5 MORE signs you may be in a emotionally manipulative friendship

[@txspacemom765]

I had a friendship of 20+ years end, back in October. She came to see me and I warned her, I only had 2 days. She insisted on coming. From the get go, she just talked, and talked, and talked- never giving me a second to speak. After 2 hours of her straight yapping, I was done. Like your story, she expected me to be who I was, some 20 years ago. We both had the same 20 years and man, she was JEALOUS of the things I accomplished. I didn't tell her to gloat, I was trying to share life experiences. She was still in her toxic, 20 year old ways and emotional intelligence. I live in Texas, and "smoking" is illegal here but she whipped out her vape and started smoking! I walked away and said I won't be around her doing that. She was NEVER wrong and if I did get a say in, she would tell me how I was wrong, or her experience was WORSE than mine. I told her I only had 2 days. Day 3, she texts me and says skip work and come hang out (She was staying in town for some art thing.) She doesn't work (she is on disability) and I didn't even answer her because she just wanted to use me as a punching bag. She was visiting in an RV and didn't have a vehicle and expected me to run her around, giving me no gas money or even paying for dinner, to say thanks. I was done and she is still trying to contact me, blaming me for how I didn't have time for her, that I seemed distanced and distracted. I'm not going to explain to someone how to adult and have conversations and preserve friendships. I haven't talked to her since and I'm good. I'm not wasting my time to try and explain it to her, because she won't get it.

[@jasminefiguresitout]

@@txspacemom765 I’m so sorry that happened. My friendship was 20+ years too. Adult friendships are so awkward sometimes. Especially when one person is growing and the other isn’t.

[@Soton-E]

mmm just dropped into this as I was navigating to another pod cast …. You are describing my daughter in law! It’s all goo when I am in her beck and call: eg extending our agreed after school childcare; doing an errand whist they are on holiday; impromptu child minding …. BUT when I need collecting from hospital after eye surgery …. the response it ‘Oh dear, she has a medical appointment too that afternoon; also they are out that evening so her afternoon is rather full… Unfortunately I can’t walk away from my grandchildren, or let down my Son who works really long hours to support his family… So toxic relationships do manifest in many types of relationships.

[@jasminefiguresitout]

@@Soton-E it’s so frustrating to navigate right!?