10 Signs that a Guy is a Player (watch out for these!)

Is your man using you or can you trust him? Learn 10 surefire signs that a man is a player (and how to identify them) in this video!
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Is he a player? Is my man using me? Can I trust him? I get asked questions like these ALL THE TIME by clients, students and women in my life... so I created a video explaining the 10 most common signs that a guy you're dating or in relationship with is a player or just using you for physical gratification. If you see these, tell that guy to HIT THE ROAD!
TIMELINE
1:49 - What is a Player?
3:17 - 10) You only spend time with him on his terms
4:24 - 9) He emotionally/physically checks out after sex
5:36 - 8) You never meet his friends or family
6:56 - 7) He brings up sex in early chats
9:04 - 6) He tries to exchange sexy pictures prior to intimacy
10:25 - 5) Your first dates allow him to touch you without talking to you
11:13 - 4) He ghosts or plays dumbs in response to boundaries
13:43 - 3) He vanishes and reappears without good explanation
15:27 - 2) He’s irrationally jealous of other men in your life
17:08 - 1) He speaks badly about all of his past relationships
19:03 - Recap of Signs
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[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@TruthTroubadour-xi9cc]

My dad, a player himself, taught me to avoid these characters with one simple move. I don't hop into bed without a committment. That repels the players- I'm too much work for them! I'm worth that extra effort! Know your worth!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great tips! 🙌❤️

[@TruthTroubadour-xi9cc]

@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you!

[@Cycology_Major]

An exclusive commitment of duration. Some guys can commit to more than one at a time, & none of the ladies have the faintest idea.

[@TruthTroubadour-xi9cc]

@@Cycology_Major my dad was one such man. Liked to juggle 3 to 4 women at a time! I know the signs...

[@motowngirl5891]

Your lucky to have your father Teach you

[@Thenoobestgirl]

Don't sell yourself short, ladies! You queens deserve much more than a player! 👑

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Indeed!

[@zen_mindset1]

👑

[@sherriflemming3218]

Beware of those that are good at pick up. They're practiced at it.

[@mathewblood5113]

I think another huge red flag is when he never talks about anything too personal. If you ask him what he did during the weekend and he’s vague, “I went to a birthday party” or “Not much, just hung out with some friends”. And he doesn’t give details. If conversations are always surface level and superficial such as talking about work or he tells you the same few stories over and over. Yeah, I’m pretty good at reading a player. And they think they’re so smart. 😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Interesting perspective, thank you so much!

[@beatrix-ec1xf]

That's how I'm feeling about my boyfriend I feel like our conversations are resurfaced level. I never really know what's going on in his day and when I do ask it just it's very generic and we've been dating a year and I feel like I don't really know him anymore than I did when I initially first started dating him. Anytime I ask about the roommates that he lives with his females that I can't come over and spend time with him because they're there either completely ignores the question goes right over it or won't talk about it

[@Suvs-ht7sk]

Yes this I’m dealing with a guy I think he is a player

[@jonarizabughao1331]

Truth! 💯👌

[@ΦανήΓκολφίνου]

My girl,he is probably a player, kick him put of your lifeee! Block him at everything!​@@beatrix-ec1xf

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Sometimes a player doesn't care at all what you do when you are away from them. Not jealous at all. But, will then try to make you jealous.

[@shutit4024]

Yup happened to me

[@annatorrez8135]

But wouldn't that be a form of jealousy 🤔 on his part? Like he's trying to get even?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@monjul131]

Met a player who was having sex with next door neighbor while dating me and he lied she was just a friend. He played dumb or went silent when I said I wasn't comfortable with her before I knew anything about his neighbor. He said I needed therapy and that I was insecure. Gaslighting

[@gracehall9199]

I like when you say they don't emotionally invest in you. Very good point.

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@psb12121]

@@victorytammy7318 Stop it

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad to hear that!

[@daynacote]

Most players are not honest. Instead of player I feel it could be called deceiver cause games are fun when both people are aware of the rules. With deceiving only one person has fun and is aware of the rules.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

good point my dear!

[@rachelcardenio1373]

That is true totally agree with you, player’s guys are liars, deceitful and dishonest- they can’t tell the difference from their own lies and the truth of the matter.

[@sharilyon5983]

Deceivers and liars only care about themselves and are selfish.

