5 "NICE GIRL" Habits ALL WOMEN Must Break!

5 Nice Girl Habits All Women Must Break... In this dating advice video, I will give you five nice girl habits all women must break to enjoy dating and have healthy relationships. When you break free from the nice girl habits I share, you will unleash your inner sassiness and leave men wanting more of you. Take heed to this dating advice for women and watch the full video to learn how to stop being a nice girl and become more feminine.
I want you to break free from being a nice girl and embark on your daring life purpose. This relationship advice will help you understand why you sometimes feel like you are too nice or giving, but you get less than expected. Break the nice girl habits I share in this dating advice for better dating experiences.
As a certified life coach, relationship coach, and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this video helpful and that you can enjoy dating and have a fulfilling, healthy relationship.
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[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@nicoledeleon4888]

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[@Ayspeaks_]

❤

[@Pinkcandy777]

Hi remember me? We still just close close friends. Not kissed even. Great base for potential marriage :)

[@jodythi1]

Hi Stephan, I’m in a situation where my boyfriend told me that he gets bored in relationships easily and then he told me that he wouldn’t cheat on me but he would let me know when he wants out to see other people. He doesn’t understand how this is crazy. Can you make a video on this? I’ve never been in this situation before.

[@mimi-vb5ny]

Greetings, please I have a worry. My boyfriend responds to anything I suggest as disrespect or "do you want to compare yourself to me"?, Do you dare disobey me? Do you want to cry? You deserve some good ass whooping. I'm scared but I don't know if I provoke this. I'm thinking of leaving and I'm scared he will come with the tears and say I used him . What do you suggest I do? I feel trapped

[@lorenahoffmann1494]

Once I stopped being the nice girl, I now get what I want or show them the door! Especially low-balling, low-effort men. I choose me first and now they do what I want

[@pathip_]

Lie! you can't keep a real man without being nice and submissive.

[@lorenahoffmann1494]

@@pathip_ so you haven’t even listened to the video to the end. Not sure what men you know, but nice girls are seen as doormats…

[@moniquebode1655]

Good on you. It's called girl power

[@brittneysperspective8433]

YUP! Ignore men complaining about being used. They don’t care, as long as they get sex and are attracted to the girl. He will accept being used. If he’s complaining about it, it’s cause he mad she didn’t pick him. Being nice does not make men respect you, or treat you better. They will treat you worse, because they can, and they are always looking to low ball. Don’t apologize for not texting back quick enough or breaking plans. Men don’t deserve empathy. Men pick mean, horrible women all the time just because they are cute. Get yours!

[@amerokeewiya1320]

@@pathip_The etymology of “nice” is stupid, foolish & clumsy. Men don’t respect women who are “nice” & “submissive”, they dog walk them.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

1. Trying to get this "man" to like you 2. Learn to say no to sex! Especially when you do Not want to! 3. Do away with struggle "love"! 4. Stop giving undeserved 2nd chances! Aka if he denys it, dismisses you, plus the best applogy is changed behavior! ⭐️⭐️ **why would you wanna keep repeating yourself over and over?** 5. Being afraid to push him away aka repressing and suppressing yourself cause you dont wanna possibly have him react by leaving or distancing

[@CosmicSpaceAdventure]

Thank you 🎉❤

[@glimpses.of.fabs.]

Thank you!

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@@CosmicSpaceAdventure you're welcome!❤️

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@@glimpses.of.fabs. you're welcome!

[@originaleverythingelseisca5977]

YES!!!!! I was never The only thing I prayed and fight for was the man I married

[@GodsObedientChild-Deuteron6262]

I'm naturally a nice person and yes, I'm so tired of being nice to the WRONG and UNDESERVING guy and I'm so done🙄

[@moniquebode1655]

Yea I understand I'm sick of being nice too lol

[@winning3329]

I took myself off the dating market and I am happy. Not everyone is meant to be in a relationship.

[@MylezNevison]

You're not done till the spirit is done with you... If you want to change your experience, there are 2 principles you must understand first. Principle 1: "One can never accept more love than the amount of love they give themselves." (Law of attraction) Principle 2: "The only relationship we can have is the relationship with the self. All other relationships are REFLECTIONS of that relationship." - Iyanla Vanzant The issue isn't WHO you attract but WHY you attract them... Relationships are spiritual mirrors meant to teach you about you. They are a spiritual tool, NOT a safe haven from your past traumas/loniless, NOT a goal, nor are they an indefinite vacation or distraction from the internal work most run from doing... The partners you pick and are magnetised to are reflections of your INTERNAL relationship with yourself. So changing partners doesn't change your experience; just like changing a mirror doesn't change you or your reflection. You say you are "naturally a nice person," but the real question is, are you being nice to YOURSELF by choosing "undeserving" partners? No, you're not & that behaviour ties into Principle 1; You pick and are attracted to undeserving partners because subconsciously, you likely feel undeserving of love greater than the amount you received in your childhood and the amount you give yourself today because of said childhood... Thus, your pathology becomes; subconsciously(internally) being drawn to partners that give you the same FAMILIAR low level of love you've received & given yourself since childhood, whilst you consciously(externally) you desperately try fight to make your "undeserving" partners (through niceness) love you more than you were loved &/or love yourself. No condemnation, but that behaviour Is a coping mechanism at best. The problem here is that you're trying to fix an internal issue externally. Unfortunately, that's not how relationships and attraction work. You always spiritually attract who you are (your lesson)... thus you can't attract better till you BECOME better. The parts of your spirit that feel undeserving need to be addressed and unpacked. Until then, your relationship choices will just reflect your growth or lack thereof. Final Principle: "You make your decisions, and then your decisions make you."

[@GodsObedientChild-Deuteron6262]

​@@MylezNevisonThank you for your comment/opinion, I respect that.... I say that I'm done, as far as, when I recognize that I'm being used or taken for granted for my kindness by a guy or anyone. I respectfully call the guy or person out, for whatever negativity that has transpired from them towards me, at that very moment and I move on, no hate, I just move on. I am naturally nice, kind, caring, loving and a giving lady, but, I do know when I'm being taken for granted and used. But, that doesn't stop me from being who I am by pouring into those that are deserving. God blessed me with a loving and kind heart, I love Him, I love myself and people... But, I'm not a fool nor am I perfect and never will be✨

[@Danny328DT]

​@@winning3329Relationships are difficult, but it's good to experience at least once to get an understanding of it. Of course educate yourself first. It's okay to focus your life on your career and family if you don't desire kids in your future.

[@esthergaldamez4537]

For the first time, I told a man he isn’t enough for me, I stopped being nice to men and started being nice to myself 🧡

[@kathywherry9810]

Started this in 2017. Best decision I ever made..

