7 Signs You're Just An OPTION To Him...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@KilaDajay]

Well Said 💯

[@georgiagirlSB]

That's does happen

[@georgiagirlSB]

Don't lose your train of thought

[@MemyselfIrene6]

You are a man with so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing!

[@loveisbeauty011]

Can you please do a video about getting over a man that you are pregnant by or have a child with. I’m pregnant by someone I’m having a hard time getting along with consistently. I’m trying to get over him.

[@taminorman1673]

If he treats you like an option then leave him like a choice.

[@miamassie2010]

I like that 🙏

[@sharinaross1865]

Say it ma'am.

[@karmahleone1196]

Basically

[@meka8953]

THIS THIS THIS!!!!

[@katerynapoydyuk3925]

Exactly!!!!

[@JennyGaston]

So true! When I finally met my husband, he told me he wanted an intentional and exclusive relationship and his actions made it clear!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@bellezanegra0206]

This is good to know

[@laundrybasket2689]

You are SO lucky.

[@GG-cl9ww]

You are so lucky..

[@SmittyTra-tra]

Ii hold advanced degrees that I use daily but I am 50 lbs overweight. Wouldn't it be great if he said, if you just had one more degree you would be the one? But no, intelligence, although a reproductive plus, is not valued as much as a tiny waist.

[@angeg100]

Yes, I do. He says I am his woman and he is my man. I feel like I am not a priority. I am an amazing woman and I love him. I don't think he sees my value. It's been 3 years.. He initiates he is just too busy for me. He does not spend quality time without sex.. never, so I am done.. Thank you for all you do.

[@AB_1211]

Great insight, as always. Thank you! 💯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@enealy1515]

OMG, I cant believe not having extensions in my hair could affect how he feels..damn..I guess I will make an appointment.

[@estilauide1582]

Bonus is true thank you sooo much it plain confirmation 👍

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate that!

[@robinawilburn]

Thanks for clarifying this about the husband-wife issue . I've been pretty confused . I have no idea about dating and all (seriously) Age doesn't make a difference, I guess . Being a young 60 am I dreaming because I still desire romance and everything ??

[@user-su1kj6bh3x]

Thank you!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@allmey5585]

I may be late, I said that too why chase if I have to do that we don’t need to be,,, that never sat right to me…you both have to want it. And question…what made you be in this profession? Did you get hurt?

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

We need to replace chasing with attracting to have better relationships and improve our dating experiences ❤ 🙏

[@ruechids]

Thanks 🙏

[@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK]

If a man makes u feel confused, he is wasting your time.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Most definitely!

[@lindsayowens4962]

Or else we are wasting our own time. Amen.

[@essie241]

I’m currently going through this. There’s more to this too but I don’t want to put it all on here. If I could only talk to Stephan. Smh!

[@magictouch3417]

When you said confused what you mean

[@ButterCookie1984]

💯

[@roses4me451]

It's simple: "Always judge a person by their ACTIONS, and you will never be fooled by their words."

[@sharonmalone592]

❤ Amen

[@Bukola220]

That hit deep

[@Chrissynysc]

‼️

[@crystalmcgeespencer423]

Love this yes I will def: judge by actions more now- so I am not confused by his words!!

[@jessicamorales2555]

Fight for a man who loves you, do not fight for a man to love you. Very powerful message in here. Thank you

[@esmeraldabeltran7803]

🥺

[@toniwilson8212]

Be careful

[@toniwilson8212]

Never chase or beg a man to 💔 you , big troubles , been there

[@liztowers2058]

Yes!

[@lindsayowens4962]

Yes ladies, I agree. Been there. Done that. Too much. We learn. We'll, God teaches us if we are willing. God and or just life!

[@donnadehart6398]

U can never be good enough for the WRONG Person!!! Amen

[@rowena6872]

💯

[@annaslet5145]

" You can be an amazing woman yet he might not be designed to even see your value". Great point right there 💯💯💯💯💯🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️ Ladies let's set ourselves free 🙏🙏🙏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@nenab1969]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I was just an option after over 14 years. That doesn't sound like much but you have to take into consideration that we each had 3 previous marriages each and lived with one another longer than we ever lived with our spouses with whom we had our children, 9 between us and only 3 we're grown when we got together. My youngest was 3 and he was like his dad because he didn't know his biological dad but he left us in Thanksgiving 2020 behind our back. I say we because it devastated me and hurt my(thought "our") son. I mean he, himself was not raised by his biological dad either. We neither one were living for the Lord when we started living with each other. We made it through him losing our home & everything materialistic in a house fire in 2015 and him having a massive heart attack which required triple bypass open heart surgery only 9 months later in April of 2016. I stayed with him during his entire hospital stay and even lost my job for doing so....... But 4 yrs & 7 months later he left out of the blue when I was going through a very difficult time We did see one another & even went to couples therapy for a while, he paid for my divorce from my estranged husband so we could be married but he just strung me along for over a year after he left I will not lie this has all shattered my world! He went from saying he loved me, wanted to marry me in the eyes of God & saying there was no other woman to telling me to give him 2 more months when I put his feet to the fire and that very night I seen where he was messaging and flirting with and exchanging pictures with a woman who was the 1st girl he ever took out on a date as a teen boy who lived 2 states away I sunk into a terrible depression because we are not even talking to one another now I hold onto the fact that I know I can trust God/Jesus and ultimately want God's will in my life! I could literally write a book but I do still love him and am still hurt badly but I cannot make him want to marry me I just thought we were solid and that we would grow old together!

