thanks my dear appreciate that share and your feedback

[@apple4914]

I have my ripe relationship! I am so happy with my partner and all this is in it!!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESS love it!!!

[@Sloan341]

Sometimes Patience pays off I got my partner back. Communication is the key

[@pricesunbury59]

He is ready. Emotionally with his heart, diesn't have past relationship.he is physically ready. He is grounded in his life, career. My king is ready for his queen.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing! love hearing that!

[@boomboom1258]

I agree with you. It doesn't matter if he has been enamoured by me, wanting to integrate our lives with each other and feeling very inspired to wanna make me happy and smile, if he can't physically be ready for it and he has past baggage to release, I'll do myself and him a favour by walking away and we can do our thing first before coming back to this relationship again.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much dear! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :) ♥

[@ladylibrum7145]

Ready, Inspired, Proud, Enamored

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you!

[@Nicole-is-global]

Your insight is always spot on. I was "this close" to flying back to the U.S. until the INTENSE EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT my guy had for his ex laid a hard hammer on that illusion of commitment. Because of your course, I was prepared.

[@starlasuzannerutan7624]

I have been following you for quite some time now, and I have to say how much I appreciate you sharing honesty about your own life with us. The fact that you were able to share with your audience that you lost your job, and was not able to commit to a relationship at that time, really helped me connect with the advice you’re giving us. Keep up the good work, I am so impressed with your channel!! ♥️🥰♥️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m happy this resonated with you!

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[@tressielassabe5779]

I would just like to find a good man.

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[@ljroberts3739]

ALWAYS very well done, Mat. The conciseness of your messages is so practical. And as always, the "recap" truly makes it stick so I can put it into action!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Much appreciated!

[@femmeninja]

Great topic! Both partners have to be ripe indeed to really get the healthy relationship going. I know its hard to get over deep betrayal and hurt and i can totally understand heartbreak can consume also men a lot to be truly present to a new partner. I am sure I scared many men away already mentioning my ex. I keep trusting my vision and lately in one succesful date I ordered a rainbow jokingly while ordering drinks and it was heavily raining..so it show up like magic front of us after a while like i had ordered! 🌈There is a lot good men available. We just have to truly see and recognize them. I am so glad you found your Becky Jean that lights your heart and soul 🌠

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much for sharing dear! :)

[@tressielassabe5779]

Hi Matt im 63 widowed and and we could use a coach for us older folks that still need to find someone.

[@ishaqsalisu3155]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@WarriorZ17]

Wish I found you years ago! Would have saved me a lot of pain, time and money. Thank you 🥰

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to help!

[@amandabotafogo5738]

I had everything, but as you, he lost hist job and things got messy... he became distant, a big lack of everything... its so sad. But thank you for sharing this, specially the part that you told about the "losing a job experience" thing, now I can understand better at least :(

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@yurina4770]

You're so amazing ! My bf gave me a single red rose on the second date It's really happy 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@shelleypetersen1608]

Thank you for sharing this. I had a relationship that the guy was great about being proud to be together and tentative but he was so angry about his ex. Now it makes sense. 🙃

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wonderful glad it served you!

[@kyoungbare]

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!! Love ya Mat...been watching you for months..not commenting but..this hit home!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome... glad to see you in the comments! :)

[@crose55082]

This a good video. I enjoyed it. I just had my first date with my first high value man. It was completely different than the guys I was dating. He encouraged me to talk. He drive up to the area I live two days earlier to look at a snowmobile trailer and found the restaurant. He did that just, so he knew where it was. I am in the middle of moving to the area he lives in. He said you move in August right, I would really like to see you again. I know you said you were going to be busy packing, I told him we might be able to do that. He said in the car when he was bringing me home he liked my bubbly personality, and definitely to see me again. He was the first to text me after the date. We have texted off and on, we shared some pictures, and sent me a video of his front yard, because he was finished mowing it. He POF profile says he isn't looking for anything serious, it was just nice to be in a real date. This video will help later with future dates of guys, now I know what to watch for. I do want a long term relationship, but I don't think a second date will hurt.

[@ishaqsalisu3155]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awesome! Thanks for sharing.