[@FavorsMeChelC]

How did you get rid of him? Did he live with you?

[@meka8953]

GIRL IT'S THE BEST DECISION EVER THESE SCUMS AREN'T LOOKING FOR LOVE THEY'RE LOOKING FOR HELP 🤢🤢🤢AND THAT'S FACTS

[@denisechestnut5650]

Amen. I started doing the same. And much happier

[@bx3137]

Congratulations to self ❤😅

[@breathnstop]

My first boss taught me how to say no. "I wish I could be more helpful but I can't". Works like a charm.

[@ka8155]

OMG, just what I needed. Thank you

[@user-mw6wp6ce4p]

I LOVE that ! I usually say, " I can't commit to that right now". But yours sound so much better 😅😅

[@MsPECULIAR25]

I'm using this

[@ass4and8am]

me alsoo!!

[@meka8953]

YES BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE VERY DECEITFUL AND WILL USE YOU AS IT BENEFITS THEM UNTIL YOU SAY NO THAT'S WHY I BLOCKED AND DELETED THE USERS

[@hc7092]

“You’re not too nice you’re just too afraid to say no” thank you so much for this. I know I’m too afraid to say no because of my anxious attachment style and fear of abandonment. (Both my parents are in my life but growing up my friends always left me for others). I say yes because I want others to be happy so they don’t leave me. I need to learn how to start putting myself first! All your points btw… This entire video is for me 😭 thank you 😭😭

[@winning3329]

Women are taught to be nice but men are not.

[@diaryofarichsidechic]

And pull yourself up by your boot strap You are worthy of an attachment a free attachment without Fear.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@shadessa_hansen]

Me to

[@hc7092]

Thank you everyone 🙏🏾🩷

[@cassiereed4120]

Mfs be treating " bad bitches " way better than nice girls smh😂

[@elenal1906]

They want / *value what they can't have, not what seems "available"

[@missj5564]

They like a challenge and get turned on by being treated horribly.

[@mizelle4096]

men will have sex with ANY woman, ones they hate, find disgusting/fat/skinny/ugly etc...for their sexual pleasure. STOP GIVING IT TO THEM.

[@Danny328DT]

I don't ever see men desiring drama in relationships besides toxic men who simp or play nice to get sex from her. Men are simple, and women can spot it a mile away. If you're a good woman, then your choices reflect the quality of the relationships. Why do women feel the need to chase Chad and Tyrone? Why do men feel the need to chase women who are easier to get attention over? It goes both ways. A wise woman will distinguish between "playing nice" versus a genuinely good gentleman. A wise man will distinguish a snake versus a woman with a loyal heart.

[@Erica-cf1xb]

It's an illusion. Those baddies are lesbians who will give sloppy to a pit bull for $30 and a IG shout out. If he is into those whack ass Lil girls let the streets have him. He may have rabies and malaria from raw dogging those serpents.

[@gravityclarity]

Basically, don't have sex to keep a man, don't settle for struggle love, know your worth and do not accept less than what you deserve. All things I already agree with and live by.😌

[@rosalindhayes1363]

Right 🎉😊

[@carlineannelus3659]

That’s right

[@meka8953]

GRAVITY I LOVE IT HERE THESE SCUMS CAN'T SEEM TO UNDERSTAND WHY I'M NOT HARD UP FOR NO MAN LET ALONE TO EVEN LET A SCUM STAY WITH ME NOPE NOT THIS WOMAN🤢🤢🤢🤢

[@saralee3382]

True hey 😢

[@karenstephenson]

I'm a nice girl, but if a man is wasting my time I'm moving on.

[@DaishaH19]

@karenstephenson facts cuz we not playing with em

[@itsyourgirlval6457]

like don't get it twisted lol

[@daniellecushman1024]

Me too I don’t wait around I be gone with the wind 🌬️

[@MelliMel_]

I’ve been guilty of staying around too long. As of lately when dating I show my authentic self and if the person I am isn’t treated properly I’m quicker than the road runner at getting away. With that being said I take it one day at a time.

[@FIREcrochethairstyles]

​@@MelliMel_ Period. Men KNOW who they can play around with!!

[@puresexxii]

This is the story of my life. Men tell me that I am too easy to be with. I dont really argue, not chasing you down, I work for my own things and bills, Im loving, affectionate and sexually pleasing to my partner. As I get older I understand more yet still find all of this confusing. I attract low effort men and hate it.

[@reginadavis1028]

You don't have to entertain everyone you attract. YOU CHOOSE WHO YOU ENTERTAIN! THEY present, YOU choose!

[@agirlfromtexas87]

Girl, same here. I feel doomed.

[@steveeleigh3731]

This is me!

[@winning3329]

This is why I took myself off the dating market. These men are not looking for wives or good women, these men are just looking to use. Nobody teaches women male nature and this is why women fall victim and get their hearts broken. Women are not taught that men are wired differently and they see relationships differently. Women are not taught that a woman can grow to love a man but men are incapable of growing to love a woman. Also just because a man is incapable of love doesn't mean that he doesn't have s3xual needs and he gets these needs met by playing a character to women, he will pretend to be in love and fake being a good man and looking for a relationship to trick a woman into bed because he fully knows about soul ties and women can be controlled with s3x. Women often confuse s3x with love and possible commitment when men see s3x as a hand shake and this is how they are able to sleep with multiple women and not feel anything for them. Please teache your female family members and friends about the game men play

[@nevermindlove928]

Same here😅

[@missj5564]

I have learned from my experiences of being too nice to the wrong men. I am no longer giving my all and receiving anything in return. I am now sticking to my standards, no longer listening to sob stories and being told to lower my standards by the wrong men, who do not meet them. At a certain age you should be mature, know what you want, stop playing games and not wanting people to accept struggle love. At this point in my life, it is better to be single and content than to settle for less than I deserve and feel like I am in a hellish relationship.

[@nancybreaux9684]

Absolutely

[@lmusima3275]

You’d never be right for the wrong man.

[@reneef.874]

All of this.

[@mznonda]

I totally agree

[@adelakerr1633]

yup me to that’s what i’m doing.

[@PurpleKittens619]

Ive been dating a man for month's that ive known for years. We've done the bedroom action and when i asked for a serious relationship within 6 months to a year of getting to know eachother, he told me he doesnt know how he feels in a year. To me I took that as rejection, that he didnt want ME, he just wanted the action from me. I learned to slowly let him go until i was finally ready to simply walk away for good. It wasnt worth the depression id get when id gain feelings knowing i would never get anywhere with him. It truely was a struggle love for me. I went to church and the pastor talked about letting go of people who arent good for you. People who will sink your boat. I took that as God's sign.