[@nenab1969]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks and we both have already lived longer than we have left to live He will be 56 Friday & I will be 53 in June

[@yessi4113]

That’s a whole word! 💯💯

[@susievelasquez5553]

@@nenab1969 wow God bless you ! Leave him you deserve better than that ! Same situation.

[@rainetravels1410]

Ladies take back your power just walk away.. Make room for the right one

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@moniquefacey5760]

Precisely!!!!

[@narlight]

How do i walk away, when i don't just like him anymore, that i actually fell in love? When my heart is bound to him.

[@ms.m593]

As men and women are out there dating in hopes of meeting that special someone, we are all options in some regard. What is the most devastating and disappointing aspect of dating today, is the lack of honesty. Speak on why men would rather lie, ghost and make up false excuses than speak the truth. Dating has become a world of constant pain, heartbreak and toxicity. If you're not playing those crazy games then you will surely be hurt. If you're not guarded at all times then you will be hurt. Being single is the only way to avoid any of these traumatic experiences in dating now. I'd rather be alone than subject myself to the constant deceptive behaviors I've encountered.

[@nicolehobson1510]

I totally agree! I don’t date anymore.. it took me too long to learn how to love myself enough to enjoy me! And be alone with God. It’s not worth dating anymore..

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@ms.m593]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you. I am currently in the process of healing. Your videos and book has been part of my journey. Thank you for your honest insight.

[@ms.m593]

@@nicolehobson1510 You're absolutely right! Once you've learned to love yourself everything changes. I always thought dating was fun, until I got my heart and spirit broken 💔 I'll never make that mistake again. My son is off to college and I'm moving closer to the ocean to enjoy my single life. I pray you have an amazing day.

[@ABa-ve3ul]

most men just waste most women’s time. Most people know right away if they want to marry them. Sometimes people just aren’t meant for each other or/and the men is just using different women at the same time and that’s when these string along situationships occur

[@lindalee601]

Too many men want fwb and not the relationship commitment. I'd rather be alone than to settle for that. Love your channel ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@Faustinembeh_backup]

Yep! We have to learn to be single 👌😘

[@ahb3296]

and if other women would stop compromising, perhaps a few men would change their mindsets and become physically accountable...self respect for all concerned.

[@dreamlify8]

Perhaps we woman can and ought change the game. Since males are not serious to be exclusive, we can also hop and date around for free meals. Some guys really ask for it.

[@trinity2860]

That is just a cheapskate financially and mentally.

[@mariahsisneros7572]

As a 31 year old mother, I wish I knew these things as a 20 year old inexperienced girl. I blurred the lines between sex, lust and love, and I thought because my now ex was hitting me up, that he was actually interested in me. He was interested in my body and vagina, but not what I had to offer. We had such a toxic, abusive, roller-coaster relationship over 10 years, including bringing a daughter into our mess. All of the signs were there, blaring in my face that he wasn't really interested in me "like that," but I chose to ignore them and was hoping to change him. I was so naive and so desperate for attention, love and affection, and I was not respected, cared for or understood. We are going through a custody battle at the moment. Ladies, please don't ever settle, know your worth, have dignity and follow your intuition if things seem off or inconsistent. If a man really wants YOU and what you have to offer, he will chase you and let it be known that he wants you. A man will never confuse you, play games or only hit you up at nighttime for sex.

[@heather7119]

“He wants the option of seeing you without the obligation of being with you”… whew I felt that to the core! U have a gift of verbalizing the uneasy and confusing situations

[@Taisha12001]

Ladies please remember that you're not for everybody and everybody is not for you. A man not being interested in you can boil down to incompatibility.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@Faustinembeh_backup]

Amen!👌😘

[@GreeneChakra]

Wow Taisha Spot on with the Comment. Is there a Video on “Incompatibility?” Misunderstandings pile up and the Arguments can be Devastating.

[@strive09]

Some men all about words no action, ladies take care of yourselves, treat yourself to the nice things in life diamonds, cars, house, ect you work for it, why not,be that independent women, never seek a man's validation he should be the one chasing after you 🙌💯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@mamiof03grlzdavis51]

FACTS 💯 🧘🏾‍♀️☮🙏🏾

[@victorianorris1916]

That’s so true!!