[@hazelzelisko1644]

What is happening after 15 years being connected, few disagreements, But cards , flowers,gifts, etc. but still sparse words spoken, or physical in ~emotional ,connections!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@cristalhumphreys4472]

I definitely agree with your list 🌞 + I also think a way that’ll prove to you that your man has NOT rebuilt any brokenness with a recent X if he’s ALWAYS mentioning her name almost on a daily

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@blancasalgado9568]

Basically until the dude is ready!! Got it lol

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YEP! :)

[@jenniferle472]

Like your topic❤❤❤

[@tiniliciouz]

great new video, mat. insightful. you're my favourite in the field of love advice! ❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wow, thank you!

[@sophdeguire]

🙏 excellent! Excellent, excellent, excellent, EXCELLENT! Thank you! ✨

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Janet1975]

It’s still very new. I’m praying. R is definitely achieved. I’m hoping with time we’ll get to experience IPE as well.🙏🏻

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You got this!

[@brightpage1020]

PS love your intro! It’s so ‘80’s prep tart! Cute!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aww THANKS I really appreciate that!!

[@marciavernor1849]

Mat thank you for this wonderful video about the 4 things men have to have to be ready for a committed relationship. 💝🤗❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@DaisyAruba]

Lol I remember you from a course I took with Aaron which featured you and some other cool people but you’re my fav one. I feel that your much more calm and easier to understand bc I’m high energy. I wonder how you’re Aaron’s teacher or mentor as I remember and you have less subs but maybe you started yt earlier? Idk but I think you should have millions of subs I hope you get there.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

That's very sweet. Thank you carissa❤️

[@pearlgeneste1890]

ripe... that is a hoot but so lovely! Loved your reading, thanks much!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@jennifermwangi3541]

Thank You 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're welcome 😊

[@marajohnson8013]

I think you & Helena Hart would make an insane team!! Any time you make a video together I listen & love it!!!!!

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Many thanks!

[@aimeeleroi4916]

Great, insightful video

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad it was helpful!

[@delululoompi]

you know i was a bit worried bc he had mentioned his ex, but he was actually talking about why we couldn’t get an apartment yet and how his credit got that way. but i feel better now. i think that it’s fair to bring her up and i didn’t really get much emotion from him other than worry when he was telling me everything that hindered our plans to move in together.

[@ishaqsalisu3155]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@valerierubin4225]

Thank you king! Love ya!!! Amazing video ✨🤪💛

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Boom!! So glad ya likes it!!!

[@LOVESTORY-vm2id]

"""The right person in the wrong time is still the wrong person "" it's simple yet I never thought about it this way if i did I would've avoided alot of heartbreak

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don’t give up on love sister! 🙏❤️

[@enelrahcreivaj]

The quality of your videos is amazing, Mat! Content-wise, presentation-wise and I also love the conclusion you put towards the end plus taking time to indicate the time stamps on the description box. Keep up the good job and all the best! More vids, please?!

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

So glad you enjoyed it! :) Many more to come!

[@littlecat2222]

Love this content ! Makes so much sense and practical ! Thank you

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome! ❤❤❤

[@renoaczhary1232]

Thanks for this❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@sjgbrighton]

I love your videos and your accent. Your kindness always shines through aswell.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

[@larsstougaard7097]

I love this man, so knowledgeable and helpful for both genders and relationships 😊🙏❤🌟

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[@junegarner141]

Thanks again! Have a great day!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you too!~

[@janicerockwell8417]

Your youthful enthusiasm is inspiring.

[@ishaqsalisu3155]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like it!

[@anitamoses4071]

Good to know this thanks

[@Mat_Shaffer]

My pleasure

[@SelinaWolmby-e6u]

Thank you Matt

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@rebeccaly]

This video was so helpful thank you Mat! I think the examples you brought up were very insightful. I think the lack of R was the reason why someone I dated (but wasn’t in a relationship with yet) decided to break it off.. he got some bad news at work and the same day he called it off between us. It was so heartbreaking and confusing, but it’s very true that the right person at the wrong time is still the wrong person. Unfortunately a hard lesson to learn, but this’ll really help me for the future :)

[@Mat_Shaffer]

so sweet thanks for sharing! its a great connection🙂

[@elizabethpettigrew7804]

Enjoyed another session Mat. Taking your advice and listening carefully. I keep having the wool pulled over my eyes. This time, with your help, we have every intention in taking it slow. Excellent foundation of clicking first and due to circumstances being there for each other over the phone for the last approx. four- five years. Each others support with confidential matters. It's been very important to us. COntinueing to follow your instructions with an open mind and experience. Joined your course and would like to break old habits. Thank you for being her, Mat

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS you got it my dear!! so glad this supported you :)

[@evan12495]

As always such good insight. Thank you Matt. Hugs 🤗 Rox (MoM5)

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aww appreciate that Roxy!! MOM5 in the HOUSE, love it!! :)

[@annewebbjohnson4157]

Ah I had the rip but not the ripe. Thought the E would come but after 27 years I am done and now I have walked away. Ready to get out there and hopefully meet MR RIPE or am I expecting far to much?