[@ellemarie5889]

Good for you! You are worth loving!

[@Anetekonjo]

💯

[@meka8953]

GOOD JOB BOO DON'T LET NOBODY STEAL YOUR JOY THESE SCUMS ARE SO PATHETIC I PROMISE YOU AND IT FEELS GOOD NOT EVEN ACKNOWLEDGING THEM OR THEIR FOOLISHNESS😂😂😂😂

[@alisagrant1134]

I’m way over it. I’m not insecure and I don’t try to get anyone to like me. I’ve never cared. I’m usually pursued , but I seem to attract men who see a good woman and want to use me when they see that I truly am a person who treats others like I want to be treated. They get comfortable like a frog in hot water. I express myself but they don’t tend to take me seriously. I suppose because I speak softly, and don’t cuss and scream. When I turn off the stove and dump ice in the water, they get surprised and are shocked because they think that I would never do that. I give as many chances as I can, but enough is enough. Men tend to take my kindness as a weakness. At this point, I’ll either have the man that I have prayed for and am willing to wait for or have NO ONE. GOD created the universe and everything in it, surely HE can provide the kind of man I have asked for, as well as make sure he is the man I need. HE knows me better than I know myself. I can and will be patient.

[@michellemann6362]

Well spoken 😊🙏

[@fluorescentjas]

I feel you girl. You mentioned giving as many chances as you can. That might be the problem. I just saw a reel where the guy said they are “bad boys” and treat women however because women don’t leave. It was terrible, but true. One strike and you’re out their behind! But also waiting on God because the dating world sucks.

[@alisagrant1134]

@@fluorescentjas You’re probably right., but I would want to be given more than one chance. I will let go immediately when there is a deal breaker the first time, i.e. doing the things that I don’t do like getting in my face and screaming. I don’t get down with that. That person has anger issues, and I’m not going to give a chance to do that again or hit me. It’s not so much what you say, but how you react and say what you want to say. I won’t even say that’s treating me like a child. I would never treat a child like that. One time and a man is comfortable thinking that’s how you will let him treat you or go further if he wants. In addition, I usually give the chances because when I walk away it’s over. There’s nothing left to say nor look back for. I have never traveled a road once traveled with a man, because I have done my best and I have no regrets.

[@hallejudy]

Work on yourself. Your first line is where your problem is

[@susannakissi3830]

I wish you all the best🙏🏽❤

[@UrBigSisKey]

Put simply, you shouldn't feel afraid to lose him because you are so solid in yourself and fulfilled in your own life and companionship -- the rest will follow.

[@queenuthopia4003]

Well stated 💯

[@marlenerockefeller443]

I guess I got a long way to go. I just broke up with someone because I knew he wasn't for me and it was struggle love, but now I'm lonely. I can't wait til I'm in this better mind space.

[@jennifermoorehead7699]

​@marlenerockefeller443 just take it day by day.. Pray and you gonna grow through this

[@faithdobson3983]

I use to be the too nice girl I had to stop doing that to protect my heart and my peace! I almost lost myself, never ever again! Thank you for sharing this!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@brittxnyakawaii12]

❤

[@_MaryRose_]

Can not stress that "struggle love" part enough! Speaking out of my own experience on that part; that was how I ended up wasting almost 10 years of my life with someone who was essentially abusing me financially, emotionally and mentally. The idea that we can "fix someone" if we only love them enough has to be one of the most self sabotaging lies we can tell our self.

[@bettiewatkins3035]

Ik R!!

[@carebear381]

I thought I read, SNUGGLE love

[@lindahall109]

This is some of the stuff I wish my dad told me. He’d rather me not date at all and I’m 25. So instead of guiding me through what healthy relationships look like. I’m just out here figuring stuff out on my own. Thanks for your videos and God bless!

[@shaysfashionablejewelry9859]

I'm the same and same age

[@De_Sava]

Stop blaming your parents for what they don’t know or understand.

[@ebonyeyes7023]

Father's need to stop this. Talk to their daughters.

[@lorettaquartey1549]

Am actually a nice girl. Now I understand why I feel men take advantage

[@sherryhillman9197]

You can be nice, just don’t let him take advantage of. Don’t always agree whim or say yes all the time. Don’t feel guilty when you can’t do ever for him all the time.

[@leannadole4747]

Story of my life

[@MzBrOdUs18]

Saying No is so liberating. It’s so sad how women are conditioned to be ppl pleasers and set up to be exploited. Saying no gets easier when you stop worrying about ppl “not liking you, being upset w u and overall not being pleased w u. Women have to get comfortable w that! We are taught “ if im not always pleasing to ppl they won’t like me & I will be alone.” Think about all the ppl in your life who don’t focus on pleasing you 24/7 yet you STILL like them, you still want to be around, you still RESPECT them. That happens both ways. You don’t have to work hard to please ppl 24/7 to be liked. Be a human being. Ppl respect authenticity. Being nice ALL the time is fake. Nobody is truly nice all the time.

[@nancyparra5741]

Yes

[@rakelpeneyambeko]

"All the time" 🎯🎯

[@meka8953]

BIG FACTS😘😘😍😘😘😍😘😍😍😘

[@meka8953]

I WISH THAT I CAN LIKE THIS STATUS A MILLION TIMES HUNNY BECAUSE THIS COMMENT IS EVERYTHING... IT FEELS GOOD LEARNING TO SAY NO AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER AND WONDERING OF THEY'LL LIKE YOU HELL MAJORITY OF THESE INDIVIDUALS DON'T EVEN LIKE THEMSELVES

[@virginiathomas2581]

I learned if a man is into me he will show me. Talking means absolutely nothing. I’m by myself but I am happy!❤😂

[@beverlylucaylucay3223]

Thank you Stephan!! I just broke it off after 2 1/2 years of every point you hit on today!!! I am taking my identity back and gonna be happy for the Rest of my Life!! I am 70 yrs. old and I plan on enjoying my Golden Years!! Thank you!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@lia_romi01]

Jesus loves you so much 🙌☀️

[@Samantha-js8ci]

Wow!! Go You Queen! I wish I had your strength. Peace, Luv & Blessings 💕

[@lyfesaquarium]

Go girl❤

[@missj5564]

If in 6 months or so men are playing games and the relationship is not going anywhere you break it off. At a certain age people should know what they want from a relationship. Sometimes it is better to be alone and content than be in one sided relationship and dealing with unnecessary stress. I am not putting up with any crap from men now and hope I will never have to put up with crap from some old man that should know better.