[@charessedeclue2471]

Totally

[@amerokeewiya1320]

Definitely but I prefer when a man pursues me, not chase. Chasing to me is him running after me & I’m running away. As Stephen said a MUTUAL effort.

[@adavis7678]

Spot on! A man's words and actions must be in alignment. If his words and actions are inconsistent chances are he is not serious about you and he is double-minded. Another thing I always say is a person makes time and space for what is important to them. If a man cannot make time chances are you are not a priority in his life. Sure he may have a busy schedule, but then when will he have the time and why bother going after a woman if you are too busy? Do not pursue if you cannot be consistent. My time is not to be wasted🙏🏼❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@adavis7678]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks You're Welcome Stephan. Likewise and Thank You as always for providing great content as well as words of wisdom 🙏🏼❤️

[@kaoshi_kutie]

Yes!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@adavis7678]

@@kaoshi_kutie Indeed🙏🏼❤️

[@WisdomDose]

One of the best and favorite comment! 💖💖💖

[@tamaragraham4574]

It’s very hurtful when U know you’re a good woman and a man is not able see your true value. The rejection sucks and yes we may not be a great fit but trying to date in ur 40’s is tedious. I don’t want to settle but who wants to be lonely? No matter how confident I get there’s always that one person who walks away that makes me second guess my worth.

[@Perlablanca089]

😢

[@SandraGarcia-lj3bd]

Yo ya abandono cualquier esperanza , voy a cumplir 53 en marzo . Creo que estaré sola el resto de mi vida , bueno con mi perrita . Te deseo suerte eres muy joven.

[@LittleMissHoop]

i hear you. Going through this right now, :(

[@Onafarmlovinit]

I have truly enjoy being single for 16 years now. I believe it is easier to be single and I’m 60. I have started to really love myself and I am the happiest I have been in 16 years, since my divorce. 👍🏼

[@nadineshallow5957]

I'm dealing with the same right now.😢

[@ChristianaSenibo]

You deserve more than being an option to any man. Value yourself and find the one who will see you as priority

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@ABa-ve3ul]

13min in soo on point🙌

[@kourtney101]

This has got to be at the top of one's list

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

What if I hate the work life but am high value?

[@barbaracanterbury8533]

Celebrating, 26 years single, by choice. I truly don't fatigue myself with games and stuff like that. Everyone just needs to work on being authentic.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@jenaya_laila2442]

I believe in Authenticity too! Don't have the time for games! Gonna stay single for the rest of my life..

[@maceyr.6583]

True! Turning 21 this year and still single. 🤍

[@vivianneadisa]

Proud of you

[@northofyou33]

@Barbara Canterbury, I admire you. I've been single for years and still have not truly embraced it. I am single by choice, because I refused to put up with my husband's games. But, I still wish to meet an authentic, loving man. I wish I could let that dream go, because it detracts from my own vision of my life as a solo artist.

[@zeal4god402]

Ohhh when someone REALLY wants you, they will put that WORK in!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯 Yes!

[@silvanamartinez2208]

Dear Lord, I needed to hear this. I been wanting to leave this man who I’m very interested in. When you’re a conscious women it’s hard to over look someone’s lack of effort. I’m ready to chose my peace and not block my blessings. Thank you for the clarity.. I’m ready to move on.

[@rachelphillips5576]

If these men stop looking at all these Instagram models and just choose a normal everyday real woman. They wouldn't be so confused

[@Didi-fr5ic]

Yes I agree 👍

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@victorianorris1916]

Rachel Phillips then they Probably ain’t looking like nothing

[@rachelphillips5576]

@@victorianorris1916 exactly.

[@elyonrg5062]

Yes!

[@msdemeanour]

Never beg for attention, loyalty or respect. Hold your head high.

[@roneshawalton1982]

When he said " he wanna have the option to deal with her but not the obligation to be with her" I jumped out my seat 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@GreeneChakra]

Yeah Rones, That was a reality Check for me.

[@denises3779]

The heart will fool you, the mind will play tricks on you, the spirit will discern and never lie about the energy-T.D.Smith. when it feels confusing and not right let it go.

[@gaelablake2692]

We need to stop putting our selves on clearance. If they cannot afford to be a part of our lives then it’s a “no” for now. Should we discount ourselves? Does this not lower our value? Are we not worth the time and effort? Thanks Stephen for these amazing words of wisdom. ❤️🙏🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@kourtney101]

It was the "set yourself free!", for me. So many people spend so much time trying to be everything to one person. When haven't even fulfilled what they need to be for themselves.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback. You're absolutely right!

[@WisdomDose]

Completely true! And in other cases, they tend to be so focused on looking for who to date that they forget to date themselves. And the reality they mostly failed to learn too early is that, until you are able to date yourself, enjoy your own company, and can tolerate your own demons, you will never, and I repeat, never stand the chance to date someone else properly, love them in the language they understand, tolerate their person, create adjustments for their weaknesses, and learning to accept and adjust to individual differences.

