5 BOOKS THAT CHANGED MY LIFE | best self-help books (*must read*)

[@christinec28]

Your Erroneous Zones, tbh, sounds like a whole lot of toxic positivity and isn't rational to how humans are. We CANNOT be without errors/flaws/etc. And to try and get there just creates self-berating and guilt and shame. Hard pass.

[@stellwyn]

I agree! Also as a chronically ill person the bit about 'never tell people when you're ill' rubs me up the wrong way bc... I can't 'positivity' my way out of being ill lol. It would definitely be interesting to hear the therapist authors thoughts on that book - I bet they wouldn't like it either.

[@anniepantheraleo]

I don't really read self-help books but I do enjoy listening to you talk about books!

[@mariacastillo3090]

Hi Caitlin. Ordered Lori Gottlieb’s book. I’m totally loving it. Can’t wait for my next purchase.

[@merlinpeter2910]

I love your videos and how much effort you put into giving us new inspiration. From one book lover to the other - I’m sure I’m going to love this! ♥️ Also, your newsletters are super helpful, digging the journaling theme this month. ☺️

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Thanks so much for the kind words, Merlin ❤️ I hope the video gives you some books to add to your list and I’m SO happy you’re enjoying “journaling month” on the newsletter!! Monday’s is a fun one ;)

[@Brooks003]

If you can read in Spanish I recommend you "Vive con propósito" by Noah J. Brown. It's a classic and great book of self-help. It a top ten.

[@Addie-jm3ik]

First?! Literally in school right now but will watch ASAP!! I’ve been looking for some good books to read... because I’m on chapter 10 of Harry Potter #7 and it will all be over soon 😭 (reading for the first time)

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Wahooo!! You were quick! Hope you enjoy the video :) and enjoy the end of the HP series 😍🙌

[@Addie-jm3ik]

@@caitlinmariedasilva Thank you! The video was great (as always) :) HP is quite an emotional roller coaster for me lol :')

[@purposepoetryplanning9790]

The Richest man in Babylon by George Clason

[@sandyoppenlander]

Your videos make me wish we could just be best friends 💕

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

😭🥺😭🥺 crying over here, Sandy ❤️

[@lonnekefalk2560]

Awww that’s so sweeet!!🥰🥰🥰

[@rbags934]

I thought that too! Come to London so we can do afternoon tea and check out the book and stationary shops!!!

[@lisashea1375]

Loved this. You do such a great job of breaking down these books, highlighting their strengths, and selling them in a cozy, meet-over-coffee chat kind of style. I hope these publishers are sending you freebies now ;)

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

What a compliment! 😭🥺 thanks so much, Lisa !! Haha, I sometimes I get sent free books by publishers and I can confirm it is my favourite kind of PR to receive 🤣😍

[@laisseus]

For half a second I could swear you had said "erogenous zone" and I was like "hm, that is not the kind of book Caitlin usually recommends"

[@katieheit7577]

I was literally thinking on the way home “oh it’s friday!! that means Caitlin uploads today!! woohoo!!” I am continuing to love your vids 💜

[@chessieleal1018]

I am constantly amazed that you are only in your early 20s. I’m 41 and get so much value from your videos. 💜

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

That’s so kind, Chessie! Thank-you 😭❤️

[@lisashea1375]

I feel seen. 34 over here, but I think this after every. single. video.

[@deedeemarie]

Same...I’m 54...as the saying goes, “You’re never too old to learn.”

[@rbags934]

Late 30’s and I love her videos 👍🏽

[@emma28021]

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig is such a good book, and really makes you think about life. It's a book I'd recommend to everyone

[@umreenimam3963]

That's on my list of books to read! You should definitely check out Anxious People by Fredrik Backman. It's so amazing. Also very thought provoking

[@DarleneRobinson-y5g]

This is very good I'm an African American woman and yes I know David Bach he is really good and yes I 've read Wayne dyers book . This is so funny both Authors have had some impact on my life and I'm much older than you. This is when you can really appreciate the legacy and contribution that these wonderful people have shared with us to help us live . They give us a little blue print on how to hold ourselves together when we may feel like we're lost or sunken . Keep doing what your doing . It's 👍 great.

[@tonigray2245]

Hi I came across your Channel today and I found everything exciting. I just want to try these new reads for myself.. you said to leave what I've been reading well a good read for me has been You are always your own experience. Raymond Charles Barker. Its the holy grail as they say.. a good read

[@Ramji-zb7cx]

Ohh....yes pls. Do make more videos related to books. Also, do you have a reading journal

[@mariacastillo3090]

Me!!! Complain complain complain...and I’m only 54!!! You just switched a light in my brain. Def getting this book. Gracias.

