5 Autistic Traits in Social Gatherings

[@andreas3330]

This was absolutely fantastic. I'm very late diagnosed and listening to you describe the "autistic social gathering" I've realized that when my little family is together (me, husband, son, daughter & son-in-law and their baby), we enjoy that sort of vibe. I'm the only officially diagnosed, but the others (excepting the 9 month old) all score as autistic on self tests. We're all introverts, too, so we're all most comfortable with each other. It's a fun group, but I'd love to meet up with others.

[@ligavasara-brakmane4051]

​​I expressed it as - autistic adults also like parallel play. Sometimes we interact, sometimes we just are close to each other, doing our own stuff, like knitting, reading a book, drawing etc.

[@ArnoldJamesXT]

The biggest difference i have noticed between myself and NTs is that when they meet you, they straight up ask very personal, judgemenal questions. Eg. "Are you married?" "Where did you guys meet?" "Do you have any kids?" "What do you do for a living?". I don't ever ask those questions because its none of my business. I'd rather gradually get to know someone first, and they can tell me what they allow me to know about their personal life in their own time.

[@austinhernandez2716]

I'm confused, how do you get to know them though?

[@ArnoldJamesXT]

@austinhernandez2716 You can approach getting to know someone in whichever way feels most comfortable to you. I’m not suggesting there’s a definitive right or wrong method; I was simply sharing an observation I’ve made about the kinds of questions and topics that tend to arise when meeting new people.

[@redfishswimming]

Ask relevant questions; how do you know the host, did you come by car, do you like the food, I love the color scheme here…it’s really easy to get to know someone without jumping to rude intrusive questions about the personal life or marital status

[@m.w.njoroge7438]

Arnold, I totally agree with you. The other day, this guy in the mobile store was practically shouting, "WHAT'S YOUR NAME?" I responded, "I'm not really feeling this?..."🙁

[@kylefrancis7935]

Thanks for making this video! I was diagnosed as Autistic 6 months ago and have been hesitant to connect with Autistic groups but this video has helped me feel more confident to do this

[@NAPS4UAusome]

This is how our monthly meetings go! The first time I came to a meeting, I was pleased to finally be able to connect with "normal" people and "talk about real things." Peer support groups are ausome!

[@CC-xn5xi]

Sometimes you gather info at a social gathering that helps your life. I didn't know that! I value that.

[@sole-g4z]

Welcome back!

[@Prantika-g8f]

Do you know Why Autistic people make others uncomfortable?? why so???

[@Prantika-g8f]

Do you know Why Autistic people make others uncomfortable???? Why so??

[@duncand5148]

Yes. Welcome back!

[@darrenaris297]

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[@darrenaris297]

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[@brandy1011]

Sorry for off-topic, but the blurry person in the foreground at 10:14 desperately trying to cut their bread with a spoon was really quite disconcerting....

[@no_professional12]

Good spot 🤣

[@markpw2613]

Hi Paul, totally random but can u do a topic called Autism and not ageing much? Seems to be a feature where adults on the spectrum look much younger than there actually age and I'm wondering if their is a scientific or physiological link to this with Autism? I'm nearly 40 and can pass for 30 etc! Anyone else care to comment on this? Like if u agree

[@redfishswimming]

I’m 47, male, aspie, and can pass for 35 easy. Also, we seem to be a little bit chunky. And there’s no lines on a balloon so maybe that’s a thing too.

[@markpw2613]

@redfishswimming yea the weight thing is something I noticed too.

[@ZakkyMcZap]

Trait 1: Not being at social gatherings

[@Pupperski]

Yep 💯 😂 i was gonna say a similar thing! trait 1) Pathologically Demand Avoid Society.😂

[@Moskowitz-hf8hc]

😂

[@m.w.njoroge7438]

Hehehehehe...😏

[@marcse7en]

Trait 1: "Not being at social gatherings" ... I can confirm, this is 100% CORRECT! 👍🤣

[@marcydrake9159]

Thanks for putting this together. I tend to avoid social gatherings, but what you described sounds fun and interesting. ❤

[@assimilateborg]

The title is a little misleading. I would suggest "5 Autistic Traits in Autistic Social Gatherings". As I thought it was about how autistic traits work in general social situations.

[@Geaners100]

Spot on! 😁

[@Suzhistoryandmusic]

Thank you so much. Welcome back.