[@kourtney101]

@@WisdomDose this would be akin to accepting the whole person, which should always be the goal. Why date, why love why Marry if you refuse to keep the whole person (or, partner)? People, we make mistakes, we are human and it's our capacity to thoroughly know our whole self--our weakness,our growth and changes, our partner's--weakness, growth and changes, which will only come as a result of being totally honest with ourselves, first. Vetting yourself requires you to be comfortable with your non-negotiables and to be so consistent in character--spiritual, emotional, social, physical, mental aspects, that to betray yourself, is just not an option, it ain't gon happen! Be honest with yourself, it won't make you weak. if you know you don't want a playboy, talk is cheap, so your actions will demonstrate that you won't entertain one! 💔 everyone to personally know ourselves that when someone breaks our boundary, not just our heart, but a boundary, repeatedly, that this change must now be addressed with a choice. Also, people often loose themselves in a relationship, because they accept someone who's not meant for them. They turn and partner with someone who they believe can be improved and changed by their mere tender, love and care, not realizing that an individual has to want to change on his or her own. ❤️🎊❤️🎉

[@WisdomDose]

@@kourtney101 This is deep! Thanks for this.

[@kourtney101]

@@WisdomDose 🙌🏿 🥰

[@CJ-yt1bd]

Wow!! I listened for 24 minutes and learned that I was right to give up on romantic relationships. I can’t get those wasted years back, however I can focus on bettering myself for a better life. 😊

[@KitchenDance]

" Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option". Maya Angelou hhad both poetry and truth.

[@Jules-t9m]

Amen to that 🙏

[@jen9585]

Beloveds, always look at the actions. I was always questioning my position with him until I got tired!!! He can say he will marry me and is in love, but his actions said… You don’t even like me! Thank God I WOKE UP and I have peace ♥️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@womenofGod52]

So true. This happened to me!

[@jen9585]

@@womenofGod52 sorry it did sis

[@vivianneadisa]

So proud of you

[@tosinmubarak8646]

Right 😊

[@SummaGirl1347]

You're an option because he already has a woman who is NOT optional. You're an option because he thinks he can do better but, wants to keep you as his fall-back in case he can't get the woman (or man, let's be real) he really wants. You're an option because he wants your money and adoration, but that's all. You're an option because he feels entitled to have any woman he can get something from, no matter how much he hurts you. You're an option because it makes him feel powerful to control you with the promise of a relationship he knows you will never have. You're an option because you have mutual friends and he doesn't want to look like an a**h*le for breaking up with you. You're an option because his family already knows and loves you so, now, he's stuck pretending to still be with you. You're an option because you are not enough to make him want to go all-in and treat you with the respect you deserve.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@ypanso]

Thats exactly what heppened to me with my ex...

[@shantalstone519]

This one hurt😂

[@masterjaimba990]

Wow this 💯

[@babygirltdi]

You said it all!

[@samanthamichelle7219]

Absolutely ❤️ love this topic Sometimes as single women we have to learn to make ourselves a Priority! And not settling for less ! That way we are at a high Vibration and attract a partner that sees our value and shows it 💯💯💯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@starchild4584]

Factamundo queen!!!!!

[@Kevarcia]

Yes ma’am! High Vibration!!!

[@kiutpi]

When a man tells me he is busy, he has just insulted my intelligence! It's a total turn off.

[@lashondarochell7584]

Just ended it with a Man because of his busyness he acted as if he wanted a serious relationship he actions proved otherwise and I took myself out of the equation.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@tabassuma.n.6485]

If a man is not serious, no matter how hard you try he will never stay.

[@chosenvessels87]

Flip the script ladies and stop carrying! Live this life unapologetically happy flowing in your feminine energy! See how the atmosphere shift for the good. The ball is in your court and you hold the power as usual...use it wisely!💜 God is so good!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@TheyNeedJesus1]

We all desire true love and companionship. However, God's love and self-love will ward off many of these shenanigans. Then, the right one will see us.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙏

[@SBThreats]

“Then, the right one will see us” that’s the one ! Only God can make it happen !

[@bellezanegra0206]

He acts like a boyfriend but he’s not willing to commit. That was an eye opener.

[@voduah]

"Boyfriend benefits used to be considered husband benefits." On point.

[@lamaja19]

Well said Stephan 👏. Had a man who always skirted the discussion of commitment to avoid obligation. Hurt me alot 💔. However, I learned my lesson. When I tried dating another man, we dated 2 months before we parted. I was proud of myself because I set myself as a priority & he admitted he didn't have time. Since I didn't invest intensely, it was easier to walk away & I'm ok, no bitterness. These videos have been such a great lesson because they teach us how to vet & I applied it. Thank you. 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing 🙏 ❤

[@kdvwusm]

We all need that ONE Lesson. I had my first and TRUST ME I learned big time. I will NOT invest my emotions so fast on ANYONE.