[@tararichardson987]

Omgosh Caitlin, you are speaking my language in this video 😊 I love self-help books so I could give you a couple pages of recommendations with a whole lotta themes, but I’ll try and narrow it down here for y’all. ‘Being Happy’ and ‘The Pursuit of Perfect’ by Tal Ben Shahar. I like that he has little pauses where there are prompts for you to go journal and reflect on what you’ve read. ‘Change your Questions, Change you Life’ by Marilee Adams. Recognizing when you’re on the ‘judger’ or the ‘learner’ path- fits in with the complaining habit you mentioned. ‘The Confidence Gap’ by Russ Harris. This really helps with harnessing confidence AND comes with free worksheets when you go to the accompanying site. ‘The Success Principles’ by Jack Canfield. An oldie, but a goodie! I think this was my first self-help book I ever read and well, here I am :P ‘Stop Saying You’re Fine’ by Mel Robbins. This woman takes no BS from ya and is very motivating. She has a great ted talk as well. ‘Changeology’ by John C. Norcross. Another old book but really helps people understand goal setting and the process of change. I have so many more but one of my most recent reads was ‘How We Change (And 10 Reasons We Don’t) by Ross Ellenhorn. Makes a lot of sense why we sometimes feel stuck. Anyway, thanks for the video! I'm going to check out the two that I haven't read! Also, that Brene Brown quote about sharing your story with people who have earned the right to hear it... love that! I share that with everyone I work with in the mental health world.

[@ray.t.georgi]

There's one book that really resonated with me and that's "The Notes on a Nervous Planet", I can't remember the autors name, but I remember lot's of his points whenever I feel scared and close to panic.

[@katiemcfadden2228]

Oh look...another reason to go to Half Price Books for the 5 billionth time this week alone 😂😂😂

[@user-zs5so3if2d]

I disagree with that first quote from the erroneous zone book. Complaining all the time isn't the best for your and the people around you, yes. But complaining is sharing a feeling. Just not a good one. And we should talk about negative emotions as well. Just pretending everything to be good, isn't! Maybe we don't know what to do against the thing we're complaining about and need that advice. Or we do know, but need encouragement cause we don't have the inner strength jet. And sometimes we just need someone that takes us in the arm and accepts that we are not feeling well and need to express that somehow. So I don't think we should complain all the time, especially about things we can't do anything about, like the weather. But I think, sometimes it should have the allowance to be in our lives. 🙂

[@amberlynn5320]

I just finished Atomic Habits and OMG it was amazing! I got it from the virtual library but I wanna buy the book now! Thanks for the other recommendations! I'll have to check them out from the library if I can find them on there!

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Isn’t it incredible?! So glad you enjoyed it as much as I did 😍🙌

[@abireadthat]

The Latte Factor is something I bought because of you! I had a much more positive attitude towards money once I’d read this! 💛

[@ariaelle499]

Can anyone recommend me books for introverts and such

[@rootedreinvention]

Brene brown changed my life, even though I have an Masters level training in psychology and cognitive therapy -- its so important as a mental health worker to have your own support because when we're "IN IT" it doesn't matter how knowledgeable you are - we cant see our own blind spots!

[@madnessofmymind]

Oh and another book - 7 Levels of Intimacy - Matthew Kelly. GREAT book! While I am newly divorced (yay) and fairly sure I'm not going down that path again...the book is still useful to use on yourself. As always, we are the number one person we need to care for - just imagine that your inner self is your s.o. (that you just can't see/hug) and practice this information with them.

[@lisafireheart3940]

The first self-help book I ever read was "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck" by Mark Manson and though I do have some different views than him, it was a really good start into the world of self-help books. Also I love your videos!!!💛

[@valdezd625]

I really loved "Make Your Bed" by Admiral William H. McRaven. I think, similarly to "Atomic Habits," he really makes things realistic for everyday life in his discussions in this book. And also, like you mentioned before, this book has several points that overlap from many other books that I have read previously. It's a great read on top of it all, with his own experiences painting a story that really captivates you and makes the book near impossible to put down.i definitely recommend this one if you haven't yet read it!

[@booksglimpse]

I have glimpse of some books in channel 😊

[@paulinasamayoa9542]

Thanks for taking the time to give us videos about books! Let's keep doing these please! I love Breneé Brown! Atomic Habits is on my list and as a therapist myself, I love that people are giving themselves the chance to have a better life more and more. See you on the next one!