[@dimpholetsie4123]

Well-said Matt👌

[@agathajoseph3886]

Hi Matt love your examples thank you

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that!

[@corry203]

You are awesome Matt

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thanks!!

[@Sloan341]

Thank you for your information. I’ve been watching you for a while now. I love your inspiration

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[@melodymac1]

Thank you for speaking to the primal nature of relationships and the natural dynamics between the feminine and masculine. Without kowtowing or pandering to “woke” culture.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you think so!

[@mariarossi6719]

Great to hear these insights from you, Mat. I remember being backed into a corner by a man - figuratively speaking, not literally! - because he was asking for serious commitment from me after only a few months. He said, 'The thing is if you don't commit to me, you're going to have to commit to someone someday.' He was 24 and I was 21 and let me tell, you as a woman, that felt like too much and part of his appeal was really lost for me after he said that.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

wow yeah forcing commitment is definitely not attractive! hopefully hes matured since then

[@yelenaned4229]

Thank you, Matt! , for very helpful insights!🙏🌞

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful

[@stephanielau5024]

Thanks for this Matt!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

My pleasure!

[@MutuAdinani]

Like your video.watching you from Dr congo❤ Africa

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@VeronicaLaMonica]

I absolutely love learning from you ❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@maureenmuller-jj7pf]

Eye opener. I've been flogging a dead horse😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Helen-bf7ze]

This is a fantastic list, such insight Matt. I always enjoy your videos and your energy. Question: do you think it's possible for a man to have/express all these in an online LDR (it's been LDR for just over a year with us in an inline dating website), but having not been able to meet in person yet, or skyped, or spoken on a telephone??! So we are glorified penpals it seems. He says he will skype 3 weeks prior to him setting up dates for flights/ times to quarantine then meet.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yes it is possible in an online LDR! However the fact that he wont video chat or even get on the phone with you is a massive red flag, thats the sort of behavior scammers often do. If a man wont directly connect with you like that id move on

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're so welcome!

[@lynnclark2560]

Ok sounds fair to me Ty so much for ur help

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to help!

[@littlemisswowzers7188]

Career one is hard...im married and he's doing really BIG THINGS! I'm so proud of him but... we have been off and on our whole time. And...I just wanna bring him back in, he needs to want to wear his ring. Hurts that he doesn't anymore.....

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don’t give up on love sister!

[@nalubegamariam8980]

Thanks bro

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Welcome

[@brightpage1020]

Are you teaching us to qualify the buyer? Cool.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

ALWAYS haha

[@bettyharrison1006]

Hahaha funny

[@83androidJJ]

Well said. I believe these are the same for women.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you!

[@theservinggirl]

Great video!! Thank you 💕

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for watching!

[@paula-elizabeth]

I definitely feel that’s all spot on Mat. 👍🏽 - It would be interesting for you to do a video with your girlfriend in it so we can get a feel for the vibes and nuances she remits? 😊🌈✨

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@@timbonney6754 I don’t have a broken relationship. I’m single and happy and only interested in dating someone I feel is right for me, thank-you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for the idea!

[@key.k]

Ready emotionally and financially 😉

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

[@helgad6401]

Thank you

[@christianpulisic7784]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're welcome

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

Well - that was helpful 💫

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy I could be of help.

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@diavionstarr]

Well I got 2 out of 4 of RIPE 😅 so far!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@Tam438]

Brilliantly enlightening, as always!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Many thanks!

[@pricesunbury59]

His physical live is just the way it needs to be. He has his life together. He is inspired by me and our future. He has planned for our future. He claims me as his. He's telling his family and friends about me.❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!😍

[@isabellairaca1669]

He was ' ripe' but then he got cold because of life issue and I became clingy and now he broke up and sometimes reach out me to invite me outside just as friends..

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@pascalledouven7022]

I had two dates , every thing you name seems there , proud , inspired , into me listening, happy to see me , and then suddenly doubt , did not hear anything today .. i guess best thing that i do not tekst or call , i did message him after his doubt app , where i stay in my power; telling him could be okay before you commit that you also can feel some doubt .... and told him how much I appreciate some things he did .. i guess after that message yesterday evening he may make contact with me now )?)

