5 AWFUL mindsets that are DESTROYING your relationships

[@JollaP1]

Being too obliging is my problem. No boundaries either. Great stuff for shifting your mind and how powerful it is. People just take for granted and forget your thoughts amd the people around you affect everything you do. I've commented on several of your videos and they're all amazing.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for sharing!! And I'm glad this has been helpful so far. Definitely check into anxious attachment style and see if that resonates with you. if it does, all those challenges are fixable.

[@MyFreeload]

I have experienced all this and I eventually isolated myself as I coild take no more and now i find it hard to trust anyone with myself as I have got this overdose of defensiveness and I am now trying to find myself again

[@wasode20]

Super helpful,thankyou.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad this was helpful!

[@PassionateSpirit88]

Adam, it looks like that no matter what a healthy attachment is pretty much impossible nowadays considering the modern world we live in with all its distractions.

[@trentonfox]

Bro, no. There's always distractions and things that lead you to non-productive life. You can always find something better in yourself. Work on small things until they become bigger things

[@PassionateSpirit88]

@trentonfox Online dating being one that is a huge distraction for women

[@PassionateSpirit88]

And social media

[@AttachmentAdam]

I've heard this before and I know what you mean. But it's fully possible inside the right circles. And plenty of people (life yourself) are educating themselves on this to improve their relationship skills. People like yourself are going to create new circles, I believe.

[@PassionateSpirit88]

@AttachmentAdam Yes, and a new revolutionary movement of some sort of true romantic relationships in the world!

[@christaggart5687]

Good stuff

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks!

[@kierangrayson3695]

Hi Adam, i feel like i genuinely did most of these as an anxious lad with an avoidant lass. I never felt like the masculine with someone whos so shut off emotionally and physically, but i was also too insecure always wanting validation and i really really want to be able to change myself before the next relationship.. i cant seem to move on properly. Can you help please?

[@PassionateSpirit88]

People back in our ancestors time had much better ways to bond with their wife or husband, friends, family, community, etc..

[@AttachmentAdam]

How did they deal with them?

[@davelewis7098]

Thankyou for you help 🙏 I'm sorry to say i am great in my wellbeing I'm 56 me and my partner have been together for 40 years ❤ I will tell you my wife went on holiday with friends 8years ago and cheated :( she was just copying her pals !! she needed to feel loved 😂😂😂 we are still together and I love her to bits but now I have lots of lady friends real friends 🙏 but the problem there is the majority complain that their husbands are useless !! The world is a crazy place 😇🙏 God bless us all

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey there, I am glad the two of you are doing well now. Many times an affair can expose an issue that was under the surface all along, and repairing that can make a better relationship than before. Sounds like the two of you are in that camp, which is very good. And you're right, a lot of people are complaining about their partners! Many unhappy marriages. Let's do our best to fix that.

[@davelewis7098]

@@AttachmentAdam Adam thankyou sir for your reply we have talked about it in length we came to an open cause it was basic my neglect thinking she was strong and independent !! easy answer become close again living for our children and each other ! Thank you for your help ❤ GOD BLESS us all

[@Stukkeman]

So if I hear you right, you’re saying “Deal with your own insecurity”

[@AttachmentAdam]

Quite often the best answer, yes

[@fuzzy76]

Not sure if you can change it after publishing, but the chapter marks are completely off on this one.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for the heads up, I'll have to look

[@catcat9582]

Damn im fucked up

[@AttachmentAdam]

What do you want to do to fix it? New year, new you.

[@TheElectron504]

ALABAMA MAN!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Ha!