[@unicorntv1232]

72 here. We’re the best!!💃

[@angelaspringfield5584]

I'm finally starting to speak up for myself. I'm not your doormat. I will not accept just enough anymore. You not gonna continue to hurt and disrespect me. I'm over it.

[@winning3329]

I used to be such a pick me woman because I didn't know the games men played. When i saw men saying that they saw s3x as a hand shake i knew i had to take myself out of the dating market. I didn't know male nature like i learned now. I am happily single and celibate. ❤❤❤

[@Danny328DT]

You just have to weed out all of the low value men that desire casual sex and hookup culture. As a guy, I prefer a woman who respects her body and has desirable feminine traits. Sex isn't a priority, but I expect it to be considered (not forced) to maintain a healthy LTR. If she doesn't want sex before marriage, then it's okay. Sex should be a special time between partners, and strong intimacy makes it far more desirable. I really don't get how men can only satisfy themselves. Women don't care about the physical part, they want the emotion.

[@michellemann6362]

Me also.

[@yvesgysel9834]

I am a guy, and the biggest mistake women make is being too easy. Meaning to sleep with the guy on the first date. As a guy's perspective, you are not relationship material in that case. Postpone it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying. "I am not that kind of woman." "I 1st would like to get to know you better." You avoid the players, and you become instantly more attractive. Trust me. This is actually top secret for women. Guys categorize women, too. Good luck.

[@dianadepp1864]

​@@yvesgysel9834i'm virgin my whole life 😢 do explain why i still attract MEN who view me as side sex Chick if i have Legs closed??? Why MEN are attracted to virgins and if they cant keep dik in pants?

[@onyinyeuche2339]

@@Danny328DT thanks for this ...good to hear a guy lend his voice on this

[@reneef.874]

Being nice had me in a struggle love marriage that resulted in divorce after 7 years because of infidelity. We were only married 2-3 years the first time I found out about the first offense. After that timeframe, the narcissism kept exposing itself and I ended up going through so much, looking stupid. Now, post divorce, I’m mean as a bull to him. I don’t place 100% blame on him though. Had I left the first time or even left him alone after some flags during dating, I wouldn’t have to tell this story. Don’t force nothing and cut a mf off when necessary.

[@trecheshoto-harris2436]

Amen. This sounds like my story. God bless.❤

[@kyautayahaya6598]

my story right now, but taking path to healing

[@godsroseinbloomh3246]

Women better learn how to run while they can still walk..fr

[@hits92.3MEDIA]

❤

[@danaparfitt2491]

​@@godsroseinbloomh3246trouble too will pass

[@phxjoshfan]

This is what I was needing to hear right now. I broke off a 2 1/2 year relationship a few months ago and I’m working on myself so I don’t get in that same situation again. I am that “nice” girl. It’s time that I realize I deserve to be treated with love and respect.

[@dorathyrudd7391]

Hey beautiful

[@Sissy317]

Amen! ❤

[@ericaedwards3561]

Im that too nice girl, and I hate it. Lately I been educating my mind on how to not make things so easy for these men. Im so tired of putting myself in temporary situations 💯

[@louiseclark7967]

I have said 'NO' many times, even on first dates! These guys were never to be seen or heard from again..BYE!! Ladies you don't need these selfish players in your lives! The moment when you can honestly say, "I would like a man in my life, but I don't need one to be happy", is the moment you free yourself to take the time and really find the right one. Thank you, Stephan for all of the wisdom you share.

[@steveeleigh3731]

I think ladies should get the commitment first before sex. And not just him verbalizing...an actual ring.

[@JC-sw6qn]

A ring means nothing. Get MARRIED and it probably me something more

[@unrulybynature133]

Never been the “Nice Girl”! I’m naturally kind of mean until you get to know me & I don’t allow most men or people in general to get to know me. I’m a straight shooter, I speak my mind & my attitude at times is terrible. With age I’m getting better 😂. I’ve always been more comfortable in my “dark feminine” energy & most men are attracted to it., Weird! I’m affectionate, passionate & loving when I want to be. The energy I bring is No Nonsense/Zero Tolerance & I’m never afraid to Walk Away 😉

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@marisaking5982]

sounds like me lol what’s your sign?

[@eefiekel3954]

My current partner told me this the other day and I was just laughing, I really can’t help it. Had to stand up for myself for so long and it’s hard to let any man get away with treating me like crap even as I’m growing older

[@sheliasmith2884]

I love that

[@thaonhi19tth]

sound like sag

[@p.micheleraines9073]

I put 22 years of marriage into struggle love before leaving...yet in the 1st month (marriage) we argued so much and it got so ugly that we agreed that we weren't even each other's FRIEND MATERIAL 🤯😳 but we had a mortgage, a new marriage, a baby on the way and we both LOVED the LORD. We considered those components to be a springboard. 22 years later, he never grew and continously put down my aspirations while dismissing my concerns until I said that I was leaving. I said it 5x before I actually left. You mentioned: (1) struggle love (2) walking away from a person that is not a good fit (3) marrying potential (4) afraid to push him away...more concerned about him BEING OK than my own well-being. Huh😮‍💨 This WAS my life...but I have meditated, prayed, restructured my purpose, and dove headfirst into scripture for a whole year (and ongoing) and I love the new me.

[@lizzas4574]

Me too religious belief plays a big role

[@thejannieb.perspective1830]

You’re describing so many marriages. I know one of these type too

[@jeennys8256]

You gotta look at their fruits sis! Not potential and definitely not their words.

[@p.micheleraines9073]

@jeennys8256 Amen. I'm doing everything I can DAILY to focus on the FRUIT TREE right now and nor much else which is the way it should have always been. Pray for me.

[@erezafazliu7689]

“I love the new me” that’s inspiration🥺 thank you

[@traceychang4789]

This was me for so long, but the real problem was just choosing the wrong men. We need to heal ourselves fully, and respect and value ourselves, and then we will naturally start to make better choices in our lives, including choosing better quality, higher value men.

[@ChloeLayneXO]

Don't blame yourself fully. Men really are the problem.

[@rachelgreco6995]

In my case, good men dont even want me. All i attract are felons and narcissists so i give up at this point. I cant choose someone who dont want me anyways.

[@joyricherson4570]

There is nothing wrong being nice, but we nust need to be clear on our intentions and not letting our niceness be seen as weakness. You're right Steph

[@krisjustbegun9740]

A great way to think about second chances is what Jono from Cinema Therapy says. “The best apology is changed behavior”

[@goddessnoir290]

I love cinema therapy!!!+!

[@marlajacques6947]

Wow thanks for that, I will remember this quote!

[@Steviejustine824]

You always post the things I need to hear at the exact time I need to hear it. God's timing is always right!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I appreciate that 🙏

[@kolediamonds2176]

Factz

[@abelladavinci5549]

always !