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

I’d love to talk to an autistic gathering just to feel welcomed and have information about autism But I think I had a similar experience with a teacher in London (I don’t live there, I did a study trip) who was very unpredictable and didn’t follow any social norms and I felt so happy while others were uneasy. It felt so satisfying to have it switched for a week roughly.

[@rockermv10]

I am definitely a watcher although that will change in time. I get sensitive and feel left out if no one talks to me. It's hard to break into a group where they know each other. Also I was trying to make it with people who don't have HF Autism.

[@darrenaris297]

Thank you for sharing very informative and important.

[@frenzyviz6296]

Oddly, as a (very) late diagnosed person, I would be afraid of being thought a fraud. Imposter syndrome. People’s reactions to the diagnosis, in the beginning, were almost saying they didn’t believe me, or it wasn’t important enough to take notice of. As a side note, I don’t think KZbin is notifying responses to comments any more, so I may not be able to respond to any replies to this.

[@redfishswimming]

Oh but we are all a little bit austistic or we all have something wrong with us is a common response. There’s a reason we have such strong interests outside of people.

[@laymayday]

Autistic social gatherings are the best! 😍

[@darrenaris297]

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[@melissawood4317]

Thank you!

[@AcademicOmnifarious]

Where is your Discord server? Is that paywalled off through patreon or your website? I tried looking it up and as I'm also from Victoria Australia find it odd that your server doesn't come up in discovery at all.

[@AMVYV]

Readyyyyy

[@AKKTerry]

What about in non autistic group/space? My grandson attends several different groups with me. He is 20 and they say level 1. Any help?

[@AcademicOmnifarious]

The level of acceptance he receives depends on the members of those groups and their knowledge experience with autistic people. Educate them on what autism looks like in your grandson as behaviours come up. If you try to tell people everything about autism all at once then they are less likely to retain the info and it will seem like too much. If you make it more personal about your grandson they are more likely to care.

[@AKKTerry]

@@AcademicOmnifarious thanks! Most people in my groups are very accepting. Do you have anything on loud sounds, bright lights, large crowds?

[@AcademicOmnifarious]

@@AKKTerry Just the standard noise cancelling headphones and to allow him to take breaks from the group if he starts to feel a bit crowded. Bright lights and glare are something I also struggle with and it is difficult. If the room where the group is meeting has fluorescent lights try to sit near any windows where natural light is coming in unless there is like a car park full of glare coming off the cars outside. In that case he may also need to take breaks by going to a place nearby with natural lighting or a green space such as a seating area with plants. Hopefully you can find a green space without smokers ruining it.

[@AKKTerry]

@@AcademicOmnifariousthanks much!

[@coldlyanalytical1351]

Retired, late diagnosed, had a successful high tech career here. Would I gain anything in attending a meet up?

[@AcademicOmnifarious]

In theory, yes, if you can find one. It is supposed to be a good break from your life by others who understand you or the frustrations you have to deal with. A sense of belonging and not being alone is the main thing on offer. It doesn't matter what profession you have/had or your social economical status you've achieved or not. It is about the traits we share.

[@coldlyanalytical1351]

@@AcademicOmnifarious Tx!

[@humaniodalien]

Find a group with common interests you like.

[@AcademicOmnifarious]

@@humaniodalien Then that wouldn't be an autistic social gathering. The video is about meeting up with other autistic people. Generally speaking if you were looking to join a group for hobbies or sports that would work but they're not all going to be autistic then are they?

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

Why don’t you do a discord server for your audience?

[@EarthFirstGoVegan]

I have no desire to engage with anyone. Any social interactions are torture for me.

[@andreasplosky8516]

I do not do social gathering. I do not wish to do so. I do not enjoy it. I do not want to hear personal details of others, and do not wish to share mine. It is too much information. Too much useless information. I don't need it. It drains all the energy out of me.

[@Ayla77-K]

I can totally relate to what you are saying 🙏💛

[@GenericAccountVLR]

I do not like green eggs and ham.

[@AcademicOmnifarious]

you are sharing your experience right now though...

[@magdalenemoondragon6648]

lol

[@dannyjonze]

This is just normal socialising, you're not all 'autistic'

[@blusafe1]

I love it when people are like "that's not autistic, my kid isn't autistic, my parents aren't autistic......that's just typical normal stuff because I'm like that". Then I'm like okay tell me more about the 50 types of boxes you collect, or the piles of board games and puzzles in your room.