[@sonianichols6900]

I had the same scenario so true

[@lucydaisyandme]

GAMES, Games and more GAMES! That’s why I stay single.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@beefaye6861]

I no....I jus QUIT ✌

[@scaryspaghetti6808]

I just broke up with my boyfriend a couple weeks ago. We been on and off for 3 years. And when you said friend zone, that hit me. I haven't seen him in 3 weeks and it's been almost 2 weeks since I've talked to him. I needed to hear this, thank you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@scaryspaghetti6808]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks ❤️❤️

[@toniwilson8212]

Your not his mother sis , sorry , Scary Spaghetti 🍝

[@tiffanyjoseph9887]

It seems like singleness is bliss atp

[@erinjohnson4273]

The stronger that I get within myself, I no longer initiate, I give the same option. I'm the prize, not an option!

[@Ravenhill_]

I went through this with someone I was recently dating he started off calling me and texting being consistent and asking me out , all a sudden he changed and became distant I was reaching out calling no response,then it got to point he would try see me week day nights only come down seem like sex but would avoid me weekends or asking me out.I asked him bout this he had nothing to say and didn’t seem to wanna communicate talk or work things out.He would text me I love you etc. But his actions didn’t match . He completely changed towards me treated me like option .And inconsistent.I just had to stop texting or contacting him.I let it go

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@richricogranada9647]

Typical behavior of married man

[@fayramjaun9785]

I'm going through this now...3 months in, I feel like this is it where we are at. Thanks for this video, confirmed everything I was thinking. I can't be pouring my energy into someone who doesn't value or appreciate me. Maya Angelou's words ring true: "don't make someone a priority, when all you are to them is an option."

[@AkireMaru]

@@richricogranada9647 typical behavior of any man when you give up the goods.

[@DrLesiaThePreachasDiviNation]

When his actions don’t match his words, please adjust your actions towards him to match his actions too 💅🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@joshuaharmon6684]

I'm very cautious about being just an option, so I tend to friend zone anyone that displays a romantic interest in anyone other than me. It's never been a bad decision, so far.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@susievelasquez5553]

This is helpful. This comment helps me .

[@masayuangelanggraini6144]

It happened to me right now. He gave me soo much attention. He started the conversation, text me n so on ... one day I introduced him to my girl friend. And the next day, he asked her to hang out with him ... I feel so betrayed. Now he doesn't even text me that often n today is the first time he doesn't reply me eventhough I have problem and he knew about it ... Well I am not his priority clearly. As much as I'm hurt. I still want to stay as friends. I know it is not a good idea. But I will take my time and distance my self first. And I will come back when I feel ok ..

[@justfit71]

@@masayuangelanggraini6144 if you stay friends you will cause yourself more emotional damage, you have to let it go.

[@masayuangelanggraini6144]

@@justfit71 yes it is true. But we still meet in class. So it is kindda hard to avoid each other. I will focus on my self instead. Thank you for your concern, I actually feel that right now.

[@Bree5three]

Ughh finally the video I was looking for 🙌🏾. I just went through the whole “nice guy that won’t commit” scenario. I left him because something felt amiss (admittedly he had less free time than other men I dated but still, you too busy or too busy for me??) but then I thought of all the little reassurances he would give when I complained or went quiet and doubted if I’d given up on it too soon. Well I doubled back and told him what was bothering me 😅. If it was all a misunderstanding and my failure to communicate my needs before breaking things off let me know and maybe give it another chance, if not, well my intuition was still batting at 1000%. Ultimately, he couldn’t say it with his chest but he wasn’t ready for me to be his sole focus, so I walked away content that I can always trust my gut. Glad this video appeared though, to just give me further confirmation I made the right moves.

[@latoyamartin1434]

Thank you for this Stephan. I came to this conclusion about a month ago. All your points are what I realized/noticed and I ended everything. He was in love with the idea of me but was/is not ready either spiritually, emotionally, or physically, for the reality of me and what that entails.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️

[@jayc5756]

Yeah, youre right.

[@yipeedo372]

That's untrue when a man wants you and you are "it" the "one" for him he will make himself ready. It's nice to keep telling yourself that he loves the idea of you, but no you let him go and he was happy to be let go of

[@sandyj3945]

Great commentary Stephan, I am still healing from a relationship I left a month ago. But, I still listen to all your videos and almost finished your book!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@sandyj3945]

Thank you sweetie

[@rashawntaylor4316]

Good morning real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also be consistent n man of his word n also willing taken the burden off you ! A real man will do simple things like make should you have gas , bills paid, take you work on your off days , help make everything home is good

[@rashawntaylor4316]

Goodmorning their real good men will sacrifice too make you happy , wiling do simple things keep a smile on your face , also be a man of his word , consistent , actions ! All men not the same if a man really luv you he work too bones make should you good ! I ‘ m single men I get by pass by doing this things being real man about it !