[@meganwambolt]

Great video! Really appreciate the thoughtfulness in sharing specific nuggets that resonated with you.

[@SoniaDoubleG]

I have not heard of the first two, will be checking them out!

[@indianstudywithme8255]

A video on books...i am in 👍🏻❤️

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Haha I love it 🙌😍

[@KavishaPatel]

Love all the suggestions. Definitely want to read them all.

[@packnetadaija]

I've been looking to do some self-help reading during my version of the 75 soft challenge and I will definitely look into these, thank you :)

[@ImaTChure]

These are all really great, and I hope to reread some of these. Also, I hope to add some of the others! Amazing recommendations as always!

[@alexismundy5893]

Viktor Frankl

[@madnessofmymind]

I challenge you to read the books by Stephen Guise. All of them. Mini Habits (his updated version is called Elastic Habits and WOW), Mini Habits for Weight Loss, and How to be an IM-perfectionist. Honestly, mini and elastic habits are way better books and totally life changing. As for therapy - your mentioned pre-conception is totally different than the ones I've always heard. Most of the time I hear people complaining about how they go to therapy and feel like nothing gets accomplished. Personally I don't want to dance around and wonder if I'm going where I'm "supposed" to be. I want someone to break it down for me "Here is what's wrong, here is the plan for fixing it". THEN we can do the dancing of how to get to it. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Getting the diagnosis, the "here is what's wrong with you" was amazing BECAUSE....it now meant I knew what path to get better. I am happy to say I no longer meet enough requirements to be considering diagnosable, however.... I still struggle with many of the symptoms. It's a life long process of staying on top of the skill we are taught to manage it and not letting them lapse so that we sink back into the H*** that this disorder can be. I am currently trying....TRYING to read 5am Club and struggling so hard. It's just sooo....out there. I don't like the weird characters and odd story line. Just give me the info, don't take 500 words to tell me 75 words of info. Sigh. Lastly, I don't think it's always complaining when you tell someone you don't feel well. Unless you are doing it in a totally complaining way. Sometimes it's a simple statement of fact. I also don't particularly like that 'advice' as it can be destructive to someone with already bad mental state. They may feel invalidated and just put down. Again, taken from my experiences with my disorder and others I've talked to.

[@jonieferasisofficial384]

COVID really fucked me up, but I managed to fix my life thanks to Forwago.

[@Andrezacr1]

Please more book talks. 🥰🥰 Two books that are read because you suggested are atomic habits and maybe yo should talk to someone and they are two of my favorite books now. So please keep making these videos, I am going to read the latte factor next. ☺️

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Thanks for the love on this one, Andreza 🥰 so happy to hear you enjoyed both of those !!

[@meirabroderick5646]

I just read Essentialism by Greg McKeown and it definitely felt life-changing. Highly recommend.

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

I think I have that on my shelf? Nonetheless, I’ve heard about that one ! Need to give it a read!

[@TheSeatedView]

Lots of things resonated in your conversation about the Dwyer book (the note about guilt is particularly liberating), but… I think the age of the book shows in relation to how he talks about how we shouldn't talk about not feeling well. There was a different level of stoicism back then, as well as significant exclusion people with chronic illness and disability. For someone with a chronic illness, helping others to be aware and understand how you feel can be an important way to get support and break through isolation. As someone with a Danish background, I very much relate to the stoicism, but have also become increasingly aware that shutting down conversation on certain topics can really mess with your life - anyone's life, really. Of course, there is a big difference between a habit (lifestyle?) of complaining and a conversation that aims to educate or seek help.

[@khamiyahreviere9992]

My room is literally a library

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

The best kind of decor is books 🙌😍

[@khamiyahreviere9992]

@@caitlinmariedasilva couldn't agree more

[@gabrielaoliveira520]

Hi from Porto 👋🏼 I always loved books, the smell, the feeling of holding them, how they look amazing on night stands and how they make you feel intelectual 🙈 but I never found a genre that I liked enough to continuing reading after page 20 😂 I just discovered self help/personal development books about two years ago and they are it for me👌🏼 Life changing books for me (the kind that gets 5 stars on Goodreads): 1 - “The Power of Now” by Echkart Tolle 2 - “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson 3 - “Think Like a Monk” by Jay Shetty Currently reading “The Magic of Thinking Big” by Dr. David J. Schwartz and I already know it’s a 5 stars one!