[@sharilyon5983]

Dana Cote I never thought of it that way but it's certainly true! It's very true that they're deceivers instead of players when they've promised to commit to you.

[@deborahburns473]

Thank you Matt, needed to hear this. Just stepped away from a relationship with all the red flags of a player

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing congrats my dear! your freedom and beautiful new relationship awaits! :)

[@sirennem.6890]

Read 8 dates by Gottman, the best book. People dont know what a relationship is. Set boundaries, ask question. Healed traumas by Hoffman process.

[@kristibatchelor5311]

Me too....all he wanted was sex

[@toosexy7955]

All started well for about 3months, then wanted money, He stayed offline to wait me out, Then he came back with I wouldn't help him, First, he wanted $20,000.00, then came down to $2000.00, I said NO..Then it ended in messy words as I was the worse person in the world...Oh well, His loss !!

[@maidenmarian1]

I have been asked for sex and affairs over and over. No one normal has attempted to date me. I have been wise to not trust anyone. Yeah they like to test your boundaries...yeah..

[@lindamcdermott2205]

Keep your standards. It will pay off!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don't give up on love sister! Hope you find the love that you're looking for! ❤

[@nancyreynolds1869]

I have been living in hills for a while now,It’s peaceful and love being to myself,And not being used at all,Mindful of Me myself and I.. Self respect,Self love. My own life with my beloveds and families 😊

[@nakialindsey5684]

I feel you ☺ one must always protect their peace and for me enjoy my own company no greater LOVE💖💖💖.

[@nancyreynolds1869]

@@nakialindsey5684 I wholeheartedly agree..I too 💓🌹

[@sharilyon5983]

Amazing how many predators are out there, even ones who profess to be Christians and to love God. They're all the biggest fakes.

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@lilywashere_]

10/10, you nailed them all! It’s so sad in a way because they actually need help. Stupid me, I got hooked on him. It’s been five months since our breakup. I’ve never been in a darker place. It is true that hurt people hurt people, badly.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@arnelevans4803]

I'm so sorry. Just know that his karma is coming. Players always get their karma!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for the comment!

[@eriegirl9007]

Don't forget about the player that practically tells you outright that he is a player. For instance the guy who is honest with you that he and his ex who live in another town are still friends, but he takes her out when she is home on dates and buys her presents because they are just friends. He tells you there is nothing there emotionally, they are just friends and she dates other guys and goes on trips with them. At the same time he will tell you about the other girl that he is just seeing occassionally, but not having sex with her (assume he is if you have brains). Tells you she isn't his type and he needs to remind her that they are just friends because she is always posting selfies of them on fb that make it look like they are a couple. Some women might be like wow, this guy is so honest, how can he be a player since he is telling me all this and I really didn't even ask. Yes, he is being probably about 90% honest, becasue he is so goodlooking and charismatic and there are a lot of desparate women out there, that he knows some women will tell themselves this isn't a player bc he is so honest and players aren't honest. He will then try to make some moves, and the many desparate women out there will tell themselves this honesty is because he is really into you and wants to start his relationship with you on honest footing. Basically this "full disclosure" is anything but that. It is his way of not having to feel bad after he has sex with you and hurts you when he ghosts you afterwards or you see him out with someone else shortly thereafter. In his mind, he was completely honest with you, and you had sex with him willingly, knowing full well what his story is. And he is right, bc if you wanted more from a man you have sex with, you would walk away as fast as you can. Recently encountered this scenario and thankfully I saw right through it. As attracted to him as I was and as much as I wanted to kiss him, and as much as I like so many things about him, I would not kiss him and dodged a dinner invitation after his full disclosure during our lunch date. I am not looking to be another option in a man's life.

[@mmc4214]

Good for you girl. I'm right there with you. What you just described happened to me and yes, there was a pattern of this same thing with him. Now I look back at it and say ICK! CYA LOSER!

[@macrosmarry6986]

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[@psb12121]

@@macrosmarry6986 go away

[@shanny4306]

🇨🇦 Great stuff

[@PotatoeBunny93]

If he tells you outright what he is like and whay he is doing and you still give him the time of day then the issue comes from within you and what you allow and how u are allowing yourself to be treated. You cant change anyone else.

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Haha!! The playing dumb! "I didn't mean it like that" "You misunderstood me"

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@fruitdemer201]

I almost turned into a player after several experiences with them but I realised it is exhausting. I donno I think it works but not forever.