[@LifeofFlora]

I agree with you here...

[@Stephanie-wk7zy]

Invest and test. Coming from someone who has rescuers syndrome and a motherly figure to all her friends. I have been used for resources and sex. No more. Im over coming childhood trauma. What i will and wont put up with. I will never beg anyone to sit at my table and let me tell you. Neither do you. Invest a little, see if its reciprocated (test), if it is, invest more and keep the cycle going. Love your message Stephan. Big hugs everyone have a blessed day. ❤

[@pilarensi]

I like that… invest and test. I will definitely make a mental note of that 📝 My best wishes to you my dear ❤✨

[@Stephanie-wk7zy]

@@pilarensi you as well sweetie! Never forget your worth!

[@munchkiki.angelina]

Thank you for this! Today, I finally ended a 7yr relationship that was going nowhere. I was accepting struggle love, always trying to save him, completely in love with is potential and not his reality. Thank you, thank you, thank you for helping me open my eyes and accept how I was sabotaging myself with this relationship. Thanks for helping me save myself. It was long over due.

[@rachellebrown3144]

Same sis exactly the same

[@wildchick]

So glad you opened your eyes and your mind and stopped wasting precious time with a dead end relationship. God Bless You ❤

[@Eze292]

I dated 7 years, i helped him elevate, once he got rich dumped via a text . I am single 2 years. Jobless but God is faithful.

[@jumbolumps666]

Proud of you, Internet stranger!

[@loushaydavis464]

Thank you. I been told I am too nice. Since I am getting older , 28 currently I am learning to set boundaries for myself and others. Loving and Healing myself with therapy and God. Also taking accountability. Just letting everything flow with time. Focused on my career and goals with God 1st

[@sheberry8597]

Yesssss.. you just summarized my life right now. I had to learn the hard way to set boundaries. I teach my kids they have the right to have boundaries now.

[@loushaydavis464]

@@sheberry8597 yes much needed. May God bless you

[@sheberry8597]

@@loushaydavis464 May you be blessed as well💞

[@andreahoward2683]

When I stop being the nice girl I get called CRAZY 🤣🤣🤣 but when I’m my sweet loving self they take it for granted

[@kayjaykayjay1869]

Every time I watch your videos, it makes me more grateful that I’m single! I’m 44 and I plan on staying single until the Most High Calls my name! I give I’m no longer interested in dating. I’m really sick of the men out here! They are not emotionally available, or they are not mentally stable or they can’t match me. All I ask is for you to have a car your own place and a job! I Can take care of me. I want a man that can take care of himself! No I’m not coming to pick you up! No we not just chilling at my house! And I ABSOLUTELY am not giving you a dime. So I’m comfortable being alone! Im happy here.Been celibate two years and counting. I definitely was the nice girl. But I literally would get ran over and not taken seriously. I’m good!

[@MylezNevison]

From my observations, the "nice men" are being told that nice guys finish last & that girls don't like nice guys, so they should become bad boys... Here, the "nice women" are being told to stop being nice & that nice women are treated like doormats. Does no one see how a trauma loop is being created & perpetuated here? The first issue l see is people conflating and confusing niceness with kindness... The word 'nice' is from the Latin 'nescius', which means "naive, ignorant, to not know." So people on both sides labelling themselves as nice is an ironic demonstration of the naivety that's literally in the definition of the word nice but l digress... What both sides are ignorant of is that relationships are spiritual mirrors meant to teach you about you. They are a spiritual tool, NOT a safe haven from your past traumas/loniless, NOT a goal, nor are they an indefinite vacation or distraction from the internal work most run from doing... The partners you pick and are magnetised to are reflections of your INTERNAL relationship with yourself. So changing partners doesn't change your experience; just like changing a mirror doesn't change you or your reflection. So becoming a bad boy only makes you attract women who fan the flames of badness in you till they consume both of you. If you truly are a kind person person no one should be able to change you or make you to be less of who you are (kind). Actions are louder than words, so the "nice guys" that become bad boys to attract women are showing (with their actions) that they aren't really kind because they are willing to sacrifice character to get sex & relationships from women who don't even like good guys. Inversely, the "nice women" who are now changing themselves into bad girls and selfish women because their relationship expectations weren't met by the bad boys they picked; they too are willing to sacrifice character to get what they want so they are the perfect mirror of the bad boys... They are spiritual mirrors of each other in that they aren't yet truly kind people at their core because when being kind doesn't get them what they want, they stop being kind. In short, they are using kindness and niceness as transactional tools & a means to an end (not wanting to be lonely, wanting someone to love them more than they love themselves, wanting someone to take care of them etc). It's all EGO, trauma coping mechanisms (of people not willing to face or work on themselves) and looking for quick external fixes to internal deep seeded issues. When will people learn?😔 *"The only relationship we can have is the relationship with the self. All other relationships are REFLECTIONS of that relationship." - Iyanla Vanzant* People lie to themselves and think of themselves as better than they actually are, and then they get confused by the relationships they attract. The relationship is a mirror reflection of what's happening WITHIN yourself. You are attracting who you are. You pick men who don't care about you because you don't care about you, which is likely because you weren't truly cared for from childhood. Then, as men, you pick women who don't care about you because you don't feel you will ever be cared for by women & you're too scared to be alone. Otherwise, you wouldn't entertain shallow women nor change into a bad boy (abandon core your character values) to be with them. Like the women, you don't care about yourself too, making them your perfect spiritual lesson/partner/mirror. So ultimately, you will perpetually attract each other because you are both similarly compromised from WITHIN. You can't attract and keep someone better than you are spiritually because *"One can never accept more love than the amount of love they give themselves." (Law of attraction)*

[@cathyhinder8573]

Nailed it 👌 👏 👍 🎯

[@zhhhhhhh]

Unfortunately for “nice girls” and “nice guys,” human nature is such that humans see nice people as weak and easy to take advantage of. It benefits the nice girls/guys to understand and set boundaries (so they understand when other humans are trying to take advantage of them and use them as a doormat).

[@tallynurs63]

Love this!!!

[@meggyshae100]

Love the part where you said “we all need to evolve and grow and work on ourselves” not a lot of people think that way. 🎉❤😮😊

[@sabrinadeangelis3374]

I am one of those people who has been in self-development for 22 years and still want to learn more and grow. Most people are not ready for it.

[@BL3SSed-Bliss]

Many people are not _wise,_ dear. Be well.💖

[@truerosie]

Actually loads of them do; the personal development movement is very big business and has been for decades.... raise your vibration and you'll find them.