[@derranstokes8760]

I would love to see more videos on book reviews

[@najatbazzi1786]

I read Harry Potter 2 years ago in the fourth grade, and I swear I get triggered when people watch the movie first 😂😂

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

🤣🤣🤣

[@lindahigham5317]

Smiling and I sat and read all the books together nonstop after they were all out then I sat and watched all the movies in a row as I never opened them till I did ☺️👍

[@najatbazzi1786]

Any recommendations for middle schoolers? I’m in 6 th grade, I read Percy Jackson and the contouring series’s for that and then all of Harry Potter and more! Right now I’m reading the trials of mortgage crow the never more series. Btw ily❤️❤️

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Honestly it’s been so long since I’ve been that age that I’m drawing a blank 🤪 I started reading the Mortal Instruments series in grade 6 and LOVED it

[@najatbazzi1786]

@@caitlinmariedasilva ok thanks you da besttttt

[@ni1351]

I also highly recommend: 1. The Power of Habit 2. The Ideal Team Player (like Latte Factor, it's a "financial/business" book but is lessons portrayed through fictional story, and is easy to read and digest)

[@kateisadreamer1246]

I would 100% argue that the money book is a self-help book. The genre is full of books about psychology, yes, but also plant-growing, money, crystals, the necessity of having a living will in your 20s... etc. I've only been into "self help" for about a year when I discovered the By the Book podcast, where they cover self-help books in a comedic and insightful way, and they cover it all :) I really recommend the podcast if you haven't listened already!! It helped me more than any women's studies class, helped me with my self-confidence and the importance of self-confidence, and also discusses a lot of minority issues.

[@SavannahStuermer]

I loved the way you explain each book and the quotes you included were great. I have read the Gifts of Imperfection and Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and loved them both. I am looking forward to checking out Latte Factor. Atomic Habits has been on my list to read for a while now, I better get on it! Thank you for the great video!

[@gos5955]

thanks for this video, I am entering personal development and I will take these recommendations into account

[@monikakamila]

I just read a book that is very inspirational “required reading for teenagers “ I think it was called. Now the quotes in there from celebs and others help everybody not just teens . I got it at value village.

[@SomebodiesDreaming]

Hi Caitlin I would love to hear your picks for books (fiction or nonfiction) that inspire you to write or be creative. I find my creativity to be zapped due to the reoccurring lockdown, but I am hoping to regain that passion back through some sort of "Aha" moment. Keep up the great work with your content! Can't wait to watch next week's video. :)

[@haleyking4085]

sorry but that intro was EVERYTHING! :) love your aesthetic.

[@rimonsterr9953]

The life changing magic of not giving a f*ck gave me an extra inside of how to live my life without always wanting to please others above myself. There is another book from the same writer, I think it's called the life changing magic of not giving a sh*t or something like that, and I would love to dive in that one too!

[@user-zs5so3if2d]

Atomic habit: under that chart is a link where you can download that chart online. I printed it out and pastet it into my bullet journal 😉 (mine is not English, I hope you have the link as well)

[@monikakamila]

I think that’s important . I had a therapist who had a therapist herself . The line of work they’re in it’s important that’s what she said anyway.

[@TheSteffiecanada]

I really enjoyed this video! The way you describe why you picked these books speak to how self-aware you already are. Also totally agree on money being a huge growth-edge. A couple of books that really helped me with limiting beliefs around money were "the abundance factor" and "money a love story". I have recently also become a huge fan of the enneagram for helping me guide what behaviours and patterns i should pay attention to and what i can incorporate more te feel freer. I started with "the wisdom of the enneagram", but have also gotten a lot out of "the complete enneagram" by Beatrice Chestnut. There are so many more amazing self-help books. I don't know how you narrowed it down to 5 😉

[@Ab-gf8pz]

Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change ~ Wayne Dyer

[@hannamarton1989]

I really liked Emotional First Aid by Guy Winch 😊

[@noraspecioso]

So much joy, first that it was Friday and we got a new video but also that it included books 😄 I've been trying to be better about reading personal development books and not just ignoring my problems by reading non-fiction. 😬 Plus it makes it easy when someone I trust recommends books lol. YAY!

[@pandaeruption4315]

Reading Dare to Read by Brene Brown right now (her newest release). It gives steps on how to be a better leader within today's society and the first step is to rumble with vulnerability.

[@atharvagarud4066]

I’m so glad more people are becoming aware of the aspect of their overall health. Something that worked for me and helped me to improve my mental and physical well-being was Forwago.