[@immahana6854]

Never Do that:it takes Masculine energy and most of them are under Drug influence.With your soberness you can Go Crazy if u cheat around so much

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@alterbridgefan99]

Had this guy who would CONSTANTLY call me babe, hun, darling etc etc we JUST started talking, hadn't even had a date yet. I asked him to chill with the terms of endearment. He didn't reply so I thought maybe it had kinda sunk in. But I was also struggling with the recent death of my dog, my doggy was my EVERYTHING. The day after I woke up to a text from him that said "I'm glad your dog is dead 😊" SO SO SO EVIL!!

[@ms.newcomerteacher6554]

Oh my goodness! That’s terrible.

[@louc313]

Sounds like u dodged a bullet. I say this as someone who has been in extremely narcissistic abusive relationships.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Patriotgirl1130]

Omg!!! What an insanely evil guy! I’m so sorry u even had to read that text 😢. My dogs r my babies so I understand and wow that guy is just disgusting

[@justinevece2107]

This is the only video that has given me clarity and closure about these men!! Nailed it to a T! Great video thanks so much!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

[@mollyminky76]

Whoa! This is amazing thorough. Love it Matt! The last minute thing. The whole not being seen in public with him thing- huge.

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@rachelcardenio1373]

Thank you 😊 Mat for clearing it out for Me, I just break away from this player guy that I thought was going to be in My life .

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@sereenvictor8814]

What if a woman is just a player too,and just want sex too

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You got this!

[@ellenlartz2499]

The day I got with my man we had a conversation with each other about what we wanted in a relationship. I had 3 deal breakers: Don't lie to me Don't cheat on me Put me in a place of honor in your life He understood why I had these. He agreed to do what I asked, and we are together more than 17 years, having known each other for 53 years total. He's my destiny ❤️💯 !!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wow!😍That is awesome!!! Happy for you and thanks for sharing. 🙏❤❤❤

[@ms.p.1022]

Hey Matt, this is my first time seeing one of your videos...I loved it and I subscribed because I want to watch more of them! Keep telling us the truth, can't wait to get a notification from your channel.💞👠

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@ms.p.1022]

@@victorytammy7318 Stop trolling!😪

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awesome! So glad you enjoyed it! 🙂 Many more to come!

[@margaretbatson83]

Not interested in a player ! I've been there done that. I had to find out the hard way and at the end my heart was broken. I'm sure he's broken many hearts.

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@chamelor]

So players create players?

[@zen_mindset1]

I like this guy! Your videos are informative. You have a new subscriber!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awesome, thank you! 🤗

[@MandECross]

Great video Matt. I watch many of them! I just left a man with a true Narcissist Personality Disorder and he also showed a few of these signs you talk about! I am going to search to see if you've done a video on the NPD, because it's so monstrous!!! He nearly sucked out all of the real me, gaslighting, lying, the total emotional abuse, the entire package!!! I just saved my life, myself, my heart and soul. . .and now I am so fearful about every man I meet or might meet. All of your videos are excellent! Thank you!

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS you got it my dear!! so glad this supported you :)

[@malourdescesista6990]

Thank you very much!it is very clear to me now upon hearing this topic.more power of you And blessed you more.

[@victorytammy7318]

I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,, ,

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are very welcome! Glad it was helpful!

[@annettendes7490]

Thanks Matt. I just finished my relationship with a guy thinking something is going on... Now i know i was right. Player...asta la vista!

[@macrosmarry6986]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

You got this! Happy to help.

[@AngelinaRomero]

YOU NAVE nailed it

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Your comment is pure gold! Thanks for making my day. 💛

[@BeccaL2016]

OMG this guy i had seen 2 months were all of these! He actually told me that he takes time to know the woman. And he will be all in. We did exchange drove 3 hours total on weekends to meet each other. What a waste! I called it off because he disappeared one weekend and he said his ex came to look for him🤪

[@macrosmarry6986]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@suecole5543]

I really love this Matt. You seem like a really great guy. The type of guy ladies that is worth it .

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

[@f.t.9889]

Mat, this was a really great video! /Fatima

[@Mat_Shaffer]

heyyy Fatima! so glad you liked it :)

[@shannonlilia]

Mat you really made me lol! You ended the email that linked to this video, signed: "Your favorite player hater." 😂😂😂 Love that. And this video is sooo accurate. Trying to break free from my player's cycle RIGHT NOW. Ugh. I've had more than enough.