[@foreignlovedreams]

Good Girls Go to Heaven, Bad Girls Go Everywhere, as the classic says. So I especially support this idea, to stop being a good girl. Being good and being happy are two different things. Women and girls need to develop themselves, take courses, have interesting hobbies, and not think that their happiness depends on a partner or a man. Being happy is a conscious choice of every woman. We can be happy regardless of who is around us, because it is our inner state.

[@donnajeffreys8252]

Sometimes it's walking away from a good person who is NOT good for you , very well said !! No need to waste my precious time and my time and soul is precious, ✌🏽 💙

[@ninawaryaro9415]

Thanks for this video Man of God.Just decided to delete numbers of every man that was taking me for granted coz of being too nice. I know I'll meet with someone who will love me for who I am. Be yourselves ladies and have peace with yourselves.

[@carlineannelus3659]

The man God has for us ❤ will love us unconditionally. I love Stefan I will buy this book for all my friends for Christmas.

[@casperinsight3524]

Why am I trying so hard to make it work with a man that I cant even be myself with ?! 💥 Excellent question

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@cassandragrayes6149]

This is what I needed today. I am 32 and was with someone for 2.5 years. Thinking “everyone” had struggle love. Thinking one day soon, it’ll click because we were going individual and couples therapy, which had me caught up in this loop. One thing I’ve learned, people can go to therapy, do yoga, read the Bible etc.. 📣if they don’t want to change and implement changed behavior, it will never work. I wish I pulled the plug 2 years ago.

[@kourtney101]

Wow, sis that's so true. Thank you for sharing❤

[@meka8953]

FACTS MS CASSANDRA YOU CAN GIVE A PERSON ALL KINDS OF HELPFUL RESOURCES AND THEY'LL STILL LOOK FOR YOU TO DO EVERYTHING SO I MADE UP MY MIND TO BLOCK THOSE USERS BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HELP YOURSELD I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO TELL YOU NOT MY PROBLEM

[@kellygibson8937]

I am a survivor of struggle love and finally went to therapy and realized why I would even consider “helping” a man or “cultivating his Potential” when they were not on my level in any way! Most times they didn’t even see the potential in themselves and they certainly didn’t have any inner motivation to truly evolve once they had me or if they did evolve (thanks to me ) then they became more attractive to other women and cheated! No thank you! I am DELIVERED from Struggle Love!! 💯

[@user-kb1iv9ex8k]

I was the "struggle love" girl. 5 1/2 years! He always would say he was working on him but there was never any change. Never open to suggestions after numerous conversations. And everything was always my fault.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@user-kb1iv9ex8k]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you! I truly appreciate you!

[@keziyahyisrael9672]

Wow this hit me hard😢 i definitely was the "nice girl" love to put smiles on people's face and make people laugh. Im plus size. And i been told i should do plus size modeling. The narcissists played the role. I found myself trying to lose weight just to please him. It was very tough. Now i date a compassionate man ❤who loves me for me and encourages my plus size modeling ❤

[@joywilliams5861]

I'm so sick of these dating rules! Why can't men just be nicer? Ugh.. I give up! Lol 🤦🏽‍♀️😭

[@Danny328DT]

Depends on what you mean by nicer. Nice guys have a negative connotation attached to it which implies a man is being nice to manipulate you. Not saying all men are like this, but those are sincere on their feelings and know what they want shouldn't even have to announce their gentleman behavior. Far too many desperate men think being nice to a woman will get you an attractive person. Unfortunately both sexes take advantage of the nice ones. Toxic men do it for sex, and toxic women do it for attention, free dinner dates, and gifts.

[@brittxnyakawaii12]

😂😂😂😂

[@dodji582]

coz women are attracted to bad boys

[@inyenejohn6206]

😂😂😂so tiring my dear

[@sherlynhuerta2437]

Queens ALWAYS ask questions...A LOT of questions. Every woman should. If a man runs from a woman who asks questions, then he is NOT a man but a wimp. She obviously deserves better....Thank you, awesome job as always...Gb

[@dpharrison7]

I was in the process of getting to know someone and I wasn't really feeling him, and I kept hearing Stephan saying you can't force it

[@Meemo44]

I continued with ‘struggle love’, he had a second emotional affair 22 years into our marriage, then left for his vile affair partner. I gave up way too much of myself for an ungrateful man who I enabled to become even less of a man over the years. It wasn’t even 50/50, more like 70/30, he had a very easy life. He left for a woman who is a worse Narcissist than himself and was already on her 4th husband during their emotional affair 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thinking I was sacrificing myself to save us both has left me devastated, at 45 I’m exhausted because of his disgusting ‘take take take’ mentality. He almost caused me a psychological breakdown and unable to be a functioning mother to our children, children he has also abandoned. Please don’t be an ‘enabler’ like me, it will ruin your existence on this earth and it will be for nothing, because some are just unworthy of our empathy and love.

[@thalialeblanc198]

Sir, you came in here and broke this down like a fraction!! 💡💡

[@shawnee9381]

I really enjoyed this content, I've experienced how difficult it is to let go. Not just in one relationship. I encourage ladies to listen to this video more than once and understand that men are not stupid, they KNOW also. Protect yourself.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@yvesgysel9834]

There's being too nice and just having a good personality, being feminine, having good moral values, being smart, and pleasant to be with... I am a guy. Women always think that looks are the most important thing. WRONG!!! Looks might help you in the beginning, but there are no guarantees for any commitment from the Guy. In the past, I was focusing on my goals, passions, and becoming financially independent. My priority was not to be in a relationship. At 1 point, I had 3 women chasing me. 1 very pretty, 2 pretty and funny 3 average looking girl, but great personality, good moral values, smart, not a high body count. Guess who I invested my time, money in? 3rd girl. Why? Relationship material. I saw a future for us, and she too. Now she's the most beautiful woman to me. Still going strong,

[@elyonrg5062]

Love this ❤

[@jessicatsao92]

Every single guy who was interested in me only wanted one thing, and that wasn't a relationship. I'm not the kind of woman who dresses promiscuously or behave in any way like that, but STILL the only guys who showed interest in me didn't want a long term relationship, period. I watched all of them move onto other women and play them and keep looking just because I rejected each and every one of them. Just because I don't sleep with them. I'm tired of running into men like that. I'm not interested in players.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏

[@pathip_]

You probably have some flaws you need to work on to attract serious men. You need to self-eval and find those flaws. Cuttoff single friends and get a male therapist to help you out. Female friends/therapists only tell you stuff you wanna hear and never hold you accountable.

[@bubus682]

Make them spend time and money on you.make them invest. They will like you more.