[@wandalaielli3572]

So nice to have a partnership with a man who wants to plan and have goals for a future together.Thank you for this content.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@iamgoddessoflove]

Stop wondering if you are good enough for them. If they don’t value you, they are not for you. 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@Didi-fr5ic]

A very hurtful thing that happened to me was this man went cold 🥶 and I questioned myself did I do something wrong 😞 and when you have the guts to go up to that man and ask him if he wants to have coffee and those words come back "I'll let you know"..deep down I knew he wasn't going to do anything..I have been healing and cry maybe once a day, but this shall pass. And this video gave me the answer that what I'm doing Is the right desicion..walking away..not mad at him I wish him well but it hurts. Thank you stephan I hope you find a very beautifull lady one day.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@sarahrichardson3784]

I walked away a week ago... left him on a trip. This validated everything i chose to leave. I never spoke to him again.

[@BarbraKilgore]

15:58 15:59

[@katrinadeago1768]

If you have ask yourself if youre wasting your time you absolutely are

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@TP-zr3rt]

I’m giving up on love, tired of all the games.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Before you give up on dating try changing your focus from dating to learning and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!

[@beefaye6861]

Here here 🍷....I jus QUIT 🙆

[@melodyhall6886]

Never give up on Love ❤️. God is Love ❤️.

[@munchiebrown5289]

It's funny because I had a guy actually do all of the things you're saying guys don't usually do when they're treating a woman like an option. But although he was texting/calling me all the time , initiating the dates, bought me gifts, washed my hair , massages, he planned a couple occasions of non sexual time together without me even asking him .. however, I was STILL the side piece.

[@tinawalker5335]

Exactly this is rare but it definitely happens. Some men will truly value their other woman.

[@jacklinekirungi5488]

I like these information sessions.They are healing and they help us to stop blaming anyone for the choices we make.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

[@turner2952]

Thank you again, Stephan, for your amazing wisdom and sound advice. It is much better to be alone (with God) than to be in an abusive, loveless relationship.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯 Yes!

[@maceyr.6583]

God bless you, Linda. 🤍

[@abigalestoll]

Thank you. It's so sad the way some women would recognize that they're being treated like an option and still allow these men to continue to treat them like they're worthless. It's better to be alone than to be with a man like that.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It isn't an easy situation but the focus should be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@JamaicaLove876]

There are certain patterns of toxicity that repeat themselves in relationships if it is allowed. If the woman allows herself to be treated as an option and not a priority that will become the foundation of the relationship. If also she pours everything in his cup and he pours little to nothing in her cup that will create an imbalance of lack in the relationship. Ultimately, the woman must decide that the only option is to leave toxicity and find someone who recognizes the value in her & her love.She must also keep her options open to know that settling for a man who undermines her greatness was never a part of God's divine plan for her life. Great points in your video, blessings & light to you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for sharing and may you be blessed as well 🙏

[@JamaicaLove876]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Your welcome. & continued success 🙌 to you always.🙏

[@oliverivers]

I was in a “relationship” with my ex for 8 years, and he never came around to see me and I always found women’s clothes and condoms lying around his place. I stupidly believed his outlandish lies because I was afraid of being alone. After some soul searching, I was able to walk away, and one year later I meet a man who is everything I asked for and more. It’s incredible how we can manifest everything we deserve when we leave what is not meant for us.

[@celiohelder1]

The last bonus sign made me cry. It’s the actual realization and having to accept that this is actually what it is.

[@noraconnelly2584]

The lines have most definitely been blurred. 💯🙌 The boundaries that society has made "normal" are unhealthy and, if I'm being honest, is the root of so much confusion and hurt in the dating world. I've been on both sides and neither are easy BUT I do my best to lay clear boundaries until I know I'm ready to move to the next level. I've learned lessons the hard way that I trusted the wrong people and got hurt over & over (yes, I made BAD choices in men & yes, it was beacuse I had not healed from my childhood - so many singles today need to heal before dating. They don't realize that their wounds are toxic & contagious. Sad...). It's important to guard our heart, listen to the holy spirit & choose wisely. I enjoy watching your teachings. They are eye opening & I've learned from them. Thank you & God bless🙏🏻☺️🙌

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and your feedback! Healing is definitely key 🙏

[@WisdomDose]

I kinda of love your spirit. I pray you get healed as fast as possible!

[@Alix_L]

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[@Alix_L]

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[@Alix_L]

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[@beegee5305]

I wish I know all this stuff when I first started dating. I was always really shy and reserved so I would just go with the flow. As a result I never got what I wanted out of dating and relationships. The goal is to get everything out on the table. Let them know where you stand and what you want. It will sift out the wheat from the chaff. Thank you Stephan!

[@ButterCookie1984]

"Go with the flow" is the kiss of death.