[@macrosmarry6986]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like it!

[@brynndockstader6549]

Mat: Thanks so much for another spot-on video!!! And I would also add to watch out for the guy who always wants you to call him. My mother would say, "What's wrong with your dialing finger?" And my sister would say, "My cat never comes home drunk and I've never had a man purr for me."

[@Mat_Shaffer]

haha so true!!

[@macrosmarry6986]

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[@shanny4306]

🇨🇦🕊I watched this out of curiosity because my grandkids are grown and out there learning how to navigate this landscape. I worry about the new ways young people meet and date because I feel that technology has evolved way faster than us mere mortals are capable of.I’m especially happy to hear you use the word predator ,these guys have no intention of evolving at all.The young guys need your advice too so they won’t turn into unsavoury creeps . I see the world hasn’t changed as much as I thought .You are a Godsend .I will send your videos along to all my grandkids of both sexes and all genders. 🕊🙏🏼🕊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much!

[@joywolfe]

great vid, mat! so you met my ex, huh??

[@Mat_Shaffer]

HAHA ive met a few of em! :)

[@ginaonyemaechi]

Haha!

[@Gleyi07]

Lol

[@pattibee6823]

Mat, this "testing of boundaries" is what I like to call, "Red Light, Green Light" .... if I don't set a boundary the man interprets that as not a red light so therefore it means it is a great light. So then they keep pushing the boundaries. Patti Bee, LPC, IFS Therapist, Madison, WI

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@kimegmore7825]

I wished I listened this months ago

[@macrosmarry6986]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don’t give up on love sister!

[@rosemulroy3259]

Thank You Matt . I've Seen Alot Of These Red Flags ...

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy I could be of help.

[@elikorn7418]

So sad that someone needs an empty life of sleeping around for that very short instant boost of self-esteem instead of seriously working on themselves. Most womanizers are not necessarily bad in the sense that their final goal is to hurt someone; they are more than anything, broken people. Even if a player wanted something serious with you; they do not have the ability to be monogamous.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Dogscatsbikes]

Wouldn’t it be easier to give the signs that he’s not a player?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

hmmm that might be the next video, great idea!!

[@Dogscatsbikes]

@@Mat_Shaffer Hi Mat. I was making a joke about how most of the men we deal with are players so we should know the signs. I wasn’t dragging your video. Thanks for the upload

[@megchambers9682]

Very eye-opening. Thanks, Mat.

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

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[@mamashanshan2772]

Thank you, so much. I appreciate you sharing this with us all.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad to hear that.

[@DIAMONDGIRL57]

Recently, a man reached out to me online. We exchanged phone numbers. He immediately text me; asked me questions two of which were; are you a good kisser, are you “freaky?”’he also addressed me as his” future friend” yet . . . We had not spoken on the phone or met face to face. I told him I will not be a friend with benefits and blocked him.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@hattyflame3889]

Thank you Matt,well said,great information 👍💗

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome! Hope it was helpful

[@janezamudio4940]

Have watched a few of your videos, and this is by far my favorite. So on point! This is EXACTLY how these fellows act!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate that!

[@maidenmarian1]

I have a guy friend who is always only on his terms. We are only friends but he seems to have some type of problem. He is a player or is somehow needing control over each thing....

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@carolinaibarra4652]

Gaslighting, getting offended... Been there, didn't do that ;)

[@ginaonyemaechi]

Haha!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

atta giirl haha! :)

[@sjgbrighton]

This is such a great video. Wish I'd seen this when I was a teenager!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So glad you enjoyed it! :) Many more to come!

[@nunya257]

Nothing wrong with a player so long as he is honest about it. Great points.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much! :)

[@larsstougaard7097]

I had a friend in college that was a big player, he created nothing by pain and misery for all that girls he was with. It could be a new girl every weekend or even two, one Friday and one Saturday.

[@mamashanshan2772]

He’s never been worthy enough of all he’s harmed. Certainly a player! He doesn’t like me because I called him out on all the ones he treated the same!! So, now, here I still stand, and the other women do too! How odd when ex’s will stand ground against them as well, those guys, they’re like us women, they know.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you!