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

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[@christismith8052]

Thanks for this! 😁😇I have been talking with a guy online for about 5ish weeks who is already exhibiting all these four! He told me a couple of weeks ago that he had a big project at work coming up that would make him less available during that time…and we have plans to meet in person in about a month, when this project is over….this has ended up being true (him being distant as he is doing this work project)…. and now that he has been less communicative, I can’t help but feel that I am being ghosted or he changed his mind. Can a man have all these four signs and then change his mind and back off?

[@MarcoGuedes-r9h]

Hello Christi how are you doing? I hope all is well and that you are staying safe enough! You have got a nice and sparkling smile, haven’t seen such in a while always wear that beautiful smile. I would really love to get to know you! Hope you do not mind?

[@cookiebabyd]

Yeah...once the thrill of him chasing you died down...just when you are showing more interest and decided that you want to get to know him better...then he will ghost you...somtimes... guys are just that...players...not to be taken seriously.

[@Sloan341]

Sorry to say but I bet your man is a scammer

[@pritalaras]

All the R are checked, I am feeling down already to continue 😅

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I hope it helps!

[@marilynmeyer6731]

What if the man has lost a previous love to death? For example my guy was going to marry his former love but she unexpectedly died. This happened years ago but he still has feelings that are unresolved about it yet asked me a year ago for forever. Do I believe in his “forever” or is he unable to commit?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@theresarubino5556]

What about a widower?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don’t give up on love sister!

[@sherrywillis8555]

Yes appreciate your opinion happy 4th July 2021

[@ishaqsalisu3155]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Many thanks!

[@cynthiaholmes4400]

Mat, thanks for the wise advice!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Any time! Glad you like it!

[@claraht.6999]

You have to allow him to feel like he has aged out of the relationship pool😉

[@coppersulphate002]

What does that mean?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@tressielassabe5779]

How do we remember and do to make all this happen

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@pricesunbury59]

He is filled with romanticly invested in me. He offers a massage, cooking for me . Etc. He getz me roses cause my middle name is rose. He likes that name and calls me by it.This is Libby from Sunbury, Ohio

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@lynn7775]

What are good topics to talk about on a first date??

[@Mat_Shaffer]

On a first date, you can talk about hobbies, movies, travel, food, and future plans.

[@WillieCotton-n5y]

My long distance man call's me his wife and afraid of losing me he tells me he's taking me around the world and he wants to buy me a home and love's the kids

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@EtherealStar1]

RIPE Ready Inspired Proud Enamored

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you!

[@marialourdesb.bobier5164]

My bf said he's sexually attracted to me should I give in or make sure he's in.love

[@sansadrake4133]

Do what you want. But he won't stick around necessarily

[@Mat_Shaffer]

what does your intuition tell you?

[@kayligo]

Lust and love are completely different things

[@cookiebabyd]

How old are you by the way...if you wont mind? Guys would often say they love you so early in the relationship even if you hardly know each other. Ofcourse they are attracted to you physically...or they wont chase you ...sex usually is part of most relayionships... although men and women...may have different expectations as where the relationship is going when sex com into play. It is hard if one loves more than the other ..sometimes it's the woman who's left out in the cold once men have gotten what he just wanted and moved on You got to be ready.. Emotionally ...just in case.

[@hawaiigirl8089]

I think I ruined it with a great guy by holding him at arms length from my own insecurities- he’s quite a bit younger than I

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@tabathiagaskin7992]

Do you have a video on red flags?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

None but that would be a great topic!

[@skylerwilliams9379]

Men “sabotaging” their relationship with a woman because of their job or because they can’t be the “providers” is kinda 🤮. Like if everything in the relationship is going good and he hits a hiccup professionally like damn, the first thought is to ruin the other good thing going for him? Come on guys. Women have actively been separating from their gender roles regardless of how we evolved, and it’s the fact that many men can’t seem to do that, that makes us women upset. That all being said obviously this would mean that this partner isnt for us. But what a shame to ruin something good, where she is willing to support you and uplift you until you can get back on your feet, because of the man ego. Can someone explain this to me with reasons other than “it’s evolution” or “it’s just how men are wired”? Again because women are wired to be mothers but you don’t see us conforming to that. No hate it’s just something I find frustrating.

[@Ljounieh]

It's just sexism. It's ridiculous

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!