[@lakegirl3834]

Great video! My favorite book Is A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. Sooo good

[@suecathcart4687]

Enjoyed this but one I would add is "The Daily Stoic" - especially in these uncertain times - thanks for sharing

[@annacrescenzi5341]

Love your suggestions. Read Atomic Habits and really enjoyed it too. Will need to read your other suggestions too 👍

[@BeautyvictoryBlogspot14]

Friday’s are my favourite and you are the reason why!! Thank you for creating amazing content 💕 I hope you have a lovely weekend!

[@tarazaw]

These days, I've been struggling with uncertainty and staying in the present, and Oprah's 'What I Know for Sure' really helped me :))

[@sandrasshelf]

You've sold me hands down on "Your Erroneous Zone" !!! 📖

[@tomato0101]

Always love your videos Caitlin! This one is awesome as I also love self help books. Great summaries and I so wish we can do a book club and talk about all these books!!

[@samihuber4366]

Love this video!! I would enjoy more book topics!!

[@brittanyfaith6322]

I picked up the gifts of imperfection last month and haven’t read it yet, I’m definitely going to start now!

[@magdaholton5328]

I’m DEFINITELY adding these to my goodreads, I feel like I need all of them tbh

[@tonyalawson3203]

The One Thing bu Gary Keller was a total game changer for me!

[@Melrae01]

yay!! I have been looking for a video to help me get into self-help books (which is a pretty overwhelming genre i think)!! thank you!!!!!!!! also, more book videos are always welcome :)

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Glad I could be of assistance, Melina 🥰❤️

[@carlaskinner4644]

Adding funds for more books to next months budget! 📚

[@bones23jones]

Definitely do more book talks 👍

[@Mymakermovie77]

my thoughts during this video: "add to tbr, add to tbr... OOOOH let's add this one to my tbr!!" 🤦‍♀️ 2 books that changed my life where Are u Ok? by Kati Morton, all about Mental Health and seeking therapy as well. And The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down by Haemin. I keep going back to that one! 💖

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Haha 🤣🙌 I’m gonna have to look into both of those! Thanks for sharing :))

[@maryvo1096]

I have some of these books already, but for the rest... ADD TO CART! Thanks so much for sharing some of the most memorable quotes you found! 💛

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Glad you could discover some new ones! Enjoy your weekend, Mary 😍

[@jacquegarza5550]

Yeees more book talks!!! :)

[@estefizamora]

I read 'your erroneous zones' last year and it really made me think about a lot of things, specifically the guilt vs. worry chapter, as a person myself who constantly worries about certain things, it really opened my eyes and taught me how to work on that zone

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Yes yes yes 🙌🎉😍 I really took a lot away from that chapter!

[@judiebritt5741]

I have read some of these and am interested in others. But the book that has influenced me the most and made the biggest difference in my life is the Bible.

[@havest2]

have you read the whole thing? there's some fucked up shit in there😂

[@rishaa682]

I love Brene Brown

[@luisaschrempf5106]

I’m so ready for this!!

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Hope you enjoy, Luisa !!

[@quinncleo6120]

love ya

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

❤️❤️❤️

[@merlinpeter2910]

Last year I picked up Latte Factor because you recommended and it helped me digest the topic the easily. It is one of my favourites too. One book that really changed my perspective of creativity was Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert... I loved how she condensed that abstract topic into one enjoyable book. It’s helped me regain a different outlook about my job. I would recommend all creatives to read it!

[@caitlinmariedasilva]

Aww yay! I’m happy to hear that- it’s such a great one 🙌🥰 Oh I’ve heard lots about that one...need to add it to my list!

[@brittanyfaith6322]

@@caitlinmariedasilva yes! I read big magic in one of my art classes in college & I always think back to how inspirational it was and SO easy to digest.

[@julialaurenbm]

The two books that helped me the most in recent times were Get it Done When You're Depressed by Julie A. Fast and John D. Preston and Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price. Get it Done When You're Depressed lays out 50 strategies to get things done when you're feeling awful. I have anxiety, not depression but it's still been really helpful in my lowest moments to be like "ok I don't want to do anything but I *need* to do this right now or things will get worse" it's written by a woman with depression and a psychologist and take a really compassionate view on people's situations and how to get by on the worst days. Laziness Does Not Exist is one I'm still reading but it's been a revelation so far. It challenges the ideas that all our value is in our output, that we can't trust our own feelings, and that there's always something that we can be doing. it's one of those "I think everyone I know needs to read this book" because we're all so caught up in the Laziness Lie