[@lsloan3029]

Oh Wow Mat !! You answer a lot of comments... 🙏 this is awesome !! And so special !! It is sooo true what you are saying. Thank you for making us woman aware of men who are players. I love watching informative videos. I am now in the dating era ... And i can see exactly what you mean by these 10 signs ..... Praise God 🙏 i have strong Christian values. Most greatful for your videos .... Greetings from Durban South Africa 😉

[@Mat_Shaffer]

-😭😭 one of the most touching comments I’ve ever received!! Thank you so so much for your kind words, truly moved them... it’s my honor and purpose to support you and I’m beyond grateful that I’ve inspired you to connect to your heart in a deeper way🙏🙏❤️✨let me know what more you would like me to speak Into.

[@JemyM]

Inspired to: 1. Hang out at both places 2. Immediately after sex, check in 3. Expose her to friends and family 4. Have taste 5. ... taaaaste 6. Chat 7. ... uh, empathy? 8. Don't spontaneously combust 9. Befriend her male friends 10. Honor my exes

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@elizabethstocker7379]

All of the above. Thanks for this!

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Very welcome! Glad it was helpful!

[@marisamlovendino9670]

I'm so guilty of this,I'm glad he's out of my life now,but he's still trying until now😆👍

[@sirennem.6890]

Sex is normal thing, ask question, set boundaries

[@drama2u]

They won’t stop

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!😍

[@darlawarmann8623]

Every single one of those are a sign you don't matter to him

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yep!

[@spiritualgangstergodess5015]

Beautiful and meaningful! Thanks Mat

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

My pleasure!

[@penkee76]

I wish i had come across your videos much earlier to save myself from players. Thanks very much like your videos. All of them.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@maidenmarian1]

I haven't met anyone who has an ounce of integrity. No wonder I'm just laying low in this area. Guys who are jealous will try to tell you that you are a cheater.. Very bad sign... Has a story that all of his exes are terrible people.

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Christine-nh3jg]

Scored 8 out of 10 lol. Sooooo I feel good about my paranoia.

[@margomazzeo1680]

Lol..right. 😅😅

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Lol right! "shower pic"! What the heck?! And asking about your "shaving habits" Within a day of texting. Ungh

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@ginaonyemaechi]

SIGN 11: The birthmark on his right eye that spells, rather uncannily, "Ladies, I am a total tosser. Date me at your peril!" Seriously, your "player" is, as you say, Mr S, a man with no respect for women. Luckily, they are often super easy to spot. Regards.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amen my dear! gotta stay vigilant ALWAYS!

[@sirennem.6890]

Read 8 dates by Gottman, people dont ask question, most of peolple are emotionally immature. Set boundaries. Many us are not healed. dont lean back, ask him.

[@Patriotgirl1130]

Some of these r eye opening and very appreciated.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Many thanks!

[@Natalia-xo1yj]

By the way, thank you Matthew. You put a lot of work into your videos. Very informative 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@transphotography]

Wow, all so true and all applies to a narcissist in different stages of a pseudo-relationship

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@lyria8469]

I wish I had seen this vid 2 years ago. Would've saved myself major heartbreak! Ugh!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@feliciaallen6228]

Totally agree. Really great examples!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like it!

[@robinm2699]

This was a great video!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad to hear that. Hope you enjoyed it!

[@dianepayne4658]

Thanks for the video i have dated a few guys like this but now i know what to look for now

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS you got it my dear!! so glad this supported you😊

[@pearlgeneste1890]

Thank you! That is perfect and pertinant!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@hawaiigirl8089]

This was VERY GOOD 👍🏻

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@sorayagacis418]

I learned so much from watching this vídeo. Great content!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed Soraya Gacis❤ Thanks for sharing🙏

[@karolinah12]

The ex told me his ex was so jealous & was sure he was a cheater, so he had to break up with her. I saw very fast why and dumped him.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@user-zz1lb2zh6c]

4 points checked! Thanks for the confirmation

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Appreciate it hon!

[@Gypsymumma90]

It could the guy wants to see you all the time 🤣

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yep if he isn't doing it in a healthy way it can be!

[@margaretwansbrough980]

Thanks you have just validated my thoughts and feeling about a guy I've become very uncomfortable with

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Good!

[@amyj.4992]

The more downsides I know, the more they have to prove how much integrity they have and how accountable they truly are

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like it!