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

Exactly

[@moniquebrown7437]

I’m single 💯%. No strings or drama attached💝 I just simply enjoyed this video and learned a lot💜

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@rachelphillips5576]

If she is too heavy or too small for his liking but has a great personality. Then maybe not just leave her as an option, he could sign them both up for a fitness class. I'm sure his body isn't a 10 either.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@RahYisrael99]

Funny thing is once she loses the 20 lbs. she will attract better options than him So he will be in the friend zone looking stupid.

[@rachelphillips5576]

@@RahYisrael99 lol true

[@cjtaylor2394]

FRIEND ZONE: Excellent point. This will always make you an option. As a friend, men feel that they can get the best of both worlds. He can still have full access and loyalty to you while dating others, with no guilt. I have voluntarily stashed myself in the friend zone so than I could weigh my options as well.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@bRyTNeeLaURyN]

Why would you WANT someone so much, if they don’t want you back?

[@beefaye6861]

Yasssssssss.....I don't want nothing that don't want me ✌

[@letrobertoexplain]

I'm currently dealing with this with my girlfriend. It's always felt like I wasn't a priority to her. Her family and her job always come first. She's told me multiple times that I'm a priority and that I'm important to her. Yet, everytime we see each other in person we never have meaningful and genuine conversations because she's "not ready" to talk about certain things. Yet, she's so quick to have sex with me and take off all of her clothes for me. I honestly don't know what to think or do at this point. Tomorrow is my birthday and I'm spending it with her and I honestly don't even feel excited about it.

[@reinaquisha9418]

Sit her down and let her know exactly how you feel. If you don't think that you can communicate this to her directly, write a letter and give it to her tomorrow. I hope you enjoy your birthday💯✨️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Tell her the truth. It truly will set you free when you are able to express yourself and get everything off your chest 🙏 Enjoy your birthday 🎂

[@letrobertoexplain]

Thank you both so much 🙏

[@kierstynkj]

Some of these videos can apply to women too. I am a woman and can tell you women play games. Or they keep a man around for 🍆 don’t let her use you! If she can’t commit let her go! If she can go deeper with you let her go!

[@welllivedlife-desireeg2804]

If you are craving a deeper relationship and she isn't capable or not ready, move on. Have a talk with her and if she isn't on the same page as you, do not waste your time. I made up my mind never to settle in a relationship again. I finally found a man who puts as much effort as I do. We make each other and our relationship a priority and we take pride in it. We are very happy together, talking marriage and will have been together 2 years. Don't settle. Life is too short. Best wishes to you.

[@renee167]

Thanks for the tips Stephan the first point really resonated with me because although I don’t mind initiating conversations, I am the type of woman who will sit back to see if the man I’m interested in is willing to put forth some effort. I understand that we all get busy, but if you’re truly interested in someone, you will make time for them.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Most definitely!

[@MeekMeek777]

I think the guy I liked felt if he did too much I would get deeper in feelings for him. I’m not even sure at this point if he ever liked me at all, but what I do know is I just was not who he wanted. Painful reality, but it is what it is.

[@beehunt5864]

I was an option, you hit every situation that was going on with this no future relationship of 6 years, thank you for the break-down. I am free!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@balaraveadam7986]

W-hatsap him⏬⏬⏬⏬⏬

[@balaraveadam7986]

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[@balaraveadam7986]

He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problem

[@dianeramey6562]

😩😩 Omg Stephan I’ve reached out to you a month ago about this EXACT situation I’m currently dealing with and needed advice then BOOM you’ve answered every thought and worry I had about this. My friend is a really nice guy, very consistent with texting everyday but that’s just IT and my spirit been telling me something is off and isn’t right! He did tell me he wasn’t ready right now and needed more time then after that, he became very awkwardly distant. To watch this and listen to you breaks my heart a little 🥺 but it was DEFINITELY needed to hear. This is my confirmation and all I needed. You spoke on this to a TEA! Thank you so much Stephen for your light and truth ❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@christalhardy5137]

Facts I do not chase ,I attract!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@eneidamorales9024]

Oh my God! This is my favorite video. You have saved me Stephan. I walked away. I am reading your book, The man God has for you. Dating at a mature age is very difficult . Too much baggage from both. So much fear making us older adults emotionally detached. Do not stop stephan , I am with you! Thank you.

[@elliesilveria8963]

Great video Stephan! Really appreciate all of them! So insightful! I find myself often meeting and talking to guys who want a relationship and talk about the future etc but getting from the “talking stage” to a “commitment stage” is where I find a lot of guys so incredibly confusing. I’m ready to ask my dad to interview men and just let me know when finds the one he thinks is best 😂I’m not sure women were really intended to go through this “interview/elimination” (which we call dating) process. The Bible really just talks about marriage and betrothal (engagement). A man had to be approved and earn the woman he desired to have as a wife and Womens hearts were protected because they had a man evaluating and picking a good man for their husband. I know our society is so far from this idea on relationships/marriage but the older I get and the more I’ve experienced I see Gods design in how men and women best operate

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@voduah]

I really appreciate this insight!