[@jessicatsao92]

@@bubus682 I refuse, because I don't date players who want sex and nothing else. That's exactly why each of them became discouraged when I refused to even touch them after the first date, so they immediately ran to a woman who WILL put out on the first date immediately.

[@pathip_]

@bubus682 Delusion! Bad/misleading advice! Sounds materialistic and can't get your sister who sounds traditional a good man that would fit her descent lifestyle. Spending money and time on you won't necessarily keep a player. Those men can spend money on prostitutes as well. The problem is not men, it's how you should carry yourself to attract good men. Work on yourself and hold yourself accountable first.

[@madonnabeston2708]

I am also I nice person who let 30+ years go by. I was busy raising my children working going to school. When I slowed down is when my eyes opened up!!! Life is not always fair

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.

[@madonnabeston2708]

Thank you 🙏🏼 me as well

[@user-dm3tq3km1k]

Omg he is telling the truth about struggle love ! He is on it ! Everything he is saying I went through! Don’t do the struggle love it leads to no where. Choose you!

[@shreyaya4945]

Can you help me give a suggestion

[@FROMC2C]

I didn’t classify myself as a “Nice Girl” but I was a “Benefit of a Doubt, Girl” 🛑

[@FROMC2C]

…..in which, I found is just as Bad as a “ Nice Girl” 🙄

[@raecoleman-wf2cp]

​@@FROMC2Cfacts! I'm the exact same way....... it's not beneficial for us to be that way.

[@msseazins6756]

I dealt with and lost myself in a so called man for 17yrs. It was miserable and the marriage was hell. Its true I felt trapped. Come to find out later he was a narcissist. I fear men, I tried women after I left him but once I realized that I was the woman who needed me I let that lifestyle go. That boy had me lookin for love in all the wrong places cause I was scared to be hurt & alone. I have men on a daily trying to talk to me. Recently I gave my number to one guy and he won't leave me alone I guess this is where being nice comes into play. I dont kno his intentions and he doesn't ask questions to get to kno me better. He says let's jus see where it goes but where can it go if he doesn't kno me. I think I'm gonna cut it off today this video was very helpful.....this is why I've been celibate & single for 7yrs I dont have time to waste on temporary things that don't benefit me. Im just not ready...

[@Erinmarla]

My first response was “here’s another man trying to tell a woman how to woman”.But good job there were definitely some gems to be had here. It breaks my heart that women suffer in this way. In our society we have been fed fallacies of what a woman is and what her role is. this has led women down a path of struggle. Good job! With this video!

[@Kishagirl70]

I dated down essentially and poured into a guy for years until I got tired. I walked away and he immediately got into another relationship and when that ended, he claimed he learned his lesson and I should give him another chance. Gave him another chance and he was even worse than before. After only a few months, I cut him off, changed my number and blocked him on all social media platforms. My peace and sanity was more important so that’s what I chose. Ladies beware of broken men or men that is intimidated by your success. Some refuse to work on themselves and will depend on u just as Stephan said. I learned a valuable lesson just wish it hadn’t took so long 😢

[@carolelliott2099]

Stephan, there was so much valuable information here that you broke down very eloquently the way you always do. A woman should never have to help a man grow up--that is his responsibility and work to do. Not that she can't love and support him, but there's a big difference. I also don't think God intended bedroom intimacy to be a performance that women (or men) need to "try out for," instead of sincerely expressing your love to your beloved in the sacred space of your home. Our culture has twisted this over the years and people just accept it. Thank you for continuing to share your wisdom and insights with us. Love and blessings. 😇❤🙏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@cynthiagomes2979]

I lost myself years ago. I have found and healed myself from all the damage. I will never lose myself again.

[@Txxxsk]

Never do something unless he committs to try and keep him. It’s all about self love thank you for this video❤️❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@evygomez5668]

Ladies, listen to this man!

[@skylaellis]

The feminine analogy with kids is theeee best one over ever heard. My daughter made me realize how “feminine” & affectionate I am

[@rilleygriffin]

being sweet around children isn’t a feminine thing it’s a human thing

[@srm0520]

👏🏽 thank you

[@ZeeProductions2001]

Most men don’t sugar coat talking to their children hence why the mature faster around the father my mother was nice and sugar coating everything my dad told me the cold truth

[@marytheraspberry3145]

@@ZeeProductions2001 you can tell the truth in a nice way.

[@ravenwashington8807]

I think in this context he’s referring to femininity as a nurturing, loving, receptive, compassionate, and caring spirit . That’s all.

[@edubble2000]

Not really. It's people out here who don't like kids for real. I've seen it

[@krazy_krystle1]

I was always too nice but I was forced out of it because men don’t like it. Now I feel like I don’t give a damn about anything and don’t have the energy to even give anybody a chance because of it😂😂I love how Stephan can tap into the minds of men and women and understand the mentality of them both. I binge watch your advice 😊thank you for giving us a male perspective to gain a better understanding.

[@annvirgo8542]

This session absolutely resonates with my current relationship. I’m an independent successful woman and I’m in love with a man who has a lot of potential but it’s been 3 years now and I’m going to sit him down for a real talk and awakening…

[@Kiki-jx6by]

I am a caring individual, been told that it is considered a gift in my character, told this by my pastor. I make sure everyone in my circle is good from my coworkers, clients, family, friends and especially my man. What is so strange when I want something ( esp from my man) and it’s not often trust me I get pushback of some sort. So when I tell him “hey, we don’t have to give each other anything let’s just hang out and be friends.” Well that is unacceptable but yet he wants me to give the most important part of me up for nothing because I’m getting the same from him. I don’t want that.

[@JoyOkoroN]

My parents always told me that "love gives", meaning that if someone loves you, they'll want to give to you. If they don't freely give to you, they either don't love you or don't know how to love people. You can decide if you want to be with someone who doesn't know and/or doesn't want to learn how to love you. Your choice

[@ZelliesAdventurousPlayhouse]

You’re exactly right. I was with my youngest father for over 13yrs and our relationship really wasn’t going nowhere. I didn’t realize it til my oldest son was in hospice care and he didn’t want to and even argued with me about coming there and having gas to come get his son. He finally came after a few days kissed me on my forehead saying he was sorry about my son but he didn’t even come to his memorial. That’s when it was completely clear to me that he was not for me anymore and never was, even though everyone was telling me to leave him. Years later, he’s 53 and still living with his mother even though he have a nice paying job but don’t want to have his own place is what I’m getting

[@moonhoneymami]

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your son

[@ZelliesAdventurousPlayhouse]

Thanks sweetie I appreciate that

[@christinan005]

Oml so sorry u went thru that girl😢

[@jacklinebii9814]

Sorry gal for the loss😢,may God heal and comfort you 🙏

[@ZelliesAdventurousPlayhouse]