[@TheJuize85]

This comment section is actually a source of information for a player to only get better in what he does 😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@joan5429]

True. I was just thinking this.

[@Ms.Stephanie.C]

This is a good video. I’m not even dating or trying to date, & someone is trying to play me…. but he didn’t get anything, & he’s not going to.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad to hear that.

[@juliagoolia5604]

This is my ex husband! We just divorced and hes trying (i REPEAT TRYING) to play me constantly. Its who he was during oir marriage too. 15yrs... he was loyal but narcissist. These player characteristics kinda go hand and hand with narcissist personality traits

[@drama2u]

Yes

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@corythelight2473]

Fast track your way to the truth: “What traumas have you’ve had and how have you overcome them?” Asking this will illustrate where someone is located and save you time. Now you get to choose powerfully if you want to entangle your precious energy or not. Cheers 🕉

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Florida_gyrl]

Love this! Thanks for posting this video!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@arbrevoilet8132]

Im the poor spaghetti girl lol help. The player got caught cheating

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@chloem.3949]

Great video

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like it!

[@NoniAyanna]

Had a guy tell me that he didn't want a long-distance relationship, which I understand because he told me he had an unfaithful relationship but continued to still flirt with me. I don't understand how some people think. We are still cool with each other but that was just a red flag to me.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great point!

[@hawaiigirl8089]

I refuse to sleep around so no one is using me

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!

[@pattibee6823]

Also, "easy in = easy out"

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Mz.AjsHappy]

Thanks for the summary.

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mz.AjsHappy]

I don't want him bk.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that!

[@yvonneerrend8217]

These 10 signs sounds like little boys in high school!.😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@PriyaPriya-jp1sl]

God saved me from one like that 👍☺️

[@macrosmarry6986]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

That's great!

[@vernvilar6922]

Good one

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks

[@heikeferrer4543]

I disagree on the point of meeting friends Real players let you see the friends Bec they don’t care and let your see friends and dumbs you after

[@drama2u]

I’ve been there.. the worst part his friends all knew he was playing me

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@heikeferrer4543]

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[@shutit4024]

@@drama2u yup he does that to get Brownie points from his friends

[@nancysims9559]

He told me flat out we just friends so he's been honest .

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@flyingveda]

Perfect explanations. Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@tella3553]

Is it the same as a guy requesting for phone sex after 6 months of good conversations? He lives in another continent and we’ve never met.

[@corythelight2473]

It’s hard to say Tella - have you discussed boundaries? have you considered what you are comfortable consenting to? Once that is clear, you’ll have your answer. 🙌

[@EdelweisSusie]

If you want to cut out all the waffle (and there's a LOT of it) go straight to 3:20. And it sickens me that this man smirks all the way through!!! 10. He makes arrangements last-minute 9. He shoves off immediately after sex 8. You never meet his friends or family (I would also add - his co-workers) 7. He brings up sexual innuendo early on in conversations (to judge how best to manipulate you into intimacy) 6. He suggests exchanging sexy pictures before you've got intimate (DON'T DO THIS, ladies!!!!) 5. He suggests dates where he can touch you (ie bars, clubs, dances) 4. He ghosts you if you stand up to him or tell him your boundaries 3. He vanishes or disappears without relevant explanation (He's probably talking to multiple women, then comes back to you) 2. He's irrationally jealous of other men in your life (this is him projecting HIS shadiness onto you!) 1. He speaks badly about his past relationships

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback!

[@phina8392]

I love it when my man’s exes have nothing to say but good about him and wish us luck and happiness..

[@Mat_Shaffer]

That's awesome! Happy to hear that Phina🙏❤️ Congratsss!

[@kellyismond9351]

Thank you ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@ademiyelani]

Wow thank you brother Matt 🙏

[@salimbishir7455]

Send a message to this number if you want your ex back

[@salimbishir7455]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are very welcome

[@rosengugi2235]

Thank you Matt

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

So glad you enjoyed it! :)

[@marandamarotz2611]

Ok Matt how do you feel about kissing on the first date. Hoping to get back out there soon and I don't want players. I just want a good honest man. Whould that send she's to forward of a vibe. I'm 56 and this dating things scares the crap out of me!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@newamericansvoice3159]

This one is humorous, haha.

[@victorytammy7318]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks much!