[@ksks8174]

Dealt with this option situation weeks ago and I let him go I couldn’t deal with it anymore wished I would’ve known these signs earlier… thank you Stephan 🙏🏻

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@generosembe6951]

I learned that when you give something to someone who doesn’t need it’s okay for the person not needing it ,but Just move on to who will need and value you 👌🏿and what us women don’t understand is that forcing a man to love us it’s a waste of time ,they can’t value you . And it will end eventually anyway 😏 he doesn’t want you therefore he can’t appreciate nothing you bring in a table . So let’s stop waisting our time and invest in us lol!and I’m doing so I refuse to play the blame game anymore because I love me and I understand that I’m not a bad it’s issue with them so Imnot killing myself anymore I just move on quietly 👌🏿😘

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️

[@AureliaBessard]

I walked away from a man like that. I don't regret it.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@fosterjanine5112]

They may regret losing but that doesn't mean you should take them back and give them a second chance because why should you be with someone that doesn't deserve you? Besides, they may want to be friends with you but that doesn't mean they will give you the relationship that you deserve because of their lack of self love and low self worth. Never allow a man to tell you more than once he's no good for you and be patient to wait for the man GOD has for you and you won't live with regret.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@staywellandstrong4199]

Wow, Stephan: Your one sentence with telling "O" words riveted me with a very spiritual light - beaming bright and fierce to guide us All. (When he wants the Option and not the Obligation to be with you) Many Thanks, with deep gratitude.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@kayhogan3875]

Wish I saw this 2 years ago. I pulled away and was done for 7 months until he needed a date for his birthday. Telling me I am the one but he is not right. So I gave it one more week and then I walked away forever. I got a new number and never called. It’s been 3 months. He was what I called, a time waster! I was looking for someone new when I left the 1st. I found my new person 2 months ago once I go rid of the old trash.

[@daughterofzion3884]

Patience is what God loves, and seeking Him, overtime through all the endurance, you will see why its important to wait. Tbh haven't been in anything serious, but glad because the Most High saves you from alot when not rushing. Pray.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@maryhudson8531]

Yes❤️👍🏾

[@Ami-kg2jn]

Ugh needed this one as I’m going through this exact situation 😩

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

[@Ami-kg2jn]

Thanks! I hope so too

[@zenmai1689]

U know the feeling it's very frustrating this guy I really like for the longest time I waited patiently. He was single at the time but I felt like it was mostly one sided. In the end he made time and effort in the end when I voice what I wanted but my feelings just changed towards him in the end

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@tamaragear2049]

I really needed this message. It was right on time. Thanks.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@cordelwarren348]

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[@loveandlight670]

Listening to your videos and reading other comments is relieving in a way. To be able to relate to others. 🕯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@carmolina]

Dating is a game I don’t want to play nor am I interested in. Too much work and lies and confusion I assume. Just seems like people enjoy lying and hurting people constantly- it is sickening! What has happened to humanity or certain cultures that “family values” just went out the door??? Oh no I’m good alone, don’t want to hurt anymore.

[@reesebrianne5671]

A guy I once liked told me my legs were too heavy for him. I took these heavy legs else where and he deeply regretted saying it. I appreciate him for the honesty. I’ll never dim my light nor hide the lusciousness of my heavy legs for any man or woman.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@Reyaa03]

First of your videos that made me cry! All of this sums up my situation. I’m heartbroken 💔 It makes me feel used. It’s been 5 days no contact. Still really hard

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@kantik2118]

You don't even have to fight for a man. Men must fight for women. Nowadays, men behave like women we have to chase. Women are the prize. The man either chase, want you and conquer you or he doesn't. But you don't fight for nobody! You stay where you are: you love yourself, you chase your dreams, not men. If you have to build a man that is financially instable, to fight for his attention or beg him for the bare minimum : know that he is simply using you while letting his options open. Men use some women to build them up and then move to women they truly wanted all that time. And sometimes, they don't even like women at all and have double, secret gay lives! So many misogynistic men out there! A woman's role is to be in her feminine energy, nurthure her vibe and inspire her home while her man is protecting her and their home. If it is not the case, know that YOU are the man of the relationship. Real man are rare. Ladies be careful out there. Loving yourself and your children is the only way because real man are as rare as diamonds. The big majority of men is damaged men not willing to do the emotional and spiritual work, projecting on you their traumas. They will leave you broken and empty forever. So be careful, ladies.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@Wells_isWell]

Thank u for this video, i saw it at the right time. I needed to hear this so i can have the strength to let him go and be available to the man who is ready to commit and who actually sees me as the ONLY option. I know that i am a great woman and i know what i have to offer and i will hold onto what u said at the end “you deserve better” its time to stop dealing with the nonsense 🙅🏾‍♀️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@michellestuckey8639]

You and me ....I need a partner not just an companionship