Thanks y’all! It was a hard lesson to learn, but I’m glad I learned it cause now I don’t deal with guys like that anymore. I’ve made my mistakes but now that I’m older, I do things differently because I put God first over everything and he’s the reason why I’m still alive and surviving and give all my thanks and praise to him for everything ❤️

[@minahlew3181]

Ten years , 3 kids in. Struggle love is not IT. Thank you for your videos! 🙏🏽

[@MsquinnyM]

Wow I never understood why when I get around men I become serious and non flirtatious. My mind goes into autopilot and this wall goes up however, I never viewed it as I’ve been hurt 💪🏾🙌🏽

[@Brea254]

Me too girl! My personality just switches up and i become so serious when am around a man 😢

[@candiedwards974]

The girl with the Dragon 🐉 tattoo taught me to STOP being Nice to everyone. We put ourselves in Danger trying to be Nice sometimes, like staying Too long in a Toxic Relationship…

[@ayanadam3433]

Who is the girl with the dragon tattoo😭

[@candiedwards974]

@@ayanadam3433, A movie 🎥

[@Rivkacain]

I love this movie, but don’t get inspired by Lisbeth, she’s literally mentally ill and not a good example, since she’s an outsider and someone completely isolated from others due to trauma.

[@candiedwards974]

@@Rivkacain, The scene where Daniel Craig was almost killed because he was trying to NOT be rude. It’s like a Hugh scene in the movie…

[@evl457]

Same.

[@kdvwusm]

This is why I as a nice girl have a roster. I am done pouring into one man. If one doesn’t step it up I’m going to another.

[@dodji582]

no man will commit with that

[@BeauteefulGyrl83]

I’m currently in the dating stage with a really good guy. This really came at a good time. There are some things I need to scale back from because I’m definitely that “nice girl.” Thank you so much for this! It’s like a literal light turned on In my brain after watching this.

[@gwebunokwanda7623]

I always tell my friends don't date a broke men and they say am a gold digger. I can't do struggle love ,i suffered as a child😅😊

[@joycelessy5697]

Where did Stephen say we should not date broke me

[@kg7032]

Struggle love...I refuse to settle for it. I will choose me over losing me.

[@preciousakinbi1675]

Thank you so much Stephan, this video came handy, just got out of a terrible 5 years marriage, which wasn't supposed to be in the first place. I actually did most of the things you mentioned in this video and I am now seeing how much mistakes I have made right from the onset.

[@manifestdestiny7228]

I find myself always trying to be fixer, I’m always trying to fix a broken man, I’m always choosing these wounded men. Maybe on a subconscious level fixing them makes me feel like I am fixing myself

[@daaiyahlacy4445]

Accepting that struggle love hit me right in the face!!!!

[@tiffanysadler2072]

You always have amazing advice but this one right here hit me so hard personally! Thank you so much! Would love to hear more on this topic!

[@jeanne5371]

Fabulous video Stephan! Although I personally feel I have come full circle and now know most of this and my worth (having been with an NPD for 14 years) it’s so very important for ALL women to hear these points to get there. P.s. Ironically I just recently dealt with your points 2 and 4 of this video, clearly and honestly expressed my feelings, and so far he’s sticking around. :)

[@make_emfall_inlovee]

We need a part 2 and definitely need a struggle love video. Thank you for the great content 🫶🏾

[@spicyphilly]

This has been one of the most eye opening videos on this "nice girl", troubled love thing. I recently learned I'm trauma bonded with a man, but didn't realize how I was setting it up to continue. I had no idea I was participating in this and I see now what I've been doing wrong. You make something that's been so confusing to me so clear. Thank you 🙏

[@leannegraceliberty]

😂😂 You got me at #3's intro. Geeez, I had a degree in attracting broken and broke men... My healing journey has improved this "tendency" in a massive way.

[@toribrady07]

Stephan! I been watching you for 2 years now and you just spoke to my whole spirit on the struggle love topic! You hit the nail on the head. Just wow. I thought I was going through something uncommon and you just sat there and literally told my story word for word without the finer details. I’m not alone! I found you really have To choose yourself and love yourself first and know that God had no intention of this man being in your life. And he’ll keep showing you until you understand! God is good and he knows what is best for you.

[@Andrew98689]

Hi

[@nikkilove6128]

I love when the spirit hits you Stephan and then you drop some real truth & gems🙌🏽🙌🏽 ... that struggle love point is facts💯💯

[@user-of6gi5bv5r]

By asking or telling straight you just save so much of your valuable time. In most cases man are simple and you have to communicate with them directly for the better outcome. And if they refuse or won’t answer your question - let them go right away. You and your time is a number one priority, point.

[@Danny328DT]

Especially if he doesn't consider how she feels.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@purnimagiri2810]

Thank you stephan for this specail video. This is the reason why i get attached and be with men more than i should be. Giving too much before i am ready, feeling invested which makes it hard to get out. One of my favourite session ❤

[@tiffanysadler2072]

Yes please do more on this . On the struggle love topic etc ! We need it!

[@kailamarie2678]

Wooooowwwwww....the way I was read for filth 😂!!! I appreciated this so much. It put some puzzle pieces together for me and makes so much sense. This really helped with my healing and growing. I literally just got away from a man that was all this. And when I was finally coming out of my delusional coma, I told him how I really felt and was being myself more....that man ran so fast!! Like immediately stopped speaking to me. You ask God for it, even if just in your heart, he hears you because he knows your heart❤....He will deliver every time. I really dodged a bullet though. Thanks Stephan. Truth hurts, but we gotta hear it 💯

[@shanihoover835]

Omg Stephan, the undeserved second chances advice applied more to my friendship with my girl best friend. I really needed to hear this about the accountability of they're mistakes. Thank you 😊

[@sarai3578]

I think a video specifically on struggle love will be very helpful! I have a friend I wish I can express all this information to in the most positive loving light, afraid I will offend her and push her away, I refrain. But if you happen to make one on the topic of struggle love, I would send it to her right away. You explain difficult taboo subjects when it comes to relationships that a friend might want to say but don’t know how to. And thanks for all your shared knowledge and wisdom

[@tatianatunik450]

It would be such a blessing if you dedicated a video to “struggle love”! I’d be the first to watch on repeat. Thank you so much for your deeply meaningful work 🙏🏼

[@negartoorany]

I have some of these traits and these habbits caused me to stay in a toxic relationship. I'm finaly free and I'm working on my self and this was really helpful. thanks❤

[@adeniyitoyin9467]

God bless you Stephan! I love you! Everything you said is 100% especially the struggle love part. At least I now know that I'm not weird